I Don't Like to Make Eye Contact

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    I Fear Feeling What They Are Feeling

    I avoid eye contact with people (even my own parents) when they are talking about emotional stuff because the strong emotions (anger/depression/disappointment) that I FEEL from their eyes always make me feel very uncomfortable and trigger similar STRONG emotions in me. Does...
    anttang anttang
    26-30, F
    Jul 4, 2013

    It's Odd To Me To Look Into Peoples Eyes

    I hate looking people I don't know and don't like in the eyes.It bothers me for people to stare into my eyes.It makes me uneasy and uncomfortable when people try to.I just can't stand it.
    zar13 zar13
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 21, 2012

    I Worry.....

    About what people might see. If I allow just anyone to look in my eyes, then they can see my soul. My soul is a private & sacred place to me. I don't want just anyone seeing it. My eyes are the windows to me & I'm too scared to allow anyone to "see" me.....
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    2 Responses Apr 9, 2009

    For the most part I just glance around the room

    when I'm talking to people. Sometimes you just have to look right at people to reassure them that you're still paying attention, but since I hate making eye contact, I just look at their eyebrows. It's close enough to really looking at them I guess. This is probably why I'm...
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    1 Response Feb 18, 2014

    How crazy, my guy makes me practice eye contact

    with him. :) It's too intense sometimes and it's maybe stupid but i almost cried trying to get out of it the first time. Just all over anxious and uncomfortable. But we've done it a few times now and I kind like it. With him it's special. I can usually with anyone for a second...
    megansunshine megansunshine
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 22, 2015


    When I was growing up, eye contact earned me an ***-kicking, from the other children. So, I grew up fearing it! It even got so bad, that I was afraid to look into the eyes of people on tv. :-o Then one day, I thought, "This is silly! The people in the television can't hurt...
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    1 Response Feb 28, 2009

    when i talk to people.

    ... i avoid eye contact.. i just dont like them looking in my eyes .. it makes me feel uncomfortable like im a sample in a petri dish... i once read that its a sign of low self esteem.. in my case... maybe... but most of the time i just dont feel like doing it..
    TheaRhyss TheaRhyss
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Feb 28, 2016


    Whenever you talk to someone u cant stop staring at their eyes and ur self conscious about eye contact, it produces an off puting effect
    gajosam gajosam
    22-25, M
    Sep 15, 2013

    I Don't Like To Make Eye Contact

    i hate making eye contact.i dnt understand why most people want to look in my eyes.i hate it because i am fraid they will be able to see my life story and  be able to see the pain i will be under
    lucreatia lucreatia
    5 Responses Mar 9, 2012

    I feel like I'm staring at someone

    and that I'm being rude, I don't feel comfortable.
    Mahsa99 Mahsa99
    18-21, F
    Jul 19, 2014

    I always try to avoid making any eye contacts

    with people, not because i am not confident but because i just hate it. I always think about the way other people think about such a thing hoping it is not negative. Not looking doesnt mean i am not paying attention btw.
    ItsMaryam ItsMaryam
    18-21, F
    Oct 1, 2014

    I Don't Like To Make Eye Contact

    i hate making eye contact.i dnt understand why most people want to look in my eyes.i hate it because i am fraid they will be able to see my life story and  be able to see the pain i will be under
    lucreatia lucreatia
    1 Response Mar 9, 2012

    The Lookaway Kid

    I dont like to make eye contact because of the high sales environment we live in people think nothing about lying to you directly. I prefer to listen for voice inflections instead. no I am not an expert but I prefer to have people lie to the air instead of to me. I definitly have...
    justlooking5 justlooking5
    51-55, M
    1 Response Mar 18, 2012

    I Feel Extremely Awkward And Self Conscious.

