Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Don't Talk to My Dad

A group for those who have problems talking with their father. 1,484 People

    I think I've cut contact with my dad.

    I haven't told him that yet and so I'm feeling uneasy. But he really doesn't call me or message me at all. He gave me little and made my mother struggle to raise me. She always allowed contact because she thought it was important I knew my father, but now she has asked me not to...
    MadNocturnes MadNocturnes 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I love my dad. I will never be acceptable to

    him. He was proud of me when I had an illustrious job(comparatively), but never since. I have tried to make him happy with me for 38 years, and I give up. I can't be the person he wants me to be. I have bipolar, and managing that is a job in and of itself. I have to live for...
    jollygreen0123 jollygreen0123 36-40, M Mar 13

    Your Response

    Cancel

    When your parents are considerate

    and expect you to achieve good things in your life, that's a good enough reason to keep them in your life. When both or one loves to talk about you behind your back, doubts your abilities or treats you with disrespect, it's time to leave him/her/them behind. For this reason, I...
    dannyjc93 dannyjc93 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 11, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Father

    The last time I spoke to my dad was in 1988. I was 7 years old and can remember all the hospital visits, the ambulance rides, and my mom coming home early from work all the time. My dad's name is Bertrand and he was a great great man. I just wish that I could have spent more time...
    A7X2009 A7X2009 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 28, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He is such an *******.

    .. After stating that I do not need to visit him and have more time with my family.. He now blames me for not visiting him... He never keeps his words and still dares to points fingers at others and insist they too didnt keep their words...
    JNTXY JNTXY 31-35, M Feb 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    my parents spilt when i was about 10,

    now I'm 16. I used to see my dad once in a while, but now i havent seen him for about 7 months. Im extremely angry with him because of all the suffering he put us through and whenever i see him we have an argument but I realised I miss him. He tries contacting me but i changed...
    zeebud zeebud 16-17, F Mar 21

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I hate my dad to the max.

    He is not even worth to be called a man. Not able to keep his own promises and willing is willing to sacrifice his own family member for his glory.. **** Off
    JNTXY JNTXY 31-35, M Jan 5

    Your Response

    Cancel

    And you wouldn't either

    if you were me!- He was literally the bane of my childhood! My mother left him when I was very young about 4 with my little sister and signed affidavit granting permission for us to take up habitual residence within the United States. 4 years later his lies would lead to a...
    VillaVuka VillaVuka 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 17, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I love my dad so much

    and so does he but the problem is he get excited for small things and starts to become nasty. Then after being nasty, he starts smiling, have a calm voice and be apologetic (depends on the situation though). Mum says that i shouldn't mind what he says when he gives out because...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jan 5, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I don't talk to my dad anymore the last time I

    talked to him was last year. He was never really in my life the last time I saw him I was 6. For my 18th birthday he actually sent me a birthday present, it was a DVD with pictures of holidays he spent with his adopted kids and his wife. It made me so sad that he can do so much...
    princesskatara princesskatara 22-25, F Apr 16, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    i dont talk to my dad i dont

    even no my dad i was told he died when i was 2 but wasnt told how he died and my mom doesn't even have any pictures of him.
    Becca1369 Becca1369 13-15, F Jan 3

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have a tough choice to make.

    He broke the law in tracking me down and turned up at my door. He asked if he could come in, I refused. He said that he wanted to make things right and said he wanted me to have his winning lottery ticket. This is a man who has previously beaten me and my mother to suicide. My...
    turntimeback turntimeback 18-21, F Jan 5

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Dreamt of my father of him hacking into my phone

    and read my private messages with my online friends..... Scary nightmare...
    theyellowpage theyellowpage 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 3

    Your Response

    Cancel

    i used to think my dad was perfect,

    he's so clever, he's a teacher in an university, he does chemistry maths and stuff, but I moved to Spain and haven't seen him in 5 years :/ I've never lived with him my mum has done all for me she even works cleaning bathrooms and floors :'( I love her she's so strong, she has 3...
    TheBelovedMan TheBelovedMan 22-25, M Dec 15, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Homeboy got on down when me

    and my brother and sister was young so I say **** em done deal
    marvel901jones marvel901jones 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 18, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My father wasn't around often,

    but even when he was, it was like he was a ghost. Most of the time he spent either on his computer or in the game room watching TV and drinking. I knew he could be an awful person, but I never really knew the full extent until I got older. He would get drunk and be...
    Grant0306 Grant0306 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 2, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He always blames things on everyone else.

    He isnt a Rolemodel whatsoever. He treats women terribly and he always finds a way to put me down. People think I'm cruel that i dont want a relationship with him. But if you went through what i went through, you'd understand why. I was beaten for putting water in the cat food...
    gxddesss gxddesss 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 21

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So today I was at work

    and it was pretty steady, not busy but not slow. I saw someone in my line and realised it was my dad... Preparing for a reunion of sorts with him when I noticed him (because I hadn't seen him in years) he finally got to the front of the line and I just said "hello" very nervous...
    lifeisnottoobad lifeisnottoobad 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 21, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I stopped talking to my dad

    when i was 10 because he left me and my mom then i found him again when i was 19 and 2 months later he died.
    Tessa3 Tessa3 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 4, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He ruined my life in

    so many ways. Violent, dishonest, selfish, ignorant, stubborn, treats his wife like a slave...always sides with others against his family saying nasty things and yelling at us to make others happy, emotionally and mentally abusive towards me and even worse with Mum...The type of...
    2095TwistedTransistor3684 2095TwistedTransistor3684 31-35, F Oct 24, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I used to like my dad,

    but later it became clear that he loves my sister a lot more than me. Even my mom noticed it, but my dad keeps denying it and gets angry if i tell him how I feel about it. He starts throwing things and yell at me. But he is trying to talk to...
    Tiffjoy Tiffjoy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Daddy

    My father and I were never close. I never thought it was strange until I saw other fathers interacting with their children. He would just come home from work, eat, and watch TV. He wasn't abusive or cruel, just absent. Growing up, I started to hate him. I felt lost, as a young...
    jusydeadnotsleeping jusydeadnotsleeping 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 24, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Dear Dad

    Your horrible. Rude. a pervert. and pure evil but the times you did show love is the reason i miss you. Its all so messed up... Ill never get the answers im searching for as to why my dad wants to have sex with me or why he doesnt love.me but i made it this long without him. In...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 5, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I remember my dad was living with my mom

    and I when I was younger, one day he went to Brazil and he hasn't came back. Maybe my mom still talks to him though, I've never heard his voice again.
    itstiago itstiago 13-15, M 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    thisISalessa thisISalessa 16-17, F Dec 2, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    When I was young he left my brother ,

    my mom and me. My mom started hating everything and being a horrible person. She would insult me and beat me and my brother. My dad tried to come back once and asked for money but ma and my brother ignored him. He tore our family apart
    EverWinter EverWinter 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I haven't spoken to my father in almost four

    years. I saw him a few days ago and ran in the other direction before he noticed me. We do not get along and probably never will and while other people have pressured me to fix things, I like things just the way they are. It's sad but since we haven't spoken, times have been...
    Mr718 Mr718 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 18, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So when my parents were in high-school,

    my mother met this guy. He was the cool guy all the girls wanted to be with. This guy was the cool guy with the truck, and my mom fell for him. He was her first everything. My mom was a good teen, she really never had money, her mom always got beat, and she had many siblings...
    beautifulsoul8 beautifulsoul8 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 27, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am one of the fathers you guys do not want to

    talk to. And here is my side of the story: I separated from my wife when my daughter was 8 years old. Until that time, I was very involved in my daughter's life. I did all the things that all dads do with their children, and perhaps even more. I took my daughter for skiing...
    papadiet papadiet 51-55, M 2 Responses Mar 2, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I remember when I was little

    and my dad would come to visit once every 2 years. He used to get us a hotel and not get 2 beds I remember being scared that he would rape me at some point and he always liked the fact that I was thick unlike my mother which is very skinny so he would always grab my thighs. I...
    AllysaLee AllysaLee 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 22

    Your Response

    Cancel

    After creating so many problems in my family.

