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I Don't Usually Remain Friends With Those Who Hurt Me Deeply

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    He Was Given Enough Chances

    Me and my Sister's boyfriend were or kinda are friends but barely. I am just trying to avoid him now because of things he has done to me. He has completely blown off plans with me and then calls me an hour later because things didn't go the way he planned. Also I had another...
    gsjr89 gsjr89 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Never

    I used to take a lot from people when I was very young, but one of the benefits of being older is that I know I can shut people out of my life if they cause me too much pain. When the cost of a friendship outweighs the benefits, then I'm gone. I don't need to be around people who...
    bunnymousekitt bunnymousekitt 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 16, 2009

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    No Sillies

    those who hurt me are dead and gone... 
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Jun 27, 2011

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    I Forgive You

    Normally I am a very stubborn person and if you hurt me once you don't get a second chance to torture my soul again. (I only have true friendships with persons who I feel can touch my soul.)  That is just how I am and I thought I would never go back...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    Betrayal/deceit/manipulation

    I would like to definitely comment on this. I can honestly say, that people that you would normally call "friends", manipulate/decieve/con you into thinking they are something they really aren't to me, is quite sickening. From a business point i'm speaking about. Thx..
    Miseree Miseree 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

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    You Better Believe It

    a friend hurt me twice in such a bad way. i will not forgive her. and i won't forgive her so called boyfriend for getting all up in my face that day and pushing me off the porch when all i did was come over to bring them their d@mn cigarettes and try to be nice.  not to...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F Mar 3, 2008

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    This Is Something I Have Been Working On...

    For So long I have allowed people to stuck around who hurt me badly and just kept making excuses for their behavior, sometimes I think it is best to just walk away cause they will likely just repeat the same behavior again and usually even after you speak up and tell them about...
    idealist28 idealist28 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2009

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    There's A Reason For That.

    I consider myself a fair person and a forgiving person. I do forgive and sometimes I forgive much to easily. I don't remain friends with anyone who has hurt me deeply though. I take a fair amount of stupidity from people and sometimes that is all it is-stupidity rather than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 27, 2012

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    It Depends:

    Intentional hurting...they are done...inadvertent warrants a discussion...family, well thats a delicate one...im not going to hate or ignore them till my deathbed..if it can be fixed great...if not then its a write off...ive seen too many family relationships screwed for life...
    SensualEnchantment4u SensualEnchantment4u 56-60, M Aug 26, 2012

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    I Am No Longer Your Doormat

    There is a difference in giving a person 'the benefit of the doubt', and allowing one to wipe their toxic waste upon me as though I am a doormat. If your intent is to cut deeply, then do your best; but I will survive. I will not judge, or wish you ill harm. Please...
    angelwings626 angelwings626 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 27, 2009

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    Independent and Individual

    I am not one for "aquaintances" or fair weather friends. I am pretty good at judging the good and bad in a person quickly, and I usually have an accurate measure of their character within a few minutes. unfortunately, it is hard to give someone a chance if I don't like...
    EntrepGuy EntrepGuy 22-25, M 6 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    I Did It!

    Usually, I remain friends with people who even hurt me. But now,,, no more. I have this friend who backbites me and it cannot happen that I don't know about it. I don't know what's her problem. My other friend said she's just insecure. But I just brushed it off. I've been...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Aug 30, 2008

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    Years Of Betrayal

    I have a friend, she watched my kids since they were wee little things (8 years now).... She has kids the same age and they all played along so well. They attend grade school together...I did favors for her, gave her all our outgrown toys and clothes for her daycare when she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 24, 2013

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    I Am Turning My Back On This Guy!!!!!

    I don't think I've ever been deeply hurt by anyone until a few months ago.Well yeah I have been deeply hurt by my mom and stepdad and an uncle but that was when I was a child and had to take it.I have been having problems with this cousin of mine.He has these mood swings...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    ON the Contrary...

    I MAINTAIN A FRIENDSAHIP WITH THOSE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME. I like to prove them wrong. They are always wrong.
    evergreen evergreen 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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    One Chance

    I used to forgive over and over and over. I had one friend who was stealing from me, hurting me, or lying about me almost every month, and I remained friends with her for over 10 years. I will no longer put myself through that. I believe I am a human being worth being treated...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2009

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    2,941 people & counting who feel friendless. Here's my story. I've had childhood friends, we'd go to & from each other's homes, at times sleep over. Some I went to school with. I...
    Isayis23 Isayis23 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I have online friends and I am thankful for that. But offline I don't have any friends. A part of it is my situation at the moment and the other part is my fear and mental issues.
    Lovelife090994 Lovelife090994 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Well.. Offline I don't have any friends unless you count my baby Beau, he's the best. Online I have lots of friends! Lol a lot. And they're all from here :P
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I feel like I don't really have friends, just acquaintances. It doesn't really bother me though. I basically just keep them around to keep updated in the social world, and music...
    PuckDrop PuckDrop 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I don't, because it hurts my pride, however you people want to interpret that. I am glad I have this place to use as an outlet, where I can just say to no one whatever I want to...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    I don't know if this is really true. It is a bit absolute. Depending on how I feel and what I need, ....friendship is a word that can have many meanings. Like the untrue story that...
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M 1 Response a week ago

