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I Don't Like Being Touched By Strangers

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    Its A Bit Creepy!!

    i dont mind people that i know as friends or family touching me, but there is nothing worse than when im talking to a complete stranger, and they touch me at some point!! i just hate that, it freaks me out!! lol
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 9, 2011

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    Quit Touching Me!

    I do not like to be touched. Even by my friends and family. But at least them I can tolerate most days I hate when people I don't know touch me. My kids were in community theatre this summer and the program leader was a very hugging person. The first time I meant her she was...
    astonehocker astonehocker 26-30 Aug 19, 2012

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    Public Transport

    Every Thursday and Friday I come home on the train from the big city down to my small station. Never fail, no matter WHERE or how early I get on the train, I will instantly be surrounded by sweaty, disgusting people who've all run for the train. And for a bout 3 stops, more...
    ThisIsMediocritiesOldAcc ThisIsMediocritiesOldAcc 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2012

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    Touch Me Not.

    I don't like being touched by strangers. When they offer their hand to shake, I refuse. And I cringe. I get ticked off when someone touches my walker when they pass by on the bus. I don't know what germs are on their hands, or whatever they got is contagious? I tolerate people's...
    noaht43 noaht43 41-45, T Sep 29, 2012

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    Grrrrrr...

    Do not grab my hair and say, "girl, is that weave?" No it's my own hair and stop touching it! I don't even know you! This ****** me off...
    thebookaholic thebookaholic 18-21, F Oct 22, 2013

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    Also My Mom?....

    I hate to be touched by strangers, just because it grosses me out. how do you know where they've been. I'm not that great with touching friends ither, but I've got used to that. the one thing that really bothers me though is when my mom touches me. like when she hugs me and stuff...
    Gleestar Gleestar 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 8, 2012

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    lila5 lila5 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    No Touchy...ok You Can Touch Me

    Sometimes I think I am letting opportune moments slip by because I was too much of a "touching prude." There are people I'd really like to touch in a friendly way. I can't stop hugging my best friend when we are together, I just want to hug her and be near her all day and never...
    Jan 20, 2013

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    It's Ok Once You Get to Know Me

     It's like I'm wrapped in barbed wire and you hug me.  We both find out soon that we don't enjoy it much.  Now, getting to know someone and the barbed wire drops off and disappears and real happy hugging can take place.
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 9 Responses Jan 28, 2009

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    Please Don't

    The one thing that makes me crazy is when people grab my arm when they are talking to me. Especially if i don't know you, I can tolerate it from some of my friends, but a strangers hand on me, no thank you at all!
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 19, 2010

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    Makes My Skin Crawl

    ICK! I live in a happy little bubble where a select few are welcomed. If YOU are not welcomed in, please keep your hands to yourself. Unfortunately I work with all men, and it seems they have to touch everybody to build comraderie. Slaps on the back, touching shoulders...
    sassyg1rl sassyg1rl 36-40, F Jun 24, 2012

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    OMG THIS SO MUCH. Idk maybe I'm just

    self-conscious or smth???? Idk but I don't like being touched by strangers. Especially when we sit in the hall & my knees touch another person's OMG it's quite annoying. Ok I think it's just me.
    ELSAhugsyou ELSAhugsyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    Please Don't Kiss Me!

    I really don't like being touched by strangers.. I have to know you well. But what I really dislike is when you meet someone for the first time and they feel the need to seal their, smiley Hi :) with a kiss!.. Please shake my hand! I offered you my hand.. Don't ignore the hand...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 24, 2012

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    Keep Your Hand's To Yourself.

    When I am meeting sombody for the first time I have no problem shakeing hand's but that is where it stop's. I am a polite person with a simple rule, I dont put my hand's on people and wont allow them to put their hand's on me. I can take alot of verbal abuse and bend with it but...
    Robert1256 Robert1256 51-55, M 6 Responses Jan 9, 2011

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    Or Anyone Really. Just Don't Touch Me.

    I get really uncomfortable when people touch me. Now I don't have a phobia of germs or anything like that. I just don't want to be touched. I've never met anyone that I would allow to touch me. Not even my best friend whom I've known since we were both babies. I just can't take...
    swordsaint swordsaint 22-25, M Aug 25, 2011

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    Strangers Why!?!?!?!?!?

    I hate when strangers touch me so freaking bad, mainly because its always innapropriate touches they give me. Like at church and church events that same old guy always comes out of no where puts his arms around my belly or my waist like why man why. (by the way he is no longer a...
    Sc00tal00 Sc00tal00 18-21, F Jun 8, 2012

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    If You Don't Know My Middle Name...

    .. then seriously, why are your hands on me?   I work in retail. I'm also 5'2". Even though I'm almost 30, customers seem to think I'm much younger--and they often talk to me like I'm a teenager. They also TOUCH me.   Now. If you're tapping my shoulder as you say...
    emilyreallyexists emilyreallyexists 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 29, 2008

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    There's More To It Than That.

