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I Don't Let People Get Close to Me

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    Life

    don't you think its weird how in life you get close to people, intimate tell each other everything, care for that person. but somehow their not in your life anymore, so you go on to find someone else and history manages to repeat itself. its not nice having to get to know really...
    iaintperfect iaintperfect 18-21 Aug 27, 2012

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    Preceed With Caution

    Life, for myself, when it has come to relationships has been a very dramactic experience for me. Never started out to be that way but just getting wrapped up into certain people it's like opening up a fortune cookie and really finding out what your fotune will be literally. You...
    Haunted5 Haunted5 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 31, 2012

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    Runs Without Knowing

     I don’t let people in, when the friendship or relationship starts to "grow" I'll find the smallest thing to get out of it. I have a past that shows in my everyday life. This has taken me to a place a self hatred and disappointment, I don't have a definite reason for why I do...
    baylieboop3 baylieboop3 18-21 2 Responses Jun 7, 2011

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    People Always Leave.

    With the exception of a very small number of people, people whom I care for or have gotten close with in the past have always ended up abandoning me or hurting me or both. People who I considered my best friends and truly cared about, have had a habit of leaving. It always...
    childofmystery childofmystery 18-21 1 Response Jun 6, 2011

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    I'm Lonely

    I have managed to do a great job of keeping people at a distance. Such a great job that I have extremely few truly meaningful relationships. I manage to attract all the self involved people who are perfectly content to keep things strictly surface because I am one of them...
    sitkashiva sitkashiva 46-50 2 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    Only At Arm's Length

    I have a great relationship with my husband, but even that took some time, and he's the only person in the world I've ever truly been comfortable being myself around. Otherwise I've been pretty good at ducking out of relationships and friendships the minute things get too...
    lemonsoda lemonsoda 26-30, F May 5, 2012

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    I'm Always Yelling..

    Whenever someone gets close to me, I find something wrong to yell about to push them away. I really need help. I have no friends because of it, I'm losing my boyfriend because of this and I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. Every time I talk to someone that's close...
    bobbyspongee bobbyspongee 16-17 2 Responses Jun 10, 2010

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    I Would If....

    I felt that a person was actually trying to get close to me.  I generally don't  feel like anyone really has the time to change their daily routine, either they are too busy with their own family (I don't have kids) and I know it takes time to  really get to know...
    thinkingoutloud thinkingoutloud 46-50, F Mar 3, 2009

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    I am just beginning high school.

    I have been at five schools in five years. I know longer know how to allow people in. It has to do with the fact that everytime I let someone in they're gone. It keeps people out because I have a fear of losing them even when I don't truly have them. It's really stressful...
    manfred2132 manfred2132 13-15, M Dec 10, 2013

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    Never Knew Me...

    Ever since I realized bonds can be broken I've chosen to keep who I really am to myself. Those around me feel they have me down to a science but they only have my defense mechanism figured out. I guess I'm writing tonight to put some of who I am out there and be vulnerable for...
    brittany3535 brittany3535 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 31, 2012

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    I'm The Reason I'm Isolated

    I used to always be a very outgoing happy go lucky guy. Very approachable, very friendly, never one to not have something to say. After high school I started having less and less luck meeting people I could trust or relate to. I found that many people would rather stab me in the...
    TheRaven1015 TheRaven1015 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 27, 2013

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    That's Just the Way I Am

    All my life I've trusted anyone and everyone and it's always come back to bite me in the a$$. Out of all the friends I've had I've never once let one person know all about me. My best friend of 8 years is really the one person that knows the most but even the I don't let him get...
    lovable143 lovable143 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    People Say I Am Intimidatin...

    People say I am intimidating but I try to be on purpose.  If people don't get too close than I don't have to worry about what will come out.  I don't want to get hurt and am tired of the pain that comes with caring.
    AlwaysHopeful AlwaysHopeful 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 31, 2008

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    I Used To Be This Way...but A Miracle Happened!!

    I found out Thru a lot of study...That you are usually afraid of what others will see.  They might not like you, or you fear you really have nothing to give, share or grow the relationship with....so you close down.  And, being afraid of being hurt is #1 or #2 on the list...
    livingwell livingwell 51-55, F 95 Responses Oct 28, 2011

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    Not Usually...

    I'm not sure if it's a basic personality characteristic of me, or more related to my social anxiety and general social awkwardness, but I've never been able to let people get close to me. Some say it's a defense mechanism to prevent yourself from being let down or taken advantage...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 1, 2009

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    I Have Had Walls Up All My Life

    I never ever let people get close to me and i was regarded as a stone because i never showed much emotion, then i left my boyfriend in, and then he broke my heart. Then a few weeks ago I met a man who was honestly perfect and i didnt push him away, we were dating and then all his...
    Shausy18 Shausy18 18-21 Mar 12, 2012

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    Never Again.....

