I Don't Understand "Want"-goals

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    I Just Don't Get It..

    I noticed that a lot of people have goals like "I want a better marriage", "I want to be a better person" etc etc. And wouldn't that mean, that your goal is to want a better marriage etc. I mean it's not your goal to want something.. The goal would be "I...
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    8 Responses Feb 27, 2008


    it just like a spot on a board all you can do is obsess over it and not focus on the fact if its actually a good goal. So if you want people to notice your "want" goal just add in experiences then I will not go ODC on you, hopefully.
    cherryblossomshinigami4 cherryblossomshinigami4
    16-17, F
    Jan 20, 2009

    Second-Order Desire

    The only way in which a "want" goal could be correct is if it were echoing a second-order desire. Instead of wanting to see (insert band here) live or wanting to quit (smoking/alcohol), it would mean that you don't really want to see that band live (but you'd want to...
    zeligocity zeligocity
    22-25, M
    1 Response Aug 24, 2008


     I simply have never understood this society of ours which encourages greed. It appears that there are people who can never be satisfied with what they've got. They need two, three, four houses, or the biggest house money can buy, big cars, a boat, several vehicles, several...
    montarlot montarlot
    61-65, F
    1 Response Nov 28, 2009

    The Way I Always Percieved It...

    I always assumed things that it would make sense in the following scenario:   Group is titled "I want to read poetry". Goal is to write poetry. Therefore, person says essentially, "I want to want to read poetry." My conclusion: "Wow, this person...
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    Feb 28, 2008

    This Is So Annoying!

    This has annoyed me since I first started on EP. I always wondered if there was a group for this!
    chelswildflower chelswildflower
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 5, 2009

    I'm Not Alone In This!

    a person wants in the present tense. for instance, right now i want a cookie. if i wanted, i could go join a group entitled "i want a cookie". because i do. but if i listed "i want a cookie" as a goal, that would really mean "i am making it a goal to...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Feb 27, 2008

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