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I Don't Like to Depend On Others

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    I don't like to depend on others when it is something that I could do myself.  My good friend commented the other day that I always drive when we go out.  I do always drive, because I like to be in control.  I don't like to ask people to do things.  I plan...
    Krypton Krypton 31-35, F Dec 3, 2008

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    Dont Need You At All...

    They say "No man is an Island".... what a bunch of horsesh*t. I hate depending on others for things. Because they will always let me down and wont do it right. Yes then ENTJ in me requires things to be MY way. So rather than depend on a bunch of imcompetents who dont...
    Silver01ta Silver01ta 26-30, M 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    I discovered not long ago

    that I hold an incredibly blatant double standard. When my friends ask me for a favour - to borrow a calculator of mine, perhaps - I do the favour, and when it's all over and done with I think nothing of it. Nobody's perfect, right? They needed a bit of help for once, and I was...
    LittleClouds LittleClouds 18-21, F Jan 12

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    Do you know what it's like,

    to actually need someone? -Dr. Gregory House
    Anonymousboy777 Anonymousboy777 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 15

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    But I Do

    And sometimes it's really good, when I see they don't mind helping me out. Feels like life is not that bad after all.
    LordVoldemort LordVoldemort 36-40, F 2 Responses May 3, 2009

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    Ironically, So Unlike Me

    Ironically, when I am in some form of trouble and can't get out, first alternate solution that pops into my head is asking for help assistance from my family and close friends. But that is the exception. I will ask others for assistance if needed, but it strikes me the worst...
    naranja naranja 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 24, 2009

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    Flakey People

    I was raised to be self sufficient so it's no big deal, however, it seems a lot of times I start relying on someone and they flake out on me for one reason or another.  If it involves getting something done for my job and I'm supposed to work with someone else, I'm starting...
    Morgause Morgause 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2008

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    The Golden Rule: Whoever Makes the Money - Makes the Rules

    Two years ago i got married. I really wanted to go to law school and we decided, what the heck right, why not apply. So i got a full scholarship AND a living stipend. SWEET lets go my husband says. Except now i am NOT working so i dont bring in any money and the tanking...
    mustIlikeeveryone mustIlikeeveryone 26-30 3 Responses Apr 14, 2009

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    Forgotten Pencil

    I've always felt good in being self-sufficient and independent. Way back when, when I was in elementary and junior high school, I would turn totally red if I forgot my pencil. If I did, I needed to borrow someone else's. I hated doing that. For starters, I do not have very good...
    rustyguy rustyguy 18-21, M Sep 3, 2008

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    I Don't

    like to depend on others. Been more independent than I should have been, however; I'm learning interdependence.
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Oct 29, 2013

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    Such a Bummer......

    I don't like to depend on others because they will let you down and it can make you depend on yourself less!
    lady44 lady44 41-45, F Mar 25, 2009

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    Grrrrrrrr! Waiting on people to do something

    they promised to do. If you don't want to do it just say so and I have more time to request it from someone else!! Xrap!!
    peoplesHere peoplesHere 26-30, F Jul 18

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    I've Been Dependent My Whole Life

    It started when i was young . I was diagnosed with Epilepsy and they told me from an early age  that i would never be able to drive . I wasnt ever able to keep my checking account in a good status ... and for the past two yrs ive been completely dependent on my parents for...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F Jan 25, 2008

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    A Fear

    There very much is a healthiness in being able to and that is something I strive for.  A healthiness of relationships and the resolving of inner issues.  It is not that in my life I have not wanted to rely on others, share myself completely, it is more that I have had a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 28, 2008

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    I Like to Have Things Get Done Right

    I like other people and I am really happy that I am good friends with almost all of my co-workers. Once I am well trained in a certain area at work I like for me to get it done because I am pretty sure I will get it done right the first time. I have had so many problems with some...
    wnplw wnplw 22-25, M Mar 28, 2009

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    I've Been Independent, of Sorts For So Long.

    Outside of a wife, I've been independent of everynoe since I was 14.  I started earning my own money then, invested iit, saved it, bought all my clothes including my high school graduation gown.  Of course, over the years, my income went up and I kept minimum expenses...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 1 Response May 18, 2008

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    Never:

    Simple eg: If I happen to miss lectures. I go straight to the teacher and get update of what was taught than simply ask my friend for her notes.        
    tenderfoot1 tenderfoot1 22-25, F Oct 21, 2008

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    Tired of Being Dependant On B/f For Money.

    I need to so badly be independent and not depend on my b/f for money and everything else. I lost my job in August due to my store xlosing. Before that I had a sence of power, now I feel like I have to bow down to him just to get a buck. I am at the end of my rope with this guy...
    leasafb leasafb 51-55, F Oct 10, 2008

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    Is It Bad To Be Too Independant?

