I Don't Need People Who Aren't There For Me When I Need Them

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    All I Can Say.

     So let me ask you a question: Which is worse, complaining about freinds that betray you, or not being there for a freind that needed you. I hate not being what I expect, I know Im not perfect but thats not an excuse!!!!!!!!!!. So I can only say Im sorry and deal with the...
    wodman1 wodman1
    46-50, M
    Jul 2, 2010

    Not Anymore....

    I am not going to wear myself thin, and go out of my way to be there for my friends in their time of need, when, it comes that I need them for one reason or another, and they just don't have the damn time of the day for me. I am done doing it. I am done being in a one day...
    xSilentlySufferingx xSilentlySufferingx
    18-21, F
    May 24, 2010

    I called a suicide hotline

    once in my life. I don't do these things frivolously. I spent a few seconds telling the lady answered what was going on. she put me on hold. it was obvious she did it just to be a *****. It amazes me how soulless some people are.
    DeGustibus DeGustibus
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jul 31, 2015

    I'm Done...

    I am not going to be doing it anymore. I am not going to go out of my way to help someone in need, someone who I help all the time, for time and time and time again, they just disapear when I get to the point that not only do I need a friend, but to the point where I actually...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2011

    Don't Need Them

    Never thought I would be saying this, but after moving out from home I feel as if I am living my life the fullest. Thanks to the Lord I have awesome roomates and totally cool friends who are there for me when I am happy and when I am down. Sometimes I look back at the past and...
    BellaFairy BellaFairy
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 15, 2010

    This Is Why I Don't Keep Friends

    I have heard that speech SO many times: "ANY time you need me, ANY time at all, call me and I'll be there. I don't care if it's 3 o'clock in the morning." Yeah. Right. Every single time I have taken someone up on offers like that, they either don't answer or they are upset that...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 30, 2010

    Do I Have A "kick Me" Sign On My Back?

    I'm not even going to type out some fancy entertaining story here. I don't feel like it and my head is throbing from a stress headache as it is. But what just happened to me is so outrageous I just had to share it with the world. Basically, I got an invitation to a baby...
    lovingone lovingone
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 10, 2013

    After always being there

    for others, you would expect people to return the favor, unfortunately it seems to be nothing but one way traffic.........
    scottie1974 scottie1974
    41-45, M
    1 Response Apr 16, 2015

    Its better to be alone

    than being with people who just going to bring me down. Instead of being there for me during difficult times, instead, they brought me so much misery.
    mabuhayka mabuhayka
    31-35, F
    May 9, 2015

    Yes!!!

    I've gotten rid of so many "friends" that aren't there for me when I needed them. Then they have the nerve to get mad at me cause I just forgot about them. Like really. You weren't there for me and now you need someone to talk to and I come to mind, but when I was going through a...
    ClickCloser ClickCloser
    36-40, F
    Jan 22, 2011

    No, I Don't

    I've removed so many people from my life because I knew that they just weren't worth my time or effort. Almost every time I've been through a rough patch in my life there were quite a few people that just weren't there for me at all. I sought them out, but they never had time for...
    philosophicmyth philosophicmyth
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 3, 2011

    Aaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrghh – Some People Make Me Sick

    From time to time it is necessary to just scream, even if only inwardly.  To acknowledge that some people are here to teach you a lesson.   To show you how not to be.   Remind you what will happen if you continue down that road.  Spell out to you that no matter how much...
    Blessid Blessid
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 25, 2011

    I Don't Need

    No, I don't need people who aren't there for me when I need them.  I am pratically always there when people have needed me and when it is my turn, where are they?  Well, I'm done being people's therapist, maids. doormats, supermarket or whatever, I'll keep all of those things...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 12, 2011

    I'm just wondering if there is anyone

    that believes in a two sided friendship. Like, I spend my days listening to people vent about what's going on in their life, but when I bring up my life situations they bring it back to them. Even my husband doesn't listen and when he does he really doesn't because he'll ask...
    ClickCloser ClickCloser
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 5, 2015

    This happens ALL the time.

    I am there for anyone whenever they need something, but when i reach out and need someone to be there for me, there is no one.
    HisLittleAriel HisLittleAriel
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 19, 2015

    I feel this very strongly.

    If you won't be here for me when I need you and I'm at my worst, you will never get anything from me again that isn't cold courtesy. I will never forgive you.
    DeGustibus DeGustibus
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jul 23, 2015

    Dont Need Them!!

    i always make myself available for others in their time of need, so if any of them cant be there for me in my time of need, then i start questioning wether i need them in my life!!! i mean, i know that i just cant expect any particular person to be there for me 24/7, and i do...
    cowshed123 cowshed123
    36-40, M
    1 Response Oct 14, 2010

    Not Anymore.... I am not going to wear myself

    thin, and go out of my way to be there for my friends in their time of need, when, it comes that I need them for one reason or another, and they just don't have the damn time of the day for me. I am done doing it. I am done being in a one day friendship. I don't need it, and I...
    HisLittleAriel HisLittleAriel
    26-30, F
    Jul 4, 2015

    The title of this experience just says it all.

