I Don't Know Who I Am

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    I'm sitting here wondering what I want to do

    with my life, thinking back to what I've done so far. I realize that in all honesty... I haven't done much. I don't even know who I am. I've lived my life making decisions to please other people. What kind of things do I like to do? I ask myself this, and I just can't seem to...
    butimnotchloe butimnotchloe
    22-25, F
    Apr 3, 2014

    So I Am Reading This Book

    And something really hit me when I read it. This man, Bobby, writes: "If I didn't get what I strived for, it was bad luck. If I did get what I worked for, I felt like I was just fooling everyone, and they would find me out sooner or later. That's always been my biggest fear: that...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 12, 2013

    This is my first post on here,

    and i really don't know how to say this but i'll try to keep it short. I dont know who i am. I know what my name is, i know where i live and i know the people around me, but when i look in the reflection, its like i'm looking at someone else. I look down at my hands and i can't...
    tvanbus17 tvanbus17
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Sep 20, 2015

    I've Been Searching.

    Maybe all along I never knew who I really was. I've tried to mold myself into the perfect doll for everyone to use and take advantage of to fulfill what I felt was my purpose: to make everyone that I could happy. But lately, that's gone downhill. No one is happy. I can't even...
    SarabearPark SarabearPark
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 15, 2013

    I know that sounds odd,

    but I just don't. I know what music i like, what I look like, what my name is and what I wear. But other than that, I don't know me. When I look in the mirror, I think "who the hell is that" I'm sorry I know it sounds insane and I'm actually not trying to offend anyone or...
    JustTiggz JustTiggz
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 2, 2014

    I'm not depressed right now,

    but I want to be, I don't know who I am and what to do if I'm not depressed.
    PigMonkeyHybrid PigMonkeyHybrid
    18-21, M
    Oct 9, 2015

    It's not easy, this whole life thing.

    Just when I'm feeling on top of the world things have a way of dragging me back down again. And it's all me. I'm the one holding me back from my own life. I am so emotional all of the time. Why do I let other people affect me so much.
    ooooohla ooooohla
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 16, 2015


    The days roll by two by two don't know who I a don't know what to do I follow a pattern around and around the sun comes up the sun comes down ~Just T
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 15, 2007


    SHIFTING FROM LACK TO POSSIBILITY!!!! Helen Keller was physically handicapped yet she traded the titles of blind, deaf and mute given to her as a child, for the titles of scholar, philosopher, author, motion picture actress, traveler, lecturer and winner of countless awards and...
    khadarlis khadarlis
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Feb 23, 2011

    For my newest art project I am supposed to pick

    a word to design between 3 and 7 letters. Initially I thought it would be cool to do my middle name (Winter) but I think I want something different. This led me to try to find something that actually describes me but I really don't know who I am anymore. Except broken. Does that...
    AshleyWCSloth AshleyWCSloth
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 2, 2015

    Who Am I?

    Who is the love of my life? What is my true personality? Who are my true friends? I want to understand the meaning of life, and the meaning of my existence.
    10theawesomeperson 10theawesomeperson
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 19, 2013

    I can diagnose personality traits from

    when I was little that I've had, but I feel like they aren't mine, and there's no 'me' to have them. I've felt like this way ever since I've had the capacity to think and then I could brush it off, because otherwise, life was easy and I was happy and I woke wake up in the...
    Ushii Ushii
    16-17, F
    Jan 3, 2016

    I get lost when I am in the car.

    I get strange feelings that don't make sense even to a therapist, and have opinions that counteract eachother...
    PortalJumper PortalJumper
    18-21, F
    Apr 14, 2015

    I'm 18 years old. And I have no idea

    who the hell I am. All these things around me, all those people. This feeling is burning me from inside. Every time when I am finding myself at quite place the only thoughts in my head are : Who I am ? What I want from life? Who I want to be? What is my pros and cons? I feel...
    LostInsideMyWorld LostInsideMyWorld
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 17, 2016

    People always tell me how good I am at

    everything I do, but I really don't feel happy about that. I am not proud. I don't think I deserve anything for something I do.
    adrianafdz adrianafdz
    18-21, F
    Jun 2, 2015