    I dislike making eye contact because it makes me feel self conscious. I can't see out of one eye and sometimes it becomes lazy so I feel as if people will notice and think I'm disgusting because of it. I've tried to hold eye contact with people I'm talking to before since my mom...
    Paramount2play Paramount2play
    22-25, F
    Aug 18, 2012

    No matter how hard I try to maintain eye

    contact during a conversation, it's not going to happen. It makes me physically ill.
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    1 Response Feb 10, 2016

    Hardly Ever.

    If your eyes are the window to your soul, do you really want to let anyone look at what your feelings and emotions are?? I make eye contact if it's someone I really trust. Then it's not very hard. But I still try to keep a bit of a guard up all the time no matter who it is, and...
    elliebear22 elliebear22
    18-21, F
    Sep 17, 2011
    TheAvenue TheAvenue
    18-21, M
    Feb 11, 2016

    Mostly with those really weird mofo's

    that stare just a little bit too long and intensely.
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    1 Response Nov 22, 2014

    I like to make eye contact with cute guys.

    Once they look at me. I don't look at them anymore. I start to blush and I look ugly blushing I heard that from guys.
    lorrena19 lorrena19
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 21, 2014

    Too Many Unknowns

    Staring into someone's eyes is considered intimate, so at what point does making eye contact become staring? I have never heard of a good time limit, or where to look when you reached it, or how long you have to avoid eye contact between making eye contact to avoid staring. I...
    MrWinstonSmith MrWinstonSmith
    26-30, M
    Jan 13, 2013

    I feel weird making eye contact especially

    if I'm talking to them for a long time. I would be comfortable if I was close to the person though
    bloodyzombie19 bloodyzombie19
    18-21, F
    Jul 6, 2015

    Not sure since when,

    but I don't like making eye contact with much people. It's very uncomfortable, literally speaking, it's like looking at their souls. I do not want to see their souls, I am not interested to see their souls. And i do NOT want them to see my soul either. ESPECIALLY people I do NOT...
    enragedmisfit enragedmisfit
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jun 27, 2014

    I don't know why I never look into anyone's

    eyes during a conversation. It just feels wrong to me. I feel like I'm staring. Maybe it's because I'm an artist, and the main focus of all my drawings are the eyes. I easily get fascinated by the colors of the iris. So, I guess, technically, I am staring, but I don't want to...
    DrowningInRed DrowningInRed
    Oct 1, 2014

    I don't like to know people are looking at me,

    basically. Lately, for unknown reasons I've been making more eye contact when I talk to people (y'know, as opposed to glancing around the room or taking a detailed assessment of their eyebrows), and I get startled in the moment I realise I'm looking right into someone's...
    deleted deleted
    May 20, 2015

    For me making eye contact with someone is

    uncomfortable for 2 reasons 1. What do you do when you make eye contact? Look away and make things more awkward or smile/wave but get no response back 2. When you make eye contact with someone and you both do absolutely nothing but stare back at each other like you're trying to...
    Catina25 Catina25
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2014

    It'S Extremely Awkward.

    I only JUST became aware of eye contact and its importance. I used to just avoid it and not think twice, but I have come to realize that I look very weird that way. It just seems very awkward to me to stare at someone's face while I am/they are talking. And I can't seem to look...
    EverythingEnds EverythingEnds
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 5, 2013

    🐾I don't know why I don't.

    my parents think it is sooooo disrespectful but I am not trying to be disrespectful at all!i don't get why people think that if your not staring in their eyes that your not listening!!!i feel like I hear so much better without looking,and I can follow people's thoughts better...
    Insidewolf Insidewolf
    16-17, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2013


     i must look at people wrong or something D: whenever i meet eyes with someone i dont know in the hallway at school they get the "deer caught i the headlights look" D: at public places too...i avoid it because its a lil awkward... other than that i have to remind...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2009

    It's not that I don't like.

