I Don't Want Children

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    I have known since I was 11

    that I didn't want to have children. I didn't like kids as a kid, and couldn't fathom that my sole future was entwined with dirty diapers and tween troubles. Alas, at 11, I discovered through self-education that children were not mandatory life additions, and I could avoid...
    MoniquetheBlonde MoniquetheBlonde
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 29, 2014

    The world is a horrible place

    and I don't want to bring a human being into it. And also giving birth sounds super painful. #no thanks
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 26, 2016

    No Children For Me; Let Me Live My Own Life

    I am sick and tired of people telling me that I am still young and will change my mind about having children as I get older. I have already made up my mind. I do not want children. The worst part is how certain people tend to make fun of me exactly because of that. They can be...
    Maribelle Maribelle
    11 Responses Jul 3, 2011

    I don't think children would make me happy.

    Most people have children because society conditions them to. That is not a good enough reason. With a rapidly expanding population, climate change and extreme poverty, I think having children is actually an immoral choice and pushes society backwards.
    adelecass adelecass
    26-30, F
    22 Responses May 23, 2014

    Today I'm happy for children.

    Because of them, one woman didn't use her sewing machine so it became mine. Yayyyy!!
    prettyprude prettyprude
    36-40, F
    Apr 9, 2016

    I don't want children

    nor do I have children and it's staying that way. First when becoming intimate with my husband when get the mood all of the sudden kids come in no thank you. Or a third when flying.
    Cynthia1976 Cynthia1976
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 29, 2016

    Why bring children into a world

    that completely sucks? I was brought into this world and I wish I hadn't
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 1, 2016

    People have stared at me wide eyed

    when I tell them that I do not want kids. They assume that just because I am a female I am going to change my mind later. When I was around 14, girls my age were already thinking of how they would name their kids and thinking of their weddings. I never had the dream of getting...
    TheemopandaX TheemopandaX
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jun 30, 2014

    Ha! Me? a Mother?

    I can't even keep a hamster alive.  I dread to think what I'd do to children. Start with the fact that I can't/don't cook.  Spaghetti-O's and Pop Tarts again, kids!  Plus I'd warp their little innocent, impressionable minds.  "No, honey.  Trust...
    lunameow lunameow
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Aug 24, 2007

    Genetically Responsible.

    I don't want kids. I don't want to be a mom. It isn't in my nature to be nurturing of another person... not to the extent that a child would need over the 18-year span of their life for which I would be responsible. I'd like to say that I have the capacity for such a big task...
    McSerious McSerious
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 10, 2010

    I despise children and never want to be a

    mother. Not only does the physical process of childbearing disgust and terrify me, I also don't want to deal with the product of that process. I'm 22 and I'm looking into sterilization procedures while I have the insurance to do it. I fould a doctor upstate that will do it at my...
    mangoesonlyplz mangoesonlyplz
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 15, 2015


    I have never understood why so many people assume that people who choose not to procreate are being "selfish." How is that selfish?
    morticia1969 morticia1969
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2012

    I find it so hilarious

    that a lot people think having kids is mandatory. It's like as soon as your born on Earth, you have to think about relationships, marriages, and kids. They don't see it as a choice. You have to do everything that everyone does in order to "fit in" or unless you're an outcast...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 15, 2015

    Childfree Is The Way For Me!

    Hello.  My name is M, and I don’t want kids.  There, I said it!  Why is it that admitting that I don’t want to have kids seems almost as bad as admitting that I’m addicted to drugs?  It’s because in our society, it is simply expected that you will have children. That...
    microwench microwench
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 15, 2011

    Benefits To Not Having Children:

    Hello! I had to write this story all over again. Just as I was about to post it the whole thing disappeared. So here is a shortened version. Please let me know if anyone can relate or add to my list. These are my benefits to being child-free: * I have freedom to do what I...
    1 Response Jan 27, 2013

    None, Thanks

    When I was in high school, one of my friends was writing a fictional story for fun, and we all had counter-parts within it.  Since these characters were based on us, she would occassionally ask our opinions on things. One of the questions was how many children we wanted our...
    BDWilT BDWilT
    2 Responses Jul 26, 2007

    Never Wanted Them, Almost In The Clear

    I grew up never wanting children. Like most of you I been told a million times "You'll change your mind" "You HAVE to have a baby" "I can't imagine life without my child/ren" "You will never know love until you have a baby" I have watched all my friends transition into mothers...
    lillhammer78 lillhammer78
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Nov 20, 2011

    Why Should I Want To, Exactly?!

