I Don't Want to End Up Like My Mother

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 399 People

    Stopping The Cycle

    We are looking for people in Southern CA for a new documentary-style show about people who do not want to end up like their parents. We need men/women 19-27 who have started to exhibit some behavior they have "inherited" from their parents. Participants will receive free...
    janesmith12 janesmith12
    36-40, F
    Apr 24, 2013

    I See Myself Ending Up Alone Like My Mother

    I don't want to end up like my mother. My mother never married or had a family. Only one child, me. She is a miserable person. She's never happy and I've never known her to date. I don't even know that she has any friends. Everywhere she goes, she makes enemies...
    unhappy2009NYC unhappy2009NYC
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 19, 2009

    A smoking yelling hag!

    ? Hell to the no!
    3st3ll3 3st3ll3
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2015

    Part of my fears about being married,

    having kids, etc. all come from my fear of becoming as miserable as my mom. She worries about everyone but herself because sadly, that is easier than focusing on herself and her own issues. She's really unhappy, and has been at least as long as i've known her. My father is an...
    maunder maunder
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 20, 2015

    my mom has been married

    and divorced 4 times she has 3 kids all with different dads....so far i am doing much better.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

    She Lies. Bad.

    Why does my mom lie so much?? This must be some sort of personality disorder. Just now, she updated her facebook status, here is what it says: "Is cold!GO RED RAIDERS!Make us proud boys.I cant wait till [my son] is on this field next year!" Okay, when...
    BellasHappyPlace BellasHappyPlace
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 4, 2009

    Liquor Talks

    I wish that I could erase it from my memory. I wish that I could take that night, and place it in her nightmares; leave the pain in her heart, and the tears in HER eyes. But I can't. My dad was gone, he left to fight a war that I still don't quite understand, and my mother was...
    Lismit13 Lismit13
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Nov 12, 2012


    My mother is a very bitter person. She married at 19 and by the age of 24 she was divorced with two young children. Unfortunately my father was violent towards her and her own upbringing wasn't all that great. Needless to say she regretted having children and my brother and I...
    MementoMori1983 MementoMori1983
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2009

    She Won't Love/accept Me For Who I Am

    My mom has always controlled me ever since I could remember. To this day, she still does very much so and I'm turning 25 in August. The unfortunate part is that she controls everyone else around her as well. The scariest thing is that I could easily become like her--become...
    Hakkiri Hakkiri
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 29, 2012

    Growing up with my mother there's

    so many problems my sister and I had to deal with since kids..overall I'm terrified I will end up having mental breakdowns and outburst like her and not even notice..I believe she is a nice woman at heart..but a nice woman with sever mental problems make it impossible to want to...
    zkaka3000 zkaka3000
    Dec 8, 2015

    Not For Anything...

    I love my mother. She says that I'm her best friend.  She's a smart , loving woman...but she has the misfortune of being married to my dad. She stays out of a sense of duty and out of inadequate finances.  She doesn't have a bad life, She has everything she  needs...
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor
    56-60, F
    7 Responses Sep 19, 2009

    My Mother Has Schizophrenia. I Struggle With How This Ruined My Childhood,And Still Affects Me Right Now Today. It'S Rough.

    Growing up as a child I lived in fear. Fear of when would my schizophrenic mother have another episode. Fear of which relative my sister and I would live with next. Fear that she would come to my school again and embarrass the crap out of me. Fear that I would have to transfer...
    forestchild forestchild
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 16, 2013


    I wouldn't want to be THAT short ARRRRRRRRRRHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jul 28, 2010

    My mother is awful. I can't

    even explain how much she's tortured my sisters and I over the years. She makes us think that she will actually be a mother. And when she's gained our trust, she leaves. Not physically. No, I'd so much rather her leave physically. She just lies on the couch, so pathetically. She...
    agirltoremember agirltoremember
    18-21, F
    Apr 1, 2014

    My Worst Nightmare

    I cannot bear the idea of turning out like my mother. She made my life hell and still tries. She is unable to give true, honest, unselfish love. She hides behind a facade of niceness and sincerity. The things she has done and the person she really is, and she hides it well, so...
    sugarburn sugarburn
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 22, 2008

    My Sweet Mother

    My mother is this innocent self-sacrificing, kind soul who does EVERYTHING for her family..there is nothing more important than family for her. but the reason i dont want to end up like my mother, is coz of the life she has had, being taken for granted for all she has done for...
    kindredspirit2013 kindredspirit2013
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2008

    she is nervous all the time .

