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I Dont Let People Get Too Close to Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 341 People

    No One Gets Close

    I have a fragile heart and to let someone get close takes time.
    kime kime 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    It'S Complicated

    I don't know why but its like I'm afraid of going into a relationship. I like this boy and he likes me but when I get to close to a boy I seem to back off, can someone tell me why this is? I've never had a boyfriend because of this, help?
    Ahsisbal Ahsisbal 26-30 1 Response May 22, 2013

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    Loving Someone

    Hi my name is sally pratt and i don't know what to do i met this really nice guy and he makes me laugh and smile and happy and there's another guy who is the same.I asked my friends about what i should do but as they said it's up to me.Now i really don't know what to do with...
    sally576 sally576 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    Back Up!!!

    No, I don't like letting people get too close because then they get curious and start asking questions and ****.  I'll tell you what I want you to know and nothing more.So.....BACK UP!
    RagingSkillet RagingSkillet 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 6, 2011

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    Always Have

    To be more specific, I've always had trouble letting guys get close to me, both mentally and physically. I've never truly been in love or had a relationship that has lasted over a few months, so I guess in a way, I just assume that guys don't want to get to know me. It's a flaw...
    RubyPhoenix RubyPhoenix 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2009

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F Sep 12

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    If you get to close to someone your just

    setting yourself up for disaster when they stab you in the back and twist the blade
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 3

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    Ever since my dad died I have never had the

    same emotions again. It's like I have no heart now.. I don't feel love like I used to. Or let people in too much. As if I push them away and do stupid little things to hurt them.. Things that upset and weird people out does not have the same effect to me anymore like it used to...
    JDHarrison93 JDHarrison93 18-21, M Mar 17

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    Pushing Always Pushing

    i push and push away anyone who tries to get in to my heart.  i cant help it.  i just dont want to go through the hurt and pain anymore.  i dont feel like i need it.  sure i get lonely but everything i need to do i am doing so why should i let someone in and...
    wendygurl wendygurl 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19, 2008

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    Not Many

       Even though I might seem like a pretty open guy, I am rarely showing people what I'm feeling.  I tend to let people think they know me, but I rarely open up with anyone.  My personality can be overwhelming, and I often believe that I'm putting myself upon...
    intothewoods intothewoods 26-30 3 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    The moon must have felt my pain that night it

    turned blood red. After months of staring at the moon, wondering you're looking too, maybe it was my sign ti stop bleeding for someone who wouldn't even stitch me up. Instead they'd slowly watch me die, with not even one care in their eye.
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    No Way

    If people were allowed to get too close to me, they would see exactly what I see. And I do NOT want that. I'm ashamed enough as it is. I may look ok from a distance (actually I don't) but up close... it's a monstrosity. Both physically and emotionally.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2010

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    Just Me

    I've been mentally and physically battered and played with in so many ways and for so long that it's hard to even imagine trusting anyone or letting anyone get close to me any time soon considering the ones who should be the most trusting and there for me aren't, my family. I...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    thunder0 thunder0 22-25, M Dec 9, 2013

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    Keep You At Arm's Length

    I definitely have an issue letting people in.  I always thought I was a trusting person, but I realize that it's actually really hard for me to trust someone.  I have even had my best friend since second grade, and I still find it hard for me to tell her things. ...
    unknown311 unknown311 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    I Remember Why I Don't Let People Close to My Heart.

    I'm sitting here sad.  Someone stepped out of my life without saying why or good bye. I asked  "where are you?" and didn't respond.
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    Why Bother

    i dont like people.  they always let me down.  they have too many flaws, dont care who they hurt, and can't be themselves.  I dont want people to get close to me.  I dont want to be close to people.  i just want to be left alone to live a peaceful, quiet...
    psychochic psychochic 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    The only person who really knows me

    and is so close she can almost touch my heart. She's my best friend and I'm so happy for her! I don't let people in my life cause I don't want to get hurt.
    ccmonster14 ccmonster14 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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    It all started when I got with my expartner

    Aaron he was with my friend first and they have a daughter together but they broke up and a few months after it was like we fell in love I didn't mean for it to happen it just did, after a month of us being together I fell pregnant That's when things started to change he was...
    autummoon2 autummoon2 18-21, F Dec 19, 2013

