I Dont Want to Be Like My Parents

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    I rather not talk or see my parents

    than to have the current relationship I have with them. It doesn't make sense to keep adding on more and more bad memories.
    3dayweekend 3dayweekend
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 19, 2015

    My parents can't stand to be around each other

    but still continue to live in the same house. All of their kids are over the age of 21 but 2 of us still live at home. Sometimes you can feel the tension between them when you walk in the room. My younger sister is my half sister because my mom cheated (and still is) on my dad...
    newbs02 newbs02
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 3, 2014
    Profweird Profweird
    22-25, M
    Sep 3, 2015

    My parents are always yelling

    and screaming at me no reason I don't want to be like them when I get older there so mean I don't know why they yell and scream it's annoying
    lilkattie5684 lilkattie5684
    13-15, F
    Oct 31, 2015

    I don't want to be like my parents (and am very

    different). Yet I want to BE WITH people who remind me of them, especially my mom. My mom was a fun, outgoing party girl yet a total b*tch towards me. My mom was a (high functioning) alcoholic and I drawn towards female alcoholics even if I rarely drink myself.
    Cleancut Cleancut
    Sep 1, 2015

    Being my parents are indian they were raised in

    India and are very religious, the thing I hate about them is their old way of thinking, when ever I talk about my friends they always ask if they're " one of us" by that I mean if they're indian why does it matter what race they are? They are my friends that's all that matters...
    shaunrain shaunrain
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Oct 12, 2014

    Some days when people talk about their moms,

    I have the realization all over every time that my mom is a *****. It makes me sad.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 22, 2015

    I don't hate my parents at all.

    There good to me, it's just the way they treat everyone else. They aren't at all acceptable to the lgtb community, they're sexist, and they support Donald Trump, lol. But they're republicans and like 'old fashion' I guess. They always say you'll understand why they're like...
    teaandsugarcubes teaandsugarcubes
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 18

    my mum and my stepdad Do Not love each other at

    all and fight Very often about stupid things. they never Used to sleep in the Same bed. My mum crisisises him all the time. I think love is really Important and it should be the only reason of marrige
    snowxx snowxx
    13-15, F
    Jul 21, 2015

    Both of them are divorced

    and hate each other with a passion. One parent I've never met, and one totally ignores me. I don't want to be like that.
    celiy celiy
    13-15, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2014

    My parents were never the type to be there I

    wanted them to. I was often neglected and mistreated.. So much that it has caused me to grow up as this person who is afraid to talk and be her own self, and someone who grabs hold on to the love that she can gain and instead have it snatched away from me like a baby taken away...
    distanceandspace distanceandspace
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 30, 2013

    Irresponsible!! Lack of understanding!

    ! I got my lesson I won't repeat the same!! My kids will be the most happiest once!!
    deleted deleted
    Nov 2, 2015

    with they way they treated me,

    no way I want to be like them
    Babyblue95 Babyblue95
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 4, 2015

    I dont want to become a repercussion of my

    mothers mistakes. She's done some silly things in her life and I've been there to witness most of them. But everyone I know tell me I act like my mother when she was my age and I cringe at this. I'm scared I'll make the same mistakes but I'm worried that I've possibly held...
    PearlyyJayy PearlyyJayy
    18-21, F
    Dec 27, 2015

    My mum and her boyfriend just had another

    argument I swear they are becoming so often they never speak unless they are arguing my adoptive parents never argued now they are dead I'm with my mum and her boyfriend who can barely get along if they did not have my sister they probably would not be together anymore they are...
    Poisonmyst Poisonmyst
    16-17, M
    1 Response Oct 31, 2015

    When I was a little girl my father used to come

    home from work and would beat my mother every night. My brothers slept through the abuse, but I always stayed awake through it all- through her screams and his threats that he will kill her.. -------- My father put my physical appearance on display constantly- he called me fat...
    Redwitch05 Redwitch05
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 16, 2014