    . she dislikes when I want to be someone famous in a good way in the community... she argues with me all the time.. what I like she hate .. I don't know how to deal with her..!
    monafm monafm
    18-21, F
    Jan 21, 2015

    All the Respect In the World

    I have a lot of respect for my mom, but I think she's been through a little piece of hell to get to where she is. She's working in an area that has very few women, even today, and is the perfect picture of what sexism looks like today. She married somewhat young and...
    Nymor Nymor
    18-21, T
    Dec 4, 2008

    For A While I Was

    By the time she was 23, my mother was a single mother with no financial support from my father. Before my father left there was fighting, after my father left there was partying. She drank a lot, partied a lot, slept with a lot of different men. She was abusive, both verbally and...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 22, 2013

    I Know I Will

    I know that I'll end up like her someday. I'm seeing the signs already. I'm laid-back, I can't do household chores, I'm too polite with people, I always see the good in everyone, I avoid confrontations, I always worry about the future/past... You might wonder why I'm making...
    DarkAngel123 DarkAngel123
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 28, 2010

    My mom is a crazy drug addict

    who chose drugs and disgusting dirty men over her children. She lives in a camper trailer and moves place to place. More than anything I don't ever want to be a mother like her. I want my amazing sweet boys to know that I will always love them and always be there for them.
    sparrow412 sparrow412
    26-30, F
    Nov 29, 2014

    Let me make things clear,

    I absolutely love my mother and I have no words to express how thankful I am to have a mother like her. But my mom has always had trouble with money, I couldn't tell you how many times I have slept with no heat, and had no electricity. It breaks my heart that my mom's life...
    YaGirlJess YaGirlJess
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2015

    Something Is So Wrong.

    She has really bad issues.  I mean, really bad.  Her mood is so easily, drastically altered.  She has a boyfriend who most girls would dream of having.  He does everything.  But my mom has a problem where she absolutely cannot stay happy in a...
    BellasHappyPlace BellasHappyPlace
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 4, 2009

    I am very proud to say I'm not like any of my

    family. I live in the bible belt where everything is based on everyone else's religious beliefs.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 21, 2015

    My Worst Nightmare Is Coming True. I Am Becoming My Mother

     My worst nightmare is coming true.....   Thing need to change.   I CAN'T DO IT, I WON'T LET IT HAPPEN, I WILL NOT BE MY MOTHER.   For 5 years now I have done everything I can think of to have a happy husband. This is the end. I will not be that person that...
    WifeTellsAll WifeTellsAll
    31-35, F
    Aug 13, 2009

    I love my mother Ohhh man I love her more

    than words can say but she is always soo negative and makes things seem so difficult like I'll say I have a interview tomorrow at yada yada n she'll say ohh man it's gonna be 30 below and the place might be closed and you don't have a sitter for the baby even though I do and I...
    JazzydramaG82 JazzydramaG82
    31-35, F
    Jan 7, 2014


    one of the main reasons I went into therapy is because I knew if I didnt I would become my mother. And that would be horrible. When I was with chris we were talking about having kids (how niave i was haha) and I said that i wasnt sure if I wanted them. I adore kids, I would love...
    Tesse Tesse
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 5, 2008

    The Worst Part Is Knowing :

    i was told once that i am just like my mother and for sum reason it chilld my bones i have always known even from a young age that my mother wasnt rite she was not like the other mums and never treated me like her own she is a constant drug user and has mentel problems , she...
    xbreex xbreex
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 2, 2010

    Ugh... so my mom is very loving

    and supportive, but she's also lazy and crazy. I know that those are common adjectives, but hear me out: my mother is obese and doesn't have a job. She's a "stay at home mom" to three kids who are in their 20s. She's "retired" from a job that she never had. She has always just...
    peacelove75 peacelove75
    26-30, F
    Sep 23, 2014

    I Don't Understand Why She Put Herself In This Position.

    It's sad when I think about how my mom lived her life without a choice from the beginning.  Her parents were both alcoholics and my mothers father died of lung and brain cancer from having been exposed to asbestos.  Once her dad died my mothers mom drunk herself to...
    WoundsAreWaysToRevealUs WoundsAreWaysToRevealUs
    5 Responses Apr 13, 2010

    I am very scared that I am turning into my

    mother. I love my boyfriend to death but I find myself treating him like she treated my father. My father is an amazing man who will go to the end of the earth for me, as is my boyfriend. Growing up, I watched my mother repetitively physically and emotionally abuse my father on...
    dragthewaters4 dragthewaters4
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 29, 2014

    I'm pretty sure if I was to offer her money

    over family she would take money.
    agirltoremember agirltoremember
    18-21, F
    Apr 1, 2014

    My Mother Is Crazy

    My mother is a crazy person, all the female members of my family are. The craziness gene seems to run in the family and I am afraid I will turn out just like her. My mother is quite bad, when I was younger like age 5 she would constantly yell at me, making me afraid other adults...
    AuGolden AuGolden
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 14, 2013

    I'm ashamed of her. She doesnt have a

    personality, she always act below her age. I never want her to meet my friends and my biggest fear is to become socially awkward like her.
    ellisa1992 ellisa1992
    22-25, F
    Jan 21, 2015
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