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I Don't Know What I Want

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    Not Anymore

    All my life I have worn a badge - 'Dannys daughter', 'straight A student', 'Johns wife', 'an accountant' - i have always defined myself as who i am in relation to the people around me and in relation to my job...i think we all do. Now, I am separated, I am on a career break and...
    Flugelblues Flugelblues 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 20, 2008

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    I can't have the one I want.

    He always reminds me that I'm married. Even if I weren't, his track record with women is terrible so I'd most likely be another statistic. I am not sure I want to be with my husband, but I've never been alone and I am afraid of making mistakes. I've been in this dilemma for...
    sally7 sally7 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    It's Just Not The Same, Please Help!

    I spend time with my boyfriend but it feels like I always leave wondering what we did for 24 hours... I'm always disappointed. I need fun and unpredictability but now it feels like nothing works. I like going out and doing things, or feeling like I'm moving forwards somehow... I...
    TheWorldIsAStage TheWorldIsAStage 18-21, F Aug 17, 2012

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    Having a bad day. The ones

    that I want don't want me. The one that wants me, I don't want. Sitting here trying to work and tears stream down my face. I want to run far away
    hw2015 hw2015 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 26

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    I Know That What I Want Is ...

    I know that what I want is probably not the thing I should want. In fact, I don't know of anything I want that I would be ideal or healthy for me.
    havick havick 18-21, F Jun 6, 2008

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    I have a friend who has fallen in love with me

    but I only consider him as a friend. I told him that and he said he is willing to stay my friends and says he will stop loving me. I didn't believe that and told him we should separate. I miss him alot and hw want a second chance. now I don't know what to do. Should I still talk...
    farahbi farahbi 18-21, F Nov 26

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    It's already been 4 1/2 years.

    The same guy. I even have a child with him. Shes one. We have the same views on things, same opinions....we get along great. Well GOT along great. after we had our daughter, things changed. He still treats me with respect, loves me, and supports me, but we've become distant. He...
    BeautifullyDreaded BeautifullyDreaded 18-21, F Sep 9

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    Ah, erg, uhmmmm... OK,

    I'll fess up: I want Tim. But I also don't want him, cause he's a mess. Yes I broke it off (after he said he had nothing more to give). Several months later he tried to apologize for treating me badly, but here's the thing: you don't send someone a text message at 11:30 on a...
    elevating elevating 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 24

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    I Am Confusing Myself

    sometimes, i don't know if i want to be with him. it isn't because i don't love him, but i am just confused. i almost want to see what would happen if he wasn't in my life... i know i wouldn't be able to handle it.
    hallokitteh hallokitteh 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2008

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    Too Tired

    I am a 22-year-old-girl and I still don't know what to do with my life. I'm not sure if I'm following the path I should follow or not!. I'm studying Ingeniere Science in a private university which is well-known by its brillant diplomas. That's obviously good. but the thing is...
    SkyD SkyD 26-30, F 1 Response May 2, 2008

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    But I do know I want you,

    Kilig. What must I say to prove that? If I told you you were the only girl I've ever really loved, would that put your mind at ease? Would you feel better knowing that I talk to myself hoping that you can hear every word? I need you, I love you, and I hate having to push you...
    Alexdrunkunc Alexdrunkunc 18-21 Apr 3

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    prettyballerina prettyballerina 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 26

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    I Really Don'T!!

    I'm a very thoughtful and analytical person. I like to see things from all sides, consider all the pros and cons. Unfortunately, this applies to my personal life too - to a fault. My career path is consistently up in the air. One minute I'm planning the next year in my current...
    theboywiththebread theboywiththebread 22-25, M May 29, 2013

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    I know my favorites. I know what I like.

    But I don't know who I wanna be or where I want to work at. I don't know who I want to be with if with anyone at all.
    Zim0 Zim0 18-21, M Nov 28

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    Home I want a comfortable,

    warm, welcoming, home where I can show my personality and creativity I want to be comfortable hosting small social events at home I want a sense of community, to feel part of a larger circle of supportive, like-minded, adventurous people. I know that I am not all that good at...
    elevating elevating 36-40, F Nov 24

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    In 19 years of life (almost 20) I still don't

    know what I want. In everything: school, life, lovelife, etc... And I'm starting to feel empty.
    Violet394 Violet394 18-21, F 2 Responses May 4

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    I've never been in a serious relationship

    and I'm not sure if I want to be. like, I want to be fully involved in a relationship and be all corny and adorable, but I also just want to chill. I don't think I want to date. I just want to see what all the fuss is about I guess
    sadmachine sadmachine 18-21, F Nov 19

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    Since I don't know exactly what I want,

    I will go general: Work I want to: make twice as much money as I make now, work with people I enjoy on a regular basis have variety in my job and a somewhat flexible schedule be valued for my contribution have opportunities to...
    elevating elevating 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 24

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    ...and It's Killing Me.

