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I Don't Usually Remain Friends With Those Who Hurt Me Deeply

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    I Am Turning My Back On This Guy!!!!!

    I don't think I've ever been deeply hurt by anyone until a few months ago.Well yeah I have been deeply hurt by my mom and stepdad and an uncle but that was when I was a child and had to take it.I have been having problems with this cousin of mine.He has these mood swings...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    No Sillies

    those who hurt me are dead and gone... 
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 Jun 27, 2011

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    Betrayal/deceit/manipulation

    I would like to definitely comment on this. I can honestly say, that people that you would normally call "friends", manipulate/decieve/con you into thinking they are something they really aren't to me, is quite sickening. From a business point i'm speaking about. Thx..
    Miseree Miseree 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

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    Years Of Betrayal

    I have a friend, she watched my kids since they were wee little things (8 years now).... She has kids the same age and they all played along so well. They attend grade school together...I did favors for her, gave her all our outgrown toys and clothes for her daycare when she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 24, 2013

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    It Depends:

    Intentional hurting...they are done...inadvertent warrants a discussion...family, well thats a delicate one...im not going to hate or ignore them till my deathbed..if it can be fixed great...if not then its a write off...ive seen too many family relationships screwed for life...
    SensualEnchantment4u SensualEnchantment4u 56-60, M Aug 26, 2012

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    He Was Given Enough Chances

    Me and my Sister's boyfriend were or kinda are friends but barely. I am just trying to avoid him now because of things he has done to me. He has completely blown off plans with me and then calls me an hour later because things didn't go the way he planned. Also I had another...
    gsjr89 gsjr89 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    I Did It!

    Usually, I remain friends with people who even hurt me. But now,,, no more. I have this friend who backbites me and it cannot happen that I don't know about it. I don't know what's her problem. My other friend said she's just insecure. But I just brushed it off. I've been...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Aug 30, 2008

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    One Chance

    I used to forgive over and over and over. I had one friend who was stealing from me, hurting me, or lying about me almost every month, and I remained friends with her for over 10 years. I will no longer put myself through that. I believe I am a human being worth being treated...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2009

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    This Is Something I Have Been Working On...

    For So long I have allowed people to stuck around who hurt me badly and just kept making excuses for their behavior, sometimes I think it is best to just walk away cause they will likely just repeat the same behavior again and usually even after you speak up and tell them about...
    idealist28 idealist28 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2009

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    There's A Reason For That.

    I consider myself a fair person and a forgiving person. I do forgive and sometimes I forgive much to easily. I don't remain friends with anyone who has hurt me deeply though. I take a fair amount of stupidity from people and sometimes that is all it is-stupidity rather than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 27, 2012

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    You Better Believe It

    a friend hurt me twice in such a bad way. i will not forgive her. and i won't forgive her so called boyfriend for getting all up in my face that day and pushing me off the porch when all i did was come over to bring them their d@mn cigarettes and try to be nice.  not to...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F Mar 3, 2008

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    I Am No Longer Your Doormat

    There is a difference in giving a person 'the benefit of the doubt', and allowing one to wipe their toxic waste upon me as though I am a doormat. If your intent is to cut deeply, then do your best; but I will survive. I will not judge, or wish you ill harm. Please...
    angelwings626 angelwings626 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 27, 2009

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    I Forgive You

    Normally I am a very stubborn person and if you hurt me once you don't get a second chance to torture my soul again. (I only have true friendships with persons who I feel can touch my soul.)  That is just how I am and I thought I would never go back...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    Independent and Individual

    I am not one for "aquaintances" or fair weather friends. I am pretty good at judging the good and bad in a person quickly, and I usually have an accurate measure of their character within a few minutes. unfortunately, it is hard to give someone a chance if I don't like...
    EntrepGuy EntrepGuy 22-25, M 6 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    Never

    I used to take a lot from people when I was very young, but one of the benefits of being older is that I know I can shut people out of my life if they cause me too much pain. When the cost of a friendship outweighs the benefits, then I'm gone. I don't need to be around people who...
    bunnymousekitt bunnymousekitt 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 16, 2009

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    ON the Contrary...

    I MAINTAIN A FRIENDSAHIP WITH THOSE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME. I like to prove them wrong. They are always wrong.
    evergreen evergreen 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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