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I Don't Understand Love

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    When I was a kid, people would ask me if I loved my family, and I sometimes had a hard time answering them.  I just didn't know.  I loved my dad, but my mom and my brother would make my life a living hell.  How can you love someone when every memory...
    SeraphicWannabe SeraphicWannabe 22-25, M 3 Responses Oct 30, 2008

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    It's a complex emotion

    that I can only say I've felt it for my parents and grandparents and even then it was a respectful admiration. I feel no sense of connection to my brother and that doesn't bother me. Romantic love escapes me and I've only had passing fancies that leave me wondering what I was...
    BrokenBeauty301 BrokenBeauty301 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2014

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    I Don't Understand

    I don't understand, I try to be kind and loving, but it always backfires. My kindness it always taken for weakness. I talk to my girlfriend all the time and I try to be as open as possible with my feelings and try to get her to communicate the same way with me. And I'm getting to...
    Donlicknobody Donlicknobody 18-21 1 Response Oct 5, 2012

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    I Don't Have Any Desire To Understand It, Either...

    Love is an emotion that defies logic or explanation...and that's just the way I like it. I love just because I feel close to another human being, or pursuit, or object...not because I think that I Should Be obliged to love.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 3, 2010

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    Do You Know What It Means To Be In Love?

    Does anyone out there know what it feels like? I’m dead serious. I’ve been asking myself this question over the past few days and I can not get an answer that makes sense to me and my logical side. See, I’m a child of the 80s (ok I was born in the 70s), and I remember...
    jeweltonedstate jeweltonedstate 36-40 1 Response Nov 29, 2012

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    Definition Of Love?

    Love is meeting the needs or satisfaction of oneself, any person, object or animal by responding with much interest where one smiles in happiness and is personally attached.
    wendu44 wendu44 18-21, F Nov 14, 2012

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    ????

    I don't understand love at all! it's so freaking confusing. I mean there's different kinds of love, like the love or lack there of for your family, it's expected that you love them because they're your family but you don't necessarily have to love them, i know i certainly don't...
    musicqueen musicqueen 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 31, 2009

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    My Thorn

    I don't get it. I want to feel love I long for it, but at the same time I'm afraid. I don't know what to do. Maybe I'm afraid of girls? I've been in relationships befor and I always ended them when they started getting deep. Then I would hide under my cover in my room and cry...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 12, 2009

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    There Should Be More People In This Group

      I don't think that I will ever understand love even though it is the feeling, the belief that all cultures and religions share even though they will strongly refute it when faced with it. It is a very precious gift, one often misused and one that is unable...
    Dormantdrakon Dormantdrakon 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2009

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    Is Romantic Love Sustainable?

    So confused about romantic love nowadays. Too many mind games, too many liars. At some point, I don't give a damn and play with others. But in the end, I want to be with someone who cares. Yet, is it even possible to find someone who likes me as much as I like him? Someone as...
    ladyrosa ladyrosa 22-25, F Sep 9, 2012

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    Happiness In Life

    There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved
    wendu44 wendu44 18-21, F Nov 14, 2012

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    What Does It Mean?

    I loved her. She said she loved me. Then one day she left with no explanation. Did she stop loving me? Did she ever really love me in the first place? I was angry and hurt, but that passed and I find I still have feelings for her. Is it even possible to just stop loving someone...
    CosmoLang CosmoLang 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2012

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    I Don't Believe You Can

    Love is ridiculous It defies logic It doesn't make any sense It is something you can never understand Think you do and you don't know what it is But it is beautiful It is amazing It is the most wonderful thing a person will feel
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 4, 2010

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    Is it because I've never had relationships with

    anyone, much less even really thought of anyone in that way...? Usually, all that happens in the end is one or the other getting hurt, so why even bother?
    Suisen Suisen 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 4, 2014

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    Fear Of Love

    Sometimes I feel like I should just give myself wholly to lust, because deep down I fear that love will never find me again ?
    wendu44 wendu44 18-21, F Nov 8, 2012

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    Happiness In Life

    There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved
    wendu44 wendu44 18-21, F Nov 14, 2012

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    Types Of Love

      Well, I have read many of other stories on this, and most people use the term "love" as in "in love" with someone else. I am confused on what love is, also in different ways.  I have had friends tell me that they love me, and some people who I...
    nicolian131 nicolian131 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2010

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    So a friend of mine keeps treating me like a

    true romance is coming from us and she then turns around and goes on about her 'one true love' and how she has already found it, but it's not me. she's polyamorous, but I don't understand how you can have one true love, yet give all your love to another person romantically.
    SorceressSupreme2 SorceressSupreme2 22-25, F May 8

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    What's the big deal about it?

    Why do people place such importance on the three words, 'I love you'? It's not as if anyone actually knows, for sure, what love is. It's an intangible thing, that only exists when..almost, when we want it to.. But just cos you think you're in love..doesn't mean you actually are...
    loveyourselfalwaysxx loveyourselfalwaysxx 13-15, F Oct 1, 2014

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    It has never happened to me- I have never

    fallen in love. I have been attracted to some girls and they turned out be minor crushes, but I never pursued those interests. I always- SIMPLY LET IT GO. That's why, I've never been able to understand the concept of love at all. Maybe, someday I will. But, I won't really take...
    TheAverageIdiot TheAverageIdiot 16-17, M Aug 23, 2014

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    Illusion Or Real ...

    After I had been waiting for such a long time to be in his arms again .. Here it comes .. After a week we had been together .. so many nice things so many sad memories .. so many stupid arguments just gradually happen to us .. Now Im alone in my room trying to find out the answer...
    DollyDiva DollyDiva 26-30, F 15 Responses Jan 3, 2010

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    This Is What Love Is....

    hormones neutrophins and dopamine. and a very interesting delusion.
    corbin00 corbin00 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 1, 2012

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    I Just Dont

    I love someone, kind of....It's Luce, you see. Read some of my other stories and you'll understand a bit better.But I look around me and see all these people in love, destroying their lives and themselves over it, and it just makes no sense to me. Why live for anyone else? Why...
    TessaDarling TessaDarling 18-21, F Mar 30, 2012

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    I've studied sociology,

    anthropology, psychology and biochemistry and I don't think I'll ever get it. I've experienced infatuation and lust but love..... Nope. I'm not sure it's more than a construct of the media at this point. It's one hell of a marketing tool, anyway It's raining balls here, light...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 24

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    I honestly don't understand love anymore,

    maybe I'm just young for it right now, but with the experiences I've had, I wasn't so happy with it... at one point I was happy while I was dating my ex, but then he left me without a reason. I was depressed for a year, then I met someone else who I thought would make me happy...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 7, 2014

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    Just Let The Love In 2 Your Life

    I don't understand people who said this!! If they only let the people in to their life who love them,then they would see that there is nothing 2 worry about
    memyself4u memyself4u 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 15, 2013

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