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I Don't Love My Husband

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    Losing My Hope

    I don't love my husband. The sentence makes me breathless and it makes tears prickle in my eyes.  But, I think it's true. I've been married to my husband for two years.  We've been together for six years, and I've known him since 2nd grade.  Yes, he used to...
    Nightspirit Nightspirit 22-25 5 Responses Oct 28, 2008

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    Really Confused

    I have been married for 21 years to a wonderful man. He is kind and such a good father. He used to be my best friend but lately I just feel lost and lonely.  He was diagnosed with MS 16 years ago and for a long time it didn't seem to matter in our relationship but gradually it...
    tabea1 tabea1 41-45 2 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    Coughing....

    Now he is complaining that I cough every time he uses the phone. 1. That's not true. 2. Even if it is true it would be because I have asthma and at any given moment I could be coughing regardless of what the people around me are doing. 3. When I just wake up I tend to cough...
    katnipkitkat katnipkitkat 41-45, F Jul 20, 2012

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    The Talk

    At long last I had the talk with my husband about braking up and it wasn't as bad as I excepted but saying that I do have to wate cupple of month before I can escape this marriage. But at least I'm heading in the write diction. And meeting the women of my dreams xx
    helpme1983 helpme1983 31-35, F Apr 1, 2013

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    I dated him for a year

    and knew he wasn't for me. I was about to end the relationship but he got a call to deploy. I couldn't break up with him then because I didn't want him depressed when over seas. Then he asked me to marry him...what was I supposed to do. Say no to a man that was about to go to...
    Wantit2bover Wantit2bover 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    As A Friend.

    I don't want to hurt him. I don't want to hurt him. If I say it as a mantra, will it change anything? Thirteen years and I need so much more... I feel so deeply, want so intensely, need so much that's passionate and push-me-up-against-the-wall, instead of this friendly routine...
    ScyllaAndCharybdis ScyllaAndCharybdis 36-40, F 9 Responses Mar 30, 2011

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    Just Ready To Be Alone

    This is my first posting, I have been married for 5 yrs now and I always come to the conclusion that I do not love my husband and never really did. I love him as in he is another human being. I just had a baby March 29. I found out 3 days later that he was seeing two woman while...
    alyciamr alyciamr 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    I Have Tried To Love My Husband

    I thought I loved my husband when we first married. I knew I wasn't madly in love with him but there was a since of respect and friendship. We had some difficult times and that love never turned into the kind of love you have for someone your in a relationship with. I finally...
    ILBATM ILBATM 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    I Feel Sick

    I'm married with 3 kids and trapped in a marriage with the most irritating man ever now every thing about him ****** me off. I like girls and I have been in denial for many years. But I'm on the tipping point of this mess that is my life.
    helpme1983 helpme1983 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    I Need Help I'm In A Mess.

    I've been with my husband 10 yrs now and we have 3 daughters. I really don't love him anymore, I have told him all about how I don't feel anything for him Anymore but he seems to think we can work it out, yet I don't. I started to fall out of love around 3 yrs ago and I'd talk to...
    Messymaz Messymaz 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 14, 2011

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    I Should Have Never Married Him

    I thought it was cold feet. My gut told me to run, but where would I go? I was eloping. I had no family to turn back to. My life was going nowhere. He seemed to be a ticket to a better life. So, I ignored my gut and jumped in headfirst. The first year of marriage was difficult...
    NevilleLongbottom NevilleLongbottom 26-30 2 Responses Apr 5, 2010

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    Married almost 20 years with teens.

    We were not a match when we married but I thought I was just being fussy and went ahead with it. Intimacy became sparse and them non-existent. He drank to extremes. If I asked for anything to be done around the house he would make such a fuss that I quit asking. The house is...
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    I Dont Anymore

    I am so glad I found this site.  I have no one to talk to and nowhere to turn.  No one seems to understand me and I get judgment wherever I turn. I don't even talk to most of my friends anymore, and I feel helpless. Here's my story.  I met my husband of a year...
    Mimi101 Mimi101 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    We met because I started working at a

    university in a new city and he was my supervisor. After two weeks there we slept together and I became pregnant with twins. When I told him, I was so grateful that he was supportive and happy. Although I am in my thirties and have a post-graduate degree I had no idea how I was...
    valkyriebird valkyriebird 36-40 Apr 3

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    I Dont Love My Huzbent

    I think i dont.love my huzbent. He was my first boyfriend. Ane every boy was hating on him becos he had me as the most beutiful girl of all his friends. We got married wery early i was 20y old he was 24y. Aur perents were friends back in the days to and every one wanted us...
    Victoraa Victoraa 31-35, M Aug 27, 2013

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    I'm So Confused, I Don't Love My Husband Anymore.. I Think I Have Never Loved Him....

