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I Don't Know What I Want

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    Confused And Scared

    I had a plan. I was going to go to college, finally meet a guy I was actually interested in, have a career, and get married. Now I don't know what to do. I can't believe it. My life finally makes sense, but it's all wrong! I understand how my mind was working the whole time, but...
    EmeraldAssassin EmeraldAssassin 18-21 Jan 18, 2013

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    OOps

    I made this by accident.  I don't know how to use this cite yet.  I really don't know what I want because I don't know what I really need.  I would rather want for what I need.  It is easier than wanting things I don't need.  Now having said this, you...
    JoyBelle JoyBelle 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 31, 2007

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    Well, I'm Never the One...

    Well, I'm never the one to suggest what we have for lunch at work.  Hazel gets mad at me, she doesn't want to think. I don't know what job I want to have next, for my "Real life" once I "grow up" lol if I grow up. At least I know who I want. :-)
    mandarose524 mandarose524 26-30, F Mar 22, 2008

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    Lost

    This moment, I could be the most optimistic guy in the room. The next moment, I can be sorrow about myself.
    ncode ncode 18-21, M Nov 15, 2013

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    I know what I don't want

    but that's it. It's such a stress factor for me trying to come up with an answer. I avoid making decisions about anything. Intimate relationships are plain impossible because of this. Anything demanding input from my side is an ordeal: answering or sending emails, making or...
    whoslife whoslife 31-35, F Feb 23

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    I feel lost, I don't know

    who I am any more sometimes, I don't know what it is that I want to do with my life
    KATisg KATisg 13-15, F Mar 1

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    Confused!!

    I'm still so confused, I don't know if i'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend or what. We went out for 2 and half years and we broke up in June. I don't have any contact with him whatsoever..He jumped into a new relationship in August with some random girl and they've been going...
    casey12 casey12 22-25, F Jan 30, 2010

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    I've Just Recently Made...

    I've just recently made final decisions on a lot of things in life. My significant other and I have become common law. We are now arranging a lease agreement. Also, I have discovered my journey to a carrier.
    Andariel Andariel 22-25, F Jun 6, 2008

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    Overthinking

    I over think things, I'm always looking towards my friends for help deciding thing, especially for things I consider big decisions.  I think it's because I can be really insecure sometimes.  But then again even when I'm at the grocery store it takes me forever because I...
    keyna keyna 36-40, F Mar 29, 2008

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    Who Knows

    I'm pushing 30 and still dont know what I want out of life or what I want to be when I grow up. I have no motivation, no drive, I lost it along the way and I want to get it back.
    LipstickandBruises LipstickandBruises 26-30, F Jun 11, 2008

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    I Don't Know

    If I don't know what I want or if I do and I'm just afraid to admit it because it isn't what others expect from me.
    snugglebunny156 snugglebunny156 31-35, F Mar 12, 2008

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    Don't Know What I Want To Be When I Grow Up!!!

    I'm 55yrs young! I look and feel better than I ever have in my life. I got divorced after 25 yrs., gave up my business, which was my heart and soul and moved across country to Az. I have been here 3ys now and still don't know what to do with my self. Men my age are so old acting...
    Cynthialynn Cynthialynn 51-55 Sep 17, 2012

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    I Am Confusing Myself

    sometimes, i don't know if i want to be with him. it isn't because i don't love him, but i am just confused. i almost want to see what would happen if he wasn't in my life... i know i wouldn't be able to handle it.
    hallokitteh hallokitteh 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2008

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    The Lesser of Two Evils.

    Every time I come to make a decision  I weigh up the pros and cons of either option; some say this a bad way to go and I can't say I disagree. I usually avoid all possible decisions as my indecision is renowned. But how do you weigh up the pros and cons between people...
    Ells Ells 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2008

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    I Really Don't

    ok so i'm 24 and a have no idea how i got there. i think i've been allowing circumstances to make all my life's major decisions for me, my major in college, my 1st job, my 2nd job....... i mean i've never been passionate about anything in life, i've never had a goal to work...
    bacaboza bacaboza 26-30, M 3 Responses Sep 4, 2008

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    It's Just Not The Same, Please Help!

    I spend time with my boyfriend but it feels like I always leave wondering what we did for 24 hours... I'm always disappointed. I need fun and unpredictability but now it feels like nothing works. I like going out and doing things, or feeling like I'm moving forwards somehow... I...
    TheWorldIsAStage TheWorldIsAStage 18-21, F Aug 17, 2012

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    Not Sure

    About life, who knows what I want. Maybe to be happy... could it be that simple?
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 6, 2008

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    I Wish I Did Though

    I can't make up my mind about what I want. Sometimes I think I want one thing, while other times I want something else. Sometimes I really want to lose weight, while other times I don't care and I just want to eat. It's so confusing and upsetting for me. I wish I could make up my...
    skyhook2612 skyhook2612 18-21, F Jun 12, 2012

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    I Don’t Know

    I don’t know,What I want,Be it good or bad,My question,How do I decide?
    startinover1 startinover1 46-50 1 Response Jun 17, 2012

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    When I Want

    I'm in a relationship with the kindest, most caring person I have ever met. My best friend. I can't find any reason in the world as to why I should't be with him.It's just, sometimes, I want to be alone. Miserable. I enjoy the days I spend with him and the days I spend without...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 20, 2012

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    I Dont Know What I Want

    Thats in a nutshell, I just dont know what I want and am running around in a circle. Wait to clarify that I do no what I want but I cant have what I want.
    Supagloo Supagloo 41-45, F Aug 14, 2011

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    I Don't Know Much

    As each year passes I think that I know what I want. It surprising that as soon as I think that I know what I want that I change my mind. It's like when you first go to college. You have a schedule written down but you never seem to get everything that you need or want. Life is a...
    Rayegod Rayegod 51-55 Apr 4, 2008

