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I Don't Usually Remain Friends With Those Who Hurt Me Deeply

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    I Am Turning My Back On This Guy!!!!!

    I don't think I've ever been deeply hurt by anyone until a few months ago.Well yeah I have been deeply hurt by my mom and stepdad and an uncle but that was when I was a child and had to take it.I have been having problems with this cousin of mine.He has these mood swings...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    It Depends:

    Intentional hurting...they are done...inadvertent warrants a discussion...family, well thats a delicate one...im not going to hate or ignore them till my deathbed..if it can be fixed great...if not then its a write off...ive seen too many family relationships screwed for life...
    SensualEnchantment4u SensualEnchantment4u 56-60, M Aug 26, 2012

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    Betrayal/deceit/manipulation

    I would like to definitely comment on this. I can honestly say, that people that you would normally call "friends", manipulate/decieve/con you into thinking they are something they really aren't to me, is quite sickening. From a business point i'm speaking about. Thx..
    Miseree Miseree 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

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    ON the Contrary...

    I MAINTAIN A FRIENDSAHIP WITH THOSE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME. I like to prove them wrong. They are always wrong.
    evergreen evergreen 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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    Years Of Betrayal

    I have a friend, she watched my kids since they were wee little things (8 years now).... She has kids the same age and they all played along so well. They attend grade school together...I did favors for her, gave her all our outgrown toys and clothes for her daycare when she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2013

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    There's A Reason For That.

    I consider myself a fair person and a forgiving person. I do forgive and sometimes I forgive much to easily. I don't remain friends with anyone who has hurt me deeply though. I take a fair amount of stupidity from people and sometimes that is all it is-stupidity rather than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 27, 2012

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    No Sillies

    those who hurt me are dead and gone... 
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F Jun 27, 2011

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    This Is Something I Have Been Working On...

    For So long I have allowed people to stuck around who hurt me badly and just kept making excuses for their behavior, sometimes I think it is best to just walk away cause they will likely just repeat the same behavior again and usually even after you speak up and tell them about...
    idealist28 idealist28 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2009

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    I Forgive You

    Normally I am a very stubborn person and if you hurt me once you don't get a second chance to torture my soul again. (I only have true friendships with persons who I feel can touch my soul.)  That is just how I am and I thought I would never go back...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    You Better Believe It

    a friend hurt me twice in such a bad way. i will not forgive her. and i won't forgive her so called boyfriend for getting all up in my face that day and pushing me off the porch when all i did was come over to bring them their d@mn cigarettes and try to be nice.  not to...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F Mar 3, 2008

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    I Am No Longer Your Doormat

    There is a difference in giving a person 'the benefit of the doubt', and allowing one to wipe their toxic waste upon me as though I am a doormat. If your intent is to cut deeply, then do your best; but I will survive. I will not judge, or wish you ill harm. Please...
    angelwings626 angelwings626 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 27, 2009

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    I Did It!

    Usually, I remain friends with people who even hurt me. But now,,, no more. I have this friend who backbites me and it cannot happen that I don't know about it. I don't know what's her problem. My other friend said she's just insecure. But I just brushed it off. I've been...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Aug 30, 2008

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    Independent and Individual

    I am not one for "aquaintances" or fair weather friends. I am pretty good at judging the good and bad in a person quickly, and I usually have an accurate measure of their character within a few minutes. unfortunately, it is hard to give someone a chance if I don't like...
    EntrepGuy EntrepGuy 22-25, M 6 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    One Chance

    I used to forgive over and over and over. I had one friend who was stealing from me, hurting me, or lying about me almost every month, and I remained friends with her for over 10 years. I will no longer put myself through that. I believe I am a human being worth being treated...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2009

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    Never

    I used to take a lot from people when I was very young, but one of the benefits of being older is that I know I can shut people out of my life if they cause me too much pain. When the cost of a friendship outweighs the benefits, then I'm gone. I don't need to be around people who...
    bunnymousekitt bunnymousekitt 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 16, 2009

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    He Was Given Enough Chances

    Me and my Sister's boyfriend were or kinda are friends but barely. I am just trying to avoid him now because of things he has done to me. He has completely blown off plans with me and then calls me an hour later because things didn't go the way he planned. Also I had another...
    gsjr89 gsjr89 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    I think I told this story before, but here I go again... I have lost my faith in so many things. I have lost my faith in myself, in people, in life. When I was a kid, I had a...
    Allaloneandpoisoned Allaloneandpoisoned 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Dear hurt, Why can't you leave me alone? Why is it that you always find your way to suck me in, with no fair warning? Hurt, you put me down so many times. You keep telling my...
    natashaxxs natashaxxs 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    I don't need any friends if they are all just going to stab me in the back. I'd rather be a loner than in pain cause of my so call "friends". I hate those people they suck my poop...
    brownzugar brownzugar 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 24

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    I don't know what I did to get fake friends. I don't need fake friends. I don't want fake friends.. I just wanna live a normal life.
    KianHayesThot KianHayesThot 13-15, F Aug 3

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    I only have 2 real friends, and i m crushing on one of them...I don't have many friends...People always tell me to make more friends, but I think I am picky in making friends...don...
    RainbowSpectrum RainbowSpectrum 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 7

