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I Don't Like Asking For Help

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    But I need it tonight ,

    as I try to sleep but feel my tears flowing...I miss him so much. I am so sad and broken tonight. I don't wish it never happened. I just wish the hurt would stop. I wish I could live with happiness. I just want to turn the page. I never thought I would be this person.
    goodnightangel goodnightangel 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    I Don't Like To Ask For Help

    Although I don't like to ask for help, If I think I really need help I will ask for help.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 Jan 15, 2012

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    I Hate It

    I either ask for help and get help and feel very guilty about it. Or I ask for help, don't get help and feel very very ashamed. Seems like when I do screw up my nerve, something bad happens. I just can't do it right. so i gave up on it. I hate being in a place where I even have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 26, 2013

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    Scared To

    I guess for me asking for anyone to help me is a weakness.. I am scared that if I tell someone that I need help that they will see it as a sign of weakness. I don't want to be seen as a needy person..
    kthimm12 kthimm12 18-21, F Apr 19, 2011

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    I Hate It

    i would rather take double the time and figure it out by myself than ask someone for help. recently i have been asking for help to certain people with life situations and it has helped so much lol so i guess asking for help can be beneficial sometimes.
    boby6 boby6 22-25, M Aug 8, 2009

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    Why can't I just let him help me?

    Sometimes when I feel this horrible I just push him away and I don't want to. I want him to be here with me and I don't know how to ask for help because I've dealt with everything alone for so long. I don't want to trap him or make him feel obligated to deal with me at my worst...
    Bandgeek1025 Bandgeek1025 16-17, F Dec 29, 2013

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    I Don't....

    I do not like asking for help, No matter what it is for. My Left arm, could be falling off, and I would still say "im fine" or "no, i'll be okay" its just my personalitly. I have always been told, that if I ask for help, that I am weak, and I guess, that is something that has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2010

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    I Am In No Compitition

    I am in no competition with no one. I run my own race. I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone, in anyway shape or form. I just aim to improve to be better than I was before.
    emadesam emadesam 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 5, 2013

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    I Help Other When I Need Help Myself

    I help all my friends the best I can but the thing is... Im not OK.. Im not very happy and its hard because while balancing their problems i have to balance my sh!t too. I know i shouldnt help other people to but I cant not help my friends when they need help!! But juggling their...
    GuardianAngel9400 GuardianAngel9400 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    More Baby Drama

    WOW what an emotional roller coaster of things today. I had to send an email today that just about broke my heart. I had to tell the Tae Kwon Do studio that I'd have to pull my son out of classes because I just can't afford it. When I enrolled him I was working several...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F Apr 23, 2009

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    Hate It!

    I didn't get help from my parents when I had questions as a kid, I had to figure things out for myself. Help with homework? Yeah, right. When I became an adult I found I had a hard time asking for help in any area of my life which still holds true today. I'm...
    zillaron zillaron 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    Due to my independent nature it's difficult

    for me to reach out for help. I found out that you have to depend on yourself, because people with good intentions tend to not want to really help when it comes down to it. I like to figure out things on my own, that's how I learn. When people tell me how to do a certain task, I...
    LillyPad80 LillyPad80 41-45, F Jul 14

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    I've been independent

    for so long and it bothers me to have to ask for help. But people encourage me too I try to ask for help when I need it
    WhyDidTheyChooseMe WhyDidTheyChooseMe 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    "figure It Out On Your Own"

    It's not that Im too proud, it's just that my family always admonished me for not knowing something or not being able to do something on my own. When I asked a question the answer I always got back was "Figure it out " or "You're always on the internet so look it...
    Lostsoul22 Lostsoul22 22-25, F Dec 20, 2009

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    Makes Me Feel Stupid

    I don't like to ask for help unless I absolutely have to. I like to prove to myself and others that I can do something on my own.For example if something is broken I will always try to tinker with it for a while to see if I can repair it. Then if I realize I've tried everything I...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F Aug 12, 2011

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    But now I need it. Just someone to listen I

    guess, I don't really know. I had a moral dilemma two nights ago. A friends cousin hit on me. I absolutely reveled in the attention. But he began to make me feel uncomfortable. He made a move on me and I'm terrified to tell my boyfriend. Like after he propositioned me I...
    thetruthaboutthedollhouse thetruthaboutthedollhouse 26-30, F Jul 2

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    Asking For Help Is the Worst.

    i cant ask for help. i feel as if my problems will effect other people if i tell them about it. i dont wnat to hurt anyone with my own issius. i hate to ahve people worry about me, and i also hate when people love me. i know it sounds weird. but its easier to just not have people...
    broken23 broken23 13-15 2 Responses Apr 23, 2009

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    This Is Where..

    This is where my independence comes into play.  I like ot figure things out on my own.  That is what I know will truly push myself to utilize my mind and my brain.  So I truly hate asking for help.  But the other part of it is this, "I don't think I know how...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 30, 2010

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    My Lips Won't Move To Even Ask For It

    Or my brain won't even consider it. I'm TOO stubborn and most likely prideful when asking for help. You see the reason being is that a lot of times I've asked for help :in the past: and received it BUT then the person wanted something in return. Sometimes, I couldn't cater to...
    thanatophobic thanatophobic 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2009

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    I don't mind if my friends touch me like a hug. But random strangers No. There's this tenth grader and I'm a ninth grader that always touches me he hugs me ,when I'm wearing a...
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    I don't lol. I have done law and philosophy so am used to people being able to argue. A guy who refuses to see that his point could be wrong... or who believes if he just raises...
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