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I Don't Want Children

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    Don't Have It In Me

    I have wanted to tell someone, anyone about my story for a long time.  I do not want children, but no one in my life can accept this.  I am lucky in that I am physically unable to concieve without expensive fertility treatments.  I have told my fiancee, my mom and my...
    BettySpaghetti1 BettySpaghetti1 26-30 5 Responses Dec 20, 2010

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    I'm never, ever, ever,

    ever, ever having children. Just NO.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 8

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    After seeing my brother

    and sister I refuse to have kids or even adopt. I don't have patience for pointless bickering, tattle telling, and especially not crying. I want to take care of myself and myself only.
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 8

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    Maybe Adoption Someday

    Motherhood was something I always wanted. I helped raise my niece and loved being around little children and how cute their little voices sound and how their little pitter pattering little feet echo on the floor as they run. I grew up in a large family and initially wanted 5...
    paintedblue paintedblue 22-25, F Oct 21, 2013

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    I Woke Up One Day And Realized It Isn't Something I Want

    The idea of being pregnant terrifies me. Being weighed down with the stress of having children is something I would probably not be able to handle mentally. All of the women I work with always talk about how they want to experience the bond between mother and child because "it's...
    latestplague latestplague 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 16, 2013

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    Shitass Kids and the Annoying Asshats Who Have Them

    L et me prefeces by saying I love my parents and yes, I'm fully aware at one point I was once a squirming, useless, noncontributing, crying, pants s)hitting parasite. However the ONLY good thing about children is they grow up, as I did. If 20 year old me went back in time and saw...
    kimjus kimjus 18-21 8 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Childfree Life

    Growing up I never wanted to have children. I am not a big fan of children. There are several reasons why I don't want children. I rather live a child free lifestyle and a world of freedom.
    peacefullover peacefullover 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2013

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    None, Thanks

    When I was in high school, one of my friends was writing a fictional story for fun, and we all had counter-parts within it.  Since these characters were based on us, she would occassionally ask our opinions on things. One of the questions was how many children we wanted our...
    BDWilT BDWilT 26-30 3 Responses Jul 26, 2007

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    Since I was young, I have never wanted to have

    children. I feel like females are expected to follow the footsteps; grow up, go to university, get married, have children and then slowly perish. I want to break free of said chains and go and do my own activities. Also, I am not saying that having children will stop you...
    MellifluousMilkshake MellifluousMilkshake 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    Don'T Want Kids. Don'T Like Kids. And I Teach!

    I'm a GREAT teacher. I have a really good reputation. I work with kids from  ages 4 to 18 where I work. I even have some retarded and autistic kids. I don't like most kids. Ofcourse I don't like most people so why would I like most kids? There are a few kids that I like.  Why...
    FlyingNinjas FlyingNinjas 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 9, 2013

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    I am 24 years old and I am sure

    that I do not want kids. I was sure long time ago, thought of course according to majority I am such a young individual to decide. The funny thing is that the same majority of my ex-clasmates or people in their 21´s have kids ... somehow they are not young to decide , but I am...
    Serpensss Serpensss 22-25, F 28 Responses Jan 3

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    Genetically Responsible.

    I don't want kids. I don't want to be a mom. It isn't in my nature to be nurturing of another person... not to the extent that a child would need over the 18-year span of their life for which I would be responsible. I'd like to say that I have the capacity for such a big task...
    McSerious McSerious 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2010

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    My Reasons...

    Like probably every woman, I have thought about children. On a certain -probably hormonal, biological- level having children does appeal to me, but rationally I don't want them, and I hope I can hold myself together and keep from reproducing. My reasons are the following. #1. I...
    Quantumphysica Quantumphysica 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Nope

    I do not hate children. I had small children at school for a while. I find them cute. And so honest. And really more intelligent than people think. If they could pay more attention to what they are before the age of 10. I had a child. A boy. A very short while. Adopted then...
    WickedScullyOfTheWest WickedScullyOfTheWest 31-35, F Aug 31, 2013

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    I Don't Hate Kids Either.