    I am so confused that any advise is good... I'm 23 yo I met my now husband when I was 18, we started dating and he was really nice with me and my family he would treat me so nice. I liked the way that he used to treat me like I was his queen, I guess I took a little advantage of...
    lsd89 lsd89 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 31, 2012

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    I love him, but I don't.

    We have a 1 and a half year old daughter and I love him because of the time we have spent together...I don't love him for how he doesn't make me feel, and I don't love him for what he pretends to feel for me. We have been married 3 years, together less than 4 and it's been...
    carriebeths carriebeths 26-30, F Jan 27

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    Limbo Is Hell

    Hi, my story is long so I will try to summarize.I have been with my husband for 22 years,16 of those have been alright.I am in a personal hell right now I want to leave but I am a coward ,and I feel sorry for him.I have always been a doormat to him,but when I was younger I...
    Madbunny Madbunny 36-40 4 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    Do All Men Hit Their Wives?

    This is my second marriage. I was nineteen when I got married first time. It was all fun for first few months and then it faded. I continued my education despite having a child in second year of marriage and my first husband did not. I got my masters degree and he couldn't even...
    Meg3812 Meg3812 36-40 4 Responses Jan 7, 2012

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    I Don't Love My Perfect Husband

    I got married at the age of 20, to a nice guy, who I am not in love with and never really was. I don't have one logical explanation for why I did especially since I knew he wasn't right for me, but he wouldn't let up and eventually I agreed, thinking he'd realize this isn't...
    FrozenSTILL FrozenSTILL 22-25 8 Responses Aug 11, 2011

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    No More Love

    I can't believe this forum exists. How nice to be able to share how unhappy and sad I feel. It's so hard to talk about my lack of love for my husband when everyone around me seems to be so happy in their marriage. Anyway, we've been married for about 12 years and have four...
    notinlove notinlove 36-40 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    How Do You Get Through??

    How do you get through the days when you know that you no longer love your husband? He tells me he loves me and he's very affectionate. Everytime I reply that I love him too and respond to his affections I feel as if I'm lying to his face, which I am I suppose. I feel awful...
    Lollie01 Lollie01 22-25, F 7 Responses May 31, 2012

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    My Husband Was My Best Friend.

    I don't really know where to start. I am 31 and have just recently seperated from my husband. Firstly, I need to explain that my ex husband was my best friend. I think that is how I have seen him for our entire relationship but is also the reason it has lasted so long. The...
    Iwanttowantagain Iwanttowantagain 31-35 3 Responses Oct 11, 2012

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    It Is What It Is

    We got married young--I was 20, he was 25. He's sweet and charming. We'd been dating for 4 years. Seemed like the thing to do. I thought I loved him, and I guess I do in a way. I don't want anything bad for him. He's really sweet. But I've gradually come to realize that I'm just...
    yabooyaboo yabooyaboo 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 9, 2011

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    I Feel So Evil And Alone

    9 years ago I married a Lovely man who really loves me, but I'm afraid to say that I know I Have only ever loved him as a best friend, I know this because Kissing and having sex feels so wrong. I have kept these feelings inside for forever! I dont want to break his heart and...
    Cherrytomato Cherrytomato 31-35 9 Responses Mar 3, 2011

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    20 Yr Old College Student With A 4mth Old Child .... I Love School & Work More Than My Husband.

    I can't remember why ....Why i got married..Why i fell in love with my husband...Why i stayed with these last 2 yrs..  The truth is i dont love him. When he walk in the room the hate just boils up in me.My face turns red hot and he could say not a word to me but im already mad...
    deeshaff deeshaff 18-21 1 Response Mar 25, 2012

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    Im Pregnant And Not Inlove.

    I'm only 22 years old and have been with the same guy for 2 years. I thought I loved him at first but I was totally wrong. Despite the fact that I realized I didnt love him about 1 1/2 years ago, I stayed. I have no idea why. Now i regret not leaving him more then ever because I...
    Marifaye Marifaye 22-25 2 Responses Sep 16, 2012

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    I Never Loved My Husband And Now....