    I'm lost. I've never known what I wanted. I just keep running, moving forward. Avoiding what's going on. I'm having difficulty picking a direction. My life would be so much better/easier if I only knew what it is I want out of life! When I close my eyes, I see no...
    SonicReducer75 SonicReducer75 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2008

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    Don't Know What I Want To Be When I Grow Up!!!

    I'm 55yrs young! I look and feel better than I ever have in my life. I got divorced after 25 yrs., gave up my business, which was my heart and soul and moved across country to Az. I have been here 3ys now and still don't know what to do with my self. Men my age are so old acting...
    Cynthialynn Cynthialynn 51-55 Sep 17, 2012

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    I give amazing advice,

    yet I'm unable to follow my own. I know how to treat a woman with respect and dignity, yet I'm always single and alone. It seems like I want people that I can never have and the people that I think want me don't. Right now I'm freaking out, having these body spasms, my heart is...
    BigBlittleb123 BigBlittleb123 16-17, M 3 Responses Aug 4

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    When I Want

    I'm in a relationship with the kindest, most caring person I have ever met. My best friend. I can't find any reason in the world as to why I should't be with him.It's just, sometimes, I want to be alone. Miserable. I enjoy the days I spend with him and the days I spend without...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 20, 2012

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    Do I want to be happy?

    What does that even mean? What makes me happy? Do I want to be in relationship? Who says that will make things better? I can't find music to listen to, people to be with, clothes to wear, nothing. I don't know who the hell I am. I just fake everything for everyone and that's how...
    BigBlittleb123 BigBlittleb123 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 8

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    I want to be an MP- I have been doing a

    lot of thinking about my future in the military. I was given an idea by one of my role models to look into being an Military Police Officer in the Marine Corps. However within my many years of research this is the only field I have ever looked into in logistics. Normally when I...
    Duncan98 Duncan98 16-17, M Oct 6

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    What The Hell I Want?

    Hey all! Thanks for reading and sorry for my bad english. Its not my main language. I really dont know what i want. I dont know the road of my life i will go. I dont know i want a relaionship really but i think its maybe i dont found the right one. I dont know even myself really...
    BlackIMoon BlackIMoon 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 14, 2013

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    I Wish I Did Though

    I can't make up my mind about what I want. Sometimes I think I want one thing, while other times I want something else. Sometimes I really want to lose weight, while other times I don't care and I just want to eat. It's so confusing and upsetting for me. I wish I could make up my...
    skyhook2612 skyhook2612 18-21, F Jun 12, 2012

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    I feel lost, I don't know

    who I am any more sometimes, I don't know what it is that I want to do with my life
    KATisg KATisg 13-15, F Mar 1

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    I know that THE key to getting what you want is

    KNOWING what you want, specifically. And then focusing on it. For me, the knowing is one challenge, and the focusing is another. I have accomplished a lot in my life so far, I admit it. And all those things were - decisions that I made, based on a sense of - purpose, knowing...
    elevating elevating 36-40, F Nov 24

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    Everything feels like hell anyway

    so really I stopped wanting anything cuz after all nothing will ever go my way.
    PiecingMeBackTogether PiecingMeBackTogether 18-21 1 Response Sep 14

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    Confused And Scared

    I had a plan. I was going to go to college, finally meet a guy I was actually interested in, have a career, and get married. Now I don't know what to do. I can't believe it. My life finally makes sense, but it's all wrong! I understand how my mind was working the whole time, but...
    EmeraldAssassin EmeraldAssassin 18-21 Jan 18, 2013

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    Life

    Honestly, I have never been able to settle on doing any one job in any one field. I thought, hey maybe I can do everything but do it as an actress... you know, playing a nurse on TV because I can't handle the real stuff. But even that I can't get into whole-heartedly. Nothing...
    ladyloves ladyloves 22-25, F Oct 23, 2008

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    Overthinking

    I over think things, I'm always looking towards my friends for help deciding thing, especially for things I consider big decisions.  I think it's because I can be really insecure sometimes.  But then again even when I'm at the grocery store it takes me forever because I...
    keyna keyna 36-40, F Mar 29, 2008

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    Confused!!

