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I Don't Usually Remain Friends With Those Who Hurt Me Deeply

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    Independent and Individual

    I am not one for "aquaintances" or fair weather friends. I am pretty good at judging the good and bad in a person quickly, and I usually have an accurate measure of their character within a few minutes. unfortunately, it is hard to give someone a chance if I don't like...
    EntrepGuy EntrepGuy 22-25, M 6 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    I Forgive You

    Normally I am a very stubborn person and if you hurt me once you don't get a second chance to torture my soul again. (I only have true friendships with persons who I feel can touch my soul.)  That is just how I am and I thought I would never go back...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    ON the Contrary...

    I MAINTAIN A FRIENDSAHIP WITH THOSE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME. I like to prove them wrong. They are always wrong.
    evergreen evergreen 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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    He Was Given Enough Chances

    Me and my Sister's boyfriend were or kinda are friends but barely. I am just trying to avoid him now because of things he has done to me. He has completely blown off plans with me and then calls me an hour later because things didn't go the way he planned. Also I had another...
    gsjr89 gsjr89 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Years Of Betrayal

    I have a friend, she watched my kids since they were wee little things (8 years now).... She has kids the same age and they all played along so well. They attend grade school together...I did favors for her, gave her all our outgrown toys and clothes for her daycare when she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2013

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    Never

    I used to take a lot from people when I was very young, but one of the benefits of being older is that I know I can shut people out of my life if they cause me too much pain. When the cost of a friendship outweighs the benefits, then I'm gone. I don't need to be around people who...
    bunnymousekitt bunnymousekitt 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 16, 2009

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    No Sillies

    those who hurt me are dead and gone... 
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F Jun 27, 2011

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    It Depends:

    Intentional hurting...they are done...inadvertent warrants a discussion...family, well thats a delicate one...im not going to hate or ignore them till my deathbed..if it can be fixed great...if not then its a write off...ive seen too many family relationships screwed for life...
    SensualEnchantment4u SensualEnchantment4u 56-60, M Aug 26, 2012

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    Betrayal/deceit/manipulation

    I would like to definitely comment on this. I can honestly say, that people that you would normally call "friends", manipulate/decieve/con you into thinking they are something they really aren't to me, is quite sickening. From a business point i'm speaking about. Thx..
    Miseree Miseree 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

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    There's A Reason For That.

    I consider myself a fair person and a forgiving person. I do forgive and sometimes I forgive much to easily. I don't remain friends with anyone who has hurt me deeply though. I take a fair amount of stupidity from people and sometimes that is all it is-stupidity rather than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 27, 2012

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    One Chance

    I used to forgive over and over and over. I had one friend who was stealing from me, hurting me, or lying about me almost every month, and I remained friends with her for over 10 years. I will no longer put myself through that. I believe I am a human being worth being treated...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2009

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    I Am No Longer Your Doormat

    There is a difference in giving a person 'the benefit of the doubt', and allowing one to wipe their toxic waste upon me as though I am a doormat. If your intent is to cut deeply, then do your best; but I will survive. I will not judge, or wish you ill harm. Please...
    angelwings626 angelwings626 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 27, 2009

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    I Am Turning My Back On This Guy!!!!!

    I don't think I've ever been deeply hurt by anyone until a few months ago.Well yeah I have been deeply hurt by my mom and stepdad and an uncle but that was when I was a child and had to take it.I have been having problems with this cousin of mine.He has these mood swings...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    This Is Something I Have Been Working On...

    For So long I have allowed people to stuck around who hurt me badly and just kept making excuses for their behavior, sometimes I think it is best to just walk away cause they will likely just repeat the same behavior again and usually even after you speak up and tell them about...
    idealist28 idealist28 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2009

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    You Better Believe It

    a friend hurt me twice in such a bad way. i will not forgive her. and i won't forgive her so called boyfriend for getting all up in my face that day and pushing me off the porch when all i did was come over to bring them their d@mn cigarettes and try to be nice.  not to...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F Mar 3, 2008

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    I Did It!

    Usually, I remain friends with people who even hurt me. But now,,, no more. I have this friend who backbites me and it cannot happen that I don't know about it. I don't know what's her problem. My other friend said she's just insecure. But I just brushed it off. I've been...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Aug 30, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Dear *******, I don't think you realize how much you hurt me, how much everything you did affected me in a bad way. I hope that one day, a girl you love makes you feel worthless...
    awaywego4 awaywego4 26-30, F Jun 29

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    Had to write this after reading a question, because it seems many people on EP say they don't have friends. Understandable, believable as we are on here and being social. Some of...
    dustypork dustypork 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    I don't need any friends if they are all just going to stab me in the back. I'd rather be a loner than in pain cause of my so call "friends". I hate those people they suck my poop...
    brownzugar brownzugar 16-17, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm a very shy person and I don't have many friends. Of course I have my close friends, but other than that I don't have many friends. Maybe you don't mind but for me, friends are...
    HorseBeauty HorseBeauty 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    Hi guys, I need to throw everything outside, and I think that's the best place to do it. So, I suspect my mother is borderline type, not officially diagnosed but I can see so many...
    joeyanna joeyanna 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    Dear you these are my thoughts this very moment, Why is it that other girls are on your mind? Am I not good enough? What'd i do wrong? I am hurt... So basically we've been...
    Sunshinebarbie Sunshinebarbie 16-17, F Jul 16

