I Dont Understand Why Men Cheat When They Already Have It All

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    The Ten Thousand Pleasures

    there is an ancient proverb to satisfy ten thousand desires or to conquer desire itself just once all are faced with this challenge in life... all are bound by the destiny of the three sacred rings of old first there is the engagement ring then there is the wedding ring and...
    41-45, M
    8 Responses Jan 15, 2011

    I Don't Understand Either

    But, this goes for both sides since some women are guilty of the same thing.
    Tummie Tummie
    26-30, M
    16 Responses Aug 6, 2008


    When someone cheats, it means they don't have it all cause if they did, they wouldn't cheat.Many people have everything that others wish they would have and yet, they cheat and sometimes they end up losing everything for it.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    Feb 1, 2011

    Cheating - Why?

    Why do men cheat (or women for that matter)?  I do not know.  However, it is a fallacy to say that because they are married they have it all.  They have most things (both material and not material) but nobody, that I know, has it all.  As was pointed out in an...
    nudeinva nudeinva
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Jan 3, 2009

    I Dont Understand

    I dont know why. I just dont understand why men go out and cheat when they have women who love them waiting for them at home. I dont know for certain if my husband has ever properly cheated, but he has sent inappropriate texts and gotten nude pictures on his phone from a girl, so...
    poppyjoy poppyjoy
    22-25, F
    Aug 23, 2013

    Shell Seekers

    The sign on the beach says... "leave nothing but footprints and take nothing but your memories..." But, there they go... men and women with pockets, bags and buckets full and ratteling with their new found bounty of treasures from the shore... Shells Because that is what men...
    nobbybob nobbybob
    61-65, M
    Oct 3, 2013

    So Do I..

    Many times I have seen guys lose it all. A great wife, great home, great children. But they just want more on the side and refuse to grow up. A friend of mine did just that and come over a lot of times to get sympathy from me. I got so sick of the "I must end this affair...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 26, 2011

    I Know He Wont Change But I Keep Trying

    Ive been with my husband for 9 years. Married for three. We have a two year old and 6 month old. When i was 16, i dumped him to explore other options becasue he thought we were in love but he was 19 and i felt i needed more experience so in a matter of a few montha i got it and...
    rockrockalittle rockrockalittle
    4 Responses Oct 20, 2013

    Wasted Time

    Married a man with nothing but treated me n my kids like gold. Time goes on things start getting wierd. I cook EVERYDAY, desert too. Keep laundry done. Give him his useless kid ally money. He cheats. And cheats. And lies and lies. Its been 10 yrs and im done. If i could go back...
    tszer200 tszer200
    51-55, F
    Sep 17, 2013

    Some Dont Have It All

    And what is it all anyway? A wife, a kid, a mortgage.. Is that what it all is? Sometimes they don't have what they need, sometimes what they thought they needed disappears. People's needs change all the time. Sometimes it's not them that change, sometimes it's the wife...
    deleted deleted
    16 Responses Jan 3, 2009

    Do Women "program" Men To Cheat?

    I'm married 25 years this month. We have two sons and we still love each other dearly. But we have reached a point in our relationship where sex has become routine, a little dull. The measure of passion and intimacy has declined to a level where we know something is missing in...
    Doma99 Doma99
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Jul 13, 2012

    Because Men And Women Are Inherently Non-monogamous

    Unfortunately in this culture a great many people practice serial monogamy, constantly moving from spouse to spouse, leaving behind broken families and hearts. With the divorce rate at about 54%, clearly the concept of til death do us part, simply doesn't work. 150 yrs ago...
    OldPolyMan OldPolyMan
    61-65, M
    Oct 3, 2012

    Sheer Selfishness And Self Conceit

    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 10, 2011

    My Two Cents

    I think men cheat because they can only enjoy the love they received, when women enjoy the love they give.
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses Jul 6, 2012

    A Little Intrigued...

