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I Don't Like Being Touched By Strangers

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    I Can't Stand It

    I absolutely HATE when someone I don't know touches me. It's one thing If i shake someones hand or we accidentally bump into each other. I just don't like when I'm talking to someone and there in my face, I back up a bit and then they move in closer. Like seriously!? Or when they...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    khewster khewster 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 23, 2014

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    Just my priest and PE teacher were allowed

    that was same for everyone Yeah?
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 28

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    crossimpact44 crossimpact44 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 9, 2014

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    It's funny cause I'm the type of guy

    who talks with his hands and is always hugging on friends, and poking em and stuff and I don't mind when they do the same. But if it's someone I don't know well like: umm dude I don't even know you so please don't touch
    Funnychase66 Funnychase66 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 23

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    Walking up the stairs this morning at school,

    some Senior boy I don't know decided it would be funny for him and his friend to smack my butt since I was waking ahead of them. I hate being disrespected like that, especially by people I don't even know. Like what theeee ****
    babyllove21 babyllove21 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    As a child I was touched by men

    that didn't know each other so I thought I did something to invite them
    Jgraff Jgraff 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    flamedvelvet flamedvelvet 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    I'm still ranting: MY BODY BELONGS TO ME.

    If I don't know you and I'm not hurt or fallen down or anything, don't touch me. I may give you good service at my job. That does NOT make me your BFF. I don't care how judgmental or elitist you think I am...it is MY choice to be touched or not. Whew! Thanks for listening. I'm...
    missbellelettres missbellelettres 41-45, M Feb 19

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    This guy at my acting camp touched my *** then

    started touching my private part he's such a weirdo then he wanted to hook up ew no
    thatonegirl156 thatonegirl156 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    Insecure.

    It's obvious to me at least, that I'm damaged due to my past. I spent all of my childhood feeling like a freak because of my medical condition and it wasn't until my mid 20s that science freed me from my affliction .. But not the memories. 20 years of suffering in silence...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 Aug 5, 2012

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    I don't like anyone touching me,

    period. Say, save for a few selected people.
    AriGALAXY AriGALAXY 13-15, M Apr 10

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    I honestly don't lol.

    When I broke up with my ex I started going out on dates and one of the people I dated thought it was ok to grab my hands and kiss them along with my forehead and my cheek. I had never gone out on a date with a middle eastern guy. I have no idea what their beliefs or customs are...
    Morenita79 Morenita79 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 24, 2014

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    Or messaged by them. Unless of course they can

    do it with a bit of sensitivity, and preferably something interesting to say.
    dontcareforlabels dontcareforlabels 41-45, M Sep 23, 2014

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    If You Don't Know My Middle Name...

    .. then seriously, why are your hands on me?   I work in retail. I'm also 5'2". Even though I'm almost 30, customers seem to think I'm much younger--and they often talk to me like I'm a teenager. They also TOUCH me.   Now. If you're tapping my shoulder as you say...
    emilyreallyexists emilyreallyexists 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 29, 2008

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    Yup...

    Don't really know anyone who likes being touched by strangers...great way to be pick pocketed!
    Icansee Icansee 18-21, M 9 Responses Dec 28, 2010

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    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 22-25, M Sep 24, 2014

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    The only time it bothers me is

    when I'm getting Panda Express, and the people in line behind me are touching me. Idk why but it annoys me so much. All I can think is "can you not? We will all get food"
    Floo64 Floo64 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 23

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    Walk into the club like "what up?

    I have social anxiety and I want to go home..." sorry haha I had to say that! but In all seriousness I hate being touched by people especially strangers. When someone tries to give me a hug I freak out and I'm like " no no 0_0" I honestly don't even know how I cope at concerts...
    LilahWolf LilahWolf 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    recently at a concert,

    a guy purposely touched my waist lower back while I was in the crowd. So I told the people who worked there and they kicked him out. ^.^
    Brookeross521 Brookeross521 13-15 1 Response Jun 17, 2014

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    No touchy! I don't know

    where you have been.
    LoveOverHatred LoveOverHatred 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    I loathe being touched.

    When I was pregnant randoms would touch my bump. It fricking riled me. Here's a piece of advice if you aren't the father don't touch the effing bump!!!
    Alphamum Alphamum 26-30, F Apr 3, 2014

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    OMG THIS SO MUCH. Idk maybe I'm just

    self-conscious or smth???? Idk but I don't like being touched by strangers. Especially when we sit in the hall & my knees touch another person's OMG it's quite annoying. Ok I think it's just me.
    ELSAhugsyou ELSAhugsyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2014

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    I don't mind if my friends touch me like a hug.

    But random strangers No. There's this tenth grader and I'm a ninth grader that always touches me he hugs me ,when I'm wearing a skirt puts his hand under , and tries kissing me. I need to admit he's pretty good looking but I don't even know his name or anything so I just a.slap...
    cchristinaa cchristinaa 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2014

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    I wish that this wasn't the case.

    Because I would love to be able to hug or hold hands or do whatever without going into a full blown panic attack. I don't like to be touched by anyone unless I really really really trust them and it's always awkward when people ask why and I just have to sit and smile and play...
    modernmuse modernmuse 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2014

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    There's More To It Than That.