    When my parents died,

    I didn't really feel bad. When I became pregnant, I vowed to myself that I would NEVER hurt my child.
    HirariHuur HirariHuur
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jun 26, 2014

    Hi this I can really relate to I have

    and still do worry about this my horrible parents were abusive towards me and were violent to me and very bad people who did bad things and I really don't want to be like them and I use to worry about this all the time and still do
    lor44 lor44
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 14, 2015

    I'm so tired of parents ruining their

    children's lives simply by their own choices or lack thereof. You're supposed to protect us from this big bad world. Not thrust us into it with no support and love to thrive on.
    VerucaRose VerucaRose
    26-30, F
    Oct 29, 2014
    cameronsmith4545 cameronsmith4545
    18-21, M
    Mar 9

    Certainly don't wanna be like my mother,

    I'd be covered in warts and riding a broom screaming "I'll get you my pretty!" I already am a 4 star Colonel so no worries there.
    Cocrispy Cocrispy
    22-25, M
    1 Response Oct 13, 2015

    20 years ago I would have fully agreed with the

    title of this group. However getting older and soon to be a parent myself, I realized that of course there are certain things I would never have liked to experience growing up (from my parents and other members of the "family" ) . However, there are quite a few things that I...
    ollifer ollifer
    36-40, F
    Mar 17

    They're judgemental, loud,

    obnoxious, rude, disrespectful, and careless.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Sep 3, 2015

    I don't want to be like my mom.

    She's an alcoholic, slightly racist and homophobic. I love her because she's my mom but I wonder what she'd say if I dated someone that wasn't white or if I was gay? My dad is completely loving and supportive and accepting
    bmo0 bmo0
    26-30, M
    Sep 6, 2015

    I'm scared I will grow up

    and become them, something repulsive. I fear I will realize this and hate myself
    howdoistopmyself howdoistopmyself
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 2, 2015
    jacob3171 jacob3171
    22-25, M
    Mar 17

    Both of my parents got married

    and divorced willy nilly 3-4 times and having different kids from different marriages. I consider that pretty ****** up! Neither of them could stay faithful for long. I am ashamed of their lifestyle!
    noaht43 noaht43
    41-45, T
    Jan 17

    Seeing my mother after 3years I feel sad no

    more pain To think that I have completely no GOOD memories of her just the BAD ones . Sometimes been good is not enough .I got abused physically and emotionally that is all I remember brooms belts and extension cords we're her favorite .I made sure not do the same with mine...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 13, 2015

    I don't want to be like my mother

    nor my father. I mother was a hard working woman that did whatever to take care of us. She sold her body, dealt with men that treated her less than and is not ashamed of it. I could never stoop so low. Being that I'm having financial difficulties, my mothers advice is to sell my...
    TnotInAgoodPlace TnotInAgoodPlace
    1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    I don't want to talk to my mom; she just makes

    me unhappy and ruins my day every time
    coollame coollame
    18-21, F
    Dec 20, 2015

    They told me to move out

    if I don't like them nagging at me. I did. Now they are nagging about me not visiting them every week. Does this ever stop? I want to be a flight attendant, but they won't forgive me if I don't get a proper degree in something ( they don't care about where im interested in...
    Tiffjoy Tiffjoy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 3

    My parents have been nothing

    but straight *** to me! And they always told me that I would be just like them. They loved to call me every cuss word you could think of, and all they cared about was themselves. My dad was afraid of my mom, and agreed to everything she said. And my mom had favoritism for every...
    Littlemonster77777 Littlemonster77777
    16-17, F
    Feb 28, 2014

    I know what it is to live in an unhappy family.

    I grew up thinking men have a lot of power because they are the breadwinners and physically they are also stronger. My father was absent in much of my growing up years. When he was around, I never sensed his presence. All I sensed was my mother's dependency and insecurity when...
    novembermoon novembermoon
    41-45, F
    Jan 28, 2015

    So we arrived in Lanzarote yesterday

    and already both of my parents are drunk and shouting and swearing at each other an it's so embarrassing! urgh please help me :(
    TheBlueIce TheBlueIce
    18-21, M
    Jul 6, 2015

    They are such close minded ignorant people.

