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I Don't Want Kids

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    I hope my brothers both have children

    so I can be an auntie. But I don't particularly feel the desire to be a mom. Life can go in unexpected directions, so I won't say I'm completely closed off to the idea of having kids someday. At this point in my life, however, I highly doubt that will happen. I haven't even...
    rurud rurud 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    I just never felt like having any .

    ever since I saw the process of giving birth and how much my mum suffered during the 9 nine months of having my siblings I've always questioned what is so amazing about it? they just suck the health out of you then your money then your emotional stability and finally hurt you by...
    Fralicious Fralicious 16-17, F Dec 9, 2015

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    I don't find anything special about kids.

    I don't HATE them, I just don't know what the fuss about them is. To a parent, their kids are the greatest things ever, which is understandable, but to everyone else, they're just kids. They aren't gifts, they aren't miracles, (although to some women who can't have them, I'd say...
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 6 Responses Apr 4, 2015

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    These days, it's rare

    for anyone to say I'll change my mind, but all I have to do to the few holdouts is mention that I'm perimenopausal AND my tubes are tied. I need to be faster with the camera to capture the looks on their faces when I do. A few fools say cats are a substitute for babies, but...
    MadKittySH MadKittySH 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    Text messeges with my mom: Me: *complaining

    about my clingy cat that I love and adore* Mom: Sucked being a parent sometimes. All the sacrifices. Me: No wonder I don't want to be one. Mom: Yeah I had to do it. Me: Yeah, now you're stuck with this burden??. I guess you learn from your parents mistakes.
    0KatieKat0 0KatieKat0 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    Fralicious Fralicious 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2015

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    What's the point of having any anyway?

    Having a big belly for like 9 months just for another human being who is going to **** on your face when growing up? Or the perfect husband who won't be so perfect at all when he'll want to divorce to continue his ''own damn life'' They just make me wanna slap the crap out of...
    AfricanGirl19 AfricanGirl19 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 21, 2015

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    The Top 10 Reasons....

    10. I've got no motherly instinct. I've never felt it at all, even when around babies. I don't see the facination. 9. Screaming and whining just grate on my nerves. 8. Pain of childbirth? No thanks. Stretching out that area down there? No thanks. Chance of ripping...
    DietIcedTea DietIcedTea 36-40, F 11 Responses May 30, 2009

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    Having kids is something I've been pending on

    for quite some time. I eventually decided that it's not what I want and that I'm not going to change my opinion on it. I'm okay with pets such as dogs and cats, but kids are definitely a no go. I worry about getting into a relationship with someone who shares this opinion...
    Dereth Dereth 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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    In china there is a 1 child policy.

    Too bad that policy isn't world wide. Then there will be Less annoying ******* you want to slap the **** out of.And less risks of overpopulation running out of resources and have famine take over the globe. Some idiots with their 1 world problems nag how cruel it is to grow up...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 17, 2015

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    And to be clear right away; this has nothing to

    do with my lifestyle in whatever form. I get along great with the kids of my friends and relatives and I do a lot of voluteerwork that involves childeren, so it´s not that I hate kids either. I am 31 now and so is my boyfriend. We have reached an age where people around us...
    MissLunaDomina MissLunaDomina 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    Something that grinds my gears is

    when people tell me I will change my mind. I really doubt I will. Having a kid would involve me to have sexual relations with a male, and I really don't want to do that. *sigh* I sometimes feel like people don't respect my Asexuality.
    InvaderGashloog InvaderGashloog 70+, F 4 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    The Reason Most People Have Kids

    The main reason I don't want kids is because most young women I know (including my own mother) were scared to be alone got knocked up by the first guy that showed them attention and got married or stayed together for it. Years down the line they're miserable hate each other even...
    NocturnalNightmare NocturnalNightmare 26-30, M 8 Responses Jan 17, 2012

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    The thought of a thing growing

    and feeding inside my body disgusts me and makes me nauseous.
    sunflowerpet sunflowerpet 18-21, F 9 Responses Feb 17, 2015

