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I Don't Need To Make Fun Of Others To Get "self-esteem"

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    I never ever felt like the need to make fun of

    others to feel popular or to raise my self esteem. I used to be the one who been into a lot of making fun of. I knew it was cos they were envying how i never cared about their words. I never ever made any of them to carry me down as i did stood up for myself. I always respect...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M Jul 16

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    I Don't Get People That Do.......

    I understand that some people need to vent about other people sometimes to feel better, but I don't understand why putting someone else down by either saying something humiliating about them, or straight up mean would make someone feel better about themselves. I'm human so of...
    explainit2me explainit2me 22-25, F Aug 7, 2011

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    Sicko At Wal-mart

    My dad has always beenone that in order to feel good about himself he has had to put down other people. Even by his standards though he has stopped to a new low. He and his wife will go park their car in a Wal-Mart parking lot and sit there watching people. They make fun of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 24, 2011

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    No

    Just because I feel like total crap, and just because I hate who I am, does not mean that I will put others down to make myself feel good. its wrong, and its not right, and it does not make me feel better. I do not know how anyone could possibly feel good putting others down, it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 19, 2013

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    ....just...no.

    I've never felt the need to stand on the backs of others I've knocked down in order to lift myself up. Self-esteem is something I've always struggled with....more in the past than now...but knowing how it feels to be so low, I'd never intentionally try to make someone feel that...
    lastleafoffall lastleafoffall 26-30, F Feb 22, 2011

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    Except...

    ....when they deserve it. And it's the truth.
    Stahl Stahl 31-35, M 4 Responses May 14, 2010

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    Jealousy

    I think girls or boys who make fun of other people usually have problems with themselves. Like when someone talks about me but I don't automatically respond because maybe they are being abused at home. Same with bullies all they really want is for someone to love them
    CrayCrayisMe CrayCrayisMe 22-25, F Jul 23, 2011

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    I do dress a little informal,

    talking bout large T-shirts,rough shoes,training bras. That's because personally i can careless of what "people" have to say. But this time one of my distance "friend" just says she didn't like my pant. It hurts a little from a friend that she always be so judgmental about the...
    FUNNYorNah FUNNYorNah 13-15, F May 13

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    Lol. Lmao. If i make fun of you then you are

    either a jerk being educated or a yum arousing me.
    converted converted 46-50, M Feb 25

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    Too Shy For My Own Good

    I enjoy helping others. My greatest satisfaction comes from making other people feel good about myself. Is there anyone out there that would help others when it hurts yourself? Please don't get me wrong. I am no saint. I have many imperfections but am painfully aware of them...
    maggie7777777 maggie7777777 56-60, M Mar 2, 2013

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    It's Not My Right To Down Others

    Who am I to want to make someone feel bad about themselves. At the end of the day we are different people and it's going to stay that way. Whether I like it or not. I just accept people how they are. Sooner or later I appreciate it. As long as they are being true to themselves...
    idreamdaily idreamdaily 18-21, F Apr 28, 2012

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    I must confess there was a time

    when I enjoyed making fun of others...so mean.It was pure act of creativity how I would analize stuff others worn or behaviours I found odd.It allowed me to relieve stress and be cool with friends loving my sharp comments.I even was asked to write mean things over teachers coz...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F Jul 10

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    All Growed Up

    As a kid i was always a loner, having red hair and freckles didn't help much. Add glasses and you have the perfect target. yet with all these drawbacks i never lashed out or retalliated, i never had to. i was happy with who i was. when i look at the bullies almost twenty years...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 8, 2011

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    Self Esteem Comes From Within

    Self esteem comes from inside of yourself, it is knowing and feeling that what you do, what you think and what you feel are truly a reflection of yourself and that you are sure you are doing the right thing. There is no need to compare yourself to others, they are not the gauge...
    308shooter 308shooter 56-60, M 2 Responses Jun 4, 2012

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    I Wonder

    Having fun is different from bullying or making fun with someone. Some people might find it amusing to be sarcastic just to elevate their so called "ego". It is sad to contemplate on this: why do some people find happiness by being so scornful to somebody else? Self- esteem can...
    0fairytalePrincess 0fairytalePrincess 36-40, F Apr 27, 2011

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    It Is A Sad World We Live In

    when making fun of others builds your self-esteem and self-confidence. It is disturbing if knocking others down builds you up. I was told before by a man who wanted me to like him romantically that I don't like him because he looks ugly, is poor and is Muslim. He does that about...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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    No Need To Make Fun Of Others To Get Self-esteem

    I don't have to make fun of anyone. I am who i am. I have been made fun of when i was a child growing up. It is no picnic. Wanting to be taken for who you are, and people just doing things to make you feel beneath them. Unworthy.... Dog!!! Do this, do that, believe what i tell...
    ZarekDH ZarekDH 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 4, 2010

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    In Fact...

