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I Don't Usually Remain Friends With Those Who Hurt Me Deeply

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    I Am No Longer Your Doormat

    There is a difference in giving a person 'the benefit of the doubt', and allowing one to wipe their toxic waste upon me as though I am a doormat. If your intent is to cut deeply, then do your best; but I will survive. I will not judge, or wish you ill harm. Please...
    angelwings626 angelwings626 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 27, 2009

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    I Did It!

    Usually, I remain friends with people who even hurt me. But now,,, no more. I have this friend who backbites me and it cannot happen that I don't know about it. I don't know what's her problem. My other friend said she's just insecure. But I just brushed it off. I've been...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Aug 30, 2008

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    It Depends:

    Intentional hurting...they are done...inadvertent warrants a discussion...family, well thats a delicate one...im not going to hate or ignore them till my deathbed..if it can be fixed great...if not then its a write off...ive seen too many family relationships screwed for life...
    SensualEnchantment4u SensualEnchantment4u 56-60, M Aug 26, 2012

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    You Better Believe It

    a friend hurt me twice in such a bad way. i will not forgive her. and i won't forgive her so called boyfriend for getting all up in my face that day and pushing me off the porch when all i did was come over to bring them their d@mn cigarettes and try to be nice.  not to...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F Mar 3, 2008

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    Independent and Individual

    I am not one for "aquaintances" or fair weather friends. I am pretty good at judging the good and bad in a person quickly, and I usually have an accurate measure of their character within a few minutes. unfortunately, it is hard to give someone a chance if I don't like...
    EntrepGuy EntrepGuy 22-25, M 6 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    There's A Reason For That.

    I consider myself a fair person and a forgiving person. I do forgive and sometimes I forgive much to easily. I don't remain friends with anyone who has hurt me deeply though. I take a fair amount of stupidity from people and sometimes that is all it is-stupidity rather than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 27, 2012

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    Years Of Betrayal

    I have a friend, she watched my kids since they were wee little things (8 years now).... She has kids the same age and they all played along so well. They attend grade school together...I did favors for her, gave her all our outgrown toys and clothes for her daycare when she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 24, 2013

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    Betrayal/deceit/manipulation

    I would like to definitely comment on this. I can honestly say, that people that you would normally call "friends", manipulate/decieve/con you into thinking they are something they really aren't to me, is quite sickening. From a business point i'm speaking about. Thx..
    Miseree Miseree 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

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    He Was Given Enough Chances

    Me and my Sister's boyfriend were or kinda are friends but barely. I am just trying to avoid him now because of things he has done to me. He has completely blown off plans with me and then calls me an hour later because things didn't go the way he planned. Also I had another...
    gsjr89 gsjr89 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    This Is Something I Have Been Working On...

    For So long I have allowed people to stuck around who hurt me badly and just kept making excuses for their behavior, sometimes I think it is best to just walk away cause they will likely just repeat the same behavior again and usually even after you speak up and tell them about...
    idealist28 idealist28 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2009

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    No Sillies

    those who hurt me are dead and gone... 
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 70+, F Jun 27, 2011

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    One Chance

    I used to forgive over and over and over. I had one friend who was stealing from me, hurting me, or lying about me almost every month, and I remained friends with her for over 10 years. I will no longer put myself through that. I believe I am a human being worth being treated...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2009

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    I Am Turning My Back On This Guy!!!!!

    I don't think I've ever been deeply hurt by anyone until a few months ago.Well yeah I have been deeply hurt by my mom and stepdad and an uncle but that was when I was a child and had to take it.I have been having problems with this cousin of mine.He has these mood swings...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    ON the Contrary...

    I MAINTAIN A FRIENDSAHIP WITH THOSE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME. I like to prove them wrong. They are always wrong.
    evergreen evergreen 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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    Never

    I used to take a lot from people when I was very young, but one of the benefits of being older is that I know I can shut people out of my life if they cause me too much pain. When the cost of a friendship outweighs the benefits, then I'm gone. I don't need to be around people who...
    bunnymousekitt bunnymousekitt 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 16, 2009

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    I Forgive You

    Normally I am a very stubborn person and if you hurt me once you don't get a second chance to torture my soul again. (I only have true friendships with persons who I feel can touch my soul.)  That is just how I am and I thought I would never go back...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    I believe I have truly hit bottom. Wow 2 years of hell and I still carry that black cloud. Last July I lost my job of 15 years because of my ex, began working for a temp agency in...
    mb1973 mb1973 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 5

