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I Don't Want Children

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    Oh, I Like This Group...it's Almost Taboo In This Culture to Admit You Don't Want Kids...

    Wow, what a great experience topic.  There was a time growing up that I assumed I'd have children because...well, what other option is there?  As I grew up I realized you can chose not to have children.  What a revolutionary concept that was for me.  I've been...
    SDTerp SDTerp 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 10, 2008

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    Selfish?

    I have never understood why so many people assume that people who choose not to procreate are being "selfish." How is that selfish?
    morticia1969 morticia1969 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    Ha! Me? a Mother?

    I can't even keep a hamster alive.  I dread to think what I'd do to children. Start with the fact that I can't/don't cook.  Spaghetti-O's and Pop Tarts again, kids!  Plus I'd warp their little innocent, impressionable minds.  "No, honey.  Trust...
    lunameow lunameow 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    What Biological Clock?

    I'm 30, and I was told at age 23, "at 26 you'll feel the urge". "at 29 you'll really feel the clock". "At 30, the clock is ticking really loud". YEAH RIGHT! I don't feel badly for not wanting children. We're humans, and should be capable of the...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 10 Responses Jun 7, 2008

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    No Woman No Cry

    So I am approaching 27 and everyone around me is producing offspring. Left, right and center, and mostly down below.  I am very happy for them, there is no issue there. I am always happy for people who have a goal and achieve it - be it getting a job or producing human...
    BusinessGoth BusinessGoth 31-35, F 12 Responses Aug 18, 2009

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    Eh, I say I don't but I wouldn't mind it.

    Then I realize that my fertility is questionable for one. My uterus and hormones hate me. For real. Two, I am ALWAYS in dire straits. I was born poor, no doubt I'll die poor, too. I'd be heartless to put a child in that situation. With the world being like it is, and every time...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    I feel like I would be a horrible parent.

    I have a pretty horrible personality, so I think if I had children they would be like those people on t.v. who grow up to kill their parents. Also it doesn't help I'm afraid of doctors and having babies. Plus other parents would hate me because I'd be the type of person that...
    ImaginaryPrototype ImaginaryPrototype 18-21, F 1 Response May 23, 2014

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    Not Sure

    I know now that I do NOT want to bring a child into this world. I like children, I really do but I feel that knowing what I know about this world; why would I want to bring a child into this. I am not against people wanting and having children nor will I chastise them for doing...
    differenttypeofperson differenttypeofperson 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    Happy With My Choice

    I have nothing against kids - if you really want them, you should have them but don't complain endlessly about the down side of it all after you do.  And do me the courtesy of not assuming that  I am selfish or abnormal because I don't share your enthusiasm for the...
    Solidad42 Solidad42 41-45, F 107 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    I Don't Want Children

    I'm not capable of raising children, and I accept it well. I realize that motherhood is a huge responsibility that I can't handle, plus I'm shy. I'm happy for the many women who play the role of mother and do it well.  I like knowing other people who would not have children.
    MDenise MDenise 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Why Should I Want To, Exactly?!

    I don't see the appeal at all. I don't want to complicate my life. I'm poor enough without them and don't want to dump my circumstances on them. I'd rather have free time rather than having to constantly watch and worry about someone else. I would worry about how my kid...
    missynegative missynegative 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2, 2008

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    None, Thanks

    When I was in high school, one of my friends was writing a fictional story for fun, and we all had counter-parts within it.  Since these characters were based on us, she would occassionally ask our opinions on things. One of the questions was how many children we wanted our...
    BDWilT BDWilT 26-30 3 Responses Jul 26, 2007

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    I have babysat children

    and changed babies. No parental instincts or whatever its called were boosted whatsoever.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    Why Is It So Odd?

    I do not want kids, ever. I've never really been a fan of children and the older I get the more certain I am that they just aren't for me. What I don't get is why people think that it is such a preposterous idea that anyone, especially a female, could possibly go about their life...
    Veggiefriendly Veggiefriendly 18-21, F 22 Responses Sep 20, 2011

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    I don't think children would make me happy.