    I have so much self esteem that if you are a little punk azz ***** and you need to make fun of someone to feel better, well then you can make fun of me. Hey, tell you what...i will even help you get started...i have a big gut, i wear eyeliner sometimes but i am not gay, i have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 10, 2010

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    No I Don't....

    I will admit that I have extremely low self-esstem...but that does not mean, that I make fun of others. I know a Lot of people with low self-esttem will do this, just to make themselves feel better, but I am not one of them.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 5, 2010

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    Just A Snapshot Of The Last 12 Hours...

    I think someone from a backwards part of the world made just fun of me this morning but isn't always easy to "prove" of course.  That's ok, cause that's all an average citizen from there has intellectually and therefore how they have to do things in their country :-D  ...
    ILoveMarie ILoveMarie 36-40 4 Responses May 13, 2010

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    Why Does Anyone Do That Anyway?

    It seems pointless and I want no part of it, but making fun of others to make me feel better is like dumping raw sewage on a perfectly good grape to make the other rotten grapes look more appealing. That's just the way I feel about this. To those out there suffering from Bullying...
    himgaki himgaki 18-21, M May 2, 2012

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    Self-esteem

    Not my style.  I wouldn't do it to anyone.  I know, not everybody is the same as me and many would do it.  Lot's of people do it, cause they lack in something and it is certainly their self-esteem.  They act as if they got all of their self-esteem and instead it is the...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 4 Responses May 12, 2011

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    No Need Whatsoever

    My self-esteem (although up and down at times) is doing perfectly well. I will never lower myself to the point where my self esteem comes at the expense of others. It's very cruel. If anyone has stuck their head into the news lately you'll notice an increasingly scary trend...
    CuteInChaos CuteInChaos 18-21, F Mar 26, 2011

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    I Think Making Fun Of Others Is Not True Self Esteme

    I used to hang out with people like Keith smith and Kate Robinson and bec kirk and rick szwackowski and joyce poorter I would hear them openly making fun of people or me - I used to feel as if I was an alien like there was something wrong with me that I couldn't share their...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 2 Responses May 12, 2011

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    No I Don't

    i never make fun of others. I have loads of self-esteem anyway
    grapes305 grapes305 13-15, F Mar 29, 2011

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    I would never do this

    since people always make fun of me. I know how much it can hurt. They are half the reason I have no self esteem at all, and I mean literally none. I have nice things to say about everyone.
    x0UnionJack0x x0UnionJack0x 18-21, F 1 Response May 13

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    Ex-friend

    I used to be friends with a girl who did this... Sadly, she did it to her husband and even her kids. I hated it and would always basically tell her to not be so mean, act like an adult, etc. It got REALLY old. I always worried when she would turn on me. When would the day be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 5, 2012

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    I never understood how people can bully another

    person to higher their self esteem or not feel bad after they do it.
    trishayvette trishayvette 22-25, F May 13

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    I Hate Bullying But I Don't Really Hate Bullies

    i feel bad for them. to be so unhappy with yourself or your life that you feel the need to try and make others feel bad about themselves. i mean don't you know we all have worth we all deserve love and respect. show that you are worth more don't hurt another to try and help...
    justjoni justjoni 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2012

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    My Mother Is One Of Those People

    She likes to gossip behind people's back about what she thinks people are to her, their flaws she thinks they have. If she's mad at you, she will instantly ignore you and let you know you're nothing to her. How? By not paying attention to what you say to her, or just ignoring you...
    InspiredButterflyPrincess InspiredButterflyPrincess 26-30, F Oct 2, 2012

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    The Nerve

    i was at walmart and i was listening to some people talk about this poorelderly woman at the pharmacy.they were so cruel.i could tell the woman herd them.i finally got fed up and told them,so this is how you get your rocks off?look at you ,you are not that great either.i bet i...
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 2 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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    Shut Up.

    I don't need to make fun of other people. Even when I had no self-esteem, I didn't (OK, just this one person, but there were other reasons.). But still, I do feel the need to make fun of people, just because, well... It's funny. But I don't consider it bad, really, since I make...
    DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember 22-25, F Nov 10, 2010

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