I Don't Take Compliments Very Well

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 1,088 People

    Embarrassed By Success

    Former boss came by my desk today to congratulate me on exceeding an important target. Made me uneasy. I feel like the more I succeed the more people secretly want to see me fail. I'm sure it is all in my mind.
    CountessDawn CountessDawn
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 17, 2012

    Don't Know How To React!

    I'm not going to lie, I love compliments! Who doesn't? It makes me feel good about myself and it makes me happy! But honestly, I take them so badly! Before, I used to reject compliments. E.g Person: "You're really pretty" Me: "No I'm really not" I've realised how wrongly...
    carmenello carmenello
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 14, 2012

    I've never done well with them .

    . Would like to but I think it's my own personal perception that I need to see my own qualities first before hearing them from others.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 31

    The best way that anyone can deal with seeing a

    picture of me on here is with a simple "Thank you" - i'd appreciate that far more than any compliment on my appearance or your favourite body feature of mine. I know that i'm not exactly the fittest thing to have ever walked and i prefer not to have smoke blown up my @$$ about...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    Feb 19

    I tend to shuck them off,

    but I believe I am getting better at learning to just accept them.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 10, 2015

    as in I don't take them at all.

    .one ear and out the other
    Cocrispy Cocrispy
    22-25, M
    Dec 22, 2015

    You have beautiful eyes .

    . .. . Thanks. They are my own. You look lovely . . . . Ermmm Happy Birthday. Im just sh!t at things like this!!
    tileesi tileesi
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 18

    I am so bad at taking compliments.

    I am never sure what to say so most of the time I will just tell you to shush!
    DocMcSizzle DocMcSizzle
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Nov 18, 2015

    I now try to take them with ease .

    .Increases your self esteem
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 1

    I feel stressed. like its a good thing

    but I dont know what to say
    darklotus01 darklotus01
    13-15, T
    Feb 18

    Whenever someone compliments me,

    my mind runs blank and I don't know what to respond. I try to smile and sound genuinely thankful, but I think it just makes me look awkward.
    tobiii12 tobiii12
    16-17, F
    Feb 18

    I get really awkward

    and defensive.
    Valeph Valeph
    13-15, F
    Feb 19

    Never Have, And Probably Never Will...

    It's not that I feel I'm overly modest, it's just that I truly, honestly don't believe it when someone compliments me. I know the logical side of my brain say that what they are saying is probably true, from their perspective, the other, more insecure part of my mind feels that I...
    Tuva Tuva
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jun 19, 2010

    I Don't Blush. I Cringe.

    Someone I don't know too well, just paid me a compliment about my looks. My reaction: I don't buy it, and immediately dismiss the person as shallow. Depending on who it is, I might tell them I don't. Or I could reply sarcastically. Or I could just wave it away somehow - coming...
    unknownfamiliar unknownfamiliar
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 20, 2013

    So should i say thank you?

    xD. Receiving compliment is so uncomfortable because it's hard for me to believe in something that i couldn't see myself but i really like receiving compliments. Infact i enjoy replaying that moment from time to time. Like remember the time when s/he said that you're so xyz? S/he...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 29

    Omg it makes me so uncomfortable

    and paranoid. I'm suspicious by nature so if someone pays compliments to me, I become skeptical and start questioning their motives(in my head). But one should be able to distinguish the real ones from the fake ones. It has to be sincere.When the men I barely know start...
    sparklingdiva sparklingdiva
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 18

    I don't like when others compliment me

    for my looks. It makes me feel I've nothing but only beauty. And people take interest in me seeing my face. I get uncomfortable receiving compliments on my looks from strangers and men.
    happybubbly happybubbly
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 2, 2015

    According to my very good friend on here.

    ! Not sure what that's all about. Anybody else find it as cringeworthy ?
    picklebobble picklebobble
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2015

    Lies!

