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I Dont Let People Get Too Close to Me

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    Ever since my dad died I have never had the

    same emotions again. It's like I have no heart now.. I don't feel love like I used to. Or let people in too much. As if I push them away and do stupid little things to hurt them.. Things that upset and weird people out does not have the same effect to me anymore like it used to...
    JDHarrison93 JDHarrison93 22-25, M Mar 17, 2014

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    It'S Complicated

    I don't know why but its like I'm afraid of going into a relationship. I like this boy and he likes me but when I get to close to a boy I seem to back off, can someone tell me why this is? I've never had a boyfriend because of this, help?
    Ahsisbal Ahsisbal 26-30 1 Response May 22, 2013

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    Why Bother

    i dont like people.  they always let me down.  they have too many flaws, dont care who they hurt, and can't be themselves.  I dont want people to get close to me.  I dont want to be close to people.  i just want to be left alone to live a peaceful, quiet...
    psychochic psychochic 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    I will always keep a conversation geared on you.

    When you ask me questions about myself I will answer discretely and reverse it. Ill let you get to know me under the condition that I may never have to see you again or if we meet online I'm able to flee whenever I feel necessary.
    Rihe Rihe 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    No Way

    If people were allowed to get too close to me, they would see exactly what I see. And I do NOT want that. I'm ashamed enough as it is. I may look ok from a distance (actually I don't) but up close... it's a monstrosity. Both physically and emotionally.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2010

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    The moon must have felt my pain that night it

    turned blood red. After months of staring at the moon, wondering you're looking too, maybe it was my sign ti stop bleeding for someone who wouldn't even stitch me up. Instead they'd slowly watch me die, with not even one care in their eye.
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2014

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    Since I was a kid, I always had this fear

    that I will be attached to someone so much and when they hurt me or break my trust, I won't ever get over it. I used to push the ones I love away and keep them on a distance. Who is also like this? Is this healthy?
    Bahar123 Bahar123 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 22

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    Keep You At Arm's Length

    I definitely have an issue letting people in.  I always thought I was a trusting person, but I realize that it's actually really hard for me to trust someone.  I have even had my best friend since second grade, and I still find it hard for me to tell her things. ...
    unknown311 unknown311 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    Thinking Of The End

    When I meet new woman that I do like and I know the feeling is mutual I tend to think of the ending before things even get started. By the time a solid friendship is built (no sex) I have already convinced myself that she is not the one, this wont work. Sometime the past can be a...
    jgbowers jgbowers 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Just Me

    I've been mentally and physically battered and played with in so many ways and for so long that it's hard to even imagine trusting anyone or letting anyone get close to me any time soon considering the ones who should be the most trusting and there for me aren't, my family. I...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    If you get to close to someone your just

    setting yourself up for disaster when they stab you in the back and twist the blade
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 3, 2014

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    The only person who really knows me

    and is so close she can almost touch my heart. She's my best friend and I'm so happy for her! I don't let people in my life cause I don't want to get hurt.
    ccmonster14 ccmonster14 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2014

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    Back Up!!!

    No, I don't like letting people get too close because then they get curious and start asking questions and ****.  I'll tell you what I want you to know and nothing more.So.....BACK UP!
    RagingSkillet RagingSkillet 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 6, 2011

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    Pushing Always Pushing

    i push and push away anyone who tries to get in to my heart.  i cant help it.  i just dont want to go through the hurt and pain anymore.  i dont feel like i need it.  sure i get lonely but everything i need to do i am doing so why should i let someone in and...
    wendygurl wendygurl 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19, 2008

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    Always Have

    To be more specific, I've always had trouble letting guys get close to me, both mentally and physically. I've never truly been in love or had a relationship that has lasted over a few months, so I guess in a way, I just assume that guys don't want to get to know me. It's a flaw...
    RubyPhoenix RubyPhoenix 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2009

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    No One Gets Close

    I have a fragile heart and to let someone get close takes time.
    kime kime 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Not Many

       Even though I might seem like a pretty open guy, I am rarely showing people what I'm feeling.  I tend to let people think they know me, but I rarely open up with anyone.  My personality can be overwhelming, and I often believe that I'm putting myself upon...
    intothewoods intothewoods 26-30 3 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 12, 2014

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    Loving Someone

    Hi my name is sally pratt and i don't know what to do i met this really nice guy and he makes me laugh and smile and happy and there's another guy who is the same.I asked my friends about what i should do but as they said it's up to me.Now i really don't know what to do with...
    sally576 sally576 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    thunder0 thunder0 22-25, M Dec 9, 2013

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    I never let any boy get too close.