    They are never open to discussion. If I ever have children I will make it known that they can come to me for anything. Without judgement & criticism, I will be their parent & I will help them through their problems. Not tell them to tough it out and move on.
    ncon08 ncon08
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 22, 2014

    Not Wanting My Parents In My Future..

    To start off My family; Brother(21) Mom(40) Dad(45) Me (17) Ever since i can remember my brother has been the "main child". He can do things and not get in any trouble. For example he left the house when he was 17 in the middle of the night. Got home, my parents knew. They just...
    Jennaisnotcrazy Jennaisnotcrazy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 6, 2013

    I don't want to beat my kids

    because there's a spec on the stove or yell at my daughter for leaving the house when I caused a problem or abuse one kid instead of the other I want to understand my kids, and don't put up a fake *** voice and personality
    TheFireyPearl TheFireyPearl
    18-21, F
    Jan 2, 2015

    My mother is very controlling dictating my life

    all the time. I really hate it...
    courtney10155 courtney10155
    16-17, F
    1 Response Sep 1, 2014

    My dad when I was younger

    and he was around was abusive. Eventually my mother left him and he left. Thanks to him I have bipolar. And have trust issues. One day I hope to become someone apart from him in his lifestyles and actions.
    kprincess kprincess
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jun 16, 2014

    my mum told me she regretted having me.

    but she don't believe is abortions but had one after she was married. she don't believe in adopting. when cps came she didn't let them take me. three opportunities to get rid of me but she not to do either one. BH it sits and tell me she loves me. told my oldest your mother...
    bigdreamssmalltown bigdreamssmalltown
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 12, 2015

    I was crying today, really brawling it all out,

    I don't know if she heard me but my mother came in and yelled like a mad person that I deserve to feel what I make her feel like. I never intentionally hurt her or anybody, god I'm one more argument away from suicide. Where do I go from here?
    Mi5h Mi5h
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 13, 2014

    Unlike my parents, for my future kids,

    I will: - Always be there for them - Ask them how they are - Put them as my #1 priority over work - Listen and try to understand them - Talk to them - Be open with them - Attend to their school events to support them, such as musical concerts or sports games - Be up-to-date...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    I can't take this. Ugh.

    They didn't even do anything THAT wrong but it just kinda set me off. I tried to talk about something I might wanna do in the future, I want to work in a prison so that I can help teach prisoners how to rebuild their lives and become caring members of society. I want to make a...
    Yourguardianangel9613 Yourguardianangel9613
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 27, 2014

    My mother just works

    and works, I hate it. She moved so she can start over, she studied and took a good year off from work. But then she got sucked back into the same cycle, and I hate how I can't help her. It makes me angry with myself, and I understand I shouldn't be but still. On the other side...
    RandomExistence RandomExistence
    16-17, M
    Oct 14, 2015

    My mom likes to always play victim.

    I can't take it anymore.
    hidingunderwater hidingunderwater
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 9, 2014

    My parents are asian.

    (Bangladeshi) They have never kissed. They have never said I love you to one another. They have been manipulative and want me to be a doctor (I don't) They want me to marry an Asian man possibly arranged. They are racist. They just want and not provide the love and support a...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Oct 17, 2014

    I glad I have them but there are things I can't

    wrap my head around. They recently got divorced so I thought they would be more mellow with each other. But it's worse from when they were married. When they were married they refused to speak to each other, even if they were in the same room. They would always ask me or my...
    lostfollower lostfollower
    18-21, F
    Jan 18

    ive come to the conclusion

    that my parents are judgementual ******* s. boy I can't wait to see their expressions when they realize they're wrong, that I am a fully capable adult, with the bright ******* I n g future theve ever seen ahead of me. ******* them.
    peaceinmiles peaceinmiles
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 15, 2015
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