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I Don't Want Children

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    No Woman No Cry

    So I am approaching 27 and everyone around me is producing offspring. Left, right and center, and mostly down below.  I am very happy for them, there is no issue there. I am always happy for people who have a goal and achieve it - be it getting a job or producing human...
    BusinessGoth BusinessGoth 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 18, 2009

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    Selfish?

    I have never understood why so many people assume that people who choose not to procreate are being "selfish." How is that selfish?
    morticia1969 morticia1969 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    Why Is It So Odd?

    I do not want kids, ever. I've never really been a fan of children and the older I get the more certain I am that they just aren't for me. What I don't get is why people think that it is such a preposterous idea that anyone, especially a female, could possibly go about their life...
    Veggiefriendly Veggiefriendly 18-21, F 22 Responses Sep 20, 2011

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    If I ever live by a neighbor

    who has kids whom are intentionally throwing their toys in my backyard, I'm taking those toys and donating them to GoodWill. They don't need 'em.
    Cutiepeachpie Cutiepeachpie 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 23

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    None, Thanks

    When I was in high school, one of my friends was writing a fictional story for fun, and we all had counter-parts within it.  Since these characters were based on us, she would occassionally ask our opinions on things. One of the questions was how many children we wanted our...
    BDWilT BDWilT 26-30 3 Responses Jul 26, 2007

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    For as long as I could remember I've never

    liked to have responsibilities. I never cared for taking care of our family pets. I never liked to babysit my sibling. I never liked to agree to do things for other people. I guess you could say I'm a commitment phobe. I have never wanted to have children, let alone pets. I...
    tormentedinternally tormentedinternally 26-30, M Dec 10, 2014

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    None For Me, Thanks.

    for a variety of reasons. the main one being that i want the cycles of mental illness and poor parenting to stop with me. also, and this is selfish, but i have things that i want to do with my life, beyond dedicating it to the upbringing of another person. i want to live. i...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 15 Responses Jan 22, 2008

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    I have nothing against children.

    I just don't want any plopping out of these thighs, EVER.
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Aug 13, 2014

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    I despise children and never want to be a

    mother. Not only does the physical process of childbearing disgust and terrify me, I also don't want to deal with the product of that process. I'm 22 and I'm looking into sterilization procedures while I have the insurance to do it. I fould a doctor upstate that will do it at my...
    mangoesonlyplz mangoesonlyplz 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2015

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    Mariahehe Mariahehe 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    As a gift to myself I am going to get

    sterilized. I've worked with kids all my life but NEVER wanted any. I didn't play house with baby dolls I read books and cut pictures from Natural Geographic. I never saw myself as a wife and mother and now in my early 30s I still can't fathom being pregnant and having to raise...
    newasexy newasexy 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Nov 3, 2014

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    Shitass Kids and the Annoying Asshats Who Have Them

    L et me prefeces by saying I love my parents and yes, I'm fully aware at one point I was once a squirming, useless, noncontributing, crying, pants s)hitting parasite. However the ONLY good thing about children is they grow up, as I did. If 20 year old me went back in time and saw...
    kimjus kimjus 18-21 8 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Never Wanted Them, Almost In The Clear

    I grew up never wanting children. Like most of you I been told a million times "You'll change your mind" "You HAVE to have a baby" "I can't imagine life without my child/ren" "You will never know love until you have a baby" I have watched all my friends transition into mothers...
    lillhammer78 lillhammer78 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    No Children For Me; Let Me Live My Own Life

    I am sick and tired of people telling me that I am still young and will change my mind about having children as I get older. I have already made up my mind. I do not want children. The worst part is how certain people tend to make fun of me exactly because of that. They can be...
    Maribelle Maribelle 18-21 11 Responses Jul 3, 2011

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    I don't want children

    nor do I have children and it's staying that way. First when becoming intimate with my husband when get the mood all of the sudden kids come in no thank you. Or a third when flying.
    Cynthia1976 Cynthia1976 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    I have babysat children

    and changed babies. No parental instincts or whatever its called were boosted whatsoever.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 16, 2015

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    I Never Want To Have Children!

    wow, first of all- Im so relieved to find other people who feel the same way! I have never wanted children in my life, for several reasons. First of all, Im really indipendet. I like the freedome to do what I want and go where I want without having to find a babysitter...
    NerdyBirdy NerdyBirdy 22-25, F 34 Responses Mar 27, 2010

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    Childfree Is The Way For Me!

    Hello.  My name is M, and I don’t want kids.  There, I said it!  Why is it that admitting that I don’t want to have kids seems almost as bad as admitting that I’m addicted to drugs?  It’s because in our society, it is simply expected that you will have children. That...
    microwench microwench 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2011

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    Kids are annoying, and it'd be unpleasant

    if they grew up to be douchey teens that we see today.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 6, 2015

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    When it comes to touching pregnant bellies,

    it makes me uncomfortable. Hell, it makes me uncomfortable when my stomach is touched. Not only because I'm ticklish, but I just don't like it. And I know that I'll be that way if I was pregnant. The reason why I don't want children is because I don't want the responsibility. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Mar 15, 2015

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    Not For Me

    I've never been the kind of girl who was dying to be a mom. It just doesn't suit me. I find pregnancy both terrifying and disgusting, I even have a hard time looking at pregnant women without making a face. I know that I'm too selfish and I'll admit that all day long. I enjoy...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    Definitely NOT my cup of tea

    or sippy cup of juice. I'm good with just an attractive female companion and a dog, a pure bred lab to be specific. Kids are cute when they're not running around with snot dripping down their nose. My **** it threshold would be reached quickly.
    ChaoticEnigma ChaoticEnigma 36-40, M 4 Responses Jan 19

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    When people tell me that I MUST have kids,

    I literally feel like this: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/kids I don't want children, and have never been interested in children. The first time this topic came up was when I was about 11, when girls at school started talking about their perfect husbands and what they're going...
    pixieowl pixieowl 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    What Biological Clock?