    Most people have children because society conditions them to. That is not a good enough reason. With a rapidly expanding population, climate change and extreme poverty, I think having children is actually an immoral choice and pushes society backwards.
    adelecass adelecass 22-25, F 24 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I Don't Want Kids...what's Your Problem With That?

    I may be young (20) but I decided long ago that I wouldn't have children. My reasons include having a phobia of pregnancy and childbirth (as I have mentioned elsewhere, I even have nightmares about it), feeling claustrapobic when picturing motherhood, a short temper and lack of...
    DoktorSchnitzel DoktorSchnitzel 18-21, F 30 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    I am 24 years old and I am sure

    that I do not want kids. I was sure long time ago, thought of course according to majority I am such a young individual to decide. The funny thing is that the same majority of my ex-clasmates or people in their 21´s have kids ... somehow they are not young to decide , but I am...
    Serpensss Serpensss 22-25, F 25 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    Married With Out Children

    I have never really wanted children and thankfully neither has my husband. We have been married for 11 year and most people don't understand how we can be childless. We got married young and everyone thought it was because I was pregnant. As it turned out, I wasn't. We have...
    KeepMySecrets KeepMySecrets 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 29, 2008

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    No Reason To Have Kids.

    There is no reason for me to have kids since the world will be the same as it is today, and besides I'm not interested in passing on genes and stuff. I would rather have mines rot away thank you very much. Another reason I don't want kids is because of the way a lot of people...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 3 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    PetiteChica PetiteChica 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2014

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    Sacrifice

    I like to analyze why I do or do not want something.  The question of children is one that I have spent way too many brain cells thinking about.  I have never wanted marriage or children.  I raised my brother and I think I have a realistic view of what children...
    Krypton Krypton 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2008

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    Not For Me

    I've never been the kind of girl who was dying to be a mom. It just doesn't suit me. I find pregnancy both terrifying and disgusting, I even have a hard time looking at pregnant women without making a face. I know that I'm too selfish and I'll admit that all day long. I enjoy...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    When it comes to touching pregnant bellies,

    it makes me uncomfortable. Hell, it makes me uncomfortable when my stomach is touched. Not only because I'm ticklish, but I just don't like it. And I know that I'll be that way if I was pregnant. The reason why I don't want children is because I don't want the responsibility. I...
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 15

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    I don't understand what's

    so selfish about not wanting kids. Many of us do not want to deal with the pains of child bearing, birth, and a tiny human being. Many of us want to travel the world, go to clubs, date and have fun. And Live the best we can and have good memories before we all enter old age and...
    Cutiepeachpie Cutiepeachpie 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    I have known since I was 11

    that I didn't want to have children. I didn't like kids as a kid, and couldn't fathom that my sole future was entwined with dirty diapers and tween troubles. Alas, at 11, I discovered through self-education that children were not mandatory life additions, and I could avoid...
    MoniquetheBlonde MoniquetheBlonde 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    I hate kids. I am not sure

    if it's because of the upbringing with my mother but some people are not cut out to be parents. It ****** me off when people tell you "Oh, you will change your mind when you get older" I'm 20 and I still feel the same. So far children I have met are a hand full and no blessing...
    PetiteChica PetiteChica 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2014

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    Caitlinsmith1636 Caitlinsmith1636 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2014

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    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Nov 3, 2014

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    I'm not going to do it.

    You can't make me!
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I had a wonderful childhood,

    loving parents, and plenty of friends; I just never liked kids. I'm ok with being selfish with my time, in a way it seems almost selfish to have kids knowing I feel this way. I'll take world travel, late sleep on weekends, and my freedom over 18+ years of mess cleaning...
    BleuGardenia BleuGardenia 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2014

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    Of my own. Not really.