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    Hi guys, I need to throw everything outside, and I think that's the best place to do it. So, I suspect my mother is borderline type, not officially diagnosed but I can see so many...
    joeyanna joeyanna 22-25, F Jul 27

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    I really don't :'( she's my whole world. Life means nothing if she's not in it :'( what's the point of life if you can't be woth the one you love most in the entire universe :'( I...
    ywilliam31 ywilliam31 16-17, M Jul 31

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    Song-time! Nothing cheers up like a spontaneous musical act! (Well, I can think of quite a few things actually, but that's besides the point!) When the day is long and the...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 12

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    It's summer and I haven't talked to anyone from high school since it ended (about 2 months ago) just one girl who anyway always tries to push me away.She says she likes me but I...
    Leraluna Leraluna 16-17, F Jul 31

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    I've never been the type to have a lot of friends, never more than 2 or 3, but now I have none. The only person who I would actually consider a friend is out of the country until...
    aj2456 aj2456 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 3

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    I've had a lot of friends throughout my life, but none of them have really stuck around or I found they weren't really my friend after all. So for a long time I sort of just set...
    HillyHana HillyHana 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    I know they mean well but it just seems like my friends don't trust my judgement. Everytime I talk about this boy, they shut me down. They want me to stop talking about him and...
    defi4nce defi4nce 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 2

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    I think that there is not such thing as fake friends it's eathier u is real or nothing real friends care about u not make u think they is your real friend I've had a lot of people...
    Singleton34 Singleton34 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 24

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    This all started when I had someone name DAW2012 or DAW2 with a star by his name and he was a man and he thought I was lying about my house that I just bought and I forgot to...
    Stephanie128 Stephanie128 18-21, F 7 hrs ago

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    My parents don't believe in physical contact unless it's to spank me. The most I've had was when my dad shook my hand when I got good exam results. I hide everything about who I...
    marcusru marcusru 16-17, M Jul 23

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    I won't let you close enough to hurt me.
    FindMeHereUnmoved FindMeHereUnmoved 22-25, F Jul 25

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    I'm glad you are no longer in my life now. You have no idea how much did you selfishness had put me through. casual relationship my ***! You just couldn't resist other girls, that...
    Naturalsimple Naturalsimple 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 27

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    All the people who think they are my friends are from school. All of them are religious and hate gays. So they are not my friends. I wish I had someone to talk to about things...
    marcusru marcusru 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 23

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    Maybe if you did youd see me differently, and see i dont do things you dont like because i want to upswt you... But more like, i do them to forget about who I am temporerally...
    SingItForTheKids SingItForTheKids 18-21, F Aug 6

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    I actually prefer it this way. Sure, it's nice to have a friend, but why trust someone who can stab you in the back at anytime? I prefer to be alone. No one can stab you in the...
    BENDrowned BENDrowned 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    Yeah!!!!! I am at the point where I am fine with not having a friend. I was 21 when I wanted to have friends,whateva. I like being by myself and I never have any problem going...
    Hannarose Hannarose 22-25, F Aug 1

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    What the hell are my friends doing? When they are alone, they always invite me to hang out. however, when I need help, they do not help me. I do not believe friendship anymore. It...
    fitwealth fitwealth 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    ... or maybe you do, and that's why you did it.
    ConcreteSleeper ConcreteSleeper 31-35, M Aug 6

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    I have a mother that is constantly judging me and telling me that I'm not good enough or that I'm never going to be loved by anyone. She thinks nothing affects me, but secretly her...
    weby667 weby667 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    I used to talk to a lot of people everyday but we've drifted in the past year or so which is sad. I'd really love to talk to new people, so hello talk to me? haha, please keep in...
    raehmm raehmm 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    I am sure they believe there is a 'relationship' and are merely giving me 'space to live my life'. Huh, really? Were you also doing this for the rest of the 21 years? I have no...
    Lucienn Lucienn 18-21, T Jul 23

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    I ended things. We are now friends only. The events leading up to that were convoluted and confusing as usual. So a few days ago we went over to some friends of ours. Our...
    starflower1 starflower1 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    I am prompted to write this today after reading a message sent to me from someone who was in my circle and meant a lot to me. I was accused of being an F****** fraud and accused of...
    Lavender007 Lavender007 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    It seems that another profound theory is wheedling to come to life on paper. I have done a lot of thinking about relationships lately, and have reached several conclusions that...
    bbcfolyfe1771 bbcfolyfe1771 18-21, M Aug 2

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    My husband and I are going through something very personal right now and it's slowly tearing our marriage apart. All I can say here is I hurt him and made him feel like I didn't...
    Justalicia Justalicia 31-35, F Aug 4

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    I had this friend, she judges everyone. I thought she'll change, but I was wrong. So I decided to stop being friends with her and she went all crazy and harass me on twitter. She...
    meganchang meganchang 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    I don't think internet trolling or whatever you'd prefer to call it, is ever necessary. Why try to step in and create drama etc? A bit of constructive criticism the proper way...
    OceanicXs OceanicXs 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 28

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