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I Don't Want Kids

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    I shouldn't be a parent.

    I can't deal with kids at all when they misbehave or are really loud. And there is no way I can muster up the attention span or patience to take care of them very well. I actually yelled at a young girl to shut up after something hours of her yelling and stupid jokes that...
    almaera almaera 18-21, F 19 mins ago

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    I Will Never Have Children.

    People say it's the miracle of life. I don't think it's much of a miracle. Anyone can do it. It's just as miraculous as every other birth, and to feel a child growing inside your body can either be likened to a miracle or to a parasite. I prefer the latter, which is more...
    bluexrhapsody bluexrhapsody 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 24, 2012

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    The Reason Most People Have Kids

    The main reason I don't want kids is because most young women I know (including my own mother) were scared to be alone got knocked up by the first guy that showed them attention and got married or stayed together for it. Years down the line they're miserable hate each other even...
    NocturnalNightmare NocturnalNightmare 26-30, M 8 Responses Jan 17, 2012

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    "You'll Change Your Mind When You're Older!"

    No, no I will not change my mind whe I'm older, and i'm tired of hearing people say that. Is it so wrong for me to know what I want, and stick to my beliefs? Growing up, before I had ever thought seriously on the subject, it seemed like parenthood was a choice. Some people had...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 23, 2011

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    I Never Want To Have A Baby And Very Sick Of People With Children

    So, alot of my friends have children and my sister does too. People on facebook always talk about what their children did and post pics. I could care less. I think having children is the most narrsissistic thing you could ever do in your whole life, making a carbon copy of...
    lovekrista lovekrista 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    YET! My fiancée and I are

    both 20 and due to be married next year. She wants kids in 5 years time at the age of 25 and says she'll divorce me if she has to to get kids. I want to wait another 7-8 years so we can enjoy our lives properly first without hassle. She's not being reasonable and doesn't...
    CantChooseAGoodUsername CantChooseAGoodUsername 18-21, M 5 Responses Mar 29

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    Also, I'm Jumping On The Top Ten Train...

    Top Ten Lists are fun. David Letterman should do one about reasons why having kids isn't awesome. 10. Childbirth. The pain, vomiting, tearing, drugs, no drugs, screaming, blood, goo, post-birth-floppiness of the cooter. All of the above = bad. 9. Family/Friend Obligations. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Nov 24, 2010

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    I Have An Imagination

    I have an imagination. I can imagine the incredible expense involved obtaining the endless "stuff you have to buy" in preparation for a new baby. I can imagine the strain on my relationship. I can imagine the horrible expansion of my body. I can imagine that I would be the...
    jeanangeo jeanangeo 31-35 1 Response Jan 25, 2012

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    Paying For Everyone Else's Kids

    i don't want kids, nor do I really care to have my own. I'm 28 and I still haven't felt the "motherly urge" to push a bowling ball of a human being through a small hole. They cry, wine, fight, don't apprechate the parents, and I don't like slobber. There are parents who shouldn...
    Kasha83 Kasha83 26-30 2 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    Eurgh..I Keep Having The Same Dreams

    They are years apart though. Last night I had a dream I had a baby girl, she looked exactly the same as she did in my last 2 dreams. What the hell? Does this mean I'm going to have a baby in the future? She needs to go away! 
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Aug 19, 2013

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    Never

    You'll see 20 unicorns moonwalking before I ever have a kid.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    A Careful Decision...

    Children... babies... raising another human being. The following is not a vain attempt to accrue public affirmation for my ideas; I did not write this seeking affirmation of my ideology - I mostly wrote it so that any others on the verge of considering such a grave responsibility...
    Dracat Dracat 36-40 3 Responses Dec 20, 2012

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    Never Did And Still Don't

    We are pre-programmed genetically to propogate the race. Religion further adds to the pressure to have kids.  I, however, am baffled by the whole urge to have kids.  Having kids is our claim to immortality. What infinite arrogance we have. In what way do we see ourselves as...
    eternalhope eternalhope 36-40, F 12 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    Mums Are Never'cool'.

    i am Cool Auntie Becky@ to my 6 yr old nephew because i sit up with him playing computer games and wTCHING MATCH OF THE DAY TIL 1AM. his parenys. my sister are so strict with him that he daren't speak eg my brother said something silly to me whilst i was making a pot of coffee...
    angelbabydoll78 angelbabydoll78 31-35, F Oct 8, 2013

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    Kids...