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    People who hurted me has no clue to what extend they have made me broken.Perhaps some of them would be even glad to know.Anyhow if they could feel what I feel...that would be...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I moved to Vegas from Europe. I don't have a drivers license and nothing is within walking distance. My friends from home never writes to me anymore. I feel so lonely.
    Desertnight Desertnight 22-25, F Jul 2

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    Since I have moved to Portland 10 months ago, I haven't made any friends. I find most of the people here boring and superficial. I find people here in the Pacific Northwest very...
    derkosmonaut derkosmonaut 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 3

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    I don't have any physical friends I wish I had a bestie anyone in the New Jersey area
    lonelymami lonelymami 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    I think that there is not such thing as fake friends it's eathier u is real or nothing real friends care about u not make u think they is your real friend I've had a lot of people...
    Singleton34 Singleton34 13-15, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    My parents don't believe in physical contact unless it's to spank me. The most I've had was when my dad shook my hand when I got good exam results. I hide everything about who I...
    marcusru marcusru 16-17, M 5 days ago

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    I want to start with THEY! HOW dare EP limit me? They bully me by making me take the first word, So my statment has to be fake in order to be heard! They met each other man and...
    Twidget0831 Twidget0831 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    I achieved 3 things yesterday . But I'll post every one in a different post . So 1.i made two friends. I made two friends yesterday and they made me laugh till my throat hurt it...
    DrowningInPain2 DrowningInPain2 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I won't let you close enough to hurt me.
    FindMeHereUnmoved FindMeHereUnmoved 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    I'm glad you are no longer in my life now. You have no idea how much did you selfishness had put me through. casual relationship my ***! You just couldn't resist other girls, that...
    Naturalsimple Naturalsimple 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    im just so sad and the more i cry the more hurt i get and it hurts me so bad, i feel this terrible pain in my heart and no one understands, i just feel so alone someone please help...
    AngelAvila AngelAvila 13-15, F 6 Responses Jul 9

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    Constipation hurts!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    mcfartcloud mcfartcloud 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I've been married for 21 years to a man who could care less if I lived or died. I'm not allowed to show any emotion. I'm disrespected on a daily basis and he's cheated at least 3...
    sears1297 sears1297 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 16

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    All the people who think they are my friends are from school. All of them are religious and hate gays. So they are not my friends. I wish I had someone to talk to about things...
    marcusru marcusru 16-17, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I tend to drift away from people too many times, so I tend to find myself with a select few as friends.
    RoddyB7589 RoddyB7589 16-17, M Jul 2

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    When you instantly devalue, with just a few words, years worth of hard work that I've accomplished. For us. When you constantly put me last on your list of priorities. When you...
    neveragoodusername neveragoodusername 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    You would think that it bothers me, but it doesn't. People bring drama and I am too grown to deal with that.
    Katherinex13 Katherinex13 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    Hi I am with you on that one. One day they are there the next you are a ghost or dead to them.
    greenH greenH 41-45, M Jul 11

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    I have like no one to talk to at all. Some times I feel like I'm drowning with all my sorrow. Just wish I had someone to really talk to.
    Soldiergirl3 Soldiergirl3 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    I used to, but my parents chased them all away because they thought they used me. They never did. They also make sure i dont hang out with them by setting up a ring of spies to...
    redphoenix02 redphoenix02 22-25, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I have no one to share, am very much lovng and caring my family, but when am broken, there is no one to say stop cry...
    Nish05 Nish05 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    People call it negativity I call it living in reality. I mean seriously! I'm not going to believe in what cannot happen!
    YLIhououin YLIhououin 18-21, M Jul 19

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    I am sure they believe there is a 'relationship' and are merely giving me 'space to live my life'. Huh, really? Were you also doing this for the rest of the 21 years? I have no...
    macabrEnigma macabrEnigma 18-21, T 5 days ago

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    I really don't get people sometimes, especially those who claim to love and understand you, who claim that they care about you, they know what hurts you but they do it anyway, and...
    LoneDovahKiin LoneDovahKiin 22-25, M Jul 5

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    My Fiance and I have been together for 5 years. He has had his dog for 7 years. He's very protective and barks constantly, he doesn't like strangers and will bite and break skin if...
    lana089 lana089 18-21, F Jul 17

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    I have a husband who loves me and three great kids that we spoil. But I don't have any friends. I am a stay-at-home Mom. I have low self-esteem, I guess. Sometimes. I don't know. I...
    Kryzta Kryzta 26-30, F Jul 5

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    Well mostly everything I post upsets people to the 10th degree even though all I'm trying to do is share my honest concerns. It sure isn't easy being me, but I'm not 1 to complain...