    I take endless personality tests

    and most of them have similar results but most of the time I don't feel like that are correct. I know you can only get so much out of tests online but... Do I really know who I am? Or am I just deceiving myself to receive self pity and to feel special? I don't really know.
    z1a2r3a z1a2r3a
    13-15, F
    Jun 1, 2015

    I Defy Classification

    I feel like I am every type of person rolled into one. If I find something about myself that allows me to fit in with a group, I realize that I also feel the exact opposite. For example, sometimes I feel like I don't care about anyone, and other times I feel like I only want to...
    Bustoff Bustoff
    18-21, M
    6 Responses May 4, 2007

    Mirrors And Reflections

    Was with the same person for 18 years, married for 13 of them, we strived to build a family, endured endless hardships and trials, finally adopted two wonderful girls and just over a month after what I thought had been *our* dream had come true, the family colapsed and we...
    Falcran Falcran
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2012

    I'm quiet and shy and weird.

    I keep to myself, I don't say much, I'm awkward. I'm different from the girl next to me, the boy behind me, the man that sits across from me. I'm different and I don't know how to feel. I want to be accepted, to be loved, to be famous. Yet I want my space, my quiet time, my...
    OverwhelmingFates OverwhelmingFates
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 17, 2014

    My friends and I attended a session at Colgate

    University on Wednesday. At the start of our class, we had to complete the statement "I am__" with as many words as we could in 60 seconds.. 60 seconds passed and I had only written down 2 things on my paper. Everyone else had a list extending down to half the paper. I've...
    Sadieschen Sadieschen
    16-17, F
    1 Response Oct 29, 2015

    From one minute to another I change

    who I am. I'm preppy, I'm metal, I'm a rich girl, I'm a rebel, I'm blonde, I have brown hair, I have purple hair, I'm smart, I'm stupid, I like boys, I like girls. It never ends. When it gets sick is when I lose weight. I can drop 25 pounds like nothing. People I know don't...
    puffnstuff123 puffnstuff123
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 26, 2013


    I am a social chameleon. I have strong social skills and can fit in with almost any group. I'm good at connecting with people on the surface, and others seem to genuinely enjoy my presence. My problem is that, with every group of people I have identified with, I have always still...
    SalientSoul SalientSoul
    18-21, M
    5 Responses Mar 28, 2012

    Can't quite place why I made this account.

    Maybe the total protection of anonymity is what drew me here. I keep hoping I will receive a sign. Some inkling to who I am and what I'm supposed to do with my life. I'm 18, I have my whole like ahead of me. Yet when the question is asked, "Where do you see yourself in five...
    thequietgirl101 thequietgirl101
    18-21, F
    Apr 13, 2016

    Who do you want to be?

    Giver. Giving people what they want and need. Though those aren't always the same things, would not the end result be people getting what is truly beneficial for them? What do you want? Simple things make me happy. Is that an excuse not to try and be more? Or is it simplifying...
    Ericjames13 Ericjames13
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Apr 29, 2014

    I feel like there's two people in me

    and I can't ever feel normal, it's like the two parts are opposite and all they do is cause chaos in my life. I just want to feel whole
    StayAliveFriend StayAliveFriend
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 5, 2015

    I Am A Lost Soul

    I am 13, and it feels like everything has took a turn on me. I feel disconnected from myself, my soul and my mind. It feels like I was ripped away from myself and thrown in the garbage. I can maintain a calm personality around others, but inside I want to know who I am. my heart...
    HeavenHearts HeavenHearts
    13-15, F
    1 Response Nov 9, 2011

    Do You Really Want To Know?

    When people ask me who I am, I often struggle to reply. I know the things I like and don't like. I can list off basic demographics about myself. I could tell you that I am 20 or that I have red hair. I could tell you I live in Western New York but I was born in Pittsburgh. But...
    mylifeisaverage14 mylifeisaverage14
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 6, 2013

    My life is wasting away.

