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I Don't Like to Be Touched By Strangers and Anybody But a Few

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    Hands Off

    I've never liked being touched.  People have often taken me for rude, stuck up or cold because of it.  Why do people think it's within their right to touch me, hug me, or rub my arm (the worst of them)?  Then when I pull or shy away, I'm the one who's being rude...
    carfluffy carfluffy 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 14, 2009

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    STAY Out of My Territorial Bubble!!

    I've always shied away from being touched by people I don't know very well. It's not a product of abuse or anything. It's just a defensive reflex for me to be very aware when someone enters my territorial bubble. My bubble is a 3-foot psychic zone around my body that is mine...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 27, 2008

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    Invasion

    I hate being touched when I don't know people well, and like them. I hate people who don't know you and think they're gonna be friendly putting a hand on your arm, when all they want is tame you for control. I feel it as a disgusting hypocrite invasion of my space. It's not a due...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 14, 2008

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    Keep Your Hands To Yourself!

    Besides my loved ones, I will react physically (and not in a good way, plus it will hurt) if a strangers tries to touch me. There is no law in the United States that gives anyone the right to molest me.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Feb 5, 2012

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    Need Help With This Silly Fear

    When people touch me, my first reaction is to flinch... Step back and prepare to fight... Not the way most people react to being touched, but it's the product of the things that happened between my mother and I. Now that I'm older though, I really wish I could get these feelings...
    bommer537 bommer537 18-21, M May 25, 2012

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    Don't Touch Me

    I don't like being touched. I think it's mostly because of the sensation. I never liked touching things. I still wont use moose or gel on my hair because I don't like how it feels. When I was little I was very sensitive. I still don't like touching my hair when it's wet but I'll...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F Oct 14, 2011

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    Crossing The Line

    I've never been a touchy feely person. I don't hug my parents...ever. They know how I am and know I love them, so they're cool with it. I hug my grandparents because I feel obligated, I hug my Aunt because she likes to torture me ad it's easier to just give in, and I hug whoever...
    FiveByFive303 FiveByFive303 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2011

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    Use Your Words

    C'mon now man, use your words to talk to me, not your hands okay. The constant grabbing of my arm, or putting your hands on me while you tell a story just bugs me. I just can't handle all the energy I pick up from other peoples touch. Unless I can take a second and prepare...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 23, 2010

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    It Just Creeps Me Out..

    I don't like people to touch me at all until they've come into an "accepted circle" within my mind. Then, I really don't mind at all. I'm very touchy with girlfriends, love to hold them, be held, massage, kiss .. But it really makes me cranky when some stranger does so much as...
    orledyn orledyn 22-25 Nov 11, 2010

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    Look But Don't Touch

    I just don't like being touched, period.  Snuggling on the couch during a movie is fine, but I hate girls who have to touch me 24/7 like they think I'll disappear or something.  Well, My best friend knows I don't like that stuff, and I was recently at his bachelor...
    SpiritualFighter SpiritualFighter 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    I'm A Bit Of A Hypocrite.

    I'm very much a touchy-feely kind of person. Be it objects or other people. But I HATE being touched by others. I don't know why it irks me so much. Sure, I don't mind at all if it's a friend. They're a friend after all, and know how and who I am. But if it's a friendly...
    lawlomuffins lawlomuffins 16-17 Jul 20, 2010

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    I Can't Even Hug My Parents Properly...

    I can't, I truly cannot. People always hold me tighter and longer because I don't give them "real hugs". It never works and they just end up creating a longer awkward situation. It's not that I'm trying to be rude, I just can't stand it and the longer they hold me there the worse...
    ashleyxxpiano ashleyxxpiano 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2010

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    Only One Person Can

    I dont like to hug, even family members.it makes me feel awkward. Though I love to hold hands and to be very effectionate with my love. Handshakes are just fine, but even a slight touch on my shoulder or hand makes me flinch.
    25596588995Slush 25596588995Slush 36-40 1 Response Nov 21, 2012

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    Dont Like to Be Touched

    Seriously. Don't touch me, or I will kill you with my bare hands. Loffles. I don't wanna be touched. I will get angry.
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 10, 2009

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    I Don't Like To Be Touched

    Hi. I realised relatively recently that I don't like to be touched. It is probably a large part of why I don't like sex, which is a different problem. I like hugs from my partner and our daughter, but I don't even really like hugging my own mum. When I was pregnant, my partner's...
    darkhorsespirit darkhorsespirit 46-50 1 Response Dec 10, 2010

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    No Touchies!