    I catch so much crap for not wanting kids.  I tell people that my husband and myself are not PLANNING on kids, we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.  I do like kids...but I can't help and joke about "Birth Control Reason #25662" when a kid is throwing...
    meowmeowface meowmeowface 36-40, F 9 Responses May 31, 2007

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    BleuGirl83 BleuGirl83 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    I don't want kids. I never wanted to have any.

    Not that I hate them or dislike them, I just don't care about them. They mean nothing to me. Children´s laughter or cry does nothing to my feelings.
    InsertAlterEgo InsertAlterEgo 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    No...Yes...Maybe...I Don't Know

    I have always said that I didn’t want kids but I’d be lying if I said the thought has never entered my mind. I wonder: Boy or girl? Would they have my eyes? Their daddy’s toes? My curly hair with his color? Would they be athletic with a dash of klutzy like their...
    GoldieMtZion GoldieMtZion 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 14, 2008

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    They Think I'm

    It's hard being 24 and having people looking at me like I have 3rd head just because I don't have kids yet. I got married at the very young age of 18. Even though I jumped fast, I still don't regret my marriage to a very wonderful man.  But I live in the South, and here...
    timelessaire timelessaire 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15, 2007

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    Not On My Immediate To-do List

    Right now, I'm 22.  I'm looking into going back to school, I'm newly engaged, and we're probably moving clear across the country in the next few years.  I'm looking for a new job, and I'm living with people that make me crazy.  Having kids just isn't a priority...
    TwilightDreamer TwilightDreamer 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 6, 2008

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    No, I'm Pretty Sure I Won't Change My Mind

    with all my friends getting pregnant, i hear the " don't worry, i'm sure you'll have kids some day" more often than not. and while i know that i'm getting to that age where one would start to consider having children I haven't gotten there yet. . Is something seriously wrong...
    jjuls22 jjuls22 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2012

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    I've never been too crazy about kids in general.

    I know people say it's different with your own, but I just don't see myself having any. Part of it could because of where I am in life right now. I'm focused on my career - not so much a family. Another big part of it is the vicious chain of abuse. My grandfather was abusive...
    lolwhutisthis lolwhutisthis 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    Just B/c Im A Woman Doesnt Mean I Want Kids!!

    ever since i was 8 years old ive known that i dont want any kids. ive always been pro choice and if i ever do start having sex i will use and ensure precautions to not get pregnant and if i do there are options and adoption isnt an option for me. i hate when people use the "age...
    sabby126 sabby126 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2011

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    I think kids are obnoxious,

    whiny and annoying. I just literally do not have any patience for them.
    cmitchellichs cmitchellichs 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    The Top 10 Reasons....

    10. I've got no motherly instinct. I've never felt it at all, even when around babies. I don't see the facination. 9. Screaming and whining just grate on my nerves. 8. Pain of childbirth? No thanks. Stretching out that area down there? No thanks. Chance of ripping...
    DietIcedTea DietIcedTea 36-40, F 13 Responses May 30, 2009

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    I Have Nephews And Nieces And Tons Of Cousins!

    I always thought kids are 1-noise and 2-destruction especially when they are so young. After that they pass by many stages that include being embarrassing companions, sticky question asking machines, and non-stop meddling in older people's business. Last year, my three sisters...
    onlygodjudgeme onlygodjudgeme 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    Why Cant People Respect That??

    Im so sick of people trying to convince me to have a child!! so a couple of women on my job are pregnant...which has somehow led to people telling me that im next. when i politely told them that i dont want any kids this late in life...here comes the unwanted comments and...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    Society Is Idiotic Deciding To Not Have Kids Isn't

    I began saying I didn't want kids sometime around my teen years, and at first I meant it, but whenever I would express my desire to never procreate my family members would always say, "You'll have one million kids! Hahahahaha, just you wait and see!", and I guess after a while I...
    Never1234 Never1234 22-25 2 Responses Mar 24, 2012

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    This Is MY Life

    I wish someone would support my decision and tell me that it's totally fine that I don't desire to have a photo copy of myself running around and drawing on my walls. But nobody does, so I stand alone and strong and harden my heart at all of the remarks that people make towards...
    HazelnutEyes HazelnutEyes 18-21 1 Response Jul 13, 2013