    It's not that I don't like to be touched by strangers.. I don't really like to be touched by anyone, unless i initiate the contact. I love to cuddle, but i don't like to feel suffocated. I don't want to be touched by strangers, but its not just strangers. It's everyone except my...
    babylove13 babylove13 18-21, F May 27, 2012

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    WatchOutItsKyle WatchOutItsKyle 16-17, M Feb 11

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    Dislike Being Touched

    I just don't like being touched by strangers and even people that i know.. its just i don't feel comfortable around certain people and people i don't know... i guess its because of the uncomforting feeling or vibe i get from people. Even when i was a child i will pull away from...
    CoolRockerChic CoolRockerChic 22-25, F Apr 8, 2012

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    I Understand 100% About Hands Off!

    I couldn't agree more, I went to a flea market once and I was so happy I found this horror movie I liked I hugged this man, instead of keeping his dirty and filthy hands to himself he proceeded to fondle me on my breast. And this happen...
    MySafeHaven MySafeHaven 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    I loathe being touched.

    When I was pregnant randoms would touch my bump. It fricking riled me. Here's a piece of advice if you aren't the father don't touch the effing bump!!!
    Alphamum Alphamum 26-30, F Apr 3

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    Random Guys

     i barely know will ****** hug me and it ****** me off so bad! i just met you and I dont like being touched. period. even by friends, they have to be pretty damn close to me...so what makes you think you can touch me because you feel like it?! I'm not ****** public property...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2009

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    I Dont Life To Be Touched By Anyone.

    If a stray limb brushed against mine i panic and began to twitch. I rarely leave the house because of this, i can't be hugged and if i shake a hand i feel like slicing it off after. It isn't a germ fear, i'm not exactly sure why this happens but i dislike it.
    aliceXIONU aliceXIONU 18-21, F Aug 1, 2012

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    It's A Great Turn Off .........

    I don't seems to understand people, when they use their hands more then their mouth to talk to me, pull my arm, tucking my sleeves or hitting my shoulder while expressing them selves. It irritates me so much. Specially in flights when passenger sitting next to me lean half over...
    iceheartblues iceheartblues 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    I hate public buses because you're always in

    contact with a stranger and the bus i ride every time i go home is ALWAYS packed and never arrives. Anyway i was standing in the bus and there was a guy about 35-40 years old and he was soo close to me. He rubbed his **** on my butt while we were on the bus. I could feel the...
    seccrett seccrett 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    When I first meet a person,

    man or woman, it is only appropriate that I shake hands with the person and say my goodbyes. I cannot stand it when someone you just met tries to hug you or put their arm around your shoulder because they think you are good friends or something. I mean, I am intimate with...
    MadamSinwell MadamSinwell 18-21, F Feb 4

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    Yup...

    Don't really know anyone who likes being touched by strangers...great way to be pick pocketed!
    Icansee Icansee 18-21, M 9 Responses Dec 28, 2010

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    I Was a Touchy Feely Person Until It Happened to Me.

    Never again will I reach out to a stranger & touch their arm or shoulder, for any reason.  If a stranger touches me for any reason, they will take one look at me and just Know never to again.  I had severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from abuse in the...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 20 Responses Nov 2, 2008

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    Cant Touch This

    if i dont know you on first name basis get your greasy paws off my silky draws lol but seriously guys think cuz im pretty and used tot he attention its okay to just touch me well it isnt its ****** creepy and annoyin n rude. i have had guys touch and SMELL my hair b4 like who the...
    justjoni justjoni 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 11, 2012

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    I Don't Know What It Is....

     I'm very affectionate with my friends and family...Lots of hugs, kisses etc..   But I don't go to nightclubs any more because I hate when people grab me on the dance floor. I flinch if someone I'm just meeting for the first time greats me with a kiss on the cheek...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Sep 23, 2008

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    What Are They Thinking?

    I am an extremely affectionate person and love hugs and lots of touchy feely type stuff with people that I know and like. I grabbed this experience because one thing that really bugged the crap out of me is old news but it still bugs me. What makes total strangers think they...
    HeavenBesideYou HeavenBesideYou 41-45, F 15 Responses Jan 28, 2009

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    I hate being touched by strangers.

    I can handle a handshake if he (or rare cases she) doesn't tighten their grip to show me how strong they are. I hate those people who think after a few min they can huge you and stuff. The worst is when the person I just meet or barely know practically pets me head. It freaks me...
    Cleverbot Cleverbot 13-15, M 2 Responses Feb 11

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    Dude Really?

    So I don't like being touched in general, but for someone I don't even know to touch me it ****** me off. At school there is this one guy who always pats me on the back or punches my arm and I just want to punch him in the face and cuss him out. I don't know his name, have no...
    justexisting89 justexisting89 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    People Assume That Because I Have Big Breasts They Can Just Touch Me

    I have fairly large breasts, and people just assume they can grab them or touch me for no reason. I understand it can be of an awe type of thing were its curiosity but the disrespect that comes along with that curiosity is just crazy. Ive had multiple people men and women go down...
    agonyblue agonyblue 18-21 Aug 21, 2011

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    Creeper.

    i am a very touchy person, but if i dont know you, back off. really, it just makes you look like a creeper. which i would think is never a good thing.  
    gypsysoul gypsysoul 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 28, 2009

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    Sensitive Emf.