    I don't see the appeal at all. I don't want to complicate my life. I'm poor enough without them and don't want to dump my circumstances on them. I'd rather have free time rather than having to constantly watch and worry about someone else. I would worry about how my kid...
    missynegative missynegative
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 2, 2008

    At Least Not My Own

    I refuse to bring new life to this world. I might adopt a baby when the time comes since they have already been brought to this world. I'd rather try and be the best parent to already born child than bring a baby on my own to this cruel, paradoxical, nonsensical place.
    Butterflying Butterflying
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Jan 8, 2011

    No Woman No Cry

    So I am approaching 27 and everyone around me is producing offspring. Left, right and center, and mostly down below.  I am very happy for them, there is no issue there. I am always happy for people who have a goal and achieve it - be it getting a job or producing human...
    BusinessGoth BusinessGoth
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Aug 18, 2009

    Of my own. Not really.

    One at the most . I feel like that makes men with kids uncomfortable but I don't want to give birth . The thought literally makes me ill .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2015

    I am 24 years old and I am sure

    that I do not want kids. I was sure long time ago, thought of course according to majority I am such a young individual to decide. The funny thing is that the same majority of my ex-clasmates or people in their 21´s have kids ... somehow they are not young to decide , but I am...
    Serpensss Serpensss
    26-30, F
    23 Responses Jan 3, 2014

    Oh, I Like This Group...it's Almost Taboo In This Culture to Admit You Don't Want Kids...

    Wow, what a great experience topic.  There was a time growing up that I assumed I'd have children because...well, what other option is there?  As I grew up I realized you can chose not to have children.  What a revolutionary concept that was for me.  I've been...
    SDTerp SDTerp
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Mar 10, 2008

    Why Is It So Odd?

    I do not want kids, ever. I've never really been a fan of children and the older I get the more certain I am that they just aren't for me. What I don't get is why people think that it is such a preposterous idea that anyone, especially a female, could possibly go about their life...
    Veggiefriendly Veggiefriendly
    18-21, F
    22 Responses Sep 20, 2011

    I had a wonderful childhood,

    loving parents, and plenty of friends; I just never liked kids. I'm ok with being selfish with my time, in a way it seems almost selfish to have kids knowing I feel this way. I'll take world travel, late sleep on weekends, and my freedom over 18+ years of mess cleaning...
    BleuGardenia BleuGardenia
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 3, 2014

    None For Me, Thanks.

    for a variety of reasons. the main one being that i want the cycles of mental illness and poor parenting to stop with me. also, and this is selfish, but i have things that i want to do with my life, beyond dedicating it to the upbringing of another person. i want to live. i...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter
    26-30, F
    14 Responses Jan 22, 2008

    When it comes to touching pregnant bellies,

    it makes me uncomfortable. Hell, it makes me uncomfortable when my stomach is touched. Not only because I'm ticklish, but I just don't like it. And I know that I'll be that way if I was pregnant. The reason why I don't want children is because I don't want the responsibility. I...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Mar 15, 2015

    I really love my sleep,

    time to do my makeup in the morning, nap time, non-****** up vagina/body....etc. free time in general. I don't see why anyone would want to willingly destroy their life.
    snugglybunny snugglybunny
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2016

    For as long as I could remember I've never

    liked to have responsibilities. I never cared for taking care of our family pets. I never liked to babysit my sibling. I never liked to agree to do things for other people. I guess you could say I'm a commitment phobe. I have never wanted to have children, let alone pets. I...
    tormentedinternally tormentedinternally
    26-30, M
    Dec 10, 2014

    As a gift to myself I am going to get

    sterilized. I've worked with kids all my life but NEVER wanted any. I didn't play house with baby dolls I read books and cut pictures from Natural Geographic. I never saw myself as a wife and mother and now in my early 30s I still can't fathom being pregnant and having to raise...
    newasexy newasexy
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 3, 2014

    Shitass Kids and the Annoying Asshats Who Have Them

    L et me prefeces by saying I love my parents and yes, I'm fully aware at one point I was once a squirming, useless, noncontributing, crying, pants s)hitting parasite. However the ONLY good thing about children is they grow up, as I did. If 20 year old me went back in time and saw...
    kimjus kimjus
    8 Responses Jun 15, 2008

    I have practically been a parent all my life.

    When my parents divorced I had to take on some of the responsibilities. I never had a teenage life. I never got to do much. My parents couldn't afford a lot. I've decided that I owe it to myself to get out, and celebrate my life for me and all the things I didn't get to do. I'm...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 6, 2015

    "You will never know true,

    unconditional love until you have kids of your own." I have read that this was said to childless people. I really don't see how this makes sense.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 2, 2015

    According to a survey most parents decided to

    have kids out the fear of regretting not having them and guess what? they did regret having them . reading that gave me a huge relief because I was having the same thoughts as well I am definitely not getting any
    Fralicious Fralicious
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    I think children give people a

    since of purpose. But I really don't like those stupid ******* who think they are the **** because they ******* out a hell spawn from their puss- .
    PetiteChica PetiteChica
    22-25, F
    Dec 31, 2015

    I have nothing against children.

