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I Dont Let People Get Too Close to Me

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    Keep You At Arm's Length

    I definitely have an issue letting people in.  I always thought I was a trusting person, but I realize that it's actually really hard for me to trust someone.  I have even had my best friend since second grade, and I still find it hard for me to tell her things. ...
    unknown311 unknown311 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    Not Many

       Even though I might seem like a pretty open guy, I am rarely showing people what I'm feeling.  I tend to let people think they know me, but I rarely open up with anyone.  My personality can be overwhelming, and I often believe that I'm putting myself upon...
    intothewoods intothewoods 26-30 3 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    The moon must have felt my pain that night it

    turned blood red. After months of staring at the moon, wondering you're looking too, maybe it was my sign ti stop bleeding for someone who wouldn't even stitch me up. Instead they'd slowly watch me die, with not even one care in their eye.
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    thunder0 thunder0 22-25, M Dec 9, 2013

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    Back Up!!!

    No, I don't like letting people get too close because then they get curious and start asking questions and ****.  I'll tell you what I want you to know and nothing more.So.....BACK UP!
    RagingSkillet RagingSkillet 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 6, 2011

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    It'S Complicated

    I don't know why but its like I'm afraid of going into a relationship. I like this boy and he likes me but when I get to close to a boy I seem to back off, can someone tell me why this is? I've never had a boyfriend because of this, help?
    Ahsisbal Ahsisbal 26-30 1 Response May 22, 2013

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    No Way

    If people were allowed to get too close to me, they would see exactly what I see. And I do NOT want that. I'm ashamed enough as it is. I may look ok from a distance (actually I don't) but up close... it's a monstrosity. Both physically and emotionally.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2010

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    Why Bother

    i dont like people.  they always let me down.  they have too many flaws, dont care who they hurt, and can't be themselves.  I dont want people to get close to me.  I dont want to be close to people.  i just want to be left alone to live a peaceful, quiet...
    psychochic psychochic 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    If you get to close to someone your just

    setting yourself up for disaster when they stab you in the back and twist the blade
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 3

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    Pushing Always Pushing

    i push and push away anyone who tries to get in to my heart.  i cant help it.  i just dont want to go through the hurt and pain anymore.  i dont feel like i need it.  sure i get lonely but everything i need to do i am doing so why should i let someone in and...
    wendygurl wendygurl 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19, 2008

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    It all started when I got with my expartner

    Aaron he was with my friend first and they have a daughter together but they broke up and a few months after it was like we fell in love I didn't mean for it to happen it just did, after a month of us being together I fell pregnant That's when things started to change he was...
    autummoon2 autummoon2 18-21, F Dec 19, 2013

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    Loving Someone

    Hi my name is sally pratt and i don't know what to do i met this really nice guy and he makes me laugh and smile and happy and there's another guy who is the same.I asked my friends about what i should do but as they said it's up to me.Now i really don't know what to do with...
    sally576 sally576 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    I Remember Why I Don't Let People Close to My Heart.

    I'm sitting here sad.  Someone stepped out of my life without saying why or good bye. I asked  "where are you?" and didn't respond.
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    No One Gets Close

    I have a fragile heart and to let someone get close takes time.
    kime kime 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Ever since my dad died I have never had the

    same emotions again. It's like I have no heart now.. I don't feel love like I used to. Or let people in too much. As if I push them away and do stupid little things to hurt them.. Things that upset and weird people out does not have the same effect to me anymore like it used to...
    JDHarrison93 JDHarrison93 18-21, M Mar 17

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    Always Have

    To be more specific, I've always had trouble letting guys get close to me, both mentally and physically. I've never truly been in love or had a relationship that has lasted over a few months, so I guess in a way, I just assume that guys don't want to get to know me. It's a flaw...
    RubyPhoenix RubyPhoenix 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2009

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    Thinking Of The End

    When I meet new woman that I do like and I know the feeling is mutual I tend to think of the ending before things even get started. By the time a solid friendship is built (no sex) I have already convinced myself that she is not the one, this wont work. Sometime the past can be a...
    jgbowers jgbowers 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Just Me

    I've been mentally and physically battered and played with in so many ways and for so long that it's hard to even imagine trusting anyone or letting anyone get close to me any time soon considering the ones who should be the most trusting and there for me aren't, my family. I...
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Every time I let someone get close to me which rarely happens they always end up disappointing me. Now I'm done letting people get close to me. I'm going to push everyone out now...
    cristina44 cristina44 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 30