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    So I'm sitting in bed crying and listening to music with my headphones in. Why? Because my husband is being a complete arsehole. He gets really nasty after a few drinks and has...
    NotSuchAnInnocentGirl NotSuchAnInnocentGirl 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    ... told my husband I plan to stop pumping(breastmilk) for our baby- and instead of support, he voiced out his discontent. I really wish he'd be more supportive... so I can tell...
    ambut ambut 31-35, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I went out with my best friend the day before Christmas Eve ....I enjoyed it ....I don't always get to see her but wen I do its awesome ....I think she is the only .. I feel more...
    Nikky13 Nikky13 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    That's for the age difference. I also don't add ugly people. Sorry but I have to be frank about this :)
    teacheratwork teacheratwork 22-25, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    They are the one who made you promise them a forever. Although they are the one who left and ended that forever.
    xurypa xurypa 13-15, F 2 hrs ago

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    Many times, the decisions we make affect and hurt your closest friends and family the most. I have a lot of regrets in that regard. But God has forgiven me, which I am very...
    rajbj rajbj 18-21, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Listening to Daughtry and looking through memories on my old blackberry... The fact that I have a selfie of me and my ex is killing me. It hurts so much to see that we looked so...
    NotSuchAnInnocentGirl NotSuchAnInnocentGirl 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    it's been a while since i actually socialize; or consider someone as a friend friend ... at least one of the same zip code. as it stands right now, I have co-workers...
    ambut ambut 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I have a friend but not the kind i want, she is selfish arrogant and sometimes a b***h. and because of that i really feel like i have no friends. Before, i was prefere to be alone...
    manel2504 manel2504 18-21, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    I wish I didn't have to turn to a blog to voice the thoughts in my head. I wish I had friends that I can just call without worry of judgment... but at least here, I can release...
    ambut ambut 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    i think there comes a time in our lives, past our twenties at least when we feel we can be a lone island and not need to make new friends... and then a **** storm comes along and...
    ambut ambut 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I used to. Just think this morning I had a friend, my only friend, now I am just another loner.
    Lachlann Lachlann 13-15, M 1 Response a week ago

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    ill be ur friend lols b vvvv
    alonewbyx alonewbyx 13-15, F a week ago

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    Warning, this is long, but I feel as though I have to tell the full details of the story. Even if no one responds, I just need the catharsis of letting it all out for once...
    sketchit sketchit 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 9

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    I turned 21 a couple of months ago, and I still have never tasted alcohol. I don't understand why some people feel they need it to have fun. It just makes you forget everything you...
    ImaginaryAlchemist ImaginaryAlchemist 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 2

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    I'm just tired of it. Whether it's some family or friends, I'm done. From now on, my focus is just on the few people who've actually been there for me. I'm tired of letting my...
    ClaireH19 ClaireH19 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 5

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    I don't know who I am anymore. It can be said that I've got a lot of privileges in my life, but I don't really feel complete. I don't know where I am going, who I am, and what I...
    agspath agspath 16-17 5 days ago

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    Please.. Don't even bother trying to offend me/hurt my feelings, belittle me...it just won't work-_-. You end up just wasting your time, and I just continue being content. :)
    TrixtenB TrixtenB 22-25, F Nov 29

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    One lie. It wasn't even a big deal of a lie, but it was enough to break the trust I have in that person. She had no reason to lie. I can let go of a lie or two when I spot them...
    TheBadgeringWitness TheBadgeringWitness 26-30 Dec 2

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    In a way I like it why not I had a friend but we don't really see each other as much anymore but we still text but we are the complete opposite in style, likes, disliked, music...
    digglett digglett 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    This is the first experience I've written so I should probably have written something interesting about myself but im pretty sure that honestly, nobody wants to hear it. I guess I...
    JustAnIrrelevantGirl JustAnIrrelevantGirl 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    I never have, and never will. When my wife has shown me some of the posts her sisters and friends have made, which, if they're not writing an online blog, are basically their...
    Idontmeantoo Idontmeantoo 36-40, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Or 'won't' be ..One of the defining features and no doubt attraction in being online is the anonymity, and this is fine.There is no real reason why anyone should feel their privacy...
    HolmesGirl HolmesGirl 51-55, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Living alone is great. But it also comes with a price. I have to do all the jobs that my parents have done for me, including grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry...
    rustyengineer rustyengineer 18-21, M Dec 9

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    It's like I'm talking to a brick wall. Almost as if I don't exist at all. I don't know what's worse, people who don't listen, or people with selective hearing. I'd at least love to...
    alexis3000 alexis3000 18-21, F 5 days ago

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