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I Don't Like to Make Eye Contact

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    It's Not Natural to Me.

    I have to make a conscious effort to look at someone in the eyes. But I find it easier to let my eyes wander because it allows me to actually concentrate and remember what is being said by a person. It is unfortunate that it's considered rude not to make eye contact. I'm still...
    Chrestomanci Chrestomanci 22-25, M 13 Responses Jan 25, 2009

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    Immortalpoison Immortalpoison 13-15, F Feb 11

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    Hate It.

    I can't look people in the eye. I don't like people looking directly at me. At first, I thought it was because I was extremely shy. Now, I think it is because I am self conscious of my appearance. I'm scared they will see every single flaw that I see when I look into the...
    ZZ00ZZ ZZ00ZZ 22-25, F 2 Responses May 19, 2012

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    Trust?

    Whether it's talking to someone sitting next to me, or eating with someone, or just.. walking in silence in general, I cannot seem to make eye contact. I'm full of confidence, and I don't like being put down, but for some reason, it's like this feeling of shame overwhelms me. The...
    Krayons Krayons 16-18, F Feb 3, 2008

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    🐾I don't know why I don't.

    my parents think it is sooooo disrespectful but I am not trying to be disrespectful at all!i don't get why people think that if your not staring in their eyes that your not listening!!!i feel like I hear so much better without looking,and I can follow people's thoughts better...
    Insidewolf Insidewolf 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Hardly Ever.

    If your eyes are the window to your soul, do you really want to let anyone look at what your feelings and emotions are?? I make eye contact if it's someone I really trust. Then it's not very hard. But I still try to keep a bit of a guard up all the time no matter who it is, and...
    elliebear22 elliebear22 16-17, F Sep 17, 2011

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    Trouble!

    When I was growing up, eye contact earned me an ***-kicking, from the other children. So, I grew up fearing it! It even got so bad, that I was afraid to look into the eyes of people on tv. :-o Then one day, I thought, "This is silly! The people in the television can't hurt...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 28, 2009

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    Too Many Unknowns

    Staring into someone's eyes is considered intimate, so at what point does making eye contact become staring? I have never heard of a good time limit, or where to look when you reached it, or how long you have to avoid eye contact between making eye contact to avoid staring. I...
    MrWinstonSmith MrWinstonSmith 22-25, M Jan 13, 2013

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    when i look at people in the eye

    for a long time during a conversation I feel like they're evaluating me and looking deep inside my thoughts and stuff. then I realize they're staring at me and I get self conscious and idk is that weird that it makes me a little uncomfortable?
    englxnd23 englxnd23 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    For the most part I just glance around the room

    when I'm talking to people. Sometimes you just have to look right at people to reassure them that you're still paying attention, but since I hate making eye contact, I just look at their eyebrows. It's close enough to really looking at them I guess. This is probably why I'm...
    Friability Friability 18-21 1 Response Feb 18

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    I Don't Like To Make Eye Contact

    i hate making eye contact.i dnt understand why most people want to look in my eyes.i hate it because i am fraid they will be able to see my life story and  be able to see the pain i will be under
    lucreatia lucreatia 22-25 1 Response Mar 9, 2012

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    Hate It!

    I hate making eye contact ever. I feel like whenever someone, say my brother or friend, looks me in the eye it's insulting. I get very uncomfortable. I mean, I can look at someone's eyes when they are looking away, but not them looking at my eyes as I am looking at their's. I...
    QuilTheAnimal QuilTheAnimal 13-15, F Aug 6, 2012

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    Uncomfortable

    I get really uncomfortable when I make eye contact with people that I'm not close to. My eyes water, I get fidgety, I feel like their staring at me and there's something wrong. I have a bad habit of covering my mouth with my hand and looking down when I speak. I don't like it...
    CheerioGrrrl CheerioGrrrl 13-15, F May 23, 2012

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    I feel like I'm staring at someone

    and that I'm being rude, I don't feel comfortable.
    Mahsa99 Mahsa99 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    The Lookaway Kid

    I dont like to make eye contact because of the high sales environment we live in people think nothing about lying to you directly. I prefer to listen for voice inflections instead. no I am not an expert but I prefer to have people lie to the air instead of to me. I definitly have...
    justlooking5 justlooking5 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 18, 2012

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    I'm not sure why but I just can't do it.

