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I Don't Usually Remain Friends With Those Who Hurt Me Deeply

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    I Am No Longer Your Doormat

    There is a difference in giving a person 'the benefit of the doubt', and allowing one to wipe their toxic waste upon me as though I am a doormat. If your intent is to cut deeply, then do your best; but I will survive. I will not judge, or wish you ill harm. Please...
    angelwings626 angelwings626 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 27, 2009

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    I Am Turning My Back On This Guy!!!!!

    I don't think I've ever been deeply hurt by anyone until a few months ago.Well yeah I have been deeply hurt by my mom and stepdad and an uncle but that was when I was a child and had to take it.I have been having problems with this cousin of mine.He has these mood swings...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    Never

    I used to take a lot from people when I was very young, but one of the benefits of being older is that I know I can shut people out of my life if they cause me too much pain. When the cost of a friendship outweighs the benefits, then I'm gone. I don't need to be around people who...
    bunnymousekitt bunnymousekitt 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 16, 2009

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    No Sillies

    those who hurt me are dead and gone... 
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Jun 27, 2011

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    It Depends:

    Intentional hurting...they are done...inadvertent warrants a discussion...family, well thats a delicate one...im not going to hate or ignore them till my deathbed..if it can be fixed great...if not then its a write off...ive seen too many family relationships screwed for life...
    SensualEnchantment4u SensualEnchantment4u 56-60, M Aug 26, 2012

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    This Is Something I Have Been Working On...

    For So long I have allowed people to stuck around who hurt me badly and just kept making excuses for their behavior, sometimes I think it is best to just walk away cause they will likely just repeat the same behavior again and usually even after you speak up and tell them about...
    idealist28 idealist28 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2009

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    ON the Contrary...

    I MAINTAIN A FRIENDSAHIP WITH THOSE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME. I like to prove them wrong. They are always wrong.
    evergreen evergreen 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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    Years Of Betrayal

    I have a friend, she watched my kids since they were wee little things (8 years now).... She has kids the same age and they all played along so well. They attend grade school together...I did favors for her, gave her all our outgrown toys and clothes for her daycare when she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 24, 2013

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    He Was Given Enough Chances

    Me and my Sister's boyfriend were or kinda are friends but barely. I am just trying to avoid him now because of things he has done to me. He has completely blown off plans with me and then calls me an hour later because things didn't go the way he planned. Also I had another...
    gsjr89 gsjr89 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Independent and Individual

    I am not one for "aquaintances" or fair weather friends. I am pretty good at judging the good and bad in a person quickly, and I usually have an accurate measure of their character within a few minutes. unfortunately, it is hard to give someone a chance if I don't like...
    EntrepGuy EntrepGuy 22-25, M 6 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    There's A Reason For That.

    I consider myself a fair person and a forgiving person. I do forgive and sometimes I forgive much to easily. I don't remain friends with anyone who has hurt me deeply though. I take a fair amount of stupidity from people and sometimes that is all it is-stupidity rather than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 27, 2012

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    I Forgive You

    Normally I am a very stubborn person and if you hurt me once you don't get a second chance to torture my soul again. (I only have true friendships with persons who I feel can touch my soul.)  That is just how I am and I thought I would never go back...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    Betrayal/deceit/manipulation

    I would like to definitely comment on this. I can honestly say, that people that you would normally call "friends", manipulate/decieve/con you into thinking they are something they really aren't to me, is quite sickening. From a business point i'm speaking about. Thx..
    Miseree Miseree 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

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    I Did It!

    Usually, I remain friends with people who even hurt me. But now,,, no more. I have this friend who backbites me and it cannot happen that I don't know about it. I don't know what's her problem. My other friend said she's just insecure. But I just brushed it off. I've been...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Aug 30, 2008

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    One Chance

    I used to forgive over and over and over. I had one friend who was stealing from me, hurting me, or lying about me almost every month, and I remained friends with her for over 10 years. I will no longer put myself through that. I believe I am a human being worth being treated...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2009

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    You Better Believe It

    a friend hurt me twice in such a bad way. i will not forgive her. and i won't forgive her so called boyfriend for getting all up in my face that day and pushing me off the porch when all i did was come over to bring them their d@mn cigarettes and try to be nice.  not to...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F Mar 3, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Well I found another lolicon -_- Or more accurate would be that he found me. I will spare you guys the pornograthic photo
    mikotomisaka mikotomisaka 18-21, F 17 Responses Feb 6

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    I know that I'm partly, if not wholly, to blame for not doing my part to keep in touch (they never really tried either) but by the end of school I was so damned closed off from...
    PsychicRed PsychicRed 26-30 a week ago

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    But I know it's partially my fault. I chose to enroll in home school, and I am too socially awkward to ever soak to anyone I don't know. I have surrounded my whole world around my...
    makaelaf3 makaelaf3 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Again, happiness only lasted so little within me, like sand in my hands. I'm feeling so alone, like no one cares. I came across some "friends" in college who treated me awful. I'm...
    MynameisMartin MynameisMartin 22-25, M Feb 3