    Before you label me as some hateful person, it is not children's fault I don't want them. I don't being around well behaved children. The reasons I don't want children are logical, not hateful. 1. I have PTSD. I wake up with nightmares and have broken lamps in my sleep. I would...
    Maggielookin4glenn Maggielookin4glenn 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    Change Of Heart

    There was a time when the notion of having children really appealed to me. Not that I was in a serious relationship to even be considering this as a realistic option, but I did believe having children would be a positive move for my future. I liked the thought of raising them...
    tristessastar tristessastar 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    What Biological Clock?

    I'm 30, and I was told at age 23, "at 26 you'll feel the urge". "at 29 you'll really feel the clock". "At 30, the clock is ticking really loud". YEAH RIGHT! I don't feel badly for not wanting children. We're humans, and should be capable of the...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 11 Responses Jun 7, 2008

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    World A Bad Overpopulated Place

    Some people i work with think I'm weird for not wanting kids.i say I'm not weird I'm logical because many environmental experts agree we could run out of some natural resources within the next 50 years.also i stress a lot about myself as it is i don't need to worry about bad...
    Jessemedlock Jessemedlock 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 4, 2013

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    I Never Wanted A Kid And I Have One

    Ive always really disliked children. They are messy and annoying and they suck the life out of you. Now i have one but i still feel the same. I love my child more than anything but i would be lying if i said i didnt try all of my options first. I am not mom material.
    HurricaneJess HurricaneJess 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2013

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    I've never been very great with kids

    but the more I grow up seeing how my brother treats my mother...the more I know I don't want them. I feel so bad for my mother knowing how she gets treated. Why would I ever want kids knowing it's possible that they could hurt me so badly? I don't think I'm strong enough to...
    mag77523 mag77523 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    My Choice Is No

    So, upon meeting me for the first time, and learning that I am a "housewife", usually the next question most people ask me is "Do you have any children?". I tell them no, not unless you count my two big dogs (Which, by the way, should totally count, I SWEAR they are as much work...
    Hongruilin Hongruilin 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    No Children For Me; Let Me Live My Own Life

    I am sick and tired of people telling me that I am still young and will change my mind about having children as I get older. I have already made up my mind. I do not want children. The worst part is how certain people tend to make fun of me exactly because of that. They can be...
    Maribelle Maribelle 18-21 10 Responses Jul 3, 2011

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    Not For Me

    I've never been the kind of girl who was dying to be a mom. It just doesn't suit me. I find pregnancy both terrifying and disgusting, I even have a hard time looking at pregnant women without making a face. I know that I'm too selfish and I'll admit that all day long. I enjoy...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    My own childhood included a drug addict

    for a father who was later sent to prison, a controlling racist grandmother, time in orphanage, and pure misery most days. I refuse to be responsible for raising a "productive member of society" when I have no clue how that's done and can already detect my selfish desires right...
    2ndGenPuppet 2ndGenPuppet 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    Pregnancy Is Not For Me

    Believe it or not I had a miscarriage after just getting married. I never knew I was 7 weeks pregnant and though it was a bit messy I wasn't in pain. I was relieved because I truly don't want kids. Not now or ever. My mom passed a month after that and that synced it even more...
    Savannah80 Savannah80 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2013

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    Not Made To Raise Children

    Friends:  “I want to have two children because I don’t want my child to grow-up like I did, being the only child.” *we nod – we understand the joy of having a sibling* “Just better make sure my husband ain’t some *** that I’ll have to divorce him.” “Honey, if a...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 6 Responses May 30, 2011

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    Why Should I Want To, Exactly?!

    I don't see the appeal at all. I don't want to complicate my life. I'm poor enough without them and don't want to dump my circumstances on them. I'd rather have free time rather than having to constantly watch and worry about someone else. I would worry about how my kid...
    missynegative missynegative 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2, 2008

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    I Never Want To Have Children!

    wow, first of all- Im so relieved to find other people who feel the same way! I have never wanted children in my life, for several reasons. First of all, Im really indipendet. I like the freedome to do what I want and go where I want without having to find a babysitter...
    NerdyBirdy NerdyBirdy 18-21, F 34 Responses Mar 27, 2010

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    Why Is It So Odd?

