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I Don't Usually Remain Friends With Those Who Hurt Me Deeply

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    There's A Reason For That.

    I consider myself a fair person and a forgiving person. I do forgive and sometimes I forgive much to easily. I don't remain friends with anyone who has hurt me deeply though. I take a fair amount of stupidity from people and sometimes that is all it is-stupidity rather than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 27, 2012

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    I Am No Longer Your Doormat

    There is a difference in giving a person 'the benefit of the doubt', and allowing one to wipe their toxic waste upon me as though I am a doormat. If your intent is to cut deeply, then do your best; but I will survive. I will not judge, or wish you ill harm. Please...
    angelwings626 angelwings626 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 27, 2009

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    ON the Contrary...

    I MAINTAIN A FRIENDSAHIP WITH THOSE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME. I like to prove them wrong. They are always wrong.
    evergreen evergreen 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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    This Is Something I Have Been Working On...

    For So long I have allowed people to stuck around who hurt me badly and just kept making excuses for their behavior, sometimes I think it is best to just walk away cause they will likely just repeat the same behavior again and usually even after you speak up and tell them about...
    idealist28 idealist28 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2009

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    No Sillies

    those who hurt me are dead and gone... 
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Jun 27, 2011

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    He Was Given Enough Chances

    Me and my Sister's boyfriend were or kinda are friends but barely. I am just trying to avoid him now because of things he has done to me. He has completely blown off plans with me and then calls me an hour later because things didn't go the way he planned. Also I had another...
    gsjr89 gsjr89 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    One Chance

    I used to forgive over and over and over. I had one friend who was stealing from me, hurting me, or lying about me almost every month, and I remained friends with her for over 10 years. I will no longer put myself through that. I believe I am a human being worth being treated...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2009

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    I Forgive You

    Normally I am a very stubborn person and if you hurt me once you don't get a second chance to torture my soul again. (I only have true friendships with persons who I feel can touch my soul.)  That is just how I am and I thought I would never go back...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    It Depends:

    Intentional hurting...they are done...inadvertent warrants a discussion...family, well thats a delicate one...im not going to hate or ignore them till my deathbed..if it can be fixed great...if not then its a write off...ive seen too many family relationships screwed for life...
    SensualEnchantment4u SensualEnchantment4u 56-60, M Aug 26, 2012

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    Betrayal/deceit/manipulation

    I would like to definitely comment on this. I can honestly say, that people that you would normally call "friends", manipulate/decieve/con you into thinking they are something they really aren't to me, is quite sickening. From a business point i'm speaking about. Thx..
    Miseree Miseree 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

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    Years Of Betrayal

    I have a friend, she watched my kids since they were wee little things (8 years now).... She has kids the same age and they all played along so well. They attend grade school together...I did favors for her, gave her all our outgrown toys and clothes for her daycare when she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 24, 2013

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    Independent and Individual

    I am not one for "aquaintances" or fair weather friends. I am pretty good at judging the good and bad in a person quickly, and I usually have an accurate measure of their character within a few minutes. unfortunately, it is hard to give someone a chance if I don't like...
    EntrepGuy EntrepGuy 22-25, M 6 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    You Better Believe It

    a friend hurt me twice in such a bad way. i will not forgive her. and i won't forgive her so called boyfriend for getting all up in my face that day and pushing me off the porch when all i did was come over to bring them their d@mn cigarettes and try to be nice.  not to...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F Mar 3, 2008

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    I Am Turning My Back On This Guy!!!!!

    I don't think I've ever been deeply hurt by anyone until a few months ago.Well yeah I have been deeply hurt by my mom and stepdad and an uncle but that was when I was a child and had to take it.I have been having problems with this cousin of mine.He has these mood swings...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    Never

    I used to take a lot from people when I was very young, but one of the benefits of being older is that I know I can shut people out of my life if they cause me too much pain. When the cost of a friendship outweighs the benefits, then I'm gone. I don't need to be around people who...
    bunnymousekitt bunnymousekitt 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 16, 2009

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    I Did It!