    When I was in high school, I let someone get close to me...a guy. But he played with my heart for a year and didn't really like me at all......it was just a game to him. I vowed never again to get close to people......I'm in college now and it is still haunting me until this day...
    Athlete2012 Athlete2012 18-21, F Sep 8, 2013

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    Caution Before Approaching

    It hurts. It really hurts.I'm not somebody who has gone through a lot of loss. Not loss as in death, anyway.But when it comes to friends, potential lovers; just people in general, I seem to drive them away.I'm never enough for them. They find someone better to be around, or they...
    fadingvioletdawn fadingvioletdawn 18-21, F Sep 5, 2012

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    Not At First

    It takes me a long while to trust people and let them get close to me. I've been hurt so many times that I'm paranoid about everyone I meet for the first time. And I stay paranoid for a long time too. It depends on the person, but it usually takes a few months before I feel safe...
    mimsy2 mimsy2 26-30, F Jan 12, 2009

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    I've Always Been This Way.

    I don't think it's normal though, or something I should be proud about.I was raised in an abusive household and I never built up the ability to trust. If you can't trust your family, how can you give it to strangers?It's very hard for me to make friends. Sometimes I want to, but...
    victolyn victolyn 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 2, 2011

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    It'S Pain

    It seems like everyday someone else leaves. It's like once I open up to them, they disappear. Like they found someone better. Just last year I had the best of friends that anyone could ask for and we did absolutely everything together and now we pass each other like our...
    NoahRader NoahRader 13-15, M Jan 26, 2013

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    People Would Never Know This About Me

    Most people that think they know me would find it hard to believe that I don't let people get close to me.  On the outside I am outgoing, confident and friendly but I dont ever really open up honestly to people.  I feel like there is a wall around me and I can't break it down...
    tate66 tate66 41-45 1 Response Jul 14, 2011

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    When Did This Happen?

    I don't even know why I'm doing this to myself. I'm lying in bed as I type this, crying my eyes out. When did this happen to me? When did I become so alone? Why can't I let people just understand? Why can't I believe it's possible for others to understand? Why is it that people...
    Laurbearr Laurbearr 18-21, F Aug 23, 2013

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    Still Bothers Me

    I dont let people get close to me, neither physically nor emotionally, because some people just use you for what you're good for then toss you aside.  I had a good friend up until about sophomore year of high school. After we had stopped taking the same classes, and she didn...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 23, 2008

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    Cycles

    I'm walking in cycles, ever since i've started high school. My dad cheated on my mother, my status quo has fallen low, which I can barely manage. I wanted to be a great Man, who can change the world, even just a little bit. So, the cycle goes like this. I enter a new environment...
    devilirium devilirium 18-21, M Feb 5, 2013

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    Its Safer Alone Now

    Hi All I am unable to allow anyone to get close to me these days. I have some good friends and come from a great family. I had always been a bit quite but gradually I started to relax around women and had some great relationships and a good healthy sex life, but I think I was...
    spr5858 spr5858 51-55, M Dec 14, 2012

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    Please Don't

    I am not a good person and quite frankly, I don't want people to care about me. I don't want to get emotionally attached to people. I already am emotionally attached to someone, and I don't regret it, but it's going to hurt if it ever ends. I don't want people to try to get close...
    udamansteel udamansteel 16-17, F Aug 4, 2013

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    I'm Stuck In A Box

    I come off as a very strong person in that I am always willing to give my friends advice, and I enjoy when people open up to me. I wish I could reciprocate but I get a terribly uneasy feeling after telling someone too much about myself. I don't enjoy talking about myself because...
    efg123 efg123 18-21 2 Responses Dec 27, 2010

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    EXCEPT Here In Ep

    I'VE LEARNED NOT TO. I WON'T SAY I NEVER WILL AGAIN BUT IT WILL TAKE A LOT OF TIME FOR ME TO TRUST SOMEONE. I HAVE TO KNOW THEM FOR A WHILE TO SEE IF THEIR GOOD BEHAVIOR IS CONSISTENT OR JUST A FRONT TO GET NEXT TO ME. THE LONGEST ANYONE HAS KEPT UP THE FACADE IS ABOUT 3 MONTHS...
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    I don't believe in judging people for what they did in the past. I believe that you should judge some one based on who they are trying to become and not who they were.
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    I don't need, 'I understand' stuffs or whatever, I just need help. In fact, I'm very confused and can't get along with my life if I don't get rid of my confusion. Second, I don't...
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