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I Don't Know Who I Am Yet

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    What You See Is Not What You Get.

    I am a hypocrite. I am bored. I get excited easily. I laugh at everything. I am a great listener. I do not judge anyone.... ever. (not always a good thing.) I have a lot of great friends. I am often alone. I am pretty. I have low confidence. I am a writer. I love to read. I love...
    Kandycane Kandycane 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2007

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    ????

    I know I'm still young and people always say that as an answer when I'm confused or unsure of something and i hate it. yes, i'm still young but i'm around people who know who they are and where they are going. i used to think i knew who i was but now i don't. i always knew where...
    em4040 em4040 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    Who??!!

    I am different things to different people. The problem with this is it confuses me as to who I actually am. I feel like I exaggarate different traits depending on who I am talking to. It's as though my personality is biased. It's not that I'm being fake with people, it's just...
    paintthetownred paintthetownred 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2009

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    Suppressed Myself For Too Long

    I always felt like I was someone else and so I tried to be that person.  I was someone I didn't know around my friends, even the ones I tried to be myself with.  I either didn't talk or talked too much. I tried to be myself, but I wasn't sure who that was, so I made it...
    axelval axelval 18-21, T 2 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    My Experiance

    I was just reading Kandycanes' story and was thinking to myself that I can write a list just like this, with a few similar points and a few origional ones, however these are things I am, not who I am. What I am is a 19 year old student, who works in a bar and is crazy about this...
    scottpaul scottpaul 19-21, M Nov 18, 2007

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    Yeh, Andd?

    im always searching to find out who i really am. i have an abundance of friends all of different groups, but i relate to all of them. some are tough, others are emotional...i am both. people tell me im a poser all though i amm not...i don't get it. people are telling me that i am...
    iloveyoubaby iloveyoubaby 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 26, 2009

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    I Really Don't.

    It has taken me my entire life to realize, that I probably never will, and that is a bit of a let down. But I'll work with that I have.
    wewantcowbell wewantcowbell 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 15, 2007

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    Yet Is Essential.

    true.true. i don't know myself, i don't know who I am and yes, the word YET is essential i know maybe a little of myself, then other's ideas of myself, i doubt what i know about my and i doubt what others think of me. JOHARI'S WINDOW. still on the process, and i will always...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 21, 2012

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