    .. I just can't. I'll work on it because I know eye contact is very important. If I don't do it people would either think I'm lack of confidence(which is kinda true) or that I'm just rude(which I am not).
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 24, 2015

    I don't know about you guys

    but I can't keep eye contact within a conversation. I can't stare at the person for more than 3 seconds. I just can't.
    BeautifulDayDream BeautifulDayDream
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 25, 2014

    Hate It.

    I can't look people in the eye. I don't like people looking directly at me. At first, I thought it was because I was extremely shy. Now, I think it is because I am self conscious of my appearance. I'm scared they will see every single flaw that I see when I look into the...
    ZZ00ZZ ZZ00ZZ
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 19, 2012

    Complaining About Not Making Eye Contact Is A Waste Of Time

    Every time people complain about not making eye contact is not worth it. My aunt did this all the time with me. I will be talking to her and she constantly complained about me not making eye contact. So what if I look at something for a seconds and then look back at you. If all...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 2, 2012

    Everytime I'm Having A Conversation With

    Someone I NEVER Look At Their Eyes. I Just Get So So So Scared When I Make Eye Contact. I Want This To End
    isabellamarie02 isabellamarie02
    13-15, F
    Jun 30, 2015

    Overwhelming and Intimate

    Oh wow - I agree.  I am not good at making eye contact at all.  I know this is a weakness of mine and is not a good attribute to have in the business world, but I just do not like making eye contact at all.  When I walk down the halls, I look at the ground and...
    neptuneboy neptuneboy
    31-35, M
    Jul 17, 2007

    I really do but really don't at the same time.

    bassicly if the person is looking at me when talking but I don't want to look into there eyes but don't know where to look, I just turn my head to the aide and talk to them like that. aoeta looking at them, off to the side. though, I love making eye contact qotg my crush cause he...
    dathglas dathglas
    16-17, M
    Feb 11, 2016
    Immortalpoison Immortalpoison
    18-21, F
    Feb 11, 2014


    It's not that I don't like it, I just never seem to do it with people I don't know very well. I don't avoid looking people in the eye intentionally, it just happens. I'm perfectly comfortable with looking in the eyes of people I am very familiar with. It must have to do with the...
    naturefreak1 naturefreak1
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 25, 2012

    when i look at people in the eye

    for a long time during a conversation I feel like they're evaluating me and looking deep inside my thoughts and stuff. then I realize they're staring at me and I get self conscious and idk is that weird that it makes me a little uncomfortable?
    englxnd23 englxnd23
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 20, 2014

    Its Weird

    It makes me feel uncomfortable  no matter the person, I can't stand it.
    iminpain iminpain
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Dec 11, 2009

    It's Not Natural to Me.

    I have to make a conscious effort to look at someone in the eyes. But I find it easier to let my eyes wander because it allows me to actually concentrate and remember what is being said by a person. It is unfortunate that it's considered rude not to make eye contact. I'm still...
    Chrestomanci Chrestomanci
    22-25, M
    13 Responses Jan 25, 2009

    Eye contact has always been hard

    for me. Today, I had 5-6 rooms upstairs that needed cleaning. They were all marked as stay overs, and the head house keeper told me to start with those rooms. The first room I knocked on was occupied, and I noticed the other rooms were active, so I went to the second building...
    TellyLuv TellyLuv
    26-30, F
    Feb 10, 2016

    Its So Awkward...

    ive never been comfortable making eye contact with anyone. at my job i work with the public. and i always worry that people think im mean and rude because i never look in their eyes.  i even had a boyfriend once that was really bothered by it. i dont even like to look family...
    jshirlnita jshirlnita
    46-50, F
    1 Response Aug 3, 2010

    I'm not sure why but I just can't do it.

    I really try but it just weirds me out for some reason. I can't hold eye contact for long and I find myself staring just past the person I am talking to or I am looking at their shoulders.
    SomeBloke616 SomeBloke616
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Oct 27, 2014

    One Word:

    Aspergers! Chances are that's what you have if you have trouble making eye contact.
    NickCC NickCC
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Sep 19, 2012
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