I Don't Like to Depend On Others

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    Flakey People

    I was raised to be self sufficient so it's no big deal, however, it seems a lot of times I start relying on someone and they flake out on me for one reason or another.  If it involves getting something done for my job and I'm supposed to work with someone else, I'm starting...
    Morgause Morgause
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 8, 2008

    In Fact, I Hate To Have To Depend On Others.

    Now I suspect that I may have some issues with ego. Having to need people to help me makes me feel helpless and inferior. Even having my parents helping me fork out money as a teenager made me uneasy. And I do admit that it's near impossible to do anything significant without...
    FlankingMan FlankingMan
    22-25, M
    1 Response Feb 27, 2010

    Dont Like to Be Dependent.._x

    i like to be independent, the idea of depending on someone els scares me. i couldnt do it, not entriely. i have to do things for my self i have to have control of  my own life, someone controled me before and i didnt like it one bit..
    FromTheHeartOfaWoman FromTheHeartOfaWoman
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Mar 3, 2008

    Or Should I Say "i Hate To Depend On Others"

    I've always been self-sufficient, even when I was a little girl. My parents could leave me all by myself playing in the living room and do their own stuff and I didn't really need their attention. I could always find something to do and could manage on my own. Same is now. ...
    SunnySmile SunnySmile
    31-35, F
    Jul 10, 2010


    I think one of the main reasons for this is that I had to depend on my mom for everything for such a long time. She did everything for me. I didn't have a car in high school, so she drove me around all the time. I seldom ate out or cooked, but she cooked for me. For the...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan
    22-25, M
    6 Responses Oct 11, 2007

    Is It Bad To Be Too Independant?

    I really have a feeling of not bothering others and not being bothered. Sometimes, it's just a small stuff, still I don't want anybody to be bothered. But as seen, it seems that I am misbehaving. often, I want to change this bad behavior, anyone help please. Best regard.
    daratep daratep
    18-21, M
    Nov 8, 2012

    The Golden Rule: Whoever Makes the Money - Makes the Rules

    Two years ago i got married. I really wanted to go to law school and we decided, what the heck right, why not apply. So i got a full scholarship AND a living stipend. SWEET lets go my husband says. Except now i am NOT working so i dont bring in any money and the tanking...
    mustIlikeeveryone mustIlikeeveryone
    3 Responses Apr 14, 2009

    I Help Myself

    I had to join this group...I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but I have always taken care of myself (and others). That is just how it's been for me. My husband had good intentions but got sick and I took care of him for the last 4 years of his life..**** happens. I think...
    Debra27 Debra27
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 12, 2009

    It's What My Mom Told Me

    My mom was completely depending on my dad and he left. So she was nothing. Now she is a strong, independant, caring, realistic woman. And she taught me to be completely independant at all times. It doesn't mean I want to be alone and lonely for the rest of my life, but I need...
    rocker6346 rocker6346
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jun 15, 2008

    Its Just Not "Me"

    I don't like to depend on others, because I don't want to feel weak, or like I can't handle things on my own. I don't like having to count on someone else, to keep me from falling down hard, and crashing. I like being independant and not having to relay on someone else, to...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 27, 2009

    I don't tend to depend on people.

    There is only one person that earned my dependance. She's my best friend. It's not easy to get this, it takes years of trust and sheltering a deep connection. It's hard and generally people need me before I need them. Which hurts them (obviously) then they usually distance...
    Twichl Twichl
    18-21, F
    Sep 22, 2014

    But I Do Anyways...

    Usually, I'm the leader of a group, whether it's for work or just for planning a night out. I'd rather know what I'm going to be doing by myself than having to worry about another person and if they're capable of keeping up with me or if I'm the one that has to keep up with them...
    stripesANDsunshine stripesANDsunshine
    18-21, F
    Apr 20, 2009

    Simple truth is, if you rely on others,

    they'll always let you down when you need them most!
    picklebobble picklebobble
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2014

    I'm accustomed to being alone

    and doing things without any company. I guess that's why I don't want to depend on other people 'cause I prefer doing things on my own. But it's quite ironic cuz I'd feel lonely sometimes but other times I'd suddenly shut down everyone and just want to be all alone. I don't even...
    possiblyali possiblyali
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 6, 2014

    I know as a musician,

    one needs to collaborate a lot but I always have my own creative vision. I don't mind projects that are collaborative by nature but I hate having to rehearse my own original music with others especially in the studio setting! It never comes out exactly as I envisioned...
    violincaster violincaster
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 18

    Low Stress

    I don't like to depend on others when it is something that I could do myself.  My good friend commented the other day that I always drive when we go out.  I do always drive, because I like to be in control.  I don't like to ask people to do things.  I plan...
    Krypton Krypton
    31-35, F
    Dec 3, 2008

    I Like to Have Things Get Done Right

    I like other people and I am really happy that I am good friends with almost all of my co-workers. Once I am well trained in a certain area at work I like for me to get it done because I am pretty sure I will get it done right the first time. I have had so many problems with some...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 28, 2009

    Give and Take

    I have a hard time letting people do things for me.  I don't want to bother them or put them out of their way.  I like handling my own but that isn't always healthy and its been pointed out that its good to allow people the opportunity to do things for you it makes the...
    ichooselife ichooselife
    36-40, F
    May 23, 2009

    Tired of Being Dependant On B/f For Money.

    I need to so badly be independent and not depend on my b/f for money and everything else. I lost my job in August due to my store xlosing. Before that I had a sence of power, now I feel like I have to bow down to him just to get a buck. I am at the end of my rope with this guy...
    leasafb leasafb
    51-55, F
    Oct 10, 2008

    I Hate Working In Groups

     I HATE WORKING IN GROUPS!!!! I just can't depend on people sometimes. I hate depending on people. I want it to be done right, done well. And sometimes, some people just don't get it!!! I have all these ideas in my head, but with a group, I...
    BrownEyedMystery BrownEyedMystery
    1 Response Mar 29, 2009

    You Can't Depend On People.