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    I have people that i hang out with, we share a few jokes every now and then, but they're not my real friends. If I had a problem i dont call them, they dont like the same things...
    theorgasmicnumber theorgasmicnumber 22-25, M Mar 13

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    I think I need a life accountability group!!!
    FreeSpirit02 FreeSpirit02 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    I think there is a cycle of judgement. Those that fear judgement are judgemental themselves. Lately I've come to accept the term judgemental. I honestly don't feel that I am I...
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 26-30, F Mar 19

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    I'm 21 and he's 17. We are both short tempered but I try to keep myself calm as far as I can. He isn't much compromising. We always have heated arguments. Today is no different. I...
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    I think it's so stupid that we put a stigma on younger people wanting to have a relationship with older people and vise versa. Even non-sexual relationships between older and...
    wtfpasta wtfpasta 18-21, M Mar 17

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    I don't to a degree. But I don't want to associate with any of them. Every time I think I'm getting over this prejudice or discomfort, something comes up that pushes me back. They...
    RationalCutie RationalCutie 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 10

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    That's how it's feeling like every year. It's just another day. I don't have any friends to celebrate with and presents aren't all that great from people I know and family. I can...
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M a week ago

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    As long as you're human. I don't care if you're gay, straight or bi.. black, white, tall, short, name it.. as long as you respect yourself and other people, and if you're nice to...
    etten etten 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 12

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    I have been in a relationship with an amazing guy for over a year and a half now but I don't feel needed, wanted or loved anymore. While I do still love him, I don't want to stay...
    grizz799 grizz799 18-21, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    This might be my last job to live my life, I've worked for 5 different jobs in 5years, after graduating college. Now I am 27, I've dated 4 different wonderful man in a serious...
    Newyorkbf Newyorkbf 26-30, F 4 hrs ago

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    Blocking isn't the right way to tell others that you don't want em to talk to you, especially when those people where friends. I'm not saying that blocking is bad and unacceptable...
    MariKun MariKun 16-17, M 4 hrs ago

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    Dear David, I know i wasn't really a good girlfriend for you. I easily gets upset in just small things you do that i don't like. I always complain for your time and i don't...
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    I've been with my husband for 5 years now we dated for 3 months before I got pregnant lately I've been feeling like I don't make him happy anymore he is always angry, tired, and...
    armijo2w armijo2w 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I'd love to have more, but if I don't click with them, or have much in common, I'd rather be friendless.
    everyotherusernamewastaken everyotherusernamewastaken 26-30, M 42 mins ago

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    aaaaargh!!! roller coaster of emotions again. probably my 'daddy issues' rearing their ugly heads. long story short: I'm happy being alone. i love being single. And Yes, I'd...
    peepsqueek peepsqueek 31-35, F Mar 8

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    Our Strange Strained Relationship- My father was married to my mother before I was born,but when my mother returned to the United States with me shortly after birth(they'd met...
    Srebro94 Srebro94 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    I've never felt like I truly fit in, I've always felt like the outsider when around people. Even when I had actual friends and a good social life. Being the age I'm at, I don't...
    everyotherusernamewastaken everyotherusernamewastaken 26-30, M 1 hr ago

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    I've never felt like I truly fit in, I've always felt like the outsider when around people. Even when I had actual friends and a good social life. Being the age I'm at, I don't...
    everyotherusernamewastaken everyotherusernamewastaken 26-30, M 1 hr ago

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    I woke up this morning. My little sister had been in my room and made a minor mess. I f*cking lost it. Not when I woke up. I waited a good thirty minutes. Picked the mess up, and...
    TheRogueWolf TheRogueWolf 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    I started university september 2013 and shortly before that I'd looked online to find other people who were going to be going to the same one, and started talking to a boy who I'll...
    apismellifera4 apismellifera4 18-21, T Mar 15

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    Don't Invade Experience Groups That I Don't Agree With
    goodnites25 goodnites25 22-25, M 7 hrs ago

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    Hi all, This might be a little long message, but please find some time to read it. I want to find a solution for the brutal situation, which I am suffering because of my parents...
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