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I Don't Like Asking For Help

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    Hate It!

    I didn't get help from my parents when I had questions as a kid, I had to figure things out for myself. Help with homework? Yeah, right. When I became an adult I found I had a hard time asking for help in any area of my life which still holds true today. I'm...
    zillaron zillaron 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    "figure It Out On Your Own"

    It's not that Im too proud, it's just that my family always admonished me for not knowing something or not being able to do something on my own. When I asked a question the answer I always got back was "Figure it out " or "You're always on the internet so look it...
    Lostsoul22 Lostsoul22 22-25, F Dec 20, 2009

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    I Hate It

    i would rather take double the time and figure it out by myself than ask someone for help. recently i have been asking for help to certain people with life situations and it has helped so much lol so i guess asking for help can be beneficial sometimes.
    boby6 boby6 22-25, M Aug 8, 2009

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    I Don't Like To Ask For Help

    Although I don't like to ask for help, If I think I really need help I will ask for help.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 Jan 15, 2012

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    I Don't....

    I do not like asking for help, No matter what it is for. My Left arm, could be falling off, and I would still say "im fine" or "no, i'll be okay" its just my personalitly. I have always been told, that if I ask for help, that I am weak, and I guess, that is something that has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2010

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    Makes Me Feel Stupid

    I don't like to ask for help unless I absolutely have to. I like to prove to myself and others that I can do something on my own.For example if something is broken I will always try to tinker with it for a while to see if I can repair it. Then if I realize I've tried everything I...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F Aug 12, 2011

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    My Lips Won't Move To Even Ask For It

    Or my brain won't even consider it. I'm TOO stubborn and most likely prideful when asking for help. You see the reason being is that a lot of times I've asked for help :in the past: and received it BUT then the person wanted something in return. Sometimes, I couldn't cater to...
    thanatophobic thanatophobic 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2009

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    I Help Other When I Need Help Myself

    I help all my friends the best I can but the thing is... Im not OK.. Im not very happy and its hard because while balancing their problems i have to balance my sh!t too. I know i shouldnt help other people to but I cant not help my friends when they need help!! But juggling their...
    GuardianAngel9400 GuardianAngel9400 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    More Baby Drama

    WOW what an emotional roller coaster of things today. I had to send an email today that just about broke my heart. I had to tell the Tae Kwon Do studio that I'd have to pull my son out of classes because I just can't afford it. When I enrolled him I was working several...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F Apr 23, 2009

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    I Hate It

    I either ask for help and get help and feel very guilty about it. Or I ask for help, don't get help and feel very very ashamed. Seems like when I do screw up my nerve, something bad happens. I just can't do it right. so i gave up on it. I hate being in a place where I even have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 26, 2013

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    Why can't I just let him help me?

    Sometimes when I feel this horrible I just push him away and I don't want to. I want him to be here with me and I don't know how to ask for help because I've dealt with everything alone for so long. I don't want to trap him or make him feel obligated to deal with me at my worst...
    Bandgeek1025 Bandgeek1025 13-15, F Dec 29, 2013

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    I Am In No Compitition

    I am in no competition with no one. I run my own race. I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone, in anyway shape or form. I just aim to improve to be better than I was before.
    emadesam emadesam 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 5, 2013

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    But I need it tonight ,

    as I try to sleep but feel my tears flowing...I miss him so much. I am so sad and broken tonight. I don't wish it never happened. I just wish the hurt would stop. I wish I could live with happiness. I just want to turn the page. I never thought I would be this person.
    goodnightangel goodnightangel 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    This Is Where..

    This is where my independence comes into play.  I like ot figure things out on my own.  That is what I know will truly push myself to utilize my mind and my brain.  So I truly hate asking for help.  But the other part of it is this, "I don't think I know how...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 30, 2010

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    ChillyWilly82 ChillyWilly82 31-35, M Mar 27

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    I don't exactly dislike everyone; I just don't like most people. I don't expect most people to like me either.
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    I don't care if you don't like me...I don't even like you too so stop minding my business and get a life of your own.
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    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    GeekyLittleThing GeekyLittleThing 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    baseCharlie baseCharlie 18-21, M Mar 27

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    It's not that I don't like him... It's i fricken hate politics.
    Awesome5790 Awesome5790 13-15, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I feel the same way I think they don't like me because of my race what's your reason
    beingamermaidismydream beingamermaidismydream 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    I love her she is my mum but she is a horrible one she has been in and out of prison abusive and thinks I need to respect her even when it hurts me. I don't like her as a human...
    Mybiscuits Mybiscuits 16-17, F Apr 1

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    OMG THIS SO MUCH. Idk maybe I'm just self-conscious or smth???? Idk but I don't like being touched by strangers. Especially when we sit in the hall & my knees touch another person...
    ELSAhugsyou ELSAhugsyou 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    I don't like to be drunk. It's the worst feeling ever
    LucyPerez LucyPerez 36-40, F 4 days ago

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    It's not in a 'i'm too good for people' kind of way, its just that i don't feel any connections to them. I don't like relationships that are entirely based on small talk and i hate...
    grungehippy grungehippy 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    TheSouless TheSouless 16-17, M 1 day ago

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    I don't like people who make fun of anyone. Like, shut up. That's so hateful.
    lifelesswine lifelesswine 13-15, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    No direct experience it is just a principle that I feel strongly about. Don't threaten someone just make it happen. Perhaps this is a bad attitude from growing up in NY but...
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    When I ask for help, I always feel like it's admitting that I'm stupid, yes I score high on the standardized tests and have a high IQ but I still hate it when I don't get things...
    EmoGirl286 EmoGirl286 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    It was at my 1st year of secondary education. I was nervous for I know nothing about the new school I'm in. Then all of the new student get to stay in gymnasium for some...
    Jayvee16 Jayvee16 31-35, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I don't know why anyone would come to me for advice, I'm so screwed up, I'm the one who needs help...
    Natie Natie 18-21, F Mar 20

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    ellissia ellissia 26-30, F Mar 27

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    ballen0420 ballen0420 36-40, M Apr 2

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    karmadarling77 karmadarling77 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    My mum and I have never really got along but when my mum and dad where together it was normal arguments and things.. However since my mum and dad split up (dads fault) I haven't...
    axxd axxd 16-17, F Apr 2

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    I don't goodbyes because that means you're going to leave me alone. Goodbye means you want to go separate ways from me… Don't say goodbye but instead say "See you next time...
    SecretsNeverHidden SecretsNeverHidden 22-25, F Mar 23

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    I don't look upon anybody as a friend or lover or as anything involving emotional commitment and emotional gambling. I have no more friends. I have allies. They get me what I need...
    sorrowfulmind sorrowfulmind 18-21, M Mar 24

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    I don't care what other people say about me
    jdx007jax jdx007jax 13-15, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    michellehines33 michellehines33 18-21, F Apr 7

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