    One at the most . I feel like that makes men with kids uncomfortable but I don't want to give birth . The thought literally makes me ill .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    None For Me, Thanks.

    for a variety of reasons. the main one being that i want the cycles of mental illness and poor parenting to stop with me. also, and this is selfish, but i have things that i want to do with my life, beyond dedicating it to the upbringing of another person. i want to live. i...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 15 Responses Jan 22, 2008

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    I am scarrd to have children of my own

    because this world is so crazy and extreme. I would probably shelter my child and I know that's not good in the long run.
    namedashley namedashley 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    Not every woman has to have children.

    No I will not "change my mind" no I do not "want a part of me left behind" respect my ******* opinion!
    Adaptationn Adaptationn 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2014

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    People have stared at me wide eyed

    when I tell them that I do not want kids. They assume that just because I am a female I am going to change my mind later. When I was around 14, girls my age were already thinking of how they would name their kids and thinking of their weddings. I never had the dream of getting...
    TheemopandaX TheemopandaX 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    Shitass Kids and the Annoying Asshats Who Have Them

    L et me prefeces by saying I love my parents and yes, I'm fully aware at one point I was once a squirming, useless, noncontributing, crying, pants s)hitting parasite. However the ONLY good thing about children is they grow up, as I did. If 20 year old me went back in time and saw...
    kimjus kimjus 18-21 8 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    I really don't know why anyone would.

    I don't have anything against people who do become parents but I just can't understand why they would throw their lives away. First few years is cleaning up bodily fluids and clutter after someone who can't even have an intelligent and interesting conversation with you, while...
    Dontcare8 Dontcare8 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    I don't see how having a kid these days,

    that they'll be happy. The world is much worse then it was, we have so much bullying, judgemental people, and it starts so young now. At least in North America.
    4EverBlissful 4EverBlissful 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2014

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    Genetically Responsible.

    I don't want kids. I don't want to be a mom. It isn't in my nature to be nurturing of another person... not to the extent that a child would need over the 18-year span of their life for which I would be responsible. I'd like to say that I have the capacity for such a big task...
    McSerious McSerious 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 10, 2010

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    As a gift to myself I am going to get

    sterilized. I've worked with kids all my life but NEVER wanted any. I didn't play house with baby dolls I read books and cut pictures from Natural Geographic. I never saw myself as a wife and mother and now in my early 30s I still can't fathom being pregnant and having to raise...
    newasexy newasexy 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I have nothing against children.

    I just don't want any plopping out of these thighs, EVER.
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 13, 2014

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    At Least Not My Own

    I refuse to bring new life to this world. I might adopt a baby when the time comes since they have already been brought to this world. I'd rather try and be the best parent to already born child than bring a baby on my own to this cruel, paradoxical, nonsensical place.
    Butterflying Butterflying 26-30, F 10 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    No Children For Me; Let Me Live My Own Life

    I am sick and tired of people telling me that I am still young and will change my mind about having children as I get older. I have already made up my mind. I do not want children. The worst part is how certain people tend to make fun of me exactly because of that. They can be...
    Maribelle Maribelle 18-21 11 Responses Jul 3, 2011

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    When people tell me that I MUST have kids,

    I literally feel like this: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/kids I don't want children, and have never been interested in children. The first time this topic came up was when I was about 11, when girls at school started talking about their perfect husbands and what they're going...
    pixieowl pixieowl 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    I Never Want To Have Children!

    wow, first of all- Im so relieved to find other people who feel the same way! I have never wanted children in my life, for several reasons. First of all, Im really indipendet. I like the freedome to do what I want and go where I want without having to find a babysitter...
    NerdyBirdy NerdyBirdy 18-21, F 34 Responses Mar 27, 2010

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    But I still like thinking about baby names

    Merkabah Epiphany Fall Venus Aurora Solace Sade Badu Minerva Madonna
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 5, 2014

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