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    Online I have learned that is easier to let me come into my life. Maybe it's because I can lay all my cards on the table and you can take me or leave me. I think in person I worry...
    Chicgeekgal Chicgeekgal 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 3

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    I dont let many get close to me... Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Online at least I can be a bit chatty, but even online I don't let people close easily. I'm trying to keep previous damage in the past, but I'm still quite cautious. Hopefully in...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 16

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    Nothing solidifies a new friendship at the ripe ol age of 24 quite like a sleepover. Today I came home from a weekend trip with a girlfriend, her boyfriend and her 7yr old son...
    itscake itscake 22-25, F Aug 11

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    When you have social anxiety and Tourette's, you are used to being labeled as a weirdo. I'm not the type that show my emotions. For instance I hardly cry. So if you hurt my...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 9

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    Yup, with a fine toothed comb. I realize all people want to do is hurt me. Story of my life. Everyone but my mom. I'll give her, her props! I guess that's why I stick to reading...
    GarnetRoses GarnetRoses 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    Finding the right people to be your friends is a task in itself and once you find them another task is to see if they are they are good enough to be really close to your heart...
    uselessguy uselessguy 36-40, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    people just aren't there for you like they say they'll be. so I kinda just closed myself off from people these past 2 or 3 years.
    SailorGoon SailorGoon 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 14

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    I have trust issues because of my past and therefore I am very cautious who I let close to me.
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    I had one best friend cut contact with me for his g/f, now wife. Another went into a business deal with me and within a week of business start-up decided to cut and run and leave...
    lmtnmn lmtnmn 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 13

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a...
    JAD01 JAD01 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 22

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    Im happy to be with people with sense of humor or those that agrees with me. Unfortunately not all are like that.
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am now since I scared this girl.
    narutobuddy narutobuddy 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    I haven't built just a wall around me; I've constructed a bomb shelter inside a nuclear bunker set into the side of a mountain.
    ThePinkP0werRanger ThePinkP0werRanger 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 4

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    Physically or emotionally. First, im a man so I try to not even admit that I have feelings. Most of my life experiences until I was about 18 were terrible. I was physically and...
    Handyman25 Handyman25 22-25, M 6 Responses Aug 7

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    My heart Is a many faceted substance. While it slumbers, dark watchmen hold vigil. Their shields are stout, their manner fiercely protective.It becomes pliant and awakens...
    SwanSongRebeL SwanSongRebeL 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    i dont know why ...i trust people too easy when we get along and chat alittle .and now i think im stupid .. ^_^ but when they give their trust to me i make sure they wont be...
    kakeru14 kakeru14 22-25, M Aug 13

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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    It's a weird feeling to feel obligated to help someone. I don't know why I feel that way but I do. It's not as simple as saying I see someone and want to help them. No it's a...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21 Jul 31

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    Hi guys in need of some advice about my boyfriend and the relationship he has with his sister. Myself and my boyfriend have been together for just under 3 months, although have...
    angrykid123 angrykid123 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    Welllll... I can't really say the same.... I do respect myself and all.... But if I didn't let you guys kill me.... You would all rot in hell....
    DreadlockJesus DreadlockJesus 31-35, M Aug 5

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    I forgive people no matter what pretty much. I'm terrible at being mad at people. I'll get into an argument with somebody and then I'll not talk to them for a day then I totally...
    skyleryounger skyleryounger 18-21, M Aug 12

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    I feel as if much of my younger years were spent on people that never really mattered.. I find myself waking up many years later asking.. We're am I?..
    Hearfrfun Hearfrfun 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 19

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    i do have problems but i dont usually tell anyone aha. to embarassing
    newaccountquinnmac12 newaccountquinnmac12 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 3

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    I've been through a lot. The worst is over but because of my past I don't completely trust anybody.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Aug 3

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    So many on here do not. There is nothing to be proud about being the other woman or bit on the side. Both need to respect themselves more and he needs to respect his wife or...
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F Aug 5

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    maybe be cause i didnt find my solmate
    freaksico freaksico 22-25, M 19 hrs ago

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    It's so hard to let people get close to me because I've been hurt by someone that was suppose to never hurt me & they did. & I don't know how to let people in. & I get told I'm...
    ForeverYoung09 ForeverYoung09 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 1

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    My sister and father both made blind accusations not to long ago about why it is I've been spending time with a certain LDS church and youth group… Well, let's take a few steps...
    MissAutumn MissAutumn 18-21, F Aug 19

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