    Usually, I remain friends with people who even hurt me. But now,,, no more. I have this friend who backbites me and it cannot happen that I don't know about it. I don't know what's her problem. My other friend said she's just insecure. But I just brushed it off. I've been...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Aug 30, 2008

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    Im settling in to college and don't really have any one to talk with so anyone on this that wants to chat boy or girls I'm not picky on who I talk with
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    Life is getting me down. I know I shouldn't complain and that I'm very lucky in a lot of ways but working and studying is taking up all my time. It upsets me that I don't have time...
    Ver24 Ver24 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Every time I want to hangout with them they say that they are busy but one time I asked one of them in private why can't we hangout he said that his father don't like his son...
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    If only you cared, then you might understand. Sadly, that isn't what usually happens. No one usually cares. I end up lost and scared. I end up closing everyone out. Why would I...
    OsyriaRose OsyriaRose 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 6

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    I have maybe two friends that I can really count on. I thought I made another one at work, but it was a really self-centered woman who has made my life a living hell. She couldn't...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 31-35, M Sep 6

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    i have a few friends but usually they have they're own stuff goin on..so i always find myself alone
    humandisguise humandisguise 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    Who needs enemies when you can have friends!!
    xxlouisebaby xxlouisebaby 22-25, F Aug 30

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    Think before you speak , because somethings you say to people can hurt for them
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F Aug 31

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    I was just thinking.. not having friends ... means we cant forgive people over small things and then one day there is noone left who has not done anything wrong?
    ShadowlessSoul ShadowlessSoul 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 10

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    To be honest, I am not here to make friends, I only need help, from people who can understand..
    Idonotcareanymore Idonotcareanymore 18-21 6 days ago

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    I have been separated from my family the last few months (only geographically separated). When I met up with them a few weeks ago my seven year old daughter made me a welcome...
    brianthesnail brianthesnail 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 29

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    Rosy345 Rosy345 26-30 1 Response Sep 1

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    **** you fake friends! You suck big ****!!!!
    MatildaBlack MatildaBlack 13-15, F Sep 2

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    Going backwards instead of foreword
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    I want to believe that the same battles I have in my head are shared experiences everyone was. But man do I feel really ****** up sometimes.
    Wonderinsoul Wonderinsoul 22-25, M Sep 3

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    I hate when somebody starts talking bad about someone to me & I can tell they're expecting me to join in. Like na man, you on ya own.
    BrutallyHonest316 BrutallyHonest316 22-25, F Sep 1

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    Alright, this is gonna be long, so prepare yourself for this. I'm gonna start off with some background info: To put it bluntly, I have nobody. My family doesn't give 2 f***s...
    Rudale Rudale 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Things are so wonderful and so awful, I got with a girl 13 days ago, thing is that people keep talking bad about her. Today my cousin, my parabati (for those of you who don't get...
    geary97 geary97 16-17, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    This is to all the young ladies and I guess some grown women as well , Do Not Pretend To Be Pregnant just to keep a guy . That is one of the lowest things you can do . You are only...
    TexasTam61 TexasTam61 51-55, F Aug 25

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    I am 25 and have 3 children under 6. I have been with my husband since I was 14, married at 18, and started a family a few months into the marriage. I love my kids with all my...
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    What the heck is FWB? Why is there even such a thing? Sounds more to me like friends who give friends STDs. Seriously where do you cross the line? Why can't it be Friends withOUT...
    tessa4ever tessa4ever 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I think its great to develop friendships with people who don't think and act exactly like you .
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    I don't give two ***** anymore about who likes me and who doesn't. I use to care about people opinions it dictated my life but now i just don't give a **** at all. I really just...
    Dsanders13 Dsanders13 16-17, F Sep 11

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    Why don't people understand that I am who I am. Yes I'm socially awkward. Yes I'm shy. Yes I'm crazy, insecure and confused. But I am still me. No one seems to understand me or...
    ScarletWilliams ScarletWilliams 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 23