I Dont Like Burdening People With My Problems

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    Which is why, I think anyways.

    People find me weird, just because I don't like to have others knowing and or trying to solve my problems. They are mine, and I will solve them on my own. I'll stress about them, they will tear me apart but this is my problem. If I have enough trust to tell you about them...
    RandomExistence RandomExistence
    16-17, M
    Oct 4, 2015

    I Have So Many Things I Need To Vent.

    But I hate thinking I'm unloading my problems on someone else and whining. I can't stand thinking I'm a burden to other people, it's just how I am. It's part of my design. Besides, I spent most of my childhood living with my uptight grandparents and they believed that...
    JigsawLo JigsawLo
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Dec 12, 2009

    My mother has been abused by her father

    who then put a debt onto her at 500k that did not belong to her at all, she was over 30 when she got rid of it and 15 when she got it. She has had bulimia, depression, been beaten by boyfriends, raped. And then she got me, a kid with issues. She has been trough enough for many...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 10, 2015

    Meh..

     I have a brain injury with pre-existing bipolar disorder.  The only time I really talk about it, is to my doctors, support group, best friend & husband.  I have tried to talk to other ppl about it, but they always change the subject.  If they don't want...
    nightismycompanion nightismycompanion
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

    I Want To Talk But...

    I hate burdening people with all my problems.. I feel like I'm make them bored.. and I'm scared I get annoying sometimes. I don't know.. Then when I tell people about stuff they start worrying about me. I hate people worrying about me. I don't want anyone to worry over me.. I'm...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 11, 2009

    So Much Sadness

    Why people are too scared to talk to other people: "I don't talk because I believe they would see me as weak. I feel like when people hear that I have problems, they would lose respect for me...Sometimes I feel abnormal and weak for the problems that I have and so I'm too...
    indigowitch indigowitch
    22-25, F
    Feb 10, 2012

    I don't like expressing myself to others

    especially telling them how I feel and the problems i'm facing. I love being around people yet they don't really know me at all. For me telling them my problems means giving them a hint of my life, giving them access to know me and I can't deal with that.
    Alisonrose1 Alisonrose1
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 16

    Still, talking things through is

    such an important matter. Now, there's a balancing act, indeed.
    Akurou Akurou
    31-35, F
    Mar 22, 2014

    Those Who Speak Vs. Those Who Listen.

    I feel it's either the perfect combination or a potential "sado-maso" relationship. Some people tell me I never talk about myself, others tend to compliment my "ability to never worry or complain about anything". Obviously, I'm a listener. I think there are 2 types of listeners...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 8, 2010

    Enough Manure Out There Already

    I always feel like I'm adding to someone's burdens when I talk about my problems.  Like I'm whining and seeking attention.It's probably not all that rational, but it's how I feel.
    Plaid Plaid
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 26, 2011

    Whenever people ask me

    if I'm okay or "What's wrong?" I usually answer with "Nothing" or "Yeah, I'm fine". Why? Because I feel as if people won't understand or they'll call me a baby. I guess that's just me, but I hate talking about my problems. I hate feeling like I'm bothering someone.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 5, 2015

    I met the guy like ten minutes ago

    when he was wondering if I was okay and now I feel like I've known him a long time. He's so sweet and kind and I just really want to thank him.✨✨ Your the best Reece✨✨
    CaitGaeilge CaitGaeilge
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2014

    Beast Of Burden

    No, I don't like burdening people with my problems but I'll take a load of yours off your back.  Sure, it is slowly killing me but as long as my friend has a smile on their face, I'll deal with all the negative energy they pile on me.
    silentwellofsorrow silentwellofsorrow
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 8, 2010

    I Hate Letting People Know My Problems

    well i hate it because they would want to help and somethings they cant help and they dont need to worry about me, they jsut need to worry about their own problems, i dont care if people come to me with their problems becasue i can help them no matter what but, those problems let...
    theshortloud1 theshortloud1
    18-21, F
    Sep 18, 2009

    Lessons

     Have your parents ever told you to be brave, to solve your own problems, and stick up for yourself? I have. I've heard it so many times I truly believed for the longest time that it was the only things my parents cared about in my life. I know better now, that they love me...
    4Daereen 4Daereen
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 2, 2010

    I don't let many people into my life

    and didn't let anyone in until recently. I've kept myself secluded from friendships and even family. I have dealt with my issues by myself for 30 years and that's because of the fear of being hurt or someone seeing who I really am. I don't want to be a burden on anyone. These...
    Jennifer337 Jennifer337
    31-35, T
    2 Responses Jul 9, 2014

    But Sometimes...

    But sometimes people have to learn something from you through you sharing... When that happens and I know that I have acted like a messenger I know I have nothing to feel sorry for, and only have to love my Spirit. One positive thing that comes with "sharing" is learning from...
    indigowitch indigowitch
    22-25, F
    Feb 10, 2012

    Even Though I Need to

    I sometimes feel like I really need to talk to someone because I have so much on my mind. I have even tried going to someone, but felt too afraid to really open up and say all that I am feeling. I'm terrified that they wouldn't want me to, that I would be a burden to them. I don...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jan 12, 2009

    Almost Forgotten How To Express....