    I'm very sensitive to other peoples feelings and the energy field of other people. And because of that in large crowds I'm not comfortable if a strange person touches me i dodge the otherway. I'm just very touchy. doesn't help i'm ticklish as hell.
    draganaeros draganaeros 22-25, M Feb 22, 2013

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    Who would be? It's akward

    and you don't want to say anything to be rude. I've been kissed by this total stranger, well she was a stranger to me but not to my dad. It made me feel weird and of course I wasn't going to be rude and yell at her so my mom told me to stay in my room till they leave. Thank you...
    Hisokara Hisokara 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Crazy Juipsy Dance

    Read it in a dark room, where twenty men drink their drink and spends his free time. Not naked ... worse than naked.On long black hair red rose..black stocking with garters and red slippers with high heels. First I dont dance, but I'm going across the stage to me watch.somebody...
    skyfone464 skyfone464 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2013

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    People Think Because Im Heavily Tattooed They Can Grab My Arm Etc

    I have a full sleeve so people i dont know think they can grab my arm and pull it around to have a good look. I had one person touch my chest! I have a big chest piece but that is no reason what so ever to touch me! Learn some respect people!
    swimorsink swimorsink 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 6, 2011

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    Strangers And My Hair :(

    I have spiral curls and stranger's often follow a compliment by touching it or asking if it's real. I hate it when people touch my hair so much I cut and dye it myself!
    Kaycen Kaycen 26-30, F Jul 5, 2012

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    ~ A Simple Handshake ~

    Well I'm not a big fan of touching like all the people who have joined this group x) I don't like being hugged in particular by anyone. It's just not comfortable for me, doesn't matter if it was a friend, a close relative or a parent. I don't get anxiety attacks or anything, I...
    Mockingbird0 Mockingbird0 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2011

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    Back Off!

    Don't get me wrong...I am a very affectionate person who loves to touch and be touched by people that I love. I think it's a wonderful demonstration of our feelings for each other. That being said, I do not enjoy being in crowded situations where people are packed into small...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 28, 2009

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    I seldom enjoy touch from individuals

    that I know. Let alone a stranger.
    weskeralbert weskeralbert 22-25, M Apr 3

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    Stranger = Anyone I Do Not Know, Like, Or Am Not Comfortable With.

    Disclaimer: If you are someone I am a fan of, you do not fit this bill. I guess you can say I am both extremes. If I know you really well, and am comfortable with you, and I like you, I can be an extremely touchy person. You can expect embracing, play fighting, even weird stuff...
    fungirl21 fungirl21 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    I Found It Strange...

    I don't why...or what is so special about me,but I'm often got touched by strangers.Especially by foreign guys,they might find it pleasant and flirty,but i found it awkward,and I don't know what to do.It happends that they want to touch my butt or my hands.I don't really like to...
    MissAgni MissAgni 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2012

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    No I Don't

    When I was 15, I had a bad experience with that...I haven't really told anyone but my parents and just one friend. It's not really a big deal once you know the whole story, but I was a bit emotionally scarred for a few months... =/I went to a really crowded marketplace with my...
    DarkAngel123 DarkAngel123 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 6, 2011

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    Wowza!

    People are so amazed by my unusual looks that they come up to me and touch me.I can understand their amazement and disbelief, but it is rather annoying. I actually had to cut my hair to discourage strangers from grabbing it (my red hair used to be past my waist, thick and...
    ReDariel ReDariel 18-21, F 1 Response May 7, 2013

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    My Body, Mine.

    I don't like being manhandled by strangers. I am threatened by unsolicited touch and it feels disrespectful, like they don't see me as a person worth taking the time to get to know before reaching another level of intimacy. Does it even occur to them that I might not enjoy it...
    elling245 elling245 36-40, F Oct 21, 2013

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    Gropers Gone Wild

    The damn subway is the absolute worst place to be for that. And too many do it on propose and get away with it. They always use the crowd excuse because were all smashed in the train like sardines!
    Brandi5 Brandi5 26-30, F Nov 7, 2013

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    There's Touching - And Touching!

    I like it when I meet someone, and they reach out and touch my arm while talking to me. It puts me at ease, helps me feel comfortable. I like that sort of touching by strangers .But this was different. I was traveling down the middle of Australia, a 6 week trip from top to...
    Soozles Soozles 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 16, 2010

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    Insecure.

    It's obvious to me at least, that I'm damaged due to my past. I spent all of my childhood feeling like a freak because of my medical condition and it wasn't until my mid 20s that science freed me from my affliction .. But not the memories. 20 years of suffering in silence...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 Aug 5, 2012

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    Never Have Really...

    I don't mind being touched by people I know, so long as it's not inappropriate. But strangers? Someone I just met? Let's just shake hands if you have to touch me. Or, I'm happy doing the DRY European kiss thing. If you happen to be European. Otherwise, it can be a little pervy...
    LMISMinsky LMISMinsky 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 6, 2013

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