    Hi.  I am 48 years old, married for 15 years with 2 children. Ages 14 & 10.  I never loved my husband they way I should.  I've been living this lie since I met my husband and thought I would be able to deal with it and it would be fine.  My biological...
    whatdoido6 whatdoido6 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    How Convenient?

    I feel guilty, depressed, and envious all at the same time.  To start with, my husband is a wonderful man.  We don't fight, we talk about everything, we enjoy hanging out, he's an excellent husband, a good father, and he loves me dearly.  However I don't love him...
    CatalystChilde CatalystChilde 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    I am not in love with my husband

    I am 46, on my 3rd marriage and regret many bad decisions that I have made in my life. My current husband is not my soul mate, although he thinks I am his. He drives my crazy, we are so not compatible, how have I gotten myself into this position?   He...
    3strikesanddownandout 3strikesanddownandout 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 24, 2009

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    Time For You to Go

    How do you keep almost 11yrs brief? I doubt I can but will do my best. We met in Nov 98, I was a single mom with 3 kids working 2ND shift at a local hospital. He was my Mr. Wonderful, my night in shining armour.The kind,supportive, wants to help, fix it all for you, accepts you...
    strawberry1969 strawberry1969 36-40, F 8 Responses Jul 19, 2009

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    Shot Gun Wedding

    I am so confused and so very unhappy. I do not know what to do. I am 27 years old and have been married for 10 yrs (together for 12 years) and have 2 beautiful children with my husband. I have always thought I was so very in love with my husband. I no longer believe that is the...
    cutiebee1985 cutiebee1985 26-30, F 2 Responses May 28, 2012

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    I Dont Know What To Do?

    If you are in the same boat as me.....please leave me your email :-(
    vlg85 vlg85 26-30 Oct 3, 2011

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    After 34 Years I Finally Said It I Don"t Love You

    Well last year on the anniversary of my mothers death, I told my husband. I DON"T LOVE YOU. What drove me to it. I married him when I was 26 had a child out of wedlock that was age 6. Did not want anymore kids. He was 12 years older than I, but his first wife had cheated on him...
    trailsendcabinstore trailsendcabinstore 61-65 4 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    Nods From My Heart

    I tried to be civil with him and be happy when the kids are around because I don't want them to suspect that they already have a broken home. Their innocent minds would hardly understand the cause, so I spare them the trouble of any hint that we don't have a complete home anymore...
    0fairytalePrincess 0fairytalePrincess 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 27, 2011

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    So Confused...

    My husband and I were married when I was 21 and he was 34. We knew eachother about 2 years, but had only been dating for 7 months. We eloped. Shortly after, my mom, who was my best friend, passed away. He was there for me, and was very supportive. We tried for a while to have a...
    ElleBelle13 ElleBelle13 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2012

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    Why Do I Stay?

    I cannot believe that I am doing this but I don't know what else to do. I have been married for almost 11 years to a man that has treated me like his child and NOT his wife. He is a military man and I have bent over backwards to make his life complete. But in the meantime I did...
    jojo14 jojo14 31-35 11 Responses Jun 30, 2008

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    I Care For My Husband As A Brother But I Don't Love Him

    I have been with my husband for 27 years now. He was my first boyfriend. He was / is honest, hardworking, salt of the earth type. But he is also very old fashioned in his views, he is not a modern man by any stretch of the imagination. Our lives revolve around our 3 chdren and...
    Swsplash Swsplash 41-45, F Aug 14, 2012

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    My Eternal Boyfriend

    After a bad break up I did what most men do. I landed in the hands of my current bf. I've been with him for 11 years. I feel that I don't love him and neither does he. He was incarcerated and I decided to write to him. We were writing to each other for a year and the I met him...
    nancyfancy nancyfancy 31-35 Aug 20, 2012

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    I Love Him, But I'm Not In Love With Him

    I married my husband of almost 5 years now for the sake of my baby daughter back then.  Her father and I got separated back in 2003 (2 months after she was born).  I realized she couldn't grow up in an environment were there was cheating, arguing, and mistreatment. ...
    ursescot ursescot 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2009

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    How I Got My Husband Back

    hello everyone this really worked and i am proud to testify also. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try this prophet that helped her because my relationship was crashing. this prophet helped me and my relationship is now perfect just as he...
    stephanievcent stephanievcent 31-35, F Oct 27, 2013

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