    For taking me places, getting me things, giving me money..ect. It's really aggravating because half of the time the people who I'm depending on mess up or can't do it. It's bullshit. I would happily do whatever it is I need to do if I could because I'm super independent. But...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll
    18-21, F
    Jan 30, 2012

    I've Been Dependent My Whole Life

    It started when i was young . I was diagnosed with Epilepsy and they told me from an early age  that i would never be able to drive . I wasnt ever able to keep my checking account in a good status ... and for the past two yrs ive been completely dependent on my parents for...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme
    26-30, F
    Jan 25, 2008

    Dont Need You At All...

    They say "No man is an Island".... what a bunch of horsesh*t. I hate depending on others for things. Because they will always let me down and wont do it right. Yes then ENTJ in me requires things to be MY way. So rather than depend on a bunch of imcompetents who dont...
    Silver01ta Silver01ta
    31-35, M
    2 Responses May 13, 2008

    Grrrrrrrr! Waiting on people to do something

    they promised to do. If you don't want to do it just say so and I have more time to request it from someone else!! Xrap!!
    peoplesHere peoplesHere
    26-30, F
    Jul 18, 2014

    So tonight's conversation didn't go to plan.

    Leaving my home, marriage life as I knew it was the hardest thing ever with my kids it tow. I've had lots of feelings and emotions to deal with one is depending on someone. Yes I have bonded with another I have even fell in love but I refuse to depend on him. He's different...
    myownbox myownbox
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 25, 2015

    The Independent ...

    I had been depended on my lovers, parents, and everyone for all of my life. From now on, Im gonna start a new track of my life. I just graduated bachelor and now looking for the right job. I need to support myself and even wanna support my parents since they have looked after...
    DollyDiva DollyDiva
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 27, 2010

    Do you know what it's like,

    to actually need someone? -Dr. Gregory House
    Anonymousboy777 Anonymousboy777
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 15, 2014

    I really don't like depending on others,

    I really don't, but I don't like doing things on my own so I depend on the company of others.
    Typingkeyboard Typingkeyboard
    18-21, M
    Mar 11


    its ******* annoying it makes me feel like im weak and little!!!
    deleted deleted
    Jun 8, 2011

    I discovered not long ago

    that I hold an incredibly blatant double standard. When my friends ask me for a favour - to borrow a calculator of mine, perhaps - I do the favour, and when it's all over and done with I think nothing of it. Nobody's perfect, right? They needed a bit of help for once, and I was...
    LittleClouds LittleClouds
    18-21, F
    Jan 12, 2014

    I depend only on me. I can't get disappointed

    with other people if I only depend on me. sure they can depend on me and we will seem like really close friends but they really have no idea what's going on. everyone leaves eventually so why bother depending on them
    Forevertired23 Forevertired23
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 10

    I'm fine if somebody depends on me

    but once it's my turn, let just say I'm really stubborn. I'm used to doing everything on my own. I used to think it was weak to ask for help. I still kinda do. Idk heh
    Nmetb Nmetb
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Nov 18, 2015

    Why Can't You Do It Yourself??

    Why have someone help if there's a way to do it myself solo?  Involving other people in things ALWAYS calls for chaos and confusion and complaining and I have enough of that crap working alone!  Most people are unreliable and do not follow through with what they...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 7, 2009

    I don't depend on friends

    because they come and go. Belief in myself is what is going to carry me through.
    EmiTru EmiTru
    18-21, F
    Aug 5, 2014

    You Dont Get Nothing For Nothing

    I don't like to depend on others. Too many people offer help and ultimately they will be looking for something back in return. People have forgotten the meaning of charity and therefore i don't like to depend on anyone but myself. Others can depend on me as i do things for the...
    thehippy thehippy
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Apr 19, 2009

    I Don't

    like to depend on others. Been more independent than I should have been, however; I'm learning interdependence.
    zeeva70 zeeva70
    41-45, F
    Oct 29, 2013

    But I Do

    And sometimes it's really good, when I see they don't mind helping me out. Feels like life is not that bad after all.
    LordVoldemort LordVoldemort
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 3, 2009

    I don't even know how to,

    been on my own so long, wouldn't change that bit
    faerieoglen faerieoglen
    36-40, F
    Nov 29, 2015

    Don't depend too much on anyone in this world,

    because even your own shadow leaves you when you are in darkness.
    ConcealedWildheart ConcealedWildheart
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2014

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    TheMoonIsFallingDown TheMoonIsFallingDown
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    Apr 21
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    1 Response Apr 21
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    deleted deleted
    Apr 21
    This page has been a resource of support when I felt like the whole world would be against me. I am very sad to see you go entertainment project.
    v0lition v0lition
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    Apr 20
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    Apr 20
    Last day for EP. It was nice talking to most of you
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    1 Response Apr 20
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    Daddysgirllll Daddysgirllll
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    1 Response Apr 20
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    9minute 9minute
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 20
    But here it is: goodbye EP world. It's been nice knowing you
    deleted deleted
    Apr 20
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    hazaramujahideen hazaramujahideen
    70+, F
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    SparkofDecency SparkofDecency
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 19
    So this is the end, and the experiences we've shared I'll remember and be grateful for. To though they met in the past, and those in my present thank you for all of your...
    deleted deleted
    Apr 19
    I'll say my goodbyes now instead of later. The good things in life never last forever and that's what makes them precious. Adios.
    jeanzie jeanzie
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 19
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