    I'm 30, and I was told at age 23, "at 26 you'll feel the urge". "at 29 you'll really feel the clock". "At 30, the clock is ticking really loud". YEAH RIGHT! I don't feel badly for not wanting children. We're humans, and should be capable of the...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 10 Responses Jun 7, 2008

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    Of my own. Not really.

    One at the most . I feel like that makes men with kids uncomfortable but I don't want to give birth . The thought literally makes me ill .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2015

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    This title is a bit misleading

    but the closest tittle .. So a more appropriate titIe would be I'm scared of having children.. (Side note : I would be open to having children when my partner and I are financially ready and we agree to have or adopt them) ..I don't my own biological children .. I'm scared I...
    littlesailor littlesailor 18-21, M Jan 18

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    According to a survey most parents decided to

    have kids out the fear of regretting not having them and guess what? they did regret having them . reading that gave me a huge relief because I was having the same thoughts as well I am definitely not getting any
    Fralicious Fralicious 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 8, 2015

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    I really love my sleep,

    time to do my makeup in the morning, nap time, non-****** up vagina/body....etc. free time in general. I don't see why anyone would want to willingly destroy their life.
    snugglybunny snugglybunny 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    I Don't Want Kids...what's Your Problem With That?

    I may be young (20) but I decided long ago that I wouldn't have children. My reasons include having a phobia of pregnancy and childbirth (as I have mentioned elsewhere, I even have nightmares about it), feeling claustrapobic when picturing motherhood, a short temper and lack of...
    DoktorSchnitzel DoktorSchnitzel 18-21, F 30 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    People have stared at me wide eyed

    when I tell them that I do not want kids. They assume that just because I am a female I am going to change my mind later. When I was around 14, girls my age were already thinking of how they would name their kids and thinking of their weddings. I never had the dream of getting...
    TheemopandaX TheemopandaX 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    At Least Not My Own

    I refuse to bring new life to this world. I might adopt a baby when the time comes since they have already been brought to this world. I'd rather try and be the best parent to already born child than bring a baby on my own to this cruel, paradoxical, nonsensical place.
    Butterflying Butterflying 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    Kids can be such a pain,

    especially when they start asking someone to buy them a toy. This happened yesterday with my baby cousin, he wanted some toy and kept asking me for money. Why his aunt/mom brought him along, I will never know.
    Cutiepeachpie Cutiepeachpie 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 21, 2015

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    Ha! Me? a Mother?

    I can't even keep a hamster alive.  I dread to think what I'd do to children. Start with the fact that I can't/don't cook.  Spaghetti-O's and Pop Tarts again, kids!  Plus I'd warp their little innocent, impressionable minds.  "No, honey.  Trust...
    lunameow lunameow 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    I have known since I was 11

    that I didn't want to have children. I didn't like kids as a kid, and couldn't fathom that my sole future was entwined with dirty diapers and tween troubles. Alas, at 11, I discovered through self-education that children were not mandatory life additions, and I could avoid...
    MoniquetheBlonde MoniquetheBlonde 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    I think children give people a

    since of purpose. But I really don't like those stupid ******* who think they are the **** because they ******* out a hell spawn from their puss- .
    PetiteChica PetiteChica 18-21, F Dec 31, 2015

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    "You will never know true,

    unconditional love until you have kids of your own." I have read that this was said to childless people. I really don't see how this makes sense.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 2, 2015

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    I am scarrd to have children of my own

    because this world is so crazy and extreme. I would probably shelter my child and I know that's not good in the long run.
    namedashley namedashley 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2015

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    I don't think children would make me happy.

    Most people have children because society conditions them to. That is not a good enough reason. With a rapidly expanding population, climate change and extreme poverty, I think having children is actually an immoral choice and pushes society backwards.
    adelecass adelecass 22-25, F 24 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I had a wonderful childhood,

    loving parents, and plenty of friends; I just never liked kids. I'm ok with being selfish with my time, in a way it seems almost selfish to have kids knowing I feel this way. I'll take world travel, late sleep on weekends, and my freedom over 18+ years of mess cleaning...
    BleuGardenia BleuGardenia 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2014

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    I don't understand what's

    so selfish about not wanting kids. Many of us do not want to deal with the pains of child bearing, birth, and a tiny human being. Many of us want to travel the world, go to clubs, date and have fun. And Live the best we can and have good memories before we all enter old age and...
    Cutiepeachpie Cutiepeachpie 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    Not every woman has to have children.

    No I will not "change my mind" no I do not "want a part of me left behind" respect my ******* opinion!
    Adaptationn Adaptationn 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    Honestly, I've always hated babies,

    and kids. They're just like little gremlins who take your money. They're like weird looking potatoes. Babies honestly, kids ******* scare me. "If" I were to have kids, I'd wait till I'm about 30, because honestly, I'm way too selfish to ever take care of another life, I...
    bflyboo14 bflyboo14 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2015

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    JustBipolarMe JustBipolarMe 46-50, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Happy With My Choice

    I have nothing against kids - if you really want them, you should have them but don't complain endlessly about the down side of it all after you do.  And do me the courtesy of not assuming that  I am selfish or abnormal because I don't share your enthusiasm for the...
    Solidad42 Solidad42 41-45, F 107 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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