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I Don't Want Kids

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    Kids are not for me. I don't think I can deal

    with raising kids. I don't love kids, don't need them, and really don't have the attitude for raising kids. I don't think I can deal with it when they get sick or get cranky at night.
    Close2You Close2You 26-30, M 7 Responses Feb 22

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    I'd rather help the earth

    than humanity...
    GonUnleashed GonUnleashed 18-21 2 Responses Apr 22

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    BleuGirl83 BleuGirl83 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    I get emotionally drained from just a few math

    problems. I can't even take care of my messes or anything. I am responsible in some ways but I would never want to have kids.
    Girlinthefloweredskirt Girlinthefloweredskirt 16-17, F Apr 20

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    I have zero maternal instinct,

    so I highly doubt that parenthood would pan out well for me.
    almaera almaera 18-21, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    "You'll Change Your Mind When You're Older!"

    No, no I will not change my mind whe I'm older, and i'm tired of hearing people say that. Is it so wrong for me to know what I want, and stick to my beliefs? Growing up, before I had ever thought seriously on the subject, it seemed like parenthood was a choice. Some people had...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 23, 2011

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    I Don't Want Kids

    Hello everyone. My name is Leu and I am 18 years old. I feel like people are constantly bugging me about children. I just turned 18 two weeks ago and I'm not even in a relationship. Just today, I was at the doctors with my mom, and somehow we got onto the subject of having kids...
    aleuuzy aleuuzy 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2011

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    Some of my friends got kids at a very young age

    and they couldn't handle it. They were unhappy, the kids were unhappy, even my rich friends couldn't handle it. I thought that if you had enough money then you would be able to take care of your kids, but that's not true. I wouldn't be able to handle kids.
    MelodieSlute MelodieSlute 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    I shouldn't be a parent.

    I can't deal with kids at all when they misbehave or are really loud. And there is no way I can muster up the attention span or patience to take care of them very well. I actually yelled at a young girl to shut up after something hours of her yelling and stupid jokes that...
    almaera almaera 18-21, F Apr 20

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    Not Gonna Do It

    I really do like (note, not love) kids. I enjoy being around my nieces and nephews and friends' children. But never ever do I want any of my own. My main reasoning is - -I am selfish and I love it. It's just husband my and me and our cats. I wouldn't want it any...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Apr 13, 2007

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    They Think I'm

    It's hard being 24 and having people looking at me like I have 3rd head just because I don't have kids yet. I got married at the very young age of 18. Even though I jumped fast, I still don't regret my marriage to a very wonderful man.  But I live in the South, and here...
    timelessaire timelessaire 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15, 2007

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    This day in age. I don't want kids cause I feel

    that this generation has completely ****** destroyed killed or will kill everything on planet earth. Living in so cal, politics plAys a huge role in our everyday life. That's bullshyt. I certainly will not have kids for the simple fact that we have completely destroyed our...
    socalsissi socalsissi 36-40, T Mar 21

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    Why Cant People Respect That??

    Im so sick of people trying to convince me to have a child!! so a couple of women on my job are pregnant...which has somehow led to people telling me that im next. when i politely told them that i dont want any kids this late in life...here comes the unwanted comments and...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    So yea Im married now.

    What is the deal with people always asking me when im gonna get preggers? wtf is up with this shyt? I always thought and still do think that pregnancy sounds more like a parasitic invasion then a blessed event. Thats just me though. A belly the size of Rhode Island, sore...
    myaahwavesgoodbye myaahwavesgoodbye 26-30, F 8 Responses Feb 21

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    I Have Nephews And Nieces And Tons Of Cousins!

    I always thought kids are 1-noise and 2-destruction especially when they are so young. After that they pass by many stages that include being embarrassing companions, sticky question asking machines, and non-stop meddling in older people's business. Last year, my three sisters...
    onlygodjudgeme onlygodjudgeme 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    I have been told that makes me a bad woman

    but I don't care. I have never imagined a life with kids before.
    curiousgirl1214 curiousgirl1214 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 13

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    Why Is Pregnancy Viewed As This Incredible Accomplishment? It Grosses Me Out

    When a woman (usually a celebrity) announces that she knocked up, it is looked upon like this miraculous, awesome feat. Why? Any idiot can get pregnant. No matter how stupid, poor, incompetent and emotionally unstable you are, if you're a female who has periods and a uterus...
    bolistoli bolistoli 56-60, F 14 Responses Aug 31, 2011

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    I think adopting older kids is better

    because usually they are not adopted that often. I don't want kids because of the money and because I just never want to have kids. I don't like little kids at all. I want to adopt 12 years and older.
    dogssing dogssing 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 1

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    The Reason Most People Have Kids

    The main reason I don't want kids is because most young women I know (including my own mother) were scared to be alone got knocked up by the first guy that showed them attention and got married or stayed together for it. Years down the line they're miserable hate each other even...
    NocturnalNightmare NocturnalNightmare 26-30, M 8 Responses Jan 17, 2012

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    Also, I'm Jumping On The Top Ten Train...