    It's not that I don't like to be touched by strangers.. I don't really like to be touched by anyone, unless i initiate the contact. I love to cuddle, but i don't like to feel suffocated. I don't want to be touched by strangers, but its not just strangers. It's everyone except my...
    babylove13 babylove13 18-21, F May 27, 2012

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    I mean I don't mind friends

    or family. But random people? No. It just bothers me for some reason.. that's why I always keep a small bottle of germ ex in my pocket haha
    kennyazzerello kennyazzerello 16-17, M Jan 26

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    Back Off!

    Don't get me wrong...I am a very affectionate person who loves to touch and be touched by people that I love. I think it's a wonderful demonstration of our feelings for each other. That being said, I do not enjoy being in crowded situations where people are packed into small...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 28, 2009

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    When I was a kid something bad happened to me

    that involved this man who used to be really touchy.. And I developped this phobia that I am afraid of being touched in anyway by a man who I don't know well. I'm fine with my brother and my friends but anyone else makes me cringe. In the halls at school I dodge everyone in the...
    ZacS9 ZacS9 16-17, M 3 Responses Jan 26

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    Or Anyone Really. Just Don't Touch Me.

    I get really uncomfortable when people touch me. Now I don't have a phobia of germs or anything like that. I just don't want to be touched. I've never met anyone that I would allow to touch me. Not even my best friend whom I've known since we were both babies. I just can't take...
    swordsaint swordsaint 22-25, M Aug 25, 2011

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    I Was a Touchy Feely Person Until It Happened to Me.

    Never again will I reach out to a stranger & touch their arm or shoulder, for any reason.  If a stranger touches me for any reason, they will take one look at me and just Know never to again.  I had severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from abuse in the...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 20 Responses Nov 2, 2008

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    Down random guy touched my boob the other day.

    I slapped him. He tried to get me to go with him. I said no. He said shut up. He finally left me alone when I called over my friends to help me
    xxalicerosexx xxalicerosexx 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    Ugh, just no. Unless I know you

    and where those hands have been, please, get them off me.
    superkitty17 superkitty17 31-35, F Jun 30, 2014

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    I don't like perverts.

    ... Yeah no.
    karinaspain karinaspain 13-15, F Jan 23

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    I don't like being touched in general,

    but strangers push me over the edge. There's just something about it that freaks me out. I only let a few people touch me, and even then it's probably not much. Is that weird?
    fallingintowonderrland fallingintowonderrland 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 7, 2014

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    This reminded me of my father in law.

    I'm not NO CONTACT but I think there are boundaries depending on what sort of relationship you have. He didn't share that policy. When avoidance didn't work, I tried speaking frankly. When that didn't work, he got an elbow to the gut that knocked the wind out of him. The only...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    It's frustrating for me

    because I don't like being touched. At work I have to deal with coworkers bumping into me and standing too close. I just want to wear a big sign that says stay away but I can't do that.
    Dreamerwrite Dreamerwrite 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2014

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    utahwriter utahwriter 41-45, M Jun 7, 2014

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    After a few bad experiences in the past,

    I value my personal space more than I use to. I feel that a stranger is violating someone's personal space when they touch them in an inappropriate manner. And unless they want to be confronted or worse, strangers really need to keep their hands to themselves.
    Cutiepeachpie Cutiepeachpie 18-21, F Mar 19

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    I hate it when I see someone new

    and they touch me, like poke me or something. That's one of my biggest pet peeves
    XodolsWasHere XodolsWasHere 16-17, M Nov 10, 2014

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    Stranger = Anyone I Do Not Know, Like, Or Am Not Comfortable With.

    Disclaimer: If you are someone I am a fan of, you do not fit this bill. I guess you can say I am both extremes. If I know you really well, and am comfortable with you, and I like you, I can be an extremely touchy person. You can expect embracing, play fighting, even weird stuff...
    fungirl21 fungirl21 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    It's A Great Turn Off .........

    I don't seems to understand people, when they use their hands more then their mouth to talk to me, pull my arm, tucking my sleeves or hitting my shoulder while expressing them selves. It irritates me so much. Specially in flights when passenger sitting next to me lean half over...
    iceheartblues iceheartblues 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    I need my space. I work in a gas station part

    time. I have been grabbed, pinched, slapped. I don't react well to uninvited touches. even people I know will get that reaction if I don't see it coming. sneaking up behind me without warning will through me into anxiety.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 24

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    My Body, Mine.

    I don't like being manhandled by strangers. I am threatened by unsolicited touch and it feels disrespectful, like they don't see me as a person worth taking the time to get to know before reaching another level of intimacy. Does it even occur to them that I might not enjoy it...
    elling245 elling245 36-40, F Oct 21, 2013

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    So there's this guy and he was like a *********

    I guess and he started to touch me so I turned around kicked him in the solar plexus and then kicked him in the face while he was on the floor and stopped on his fingers try to break them permanently so that he wouldn't touch anyone else I hate pedophiles I despise them
    LGKolor LGKolor 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 14, 2014

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    It's one of my few fears.

    Being touched is one of the worst things that can happen to me. It feels like I'm being burned, their touch forever stays in my mind. I can always feel them afterwards, it's something I can't erase. That is why I'm so observant, I've learnt to watch and know where people are and...
    GoodAsDeadMasterOfDeath GoodAsDeadMasterOfDeath 18-21, F 1 Response