I Don't Know What I Want

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    I Know That What I Want Is ...

    I know that what I want is probably not the thing I should want. In fact, I don't know of anything I want that I would be ideal or healthy for me.
    havick havick
    18-21, F
    Jun 6, 2008

    Not Anymore

    All my life I have worn a badge - 'Dannys daughter', 'straight A student', 'Johns wife', 'an accountant' - i have always defined myself as who i am in relation to the people around me and in relation to my job...i think we all do. Now, I am separated, I am on a career break and...
    Flugelblues Flugelblues
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 20, 2008

    I know what I don't want

    but that's it. It's such a stress factor for me trying to come up with an answer. I avoid making decisions about anything. Intimate relationships are plain impossible because of this. Anything demanding input from my side is an ordeal: answering or sending emails, making or...
    whoslife whoslife
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 23, 2014

    I have no idea what the hell to major in.

    I want to do what I can to make a difference, I like math, and I like biology. Engineering sounds like a boring *** hell lump of corporate jobs. Being a Doctor is problematic, because of the stupidly high requirements. I can't be a premed, because if I don't get into medical...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 24, 2015
    prettyballerina prettyballerina
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 26, 2014

    It is hard for me to make a decision

    for myself because at the end I don't want to regret it. At this point in my life I am still young but I am having difficulties in making decision in my life. I am believing that every decision we make is every regret we take.
    deleted deleted
    Jul 6, 2015

    I Really Don't

    ok so i'm 24 and a have no idea how i got there. i think i've been allowing circumstances to make all my life's major decisions for me, my major in college, my 1st job, my 2nd job....... i mean i've never been passionate about anything in life, i've never had a goal to work...
    bacaboza bacaboza
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Sep 4, 2008

    Ah, erg, uhmmmm... OK,

    I'll fess up: I want Tim. But I also don't want him, cause he's a mess. Yes I broke it off (after he said he had nothing more to give). Several months later he tried to apologize for treating me badly, but here's the thing: you don't send someone a text message at 11:30 on a...
    elevating elevating
    41-45, F
    Nov 24, 2014

    Too Tired

    I am a 22-year-old-girl and I still don't know what to do with my life. I'm not sure if I'm following the path I should follow or not!. I'm studying Ingeniere Science in a private university which is well-known by its brillant diplomas. That's obviously good. but the thing is...
    SkyD SkyD
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 2, 2008

    What I want in life changes all the time.

    The desire for a husband and kids comes and goes, but mostly goes. When it comes to work, it changes every year as I evolve as a person and learn from my experiences. Do I want to keep my head down and work my way up to a higher salary over time and have a 401K or do I want to...
    sayhellnotobs sayhellnotobs
    26-30, F
    Sep 29, 2015

    Home I want a comfortable,

    warm, welcoming, home where I can show my personality and creativity I want to be comfortable hosting small social events at home I want a sense of community, to feel part of a larger circle of supportive, like-minded, adventurous people. I know that I am not all that good at...
    elevating elevating
    41-45, F
    Nov 24, 2014


    I over think things, I'm always looking towards my friends for help deciding thing, especially for things I consider big decisions.  I think it's because I can be really insecure sometimes.  But then again even when I'm at the grocery store it takes me forever because I...
    keyna keyna
    36-40, F
    Mar 29, 2008

    I think I would go the world a big favour

    if I know what I want. But I don't. If I can believe that I can get what I want, it would help. Instead of me wasting time with second to the best, I may eventually focus on the best , in my perspective. I need a sign to know that getting what I want is possible.
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 27, 2014

    Ok, so where do I begin?

    7 years ago I met a man on line. I to him talked for just a very short time, before I got a wild hair and decided I would drive 600 miles to go meet this man. I spent the weekend as a matter of fact. After being a single mom for the last 11-12 years before this. What he offered...
    mommatrish mommatrish
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 10, 2015

    I bought these really cool running shoes

    that I really, really, REALLY, want. Then, I found out they hurt my ankles from pushing up on them. WHAT DO I DO? Keep the shoes... Or return the shoes and get different ones.
    16-17, M
    Feb 16, 2015

    I really don't know what I want any more.

