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I Don't Take Compliments Very Well

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    If you say anything along the lines

    or "sexy" or "hot" also add those weird creepy wink emoji's, I will stop talking to you. Idk, maybe other girls like being called that, I don't feel like it is a compliment at all.
    XxscarsxX XxscarsxX 18-21, F Oct 31, 2014

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    I don't understand why I don't,

    but I think it has to do with the fact that I know all of my flaws, all too well. It's a work in progress, learning to accept them...
    ZenGrrrlLioNESS ZenGrrrlLioNESS 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2015

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    This may sound whimpish

    but hey it's me I can never really handle a compliment without blushing lol which is funny cause I always thought dudes didn't do that
    Iamalostcause Iamalostcause 22-25, M Apr 9, 2015

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    I now try to take them with ease .

    .Increases your self esteem
    Calmsoul Calmsoul 22-25, M Jan 1

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    It's something I'm not really used to in

    general. I never really grew up with nice compliments anyway. Whenever people do compliment me I just don't really believe them - I assume they're just lying or that it's not genuine. I don't know. It's kind of a problem I guess.
    PearlyyJayy PearlyyJayy 16-17, F Jan 1

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    Don't Know How To React!

    I'm not going to lie, I love compliments! Who doesn't? It makes me feel good about myself and it makes me happy! But honestly, I take them so badly! Before, I used to reject compliments. E.g Person: "You're really pretty" Me: "No I'm really not" I've realised how wrongly...
    carmenello carmenello 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    It really feels like people are lying to me

    when they compliment me. I just can't see any of it being true.
    awkwardconversations awkwardconversations 13-15, T 1 Response Dec 22, 2015

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    I've gotten compliments over the years,

    but I still can't come to take them well. Depending on the person complimenting, I take it differently, but when my partner does so I just smile, I want to compliment them back, and sometimes I do but I feel as though if I were to compliment them right after they do, they would...
    RandomExistence RandomExistence 16-17, M Oct 28, 2015

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    as in I don't take them at all.

    .one ear and out the other
    Cocrispy Cocrispy 22-25, M Dec 22, 2015

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    Insecure

    Ever since I was a kid, I've never been able to take compliments well. When people compliment me, I always think there is an ulterior motive behind it.  With some of the people, this was the case.  But with many it wasn't.  Another problem was I didn't see how they could see...
    pinkcorsage pinkcorsage 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    I tend to shuck them off,

    but I believe I am getting better at learning to just accept them.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2015

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    I have hard time accepting them.

    I always think they're being sarcastic or they're mocking me somehow. I get PTSD I guess I don't know.
    Bettyr94 Bettyr94 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 23, 2015

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    Yeah, I have terrible trust issues(a story

    for another time) and compliments usually sound fake, like they are making fun of me or something, and having been bullied most of my life, is not a good feeling.Its really hard to explain, I just don't trust a lot of people. Only certain people do I take compliments from in a...
    Eighthook37 Eighthook37 16-17, M Jan 1

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    I can't remember the last time I took any

    compliment anyone gave to me seriously. They tell me that I look okay or it looks cute but I don't know if it's to make me feel better or if they really mean it.
    DiamondsandRoses DiamondsandRoses 16-17, F Dec 23, 2015

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    Trying To

    I like to blame my mother for me not taking compliments well. It's not that she didn't teach me proper manners it is that she has always told me the exact opposite of what an good mother should tell her daughter. I've had a difficult time with it for a while now and have had many...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 19, 2012

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    I Don't Blush. I Cringe.

    Someone I don't know too well, just paid me a compliment about my looks. My reaction: I don't buy it, and immediately dismiss the person as shallow. Depending on who it is, I might tell them I don't. Or I could reply sarcastically. Or I could just wave it away somehow - coming...
    unknownfamiliar unknownfamiliar 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    I don't like when others compliment me

    for my looks. It makes me feel I've nothing but only beauty. And people take interest in me seeing my face. I get uncomfortable receiving compliments on my looks from strangers and men.
    happybubbly happybubbly 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2015

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    I either deny them straight out.