    I just don't want any plopping out of these thighs, EVER.
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Aug 13, 2014

    I thought that I would grow out of my tom boy

    phase and that is what everyone told me. I never played with the baby dolls my mother bought for me, played house, or cooked pretend plastic food for everyone in the play house. I was playing in the woods, by the creek, creating my own games, I was a power ranger, I was super...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 8, 2016

    I Don't Want Kids...what's Your Problem With That?

    I may be young (20) but I decided long ago that I wouldn't have children. My reasons include having a phobia of pregnancy and childbirth (as I have mentioned elsewhere, I even have nightmares about it), feeling claustrapobic when picturing motherhood, a short temper and lack of...
    DoktorSchnitzel DoktorSchnitzel
    18-21, F
    29 Responses Aug 3, 2009

    I am scarrd to have children of my own

    because this world is so crazy and extreme. I would probably shelter my child and I know that's not good in the long run.
    namedashley namedashley
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 3, 2015

    What Biological Clock?

    I'm 30, and I was told at age 23, "at 26 you'll feel the urge". "at 29 you'll really feel the clock". "At 30, the clock is ticking really loud". YEAH RIGHT! I don't feel badly for not wanting children. We're humans, and should be capable of the...
    smartiecats smartiecats
    9 Responses Jun 7, 2008


    I like to analyze why I do or do not want something.  The question of children is one that I have spent way too many brain cells thinking about.  I have never wanted marriage or children.  I raised my brother and I think I have a realistic view of what children...
    Krypton Krypton
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 1, 2008
    Mariahehe Mariahehe
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 11, 2016

    Happy With My Choice

    I have nothing against kids - if you really want them, you should have them but don't complain endlessly about the down side of it all after you do.  And do me the courtesy of not assuming that  I am selfish or abnormal because I don't share your enthusiasm for the...
    Solidad42 Solidad42
    41-45, F
    102 Responses Jun 28, 2010

    I had decided long ago

    that I should not have children, but, for whatever stupid reason, now that I know that I won't be able to makes me sad...and now I am it is making me angry with myself. Probably because I believe it will make me even LESS appealing to a potential partner...even though no one...
    Myzery Myzery
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 15, 2016

    I really love kids. But I'm struggle with

    depression and anxiety too. I have some goals in life, and children would make me change those goals. I have really never felt an urgent need for children. I borrow from my friends ?? my wife she want kids from time to time. But we always decide to not get any. Even if the will...
    realcomplicated realcomplicated
    31-35, M
    Apr 15, 2016

    When people tell me that I MUST have kids,

    I literally feel like this: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/kids I don't want children, and have never been interested in children. The first time this topic came up was when I was about 11, when girls at school started talking about their perfect husbands and what they're going...
    pixieowl pixieowl
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Dec 10, 2014

    This title is a bit misleading

    but the closest tittle .. So a more appropriate titIe would be I'm scared of having children.. (Side note : I would be open to having children when my partner and I are financially ready and we agree to have or adopt them) ..I don't my own biological children .. I'm scared I...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 18, 2016

    I Never Want To Have Children!

    wow, first of all- Im so relieved to find other people who feel the same way! I have never wanted children in my life, for several reasons. First of all, Im really indipendet. I like the freedome to do what I want and go where I want without having to find a babysitter...
    NerdyBirdy NerdyBirdy
    26-30, F
    34 Responses Mar 27, 2010

    Screw that. My sister had a baby 3 years ago

    and now she has a bunch of medical problems
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 30, 2016

    Definitely NOT my cup of tea

    or sippy cup of juice. I'm good with just an attractive female companion and a dog, a pure bred lab to be specific. Kids are cute when they're not running around with snot dripping down their nose. My **** it threshold would be reached quickly.
    ChaoticEnigma ChaoticEnigma
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2016
    PetiteChica PetiteChica
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 21, 2014

    Kids are annoying, and it'd be unpleasant

    if they grew up to be douchey teens that we see today.
    deleted deleted
    Jun 6, 2015
    picklebobble picklebobble
    51-55, M
    Nov 3, 2014

    Married With Out Children

    I have never really wanted children and thankfully neither has my husband. We have been married for 11 year and most people don't understand how we can be childless. We got married young and everyone thought it was because I was pregnant. As it turned out, I wasn't. We have...
    KeepMySecrets KeepMySecrets
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 29, 2008

    I have babysat children

    and changed babies. No parental instincts or whatever its called were boosted whatsoever.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 16, 2015
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