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I Don't Know If I Should Get a Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 92 People

    No one comes as a package.

    I know this .. but this is a hard question. - Do you love your wife? or Do you love your husband? - What are the defects or black spot (s) in your relationship?
    SwanLake78 SwanLake78 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2014

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    Indecision

    I can't decide what is best to do.  I have been married for 21 years.  I have 3 kids ages 19, 16 & 10.  The marriage,it seems to me, now that I think about it, has been going downhill for about the last 16 years.  I don't want to seem like I am whining but I...
    babasgirl babasgirl 41-45, F 8 Responses Jan 24, 2010

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    Conflicted Emotions

    My current husband (I was married to another man before twice) and I have been married for 3.5 yrs.  But we seem to still be arguing over and over about the same topics since we first met.  Now we have kids involved to.  Finally in Jan I got tired of fighting...
    Mystgz Mystgz 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2010

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    I'm seriously contemplating divorce.

    I have 3 kids. He doesn't talk to me, do things with me, or have sex with me. I signed up for a husband, not a roommate. What will this do to my children if I leave the marriage? What will it do to me if I stay. It us so miserable being constantly rejected, never touched....I...
    MLH205 MLH205 41-45, F 10 Responses Oct 17, 2014

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    Frustrated To The Core

    I was in a relationship for 10 yrs and ended up breaking the same. My parents convinced me to meet guys for an arrange marriage and i met someone and i left 10yr old relationship after meeting him but somehow even i could not get married to that guy and then i met an old friend...
    Revona777 Revona777 26-30, F 10 Responses Nov 30, 2011

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    I Can'T See Any Other Solution...

    Married my husband hoping my feelings for him would grow. I respected and admired him-what I could see. I never was too romantic and I really thought we were a good match. I just knew my feelings would deepen and our relationship would thrive. He seemed so giving. Well, I got...
    Leah44 Leah44 41-45, F 1 Response May 28, 2013

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    i never thought I'd be in this position.

    i don't think anyone ever thinks it. i was so in love. He wants everything to go back to the way it was. But the damage is done. I can't be that way anymore. As for my kids, i wish we could do family counseling. he's traumatized them too. i know he's doing the best he can with...
    Platana2100 Platana2100 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    Where To Turn....

    We were friends for 3-4 years before getting married...lived together for 2 of those 4 years. He was a cool friend, I like the fact that i could sleep in the same bed with him and he wouldn't touch me, the fact that I could trust him. Maybe I like the thought of helping someone...
    lovely618 lovely618 26-30, F 12 Responses Jan 27, 2011

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    I'm starting to fall apart. I can feel my integrity break. I can feel my mind is unable to focus anymore. I really don't know what's going to happen when I come undone.
    KevinAMillan KevinAMillan 18-21, M 7 hrs ago

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    My wife and I had a good talk today. She told me one of her friends is getting divorced, largely due to her (female) friend's infidelity towards their husband. Their marriage is...
    onlymortal onlymortal 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 15

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    I am no longer sure if I still am in love with him or just comfortable and love him like a bestfriend. If I leave him I don't have much family and the ones I have I'm not really...
    kclayne kclayne 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 11

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    this is going to be one of those brittany rants that i'm not going to filter and make pretty. if you like pretty, then stop reading. THE SAME WAY THAT IF YOU ONLY LIKE PRETTY GIRLS...
    foldedunfolding foldedunfolding 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 4

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    I don't know anything. I can't figure out anything. I don't know what I want, who I want, where I want to go. I am breathing, existing, taking up space. But that's all. Oh - but i...
    ecress ecress 18-21, F Mar 4

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    I don't know if I want kids and it freaks me out. My s/o wants kids some day. But he always knows that I'm not sure if I do. I guess I've been waiting for something to sway me one...
    TheKristaJo TheKristaJo 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    I can't help but compare myself to others. My friends are more than just full time students. Here I am at home, still living with my parents, gaming, hardly a social life and no...
    ikg00 ikg00 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    This life wow! I just don't know what I feel anymore. I just know I'm tired. I have these dreams of driving through the country air. Fresh and beautiful trees. Green pretty grass...
    ptsdlady ptsdlady 26-30, F Mar 18

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    I have recently found myself in a place where I don’t know anymore. I constantly feel like a failure. I feel like I can’t do anything right. I mess up everything. I can’t...
    Hindercat Hindercat 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 2

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    I honestly don't know who I am. I can't make long lasting decisions. I don't know what I want to do with life. I don't know what hobbies i want to do. I'm confused about my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 8

