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I Dont Let People Get Too Close to Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 387 People

    Back Up!!!

    No, I don't like letting people get too close because then they get curious and start asking questions and ****.  I'll tell you what I want you to know and nothing more.So.....BACK UP!
    RagingSkillet RagingSkillet 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 6, 2011

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    It'S Complicated

    I don't know why but its like I'm afraid of going into a relationship. I like this boy and he likes me but when I get to close to a boy I seem to back off, can someone tell me why this is? I've never had a boyfriend because of this, help?
    Ahsisbal Ahsisbal 26-30 1 Response May 22, 2013

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    No Way

    If people were allowed to get too close to me, they would see exactly what I see. And I do NOT want that. I'm ashamed enough as it is. I may look ok from a distance (actually I don't) but up close... it's a monstrosity. Both physically and emotionally.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2010

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    I never let any boy get too close.

    I the last time I opened up and let my guard down, he cheated on me. I'm afraid to get hurt again.
    ericaxjean ericaxjean 13-15, F Dec 23, 2014

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    Ever since my dad died I have never had the

    same emotions again. It's like I have no heart now.. I don't feel love like I used to. Or let people in too much. As if I push them away and do stupid little things to hurt them.. Things that upset and weird people out does not have the same effect to me anymore like it used to...
    JDHarrison93 JDHarrison93 18-21, M Mar 17, 2014

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    Keep You At Arm's Length

    I definitely have an issue letting people in.  I always thought I was a trusting person, but I realize that it's actually really hard for me to trust someone.  I have even had my best friend since second grade, and I still find it hard for me to tell her things. ...
    unknown311 unknown311 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    Always Have

    To be more specific, I've always had trouble letting guys get close to me, both mentally and physically. I've never truly been in love or had a relationship that has lasted over a few months, so I guess in a way, I just assume that guys don't want to get to know me. It's a flaw...
    RubyPhoenix RubyPhoenix 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2009

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 12, 2014

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    No One Gets Close

    I have a fragile heart and to let someone get close takes time.
    kime kime 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    thunder0 thunder0 22-25, M Dec 9, 2013

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    The moon must have felt my pain that night it

    turned blood red. After months of staring at the moon, wondering you're looking too, maybe it was my sign ti stop bleeding for someone who wouldn't even stitch me up. Instead they'd slowly watch me die, with not even one care in their eye.
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2014

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    Why Bother

    i dont like people.  they always let me down.  they have too many flaws, dont care who they hurt, and can't be themselves.  I dont want people to get close to me.  I dont want to be close to people.  i just want to be left alone to live a peaceful, quiet...
    psychochic psychochic 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    It all started when I got with my expartner

    Aaron he was with my friend first and they have a daughter together but they broke up and a few months after it was like we fell in love I didn't mean for it to happen it just did, after a month of us being together I fell pregnant That's when things started to change he was...
    autummoon2 autummoon2 18-21, F Dec 19, 2013

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    If you get to close to someone your just

    setting yourself up for disaster when they stab you in the back and twist the blade
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 3, 2014

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    Loving Someone

    Hi my name is sally pratt and i don't know what to do i met this really nice guy and he makes me laugh and smile and happy and there's another guy who is the same.I asked my friends about what i should do but as they said it's up to me.Now i really don't know what to do with...
    sally576 sally576 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    Just Me

    I've been mentally and physically battered and played with in so many ways and for so long that it's hard to even imagine trusting anyone or letting anyone get close to me any time soon considering the ones who should be the most trusting and there for me aren't, my family. I...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    Since I was a kid, I always had this fear

    that I will be attached to someone so much and when they hurt me or break my trust, I won't ever get over it. I used to push the ones I love away and keep them on a distance. Who is also like this? Is this healthy?
    Bahar123 Bahar123 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 22

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    The only person who really knows me

    and is so close she can almost touch my heart. She's my best friend and I'm so happy for her! I don't let people in my life cause I don't want to get hurt.
    ccmonster14 ccmonster14 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2014

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    I will always keep a conversation geared on you.

    When you ask me questions about myself I will answer discretely and reverse it. Ill let you get to know me under the condition that I may never have to see you again or if we meet online I'm able to flee whenever I feel necessary.
    Rihe Rihe 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    Not Many

       Even though I might seem like a pretty open guy, I am rarely showing people what I'm feeling.  I tend to let people think they know me, but I rarely open up with anyone.  My personality can be overwhelming, and I often believe that I'm putting myself upon...
    intothewoods intothewoods 26-30 3 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    Pushing Always Pushing

    i push and push away anyone who tries to get in to my heart.  i cant help it.  i just dont want to go through the hurt and pain anymore.  i dont feel like i need it.  sure i get lonely but everything i need to do i am doing so why should i let someone in and...
    wendygurl wendygurl 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19, 2008

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    I Remember Why I Don't Let People Close to My Heart.

