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I Don't Want Kids

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    There are a million reasons

    why I don't want to ever have kids, but the most important reason is that I am not cruel enough to want to bring another human being into the dark world we currently live in. I don't want to sound like I judge people who do have kids, but it's a choice I've made. I've never been...
    Theworldisminenow Theworldisminenow 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 5

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    I Regret Having Kids When I Never Wanted Any.

    Now I am living in a hell I can never escape from.
    Kiara2012 Kiara2012 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 20

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    A Careful Decision...

    Children... babies... raising another human being. The following is not a vain attempt to accrue public affirmation for my ideas; I did not write this seeking affirmation of my ideology - I mostly wrote it so that any others on the verge of considering such a grave responsibility...
    Dracat Dracat 36-40 3 Responses Dec 20, 2012

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    at all. While I enjoy spending time with some

    nice kids in moderation. I don't think I'm cut out to be a mother. At least not a traditional one. When I'm in my forties or so is like to foster or adopt a preteen or teen kid who needs a good home. But having my own kids? No way. For a good part of my life I want to travel on...
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F Aug 31

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    So yea Im married now.

    What is the deal with people always asking me when im gonna get preggers? wtf is up with this shyt? I always thought and still do think that pregnancy sounds more like a parasitic invasion then a blessed event. Thats just me though. A belly the size of Rhode Island, sore...
    myaahwavesgoodbye myaahwavesgoodbye 26-30, F 8 Responses Feb 21

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    Not Gonna Do It

    I really do like (note, not love) kids. I enjoy being around my nieces and nephews and friends' children. But never ever do I want any of my own. My main reasoning is - -I am selfish and I love it. It's just husband my and me and our cats. I wouldn't want it any...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Apr 13, 2007

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    I freely admit i do not want the responsibility.

    I know that any child would be better off with any other woman as their mother. I love my nephews, but i also love when they leave. I know that i will not change my mind no matter what anyone tries to say to convince me.
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    Childfree Is The Way For Me!

    Hello.  My name is M, and I don’t want kids.  There, I said it!  Why is it that admitting that I don’t want to have kids seems almost as bad as admitting that I’m addicted to drugs?  It’s because in our society, it is simply expected that you will have children. That...
    microwench microwench 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 15, 2011

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    Why Is Pregnancy Viewed As This Incredible Accomplishment? It Grosses Me Out

    When a woman (usually a celebrity) announces that she knocked up, it is looked upon like this miraculous, awesome feat. Why? Any idiot can get pregnant. No matter how stupid, poor, incompetent and emotionally unstable you are, if you're a female who has periods and a uterus...
    bolistoli bolistoli 56-60, F 15 Responses Aug 31, 2011

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    I think adopting older kids is better

    because usually they are not adopted that often. I don't want kids because of the money and because I just never want to have kids. I don't like little kids at all. I want to adopt 12 years and older.
    dogssing dogssing 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 1

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    Why should we women be made to feel like,

    just because we can, we have to have kids? Every woman is supposed to have a maternal side to her apparently but who said that feeling a need to look after others and love people unconditionally meant you are maternal? I.e have "mothering instincts". I for one can't stand kids...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 13

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    uhhke uhhke 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 1

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    I have been told that makes me a bad woman

    but I don't care. I have never imagined a life with kids before.
    curiousgirl1214 curiousgirl1214 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 13

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    Ever since I was 14 years old,

    I never wanted to have kids. I have no maternal instincts and don't like being around kids very long. Even though I live with my parents, I love my freedom. There are numerous reasons why I don't want kids. Here they are: 1. I don't want to deal with the emotions of my "baby...
    browntaurus27 browntaurus27 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    I did not imagine having children

    until the day my (soon to be) wife became pregnant. She was from a Catholic family and despite her own willingness to pick and choose which rules to follow, Abortion wasn't something she was interested in. I was pro-choice but not *for* abortion per-se so I suddenly...
    JacquesSade JacquesSade 46-50, M 5 Responses Feb 19

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    If I have kids, this is what could happen to

    them 1: I have very low stress tolerance levels. I could ignore the child because I can't take care of it properly from the extreme stress. The child could end up dying because of being mistreated. 2: I was born with mental weakness on two sides of my family. It's likely the...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 70+, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's not because I don't like them,

    or think they're annoying in any way. I just don't want them to grow up in a world like this, I would hate myself if I saw them grow up to become how some people are. Hate and greed are becoming more and more popular, this world is turning to ****. I'm sure there are people who...
    MarziJain MarziJain 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    The Reason Most People Have Kids

    The main reason I don't want kids is because most young women I know (including my own mother) were scared to be alone got knocked up by the first guy that showed them attention and got married or stayed together for it. Years down the line they're miserable hate each other even...
    NocturnalNightmare NocturnalNightmare 26-30, M 8 Responses Jan 17, 2012

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    Doing The World A Favor

       I have never liked kids, most of my family thinks I love kids. I would be really embarrassed if they found out some how that I don't. I don't wanna be judged just because I'm not like most women in the world who want kids right off the bat. Half the reason why I stayed a...
    Evlana Evlana 22-25, F 23 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    Also, I'm Jumping On The Top Ten Train...