    I do not want kids, ever. I've never really been a fan of children and the older I get the more certain I am that they just aren't for me. What I don't get is why people think that it is such a preposterous idea that anyone, especially a female, could possibly go about their life...
    Veggiefriendly Veggiefriendly 18-21, F 23 Responses Sep 20, 2011

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    Not Sure

    I know now that I do NOT want to bring a child into this world. I like children, I really do but I feel that knowing what I know about this world; why would I want to bring a child into this. I am not against people wanting and having children nor will I chastise them for doing...
    differenttypeofperson differenttypeofperson 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    I Don'T Like Children And I Want A Happier Life

    I don't like children. And when you get pregnant you can never tell how it's going to turn out. You can't tell whether your future children are going to have a physical disability, or a mental disability, and with no warning your entire life can be destroyed forever by bearing a...
    Nyxii Nyxii 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    Why We Decided--after Much Contemplation--Not To Have Kids

    Ever since I was a little girl, I knew I didn't want kids. It seemed pretty clear to me as a six-year-old: kids were so time-and-labor intensive that parents were required to give up all personal goals and pursuits in favor of being Johnny's Mommy or Angie's Daddy. As a naturally...
    Kamarie Kamarie 31-35, F Oct 5, 2012

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    Too Young To Feel Pressured Surely?!

    I am 19 years old and have been with my OH for almost 3 years. At the moment a few people in my OH's family are pregnant/have had a baby. Inevitably, we are getting the "Do you want children?" question. In fact, I felt rude when I was asked "Oh does looking at John's newborn...
    Jeo4550 Jeo4550 18-21 6 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    At Least Not My Own

    I refuse to bring new life to this world. I might adopt a baby when the time comes since they have already been brought to this world. I'd rather try and be the best parent to already born child than bring a baby on my own to this cruel, paradoxical, nonsensical place.
    Butterflying Butterflying 26-30, F 10 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    I Don't Want Kids...what's Your Problem With That?

    I may be young (20) but I decided long ago that I wouldn't have children. My reasons include having a phobia of pregnancy and childbirth (as I have mentioned elsewhere, I even have nightmares about it), feeling claustrapobic when picturing motherhood, a short temper and lack of...
    DoktorSchnitzel DoktorSchnitzel 18-21, F 29 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    Society Pressures Us Into Bearing Children For Their Benefit

    Ever since I was 14, I never wanted to have children. Growing up as a teenager, despite my sexual urges and hormones, I didn't have a strong desire to have a boyfriend (even though I am attracted to white men). I am now 25 and I still don't want children. I still never had a...
    peacefullover peacefullover 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 24, 2013

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    Why Most Women Have To Want Kids?

    If there's one thing I know about my life is that I don't want kids.  The world doesn't need more people, and I certainly don't need a family in the traditional sense. I have a girlfriend who I could really see in the future as my wife, but now she changed her mind and wants...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 15, 2010

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    Never Wanted Them, Almost In The Clear

    I grew up never wanting children. Like most of you I been told a million times "You'll change your mind" "You HAVE to have a baby" "I can't imagine life without my child/ren" "You will never know love until you have a baby" I have watched all my friends transition into mothers...
    lillhammer78 lillhammer78 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    Happy With My Choice

    I have nothing against kids - if you really want them, you should have them but don't complain endlessly about the down side of it all after you do.  And do me the courtesy of not assuming that  I am selfish or abnormal because I don't share your enthusiasm for the...
    Solidad42 Solidad42 41-45, F 112 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    The prospect of having children scares the

    living daylights out of me and the thought of being pregnant with a child is my phobia it would shake my very core and I would be hysterical... The whole marriage thing isn't a comforting idea either but I do want a soul mate and someone to love forever, just no legalities and...
    bluemoon93 bluemoon93 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Married With Out Children

    I have never really wanted children and thankfully neither has my husband. We have been married for 11 year and most people don't understand how we can be childless. We got married young and everyone thought it was because I was pregnant. As it turned out, I wasn't. We have...
    KeepMySecrets KeepMySecrets 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 29, 2008

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    Oh, I Like This Group...it's Almost Taboo In This Culture to Admit You Don't Want Kids...