    I really try but it just weirds me out for some reason. I can't hold eye contact for long and I find myself staring just past the person I am talking to or I am looking at their shoulders.
    SomeBloke616 SomeBloke616 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 27

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    They Don't Shine Like They Should

    My low self-esteem makes it hard for me to make eye-contact. Cause I feel bad about my look I feel if I look in other's eyes they will see it too. Also if I see them look at me I get the feeling they are finding things in their head that are wrong with me.  ...
    Rawa Rawa 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 11, 2008

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    Complaining About Not Making Eye Contact Is A Waste Of Time

    Every time people complain about not making eye contact is not worth it. My aunt did this all the time with me. I will be talking to her and she constantly complained about me not making eye contact. So what if I look at something for a seconds and then look back at you. If all...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 2, 2012

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    I always try to avoid making any eye contacts

    with people, not because i am not confident but because i just hate it. I always think about the way other people think about such a thing hoping it is not negative. Not looking doesnt mean i am not paying attention btw.
    ItsMaryam ItsMaryam 16-17, F Oct 1

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    Eyes As Gateway To The Soul

    Many people believe that the eyes are a gateway to the soul. At very least, I believe they show a lot of emotion (more for some than others) and I am always afraid of what people might see. Will they see all my pain? all my sadness and depair? They won't believe when I say I am...
    kzoodiana kzoodiana 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    Overwhelming and Intimate

    Oh wow - I agree.  I am not good at making eye contact at all.  I know this is a weakness of mine and is not a good attribute to have in the business world, but I just do not like making eye contact at all.  When I walk down the halls, I look at the ground and...
    neptuneboy neptuneboy 31-35, M Jul 17, 2007

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    Staring

    Whenever you talk to someone u cant stop staring at their eyes and ur self conscious about eye contact, it produces an off puting effect
    gajosam gajosam 18-21, M Sep 15, 2013

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    For me making eye contact with someone is

    uncomfortable for 2 reasons 1. What do you do when you make eye contact? Look away and make things more awkward or smile/wave but get no response back 2. When you make eye contact with someone and you both do absolutely nothing but stare back at each other like you're trying to...
    Catina25 Catina25 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 24

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    It's Odd To Me To Look Into Peoples Eyes

    I hate looking people I don't know and don't like in the eyes.It bothers me for people to stare into my eyes.It makes me uneasy and uncomfortable when people try to.I just can't stand it.
    zar13 zar13 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 21, 2012

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    I Worry.....

    About what people might see. If I allow just anyone to look in my eyes, then they can see my soul. My soul is a private & sacred place to me. I don't want just anyone seeing it. My eyes are the windows to me & I'm too scared to allow anyone to "see" me.....
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 9, 2009

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    I don't know about you guys

    but I can't keep eye contact within a conversation. I can't stare at the person for more than 3 seconds. I just can't.
    RebeccaMontero RebeccaMontero 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 25

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    Shy Eyes

    Im shy and always feel really anxious looking people in the eye...its just awkward.
    HazelMustang2012 HazelMustang2012 16-17, M Jul 4, 2008

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    It's Awkward!

    I hate making eye contact with teacher. It's so awkward how they walk around STARING at u!
    HONKGamzeeHONK HONKGamzeeHONK 13-15, F Apr 13, 2012

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    Mostly with those really weird mofo's

    that stare just a little bit too long and intensely.
    bombchu bombchu 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    One Word:

    Aspergers! Chances are that's what you have if you have trouble making eye contact.
    NickCC NickCC 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 19, 2012

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    Its So Awkward...

    ive never been comfortable making eye contact with anyone. at my job i work with the public. and i always worry that people think im mean and rude because i never look in their eyes.  i even had a boyfriend once that was really bothered by it. i dont even like to look family...
    jshirlnita jshirlnita 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 3, 2010

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    Awkward....

     i must look at people wrong or something D: whenever i meet eyes with someone i dont know in the hallway at school they get the "deer caught i the headlights look" D: at public places too...i avoid it because its a lil awkward... other than that i have to remind...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 11, 2009

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    I Feel Extremely Awkward And Self Conscious.