    Top Ten Lists are fun. David Letterman should do one about reasons why having kids isn't awesome. 10. Childbirth. The pain, vomiting, tearing, drugs, no drugs, screaming, blood, goo, post-birth-floppiness of the cooter. All of the above = bad. 9. Family/Friend Obligations. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Nov 24, 2010

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    Never Did And Still Don't

    We are pre-programmed genetically to propogate the race. Religion further adds to the pressure to have kids.  I, however, am baffled by the whole urge to have kids.  Having kids is our claim to immortality. What infinite arrogance we have. In what way do we see ourselves as...
    eternalhope eternalhope 36-40, F 12 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    Some of my friends got kids at a very young age

    and they couldn't handle it. They were unhappy, the kids were unhappy, even my rich friends couldn't handle it. I thought that if you had enough money then you would be able to take care of your kids, but that's not true. I wouldn't be able to handle kids.
    MelodieSlute MelodieSlute 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 24

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    I just hate it when people say “you will

    change your mind as you get older”! Guess what, I said I didn't want kids when I was 15, now I'm 25 and I still don't want kids! I just can't stand the noise and I don't have the patience! hate it when they look at me like I don't know what I am talking about. Seriously you...
    Naturalsimple Naturalsimple 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 23

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    I don't want kids. I never have.

    Ever since I was a little girl I never played with dolls and I had no interest in being a mother. As I got older, other people and family members asked me about what I would be when I grew up and all of them were shocked when I said I didn't want children. They kept telling me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 29

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    I never really wanted kids.

    It´s just never was plan for my life. Many women see it as a goal for their life to find the "right one" and have a familiy, but I don´t see it this way. Maybe because I just know that life is not that perfect and often ruins the thinks one planned so nicely... When having...
    TheUndesired TheUndesired 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 28

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    Paying For Everyone Else's Kids

    i don't want kids, nor do I really care to have my own. I'm 28 and I still haven't felt the "motherly urge" to push a bowling ball of a human being through a small hole. They cry, wine, fight, don't apprechate the parents, and I don't like slobber. There are parents who shouldn...
    Kasha83 Kasha83 26-30 2 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    I don't want kids. I do enjoy being around

    children. They're cute don't get me wrong [although they're some nasty ones out there] but, very early on I just knew that I didn't want to be a parent. Some can say, "you seem like the type of person who doesn't want to take on responsibility," or "you're just selfish". No...
    seakissedjem seakissedjem 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I don't want kids because I know I wouldn't be

    a good mother. I would rather go out and have fun with friends instead of stay at home and change diapers. Does that make me a bad or selfish person? I don't think so. I think it's a good thing I realize this now instead of having a kid and being a bad parent.
    ashizz ashizz 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    I don't dislike children at all.

    ..I don't have children and it just simply didn't happen....but, to be completely honest, I have never thought about having or wanted to have children of my own. Well, apart from for a few minutes after seeing touchy movies that relate to parenthood, etc. My boyfriend has a kid...
    purly purly 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I think kids are obnoxious,

    whiny and annoying. I just literally do not have any patience for them.
    cmitchellichs cmitchellichs 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 14

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    Funny conversation at work the other day.

    .. Child: Are you a mom? Me: Nope. Child: Whaaaat? Then what are you? Me: I'm just me. I'm a Speech Therapist. Child:...but you don't have kids? Me: No, but I do have dogs :] Child: That's weird. Even children are starting to judge my life choices!!!! :P
    QuietChristi QuietChristi 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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    Breeding

    I've decided not to have children for quite a few reasons. I could probably write a book about this topic, but I'll only list a few here. First, the latest average cost of having one child is roughly $241,000 before college. I also read it will be about double that amount...
    BillSPrestonEsq BillSPrestonEsq 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    Even though I don't want kids I still get a

    motherly yearn sometimes, to have the whole experience. But I'm not going to do it. Maybe next lifetime.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I Have Nephews And Nieces And Tons Of Cousins!

