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I Dont Let A Lot Of People Into My Life

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    i feel I can get myself together just

    when I am on my own. :( Letting people in my life often drags me down...and being a loner drags me down itself. I cant find the right balance. I either lose myself and get faceless in someone else , or manage to keep this delusional level of happiness, that sometimes backfires...
    rockstin87 rockstin87 26-30, M 13 hrs ago

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    Troublesome...

    It can be difficult to let someone in. Even if it’s only part way. Once inside I let them see all the things I hide away from what most see as me. There’s so many thoughts, emotions, raw pain, that I worry once unleashed it will overwhelm and wash them away.
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Aug 21, 2013

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    Let's Avoid The Crap

    You'll hurt me or I'll hurt you (which will hurt me by adding to my shame). Let's just enjoy one another's company for a short while and then just keep passing by. I'm sick of hurting, is all.
    Dyssey Dyssey 70+, F Aug 25, 2013

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    Always Alone

    I have always had trouble getting to know people, much less letting anyone into my life. I don't know why, but I can't seem to let my guard down around people that I don't know well. Most people won't bother to stick around as long as it takes for me to get to know them. I have...
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise 36-40 Mar 19, 2013

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