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I Don't Want Children

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    Oh, I Like This Group...it's Almost Taboo In This Culture to Admit You Don't Want Kids...

    Wow, what a great experience topic.  There was a time growing up that I assumed I'd have children because...well, what other option is there?  As I grew up I realized you can chose not to have children.  What a revolutionary concept that was for me.  I've been...
    SDTerp SDTerp 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 10, 2008

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    Not Sure

    I know now that I do NOT want to bring a child into this world. I like children, I really do but I feel that knowing what I know about this world; why would I want to bring a child into this. I am not against people wanting and having children nor will I chastise them for doing...
    differenttypeofperson differenttypeofperson 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    No Woman No Cry

    So I am approaching 27 and everyone around me is producing offspring. Left, right and center, and mostly down below.  I am very happy for them, there is no issue there. I am always happy for people who have a goal and achieve it - be it getting a job or producing human...
    BusinessGoth BusinessGoth 31-35, F 13 Responses Aug 18, 2009

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    The prospect of having children scares the

    living daylights out of me and the thought of being pregnant with a child is my phobia it would shake my very core and I would be hysterical... The whole marriage thing isn't a comforting idea either but I do want a soul mate and someone to love forever, just no legalities and...
    bluemoon93 bluemoon93 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Since I was young, I have never wanted to have

    children. I feel like females are expected to follow the footsteps; grow up, go to university, get married, have children and then slowly perish. I want to break free of said chains and go and do my own activities. Also, I am not saying that having children will stop you...
    MellifluousMilkshake MellifluousMilkshake 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    I'm never, ever, ever,

    ever, ever having children. Just NO.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 8

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    No Reason To Have Kids.

    There is no reason for me to have kids since the world will be the same as it is today, and besides I'm not interested in passing on genes and stuff. I would rather have mines rot away thank you very much. Another reason I don't want kids is because of the way a lot of people...
    GonUnleashed GonUnleashed 18-21 3 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    Not For Me

    I've never been the kind of girl who was dying to be a mom. It just doesn't suit me. I find pregnancy both terrifying and disgusting, I even have a hard time looking at pregnant women without making a face. I know that I'm too selfish and I'll admit that all day long. I enjoy...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    I am glad that not having children in my line

    of work is something that many people agree with and understand. However, I wish that I could be more open and forthcoming to friends and family about my choice without them becoming offended.
    MonicaG47 MonicaG47 26-30, F 1 Response May 6

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    Eh, I say I don't but I wouldn't mind it.

    Then I realize that my fertility is questionable for one. My uterus and hormones hate me. For real. Two, I am ALWAYS in dire straits. I was born poor, no doubt I'll die poor, too. I'd be heartless to put a child in that situation. With the world being like it is, and every time...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Benefits To Not Having Children:

    Hello! I had to write this story all over again. Just as I was about to post it the whole thing disappeared. So here is a shortened version. Please let me know if anyone can relate or add to my list. These are my benefits to being child-free: * I have freedom to do what I...
    1 Response Jan 27, 2013

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    Sacrifice

    I like to analyze why I do or do not want something.  The question of children is one that I have spent way too many brain cells thinking about.  I have never wanted marriage or children.  I raised my brother and I think I have a realistic view of what children...
    Krypton Krypton 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    After seeing my brother

    and sister I refuse to have kids or even adopt. I don't have patience for pointless bickering, tattle telling, and especially not crying. I want to take care of myself and myself only.
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 8

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    I feel like I would be a horrible parent.

    I have a pretty horrible personality, so I think if I had children they would be like those people on t.v. who grow up to kill their parents. Also it doesn't help I'm afraid of doctors and having babies. Plus other parents would hate me because I'd be the type of person that...
    ImaginaryPrototype ImaginaryPrototype 18-21, F 1 Response May 23

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    Ha! Me? a Mother?

    I can't even keep a hamster alive.  I dread to think what I'd do to children. Start with the fact that I can't/don't cook.  Spaghetti-O's and Pop Tarts again, kids!  Plus I'd warp their little innocent, impressionable minds.  "No, honey.  Trust...
    lunameow lunameow 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    i was always ambivalent

    and now it is far too late for me to reproduce. i love children, but was always worried that i would be a terrible mother. i am glad to simply be an aunt.
    Katertoten Katertoten 46-50, F Jun 30

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    Shitass Kids and the Annoying Asshats Who Have Them

    L et me prefeces by saying I love my parents and yes, I'm fully aware at one point I was once a squirming, useless, noncontributing, crying, pants s)hitting parasite. However the ONLY good thing about children is they grow up, as I did. If 20 year old me went back in time and saw...
    kimjus kimjus 18-21 8 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    I Never Want To Have Children!

    wow, first of all- Im so relieved to find other people who feel the same way! I have never wanted children in my life, for several reasons. First of all, Im really indipendet. I like the freedome to do what I want and go where I want without having to find a babysitter...
    NerdyBirdy NerdyBirdy 18-21, F 34 Responses Mar 27, 2010

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    Everytime I try to imagine my life with

    children I can only see how tying myself down would severely impede my educational and career goals. I would also have to marry(children out of wedlock is one of society's MAIN problems) and cohabitate which is about as appealing to me as a Root Canal. Hell I have never even had...
    Hoshanna Hoshanna 31-35, F Aug 6

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    Never Wanted Them, Almost In The Clear

    I grew up never wanting children. Like most of you I been told a million times "You'll change your mind" "You HAVE to have a baby" "I can't imagine life without my child/ren" "You will never know love until you have a baby" I have watched all my friends transition into mothers...
    lillhammer78 lillhammer78 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    Why Is It So Odd?

