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I Don't Take Compliments Very Well

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    Could Be Good Or Bad.

    I seem to take compliments as a request for information. Or a reason deflect praise. I've never really contemplated it before. I often realize after the exchange that I never thanked the person for the compliment. And that's kinda rude.......But I've told them where I bought it...
    Shuga Shuga 46-50, F Aug 20, 2010

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    Insecure

    Ever since I was a kid, I've never been able to take compliments well. When people compliment me, I always think there is an ulterior motive behind it.  With some of the people, this was the case.  But with many it wasn't.  Another problem was I didn't see how they could see...
    pinkcorsage pinkcorsage 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Embarrassed By Success

    Former boss came by my desk today to congratulate me on exceeding an important target. Made me uneasy. I feel like the more I succeed the more people secretly want to see me fail. I'm sure it is all in my mind.
    CountessDawn CountessDawn 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 17, 2012

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    I've Have This Problem All Of My Life Sometimes I Still Struggle Accepting Them

    I would always question them and say oh this is nice I've this for sooo long or you look really pretty I say no I don't or you're pretty I didn't believe them no I am not but when you see how you look and sound you decide to cut this behaviour out or cut it annoys me it is like...
    xdarkangelx666 xdarkangelx666 22-25, F Feb 3, 2011

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    No, I Don't

    Its very hard 4 me 2 take complements.... I never have taken them well... Not like they are thrown to me all the time. So when I do hear them its hard for me to accept them...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 10, 2012

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    I Feel Ackward

    really I have had more people give me aculades and compliments. Only for taking a child into our home ,as i told them it was nothing that they themselves would do the same. It really is embarrassing to me i craze attention , just don't know how to handle attention brought on to...
    bquick bquick 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 4, 2008

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    I Don't Take Compliments Very Well

    Because most of the time I don't believe them.
    DontKnowWhatToDoAboutIt DontKnowWhatToDoAboutIt 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    Whatever!

    I have never been able to take compliments very well. When complimented I feel either "you want something" or " you're lying". Sorry! I just say ok whatever! lol I remember I was about 12-13 maybe. I had earned some money and got to go buy myself own out...
    mommatrish mommatrish 41-45, F Feb 29, 2008

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    Painfully Awkward

    I didn't have a harsh childhood as such, but it wasn't one where sincere compliments and praise were doled out unless absolutely necessary. I am more eccentric than the rest of my 'close' family- I use the term close loosely as they are only close in the biological, rather than...
    lbai7 lbai7 18-21 1 Response Apr 15, 2010

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    "what I Mean Is;"

     What i mean is, i think if someone gives me a compilment like, they say; "oooh! i thought you were a lot younger than you said",maybe they are taking the "MIck"  making fun! :-( but not to show ignorance i thank them, :-) in case they're genuine anyway lol :-0
    welshbabe welshbabe 46-50, F Jun 19, 2010

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    Most of the time when someone gives me a

    compliment I think it's out of pity or just a lie I make me feel worse
    bluegirlie98 bluegirlie98 13-15, F Apr 11

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    I See Myself..

    as an everyday, average normal guy.... Nothing more....
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 18, 2010

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    Usually...

     i usually blush, stammer and mumble. i also usually don't believe them
    musicality musicality 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2008

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    So There!

    I really don't.  I am learning to say thank you and smile.  But on the inside, I am wondering what the hell they are thinking?  Are they drunk?  Stoned?  Trying to make me feel better?  I just don't see me the way some others do, and it's a struggle...
    ChristineJones ChristineJones 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 5, 2010

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    I Don't Take Compliments Well

    When somone compliments me all I can say is Thanks  but if someone insults me I have loads to say.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 Feb 4, 2012

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    It's All Lies..

    I've NEVER been able to accept an compliment without feeling offended. I feel like every nice thing that someone says about me is a lie. I don't trust them. I feel like they are mocking me when they compliment me. And when I leave I feel like they are laughing at me and talking...
    JessiZombies JessiZombies 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2011

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    Don't Call Me Pretty Please.