    I dislike making eye contact because it makes me feel self conscious. I can't see out of one eye and sometimes it becomes lazy so I feel as if people will notice and think I'm disgusting because of it. I've tried to hold eye contact with people I'm talking to before since my mom...
    Paramount2play Paramount2play 18-21, F Aug 18, 2012

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    I Don't Like To Make Eye Contact

    i hate making eye contact.i dnt understand why most people want to look in my eyes.i hate it because i am fraid they will be able to see my life story and  be able to see the pain i will be under
    lucreatia lucreatia 22-25 5 Responses Mar 9, 2012

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    I Fear Feeling What They Are Feeling

    I avoid eye contact with people (even my own parents) when they are talking about emotional stuff because the strong emotions (anger/depression/disappointment) that I FEEL from their eyes always make me feel very uncomfortable and trigger similar STRONG emotions in me. Does...
    anttang anttang 22-25, F Jul 4, 2013

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    It'S Extremely Awkward.

    I only JUST became aware of eye contact and its importance. I used to just avoid it and not think twice, but I have come to realize that I look very weird that way. It just seems very awkward to me to stare at someone's face while I am/they are talking. And I can't seem to look...
    EverythingEnds EverythingEnds 18-21, F 2 Responses May 5, 2013

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    "What Color Are My Eyes?"

    It has always been kinda hard for me to do. Not really sure why but when I am speaking to some one at my work I really have to strain to keep looking in their eyes. I am always wandering off, looking in the distance, and around me.  I could speak with some one and not be...
    allyKat allyKat 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 10, 2007

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    All the Power In the World Resides In the Eyes

    I was always bothered making eye contact with anyone. Cause I feel like they can see what I'm thinking. And I have plain brown boring eyes. So there nothing to look at, but pretty soon (I hope!) I'll be getting green contacts there the exact same color that Jennifer Tilly had at...
    Ivyflower Ivyflower 18-21, F 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    I like to make eye contact with cute guys.

    Once they look at me. I don't look at them anymore. I start to blush and I look ugly blushing I heard that from guys.
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    My Ex..

    He taught me how not to look in the eyes of others. He was pretty emotionally abusive and conditioned me to not look someone in the eyes, especially other men. I've never been able to completely shake it, even with my ex long gone and being married to someone else.
    meowmeowface meowmeowface 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 11, 2007

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    Not sure since when,

    but I don't like making eye contact with much people. It's very uncomfortable, literally speaking, it's like looking at their souls. I do not want to see their souls, I am not interested to see their souls. And i do NOT want them to see my soul either. ESPECIALLY people I do NOT...
    enragedmisfit enragedmisfit 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    Especially when someone is asking you questions

    and staring at you while you're trying to answer..
    boley1501 boley1501 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    Trust?

    It's not that I don't like it, I just never seem to do it with people I don't know very well. I don't avoid looking people in the eye intentionally, it just happens. I'm perfectly comfortable with looking in the eyes of people I am very familiar with. It must have to do with the...
    naturefreak1 naturefreak1 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 25, 2012

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    I don't know why I never look into anyone's

    eyes during a conversation. It just feels wrong to me. I feel like I'm staring. Maybe it's because I'm an artist, and the main focus of all my drawings are the eyes. I easily get fascinated by the colors of the iris. So, I guess, technically, I am staring, but I don't want to...
    DrowningInRed DrowningInRed 13-15, F Oct 1

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    Its Weird

    It makes me feel uncomfortable  no matter the person, I can't stand it.
    iminpain iminpain 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 11, 2009

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