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I Dont Let People Get Too Close to Me

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    Thinking Of The End

    When I meet new woman that I do like and I know the feeling is mutual I tend to think of the ending before things even get started. By the time a solid friendship is built (no sex) I have already convinced myself that she is not the one, this wont work. Sometime the past can be a...
    jgbowers jgbowers 26-30, M 5 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    I Remember Why I Don't Let People Close to My Heart.

    I'm sitting here sad.  Someone stepped out of my life without saying why or good bye. I asked  "where are you?" and didn't respond.
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    The moon must have felt my pain that night it

    turned blood red. After months of staring at the moon, wondering you're looking too, maybe it was my sign ti stop bleeding for someone who wouldn't even stitch me up. Instead they'd slowly watch me die, with not even one care in their eye.
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    Not Many

       Even though I might seem like a pretty open guy, I am rarely showing people what I'm feeling.  I tend to let people think they know me, but I rarely open up with anyone.  My personality can be overwhelming, and I often believe that I'm putting myself upon...
    intothewoods intothewoods 26-30 3 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    Just Me

    I've been mentally and physically battered and played with in so many ways and for so long that it's hard to even imagine trusting anyone or letting anyone get close to me any time soon considering the ones who should be the most trusting and there for me aren't, my family. I...
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    Always Have

    To be more specific, I've always had trouble letting guys get close to me, both mentally and physically. I've never truly been in love or had a relationship that has lasted over a few months, so I guess in a way, I just assume that guys don't want to get to know me. It's a flaw...
    RubyPhoenix RubyPhoenix 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2009

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    If you get to close to someone your just

    setting yourself up for disaster when they stab you in the back and twist the blade
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 3

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    Back Up!!!

    No, I don't like letting people get too close because then they get curious and start asking questions and ****.  I'll tell you what I want you to know and nothing more.So.....BACK UP!
    RagingSkillet RagingSkillet 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 6, 2011

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    thunder0 thunder0 22-25, M Dec 9, 2013

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    It all started when I got with my expartner

    Aaron he was with my friend first and they have a daughter together but they broke up and a few months after it was like we fell in love I didn't mean for it to happen it just did, after a month of us being together I fell pregnant That's when things started to change he was...
    autummoon2 autummoon2 18-21, F Dec 19, 2013

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    Why Bother

    i dont like people.  they always let me down.  they have too many flaws, dont care who they hurt, and can't be themselves.  I dont want people to get close to me.  I dont want to be close to people.  i just want to be left alone to live a peaceful, quiet...
    psychochic psychochic 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    No One Gets Close

    I have a fragile heart and to let someone get close takes time.
    kime kime 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Keep You At Arm's Length

    I definitely have an issue letting people in.  I always thought I was a trusting person, but I realize that it's actually really hard for me to trust someone.  I have even had my best friend since second grade, and I still find it hard for me to tell her things. ...
    unknown311 unknown311 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    Loving Someone

    Hi my name is sally pratt and i don't know what to do i met this really nice guy and he makes me laugh and smile and happy and there's another guy who is the same.I asked my friends about what i should do but as they said it's up to me.Now i really don't know what to do with...
    sally576 sally576 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    No Way

    If people were allowed to get too close to me, they would see exactly what I see. And I do NOT want that. I'm ashamed enough as it is. I may look ok from a distance (actually I don't) but up close... it's a monstrosity. Both physically and emotionally.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2010

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    It'S Complicated

    I don't know why but its like I'm afraid of going into a relationship. I like this boy and he likes me but when I get to close to a boy I seem to back off, can someone tell me why this is? I've never had a boyfriend because of this, help?
    Ahsisbal Ahsisbal 26-30 1 Response May 22, 2013

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    Ever since my dad died I have never had the

    same emotions again. It's like I have no heart now.. I don't feel love like I used to. Or let people in too much. As if I push them away and do stupid little things to hurt them.. Things that upset and weird people out does not have the same effect to me anymore like it used to...
    JDHarrison93 JDHarrison93 18-21, M Mar 17

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    Pushing Always Pushing

    i push and push away anyone who tries to get in to my heart.  i cant help it.  i just dont want to go through the hurt and pain anymore.  i dont feel like i need it.  sure i get lonely but everything i need to do i am doing so why should i let someone in and...
    wendygurl wendygurl 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Every time I let someone get close to me which rarely happens they always end up disappointing me. Now I'm done letting people get close to me. I'm going to push everyone out now...
    cristina44 cristina44 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am selective about letting people get close to me. I have come to realize that it probably doesn't matter how selective you are or not. Most people do what they want in the end...
    NerdyGirl78 NerdyGirl78 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 22

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    Even though people may see me as a very sweet person, but the downside about it is that people can easily take advantage of your kindness and think that you're naive. You meet...
    texaschic35 texaschic35 31-35, F Jul 7

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    I'm afraid to let anyone get close to me again because I can't stand the fact of being hurt all over again, I don't want to get attached to someone and then they leave me. I'm not...
    Blueeyedprincesss Blueeyedprincesss 16-17, F Jul 1

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    I am sure lots of people can relate to this but I grew up in an emotionally abusive environment. My parents fought every single bloody day, screaming at each other, screaming at me...
    thiswatermelonlovesme thiswatermelonlovesme 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 2

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    I can make friends, that's the easy part but you have to be pretty damned special to get really close to me. I've been hurt too many times to let anyone close enough to really hurt...
    elegantstorms elegantstorms 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    I've been hurt too much. People always leave me. I end up getting treated like crap. I put up walls. I crave physical and emotional contact with that one person. I hope that day...
    laubrown1 laubrown1 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    I crave the deepest connections with others, yet I'm too afraid to let anyone in. I love to socialize, I love to make friends, and I have a boyfriend. But that true connection has...
    laurennhem laurennhem 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    When i was 4 my aunt died of cancer, she was the first person i trusted, the only person in my family that actually believed in me. the rest of my family was absorbed with making...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 3

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    Basically my selectivity comes from an incident that happened to me when I was around 13 years old. I was in secondary school and I went though a phase where I was confused about...
    oknyritchie oknyritchie 18-21, M Jul 2

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    It has it's pros and cons.I like being close to people,I love getting affection and emotional intimacy and giving it back and feeling like I have this great person i can count on...
    seeminglypossible seeminglypossible 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    i love to socialize however i have this fear of getting close to someone, cause its always hard when eventually they realize they don't want to be in your life anymore cause they...
    theblindbandit theblindbandit 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    It probably would be nice to have a lot of people in my life but I've realized that you can't allow just anyone in your life without really getting to know them. A person may have...
    strawberry38 strawberry38 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 1

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    I try and study them first and be observant. For example if a friend that is close with the person I'm studying and the person I'm studying talks crap, I'll know not to get close...
    jacithepanda jacithepanda 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    I am selective because I think it is important to make sure that there is a mutual compatibility rapport with one another. I think when one releases their inner most thoughts and...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 9

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    I have struggled with depression and self harm for several years now. I always feel so alone but I know part of that is my fault, because no matter how hard I try I can never let...
    mmccarth mmccarth 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Benefits of dating me: 1. You're the sane one
    PinkP0werRanger PinkP0werRanger 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Once I love I always love. The problem is I can't seem to let people go even though they have already let me go. I know that love changes and grows. For some reason, I like to keep...
    RosieRose63 RosieRose63 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    Only been on here 2 days and due to an internet **** up , I feel like I've let people down............. and theres nothing I can do..... Waiting for the new phone and net...
    thataussie thataussie 36-40, M Jul 10

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    I feel I trust people too much. I've been used and lied to so much but I never learn. Maybe I have faith in people's humanity? Maybe I'm a dumba$$?
    YLIhououin YLIhououin 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    It's a weird feeling to feel obligated to help someone. I don't know why I feel that way but I do. It's not as simple as saying I see someone and want to help them. No it's a...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F 15 hrs ago

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    Me and my bestie were doing trust exercises because he thinks that my lack in trust is keeping me from getting close to people . He said I'm so afraid that someone will hurt me...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    I have 2 friends of close to 20 years that I've felt myself not-so-gradually drifting away from over the past year or so. I find myself completely sucked dry after every...
    dolceharajuku dolceharajuku 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    i dont mean to get close to people it just happens.. cuz ever since my dad left my heart felt empty. so now as soon as someone comes in my life they get close to me and leave out...
    xxxalyssabrownxxx xxxalyssabrownxxx 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    I'm afraid of getting close to others or having a new best friend because my best friend died over a year ago. Not only that, I have had lots of friends who have died. Others, I...
    ninathecat ninathecat 31-35 Jul 18

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    I'm pretty optimistic when it comes to my opinions of people,and I like to see the good in everybody. I tend to expect everyone to be honest, good and keep promises, but...
    almaera almaera 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    It's weird because I don't trust people, but I'm an open book to them so there has to be trust there..right?...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I give my trust and my heart to people who don't deserve it, and it always comes back to haunt me.
    ashleyynp ashleyynp 18-21, F Jul 15

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    I hate being touched. No it isn't ptsd, i think its a phobia. It just feels awkward and uncomfortable.
    Mi5h Mi5h 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    I have been told buy my mother that giving birth to me was way to hard she evan said that the others she had where not that hard they are my bothers. I have been in the deepest...
    BarnsHors67 BarnsHors67 36-40, F Jul 8

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    I wish I didn't but its kinda hard not to when they just know the right words to say and make me soooooo happy.
    SimplyAmazingx SimplyAmazingx 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 19