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    My boyfriend and I met last summer through some mutual friends, when I first met him, he was so sweet and nice. I had just gotten out of a really horrible relationship with my ex...
    Wvgirl20 Wvgirl20 18-21, F a week ago

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    I don't know why. people dislike me. I have nothing in common with them.
    cycffuff cycffuff 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 13

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    My problem is that I just push people away and I don't want them to get to know me.
    Mindofanintrovert Mindofanintrovert 16-17, F Feb 20

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    I'm a really caring person, and i will drop everything to make someone else feel better. I care for people, but the problem is, they don't bother to see past the ******* part.
    kingbrizo kingbrizo 18-21 2 days ago

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    And I never really seek them out. The only relationship I've ever really put any value into has been one with a girlfriend. But right now I have nothing because while I was in a...
    idontknow2658 idontknow2658 18-21, M a week ago

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    confident.. happy within myself.. nothing bothers me. I've let that be a complete lie towards everyone in my life I'm just really good a faking it.. not even my best friend or my...
    Rachxox Rachxox 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Well I have 1 friend... my best friend...
    Mindofanintrovert Mindofanintrovert 16-17, F Feb 20

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    I am passionate and sensual. I love to submerge myself in an experience. I also sensitive and fragile, though I appear to be strong. I am not a toy, a maid, a cook. I can cook...
    simplyafriend simplyafriend 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    This applies really when I'm home. Love my dad and grammy though but still.
    ForTheFallen ForTheFallen 22-25, M 2 days ago

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    I don't. I say it with my whole heart.
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, T 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Be wise. Guard your heart. Pray for guidance. Remain careful about who you allow in your life, and don't let past experiences with people who treated you unfairly make you bitter...
    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F a week ago

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    I can't stand being with my boyfriend any longer, but I don't know if I can leave him...I'm too afraid to let go. So this is our story: We're at a long distance relationship...
    Bitterlove Bitterlove 16-17, F Feb 10

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    I am a 14 year old girl who doesn't get along with my mum. Me and my mum would get along maybe 10% of the time, the other 90% we fight or don't talk to each other. I really want...
    coolgirl2112 coolgirl2112 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    I feel like I just need to let this out... I have a lot of pent up issues and frustrations with my parents that I've never really expressed to anyone. The other day, some simple...
    astro00 astro00 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 20

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    I have a spouse going on 13 years. I've been with her since August of 2001. it has never been the best relationships but I've stuck around because of our kids. after all of those...
    jarae jarae 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 29

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    But I don't have problem with those who do. As long as you don't violate human autonomy or deny people in your care the medical treatment they need over it, then you should be free...
    hazelwoodd hazelwoodd 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    My mind is telling me no But my body My body's telling me yes, baby I don't wanna hurt nobody But there is something that I must confess To you I don't see nothing wrong (Ooh...
    TheScorpio1966 TheScorpio1966 46-50, M 2 days ago

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    I'm still ranting: MY BODY BELONGS TO ME. If I don't know you and I'm not hurt or fallen down or anything, don't touch me. I may give you good service at my job. That does NOT make...
    missbellelettres missbellelettres 41-45, M Feb 19

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    Here's a tip for you sick perverts... When in doubt, don't ******* message. If you don't want to risk getting your feelings hurt, don't message. It's that simple. I have said this...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F a week ago

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    All the friends I had since childhood have been gone for 4 years now. I could hardly remember half of their names. There are some exceptions, but I still don't have any friends...
    BloodFanatic BloodFanatic 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    I don't have any friends In my area. I wish I had that way I can hang out and stay close. I hate riding the bus and train. I don't mind traveling but I can't stand the bus and...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Just my opinion, but I don't think most of us know who we really are. We think we can hit it pretty close based on our perceptions and the perceptions of those close to us, but as...
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I don't have a boyfriend. Am I sad? No. Am I jealous of people who do? No. I don't need a boyfriend. I don't need someone telling me I'm pretty, because I know I am. I don't need...
    BrokenCorpse BrokenCorpse 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    Seriously, don't ask. So an EP member wanted to get on Skype. I don't get on Skype with just anyone and video with almost no one. He asked several times for my Skype ID. I said...
    shimmeringrose shimmeringrose 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 1

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    I don't know what I've become anymore. I'm just so tired. I had a little drink and got buzzed I call my boyfriend because I miss him and he said he doesn't wanna talk to me when I...
    XxDeadlyAngelxX XxDeadlyAngelxX 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    It's weird how I never include you in my plans that I make up in my head. Maybe I don't love you anymore, but honestly who knows, there might still be some spark somewhere. Sad...
    BrokenCats BrokenCats 26-30, F Feb 11

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    You notice I never gave up on you even though all you care about is yourself. I know it’s all about you, other people's thoughts and emotions don’t matter to you, right? Why...
    Johnviolinist823 Johnviolinist823 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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