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    Thinking Of The End

    When I meet new woman that I do like and I know the feeling is mutual I tend to think of the ending before things even get started. By the time a solid friendship is built (no sex) I have already convinced myself that she is not the one, this wont work. Sometime the past can be a...
    jgbowers jgbowers 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I've always felt afraid to let people get close to me both physically and emotionally. I think this is why I have never dated someone or I get choked up when someone asks me on a...
    LilFA LilFA 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    So my whole life I've always pushed people away for fear of waking up one day that they'll just be gone. When I was young I was really close to my father and then he walked out and...
    BroadwayBound2014 BroadwayBound2014 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    I get so uncomfortable when people I don't really know hug me or pat my back or touch me in any way!!! And I will absolutely not tell someone that I love them unless I mean it-even...
    screaminginside81 screaminginside81 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 28

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    I used to be afraid I gave a few chances but each time they prove me wrong , the further I move away getting closer and closer to that fear. Until I decided to shut these doors and...
    Starz93 Starz93 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    You need a good reason for me leting you Get close to me. Ut just hurts so much
    Pot1023 Pot1023 13-15, M Dec 3

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    I'm broken and full of corruption... What will it take for me to stop letting people in... First of all they end up either hurting me, or I hurt them! Maybe even both... But it's...
    MrCutBleedSmile MrCutBleedSmile 18-21, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Its pretty hard actually for me to get close so much to other people I consider it as an attachment, and as my immediate family .I never let someone in my own world easily Im a...
    mystery05 mystery05 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    After struggling with and escaping my mother's abuse for three months, I've finally grown comfortable with letting my siblings know what goes on in my life. But today I was...
    Cranksta Cranksta 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 28

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    I'm only wary of letting potential dates get close. I have been burned in the past by doing that. To my family and close friends I am a completely open book.
    SuperheroFanboy SuperheroFanboy 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 5

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    Call me paranoid, but u don't trust people. People are mean. People are two faced. People will hurt you. People will most likely try to rob you of money, happiness and dignity. I...
    Passionfruit101 Passionfruit101 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25

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    I have found throughout my life, that people are very cruel. They will infiltrate your life, your persona; they will discover your innermost secrets by parading as your friend. But...
    PatrickMoosePants PatrickMoosePants 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 23

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    I've been hurt far too much to ever trust anyone
    amaui1 amaui1 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 3

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    I'd love to be open in that respect. But I've been hurt far too much sadly.
    Reallifeperson Reallifeperson 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    Over the years, I have developed many walls around myself.. although these walls protect myself and my heart they have also isolated me from may of the people I meet. Trying to...
    ben37SC ben37SC 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 5

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    that never ONCE ended well for me. i will NEVER let that happen... i craze it but i fear it a thousand times more than i crave it
    blackscribbles blackscribbles 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 28

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    It's not that I hate being with other people. It's just that I've got trust issues. I hate people leaving me behind. :( But that's inevitable so I have to face that fact.
    nightfurydoodie nightfurydoodie 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    I've always wanted to feel loved but I am never able to open up to people around me. When I'm alone, I would create a world in my head where I befriended all those people I...
    hesitations hesitations 16-17, M Dec 5

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    Iam in a situation where I have a partner which is a female for 6 yrs that I have trust issues I love her, but she lies about even small things , because she doesn't like...
    tkgb1 tkgb1 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 10

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    I opened up a little bit more than I feel comfortable... Thought I was okay at the time... But now my life long secret... The secret that no one knew... No one except for me... Has...
    MrCutBleedSmile MrCutBleedSmile 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    If I'm honest I don't think I'll ever properly trust anyone
    Awer1 Awer1 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 23

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    It looks like they're coming back at it again! Taverncraft, a extra of 3 Aspect Entertainment, just announced that they have just engaged some new "Legendary Collection" Steins to...
    zhuanghan zhuanghan 22-25, F Nov 25

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    Not sure why but I guard my heart fiercely but can love/care deeply once you reach it :)
    minnadt minnadt 46-50, M 4 Responses Nov 29

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    When I do, something usually happens to break me. Whether it be intentional or not. They leave. And I feel abandoned. Even though they're not abandoning me, but it feels that way...
    MrCutBleedSmile MrCutBleedSmile 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 4

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    After being pretty much used by pretty much every ******* guy I ever cared for (except maybe 2 or 3) and being betrayed by every female I have called friends except 2. Yes I am...
    ImJustJen ImJustJen 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 5

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    'At the surface it looks perfect, underneath it's just a perfect storm.' - Icon For Hire
    ineedthis2 ineedthis2 18-21, F Dec 6

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    I pretend to be an *** hole and use comedy to stop people from getting close to me. Whenever one of my friends talks about something personal to me I will make a joke out of it. I...
    Matt2704 Matt2704 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 2

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    It's kind of like a defense mechanism. It just happens. Like there's this alarm inside of me that goes off, and shoots the razor wire walls up so I don't get close and I can cut...
    TheRisingPhoenix TheRisingPhoenix 16-17, F Dec 9