    I have had so many different friends through my life, and only a small handful have remained by my side no matter what. I won't waste my time on people anymore who were never there for me when I needed them most on my darkest days.
    lovelikewoa1997 lovelikewoa1997
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 19, 2015

    Ppl Who Know Me...

    Know I will go out of my way to help anyone, when they need me, I just wish it was the same way back....
    xSilentlySufferingx xSilentlySufferingx
    18-21, F
    Jun 15, 2010

    Who Does?

    This so true, and it is very common. I have had this happen time and time again, and the stupid part is the expect you to be there for them. Yea right. I dont understand what drives people to even bother saying they are your freind if they arent going to be. Having a freind is a...
    wodman1 wodman1
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Jun 14, 2010

    What Is The Point?

    When my ex husband left me...for the first year, I had people coming out of the woodwork to talk to me, offer me support, etc. I was shocked by the outpouring & was grateful for it. But now all that is past. Guess they think that my life is ******* fantastic now. I don't even...
    RubyLane RubyLane
    46-50, F
    Oct 12, 2012

    I Believe She Said It Best.

    "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." — Marilyn Monroe
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2010

    I couldn't stress this enough 👌 my thoughts

    exactly. I'm done being there for people when they need me, when they don't give a damn when it comes to me. some people just care about themselves these days.
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 6, 2015

    Give Me One Good Reason

    Why should I be there for you when you are not there for me...when I need you the most? My only exception would be someone who is a homeless guy or if I am running a charity programme...I would not expect a thing from them however when you say you are my friend...........what...
    Unchainedthoughts Unchainedthoughts
    26-30, F
    Dec 27, 2012

    What'd They Expect?

    At one time, I didn't care that my "sister" was only a half-sister from my Dad's previous marriage. When I was little, even though we had limited time together every summer, she was my idol. She was the older sister I, technically an only child, always adored. Then we grew up...
    bluepatriot bluepatriot
    18-21
    Jun 18, 2012
    FallenOptimist22 FallenOptimist22
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 4, 2015

    I'm Done

    I'm done being used.  Too many times in my life I have been there for others.  But when I when I needed someone there for me, they bailed.  Friendship is a two way street, not a one way one. I am learning to delete people from my life who are not supportive...
    ChristineJones ChristineJones
    31-35, F
    14 Responses May 13, 2010

    I Hate One Sided Friendships

    There's nothing worse than being in a one sided friendship but I have a difficult time just ending it. We've been friends for over 30 years now but here lately the lopsidedness has gotten worse. I can't understand why he's being such an *** here lately either. He's also more of...
    maybeitsme2 maybeitsme2
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Aug 30, 2012

    I'm tired of people, in general.

    I'm tired of checking in on people and they take 2 + days to respond. I'm tired of setting myself up to be used emotionally. I can say it's my fault. I set myself up, because I'm always available for everyone, but when I need to vent. No one is there. Or if they are, they...
    ClickCloser ClickCloser
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 9, 2015

    Through your toughest time you know

    who your friends are. those that clearly see you have a problem and actually ask you how you are. those that don't get ignored. just how it is.
    ClickCloser ClickCloser
    36-40, F
    Feb 6, 2015

    I Am Not Going To Do It Anymore....

    I am not going to be doing it anymore. I am not going to go out of my way to help someone in need, someone who I help all the time, for time and time and time again, they just disapear when I get to the point that not only do I need a friend, but to the point where I actually...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jul 16, 2010

    I'm Free

    Within time, I managed to escape from all those people who were not there for me when I needed them; reason why now I feel free.
    BellaFairy BellaFairy
    26-30, F
    Feb 28, 2011

    Positrons.

    You know who I'm speaking of. The "positive power people" who believe that all of us people who have ever been in a depressive mood are energy vampires they should cut completely out of their lives. there's a difference between a negative person and an energy vampire-negative...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix
    26-30, M
    Dec 27, 2011

    if you don't like what i bring to the table,

    I'm not afraid to eat alone.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    Apr 16, 2015
    Free247 Free247
    36-40, F
    Jul 4, 2015

    Friends For So Long, Now They're Gone...

    This is probably one of the stories that will really bring tears to my eyes because its one thing to lose friends after maybe a year or so but its another to lose friends youve had sicne you were in Middle School.Me and my friends all knew each other since we were 11. We had...
    PrincessRosalina PrincessRosalina
    22-25, F
    Nov 30, 2011
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