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I Dont Let People Get Too Close to Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 387 People

    Just Me

    I've been mentally and physically battered and played with in so many ways and for so long that it's hard to even imagine trusting anyone or letting anyone get close to me any time soon considering the ones who should be the most trusting and there for me aren't, my family. I...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    Pushing Always Pushing

    i push and push away anyone who tries to get in to my heart.  i cant help it.  i just dont want to go through the hurt and pain anymore.  i dont feel like i need it.  sure i get lonely but everything i need to do i am doing so why should i let someone in and...
    wendygurl wendygurl 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19, 2008

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    It'S Complicated

    I don't know why but its like I'm afraid of going into a relationship. I like this boy and he likes me but when I get to close to a boy I seem to back off, can someone tell me why this is? I've never had a boyfriend because of this, help?
    Ahsisbal Ahsisbal 26-30 1 Response May 22, 2013

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    No Way

    If people were allowed to get too close to me, they would see exactly what I see. And I do NOT want that. I'm ashamed enough as it is. I may look ok from a distance (actually I don't) but up close... it's a monstrosity. Both physically and emotionally.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2010

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    No One Gets Close

    I have a fragile heart and to let someone get close takes time.
    kime kime 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    I will always keep a conversation geared on you.

    When you ask me questions about myself I will answer discretely and reverse it. Ill let you get to know me under the condition that I may never have to see you again or if we meet online I'm able to flee whenever I feel necessary.
    Rihe Rihe 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    It all started when I got with my expartner

    Aaron he was with my friend first and they have a daughter together but they broke up and a few months after it was like we fell in love I didn't mean for it to happen it just did, after a month of us being together I fell pregnant That's when things started to change he was...
    autummoon2 autummoon2 18-21, F Dec 19, 2013

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    I never let any boy get too close.

    I the last time I opened up and let my guard down, he cheated on me. I'm afraid to get hurt again.
    ericaxjean ericaxjean 13-15, F Dec 23, 2014

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    Always Have

    To be more specific, I've always had trouble letting guys get close to me, both mentally and physically. I've never truly been in love or had a relationship that has lasted over a few months, so I guess in a way, I just assume that guys don't want to get to know me. It's a flaw...
    RubyPhoenix RubyPhoenix 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2009

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    Since I was a kid, I always had this fear

    that I will be attached to someone so much and when they hurt me or break my trust, I won't ever get over it. I used to push the ones I love away and keep them on a distance. Who is also like this? Is this healthy?
    Bahar123 Bahar123 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 22

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    thunder0 thunder0 22-25, M Dec 9, 2013

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    The only person who really knows me

    and is so close she can almost touch my heart. She's my best friend and I'm so happy for her! I don't let people in my life cause I don't want to get hurt.
    ccmonster14 ccmonster14 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2014

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    Not Many

       Even though I might seem like a pretty open guy, I am rarely showing people what I'm feeling.  I tend to let people think they know me, but I rarely open up with anyone.  My personality can be overwhelming, and I often believe that I'm putting myself upon...
    intothewoods intothewoods 26-30 3 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    If you get to close to someone your just

    setting yourself up for disaster when they stab you in the back and twist the blade
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 3, 2014

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 12, 2014

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    Back Up!!!

    No, I don't like letting people get too close because then they get curious and start asking questions and ****.  I'll tell you what I want you to know and nothing more.So.....BACK UP!
    RagingSkillet RagingSkillet 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 6, 2011

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    Thinking Of The End

    When I meet new woman that I do like and I know the feeling is mutual I tend to think of the ending before things even get started. By the time a solid friendship is built (no sex) I have already convinced myself that she is not the one, this wont work. Sometime the past can be a...
    jgbowers jgbowers 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Loving Someone

    Hi my name is sally pratt and i don't know what to do i met this really nice guy and he makes me laugh and smile and happy and there's another guy who is the same.I asked my friends about what i should do but as they said it's up to me.Now i really don't know what to do with...
    sally576 sally576 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    Why Bother

    i dont like people.  they always let me down.  they have too many flaws, dont care who they hurt, and can't be themselves.  I dont want people to get close to me.  I dont want to be close to people.  i just want to be left alone to live a peaceful, quiet...
    psychochic psychochic 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    I Remember Why I Don't Let People Close to My Heart.