    What I want changes so constantly it's like I'm a different person each time. My boss already got on to me for not telling him what my expectations of my job are (Do I want full time? Part time? Do I want to close? open?) I would tell him, but I don't want to seem picky or needy...
    killakissa killakissa
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2015

    In 19 years of life (almost 20) I still don't

    know what I want. In everything: school, life, lovelife, etc... And I'm starting to feel empty.
    Violet394 Violet394
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 4, 2014

    Conflicted- there are times

    where I want so badly to smash all of my pipes and stop smoking meth once and for all- but it's not too long afterwards that I realize I'm in this way too deep and there's no point in quitting anymore. I'll tell my friends I'm going to look into rehab facilities knowing that I...
    addictionbarbie addictionbarbie
    22-25, F
    Mar 1, 2014

    I Am Confusing Myself

    sometimes, i don't know if i want to be with him. it isn't because i don't love him, but i am just confused. i almost want to see what would happen if he wasn't in my life... i know i wouldn't be able to handle it.
    hallokitteh hallokitteh
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 11, 2008

    Like I have no ******* clue.

    My entire life has been all about what other people want and I just accepted it early on. It always been about them so I never really thought about me. Now I'm almost 21 and I don't have a single clue what I want to do with my life. I don't even know how to make myself happy. I...
    steviehunt steviehunt
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 6, 2015

    I just told my boyfriend of over a year

    that I wanted to take a break. He's the overly sensitive type and I'm more emotionally unattached by nature. I often think that I don't want to be with him in the long run because I think we have different goals and feel like the guy in the the relationship. I love him so much...
    christina0518 christina0518
    22-25, F
    Jul 15, 2014

    I Struggle With Relationships

    This doesn't mean just a romantic relationship, but relationships in general. I've been feeling lost and empty lately with relation with people. After 2 years of letting go of anger and pain from divorce, I'm becoming comfortable with who I am. I'm not super social, but I do...
    Sundress Sundress
    2 Responses Jun 11, 2009

    Well, I'm Never the One...

    Well, I'm never the one to suggest what we have for lunch at work.  Hazel gets mad at me, she doesn't want to think. I don't know what job I want to have next, for my "Real life" once I "grow up" lol if I grow up. At least I know who I want. :-)
    mandarose524 mandarose524
    26-30, F
    Mar 22, 2008

    I've never been in a serious relationship

    and I'm not sure if I want to be. like, I want to be fully involved in a relationship and be all corny and adorable, but I also just want to chill. I don't think I want to date. I just want to see what all the fuss is about I guess
    sadmachine sadmachine
    18-21, F
    Nov 19, 2014

    Since I don't know exactly what I want,

    I will go general: Work I want to: make twice as much money as I make now, work with people I enjoy on a regular basis have variety in my job and a somewhat flexible schedule be valued for my contribution have opportunities to...
    elevating elevating
    41-45, F
    Nov 24, 2014

    Sometimes I want revenge,

    but I can't hurt him, I really do love him. But sometimes I feel like I'm just here for his amusement when he wants me. Sometimes I want to leave him, but I care too much and always wind up back with him.
    imjustthatgirl66 imjustthatgirl66
    22-25, F
    Apr 20, 2015

    I have a friend who has fallen in love with me

    but I only consider him as a friend. I told him that and he said he is willing to stay my friends and says he will stop loving me. I didn't believe that and told him we should separate. I miss him alot and hw want a second chance. now I don't know what to do. Should I still talk...
    Farhabee Farhabee
    22-25, F
    Nov 26, 2014

    I don't get it. The things I have been wanting

    to have, give me more stress and anxiety when I have them than when I was depressed and wishing I had them. I hate this feeling, I would rather not deal with anything and end my life than go day to day and worry about everything.
    Bean2015 Bean2015
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 17, 2015

    I know that THE key to getting what you want is

    KNOWING what you want, specifically. And then focusing on it. For me, the knowing is one challenge, and the focusing is another. I have accomplished a lot in my life so far, I admit it. And all those things were - decisions that I made, based on a sense of - purpose, knowing...
    elevating elevating
    41-45, F
    Nov 24, 2014


    Honestly, I have never been able to settle on doing any one job in any one field. I thought, hey maybe I can do everything but do it as an actress... you know, playing a nurse on TV because I can't handle the real stuff. But even that I can't get into whole-heartedly. Nothing...
    ladyloves ladyloves
    22-25, F
    Oct 23, 2008

    Everything feels like hell anyway

    so really I stopped wanting anything cuz after all nothing will ever go my way.
    PiecingMeBackTogether PiecingMeBackTogether
    22-25, M
    1 Response Sep 14, 2014

    i bit my tongue today

    for the 1st time in my adult life,im kind of proud of myself ....I always thought my head would explode if i suppress my emotions ........i didn't spontaneously combust soo im either growing older or colder not sure i like the choice between the 2
    deleted deleted
    Oct 2, 2015

    I can't have the one I want.

    He always reminds me that I'm married. Even if I weren't, his track record with women is terrible so I'd most likely be another statistic. I am not sure I want to be with my husband, but I've never been alone and I am afraid of making mistakes. I've been in this dilemma for...
    sally7 sally7
    36-40, F
    Jul 24, 2014

    I want to do engineering

    because I wan to go into the energy field to help reverse global warming but I'm failing calc and mentally exhausted of trying. I love theater with all my heart, but majoring in technical theater wouldn't do anything fie the greater good if anything.
    elektronson elektronson
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 3, 2015

    It's simple as that, really.

    I have depression and anxiety (general, separation, and social). I just don't know what I want.
    Shaywen Shaywen
    18-21, F
    Mar 21, 2015

    Oh how true this is!!

    ! Life sure would be a lot simpler if I could come up with a list to work through!
    picklebobble picklebobble
    51-55, M
    Sep 24, 2015

    I know my favorites. I know what I like.

    But I don't know who I wanna be or where I want to work at. I don't know who I want to be with if with anyone at all.
    Zim0 Zim0
    22-25, M
    Nov 28, 2014

    This's my real problem!

    OMG tons of things in my mind and I can't find the right answer for me! What a feeling in everything!? Same problem in Work, travel even single or in relation, I'm over thinker person and sometimes it helps me to find bad things I did in my day and I try to fix it by myself, but...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 26, 2015

    I feel like I'm moving in slow motion

    and everything around me is moving so fast and I just wanna go back to when things were normal but I can't I need to move but I can't ... when did it get so complicated ?!!
    deleted deleted
    Jun 29, 2015

    ...and It's Killing Me.

    I'm lost. I've never known what I wanted. I just keep running, moving forward. Avoiding what's going on. I'm having difficulty picking a direction. My life would be so much better/easier if I only knew what it is I want out of life! When I close my eyes, I see no...
    SonicReducer75 SonicReducer75
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Nov 19, 2008

    it's true I really don't :( in a way I do know

    but I don't think I'll ever reach it!
    libragirl89 libragirl89
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 24, 2014

    Is that fair that I have to put all my feelings

    and all my thoughts in EP cuz no one here know me .. why shouldn't I say it why should I keep it inside me I don't like to complain about anything happend to me even to my friends because they are all depends on me in thier life and problems .. Sometimes I just want...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 17, 2015

    It's already been 4 1/2 years.

    The same guy. I even have a child with him. Shes one. We have the same views on things, same opinions....we get along great. Well GOT along great. after we had our daughter, things changed. He still treats me with respect, loves me, and supports me, but we've become distant. He...
    BeautifullyDreaded BeautifullyDreaded
    22-25, F
    Sep 9, 2014
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