     I spent ten years married to a woman who did not know how to respond when I wanted to talk about something that was bothering me. After a while, I just gave up and didn't try to talk about anything any longer. I got tired of trying to teach her how to be an empathetic...
    crypticorganic crypticorganic
    31-35, M
    7 Responses Jan 1, 2010

    I Don't Like To Tell People My Problems

    I don't like telling people my problems because it does not have a reason. If you tell you will maybe have more problems than you already have. And the most people don't care about you or are glad that you have them to be better than you. Even if you think that you can trust you...
    Nolife123 Nolife123
    13-15, M
    1 Response Sep 4, 2012

    I know they have their own situations,

    it makes me feel like crap when I tell them mine
    metalchick18 metalchick18
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 28, 2014

    Who Can You Really Depend On?

    I dont like to tell people my problems because they will think im doing everything for attention.. i hate that most of all.. I cant even go to my best friend when i have a serious problem.. the only reason i tell everyone on here is because im not forcing you to listen.. Yo udont...
    HeartAndWings HeartAndWings
    16-17, F
    Feb 9, 2013

    I Want You To Notice

    When people ask me if I'm okay.. I always say yeah.. but I'm not... I'm always sad and I don't even know why anymore... I geuss I don't want to annoy you with my problems. Its so clear I'm upset but nobody notices... I just don't get it.......
    LilMissInLoveWithHerBestfriend LilMissInLoveWithHerBestfriend
    13-15, F
    Feb 25, 2013

    But I Will Take Anyone Elses...

    I don't like to bring others down with my problems. I don't like others seeing me being weak and crying. I take other peoples problems from them and try to help them. It is easier then letting people take my problems, and sometimes it even helps to cover mine up because they are...
    DeadlyDragon DeadlyDragon
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2010

    Alone

    I like seeing the people I love happy. I know it will make them sad to have to carry my burden so I rather do it alone.
    mysticallyinvisible mysticallyinvisible
    22-25, F
    Mar 19, 2011

    I'm Strong And I'm Getting Better At It

    My problems are exactly that; my problems. I've tried asking for help from other people, but they never seem to understand or they don't listen or they don't help or they're too busy or they don't even realise that I'm trying to ask for help! It's so awkward talking to...
    UnseenBlossom UnseenBlossom
    18-21, F
    Feb 11, 2010

    Burden

    This group is phrased perfectly, because that's how I phrase it in my head. I don't tell people my problems, because I don't want to be a burden. I try to always put other people first, and I tell myself that if I tell them my problems them I'm causing them...
    golddust2009 golddust2009
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2009

    Don't Create More Problems

    I used to burden other people with my problems all the time, but it only created more problems for me since the people turned out to be untrustworthy and not at all sincere. My Grandma once said: "Don't bug other people with your problems, they have their own problems!" Yes, now...
    indigowitch indigowitch
    22-25, F
    Feb 10, 2012

    EP

    I'm really glad I found this site.  I feel better being able to share my problems, stresses feelings here instead of bothering friends all of the time.  I know that they are there whenever I need them, but none of them truly understand what I've been through (losing my...
    sickandtired24 sickandtired24
    26-30, M
    Aug 8, 2009

    At Least Not In Person...

    In person, I usually can muster some degree of "normalcy" and appear to have it together. I prefer not to talk about any problems with anyone for fear of alienating them. Here is a different story, but only so much. Here I've been able to unload and vent a lifetimes worth of...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest
    22-25, M
    Feb 7, 2010

    I never, ever complain

    and I'm the girl that's constantly laughing and smiling. For some reason, I feel like people will judge me or call me dramatic if I get upset about something. I was upset once last year and I avoided all contact just so I wouldn't seem to complain, and even when I did talk about...
    xxChristina xxChristina
    13-15, F
    1 Response Oct 4, 2015

    Whenever I think about talking to someone about

    how I feel or problems I am going through I can't help but think what right do I have bringing my problems onto people who are probably going through things themselves. I don't want the people in my life to worry about me because I don't think I'm worth it. I don't want to be a...
    HuddersfieldGirl18 HuddersfieldGirl18
    18-21, F
    Jun 19, 2015

    Burden

    I never burden people with my problems then I came here.  And I realized that instead of burdening people with all of my issues I am dealing with...........just writing them out, re reading them and getting comments actually helped me deal with them and grow with...
    tatteredwings tatteredwings
    36-40
    1 Response Jun 30, 2009

    So...

    STOP ASKING ME ABOUT MY PROBLEMS! There's a reason I don't talk to you, and when you do ask me about my problems, you'll probably get 25% of the story.
    girlanonymous girlanonymous
    18-21, F
    Jan 6, 2011

    I belongs to a Society.

    . which have some bad rules i really hate.. x.x
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 4, 2015

    No Matter What....

    It doesn't matter how bad things get, I don't like to burden other people with my problems. Things could be really bad for me, and I still won't talk to anyone. I just keep to myself and don't say anything. I feel like other people I know have a lot bigger problems than I do...
    lizzieprincess1 lizzieprincess1
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 12, 2009

    I solve my own problems.

    No one can't take my pain away but me so I don't ask for advice or need it but I appreciate it. I'm a good advice giver to myself and others
    ADeepPerspective ADeepPerspective
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2013

    It's Verified

     so finally after 2 years of a brain injury and severe depression, I texted my mom and sister to let them know how I am doing and how far I have come with my injury.  My mom texted back "sorry, i'm talking to your sister on FB, will text you later." and my sister texted...
    nightismycompanion nightismycompanion
    26-30, F
    Jan 24, 2010

    idk why I can't say anything,

    always say nothing's wrong, even though I'm going friggin nuts. I wanna say what's bothering me but then I feel like my problems are my own fault and why should I complain, I mean people got it waaaay worse and why should I pile onto their **** with my drama
    foolishwiseguy foolishwiseguy
    26-30, M
    1 Response Nov 28, 2015
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