    I'm still so confused, I don't know if i'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend or what. We went out for 2 and half years and we broke up in June. I don't have any contact with him whatsoever..He jumped into a new relationship in August with some random girl and they've been going...
    casey12 casey12 22-25, F Jan 30, 2010

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    I just told my boyfriend of over a year

    that I wanted to take a break. He's the overly sensitive type and I'm more emotionally unattached by nature. I often think that I don't want to be with him in the long run because I think we have different goals and feel like the guy in the the relationship. I love him so much...
    christina0518 christina0518 18-21, F Jul 15

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    The Lesser of Two Evils.

    Every time I come to make a decision  I weigh up the pros and cons of either option; some say this a bad way to go and I can't say I disagree. I usually avoid all possible decisions as my indecision is renowned. But how do you weigh up the pros and cons between people...
    Ells Ells 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2008

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    Who Knows

    I'm pushing 30 and still dont know what I want out of life or what I want to be when I grow up. I have no motivation, no drive, I lost it along the way and I want to get it back.
    LipstickandBruises LipstickandBruises 26-30, F Jun 11, 2008

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    I think I would go the world a big favour

    if I know what I want. But I don't. If I can believe that I can get what I want, it would help. Instead of me wasting time with second to the best, I may eventually focus on the best , in my perspective. I need a sign to know that getting what I want is possible.
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 27

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    What do you want more

    than anything else in the whole word? Me? To be successful in ever aspect of my life :-)
    MyHoudini MyHoudini 26-30, F 20 hrs ago

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    I Struggle With Relationships

    This doesn't mean just a romantic relationship, but relationships in general. I've been feeling lost and empty lately with relation with people. After 2 years of letting go of anger and pain from divorce, I'm becoming comfortable with who I am. I'm not super social, but I do...
    Sundress Sundress 41-45 2 Responses Jun 11, 2009

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    I Really Don't

    ok so i'm 24 and a have no idea how i got there. i think i've been allowing circumstances to make all my life's major decisions for me, my major in college, my 1st job, my 2nd job....... i mean i've never been passionate about anything in life, i've never had a goal to work...
    bacaboza bacaboza 26-30, M 3 Responses Sep 4, 2008

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    I know what I don't want

    but that's it. It's such a stress factor for me trying to come up with an answer. I avoid making decisions about anything. Intimate relationships are plain impossible because of this. Anything demanding input from my side is an ordeal: answering or sending emails, making or...
    whoslife whoslife 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    Not Sure

    About life, who knows what I want. Maybe to be happy... could it be that simple?
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 6, 2008

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    I've Just Recently Made...

    I've just recently made final decisions on a lot of things in life. My significant other and I have become common law. We are now arranging a lease agreement. Also, I have discovered my journey to a carrier.
    Andariel Andariel 22-25, F Jun 6, 2008

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    Well, I'm Never the One...

    Well, I'm never the one to suggest what we have for lunch at work.  Hazel gets mad at me, she doesn't want to think. I don't know what job I want to have next, for my "Real life" once I "grow up" lol if I grow up. At least I know who I want. :-)
    mandarose524 mandarose524 26-30, F Mar 22, 2008

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    Conflicted- there are times

    where I want so badly to smash all of my pipes and stop smoking meth once and for all- but it's not too long afterwards that I realize I'm in this way too deep and there's no point in quitting anymore. I'll tell my friends I'm going to look into rehab facilities knowing that I...
    addictionbarbie addictionbarbie 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    I Don't Know

    If I don't know what I want or if I do and I'm just afraid to admit it because it isn't what others expect from me.
    snugglebunny156 snugglebunny156 31-35, F Mar 12, 2008

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    OOps

    I made this by accident.  I don't know how to use this cite yet.  I really don't know what I want because I don't know what I really need.  I would rather want for what I need.  It is easier than wanting things I don't need.  Now having said this, you...
    JoyBelle JoyBelle 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 31, 2007

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    it's true I really don't :( in a way I do know

    but I don't think I'll ever reach it!
    libragirl89 libragirl89 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 24

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