    I the last time I opened up and let my guard down, he cheated on me. I'm afraid to get hurt again.
    ericaxjean ericaxjean 13-15, F Dec 23, 2014

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    It all started when I got with my expartner

    Aaron he was with my friend first and they have a daughter together but they broke up and a few months after it was like we fell in love I didn't mean for it to happen it just did, after a month of us being together I fell pregnant That's when things started to change he was...
    autummoon2 autummoon2 18-21, F Dec 19, 2013

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    I Remember Why I Don't Let People Close to My Heart.

    I'm sitting here sad.  Someone stepped out of my life without saying why or good bye. I asked  "where are you?" and didn't respond.
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I feel that if I let someone get close to me, they'll hurt me too much. Isn't it better to not get hurt and be alone than to be with people and suffer? After all, you can provide...
    Lunasnight Lunasnight 16-17, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ive been thru lots of hurt so its hard letting others in. I have to know you for a long time before I can trust you enough to let you get close to me as a friend.
    zzz1silentheart zzz1silentheart 18-21, M Apr 12

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    So ya the title of this post says it all. Umm the reasons for are because I have been hurt and betrayed by lots of people in my life. Because of these things I don't just let...
    LittleMissCanada LittleMissCanada 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Ok I don't know if I'm over thinking this. Last week this guy I'll call him Will, ended our affair just as it started. We were really good friends but he's married. We've been...
    OneStonedGirl OneStonedGirl 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    I have always had a hard time trusting that the people I "let in" truly have the intention of staying. As a consequence I tend to show them the exit before they have a chance to...
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 7

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    I have a few close friends. i don't trust people, I've been hurt badly.
    Ang012685 Ang012685 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    So selective in-fact, that I've got no one close and everyone far away. It gets tiring being alone. Oh woe is me. :p Maybe I should try harder to change my status of "alone and...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 Apr 7

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    Apparently I can't get close to anyone without doing something that makes me hate myself even more than usual, which doesn't seem possible every time until it happens... and i've...
    SketchOfInsanity SketchOfInsanity 16-17, M 1 day ago

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    I have a few good friends but if you asked any of them about my life.. only two would be able to give you a descriptive answer
    Caty747 Caty747 18-21, F 2 hrs ago

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    And that is why I need my best friend back He was the first person I trusted after 6 years
    JalenFrankie616 JalenFrankie616 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    Due to jerks. Who claim to care. But merely care for their needs. Not any others.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 1 Response Apr 16

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    It usually consists of 7-8 interviews, a background check, credit check, drug screening, and most importantly--an assessment of taste in movies and music.
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    Ok am so confused right now and idk if am just being picky or rude..... But me and this boy just meet like a day or 2 ago and he claiming to really like me.... Like wth we just...
    Regretiam Regretiam 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Everyone falls so easily into love. Which is boring and probably a lie. I don't love easy. It takes YEARS before I can, and even then it's reckless..
    octoberlovely octoberlovely 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Physically, Mentally, Emotionally. I'm distant but I share a lot so that you don't feel like I'm not trying.
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    we become friends and get kinda close, then I trust them... but once I trust them and open up... I think I either annoy them or scare them because they start to act different...
    Bigcat1697 Bigcat1697 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    I've had people step on me, spit in my face, and kick me while I'm down. I've been dehumanized, shamed, neglected, and manipulated. I still stand here, waiting for life, but I'm...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I keep my mask on around people. I don't trust people anymore, they have betrayed me many times but I never betrayed them.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 6

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    I think I need to mend my habit of trusting people so easily. I feel like dumb when people take advantage of it. I have had certain bad experiences because of this. I think its...
    lovemylife2210 lovemylife2210 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    i honestly do love and cherish the friendships i have, i'm just really scared to get emotionally attached to others :( major trust issues lol, my family isn't the greatest and my 2...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I really am. Guess you could say I'm scared of life.
    angelkinzz angelkinzz 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago