I Dont Think Marriage Is Necessarily the Answer to Happiness

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    People say marriage is

    for sanctity and security and blah blah blah. That hasn't stopped half of the population from getting divorced and the other half from staying together. If it wasn't for certain tax benefits, I'd never get married. A ring doesn't make things any more stable in a relationship.
    deleted deleted
    Mar 17, 2015

    I'm not saying that I won't marry again.

    It's awfully difficult doing it all by myself after all. Being married is work though and it's not all it's cracked up to be. It's often not fun but when you find someone who wants to be with you even when things are bad it's comforting and special. I shouldn't comment on the...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Jan 4, 2016

    If you are getting married in the hopes

    that this person will make you happy then you are getting married for the wrong reasons. You should marry someone that you want to make happy, because in turn that will make you feel happy. The answer to happiness is found in two things in my experience. The innocence of a...
    tstanley2014 tstanley2014
    31-35, M
    Apr 24, 2014

    Never Again

    I wouldn't ever do it again...I have two beautiful children that I wouldn't trade for the world, but the crap that goes along with being married to someone, I coulda lived without.  Giving yourself to someone, completely, and having them push you away is a slow, painful...
    tms1 tms1
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 16, 2009

    Its Only a Piece of Paper

    I've been married and now divorced, I'm not bitter about it at all, and don't entirely disagree with the whole concept of marriage, however, if you're in a relationship and feel the need to take it that one step further because it's deemed the next step to take, my view is 'if it...
    weeyin weeyin
    31-35, F
    Jun 27, 2009

    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    thunder0 thunder0
    26-30, M
    Dec 9, 2013

    Not A Happiness Pill, In And Of Itself

    Ahh, romantic love!  How blissfully sweet and intoxicating it is at first.  The trees break at once into blossom, and the birds come and sit on them . . . and you fling your arms around your partner's neck, and kiss her/him.  Having children and raising a family...
    UnderEli UnderEli
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Aug 28, 2010

    I don't think I will ever get married.

    I have serious misgivings about it. When I have told people some of my thoughts and experiences I often hear them say that I haven't met the "one" yet and that when I do I will want to get married, change my last name, cook, clean, have kids, even stop working etc. WTF. I hope...
    iamherenow13 iamherenow13
    36-40, F
    Nov 29, 2013

    My ex' grandmother once commented

    that women especially usually seek a glitzy perfect wedding because they want to emulate that "being a princess" moment we're they're the centre of attention - even for just a day. But is that ostentatious and terribly expensive moment needed to officially seal your future and...
    PeterSp8 PeterSp8
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    Do Not Get Married ...

    If you are not in love. I know so many people who got married just to scape loneliness, and they are miserable. It's like jumping into a hole
    LordVoldemort LordVoldemort
    36-40, F
    13 Responses Apr 5, 2009

    There's a girl I know

    who got married recently and she seems to take offense or think people are stupid whenever they say they don't want to get married, which is very close minded to say the least. Realistically, I think people should just do whatever the hell makes them happy. And if they don't...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 13, 2015

    Actually i think being married is pointless.

    .. Whats the point it only makes you feel worse when they cheat, lie or just straight up leave you it is stupid if that is happiness then watching depressing movies or just the plain boring ones is better...
    otakugamerwolf otakugamerwolf
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Feb 13, 2015

    I learnt that marriage helps stabilize the

    society in my sociology class, but I feel like it's a piece of contract between two ppl sometimes :(
    SweetumsTheCat SweetumsTheCat
    26-30, F
    Mar 17, 2015

    It Is A Stop-over/companion Not A Destination

      Marriage for me, is something that either happens or not. If i meet 'the one' today,i'll jump on the wagon. If not,i'll be happily unmarried. I'd rather be single than married in bondage. Thats just me. Thank God my mum will never see this post. lol!
    mocha39 mocha39
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Oct 23, 2009

    A Ceremony and a Ring...

    does not happiness make. Dedication does...and that doesn't mean you have to be married to get that.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 18, 2009

    The wedding. Be it large small fancy

    or even po dunk is the end of a great romance. Sex lives until I do. No one want to have sex with a relative per say. Love as long as you love. Death due us part is so unrealistic for most. The heartbreaking life altering break up divorce is so costly both monetary and mentality...
    lovemeback lovemeback
    Jul 15, 2015

    I can't imagine myself being married to anyone

    and becoming a wife. It doesn't sound like me at all ! I don't have the willpower to settle down and commit to someone for long term. The only responsibility I m willing to bear is raising my kids. I will have one kid at least in the future, either from adoption or...
    thousandcuts thousandcuts
    26-30, F
    Sep 13, 2015

    No I Don't....

    I don't think that marriage is necessarily to happiness, I don't think you need to have a piece of paper signed by someone to be happy. I don't think that anyone needs to be married to be happy. I think that if you are happy alone, than you shouldn't have to worry about getting...
    deleted deleted
    May 24, 2009

    Been There, Done That

    I got married on a whim in my mid 20's. The only thing marriage did for our relationship was make it more complicated to leave him when he started stealing money from me and couldn't keep a job. It was more like adopting a child than being in an equal partnership. if anything the...
    JannaK75 JannaK75
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Aug 9, 2009

    I don't think I know anybody

    that is happily married and no, I don't spend my time with the participants on The Jeremy Kyle Show, nor do I socialise exclusively at a women's refuge.
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    1 Response Dec 30, 2015

    We r raised to believe things in life go in a

    certain order n marriage is just another one of those things thats expected from us. in order to achieve happiness these things have to happen. though I will never ever regret what my marriage has brought me, the 6 most beautiful souls in the world., I do regret the person I...
    sixtens sixtens
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 13, 2015

    Marriage, I'm sure, has its good points.