    I do not want kids, ever. I've never really been a fan of children and the older I get the more certain I am that they just aren't for me. What I don't get is why people think that it is such a preposterous idea that anyone, especially a female, could possibly go about their life...
    Veggiefriendly Veggiefriendly 18-21, F 23 Responses Sep 20, 2011

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    No Children For Me; Let Me Live My Own Life

    I am sick and tired of people telling me that I am still young and will change my mind about having children as I get older. I have already made up my mind. I do not want children. The worst part is how certain people tend to make fun of me exactly because of that. They can be...
    Maribelle Maribelle 18-21 11 Responses Jul 3, 2011

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    At Least Not My Own

    I refuse to bring new life to this world. I might adopt a baby when the time comes since they have already been brought to this world. I'd rather try and be the best parent to already born child than bring a baby on my own to this cruel, paradoxical, nonsensical place.
    Butterflying Butterflying 26-30, F 10 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    I Am Looking For A Female That Doesn't Want Children For A Loving Anr Or Abf Relationship In Tampa Bay, Fl.

    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open Minded Female In Tampa Bay, Fl . I am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in Tampa Bay, Florida. If you are out there give me a buzz so that we can chat?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 28, 2013

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    Why Should I Want To, Exactly?!

    I don't see the appeal at all. I don't want to complicate my life. I'm poor enough without them and don't want to dump my circumstances on them. I'd rather have free time rather than having to constantly watch and worry about someone else. I would worry about how my kid...
    missynegative missynegative 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2, 2008

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    I Don't Hate Kids Either.

    Before you label me as some hateful person, it is not children's fault I don't want them. I don't being around well behaved children. The reasons I don't want children are logical, not hateful. 1. I have PTSD. I wake up with nightmares and have broken lamps in my sleep. I would...
    Maggielookin4glenn Maggielookin4glenn 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    Not Made To Raise Children

    Friends:  “I want to have two children because I don’t want my child to grow-up like I did, being the only child.” *we nod – we understand the joy of having a sibling* “Just better make sure my husband ain’t some *** that I’ll have to divorce him.” “Honey, if a...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 6 Responses May 30, 2011

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    Why Most Women Have To Want Kids?

    If there's one thing I know about my life is that I don't want kids.  The world doesn't need more people, and I certainly don't need a family in the traditional sense. I have a girlfriend who I could really see in the future as my wife, but now she changed her mind and wants...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 15, 2010

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    I've never been very great with kids

    but the more I grow up seeing how my brother treats my mother...the more I know I don't want them. I feel so bad for my mother knowing how she gets treated. Why would I ever want kids knowing it's possible that they could hurt me so badly? I don't think I'm strong enough to...
    mag77523 mag77523 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    I can remember thinking from the age of 13,

    the ONLY way I am going to have children is if I First have a Completely Rock Solid relationship with a wife, like the one my grandparents had who where married for 63 years. I have Too much going on Personally to raise a child(ren) by myself, and I sure as hell wasn't going to...
    NvBikeBoy NvBikeBoy 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I Don't Want Children

    I'm not capable of raising children, and I accept it well. I realize that motherhood is a huge responsibility that I can't handle, plus I'm shy. I'm happy for the many women who play the role of mother and do it well.  I like knowing other people who would not have children.
    MDenise MDenise 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    I am 24 years old and I am sure

    that I do not want kids. I was sure long time ago, thought of course according to majority I am such a young individual to decide. The funny thing is that the same majority of my ex-clasmates or people in their 21´s have kids ... somehow they are not young to decide , but I am...
    Serpensss Serpensss 22-25, F 26 Responses Jan 3

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    I don't think children would make me happy.

    Most people have children because society conditions them to. That is not a good enough reason. With a rapidly expanding population, climate change and extreme poverty, I think having children is actually an immoral choice and pushes society backwards.
    adelecass adelecass 22-25, F 28 Responses May 23

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    I'm 33, female, and I've never wanted kids.

    I like them. I absolutely love my neices and nephew (my nephew I miss every day if I don't see him). But I don't get that urge in my womb that my friends talk about. I don't coo over babies I don't know (Although I can understand - I think I get that with puppies and dogs). I've...
    noodleweasel noodleweasel 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 6

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    Childfree Is The Way For Me!