    Wow, what a great experience topic.  There was a time growing up that I assumed I'd have children because...well, what other option is there?  As I grew up I realized you can chose not to have children.  What a revolutionary concept that was for me.  I've been...
    SDTerp SDTerp 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 10, 2008

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    I can remember thinking from the age of 13,

    the ONLY way I am going to have children is if I First have a Completely Rock Solid relationship with a wife, like the one my grandparents had who where married for 63 years. I have Too much going on Personally to raise a child(ren) by myself, and I sure as hell wasn't going to...
    NvBikeBoy NvBikeBoy 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 3

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    There is nothing about what comes with having

    children that is appealing to me. This one thing ended the one relationship I was in that otherwise had a chance to become something much more. I feel like finding a woman that does not want children and that is also my type will be so rare that I wonder if am hoping for...
    Syzygy11 Syzygy11 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 23

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    I Think I Hate Children.

    I never understood peoples need to want children, and up until now i have been able to tolerate them. But a few days ago i was with a friend and her children were just driving me mad. I didn't think it was possible to feel this way towards children as i did back then. But the...
    MissVanDerWoodsen MissVanDerWoodsen 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    No Reason To Have Kids.

    There is no reason for me to have kids since the world will be the same as it is today, and besides I'm not interested in passing on genes and stuff. I would rather have mines rot away thank you very much. Another reason I don't want kids is because of the way a lot of people...
    FloatingStoutCotton FloatingStoutCotton 18-21 3 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    No Woman No Cry

    So I am approaching 27 and everyone around me is producing offspring. Left, right and center, and mostly down below.  I am very happy for them, there is no issue there. I am always happy for people who have a goal and achieve it - be it getting a job or producing human...
    BusinessGoth BusinessGoth 31-35, F 12 Responses Aug 18, 2009

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    Ha! Me? a Mother?

    I can't even keep a hamster alive.  I dread to think what I'd do to children. Start with the fact that I can't/don't cook.  Spaghetti-O's and Pop Tarts again, kids!  Plus I'd warp their little innocent, impressionable minds.  "No, honey.  Trust...
    lunameow lunameow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    Simply, I Dislike Them

    I love (hate) how a perfectly nice, reasonably normal, and intelligent man such as myself is marked with the scarlet letter just because I don't like children. 99.9% of people love kids. They love everything about them and say "you will change when you have kids". No, I won't...
    TheEvilLeaper TheEvilLeaper 26-30, M 8 Responses Dec 20, 2011

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    I Don't Want Children

    I'm not capable of raising children, and I accept it well. I realize that motherhood is a huge responsibility that I can't handle, plus I'm shy. I'm happy for the many women who play the role of mother and do it well.  I like knowing other people who would not have children.
    MDenise MDenise 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Sacrifice

    I like to analyze why I do or do not want something.  The question of children is one that I have spent way too many brain cells thinking about.  I have never wanted marriage or children.  I raised my brother and I think I have a realistic view of what children...
    Krypton Krypton 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    Childfree Is The Way For Me!

    Hello.  My name is M, and I don’t want kids.  There, I said it!  Why is it that admitting that I don’t want to have kids seems almost as bad as admitting that I’m addicted to drugs?  It’s because in our society, it is simply expected that you will have children. That...
    microwench microwench 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2011

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    I'm 33, female, and I've never wanted kids.

    I like them. I absolutely love my neices and nephew (my nephew I miss every day if I don't see him). But I don't get that urge in my womb that my friends talk about. I don't coo over babies I don't know (Although I can understand - I think I get that with puppies and dogs). I've...
    noodleweasel noodleweasel 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 6

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    At That Age

    I'm at the age where allot of the people I know either have children, are pregnant or a thinking about/ trying. My youngest sibling started talking about it too. People I know with babies, people I've known most of my life, the people closest to me, are at the happiest I've ever...
    orderedchaos orderedchaos 22-25, M 2 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    None For Me, Thanks.

    for a variety of reasons. the main one being that i want the cycles of mental illness and poor parenting to stop with me. also, and this is selfish, but i have things that i want to do with my life, beyond dedicating it to the upbringing of another person. i want to live. i...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 15 Responses Jan 22, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I read here in this experience about people who don't want to have children because being a parent isn't for them or it's just how they feel about the matter, which is fine...
    charlie4edwards charlie4edwards 16-17, F Apr 9

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    This is something I think about every now and then. I have PCOS which doesn't make it impossible to have children but in some women it can cause infertility. So I have adjusted to...
    hayleyRebeccaE hayleyRebeccaE 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 12