    Cheating when they have it all... Is this not the very reason for groups like "I am not a TYPICAL SEX OBSESSED MALE" ?
    Floydian Floydian
    26-30, M
    64 Responses Jan 3, 2009

    That Is The Problem

    when you think you are the alland it is not just men it is females just as muchwhen you stop talking and trying to please the other it is overthere is no all you work each day
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2
    61-65, M
    Aug 12, 2012

    I can only speak from experience on

    why I think men cheat. We allow them to manipulate us because of our inadequacies and low self esteem. Sounds bad but true. How many times do you check the mirror before existing the house or car. Most women feel imperfect and all people are imperfect but women are key drivers...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 9, 2014

    Riddle me this, why do men cheat with a lesser

    version of you. That's what I don't understand about men. Strippers, *******, hoes, these are always the type of women they will cheat on you with. It's sad
    Zeita75 Zeita75
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2015

    You have a golden chicken meant

    for you in front of your ******* face yet you still search for other foods placed on the table.
    SweeterThanToblerone SweeterThanToblerone
    16-17, F
    Jan 23, 2015

    Dont Buy Into Fairytales

    "Having it all" is an illusion, a fairytale. Humans, by nature are too complex to feel content in every aspect of there life all the time. Just because the other half of a relationship thinks everything is going great, doesn't mean it is. There are some things we internalize that...
    starlesscatharsis starlesscatharsis
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Dec 12, 2012

    Either Way

    Is it because men are really born polygamous? or They can never be really satisfied with what they have?
    1PrincessKai 1PrincessKai
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Apr 27, 2011

    I Seemed Like The Whole Package

    i was the lady at the lunch table that always said her husband would never cheat. he wasnt raised that way. boy was i naive....i found out 2 months ago that my husband had cheated on me. i feel like every morning i wake up i relive that it is really true all over again. its a...
    bulldogsmom bulldogsmom
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jun 9, 2012

    I agree with this your wife should be your

    everything your best friend and you bond with sex I have no idea why am one with cheat
    sirnatural sirnatural
    41-45, M
    1 Response Feb 3, 2016

    I really do not understand cheating either

    as I have been happy with the same beautiful lady for the past 21 years. I have not had any urges to find another or have more than one. However, that brings up another thought, we do not own another person and if we really accept that then cheating probably will not take place...
    cpguy cpguy
    46-50, M
    Feb 4, 2016

    a man will cheat for two reasons only,

    1 he feels like doing it and 2, there is always someone out there who facilitates a cheating man. no one is born monogamous but no one is born promiscuous also, everything is a choice even when it's an illness, you just have a little less control over it than others but with help...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 13, 2016

    If i dont remember wrong the percentage of women

    who cheated were higher Than men, atleast in america.
    darkspiritwolf darkspiritwolf
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 4, 2016

    There Is No Room...................

    My interest was to say that NOT ME, I do understand the statement...I do understand why they cheat....at least for me. Now these notes say, why are you writing, this doesn't apply to you. I think that play of words is what I was going to say anyway.  Life is not a go...
    Lou2012 Lou2012
    70+, M
    6 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    Same Reason Wifes Also Cheat

    guess they think the grass is greener some place else or they were both just using the others and there are still shopping true love is very rare and with out it nothing stays for ever ture love never ends as you never stopping working to please the other
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2
    61-65, M
    Nov 10, 2011
    smcmahan smcmahan
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Mar 12, 2014

    Well Here Goes Nothin...

    First things first, let me just put this out there... I am in a committed relationship. Engaged in fact. I'm 99% sure he'll never marry me and I'm fully aware that after 5 and a half years that I am the only one still in love. I've always loved love. After the first few weeks...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Oct 17, 2013

    Why Aren't They Happy?

    Do they think that there is something that they are missing? To have it all, wife that loves you and kids that wnat you around, house, great job.   Why oh why is there a need to cheat? What could they possibly want that they can't get at home?
    mtvlm mtvlm
    41-45, M
    21 Responses May 22, 2009

    What a Tangled Web We Weave.

    As far as I'm aware (and I could be wrong),I haven't been cheated on,but I have seen second hand what it does to other people. I don't condone it at all. People can tell me to stop being so righteous,but I really have no respect whatsoever for people who have a steady...
    orangeblossom89 orangeblossom89
    18-21, F
    Aug 7, 2008

    Shouldn't Have Joined.

    Men don't have it all and they want it all. That excited flush of sexual excitement fades after awhile. For some people, it mellows into something, warm and sensual. But some people crave that new exciting feeling of a new person. An exciting encounter. It's never gonna be...
    TeresasTears TeresasTears
    61-65, F
    5 Responses Oct 2, 2013
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