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I Don't Want Children

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    I Don't Want Children - I'm not capable of raising children, and I accept it well. I realize that motherhood is a huge responsibility that I can't handle, plus I'm shy. I'm happy...
    MDenise MDenise 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    I Don't Want Kids...what's Your Problem With That? - I may be young (20) but I decided long ago that I wouldn't have children. My reasons include having a phobia of pregnancy and...
    DoktorSchnitzel DoktorSchnitzel 18-21, F 29 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    Not Made To Raise Children - Friends:  “I want to have two children because I don’t want my child to grow-up like I did, being the only child.” *we nod – we understand the...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 6 Responses May 30, 2011

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    The prospect of having children scares the living daylights out of me and the thought of being pregnant with a child is my phobia it would shake my very core and I would be...
    bluemoon93 bluemoon93 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Never Wanted Them, Almost In The Clear - I grew up never wanting children. Like most of you I been told a million times "You'll change your mind" "You HAVE to have a baby" "I can't...
    lillhammer78 lillhammer78 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    Why Should I Want To, Exactly?! - I don't see the appeal at all. I don't want to complicate my life. I'm poor enough without them and don't want to dump my circumstances on them. I...
    missynegative missynegative 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2, 2008

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    Oh, I Like This Group...it's Almost Taboo In This Culture to Admit You Don't Want Kids... - Wow, what a great experience topic.  There was a time growing up that I assumed I'd...
    SDTerp SDTerp 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 10, 2008

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    Genetically Responsible. - I don't want kids. I don't want to be a mom. It isn't in my nature to be nurturing of another person... not to the extent that a child would need over...
    McSerious McSerious 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2010

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    Married With Out Children - I have never really wanted children and thankfully neither has my husband. We have been married for 11 year and most people don't understand how we can...
    KeepMySecrets KeepMySecrets 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 29, 2008

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    Maybe Adoption Someday - Motherhood was something I always wanted. I helped raise my niece and loved being around little children and how cute their little voices sound and how...
    paintedblue paintedblue 22-25, F Oct 21, 2013

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    My Choice Is No - So, upon meeting me for the first time, and learning that I am a "housewife", usually the next question most people ask me is "Do you have any children?". I tell...
    Hongruilin Hongruilin 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    Childfree Life - Growing up I never wanted to have children. I am not a big fan of children. There are several reasons why I don't want children. I rather live a child free...
    peacefullover peacefullover 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2013

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    At Least Not My Own - I refuse to bring new life to this world. I might adopt a baby when the time comes since they have already been brought to this world. I'd rather try and be...
    Butterflying Butterflying 26-30, F 10 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    I Never Want To Have Children! - wow, first of all- Im so relieved to find other people who feel the same way! I have never wanted children in my life, for several reasons. First...
    NerdyBirdy NerdyBirdy 18-21, F 34 Responses Mar 27, 2010

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    Sacrifice - I like to analyze why I do or do not want something.  The question of children is one that I have spent way too many brain cells thinking about.  I have never...
    Krypton Krypton 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    At That Age - I'm at the age where allot of the people I know either have children, are pregnant or a thinking about/ trying. My youngest sibling started talking about it too...
    orderedchaos orderedchaos 22-25, M 2 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    After seeing my brother and sister I refuse to have kids or even adopt. I don't have patience for pointless bickering, tattle telling, and especially not crying. I want to take...
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 8

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    I'm 33, female, and I've never wanted kids. I like them. I absolutely love my neices and nephew (my nephew I miss every day if I don't see him). But I don't get that urge in my...
    noodleweasel noodleweasel 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 6

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    No Woman No Cry - So I am approaching 27 and everyone around me is producing offspring. Left, right and center, and mostly down below.  I am very happy for them, there is no...
    BusinessGoth BusinessGoth 31-35, F 12 Responses Aug 18, 2009

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    Change Of Heart - There was a time when the notion of having children really appealed to me. Not that I was in a serious relationship to even be considering this as a realistic...
    tristessastar tristessastar 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    I've never been very great with kids but the more I grow up seeing how my brother treats my mother...the more I know I don't want them. I feel so bad for my mother knowing how she...
    mag77523 mag77523 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    Nope - I do not hate children. I had small children at school for a while. I find them cute. And so honest. And really more intelligent than people think. If they could pay more...
    WickedScullyOfTheWest WickedScullyOfTheWest 31-35, F Aug 31, 2013

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    Shitass Kids and the Annoying Asshats Who Have Them - L et me prefeces by saying I love my parents and yes, I'm fully aware at one point I was once a squirming, useless...
    kimjus kimjus 18-21 8 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    I'm never, ever, ever, ever, ever having children. Just NO.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 8

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    Since I was young, I have never wanted to have children. I feel like females are expected to follow the footsteps; grow up, go to university, get married, have children and then...
    MellifluousMilkshake MellifluousMilkshake 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    I Don'T Like Children And I Want A Happier Life - I don't like children. And when you get pregnant you can never tell how it's going to turn out. You can't tell whether your future...
    Nyxii Nyxii 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    No Children For Me; Let Me Live My Own Life - I am sick and tired of people telling me that I am still young and will change my mind about having children as I get older. I have...
    Maribelle Maribelle 18-21 10 Responses Jul 3, 2011