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    I have known for a very long time

    that I do not want to breed. I have many very good and well thought out reasons for this. However, I feel as though this is a topic I cannot bring up in mixed company without certain implications or judgment falling on me. I would like to find an open forum somewhere online...
    JuneEleven11 JuneEleven11 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    Kids are not for me. I don't think I can deal

    with raising kids. I don't love kids, don't need them, and really don't have the attitude for raising kids. I don't think I can deal with it when they get sick or get cranky at night.
    Close2You Close2You 26-30, M 7 Responses Feb 22

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    I've found that a lot people think

    that it's weird or selfish that a woman doesn't want children. I know a few women like myself who don't want children. Some are married, too. I understand having children is a beautiful thing! And I do love kids! I don't dislike children. I spoil my nieces and nephews rotten...
    mousecop mousecop 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    "Why not??" is usually the response I get

    when I share the fact that I do not want to have kids. Therefore, I usually try not to say that I don't want kids. Instead I uneasily say "hmm, one day... maybe." In my experience, people usually judge you if you don't want children. I actually like kids--- when they aren't...
    JP25 JP25 26-30 1 Response Mar 5

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    "You'll Change Your Mind."

    No, no, I won't change my mind, no. And why should I? Why should you have children? What, exactly, makes you so uber-qualified to create and shape an entire human? Why can't you adopt? Why must the child bear your genes? Why is your love of children so ego-specific? I'm 33 and...
    laniegrace laniegrace 31-35 5 Responses Mar 29, 2009

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    Isn't It OK Just To Be Happy

    Hi all - I'm 43 years old. I am happily married, love my dogs and have great friendships. My husband and I are very much in love and our home is safe and comfortable. We are happy. But my freaking in laws just cannot accept us and keep bringing this drama into our lives. What...
    CarrieV CarrieV 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2013

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    Doing The World A Favor

       I have never liked kids, most of my family thinks I love kids. I would be really embarrassed if they found out some how that I don't. I don't wanna be judged just because I'm not like most women in the world who want kids right off the bat. Half the reason why I stayed a...
    Evlana Evlana 22-25, F 24 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    At the moment, I'm leaning towards not wanting

    to have kids. One of the main reasons is that I feel society is very selfish these days, especially in the developed countries. People have become very busy and don't take much time to get to know each other anymore and that includes people from churches. Neighbours hardly know...
    annebelle88 annebelle88 22-25, F Feb 14

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    So yea Im married now.

    What is the deal with people always asking me when im gonna get preggers? wtf is up with this shyt? I always thought and still do think that pregnancy sounds more like a parasitic invasion then a blessed event. Thats just me though. A belly the size of Rhode Island, sore...
    myaahwavesgoodbye myaahwavesgoodbye 26-30, F 8 Responses Feb 21

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    I'm not completely sure about the idea.

    The pain for one is what gets me and I'm afraid I'm not really mother material. The pressure might just be too much. Plus I'm not really sure about marriage and I'd have to be married to have kids. Never gonna be a single mom.
    IvyRed15 IvyRed15 16-17, F Feb 1

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    Am I the only one who gets upset

    and cries when they find out that someone close to them is pregnant? I told my closest guy friend today and he laughed and said I was being selfish but I don't think I am. One of my best friends from college got pregnant and is due over the summer and I found out my sister is...
    tequilasunset2060a tequilasunset2060a 26-30, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Not Quite In The "Never" File

    It seems like every month a new baby pops up in my life. My friends are at that age where if they haven't had kids yet, they're pulling the trigger ASAP. I've always said that I didn't think kids were for me. I'm the oldest of five children and very familiar with the rigors of...
    eyketurner eyketurner 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    Breeding

    I've decided not to have children for quite a few reasons. I could probably write a book about this topic, but I'll only list a few here. First, the latest average cost of having one child is roughly $241,000 before college. I also read it will be about double that amount...
    BillSPrestonEsq BillSPrestonEsq 31-35, M 4 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    By the time I finish college

    and med school, I will be 27. By the time I find someone to date and decide to get married I will be around 33-35. To me, that's too late to have kids. I may not live past 60 and my kids would still be babies. I wouldn't want to leave them alone like that so I would probably...
    blackxrosexyuuki blackxrosexyuuki 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Where Are The Women Who Don't Want Kids?