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    I I keep getting on here hoping that I'll see something or talk to someone, and that I'll recognize what I'm searching for when I see it. I don't know what I'm looking for. I don...
    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    I started university september 2013 and shortly before that I'd looked online to find other people who were going to be going to the same one, and started talking to a boy who I'll...
    apismellifera4 apismellifera4 18-21, T Mar 15

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    I recently married my husband back in 2014, and yes I knew what I was getting myself into when we got married. His mother lives with him, and I total understand she is because she...
    Loveis0 Loveis0 22-25, F Mar 17

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    Sometimes I don't know what I'm doing in life. I just can't get up enough motivation to do the things I want/ need to do no matter I talk about doing. Part of be gets really...
    Blessedbyfae Blessedbyfae 22-25, F Mar 17

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    In fact, the more I learn, the more I realize I don't know. I only speak one language reasonably well, with a basic grasp of two more and novelty phrases in perhaps a half dozen...
    LysistratasWeakness2 LysistratasWeakness2 51-55, M 3 Responses Mar 18

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    I’m at a crossroads. I have been with my husband for 10 years; married for half of that time. We had years of bliss. We met in college and grew together. We loved each other...
    lostinthemountains lostinthemountains 26-30, F Mar 22

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    I just don't know how to start to live life alone.far away,without the people who can hurt me. I just don't know if its still possible to start all over again and make only good...
    akirayuuki akirayuuki 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    First post. Hello. I am 22 and I'm a uni student with an over-zealous mother. And by over-zealous I mean 'constantly interfering with my life and making me feel worse about myself...
    iNeedSpace iNeedSpace 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    I am really concerned about my parents. They seem to be fighting all of the time, and they're always angry. I don't know how to help them, and I really wish I could. I know I am...
    Hindercat Hindercat 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    My husband hides me from his family. We are married for two years now. He has not told them that he's married nor have I met any of his family. He talks to them over the phone and...
    superbev superbev 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    I've been with him for four years, we were planning on getting married in July of this year but three days ago he went to the gym and this guy that works at the clinic told him I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 12

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    I don't know what happened to me ? 5 months ago something happened that changed my life forever. I met Chris. Being as naive and innocent as I was, I trusted a stranger with no...
    sadvibes sadvibes 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    i'm kinda scared of us breaking up.. were 14 and 15 and having a baby... but don't want his support as a friend i want his support as a boyfriend.. someone that will love me and...
    xxsanekittenxx xxsanekittenxx 13-15, F Mar 16

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    My brother keeps on hitting me and hurting me lately. I know that he has done it all my life but now I cant stand it. I cant cope with the pain it causes. I really want to leave...
    oceaneyes97 oceaneyes97 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I am 17 years old and I don't know what I want to do with my life. Even though I know I shouldn't compare myself to others, I know that most of my classmates already know what they...
    Jasliet Jasliet 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    There's always an undertone of melancholy within me. Sometimes I can feel the beauty in it, enjoy it. But most of the time it feels heavy. Maybe it depends on my sensitivity, I don...
    Strawberrryfieldsforever Strawberrryfieldsforever 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    What if I am still in love with my ex that I broke up with 4 years ago and I'm too proud to admit it to him? I have dated in that time. I've done a lot in that time. Including...
    brokenpetal brokenpetal 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 4

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    I've never been in love or in an actual relationship. I know what love from my family feels like but from a stranger? I don't know I've just never had that feeling.
    Marytiredofbeingordinary Marytiredofbeingordinary 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 7

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    People (teenagers) who think they got it bad, or that they're depressed, so they cut or take pills and try to OD. ******* really? You have no idea what life is. Lemme give you a...
    GreenManley GreenManley 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 11

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    Sometimes I want new friends when I can't see what's good with the old. Sometimes I wonder why I can't get a boyfriend. Then when I'm actually get one I don't need one. ETC ETC ETC...
    WhisperingGrass WhisperingGrass 16-17, F Mar 16

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    Every month, about the same time too, I get these incredible urges to shop for high heels, dresses, lingerie and kinkier things. After shopping and spending money I don't have, I...
    CDtvhhbs CDtvhhbs 46-50, T 1 Response Mar 20

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    I'm 20 years old and to this day I still don't know what loving someone is... I have never had a girlfriend I have never felt like I connected with someone all I've ever known is...
    TheLynxx TheLynxx 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 21

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    I think I am a bad person. After 10 years of working jobs that have made me unhappy (and I have self medicated with alcohol) my husband has finally given me the chance to work on...
    Aspell Aspell 31-35 a week ago

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    Am Smart Enough to Know I Don't Know It All
    goodnites25 goodnites25 22-25, M a week ago

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