    Strangers putting their hands on me to any degree has always bothered me.  I am such a don't-touch-me person!  I especially hate hugs and shoulder rubs from people that I either do not know or do not consider close.  I didn't even hug my best friend until I'd known...
    Zaipher Zaipher 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 4, 2008

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    Cruelty

    i'm not afraid of being touched by anyone except authority figures being restrained and not being able commit the right to defend myself really makes me feel terrible it's not like i'm robbing some one or hurting anyone i'm just smoking a joint they really go all out on us...
    aritocrate aritocrate 18-21 Nov 10, 2010

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    Strange People Stay Away

    I have this invisible bubble around me that I only want certain people to pass through. Some people pass through it and when they touch me I feel most uncomfortable. I think this is normal. I've become a bit more lenient with who I let into my bubble, only because for some...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response May 12, 2013

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    Pulling Away

    I am not as averse to touch as some of the people in this group likely are, but it still makes me pretty uncomfortable. I don’t like men to touch me. It’s an invasion. I only like it, if I’m the one who starts it, and I never start it without feeling comfortable. It’s not...
    TheManEater TheManEater 22-25, F Sep 25, 2011

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    Another Not So Different Version Of The Story

    I've always been extremely introverted. I'm not nearly as much now as I used to be when I was younger, or little, mainly because I've been forced to have to deal with more social situations through school, college, and work settings. I'm still never entirely comfortable in any...
    cloudspoken cloudspoken 26-30, F Feb 8, 2010

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    AshCakes AshCakes 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 21

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    Okay so my in laws and I don't get along! They are sneaky, deceptive, fake, and the list could go on and on One example out of many is when I was in the hospital having my...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    I hate the image and cage engraved by the ppl who don't like me. I don't like them either but I don't spread my opinions about them. just because my individual experience with them...
    TheAnonymous99 TheAnonymous99 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 24

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    I really don't like how they portray gay people in the media as these really flamboyant and fashion savvy men with heavy lisps and these butch lesbians with short hair, deep voices...
    SylverCoyote SylverCoyote 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 29

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    I really don't care. I accepted way back that not everyone is going to like me. Sure it may have bothered me a time or two. Now What bothers me is people who pretend to like me but...
    lake1107 lake1107 31-35, F Nov 29

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    I literally met this guy on this app and he chatted me first. At first it was okay until he started being mean. He mad me feel terrible on the inside and I just wanted to meet new...
    quarioj quarioj 16-17, M 3 Responses Dec 1

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    some of my old ex women I don't like running into they as lost it in the head
    marvel901jones marvel901jones 41-45, M Nov 19

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    I don't like wearing bikinis because of my stretch marks being on my butt cheeks and lower back. It's Embarrassing. I wouldn't even go skinny dipping with friends. If I do put on a...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F Nov 21

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    I am who i am, unless your close to me i could care less if you don't like me. Everybody can't like everybody. That would just be boring
    TheWickedJester TheWickedJester 26-30, M Nov 23

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    Seriously though, grow up. what are we 5? Im not even gay and i don't like it. People do stuff. Get over it
    TheWickedJester TheWickedJester 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 23

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    I don't like it because I hate silent moments when I said what I needed to say and want to hang up but you still want to stay on the phone. Rather text, so I could reply when I see...
    samsdname samsdname 18-21, F Nov 25

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    I don't like labels. Why so we have to label everything? I don't know care if you're gay, straight, bisexual, transgender etc. if that's who you are, I totally and utterly respect...
    trappedgirl17 trappedgirl17 16-17, F Nov 28

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    I hate wearing skirts ever since my step dad started touching me so no I don't like them
    cattie1283 cattie1283 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 8

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    They don't like me because I'm getting in the way of their beloved future med school graduate.
    twelves twelves 22-25 6 days ago

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    Last night, I was knackered because of the work. So I hit the bed just to relax. The time was 19:30 hours, at that moment, if I am not wrong and the next thing I know is, I was...
    M3MC M3MC 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    We ain't cool. I'm not your babe, hun, sweetie, cutie, honey, pop tart, sugar plum fairy. Whatever! I don't know you like that ma'am/sir.
    bombchu bombchu 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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    DON'T CALL ME BABE OR BABY OR HUN. I AM 16 YEARS OLD. I AM UNDER AGE!!!!! Creepers go away
    RedMeansGo RedMeansGo 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    I don't know how I'm going to react if that were to ever happen- you know running into my ex. I'm relieved in a way that that's not going to happen anytime soon because he lives in...
    ira01 ira01 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 18

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    I just feel really awkward when it happens. I've ran into a few people & it's been an alright experience I've said hi or hey, throw a smile...if it's an old high school friend...
    Isayis23 Isayis23 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 19

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    AM I A SCROOGE? Christmas for me has become, in the passed few years a major downer. It's not that I think that Christmas is stupid, I just can't seem to enjoy it anymore. When...
    mrbill349 mrbill349 66-70, M 3 days ago

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    Good byes have always been difficult right since i was a kid. My Dad had a transferable job so every 2-3 yrs i would have to leave my school, friends, house, neighbourhood behind...
    zunie zunie 22-25, F Dec 8

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    I don't really like going to Funerals at all, my uncle died a few days ago, my mom called me around 4am one day and told me about my uncle, I wasn't really broke up about it, but i...
    jennymomof3 jennymomof3 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Its really hard when you've lived with a parent who is so against people who are gay and you are completely for it. You don't want to cause problems so you don't disagree with them...
    Lai96 Lai96 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    I am a 21 year old college student. I have a narcissistic personality disorder, but am seeing a counselor and dealing with it day to day.My family has supported me my entire life...
    Anon0ne Anon0ne 18-21, M Nov 27

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