    it seems impossible for me to find a woman who doesn't want kids i met a great woman (who was just about to move far away) and i've never met another who i've felt like i did about her (we're still friends and i still have some feelings for her), i think if she hadn't wanted...
    LonerNotLonly LonerNotLonly 31-35 2 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    I did not imagine having children

    until the day my (soon to be) wife became pregnant. She was from a Catholic family and despite her own willingness to pick and choose which rules to follow, Abortion wasn't something she was interested in. I was pro-choice but not *for* abortion per-se so I suddenly...
    JacquesSade JacquesSade 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 19

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    Why is the idea of not wanting children seen as

    so utterly heinous by some people? I am so, so tired of seeing the same--frankly stupid--arguments lobbed at the willfully childless again and again. Any of these sound familiar? "You'll change your mind/You'll regret it." - This is just another way of saying "I know better...
    SnowCrash11 SnowCrash11 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    Not Gonna Do It

    I really do like (note, not love) kids. I enjoy being around my nieces and nephews and friends' children. But never ever do I want any of my own. My main reasoning is - -I am selfish and I love it. It's just husband my and me and our cats. I wouldn't want it any...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Apr 13, 2007

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    I Still Don't Want Kids.

    I was only a kid, around 10 years old, when my 16 year old sister, Jamie, had her first baby (Nathan). Then my mom said to me, "Don't be like your sister." I remember thinking, "Don't worry, I won't." A few years later I was in high school and saw so many girls who were getting...
    xoxodoll xoxodoll 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    This is apparently...

    . "weird." I don't want any. Ever. There is nothing that comes with having children that is appealing to me. I would rather have a more free and stress free life. Now if I could just find a like minded woman. This was ultimately the deal breaker in a situation I had with someone...
    Syzygy11 Syzygy11 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 18

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    TrippingKitty TrippingKitty 22-25 Oct 14, 2013

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    Why Is Pregnancy Viewed As This Incredible Accomplishment? It Grosses Me Out

    When a woman (usually a celebrity) announces that she knocked up, it is looked upon like this miraculous, awesome feat. Why? Any idiot can get pregnant. No matter how stupid, poor, incompetent and emotionally unstable you are, if you're a female who has periods and a uterus...
    bolistoli bolistoli 56-60, F 14 Responses Aug 31, 2011

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    This day in age. I don't want kids cause I feel

    that this generation has completely ****** destroyed killed or will kill everything on planet earth. Living in so cal, politics plAys a huge role in our everyday life. That's bullshyt. I certainly will not have kids for the simple fact that we have completely destroyed our...
    socalsissi socalsissi 36-40, T Mar 21

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    Sometimes I feel like I don't want kids either.

    Why bring another life into this f***** up world? My boyfriend want kids. He is 30 and I am almost 24. He feels ready, but Im not ready!!!
    emeraldtriangle420 emeraldtriangle420 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    Childfree Is The Way For Me!

    Hello.  My name is M, and I don’t want kids.  There, I said it!  Why is it that admitting that I don’t want to have kids seems almost as bad as admitting that I’m addicted to drugs?  It’s because in our society, it is simply expected that you will have children. That...
    microwench microwench 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 15, 2011

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    I Don't Want Kids

    Hello everyone. My name is Leu and I am 18 years old. I feel like people are constantly bugging me about children. I just turned 18 two weeks ago and I'm not even in a relationship. Just today, I was at the doctors with my mom, and somehow we got onto the subject of having kids...
    aleuuzy aleuuzy 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2011

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    I may only be a kid myself

    but that makes me know what kids are like. I love them but not enough to deal with them every day! Having to buy and take care of someone till they're of age just seems boring.
    Hisokara Hisokara 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    Why The Rise In Teenage Pregnancy?

    Welcome to Babyland Why are teenage pregancies on the rise in America?  Better question: why is Abby Sunderland, the 16 year old girl who recently attempted to become the youngest person to sail solo around the world, the exception for young women instead of the rule? Why...
    niceguyinhell niceguyinhell 31-35, M 20 Responses Jun 16, 2010

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