    I'm sitting here sad.  Someone stepped out of my life without saying why or good bye. I asked  "where are you?" and didn't respond.
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    The moon must have felt my pain that night it

    turned blood red. After months of staring at the moon, wondering you're looking too, maybe it was my sign ti stop bleeding for someone who wouldn't even stitch me up. Instead they'd slowly watch me die, with not even one care in their eye.
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2014

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    Ever since my dad died I have never had the

    same emotions again. It's like I have no heart now.. I don't feel love like I used to. Or let people in too much. As if I push them away and do stupid little things to hurt them.. Things that upset and weird people out does not have the same effect to me anymore like it used to...
    JDHarrison93 JDHarrison93 22-25, M Mar 17, 2014

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    Keep You At Arm's Length

    I definitely have an issue letting people in.  I always thought I was a trusting person, but I realize that it's actually really hard for me to trust someone.  I have even had my best friend since second grade, and I still find it hard for me to tell her things. ...
    unknown311 unknown311 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I feel that if I let someone get close to me, they'll hurt me too much. Isn't it better to not get hurt and be alone than to be with people and suffer? After all, you can provide...
    Lunasnight Lunasnight 16-17, F 2 Responses May 3

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    It's hard to let people close when you feel like you never live up to people's image of you. The constant fear of disappointing them holds you back. I hate that feeling I get after...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 May 16

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    I am actually a firm believe that most people are selfish by nature. I say this as someone who has had so many people come and go in my life who have shown me that unless I'm there...
    AKLady15 AKLady15 26-30, F 1 Response May 7

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    Not only am I afraid of getting hurt but im afraid of hurting others. I am complicated, easily misunderstood, reserved and i get disinterested in people quickly. If a relationship...
    15ShadesOfBlue 15ShadesOfBlue 16-17, F 5 Responses May 18

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    Everyone feels hurt and loss. I think I came back to EP to vent a little. I like to help others too, but this weekend just killed me. I had met a guy online who said he was...
    SunnyGrlA SunnyGrlA 36-40, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I think that there is something wrong with me... I just don't want to get people close to me. I think that I was disaponted and left alone so many times that I just can't trust...
    Hashii Hashii 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have a few close friends. i don't trust people, I've been hurt badly.
    Ang012685 Ang012685 26-30, F 2 Responses May 4

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    All I seem to do lately is cry. I've cried for 16 days straight cause I missed my boyfriend who was in America and then the day he came back I found out he's been on here messaging...
    PrettyPrincess23 PrettyPrincess23 18-21, F May 8

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    It's not that I don't trust people, or that I've been cheated or lied to in the past. I push others away for fear of my disappointing them. If somebody becomes a very close friend...
    Elsiphael Elsiphael 16-17, T May 9

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    You can't get to me through gifts. you can't get to me through time either. it's either a right away thing, or it's a not at all thing. All you guys who think "oh, I'll do...
    mystiere13 mystiere13 16-17, F 2 Responses May 8

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    I am so scared that if I let someone love me that all they will do is hurt me. I am scared that I will start to love them and than it was a lie. so I am scared to open up or let...
    PinkyChristina PinkyChristina 13-15, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    Apparently I can't get close to anyone without doing something that makes me hate myself even more than usual, which doesn't seem possible every time until it happens... and i've...
    SketchOfInsanity SketchOfInsanity 16-17, M May 3

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    I get nervous when someone tries to get close to me bc I've been hurt before and never wanna go thru that hurt again.
    Ridemywavvvve Ridemywavvvve 31-35, F 1 Response May 8

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    Every time they get close either they break me or I ultimately push them away.
    OohlalaMimi OohlalaMimi 16-17, F May 9

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    I don't want to let her go, but I am a constant reminder how much I've hurt her.
    love1336 love1336 22-25, F 1 Response May 21

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    After giving up everything I had in my life to be with the girl I loved I got seriously screwed over, lied to, cheated on everything..and now I can't trust anyone and am so so...
    Propsta84 Propsta84 26-30, M 4 Responses May 8

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    i dont know who the hell came up with these awful fantasy stories! they make us believe **** and now, as grown ups, get depressed because those stories didn't come true for us. we...
    Zagirllxx Zagirllxx 16-17, F 3 Responses May 9

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    One good reason for keeping people at a distance and maintaining a small circle of friends is that more often than not the murder victim is someone the killer knew.
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 3 Responses May 18

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    Ok am so confused right now and idk if am just being picky or rude..... But me and this boy just meet like a day or 2 ago and he claiming to really like me.... Like wth we just...
    Regretiam Regretiam 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    Everyone falls so easily into love. Which is boring and probably a lie. I don't love easy. It takes YEARS before I can, and even then it's reckless..
    octoberlovely octoberlovely 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 30

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