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I Dont Let People Get Too Close to Me

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    It all started when I got with my expartner

    Aaron he was with my friend first and they have a daughter together but they broke up and a few months after it was like we fell in love I didn't mean for it to happen it just did, after a month of us being together I fell pregnant That's when things started to change he was...
    autummoon2 autummoon2 18-21, F Dec 19, 2013

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    Back Up!!!

    No, I don't like letting people get too close because then they get curious and start asking questions and ****.  I'll tell you what I want you to know and nothing more.So.....BACK UP!
    RagingSkillet RagingSkillet 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 6, 2011

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    No One Gets Close

    I have a fragile heart and to let someone get close takes time.
    kime kime 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Pushing Always Pushing

    i push and push away anyone who tries to get in to my heart.  i cant help it.  i just dont want to go through the hurt and pain anymore.  i dont feel like i need it.  sure i get lonely but everything i need to do i am doing so why should i let someone in and...
    wendygurl wendygurl 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19, 2008

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    Ever since my dad died I have never had the

    same emotions again. It's like I have no heart now.. I don't feel love like I used to. Or let people in too much. As if I push them away and do stupid little things to hurt them.. Things that upset and weird people out does not have the same effect to me anymore like it used to...
    JDHarrison93 JDHarrison93 18-21, M Mar 17, 2014

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    Not Many

       Even though I might seem like a pretty open guy, I am rarely showing people what I'm feeling.  I tend to let people think they know me, but I rarely open up with anyone.  My personality can be overwhelming, and I often believe that I'm putting myself upon...
    intothewoods intothewoods 26-30 3 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    It'S Complicated

    I don't know why but its like I'm afraid of going into a relationship. I like this boy and he likes me but when I get to close to a boy I seem to back off, can someone tell me why this is? I've never had a boyfriend because of this, help?
    Ahsisbal Ahsisbal 26-30 1 Response May 22, 2013

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    thunder0 thunder0 22-25, M Dec 9, 2013

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    The only person who really knows me

    and is so close she can almost touch my heart. She's my best friend and I'm so happy for her! I don't let people in my life cause I don't want to get hurt.
    ccmonster14 ccmonster14 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2014

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    Why Bother

    i dont like people.  they always let me down.  they have too many flaws, dont care who they hurt, and can't be themselves.  I dont want people to get close to me.  I dont want to be close to people.  i just want to be left alone to live a peaceful, quiet...
    psychochic psychochic 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    Thinking Of The End

    When I meet new woman that I do like and I know the feeling is mutual I tend to think of the ending before things even get started. By the time a solid friendship is built (no sex) I have already convinced myself that she is not the one, this wont work. Sometime the past can be a...
    jgbowers jgbowers 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    If you get to close to someone your just

    setting yourself up for disaster when they stab you in the back and twist the blade
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 3, 2014

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    Just Me

    I've been mentally and physically battered and played with in so many ways and for so long that it's hard to even imagine trusting anyone or letting anyone get close to me any time soon considering the ones who should be the most trusting and there for me aren't, my family. I...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    I never let any boy get too close.

    I the last time I opened up and let my guard down, he cheated on me. I'm afraid to get hurt again.
    ericaxjean ericaxjean 13-15, F Dec 23, 2014

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    Keep You At Arm's Length

    I definitely have an issue letting people in.  I always thought I was a trusting person, but I realize that it's actually really hard for me to trust someone.  I have even had my best friend since second grade, and I still find it hard for me to tell her things. ...
    unknown311 unknown311 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    No Way

    If people were allowed to get too close to me, they would see exactly what I see. And I do NOT want that. I'm ashamed enough as it is. I may look ok from a distance (actually I don't) but up close... it's a monstrosity. Both physically and emotionally.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2010

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    Always Have

    To be more specific, I've always had trouble letting guys get close to me, both mentally and physically. I've never truly been in love or had a relationship that has lasted over a few months, so I guess in a way, I just assume that guys don't want to get to know me. It's a flaw...
    RubyPhoenix RubyPhoenix 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2009

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    Since I was a kid, I always had this fear

    that I will be attached to someone so much and when they hurt me or break my trust, I won't ever get over it. I used to push the ones I love away and keep them on a distance. Who is also like this? Is this healthy?
    Bahar123 Bahar123 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 12, 2014

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    I will always keep a conversation geared on you.

    When you ask me questions about myself I will answer discretely and reverse it. Ill let you get to know me under the condition that I may never have to see you again or if we meet online I'm able to flee whenever I feel necessary.
    Rihe Rihe 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    The moon must have felt my pain that night it

    turned blood red. After months of staring at the moon, wondering you're looking too, maybe it was my sign ti stop bleeding for someone who wouldn't even stitch me up. Instead they'd slowly watch me die, with not even one care in their eye.
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2014

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    I Remember Why I Don't Let People Close to My Heart.

    I'm sitting here sad.  Someone stepped out of my life without saying why or good bye. I asked  "where are you?" and didn't respond.
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    Loving Someone

    Hi my name is sally pratt and i don't know what to do i met this really nice guy and he makes me laugh and smile and happy and there's another guy who is the same.I asked my friends about what i should do but as they said it's up to me.Now i really don't know what to do with...
    sally576 sally576 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Every time I let people get close, I end up getting hurt emotionally or physically for it. I'm done letting people get that close. I'm not going to let my guard down again.
    BeYou321 BeYou321 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Been hurt emotionally so much by everyone, even loved ones that now I'm too scared to let anyone get close to me anymore. I can't help by keep everyone at arm's length, I feel...
    EightEggyEggs EightEggyEggs 18-21, M Jan 4

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    I'm so afraid of people getting close to me. I mean I want it but I'm kind of afraid, because once I have that bonding with someone or even relationship and it's gone or they leave...
    t3rriv t3rriv 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    Every time I let someone get too close to me...I end up getting hurt. They usually don't stick around to help pick up the pieces...they've moved on. I try and be friendly but I'm...
    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    when I let people in it feels like I'm just going to be another disappointment to them and I usually am 99.9% of the time
    sadmistak3 sadmistak3 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    mostly because i am not honest with myself and have secrets plus I've been used before and that kinda ****** me up, even though I do wish to let people into my life .
    jynx1 jynx1 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    People who mean the world to you, just have to leave from your life. You watch your closest friends leave at a distance. One by one. They walk down to another path by themselves...
    Macyyyy Macyyyy 18-21, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Follow up from earlier today; Lunch was wonderful with my foster mom. it wasn't awkward though, I did cry when she drove away. But I didn't let her see. As angry as I still may be...
    Minnowshi Minnowshi 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    I've been lied to and I've been hurt a lot throughout my life. I worry that I will never be able to trust people again. I'm afraid to bring new people into my life, I'm afraid to...
    smileyryley smileyryley 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    keliscc11 keliscc11 26-30, F Dec 30, 2014

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    So there is this guy I like, we have started dating. I think he likes me too, but i always think what he's getting out of it. Im afraid that I will start to like him to much. The...
    heybro1 heybro1 18-21, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Everyone leaves eventually, nothing last forever. I tend to push away people that could actually end up being really good friends for me because I get scared. I don't like being...
    moshinocherryxx moshinocherryxx 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I have this really huge problem with loosing interest in guys! I starts with me getting intrerested in at guy. Maybe after a week of talking and keeping eye contact in School, he...
    Methoma Methoma 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I recently got out of an abusive relationship and I have trust issues to begin with. Unfortunately, the relationship made them worse. I'm not interested in a relationship and it...
    TheWicked TheWicked 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 2

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    Trying to be, anyway. A lot of people want to get close to me on the basis of being able to rely on me for anything and everything, at any given time, and it doesn't work.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F Jan 4

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    Many people have used me or abused our friendship. So now I have very low trust, so people who want to pm me on ep; I won't be quick to reply or may not trust you at all at first...
    shur09 shur09 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    My boyfriend told me today that he wants to live in my city...halfway across the globe from where he lives. It made me so happy, as it was what I was hoping for because it means...
    Cranksta Cranksta 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    New coworker wants to be in my life, but does he really know what that means. Do we really know a person after just a few weeks of working with them. Maybe I am the opposite of...
    YeahthatsMylife YeahthatsMylife 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    Well I guess just certain people. It just depends
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    AS Ive been really hurt in the past by so called friends and/or potential partners especially 1 in 2005 who text me my 1st time as a female & said its ???? my previous name, or its...
    TrannyinSydney TrannyinSydney 26-30, T 1 Response Jan 4

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    I really need to work on this because I block myself off from people
    ElissaAcosta ElissaAcosta 16-17, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    We are all searching for someone, who's demons play well with ours.
    alexxvaunlennon101 alexxvaunlennon101 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    I am very selective when it comes to this, yet I am here. It's a paradox.
    Nakedness8 Nakedness8 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    My first foster mom that I lived with for 16 years gave me up 3 years ago 2 weeks before Christmas leaving me homeless. We didn't separate on good terms but over the last few years...
    Minnowshi Minnowshi 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 2

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