    Am I even surpose to do anything good or be someone.. I really have noidea about anything. Everyone Eles around me seems to have ther life in check.
    Misjodie Misjodie
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 9, 2015

    Part of this is backwards to avoid the ep

    blacklist. This is about my "ytilauxes". I am straight for sure, but my feelings are so complex that google can't explain them. So, I want the readers to help me. I love to talk about hot and adorable girls with my guy friends. They always try harder than guys, and I rarely...
    deleted deleted
    Oct 10, 2015

    False Idenity

    It is not I, the real I, it is others within I who control everything that is I. To clarify to those who read this, I am not one, not two or three but many you see. I have not one name, but many names. The true I, the one who was born to this human body that 'we' inhabit, is just...
    NightwolfBlackheart NightwolfBlackheart
    26-30, M
    9 Responses Oct 20, 2013

    Sometimes I really don't know what the hell is

    going on with me or anything else. But most of the time I really just feel like I'm not even real and then I find myself feeling depressed because if I'm not real then why am I stuck here and why do I feel so bad? I am confused.
    Killljoy Killljoy
    Jul 28, 2015

    I know who my name and such.

    I just don't know me or what I am supposed to be. I haven't found anything yet I like to really do or any close friends.
    deleted deleted
    Jun 19, 2015

    I never really went through the whole

    ‘finding myself’ thing. I just latched onto a personality I thought was good and became it. My entire life has been trying to be the perfect daughter, sister, student, friend, girlfriend or whatever I was. It was never about being Autumn. The road to self discovery was...
    klic klic
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2013

    I feel like a failure.

    Every avenue of my life, i have destroyed. Family no longer care.They pretend to but the truth is, if they could get rid of me without any consequences, they would. I lost all my friends because i struggled to maintain relationships with them. I am on the path to being better...
    Cenobytes Cenobytes
    22-25, M
    1 Response May 2, 2014

    I'm currently looking

    for a job, but it's hard to decide which direction I want to go. I don't really know what I want to do with my future.
    Yaraffinity Yaraffinity
    26-30, F
    May 24, 2015


    i havent found a place in this life. i feel like i dont really have one. i dont connect with people enough for them to stick around for long. i question my existence. this lonely life has left me feeling so lost and alone.
    EdgeCrusher EdgeCrusher
    26-30, M
    7 Responses Apr 22, 2011

    Stay tuned for another episode of incessant

    rambling from a crazy woman! Every day I wake up as a different person with different views and different desires. One day I feel so absolutely sure of myself and what I say and do and the next I'm taking everything back. My mind never gives me much of a break. I still don't...
    astateofdisarray astateofdisarray
    18-21, F
    Jun 29, 2015

    I cannot define who I am.

    I'm more than just the roles I fill: daughter, student, friend, etc.. I come close to figuring it out some days, but the next day I feel different. I feel like I can define others much easier, but that's because these definitions are wrong. I define them based on what I know of...
    Cluella Cluella
    22-25, F
    Jun 19, 2014

    I am confused and don’t really know

    who I am. On top of that, any time I move closer to people, I will do what they are doing. In fact, I will do it better than they do. The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Your emotional well-being depends on how you feel about yourself. I don't...
    MavisWalker MavisWalker
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 22, 2015

    I Don't Know Who I Am.

    I feel like I don't belong here. In this town. In this country. In this world. I don't know what I am doing here. There's not a thing in this world which make me happy and I don't know why. I feel like life is pointless because I have no goal and no passion. There's nothing that...
    purposeless9 purposeless9
    22-25, F
    Apr 16, 2012

    Who am I? I have so many sides

    that i've gotten used to becoming so different in alot of different occasions. I have been like this for so long that I'm getting a bit stressed. I finally got sore from holding up my mask.
    CatCuddles CatCuddles
    16-17, F
    Aug 21, 2015

    For so many years I struggled with

    who I was, what my purpose on Earth was and who would be there to see me excel.. During my sophomore year in highschool, I took a class that helped me learn a lot about myself, and I began to realize how much I had to offer the world. I learned what confidence was, and self...
    PyroKnightly PyroKnightly
    18-21, F
    Dec 1, 2015

    No Passion = No Career Or Job

    It seems as though every time I try and do something I seem to just fail at it. I always end up not good enough at/for something. Recently I got an internship with a professional photographer. It was completely handed to me, I didnt have to work for it what so ever and what...
    YoucancallmeJuliet YoucancallmeJuliet
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Mar 3, 2010

    I Don't, But...