    .. He still wants to interfere... Asking me to get everyone together and he wants to settle and makes sure everyone know what is their positions.. See that.. 'Their positions'... Not himself included.. Not sure what he is doing.. Still pointing fingers at everyone accept himself...
    JNTXY JNTXY 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 9

    Your Response

    Cancel

    We do talk when we have to

    but we just don't get along very well. We never agree on anything and we argue about everything so we just don't converse much. Even as a kid I've never liked him and used to wish he'd be more like the other dads I'd see picking up their kids after school. You know, like be a...
    Mariyah22 Mariyah22 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 26

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He has been gone since I was 6

    but he tried to stay in our lives. He moved back to Alberta while we were in Manitoba. After about a year or two he just stopped talking to us. We became Facebook friends and we talked again but one day I posted a status about something to do with my mom, kind of joking around...
    JustThat6irl JustThat6irl 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 22, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Never Had The Chance

    Thank you dad Eventhough u weren't around to watch me grow , I find alot of my traits come from you.. I turned out great I wish u could see the little bit of you there is in me. I will never understand why you abandoned me  Or y I wasn't important enough to pursue, I will never...
    Cerxx Cerxx 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 5, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How to get my narcissistic dad to stop

    harassing me and my family..
    JNTXY JNTXY 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 3

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It is always funny when your dad threatens to

    strangle you and then ship you off to your home country to get married to a forty year old *********. Little does that naive old man know that this worthless piece of s**t is going to get a law degree and land his *** in jail :))
    ayeshaketchum ayeshaketchum 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    my parents got divorced

    when I was younger then my dad went to jail and basically I hadn't seen him for like 3 years and I has barely spoken to him, even when he got out we didn't see each other or anything like that. I used to be a daddy's girl so when I had first gotten the news that he went to jail...
    youcantbeserious youcantbeserious 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 1

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I do not see him as my father,

    yes he had sex with my mom and made me, everyone can do that but to actually be a father is a completely diffrent thing. Not having any contact with me until i was 7, just because he had another daugher and son, i was not seen as a child of his. Then he had a seizure and a...
    EverythingAndAnything EverythingAndAnything 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I don't talk to my dad

    for many reasons. 1 he is an ignorant abusive ****. when I was just a baby my mother would sleep around and my dad would find out about it so he would beat her. I asked him why he beat on my mother and that's what he told me. when me and my brothers we're just kids around 6 and...
    Just1OriginalMe Just1OriginalMe 22-25 3 Responses Feb 4

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Don't Want To Either

    I haven't spoken to my father in eight years or so. I have no wish to speak to him again in my life. My life, as ****** as it is right now, would only be worse if he were in it.
    roningy roningy 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 21, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Bad Dad

    When I was younger my dad abused us physically and mentally. My mom had to call the cops to get him out of the house when I was 7. Untill 9-6-13 I still saw him, he yelled at me to the point I cried. He gave me the guilt trip, which was how he controlled us before, so it hit me...
    Missy3210 Missy3210 13-15, F Nov 17, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He sexually abused me

    and made me a slave, passing me around to his other children who also abused me and their uncles from the time I was six till my mom left him for other reasons when I was ten. She took her children with her and I've never seen or spoken to him since.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 5, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Who Are You?

    Dear Dad: I don't know you! You were gone most of my life, and I realized you knew where I was you just didn't decide to visit.  You blame my grandmother, but if you really wanted to be part of my life, you would've overcome any obstacles to get to me. ...
    Th3D0ct0r Th3D0ct0r 26-30 9 Responses Nov 10, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I talked to my dad today about what Happened

    the other day with him not realising I was his daughter (I served him at my work and he didn't no who I was) he had the guts to say "it's not my fault I didn't realise it was you. You don't make any effort to come and see me so how should I know who you are?" At that moment I...
    lifeisnottoobad lifeisnottoobad 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Even Call Him David

    Some times i feel like wearing a huge "TALK TO ME" sign like the one in this group's profile pic only that mine would also have "CANT U SEE ME U FOOL!!"  It is very frustrating to talk to someone who barely notices ur presence trust me i have tried. He doesn't live with us...
    ufutaa ufutaa 18-21, F 2 Responses May 21, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am glad I do not talk to my father,

    he is a terrible person. I would rather say he is dead than tell you what he has done.
    Disqualify Disqualify 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 26, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Let Go ...

    This man helped bring me into this world but he would later shatter my world into tiny pieces. He done unimaginable things ... things you shouldn't do to a child, or anyone for that matter. I loved him though ... he was my father and to be honest with you i knew no different, i...