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I Don't Usually Remain Friends With Those Who Hurt Me Deeply

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 186 People

    I Am No Longer Your Doormat

    There is a difference in giving a person 'the benefit of the doubt', and allowing one to wipe their toxic waste upon me as though I am a doormat. If your intent is to cut deeply, then do your best; but I will survive. I will not judge, or wish you ill harm. Please...
    angelwings626 angelwings626 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 27, 2009

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    I Did It!

    Usually, I remain friends with people who even hurt me. But now,,, no more. I have this friend who backbites me and it cannot happen that I don't know about it. I don't know what's her problem. My other friend said she's just insecure. But I just brushed it off. I've been...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Aug 30, 2008

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    Betrayal/deceit/manipulation

    I would like to definitely comment on this. I can honestly say, that people that you would normally call "friends", manipulate/decieve/con you into thinking they are something they really aren't to me, is quite sickening. From a business point i'm speaking about. Thx..
    Miseree Miseree 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

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    Independent and Individual

    I am not one for "aquaintances" or fair weather friends. I am pretty good at judging the good and bad in a person quickly, and I usually have an accurate measure of their character within a few minutes. unfortunately, it is hard to give someone a chance if I don't like...
    EntrepGuy EntrepGuy 22-25, M 6 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    He Was Given Enough Chances

    Me and my Sister's boyfriend were or kinda are friends but barely. I am just trying to avoid him now because of things he has done to me. He has completely blown off plans with me and then calls me an hour later because things didn't go the way he planned. Also I had another...
    gsjr89 gsjr89 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    ON the Contrary...

    I MAINTAIN A FRIENDSAHIP WITH THOSE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME. I like to prove them wrong. They are always wrong.
    evergreen evergreen 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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    I Forgive You

    Normally I am a very stubborn person and if you hurt me once you don't get a second chance to torture my soul again. (I only have true friendships with persons who I feel can touch my soul.)  That is just how I am and I thought I would never go back...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    You Better Believe It

    a friend hurt me twice in such a bad way. i will not forgive her. and i won't forgive her so called boyfriend for getting all up in my face that day and pushing me off the porch when all i did was come over to bring them their d@mn cigarettes and try to be nice.  not to...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F Mar 3, 2008

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    No Sillies

    those who hurt me are dead and gone... 
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 Jun 27, 2011

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    This Is Something I Have Been Working On...

    For So long I have allowed people to stuck around who hurt me badly and just kept making excuses for their behavior, sometimes I think it is best to just walk away cause they will likely just repeat the same behavior again and usually even after you speak up and tell them about...
    idealist28 idealist28 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2009

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    Years Of Betrayal

    I have a friend, she watched my kids since they were wee little things (8 years now).... She has kids the same age and they all played along so well. They attend grade school together...I did favors for her, gave her all our outgrown toys and clothes for her daycare when she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 24, 2013

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    There's A Reason For That.

    I consider myself a fair person and a forgiving person. I do forgive and sometimes I forgive much to easily. I don't remain friends with anyone who has hurt me deeply though. I take a fair amount of stupidity from people and sometimes that is all it is-stupidity rather than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 27, 2012

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    Never

    I used to take a lot from people when I was very young, but one of the benefits of being older is that I know I can shut people out of my life if they cause me too much pain. When the cost of a friendship outweighs the benefits, then I'm gone. I don't need to be around people who...
    bunnymousekitt bunnymousekitt 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 16, 2009

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    One Chance

    I used to forgive over and over and over. I had one friend who was stealing from me, hurting me, or lying about me almost every month, and I remained friends with her for over 10 years. I will no longer put myself through that. I believe I am a human being worth being treated...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2009

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    I Am Turning My Back On This Guy!!!!!

    I don't think I've ever been deeply hurt by anyone until a few months ago.Well yeah I have been deeply hurt by my mom and stepdad and an uncle but that was when I was a child and had to take it.I have been having problems with this cousin of mine.He has these mood swings...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    It Depends:

    Intentional hurting...they are done...inadvertent warrants a discussion...family, well thats a delicate one...im not going to hate or ignore them till my deathbed..if it can be fixed great...if not then its a write off...ive seen too many family relationships screwed for life...
    SensualEnchantment4u SensualEnchantment4u 56-60, M Aug 26, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    So I actually caught feelings for the guy I had friends with benefits with 😕 I know he doesn't see me like that but I just wish he did cause now I don't want to sleep with him...
    ka216 ka216 18-21, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    12 month sober from what felt like the most dramatic, painful, irrecoverable 2 years and a half of my life. Yet the worst part is I could have walked away before it got out of...
    ffjpp ffjpp 18-21, F 6 hrs ago

