I Don't Want To Be Like My Father

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 219 People

    Help For Families In Conflict

    Are you a young person (ages 16 to 25) who is afraid you are following in your parent's footsteps? Do you ACT or REACT like they do? Do you STRUGGLE with similar issues like ANGER, AGGRESSION, Low SELF-ESTEEM, or ANXIETY? Do you BLAME them for things that are HOLDING YOU BACK...
    cineflixcasting cineflixcasting
    Oct 15, 2012

    It's difficult to watch the play by play of

    someone you admire so much slowly destroy themselves and do it in such a hateful manner and then have your mother say to you that you will end up just like him. What's worse he knows that he is killing himself and that in turn is destroying me but he too cowardly to do it...
    sambular1313 sambular1313
    31-35, F
    Feb 6, 2016

    my father left my mother

    when she was pregnant with me... the only months of the year he wouldn't send child support were christmas and my birthday... he is a vile human who has no regard for anyone but himself...
    subGinger subGinger
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 6, 2016

    I feel like I'm becoming him.

    My entire family says I'm like him. Its my worst fear. I don't want my children to be afraid of me when I stumble into the house in the middle of the night. I don't want to smoke weed around them, gamble, or be the one that gets drunk before Christmas Dinner. I NEVER want to be...
    SeaHowrse SeaHowrse
    16-17, F
    Jan 7, 2016

    All he does when he comes home is ague with my

    mother and complain about everything she does, when he is the most annoying person in the house. He snores very loud in the living room, and refuses to go to bed , doesn't care if he annoys us. He is a person that doesn't show his emotions, never says hello or goodbye to me...
    SpanishCristian SpanishCristian
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jul 1, 2015

    No not ever. He never knew how to admire us,

    never appreciated the little things we did. He didn't talk to us much, I never liked his attitude toward us, I have so much mixed feelings about him, I will never forget how he was. Why couldn't he just express himself with us and talk to us, appreciate us, give us life lessons...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 5, 2016

    he has never respected me

    as a son and made me feel horrible about myself at times. if I ever have kids I'll know what not to do with them
    Niceguy890 Niceguy890
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Feb 7, 2016

    Hell No!!!

    Never, i will never be like my father, he is just a uncaring, liar, fake, manipulative person, he beat me as a kid and i hated it, threw a shoe at my head just for crying!! Of course the shoe to the head did not help me at all. If i ever become like the violent, uncaring, cold...
    Desolatebones Desolatebones
    22-25, M
    Jun 27, 2012

    From the day I gained the mental ability to

    comprehend what was bad or good, I've always hated my father. He is selfish, abusive, annoying, and just flat out horrible. He beat me and mentally tortured me with insults that hurt more than his physical abuse. And in the long run I have been scarred by what he's done. But the...
    Spectating Spectating
    22-25, M
    Jan 8, 2015

    Don't Hate My Dad, But Hate Being Like Him.

    Ok, so lately i was kind a sad becose i am not talkative, and i just can't forece my self to talk more. And suddnely i realised that i am just like my father. he left us when i were 4 years old, but i don't hate him. He is smart, quit, shy, silent, he isn't willing to help anyone...
    Owny Owny
    18-21, M
    Aug 28, 2011

    I Know It Sounds Stupid But I Am Just Worried.

    Even though i am a girl, i am worried because i am so much like my dad already. I have his facial features, the same hands as him, the same build, the same personality, the same love for things, but he is a horrible, abusive, cheating person and i am worried that because we have...
    ginge101 ginge101
    13-15, F
    1 Response Mar 9, 2013

    Why Would I Say That

        why would i say that i don' want to be like my father . the man that gave part of his dna to create me . i say this becuase this man in my life has gone through girlfriends , panthers , wifes . whatever you call them now adays like we go through a pair of shoes...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 31, 2009
    sleepysleepy sleepysleepy
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    Becoming My Father

    My story is a little different than the others I have read on here. I actually have a loving father, I just don't want to ever raise my own son like he raised me. My parents have been married almost 30 years, and they have always shown love to each other and to my sister and I...
    WorriedFather WorriedFather
    1 Response Sep 5, 2012

    No i won't be, i refuse to be a verbally

    abusive lazy alcoholic. Who didn't want kids but had them anyways.
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989
    26-30, M
    5 Responses Feb 7, 2016

    Soul Code

    My father is a helpless child who constantly begs for attention.  His response to anything is "I don't know" or "I can't do that" - he's completely helpless and pathetic even though he's an intelligent, articulate man who could easily do anything he wanted to if he wasn't...
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28
    26-30, M
    2 Responses May 2, 2010


    We are alike in some ways, and I don't hate everything that I've inherited from him, but I can still say with conviction that I don't want to be like my father. It's difficult to focus on his good qualities when he tends to be so irritable.  He spends half of his time...
    MsStarrShine MsStarrShine
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 20, 2011
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