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    No Reason To Have Kids. - There is no reason for me to have kids since the world will be the same as it is today, and besides I'm not interested in passing on genes and stuff. I...
    FloatingCotton FloatingCotton 18-21 3 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    My Reasons... - Like probably every woman, I have thought about children. On a certain -probably hormonal, biological- level having children does appeal to me, but rationally I don...
    Quantumphysica Quantumphysica 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Not Sure - I know now that I do NOT want to bring a child into this world. I like children, I really do but I feel that knowing what I know about this world; why would I want to...
    differenttypeofperson differenttypeofperson 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    None For Me, Thanks. - for a variety of reasons. the main one being that i want the cycles of mental illness and poor parenting to stop with me. also, and this is selfish, but i...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 15 Responses Jan 22, 2008

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    Too Young To Feel Pressured Surely?! - I am 19 years old and have been with my OH for almost 3 years. At the moment a few people in my OH's family are pregnant/have had a baby...
    Jeo4550 Jeo4550 18-21 6 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    Childfree Is The Way For Me! - Hello.  My name is M, and I don’t want kids.  There, I said it!  Why is it that admitting that I don’t want to have kids seems almost as bad...
    microwench microwench 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2011

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    World A Bad Overpopulated Place - Some people i work with think I'm weird for not wanting kids.i say I'm not weird I'm logical because many environmental experts agree we could run...
    Jessemedlock Jessemedlock 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 4, 2013

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    Society Pressures Us Into Bearing Children For Their Benefit - Ever since I was 14, I never wanted to have children. Growing up as a teenager, despite my sexual urges and hormones...
    peacefullover peacefullover 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 24, 2013

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    I Woke Up One Day And Realized It Isn't Something I Want - The idea of being pregnant terrifies me. Being weighed down with the stress of having children is something I would...
    latestplague latestplague 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 16, 2013

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    Don't Have It In Me - I have wanted to tell someone, anyone about my story for a long time.  I do not want children, but no one in my life can accept this.  I am lucky in that I...
    BettySpaghetti1 BettySpaghetti1 26-30 5 Responses Dec 20, 2010

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    What Biological Clock? - I'm 30, and I was told at age 23, "at 26 you'll feel the urge". "at 29 you'll really feel the clock". "At 30, the clock is ticking...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 11 Responses Jun 7, 2008

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    Simply, I Dislike Them - I love (hate) how a perfectly nice, reasonably normal, and intelligent man such as myself is marked with the scarlet letter just because I don't like...
    TheEvilLeaper TheEvilLeaper 26-30, M 8 Responses Dec 20, 2011

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    I am 24 years old and I am sure that I do not want kids. I was sure long time ago, thought of course according to majority I am such a young individual to decide. The funny thing...
    Serpensss Serpensss 22-25, F 28 Responses Jan 3

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    I Think I Hate Children. - I never understood peoples need to want children, and up until now i have been able to tolerate them. But a few days ago i was with a friend and her...
    MissVanDerWoodsen MissVanDerWoodsen 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    None, Thanks - When I was in high school, one of my friends was writing a fictional story for fun, and we all had counter-parts within it.  Since these characters were based...
    BDWilT BDWilT 26-30 3 Responses Jul 26, 2007

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    Ha! Me? a Mother? - I can't even keep a hamster alive.  I dread to think what I'd do to children. Start with the fact that I can't/don't cook.  Spaghetti-O's and Pop...
    lunameow lunameow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    Happy With My Choice - I have nothing against kids - if you really want them, you should have them but don't complain endlessly about the down side of it all after you do. ...
    Solidad42 Solidad42 41-45, F 112 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    Not For Me - I've never been the kind of girl who was dying to be a mom. It just doesn't suit me. I find pregnancy both terrifying and disgusting, I even have a hard time looking...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    Don'T Want Kids. Don'T Like Kids. And I Teach! - I'm a GREAT teacher. I have a really good reputation. I work with kids from  ages 4 to 18 where I work. I even have some...
    FlyingNinjas FlyingNinjas 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 9, 2013

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    Pregnancy Is Not For Me - Believe it or not I had a miscarriage after just getting married. I never knew I was 7 weeks pregnant and though it was a bit messy I wasn't in pain. I...
    Savannah80 Savannah80 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2013

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    There is nothing about what comes with having children that is appealing to me. This one thing ended the one relationship I was in that otherwise had a chance to become something...
    Syzygy11 Syzygy11 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 23

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    Why We Decided--after Much Contemplation--Not To Have Kids - Ever since I was a little girl, I knew I didn't want kids. It seemed pretty clear to me as a six-year-old: kids were so...
    Kamarie Kamarie 31-35, F Oct 5, 2012

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    I Never Wanted A Kid And I Have One - Ive always really disliked children. They are messy and annoying and they suck the life out of you. Now i have one but i still feel the same...
    HurricaneJess HurricaneJess 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2013

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    Why Most Women Have To Want Kids? - If there's one thing I know about my life is that I don't want kids.  The world doesn't need more people, and I certainly don't need a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 15, 2010

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    I Don't Hate Kids Either. - Before you label me as some hateful person, it is not children's fault I don't want them. I don't being around well behaved children. The reasons I don...
    Maggielookin4glenn Maggielookin4glenn 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013