    I really have a feeling of not bothering others and not being bothered. Sometimes, it's just a small stuff, still I don't want anybody to be bothered. But as seen, it seems that I am misbehaving. often, I want to change this bad behavior, anyone help please. Best regard.
    daratep daratep 18-21, M Nov 8, 2012

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    Dont Like to Be Dependent.._x

    i like to be independent, the idea of depending on someone els scares me. i couldnt do it, not entriely. i have to do things for my self i have to have control of  my own life, someone controled me before and i didnt like it one bit..
    FromTheHeartOfaWoman FromTheHeartOfaWoman 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    You Dont Get Nothing For Nothing

    I don't like to depend on others. Too many people offer help and ultimately they will be looking for something back in return. People have forgotten the meaning of charity and therefore i don't like to depend on anyone but myself. Others can depend on me as i do things for the...
    thehippy thehippy 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 19, 2009

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    I Hate Working In Groups

     I HATE WORKING IN GROUPS!!!! I just can't depend on people sometimes. I hate depending on people. I want it to be done right, done well. And sometimes, some people just don't get it!!! I have all these ideas in my head, but with a group, I...
    BrownEyedMystery BrownEyedMystery 18-21 1 Response Mar 29, 2009

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    So I Don't

    I was VERY dependent on my ex-boyfriend. It was crazy. Now that I look back on it I can't BELIEVE I was like that. But I was, and when we broke up I seriously thought I would just die. But I didn't, and I'm a much better person for it. I no longer rely on anyone, I am...
    Melody08 Melody08 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 7, 2008

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    Why Can't You Do It Yourself??

    Why have someone help if there's a way to do it myself solo?  Involving other people in things ALWAYS calls for chaos and confusion and complaining and I have enough of that crap working alone!  Most people are unreliable and do not follow through with what they...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2009

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    I know it's necessary sometimes

    and I know my heart desires someone to depend I. But it's hard. It makes me vulnerable.
    Haylay Haylay 18-21, F Jun 14

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    No I Don't Like to Depe...

    No I don't like to depend on others, I use to when I was younger but I was always let down so now I don't
    SukYoung SukYoung 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 15, 2009

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    The Independent ...

    I had been depended on my lovers, parents, and everyone for all of my life. From now on, Im gonna start a new track of my life. I just graduated bachelor and now looking for the right job. I need to support myself and even wanna support my parents since they have looked after...
    DollyDiva DollyDiva 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2010

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    Co-dependent

    I get really nervous needing to be depend on other people. I have the ultimate worst luck with vehicles and am constantly needing to depend on others to get to work, school, run errands, etc. It's stressful; noone cares about being on time when they aren't the ones who face the...
    mefirstGIMME mefirstGIMME 22-25, F Mar 5, 2008

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    But I Do Anyways...

    Usually, I'm the leader of a group, whether it's for work or just for planning a night out. I'd rather know what I'm going to be doing by myself than having to worry about another person and if they're capable of keeping up with me or if I'm the one that has to keep up with them...
    stripesANDsunshine stripesANDsunshine 18-21, F Apr 20, 2009

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    Or Should I Say "i Hate To Depend On Others"

    I've always been self-sufficient, even when I was a little girl. My parents could leave me all by myself playing in the living room and do their own stuff and I didn't really need their attention. I could always find something to do and could manage on my own. Same is now. ...
    SunnySmile SunnySmile 31-35, F Jul 10, 2010

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    Independence

    I think one of the main reasons for this is that I had to depend on my mom for everything for such a long time. She did everything for me. I didn't have a car in high school, so she drove me around all the time. I seldom ate out or cooked, but she cooked for me. For the...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 6 Responses Oct 11, 2007

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    In Fact, I Hate To Have To Depend On Others.

    Now I suspect that I may have some issues with ego. Having to need people to help me makes me feel helpless and inferior. Even having my parents helping me fork out money as a teenager made me uneasy. And I do admit that it's near impossible to do anything significant without...
    FlankingMan FlankingMan 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 27, 2010

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    Don't depend too much on anyone in this world,

    because even your own shadow leaves you when you are in darkness.
    ConcealedWildheart ConcealedWildheart 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    Give and Take

    I have a hard time letting people do things for me.  I don't want to bother them or put them out of their way.  I like handling my own but that isn't always healthy and its been pointed out that its good to allow people the opportunity to do things for you it makes the...
    ichooselife ichooselife 36-40, F May 23, 2009

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    I Help Myself

    I had to join this group...I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but I have always taken care of myself (and others). That is just how it's been for me. My husband had good intentions but got sick and I took care of him for the last 4 years of his life..**** happens. I think...
    Debra27 Debra27 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 12, 2009

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    You Can't Depend On People.

    For taking me places, getting me things, giving me money..ect. It's really aggravating because half of the time the people who I'm depending on mess up or can't do it. It's bullshit. I would happily do whatever it is I need to do if I could because I'm super independent. But...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F Jan 30, 2012

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    Yuppz

    its ******* annoying it makes me feel like im weak and little!!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 8, 2011

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    It's What My Mom Told Me

    My mom was completely depending on my dad and he left. So she was nothing. Now she is a strong, independant, caring, realistic woman. And she taught me to be completely independant at all times. It doesn't mean I want to be alone and lonely for the rest of my life, but I need...
    rocker6346 rocker6346 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Its Just Not "Me"

    I don't like to depend on others, because I don't want to feel weak, or like I can't handle things on my own. I don't like having to count on someone else, to keep me from falling down hard, and crashing. I like being independant and not having to relay on someone else, to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 27, 2009

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