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I Don't Let People Get Close to Me

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    People Would Never Know This About Me

    Most people that think they know me would find it hard to believe that I don't let people get close to me.  On the outside I am outgoing, confident and friendly but I dont ever really open up honestly to people.  I feel like there is a wall around me and I can't break it down...
    tate66 tate66 41-45 1 Response Jul 14, 2011

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    I don't belive in "best friends" I have never

    had one. To be honest, no even me believe it. Through my whole life, I always had this person who gets under my skin and I want, say person, be my best friend. Someone I can lean on. I always put it in first place (isn't that what "best friends" do?) but I since I was betrayed...
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    That's Just the Way I Am

    All my life I've trusted anyone and everyone and it's always come back to bite me in the a$$. Out of all the friends I've had I've never once let one person know all about me. My best friend of 8 years is really the one person that knows the most but even the I don't let him get...
    lovable143 lovable143 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    I Have Had Walls Up All My Life

    I never ever let people get close to me and i was regarded as a stone because i never showed much emotion, then i left my boyfriend in, and then he broke my heart. Then a few weeks ago I met a man who was honestly perfect and i didnt push him away, we were dating and then all his...
    Shausy18 Shausy18 18-21 Mar 12, 2012

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    Its not like i dnt let ppl get close to me.

    .its more i cant ..i dnt knw why..maybe somewhere back in my mind i knw i would be hurt if i get attached to someone. P.s BTW i like being mysterious too..XD
    xxkiaraxx xxkiaraxx 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    Not At First

    It takes me a long while to trust people and let them get close to me. I've been hurt so many times that I'm paranoid about everyone I meet for the first time. And I stay paranoid for a long time too. It depends on the person, but it usually takes a few months before I feel safe...
    mimsy2 mimsy2 26-30, F Jan 12, 2009

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    I am just beginning high school.

    I have been at five schools in five years. I know longer know how to allow people in. It has to do with the fact that everytime I let someone in they're gone. It keeps people out because I have a fear of losing them even when I don't truly have them. It's really stressful...
    manfred2132 manfred2132 16-17, M Dec 10, 2013

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    Never Again.....

    When I was in high school, I let someone get close to me...a guy. But he played with my heart for a year and didn't really like me at all......it was just a game to him. I vowed never again to get close to people......I'm in college now and it is still haunting me until this day...
    Athlete2012 Athlete2012 18-21, F Sep 8, 2013

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    Its Safer Alone Now

    Hi All I am unable to allow anyone to get close to me these days. I have some good friends and come from a great family. I had always been a bit quite but gradually I started to relax around women and had some great relationships and a good healthy sex life, but I think I was...
    spr5858 spr5858 51-55, M Dec 14, 2012

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    Still Bothers Me

    I dont let people get close to me, neither physically nor emotionally, because some people just use you for what you're good for then toss you aside.  I had a good friend up until about sophomore year of high school. After we had stopped taking the same classes, and she didn...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 23, 2008

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    There is that kind of girl

    who can't be pinned down. Maybe you are one yourself. Or you lost a girl who was one. A runner.Elusive. Quiet. Shadowy. Not saying exactly what's going on underneath. Appearing cool and collected, going places. Confident.Those eyes. They look at you and see right through you...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 4

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    Life

    don't you think its weird how in life you get close to people, intimate tell each other everything, care for that person. but somehow their not in your life anymore, so you go on to find someone else and history manages to repeat itself. its not nice having to get to know really...
    iaintperfect iaintperfect 18-21 Aug 27, 2012

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    I feel so alone..I'm afraid to let people in.

    .I'm 17 and I've never had a real friend...idk what a real friend even IS..I once cared to much for everyone and everything in this world but now I've locked myself up in my room only to come out for food..I feel so alone...I can barely manage to let anyone into my life now a...
    crosses8 crosses8 16-17, M 2 Responses May 28

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    I'm Lonely

    I have managed to do a great job of keeping people at a distance. Such a great job that I have extremely few truly meaningful relationships. I manage to attract all the self involved people who are perfectly content to keep things strictly surface because I am one of them...
    sitkashiva sitkashiva 46-50 2 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I've Always Been This Way.

    I don't think it's normal though, or something I should be proud about.I was raised in an abusive household and I never built up the ability to trust. If you can't trust your family, how can you give it to strangers?It's very hard for me to make friends. Sometimes I want to, but...
    victolyn victolyn 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 2, 2011

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    People Say I Am Intimidatin...

    People say I am intimidating but I try to be on purpose.  If people don't get too close than I don't have to worry about what will come out.  I don't want to get hurt and am tired of the pain that comes with caring.
    AlwaysHopeful AlwaysHopeful 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 31, 2008

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    Never Knew Me...

    Ever since I realized bonds can be broken I've chosen to keep who I really am to myself. Those around me feel they have me down to a science but they only have my defense mechanism figured out. I guess I'm writing tonight to put some of who I am out there and be vulnerable for...
    brittany3535 brittany3535 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 31, 2012

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    Please Don't

    I am not a good person and quite frankly, I don't want people to care about me. I don't want to get emotionally attached to people. I already am emotionally attached to someone, and I don't regret it, but it's going to hurt if it ever ends. I don't want people to try to get close...
    udamansteel udamansteel 16-17, F Aug 4, 2013

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    It's not like I mean to.

    It's just years of not being in the spotlight you tend to push out people when they put you in the spotlight. I honestly wish I could have close friends but I guess my fear of rejection stops me. I also am afraid if people saw the real me that they would run. And I know people...
    dambookworm17 dambookworm17 13-15, F Sep 3

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    Always Run

    I was thinking about this the other day and whenever someone tries to get close to me I always end up running. It's like the more people wanna know me the less I wanna share. I have had people try so hard before and it just pushes me away. I think it's just everything they wanna...
    boby6 boby6 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 15, 2013

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    For Me, It's Defense.

    As a child anyone who touched me hurt me. So I learned that letting people get close = being hurt. Plus I really like my personal space. I need lots of it or I feel like I'm suffocating. I get weird looks when I ask people to back away a little but I just tell them it's personal...
    SwitchFan4Life SwitchFan4Life 22-25, F Jul 19, 2012

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    I'm Stuck In A Box

    I come off as a very strong person in that I am always willing to give my friends advice, and I enjoy when people open up to me. I wish I could reciprocate but I get a terribly uneasy feeling after telling someone too much about myself. I don't enjoy talking about myself because...
    efg123 efg123 18-21 2 Responses Dec 27, 2010

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    Cycles

    I'm walking in cycles, ever since i've started high school. My dad cheated on my mother, my status quo has fallen low, which I can barely manage. I wanted to be a great Man, who can change the world, even just a little bit. So, the cycle goes like this. I enter a new environment...
    devilirium devilirium 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 5, 2013

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    Preceed With Caution

    Life, for myself, when it has come to relationships has been a very dramactic experience for me. Never started out to be that way but just getting wrapped up into certain people it's like opening up a fortune cookie and really finding out what your fotune will be literally. You...
    Haunted5 Haunted5 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 31, 2012

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    It'S Pain

    It seems like everyday someone else leaves. It's like once I open up to them, they disappear. Like they found someone better. Just last year I had the best of friends that anyone could ask for and we did absolutely everything together and now we pass each other like our...
    NoahRader NoahRader 13-15, M Jan 26, 2013

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    Runs Without Knowing

     I don’t let people in, when the friendship or relationship starts to "grow" I'll find the smallest thing to get out of it. I have a past that shows in my everyday life. This has taken me to a place a self hatred and disappointment, I don't have a definite reason for why I do...
    baylieboop3 baylieboop3 18-21 2 Responses Jun 7, 2011

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    It seems that every time id let anyone get

    close to me I always ended up getting hurt. So I've put a lock on my heart keeping anyone not worthy of it from getting in. I maybe only 25 but I've had my share of heart break and pain, enough to last a life time.
    hugsandkisses26 hugsandkisses26 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 3

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    "People build up walls,

    not to keep people out but to see who cares enough to break them down"
    dambookworm17 dambookworm17 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    When Did This Happen?

    I don't even know why I'm doing this to myself. I'm lying in bed as I type this, crying my eyes out. When did this happen to me? When did I become so alone? Why can't I let people just understand? Why can't I believe it's possible for others to understand? Why is it that people...
    Laurbearr Laurbearr 18-21, F Aug 23, 2013

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    Not Usually...

    I'm not sure if it's a basic personality characteristic of me, or more related to my social anxiety and general social awkwardness, but I've never been able to let people get close to me. Some say it's a defense mechanism to prevent yourself from being let down or taken advantage...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 1, 2009

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    I'm The Reason I'm Isolated

    I used to always be a very outgoing happy go lucky guy. Very approachable, very friendly, never one to not have something to say. After high school I started having less and less luck meeting people I could trust or relate to. I found that many people would rather stab me in the...
    TheRaven1015 TheRaven1015 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 27, 2013

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    I Used To Be This Way...but A Miracle Happened!!

    I found out Thru a lot of study...That you are usually afraid of what others will see.  They might not like you, or you fear you really have nothing to give, share or grow the relationship with....so you close down.  And, being afraid of being hurt is #1 or #2 on the list...
    livingwell livingwell 51-55, F 94 Responses Oct 28, 2011

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    People Always Leave.

    With the exception of a very small number of people, people whom I care for or have gotten close with in the past have always ended up abandoning me or hurting me or both. People who I considered my best friends and truly cared about, have had a habit of leaving. It always...
    childofmystery childofmystery 18-21 1 Response Jun 6, 2011

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    Caution Before Approaching

    It hurts. It really hurts.I'm not somebody who has gone through a lot of loss. Not loss as in death, anyway.But when it comes to friends, potential lovers; just people in general, I seem to drive them away.I'm never enough for them. They find someone better to be around, or they...
    fadingvioletdawn fadingvioletdawn 18-21, F Sep 5, 2012

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    Or at least I try not to.

    Failed at that many times and from it only 2 stayed. Those two are by far my closest friends:)
    Theycallherelly Theycallherelly 13-15, F Sep 3

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    I just don't trust anyone enough to give them

    all of me. I am a chameleon. It is my defense mechanism. If I act like everyone else no one will question me. As I get older I see more lies. You have to lie to get into college, or to get a good job. They always ask you, "Why do you want to go to this college?" Or "Why do you...
    TheYellowKing TheYellowKing 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    Only At Arm's Length

    I have a great relationship with my husband, but even that took some time, and he's the only person in the world I've ever truly been comfortable being myself around. Otherwise I've been pretty good at ducking out of relationships and friendships the minute things get too...
    lemonsoda lemonsoda 26-30, F May 5, 2012

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    I Would If....

    I felt that a person was actually trying to get close to me.  I generally don't  feel like anyone really has the time to change their daily routine, either they are too busy with their own family (I don't have kids) and I know it takes time to  really get to know...
    thinkingoutloud thinkingoutloud 46-50, F Mar 3, 2009

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