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    Today is the 4th of July and it's another year where I don't celebrate it. It's not that I don't want to or like it. I really do like it and who doesn't like fireworks? It's just...
    Xemplefied Xemplefied 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    There is so much we can do for those who are suicidal, and for those who are in need, and want their life to be over. There is so much we can do, if we just take the time to help...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I have kept in mind that people have their own problems, they're too busy worrying about their own problems,not mine. People want to know your business to boost their self...
    Brandnewhim2015 Brandnewhim2015 26-30, M 2 days ago

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    When I'm lyin' in my bed at night I don't wanna grow up Nothin' ever seems to turn out right I don't wanna grow up How do you move in a world of fog That's always changing things...
    ThatMetalDude ThatMetalDude 22-25, M 2 days ago

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    On Saturday, a good friend of mine asked me to go to church with her. I didn't want to go, but I still went with her to make her happy. I don't normally go to church, so I thought...
    moose73630 moose73630 16-17, M 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Many years ago now I went to an event and met someone there who I felt was pretty interesting. He was a poet and artist so we exchanged info and have kept in touch sort of through...
    LaGentilleDame LaGentilleDame 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    not that im complaining keep them coming ladies
    funuk funuk 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    my relationship has hit an all time rock hard bottom - at this rate we will most likely go underground and say hi to hades before the month is over
    confusednormalness confusednormalness 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    It's funny when religion especially Islam says we are all equal but the Jews are bad, the Chriatians don't make good friends and aren't to be trusted and the gays are horrible and...
    PiecingMeBackTogether PiecingMeBackTogether 18-21 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Honestly it's a GOOD thing to not trust anyone. This day and age no one is trustworthy. (Well barely anyone but there are still some rare gems) Everyone is out for themselves and...
    FightingForHappiness FightingForHappiness 31-35, F 48 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't know why there are girls who send me nude photos after telling me I'm pretty... Every time I open my inbox, I always get surprises. haha!Not that I don't like women's...
    leztat leztat 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I've stopped replying to messages in my inbox for a variety of reasons. If I get asked for a photo of myself one more time I may lose what's left of my feeble mind. Because of a...
    SunshineMel SunshineMel 26-30, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    Married for 5 years. Together for 7 years. We have two children (4 and 7). The seven year old is from my previous marriage. That previous marriage was abusive and he cheated on...
    m3385 m3385 26-30, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I dont need a fix to be happy and I dont associate with those who do. I just need wide open spaces and like minded company.
    93Armand 93Armand 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    The weekend was going good until I found out that my M-I-L practised reiki on my son. Something that we don't believe in and don't want her messing with. We were so close to...
    aquiver aquiver 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I don't know who I detest more: The 'alpha-male', primed for conquest and always seeking competition, lacking any form of emotional depth... or the 'nice guy', pretending his...
    manimalien manimalien 31-35, M a week ago

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    Ok so I've been with this guy for 8 months now and I recently brought up that there's no depth to our relationship, It happened to be that time of the month and he asked "are u...
    AnnieLouisez AnnieLouisez 26-30, F 9 Responses Jun 28

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    I can't find it anywhere, the answer to my problem. I simply cannot understand what normal people do anymore, and i feel like i am done trying because nothing's getting any better...
    Bradly123 Bradly123 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 26

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    Kids are annoying, loud, messy, expensive, and time-consuming. Those are all things I don't like to deal with. Therefore, I don't want kids. Not to mention I'm bad at understanding...
    thehobbits thehobbits 22-25 3 Responses Jun 25

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    Emphasis of the 'feel'. I'm not saying they actually don't. I had to move back home after finishing an art degree so I could build up my career to go freelance. It's been hard...
    EleanorPainting EleanorPainting 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    Soooooo,Hmm(clearing throat) I met a woman in college in 2009 after a breakup with another woman that just up and left me with these words ''Later on in life you'll see that it...
    SchizoEffective6 SchizoEffective6 36-40, M Jun 23

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    People absolutely refuse to understand this. I've never been in love. I've never had a crush, and I don't see the point in dating as in those situations people expect a romantic...
    Thisbe Thisbe 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    Regardless of their age. If someone is older than me and they think they automatically gain my respect then hear me laugh like a caffeinated hyena. Respect isn't something we...
    Shayala Shayala 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    When I was younger I was quite popular actually, but not anymore, for some reason everyone started to ignore me and I never knew why... :'( Somehow my sister knew about it and...
    Elliethecloud Elliethecloud 13-15, F Jun 22

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    I haven't been getting along with my mom ever since my Dad became seriously ill with cancer and died. It began with her saying she didn't think we needed to come out to see my Dad...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F Jun 22