    .. but ya have ta really work at it every day... two people are building a garden space of life, and adding to it... yeah, marriage is good... but it's not the end-all be-all of happiness.
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71
    41-45, M
    Apr 24, 2014

    Irritated I am not sure how I feel about this.

    My ex husband is getting married again. I actually feel pretty good about that. Apparently my kids "new mommy and little sister" (as I like to refer to them) are really great. Their 'new mom' bought them all shoes and showed my son how to tie a scarf. She's a real fashionista...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jan 24, 2016

    In the future I think I wont get married.

    I don't want to get married. I can't explain why but I feel a hole inside me. In my soul I feel wounded. I keep thinking to myself probably marriage is not for me. I already have someone I want to marry. It is risky but I am sure it will never happen. Perhaps if I stay alone...
    NoobLove NoobLove
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 2, 2014
    Lilmomma1617 Lilmomma1617
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2014

    Marriage Is A Poorly Written Contract

    As someone who has been married for fourteen years but separated for the last two, I can testify to the fact that marriage is no guarantee of happiness. We split over the issue of children ( I wanted, he decided he didn't) after several years of unhappiness. I recently had a...
    janec319 janec319
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Dec 10, 2010

    It's Overrated!

    ...When I was a little girl I swore to my momma I would never get married. I wanted to have a baby, and a lover and that's it! No strings, no committment, no contract, no bond. Ok, I am a product of a divorce family and I am witnesss to how abusive men can be. My father beat...
    chie5189 chie5189
    3 Responses May 14, 2012

    ....the Katie Holmes F/X

    As I look back over the couple of weeks to hear the startling news about both Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes getting a divorce. I am sadden, realistic, and understanding that "Marriage is not necessarily the answer 2 happiness" its true! Wow, who would have ever thought that Katie...
    chie5189 chie5189
    Jul 10, 2012
    FatAlly FatAlly
    36-40, F
    Mar 1, 2014

    sometimes its better to be just alone

    than to be with someone whom you can't stand to be with. </3
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    1 Response Aug 22, 2014

    This is a GREAT article!

    !! http://thephilosophersmail.com/relationships/how-we-end-up-marrying-the-wrong-people/ Where can I go and find potential mates that are willing to be evaluated and I'll be evaluated too!
    Orangerocket Orangerocket
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 12, 2015

    I Agree...but As A Woman It Makes Me So Much Easier To Walk Away From, I Think Open Relationship?

    I don't believe in marriage, but as I"m getting older and watching everyone around me get married it's making me start to feel conscious of not having any rights to anything if I want to get traded in for a younger model. I've never felt this way before, I've always been self...
    nyclostandconfused nyclostandconfused
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 3, 2010

    i do not believe why people here in india

    believe that marriage is the only destination of a girls life, for me if a girl is self capable to handle her life and the consequences in it there are not any compulsions for her to be tied up with a man. and above all the most stupid thing is arranged marriage, you do not know...
    Ahaanaa Ahaanaa
    16-17, F
    Feb 14, 2015

    My Answer To Happiness

    Marriage is not the answer to anything except marriage. The my answer to happiness is having a good time with my friends.
    Kid5252 Kid5252
    18-21, F
    Apr 13, 2013


    marrage dont make people happy it dont slolve problems eather . but iam happly married
    lunnas lunnas
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 17, 2009

    100 % of Divorces Are a Result of Being Married

    I've never been married, I can't be.. but I've been close.  I've also known people my age in their early 30s that are now on their 3rd or 4th marriages.  At that point, just STOP... don't get married again,  just hook up, have sex, date for a while, whatever, just...
    BlasphemousAngel BlasphemousAngel
    31-35, M
    7 Responses Jun 23, 2009

    Not Everything Or Anyone Has To Follow The Same Path

    marriage, love, romance, i hear it day by day, person to person, year by year. this word marriage is quite a large word seeing that its been happening throughout my entire life and also how its changing the environment that i live in. people are changing, people are growing...
    jonnyronny jonnyronny
    18-21, M
    Aug 28, 2010

    My Honest Truth!

    Sure, I would like to get married someday. But, I would be lying if I said it was the forefront of my thoughts and dreams! :-o I think it's a genetic want of every girl in the world, to dream of her wedding day, of being a faithful wife to a faithful husband, owning a house...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 18, 2009

    Never Planned One...

    When I was a kid, I played with barbies but never did I plan my wedding through them. Even as I got older, I still didn't care about marriage. My friend's parents have been happily together for 20+ years. My boyfriend's parents have been together for 20+ years. If you truly love...
    thebookaholic thebookaholic
    22-25, F
    Sep 19, 2013

    Marraiage Is Just A Peace Of Paper

    Like many things in this world not worth the paper it is written on. Yes, had a Marriage license, but we knew it was just a piece of paper for others to see when we got married at the age of 13 you were the sex on your birth paperwork it did not consider the few children who...
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2
    61-65, M
    May 23, 2012

    Marriage Is Not Important To Me!

    Marriage is not something I think about particularly, I was never one of those children who played wedding, it has never been high on my list of priorities.  I am not against it and if it was important to the person I loved then I would compromise.  I just don't see...
    eelarc eelarc
    26-30, F
    Feb 27, 2010

    It Isn't

    Before you get mixed up in a relationship you should be happy with who you are and life first.
    Arorin Arorin
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Feb 12, 2010
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