    Hello.  My name is M, and I don’t want kids.  There, I said it!  Why is it that admitting that I don’t want to have kids seems almost as bad as admitting that I’m addicted to drugs?  It’s because in our society, it is simply expected that you will have children. That...
    microwench microwench 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2011

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    There is nothing about what comes with having

    children that is appealing to me. This one thing ended the one relationship I was in that otherwise had a chance to become something much more. I feel like finding a woman that does not want children and that is also my type will be so rare that I wonder if am hoping for...
    Syzygy11 Syzygy11 31-35, M 4 Responses Jan 23

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    None, Thanks

    When I was in high school, one of my friends was writing a fictional story for fun, and we all had counter-parts within it.  Since these characters were based on us, she would occassionally ask our opinions on things. One of the questions was how many children we wanted our...
    BDWilT BDWilT 26-30 3 Responses Jul 26, 2007

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    I know Im still young

    and I might change my mind, but for now I don't like the idea. I'm scared of giving birth (like most girls :P) And I'm worried that the way I was raised would affect how I raise my kids. Although I know my parents have a different way of seeing what a punishment is, and I don't...
    in7te in7te 13-15, F 1 Response May 23

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    What Biological Clock?

    I'm 30, and I was told at age 23, "at 26 you'll feel the urge". "at 29 you'll really feel the clock". "At 30, the clock is ticking really loud". YEAH RIGHT! I don't feel badly for not wanting children. We're humans, and should be capable of the...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 9 Responses Jun 7, 2008

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    I spent my high school years helping take care

    of my sisters who are now in middle and high school. My brother is 5 years younger than me. All of my cousins, with the exception of 2, are all younger than me. Needless to say, I spent my childhood taking care of kids. It was fun at times, which is why I am so good with them...
    Photographer25 Photographer25 26-30 1 Response May 6

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    Even though I would make an awesome mother,

    it's never going to happen.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Jul 22

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    My Choice Is No

    So, upon meeting me for the first time, and learning that I am a "housewife", usually the next question most people ask me is "Do you have any children?". I tell them no, not unless you count my two big dogs (Which, by the way, should totally count, I SWEAR they are as much work...
    Hongruilin Hongruilin 31-35, F 18 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    Happy With My Choice

    I have nothing against kids - if you really want them, you should have them but don't complain endlessly about the down side of it all after you do.  And do me the courtesy of not assuming that  I am selfish or abnormal because I don't share your enthusiasm for the...
    Solidad42 Solidad42 41-45, F 111 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    My own childhood included a drug addict

    for a father who was later sent to prison, a controlling racist grandmother, time in orphanage, and pure misery most days. I refuse to be responsible for raising a "productive member of society" when I have no clue how that's done and can already detect my selfish desires right...
    2ndGenPuppet 2ndGenPuppet 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    I just came back from a family reunion,

    I like kids, but was unable to have one single adult conversation in 4 days, wound up watching other people's kids and spent the rest of the time cleaning up after them..
    Barbarella59 Barbarella59 51-55, F Jul 25

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    I like kids but I don't think I would trust

    myself to be a mother. Its such a huge responsibility and I'm not sure I would be very good at it. I sometimes fade into myself and shut down for a few days. I don't want a child to grow up dealing with that, its not fair to the kid or to the father. If some day I overcome my...
    TryingToLoveLifeNow TryingToLoveLifeNow 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    Married With Out Children

    I have never really wanted children and thankfully neither has my husband. We have been married for 11 year and most people don't understand how we can be childless. We got married young and everyone thought it was because I was pregnant. As it turned out, I wasn't. We have...
    KeepMySecrets KeepMySecrets 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 29, 2008

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    Genetically Responsible.

    I don't want kids. I don't want to be a mom. It isn't in my nature to be nurturing of another person... not to the extent that a child would need over the 18-year span of their life for which I would be responsible. I'd like to say that I have the capacity for such a big task...
    McSerious McSerious 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 10, 2010

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    I don't see how having a kid these days,

    that they'll be happy. The world is much worse then it was, we have so much bullying, judgemental people, and it starts so young now. At least in North America.
    4EverBlissful 4EverBlissful 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    I Don't Want Kids...what's Your Problem With That?

    I may be young (20) but I decided long ago that I wouldn't have children. My reasons include having a phobia of pregnancy and childbirth (as I have mentioned elsewhere, I even have nightmares about it), feeling claustrapobic when picturing motherhood, a short temper and lack of...
    DoktorSchnitzel DoktorSchnitzel 18-21, F 30 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    Selfish?

    I have never understood why so many people assume that people who choose not to procreate are being "selfish." How is that selfish?
    morticia1969 morticia1969 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    None For Me, Thanks.

    for a variety of reasons. the main one being that i want the cycles of mental illness and poor parenting to stop with me. also, and this is selfish, but i have things that i want to do with my life, beyond dedicating it to the upbringing of another person. i want to live. i...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 15 Responses Jan 22, 2008

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    Caitlinsmith1636 Caitlinsmith1636 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 21

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