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    Manipulation does not work on people

    who don't want kids. Parents who do it to their own kids, are horrible parents. Who the **** gave them the right to do such a thing? They do it because their kids are not giving them what they want so those parents are trying to make their own kids feel bad about themselves and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 9, 2015

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    In my opinion, I'm not a very smart person,

    have not made the smartest choices, and have not had the funnest time on earth. I don't want to raise a child in a world like this to set them up for hurt and disappointment, because humans are cruel creatures. I also don't have the patience to take care of a child when I don...
    ghostofthesun ghostofthesun 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    I haven't always felt this way,

    but I don't want to bring a child in this messed up world. My friends think I'm selfish, but I think it's selfish if I have one. I'm not emotionally stable to support a child. It's not like it's only me. All of my sisters don't want children either. Our legacy stops with our...
    Schoolinlife Schoolinlife 26-30, F 14 Responses Sep 5, 2015

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    Sorry, World, but I'm not going to have kids.

    I don't like the idea of being pregnant and I don't want the responsibility of taking care of a child. Hell, I don't even like babysitting. I can guarantee you that the human race will still live on if one person doesn't have kids. And if you think I'm being selfish, I don't...
    Peridot23 Peridot23 22-25, F 10 Responses Jan 23

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    I don't want kids. I really truly don't.

    I never have. When I was little, five or six, I told my mom I do not want kids. I still don't. She says I'll change my mind, but I doubt it. Espically since I am asexual so there is very little chance of the baby making process to even do step one. My boyfriend, who does not...
    13ookworm 13ookworm 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 22

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    Reasons why I don't want kids: 1) I argue with

    them 2) I have no patience 3) I get mad at them if they're being naughty 4) And I have to watch my cussing
    Peridot23 Peridot23 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 25

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    I love kids, more than adults.

    If I'm ready to have kids, i would choose adoption instead of having my own. There are too many kids without a parent. These kids can mean trouble, with emphasis on 'can', but they've been gone thro a loss and only need to feel loved and understood. Some people are afraid to...
    dlaran83 dlaran83 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 18, 2015

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    I do not see the appeal of having them.

    You spent twenty years having to take care of them or even longer. Plus you're, "obligated" to pay for their college. Plus they'll not want to take care of you when you're old. They might put you in a nursing home till you drop. Of course there is that slim chance that your...
    GrinchFairy GrinchFairy 16-17 2 Responses Jan 22

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    I do not want to bring kids into this crazy

    messed up world. But I do want to help the ones already here.
    rubyjuly rubyjuly 26-30, F 6 Responses May 31, 2015

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    For three major reasons.

    The first is that I'm not the paternal type -- like, at all. I can tolerate kids at the best of times, and at the worst of times, I simply cannot stand them. I really don't think I'd be ideal father material if I can't handle being in the same room as a little kid for more than...
    ImNotAHipster ImNotAHipster 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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    Well if your female I have hope

    for you. I will be 40 next month and have never, ever truly wanted children. This was tested when I was 24 and got pregnant fr a casual relationship. I chose abortion and now 15 years later I do NOT regret my decision. Of course you wonder but looking at the time, energy...
    Childfreetx Childfreetx 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 22

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    Nothing frustrates me more

    than being told I will change my mind when I "get old enough" or "meet the right man." These things imply that as an adult I am still not fully capable of making decisions and that the decisions that I will make in the future are not my own, that they'll be based on a man in my...
    charmyxd charmyxd 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2014

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    I'm tired of all these mombies running around

    acting like women who aren't reproducing, are the most selfish people on the planet. Exactly how is it selfish to not want kids? Neither women who have kids nor the ones that don't aren't doing the world any favors so why does it matter? Also, I just plain don't like children...
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2015

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    Kids aren't a bad thing,

    really they're not (some of them). My only concern is if I do bad at parenting, or if they end up hating me. I know a lot of people that cannot stand they're parents and it only encourages me not to have children of my own.
    FromAntoinette FromAntoinette 22-25 3 Responses Jan 23