    .... Person: Wow, great shirt! Me: Huh? But it's old, I've worn it plenty of times, how have you not noticed before? Person: You have? Me: Yeah, you are so lying to me. or shamelessly acknowledge the compliment. Person: Aww you look great today! Me: I know right. Person...
    sophiebelle27 sophiebelle27 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2015

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    Speechless

    If you went to insult me i would have a thousand things to say to you, but if you send me a compliment i am speechless.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Never Have, And Probably Never Will...

    It's not that I feel I'm overly modest, it's just that I truly, honestly don't believe it when someone compliments me. I know the logical side of my brain say that what they are saying is probably true, from their perspective, the other, more insecure part of my mind feels that I...
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 19, 2010

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    I am so bad at taking compliments.

    I am never sure what to say so most of the time I will just tell you to shush!
    DocMcSizzle DocMcSizzle 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 18, 2015

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    I'm terrible at accepting compliments.

    It's not that I don't like them. They just don't feel sincere, they feel like very sarcastic and fake.
    chipconyurson chipconyurson 13-15, F Dec 31, 2015

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    According to my very good friend on here.

    ! Not sure what that's all about. Anybody else find it as cringeworthy ?
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2015

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    I Don't Take Compliments Very Well

    Because most of the time I don't believe them.
    DontKnowWhatToDoAboutIt DontKnowWhatToDoAboutIt 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    My Inner Image Doesn'T Match The Outter

    My parents always told me I was pretty or beautiful as I was growing up, but other kids at school made fun of me and degraded my self esteem. I wasn't always accepted for who I was and grew to not like my outside image. Especially as puberty started hitting everyone through the...
    FreeSpirit2012 FreeSpirit2012 22-25, F May 25, 2013

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    Embarrassed By Success

    Former boss came by my desk today to congratulate me on exceeding an important target. Made me uneasy. I feel like the more I succeed the more people secretly want to see me fail. I'm sure it is all in my mind.
    CountessDawn CountessDawn 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 17, 2012

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    Most of the time when someone gives me a

    compliment I think it's out of pity or just a lie I make me feel worse
    bluegirlie98 bluegirlie98 16-17, F Apr 11, 2014

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    I often reply with okay

    and I know when people compliment me because most of the time I don't feel like It's genuine
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 18, 2015

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    I have a hard time responding to compliments

    or believing them. I think I have some trauma around feedback that is positive. I don't like negative feedback either, but when it is complimentary, I either doubt it or just don't know how to gracefully accept it.
    BeBeKitten BeBeKitten 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    I was made fun of as a little kid,

    because I was skinny with frizzy hair and am mixed. Growing up in a very white community makes being different very difficult. So now, I just blush and say thank you and try to move on with the conversation if someone says I'm cute, sexy, hot or pretty. It's even worse when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2015

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    It's not that I don't take compliments well,

    don't get me wrong, they're absolutely wonderful. But, nothing ever feels true. "Youre really beautiful. Your skin is so flawless. You look so good today. Your hair is so beautiful." But on the other side you get put down 10x worse, and the compliments just can't replace what...
    StayGould StayGould 18-21, F Dec 23, 2015

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    He called me beautiful *flips ***** *screams

    into a pillow* *rips sheets off the bed* *flips bed off the box spring* *dies*
    irrelavent irrelavent 16-17, F Dec 4, 2013

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    i realise that i cant take compliments

    which i wouldnt give myself too. so my task is to seeing it positively and being kind to myself.
    energymustmove energymustmove 18-21, F Apr 18, 2015

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    If you ever give my a compliment I'm just going

    to assume it was sacrum or you just said it to make me feel better.
    shaunrain shaunrain 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 17, 2014

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    Because its never really been the norm of my

    life, so I'd I do get a compliment, regardless of the subject of said compliment, I am stymied. I get tongue tied. I stammer out 3 different versions of thank you. 😕
    Handyman25 Handyman25 26-30, M Oct 28, 2015

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    I met this guy online,

    and he gave me lots of compliments, my eyes, my smile, my personality...and after a while, he told me I should really learn how to accept compliments. I agree with him. Anyway, when we went out on a date, that was the first thing he told me. That he was gonna compliment me and...
    lonelydinosaur lonelydinosaur 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 18, 2015

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    Lies!

    I tend to think people are lying or just being polite when they compliment me. It is hard for me to believe anyone has anything nice to say about me. I guess that is what happens when you are critisized daily for 10 years.
    marriedintx marriedintx 31-35, F Sep 11, 2011

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