    Top Ten Lists are fun. David Letterman should do one about reasons why having kids isn't awesome. 10. Childbirth. The pain, vomiting, tearing, drugs, no drugs, screaming, blood, goo, post-birth-floppiness of the cooter. All of the above = bad. 9. Family/Friend Obligations. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Nov 24, 2010

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    This is apparently...

    . "weird." I don't want any. Ever. There is nothing that comes with having children that is appealing to me. I would rather have a more free and stress free life. Now if I could just find a like minded woman. This was ultimately the deal breaker in a situation I had with someone...
    Syzygy11 Syzygy11 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 18

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    Never Did And Still Don't

    We are pre-programmed genetically to propogate the race. Religion further adds to the pressure to have kids.  I, however, am baffled by the whole urge to have kids.  Having kids is our claim to immortality. What infinite arrogance we have. In what way do we see ourselves as...
    eternalhope eternalhope 36-40, F 12 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    I've found that a lot people think

    that it's weird or selfish that a woman doesn't want children. I know a few women like myself who don't want children. Some are married, too. I understand having children is a beautiful thing! And I do love kids! I don't dislike children. I spoil my nieces and nephews rotten...
    mousecop mousecop 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    YET! My fiancée and I are

    both 20 and due to be married next year. She wants kids in 5 years time at the age of 25 and says she'll divorce me if she has to to get kids. I want to wait another 7-8 years so we can enjoy our lives properly first without hassle. She's not being reasonable and doesn't...
    NotPennysBoat17 NotPennysBoat17 18-21, M 6 Responses Mar 29

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    Since childhood, the thought has repulsed me.

    It would be selfish to bring forth new life into a corrupt and expensive world like this. Nobody in this world has the right to have a child- it is a privilege that only qualified people should have. It is the parents' duty to provide their child a fulfilling, educated, well-fed...
    HopeRefugeShelter HopeRefugeShelter 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    Why is the idea of not wanting children seen as

    so utterly heinous by some people? I am so, so tired of seeing the same--frankly stupid--arguments lobbed at the willfully childless again and again. Any of these sound familiar? "You'll change your mind/You'll regret it." - This is just another way of saying "I know better...
    SnowCrash11 SnowCrash11 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    Childfree Is The Way For Me!

    Hello.  My name is M, and I don’t want kids.  There, I said it!  Why is it that admitting that I don’t want to have kids seems almost as bad as admitting that I’m addicted to drugs?  It’s because in our society, it is simply expected that you will have children. That...
    microwench microwench 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 15, 2011

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    Paying For Everyone Else's Kids

    i don't want kids, nor do I really care to have my own. I'm 28 and I still haven't felt the "motherly urge" to push a bowling ball of a human being through a small hole. They cry, wine, fight, don't apprechate the parents, and I don't like slobber. There are parents who shouldn...
    Kasha83 Kasha83 26-30 2 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    Never have and i believe i never will Its hard

    to find someone who also doesnt want kids
    WendyDarlin WendyDarlin 18-21, F 1 Response May 9

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    A Careful Decision...

    Children... babies... raising another human being. The following is not a vain attempt to accrue public affirmation for my ideas; I did not write this seeking affirmation of my ideology - I mostly wrote it so that any others on the verge of considering such a grave responsibility...
    Dracat Dracat 36-40 3 Responses Dec 20, 2012

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    Breeding

    I've decided not to have children for quite a few reasons. I could probably write a book about this topic, but I'll only list a few here. First, the latest average cost of having one child is roughly $241,000 before college. I also read it will be about double that amount...
    BillSPrestonEsq BillSPrestonEsq 31-35, M 4 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    I think kids are obnoxious,

    whiny and annoying. I just literally do not have any patience for them.
    cmitchellichs cmitchellichs 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 14

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    I did not imagine having children

    until the day my (soon to be) wife became pregnant. She was from a Catholic family and despite her own willingness to pick and choose which rules to follow, Abortion wasn't something she was interested in. I was pro-choice but not *for* abortion per-se so I suddenly...
    JacquesSade JacquesSade 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 19

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    The Top 10 Reasons....

    10. I've got no motherly instinct. I've never felt it at all, even when around babies. I don't see the facination. 9. Screaming and whining just grate on my nerves. 8. Pain of childbirth? No thanks. Stretching out that area down there? No thanks. Chance of ripping...
    DietIcedTea DietIcedTea 36-40, F 13 Responses May 30, 2009

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    I Still Don't Want Kids.