    I don't know who I am right now. I used to. But, I'm finally being honest with MYSELF about the things I've pretended weren't true for a long time. I've even been brave enough to share some of it with those closest to me. I haven't always gotten good responses, I'm sad to say...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 20, 2012

    I am trying to figure out what kind of person I

    want to be, and I am scared how will that influence on my life that I have right now.
    PrincessMjau PrincessMjau
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    Hello everyone. I am 15,

    I see everyone being happy with themselves at my age, but I still have NO CLUE who am I. I like metal, but I started liking kpop, jpop and stuff like this. Then I start dressing like kpopper but then few days after I dress like a metalhead again, I am tired of myself. I am not...
    EvDida EvDida
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 25, 2015

    Is it possible for a guy to have a crisis of

    identity? At the age of 33? I read that only teenagers go through this stage and most to all of them easily pass through to adulthood, but for some reason I seem to be stuck. Everything that I once thought that would make me happy; loosing weight (i am overweight, by more...
    UnknownInvisible UnknownInvisible
    31-35, M
    Mar 15, 2016

    I've come to the conclusion

    that I can't be a real person. It's like someone tried to make a person and made some mistakes, so here i am. Everyone I knows wants something, whether it's their dream job, dream college, a relationship, etc. Everyone has things that they are passionate about. I have nothing...
    geminixleo geminixleo
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jul 29, 2015

    I feel like a machine.

    I go to work, I come home, clean, be as good a mother as i can be, be a good lover to my s.o. but why don't I feel like I'm being myself? I can be myself with my fiancee, but that's an hour out of the day. ... If we are lucky. I don't feel satisfied with myself. I can never...
    captainallie1234 captainallie1234
    26-30, F
    5 Responses May 2, 2014

    I wish could start over

    and be born a different person. I like who I am and I like the things I like and I'm different from other people but I don't stand out. Sometimes I think maybe I don't even have a personality, maybe I'm not interesting enough, maybe I'm not outgoing enough. I'm not just another...
    papayalyn papayalyn
    18-21, F
    Jul 10, 2015

    I'm on my own away from my family all together

    now not that I ever belonged there. I'm not playing hero to white trash shenanigans anymore. I'll let my sense of superiority be the salve to the sting of the loss. I don't care about them anymore but I miss the idea of fixing them and it was a self obsessed delusion to think I...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    26-30, F
    Sep 7, 2015

    seems ppl r constantly procrastinating weathr

    they wnt to b w/me or not.right now, a lady's in love with me n it floors her it happened so fast for her so she's trying to fight it.she doesn't kno if she wants to relocate n her thoughts conflict.shes doing her best to fight thm.tired of waiting :(
    jewwlie jewwlie
    46-50, F
    Jun 30, 2015

    Part of this is backwards to avoid the ep

    blacklist. This is about my "ytilauxes". I am straight for sure, but my feelings are so complex that google can't explain them. So, I want the readers to help me. I love to talk about hot and adorable girls with my guy friends. They always try harder than guys, and I rarely...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 10, 2015

    Losing My Face To The Mirror Mask

    I spent my life trying to live up to expectations. I did what I could to be the best at everything I tried. When the time came that I could no longer meet that standard, I became confused and hurt. My world was crumbling, and I felt myself falling into the darkness. It was...
    growinguy growinguy
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Aug 1, 2013

    The Epiphany That Never Came

    So today, someone called me "fake" and a "fraud." Honestly, I didn't even know how to respond to that. I didn't even *know* how I felt about having these labels. I can't recall the last time anyone has called me this (to my face), and if it were someone I didn't know, I don't...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 20, 2013

    I act differently around different people.

    Like, around one person I'm loud and spontaneous and crazy and outgoing; and around another person I'm shy and reserved and quiet. So, which one is the real me?
    HappySunshine515 HappySunshine515
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 25, 2015

    So I'm spending christmas alone in a hostel

    room in my uh so romantic home country. No, I'm not spending it with my family or friends, for obvious reasons. I don't like people, you know. The time has been passing so quickly this year, I can't remember who I am or what I'm doing here. I just feel the pain from past...
    crackedwriter crackedwriter
    18-21, F
    Dec 26, 2015

    I hate it when I learn my perception of myself

    to others is completely wrong. BNot in the giod sense, but in the bad sense. I am too harsh, too meam, too defensive, not cooperative, not loving, not nice...I can go one. I am shocked, because I really do think I am not any different than anyone else. I bend over...
    youcthrume youcthrume
    36-40, M
    Jan 7, 2016
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