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    Conflicted- there are times

    where I want so badly to smash all of my pipes and stop smoking meth once and for all- but it's not too long afterwards that I realize I'm in this way too deep and there's no point in quitting anymore. I'll tell my friends I'm going to look into rehab facilities knowing that I...
    addictionbarbie addictionbarbie 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 1

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    Lost and Confused

    there are just days taht i feel so lost...and confused...and i feel like, hey, why am i doin what i'm doin??
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 26, 2009

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    Life

    Honestly, I have never been able to settle on doing any one job in any one field. I thought, hey maybe I can do everything but do it as an actress... you know, playing a nurse on TV because I can't handle the real stuff. But even that I can't get into whole-heartedly. Nothing...
    ladyloves ladyloves 22-25, F Oct 23, 2008

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    What The Hell I Want?

    Hey all! Thanks for reading and sorry for my bad english. Its not my main language. I really dont know what i want. I dont know the road of my life i will go. I dont know i want a relaionship really but i think its maybe i dont found the right one. I dont know even myself really...
    BlackIMoon BlackIMoon 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 14, 2013

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    Not Anymore

    All my life I have worn a badge - 'Dannys daughter', 'straight A student', 'Johns wife', 'an accountant' - i have always defined myself as who i am in relation to the people around me and in relation to my job...i think we all do. Now, I am separated, I am on a career break and...
    Flugelblues Flugelblues 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 20, 2008

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    I Struggle With Relationships

    This doesn't mean just a romantic relationship, but relationships in general. I've been feeling lost and empty lately with relation with people. After 2 years of letting go of anger and pain from divorce, I'm becoming comfortable with who I am. I'm not super social, but I do...
    Sundress Sundress 41-45 2 Responses Jun 11, 2009

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    :)

    Well, not most of the time. I just know that I want you, and that kind of solves everything else. I still over-think everything and ruin things, but things tend to make much more sense when I'm with you, and all the frivolous **** that tends to fill up my mind is less potent.
    esclave esclave 16-18, F Dec 17, 2007

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    But I do know I want you,

    Kilig. What must I say to prove that? If I told you you were the only girl I've ever really loved, would that put your mind at ease? Would you feel better knowing that I talk to myself hoping that you can hear every word? I need you, I love you, and I hate having to push you...
    Alexdrunkunc Alexdrunkunc 18-21 Apr 3

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    I Really Don'T!!

    I'm a very thoughtful and analytical person. I like to see things from all sides, consider all the pros and cons. Unfortunately, this applies to my personal life too - to a fault. My career path is consistently up in the air. One minute I'm planning the next year in my current...
    theboywiththebread theboywiththebread 22-25, M May 29, 2013

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    I Know That What I Want Is ...

    I know that what I want is probably not the thing I should want. In fact, I don't know of anything I want that I would be ideal or healthy for me.
    havick havick 18-21, F Jun 6, 2008

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    Too Tired

    I am a 22-year-old-girl and I still don't know what to do with my life. I'm not sure if I'm following the path I should follow or not!. I'm studying Ingeniere Science in a private university which is well-known by its brillant diplomas. That's obviously good. but the thing is...
    SkyD SkyD 26-30, F 1 Response May 2, 2008

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    ...and It's Killing Me.

    I'm lost. I've never known what I wanted. I just keep running, moving forward. Avoiding what's going on. I'm having difficulty picking a direction. My life would be so much better/easier if I only knew what it is I want out of life! When I close my eyes, I see no...
    SonicReducer75 SonicReducer75 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2008

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    Lost!

    So here my story : I'm 17 year, and will be 18 in 3 days, and I still don't know what I want to do next year. I'm really good at photography and I love it but it's a passion and not more. I don't want it to become a work it will be so lazy and i'm sure I'll hate this work soon or...
    Babyboooou Babyboooou 18-21 1 Response Mar 28, 2012

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    I don't know what I want to do, what I can do. I don't know what I'm passionate about. I don't know my capabilities. I don't know what I should be doing for a living. I don't know...
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    I am already in my early twenties and I still get bothered and stressed out that my parents don't like each other. Ever since we were little, though they didn't fight in front of...
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    I've been living with an eating disorder for about three years now. Last year, I lost a lot of weight and finally felt good about myself. My period stopped coming (although I was...
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    I have a friend who lives in South Carolina who calls me often anytime she has trouble with her husband or her three kids. Now, I've known this girl for years, but when she calls...
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    what is friendship worth? my so-called friend,best friend she lied. she still is. i found out that she went behind my back . i trusted her with everything. but she was telling...
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    When is enough, enough? I honestly don't know what to do. My husband is secretive and I feel like he is extremely deceitful. This ***** with my head in the worst way possible...
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    I really don't know. It's been years, to be completely honest. There's something, making me feel something that's close to anxiousnes and sadness, but I don't know what it is. When...
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    Susumu999 Susumu999 22-25, F Apr 6

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    ....tell me what I should do. Please please please is there a way to fix this?.....Is there a way.....to keep from ending everything?..... .....I hurt you if I stay, I hurt you if...
    BlackRosesTurnBlue BlackRosesTurnBlue 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I don't know what to do at this point. My boyfriend broke up with me a couple weeks ago. I'm very depressed all the time and cry too much. I think I'm mourning, but I'm so sick of...
    Ijustdontknow44 Ijustdontknow44 18-21 1 Response Mar 20

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    monsterchic monsterchic 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    kar9 kar9 26-30, F Mar 25

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    I won't be able to afford schooling next year and I'm not sure how to tell my parents. My fafsa application has been frustrating me and today is the deadline for my school. I...
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