    I always thought kids are 1-noise and 2-destruction especially when they are so young. After that they pass by many stages that include being embarrassing companions, sticky question asking machines, and non-stop meddling in older people's business. Last year, my three sisters...
    onlygodjudgeme onlygodjudgeme 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    I have zero maternal instinct,

    so I highly doubt that parenthood would pan out well for me.
    almaera almaera 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    ...cause it would break me.

    If they turned out as sensitive as I am, and they probably would, I couldn't bare the taught I condemned them to life in a world they can never learn to adjust to, that would constantly drain them, bully them and generally make them feel inferior to selfish ego driven ppl, who...
    Godess4Fun Godess4Fun 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 1

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    I'd fall into a coma

    if I found out I was pregnant
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    I'm too ambitious & have things I want to do

    with my life instead of focusing all my energy into something like a kid for 20 years. Really it's not self-centered because I'd be a terrible mom & I seriously lack maternal instincts. I don't want to put a child through that; I guess I love my potential children enough to save...
    SimpleShares SimpleShares 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 14

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    I'm Selfish And Cold Hearted.

    Apparently, because I am a female within the optimum age group for having kids, and stating that I don't want them makes me a selfish and cold hearted *****. How dare I deny such a wonderful and honourable gift of being able to have them. I understand that to struggle for years...
    pessimist pessimist 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2012

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    I'd rather help the earth

    than humanity...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 2 Responses Apr 22

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    I Still Don't Want Kids.

    I was only a kid, around 10 years old, when my 16 year old sister, Jamie, had her first baby (Nathan). Then my mom said to me, "Don't be like your sister." I remember thinking, "Don't worry, I won't." A few years later I was in high school and saw so many girls who were getting...
    xoxodoll xoxodoll 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    Like Ever. I don't want my kid having my issues.

    I hope I never get pregnant. If so I would turn to abortion,adoption. Check out Safe Haven Laws in your state for parents who want to give up their kids the legal way.
    Hannarose Hannarose 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    The Top 10 Reasons....

    10. I've got no motherly instinct. I've never felt it at all, even when around babies. I don't see the facination. 9. Screaming and whining just grate on my nerves. 8. Pain of childbirth? No thanks. Stretching out that area down there? No thanks. Chance of ripping...
    DietIcedTea DietIcedTea 36-40, F 13 Responses May 30, 2009

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    "You'll Change Your Mind When You're Older!"

    No, no I will not change my mind whe I'm older, and i'm tired of hearing people say that. Is it so wrong for me to know what I want, and stick to my beliefs? Growing up, before I had ever thought seriously on the subject, it seemed like parenthood was a choice. Some people had...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 23, 2011

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    I Don't Want Kids

    Hello everyone. My name is Leu and I am 18 years old. I feel like people are constantly bugging me about children. I just turned 18 two weeks ago and I'm not even in a relationship. Just today, I was at the doctors with my mom, and somehow we got onto the subject of having kids...
    aleuuzy aleuuzy 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2011

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    I'm very comfortable with myself

    and I know exactly what I want and I may be young but I'm 100 percent sure I don't want kids and it's a deal breaker for me. People have told me "your selfish not to want kids" "your just young you'll change your mind" "once you find the right guy you'll change your mind" "your...
    SophieBabe20 SophieBabe20 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    iaintcomingupwithausername iaintcomingupwithausername 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21

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    No, I'm Pretty Sure I Won't Change My Mind

    with all my friends getting pregnant, i hear the " don't worry, i'm sure you'll have kids some day" more often than not. and while i know that i'm getting to that age where one would start to consider having children I haven't gotten there yet. . Is something seriously wrong...
    jjuls22 jjuls22 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2012

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    Stephtantan Stephtantan 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 20

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    They Think I'm

    It's hard being 24 and having people looking at me like I have 3rd head just because I don't have kids yet. I got married at the very young age of 18. Even though I jumped fast, I still don't regret my marriage to a very wonderful man.  But I live in the South, and here...
    timelessaire timelessaire 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15, 2007

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    one crazy conversation.

    .. acquaintance: "Hey, you want to have kids one day?" me: "No." acquaintance: "Why not? You seem like you’d be a good mom. Or is it that you don’t think you’ll be a good mom?" me: "You came up with saying I’ll be a good mom, why ask me if I don’t think I’ll be a...
    Neiymara Neiymara 22-25, F Jul 8

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    MeowSaidTheCat MeowSaidTheCat 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 29

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