    I was only a kid, around 10 years old, when my 16 year old sister, Jamie, had her first baby (Nathan). Then my mom said to me, "Don't be like your sister." I remember thinking, "Don't worry, I won't." A few years later I was in high school and saw so many girls who were getting...
    xoxodoll xoxodoll 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    Why should we women be made to feel like,

    just because we can, we have to have kids? Every woman is supposed to have a maternal side to her apparently but who said that feeling a need to look after others and love people unconditionally meant you are maternal? I.e have "mothering instincts". I for one can't stand kids...
    abbietee abbietee 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 13

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    I just hate it when people say “you will

    change your mind as you get older”! Guess what, I said I didn't want kids when I was 15, now I'm 25 and I still don't want kids! I just can't stand the noise and I don't have the patience! hate it when they look at me like I don't know what I am talking about. Seriously you...
    Naturalsimple Naturalsimple 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Despite me being "young",

    I honestly don't ever want kids for a lot of reasons. Mostly because I don't think I could ever be emotionally ready to take care of another human being other than myself. I get exhausted and annoyed super easily. I would seriously have no patience for a kid. Another reason...
    exittonowhere exittonowhere 16-17, F Jun 1

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    Doing The World A Favor

       I have never liked kids, most of my family thinks I love kids. I would be really embarrassed if they found out some how that I don't. I don't wanna be judged just because I'm not like most women in the world who want kids right off the bat. Half the reason why I stayed a...
    Evlana Evlana 22-25, F 23 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    uhhke uhhke 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 1

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    At the moment, I'm leaning towards not wanting

    to have kids. One of the main reasons is that I feel society is very selfish these days, especially in the developed countries. People have become very busy and don't take much time to get to know each other anymore and that includes people from churches. Neighbours hardly know...
    annebelle88 annebelle88 22-25, F Feb 14

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    No, I'm Pretty Sure I Won't Change My Mind

    with all my friends getting pregnant, i hear the " don't worry, i'm sure you'll have kids some day" more often than not. and while i know that i'm getting to that age where one would start to consider having children I haven't gotten there yet. . Is something seriously wrong...
    jjuls22 jjuls22 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 6, 2012

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    one crazy conversation.

    .. acquaintance: "Hey, you want to have kids one day?" me: "No." acquaintance: "Why not? You seem like you’d be a good mom. Or is it that you don’t think you’ll be a good mom?" me: "You came up with saying I’ll be a good mom, why ask me if I don’t think I’ll be a...
    Neiymara Neiymara 22-25, F Jul 8

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    I've never been too crazy about kids in general.

    I know people say it's different with your own, but I just don't see myself having any. Part of it could because of where I am in life right now. I'm focused on my career - not so much a family. Another big part of it is the vicious chain of abuse. My grandfather was abusive...
    lolwhutisthis lolwhutisthis 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    I don't want kids because I know I wouldn't be

    a good mother. I would rather go out and have fun with friends instead of stay at home and change diapers. Does that make me a bad or selfish person? I don't think so. I think it's a good thing I realize this now instead of having a kid and being a bad parent.
    ashiz ashiz 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have known for a very long time

    that I do not want to breed. I have many very good and well thought out reasons for this. However, I feel as though this is a topic I cannot bring up in mixed company without certain implications or judgment falling on me. I would like to find an open forum somewhere online...
    JuneEleven11 JuneEleven11 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    I'm Selfish And Cold Hearted.

    Apparently, because I am a female within the optimum age group for having kids, and stating that I don't want them makes me a selfish and cold hearted *****. How dare I deny such a wonderful and honourable gift of being able to have them. I understand that to struggle for years...
    pessimist pessimist 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2012

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    I'm very comfortable with myself

    and I know exactly what I want and I may be young but I'm 100 percent sure I don't want kids and it's a deal breaker for me. People have told me "your selfish not to want kids" "your just young you'll change your mind" "once you find the right guy you'll change your mind" "your...
    SophieBabe20 SophieBabe20 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    Am I the only one who gets upset

    and cries when they find out that someone close to them is pregnant? I told my closest guy friend today and he laughed and said I was being selfish but I don't think I am. One of my best friends from college got pregnant and is due over the summer and I found out my sister is...
    tequilasunset2060a tequilasunset2060a 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    "Why not??" is usually the response I get

    when I share the fact that I do not want to have kids. Therefore, I usually try not to say that I don't want kids. Instead I uneasily say "hmm, one day... maybe." In my experience, people usually judge you if you don't want children. I actually like kids--- when they aren't...
    JP25 JP25 26-30 1 Response Mar 5

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    But I don't want to not have someone to take care of me when I'm old.. lol.
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    I currently live with a roommate who has a baby (approximately one year old). I didn't know I would be living with a baby when I decided to move in, I was told all of the roommates...
    secretgarden22 secretgarden22 22-25, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Well I want a party........ Let me explain. My friend and I have a pact. This pact isn't a suicide pact do not worry, is more of a if I'm too old to live without pain, I'm on life...
    KateTheStraightedge KateTheStraightedge 16-17, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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