    Today was weird. I know I made my therapist upset. First time ever. I felt SO bad. She's so sweet and I'm such a biotch. She kept complimenting me and I kept shrugging off her compliments and would keep on talking, until finally, she questioned me about it. She said that I don't...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F 28 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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    Giving Is Easier Than Receiving

    I never know how to react if someone gives me a compliment...do I say thankyou graciously? no Then the only thing left to do is feel awkward, go red and brush it off!I have no problem with giving compliments though...and enjoy making someone feel good so why cant I accept them...
    doughnutdolly doughnutdolly 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2010

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    My Inner Image Doesn'T Match The Outter

    My parents always told me I was pretty or beautiful as I was growing up, but other kids at school made fun of me and degraded my self esteem. I wasn't always accepted for who I was and grew to not like my outside image. Especially as puberty started hitting everyone through the...
    FreeSpirit2012 FreeSpirit2012 22-25, F May 25, 2013

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    A Bit Taken Back.

     It kinda shocks me when someone compliments me because i never get compliments and i never expect them. So when they come i really am taken back by it.   I'd prefer people not to compliment me because when i am startled i look rude.
    SuperRobotMonkeyTeam SuperRobotMonkeyTeam 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2009

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    Lies!

    I tend to think people are lying or just being polite when they compliment me. It is hard for me to believe anyone has anything nice to say about me. I guess that is what happens when you are critisized daily for 10 years.
    marriedintx marriedintx 31-35, F Sep 11, 2011

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    ..i Dont Take Them Well..

    Whenever someone compliments me it just makes me feel all awkward..It just seems so sudden..i dont know, it just kind of annoys me. It makes me feel like the whole 'friendship' and all is fake. ..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 15, 2012

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    He called me beautiful *flips ***** *screams

    into a pillow* *rips sheets off the bed* *flips bed off the box spring* *dies*
    irrelavent irrelavent 13-15, F Dec 4, 2013

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    Never Got Them Before

    i never actually got any before really. before i met the one i love and then came on here i had never got any from anyone. i was always criticized by everyone i know as not being good enough, i wasn't smart enough, never said the right things, didn't act how others wanted me to...
    CaptainJackass CaptainJackass 22-25, M Feb 9, 2011

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    Trying To

    I like to blame my mother for me not taking compliments well. It's not that she didn't teach me proper manners it is that she has always told me the exact opposite of what an good mother should tell her daughter. I've had a difficult time with it for a while now and have had many...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 19, 2012

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    When Someone Compliments Me, All I Do Is Cringe And Laugh It Off.

    So my friends will compliment me or my family will, i hate it. I dont know why i feel like they are just lying to make me feel better, espceially my one friend who tells white lies to make others feel good and she'll compliment me a lot. See, i have BAD acne on my face chest...
    AcneFaced AcneFaced 13-15, F Mar 31, 2010

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    Speechless

    If you went to insult me i would have a thousand things to say to you, but if you send me a compliment i am speechless.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Don't Know How To React!

    I'm not going to lie, I love compliments! Who doesn't? It makes me feel good about myself and it makes me happy! But honestly, I take them so badly! Before, I used to reject compliments. E.g Person: "You're really pretty" Me: "No I'm really not" I've realised how wrongly...
    carmenello carmenello 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    Are You Talking To Me?!?

    Many women and well men fish for compliments, we all want to hear something nice about us from others no doubt. I however don't fish for nor expect compliments. I am honestly oblivious to leering looks and when someone compliments me I actually look around to be sure it is me...
    bluetatoo19712000 bluetatoo19712000 36-40, F Aug 22, 2012

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    I Don't Blush. I Cringe.

    Someone I don't know too well, just paid me a compliment about my looks. My reaction: I don't buy it, and immediately dismiss the person as shallow. Depending on who it is, I might tell them I don't. Or I could reply sarcastically. Or I could just wave it away somehow - coming...
    unknownfamiliar unknownfamiliar 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    Never Have, And Probably Never Will...

    It's not that I feel I'm overly modest, it's just that I truly, honestly don't believe it when someone compliments me. I know the logical side of my brain say that what they are saying is probably true, from their perspective, the other, more insecure part of my mind feels that I...
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 19, 2010

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    If you ever give my a compliment I'm just going

    to assume it was sacrum or you just said it to make me feel better.
    shaunrain shaunrain 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    When...

    When someone gives me a compliment i can't stop myself from looking down at my feet with my head down. If they call me on doing that-it is worse. I can feel myself going redder & redder. I try not to but can't stop myself. I think i do this because i cannot see why or what...
    wowpup wowpup 36-40, F 13 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    angelexondra angelexondra 22-25, F Oct 6

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