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    I wrote a longer post about this before,

    but I saw this link recently and had to share it. People often act shocked and call me "selfish" when they find out that I don't want kids. But here is a link showing the devastating effects of overpopulation: http://amazyble.com/world/devastating-effects-overpopulation/ Who...
    pixieowl pixieowl 26-30, F 5 Responses May 12, 2015

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    When I see a sticker on the window of a car

    with "Baby on board" I just want to puke. It's like everyone needs to bow down to their holy crotch drop.
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 17 Responses Oct 24, 2015

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    I accidentally gave my boyfriend hope today by

    talking about surrogate mothers out of curiosity. Not only do I not want to carry a child (which he thinks is the only reason) I just don't want a child. I don't want to take care of child, share my funds with a child, or raise a child. I don't know why I brought that up...
    Nadiiaa Nadiiaa 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 26

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    I really hate when I get asked "do you have

    children?" because when I say no, it usually leads to "when will you have kids?" as if it is something every one HAS to do. I then find myself listing the reasons I don't want them, only to have 90% of people tell me that I am going to change my mind, or that it's "wrong" to not...
    xxfallenangel xxfallenangel 22-25, F 8 Responses Jan 8

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    Yea So I don't want Kids

    and I don't think so I own an explanation to people why? I mean hell yeah it's my oven and it's my choice whether I want to bake something or not:) I just Don't want Kids.
    liftingmind liftingmind 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 13, 2015

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    I have spent most of my life being the big

    sister and living a life to set an example for my younger siblings. I do not need to spend the rest of my fuckking life doing it. I never want to have kids!! Never!! I'm selfish. I can barely bear the thought of me possibly sharing my life with a man or woman, so much less a...
    TeraLocura TeraLocura 22-25, F 10 Responses Sep 26, 2015

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    I'd rather help the earth

    than humanity...
    TerminaHero TerminaHero 18-21 Apr 22, 2014

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    PetiteChica PetiteChica 18-21, F Jan 4

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    I'm 27 years old and have

    yet to really feel the "desire" to have children. Don't get me wrong, I love kids. I work with kids at my job and coach high school track in the spring, kids are basically my life. But they aren't my kids. At the end of the day or practice I send them home to their parents and...
    swatson88 swatson88 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2015

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    Reply 1) If your intentions are to guilt trip

    people for not wanting kids. 2) Tell why 3) And if you would ever force someone to have kids because you're uncomfortable with their decisions. Heart if you respect people's decisions for not wanting kids.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Nov 4, 2015

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    Because I'm forty-*******-four years old.

    Stop asking when, or why not. It's none of your ******* business anyway.
    andie2007 andie2007 41-45, F 22 Responses Oct 17, 2015

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    Not having kids is for me a charity act to the

    world. I believe there are too many people on Earth, and millions do not live good. I think that reducing the number of person would be positive for the nature cause we could all have an access to food, field and water without fighting. So I don't want to participate to the...
    JuPond JuPond 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Am I not wife material

    because of this?
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 29, 2015

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    You know what really bothers me?

    When people ask me why I don't want kids and I tell them it's because I don't like them, they come back with "you were a kid once." Seriously, what's your point? Just because I was a kid once doesn't mean I have to like kids. That's stupid. I can't handle them. They're too...
    MichaelMyers1 MichaelMyers1 18-21, M 7 Responses Feb 12, 2015

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    Hearing about my old friends from middle school

    having kids now in their twenties makes me think about how much I value my freedom. It surprises me that they decided to have kids and get married so young but then again I've never been in a rush to do either of those things. I really do not want to have kids and it will be a...
    rbblackcherry rbblackcherry 22-25, F a week ago

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    It is not, I repeat, NOT selfish to not want

    kids. It is your choice and your life. People need to quit acting as if the world is going to end if you choose not to have children. What people need to do is mind their own damn business. Also, what people need to stop saying is, "You'll change your mind when you get older" or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 2, 2015

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    I am already experiencing how it's like to

    babysit little brothers and sisters.
    LexiMory LexiMory 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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