    I tend to think people are lying or just being polite when they compliment me. It is hard for me to believe anyone has anything nice to say about me. I guess that is what happens when you are critisized daily for 10 years.
    marriedintx marriedintx
    31-35, F
    Sep 11, 2011

    Because its never really been the norm of my

    life, so I'd I do get a compliment, regardless of the subject of said compliment, I am stymied. I get tongue tied. I stammer out 3 different versions of thank you. 😕
    Handyman25 Handyman25
    26-30, M
    Oct 28, 2015

    I met this guy online,

    and he gave me lots of compliments, my eyes, my smile, my personality...and after a while, he told me I should really learn how to accept compliments. I agree with him. Anyway, when we went out on a date, that was the first thing he told me. That he was gonna compliment me and...
    lonelydinosaur lonelydinosaur
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 18, 2015

    Most of the time when someone gives me a

    compliment I think it's out of pity or just a lie I make me feel worse
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 11, 2014

    It's something I'm not really used to in

    general. I never really grew up with nice compliments anyway. Whenever people do compliment me I just don't really believe them - I assume they're just lying or that it's not genuine. I don't know. It's kind of a problem I guess.
    PearlyyJayy PearlyyJayy
    16-17, F
    Jan 1

    I often reply with okay

    and I know when people compliment me because most of the time I don't feel like It's genuine
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 18, 2015

    I can't remember the last time I took any

    compliment anyone gave to me seriously. They tell me that I look okay or it looks cute but I don't know if it's to make me feel better or if they really mean it.
    DiamondsandRoses DiamondsandRoses
    16-17, F
    Dec 23, 2015

    I have hard time accepting them.

    I always think they're being sarcastic or they're mocking me somehow. I get PTSD I guess I don't know.
    Bettyr94 Bettyr94
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 23, 2015
    danielle945 danielle945
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 18

    I've gotten compliments over the years,

    but I still can't come to take them well. Depending on the person complimenting, I take it differently, but when my partner does so I just smile, I want to compliment them back, and sometimes I do but I feel as though if I were to compliment them right after they do, they would...
    RandomExistence RandomExistence
    16-17, M
    Oct 28, 2015

    People always tend to compliment me on my eyes

    and I don't see it. Like they're just blue. A lot of people have blue eyes.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 19

    Speechless

    If you went to insult me i would have a thousand things to say to you, but if you send me a compliment i am speechless.
    Arorin Arorin
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Mar 24, 2010

    It really feels like people are lying to me

    when they compliment me. I just can't see any of it being true.
    prettyboyy prettyboyy
    13-15, T
    1 Response Dec 22, 2015

    I'm terrible at accepting compliments.

    It's not that I don't like them. They just don't feel sincere, they feel like very sarcastic and fake.
    chipconyurson chipconyurson
    13-15, F
    Dec 31, 2015

    I don't understand why I don't,

    but I think it has to do with the fact that I know all of my flaws, all too well. It's a work in progress, learning to accept them...
    ZenLioNESS719 ZenLioNESS719
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Dec 23, 2015

    Best ways I take compliments: Cover my ace

    and hide/ just try my best to hide my blushing with some really weird smile and pull my shirt collar over my face :P
    DoorMattress DoorMattress
    13-15, M
    Feb 17

    I either deny them straight out.

    .... Person: Wow, great shirt! Me: Huh? But it's old, I've worn it plenty of times, how have you not noticed before? Person: You have? Me: Yeah, you are so lying to me. or shamelessly acknowledge the compliment. Person: Aww you look great today! Me: I know right. Person...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    If you ever give my a compliment I'm just going

    to assume it was sacrum or you just said it to make me feel better.
    shaunrain shaunrain
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 17, 2014

    It's not that I don't take compliments well,

    don't get me wrong, they're absolutely wonderful. But, nothing ever feels true. "Youre really beautiful. Your skin is so flawless. You look so good today. Your hair is so beautiful." But on the other side you get put down 10x worse, and the compliments just can't replace what...
    StayGould StayGould
    18-21, F
    Dec 23, 2015

    Yeah, I have terrible trust issues(a story

    for another time) and compliments usually sound fake, like they are making fun of me or something, and having been bullied most of my life, is not a good feeling.Its really hard to explain, I just don't trust a lot of people. Only certain people do I take compliments from in a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 1

    i realise that i cant take compliments

    which i wouldnt give myself too. so my task is to seeing it positively and being kind to myself.
    energymustmove energymustmove
    18-21, F
    Apr 18, 2015

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