    I'm sitting here sad.  Someone stepped out of my life without saying why or good bye. I asked  "where are you?" and didn't respond.
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    Thinking Of The End

    When I meet new woman that I do like and I know the feeling is mutual I tend to think of the ending before things even get started. By the time a solid friendship is built (no sex) I have already convinced myself that she is not the one, this wont work. Sometime the past can be a...
    jgbowers jgbowers 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I have pushed a lot of potential friends away. My reason is because of lack of trust. I have a hard time letting people get too close to me. Betrayal is a big thing, and it hurts...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 20

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    When it comes to guys I always let them go. Every time I like a guy and I think they like me (which is obvious in some ways on how they act) I start talking to them more and more...
    endmypainn endmypainn 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Don't let yourself with the people who adjust because you are gonna suffocate despite of everything.
    AlphaLion AlphaLion 22-25, M 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    it took me two years to find someone I'd let get close and the day before valentine's, she completely disappeared and now I don't know what to do. I want to chase after her but I...
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 16

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    I met a girl a couple months ago and instantly I was crushing on her. She didn't have many friends and I wanted to make her feel comfortable around my friends and myself so that...
    RHpendragon RHpendragon 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 21

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    Liar liar, pants on fire. I feel so naive to allow him to get close so quick. I almost give him props for getting me to trust him over my intuition. I feel foolish but lesson...
    poodahpop poodahpop 18-21, T 3 Responses Feb 7

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    Different people awaken different beasts in you.. These beasts destroyed different walls of yours.. But beasts know no boundaries.. The destruction didn't stop at the walls.. The...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 5 Responses Feb 12

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    i have some close friends , but there is something missing in those frienship! and they are not as close as they could be , i often tend to fear telling people about my fears and...
    neyah20 neyah20 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    well I say this because I feel the heavy responsibility of having to be there when I don't want to be and I don't like hurting people at all so I try not to get close to people
    lisathatsthere lisathatsthere 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I've only ever let three people in on the real me. no one else knows how I think or my opinions. As of late, the first one moved away. the second one dumped me for a good friend...
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 18

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    After my husband passed and everyone went away, only the true friends were left. I'm pretty content with the group of friends I have and am shy to bring new people close.
    mommyraquel mommyraquel 31-35 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I wonder if 'getting it' has to do with a common thread of understanding between two individuals? Sometimes people share the same woes which creates a natural bond. While other...
    SmartSweet1 SmartSweet1 51-55, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    So a few weeks ago I met this great guy that I really really like, there's just one problem: I keep waiting for him to hurt me. I know it's not fair to him but I just feel this way...
    FireQueen10 FireQueen10 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    They always leave on ignore me in the end. As if they never knew me in the beginning. Sometimes they'll just shrug me off and smile and laugh with other people. Minding ignored...
    WinterSkyout WinterSkyout 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 19

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    I have had such negative experiences dating men as a transexual woman I find it very hard to trust men, especially transexual admirers, they have been the most insincere people I...
    Lot1978 Lot1978 26-30, T 1 Response 3 days ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to...
    kristiniacc11 kristiniacc11 26-30, F 13 hrs ago

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    I'm tired of getting hurt and bothering others I just want to be alone
    savigirl14 savigirl14 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    ...for fear I will lose them. Over the years, I've lost 2 of my dearest friends, as well as my parents, to illness. I've lost marriages due to my spouses' infidelities, addictions...
    CarrieSue CarrieSue 51-55, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    A lot of people describe homosexuality as "sick" or "abnormal". They try to claim that people of the same sex do not belong together, that if you do have those kind of feelings...
    Byeluv Byeluv 13-15, F 5 Responses Feb 5

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    its hard. masking myself because if I didn't people would hate me. pretending to care so much that I've actually gotten good at it. when the truth is I don't care. that's how I am...
    summerwinterfallspring summerwinterfallspring 18-21, F Feb 20

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    If a person isn't benefiting me, they won't get in my mind-space, Why think about someone who isn't in my life.
    overit1984 overit1984 26-30, M Feb 13

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    i wont change for no one!! ok, granted that when the going gets tough,i stand firm and stand up for myself, but what i dont get, is why so many nice people,want to become...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    It grosses me out when people goes over my food to talk or reach over my food. Wtf o.o I say to myself, "Are people really that dumb?" I cover my food when people come too close...
    reginarose reginarose 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    Sometimes it's so ridiculous how people got stuck to the clichés. I always tried to fit in just to find out I actually don't want to "fit in" at all. I just wanna be who I am and...
    mishale80 mishale80 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    Love is letting people go.... By pulling out of their emotion you can be there for people from a higher perspective. ..
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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