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I Dont Want to Get Hurt Again

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    I got hurt in my first relationship

    so I did not want to get hurt again. Instead I accidentally hurt someone else. I never meant for it to happen as I know how hard and painful it is to be cheated on but whatever happened happened and I have to let guilt run it's course
    fragilityelegance fragilityelegance 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    I want a boyfriend but tired of getting hurt.

    I just want a relationship in which the guy loves respects and adores me. Ride or die with me. Im always the one riding or dying. Nobody wants to try with me. Last relationship I went in lasted for three months. I found out the guy was pretending to be with me so he could have...
    legzydawly legzydawly 18-21 2 days ago

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    So I need to go slow abt Letting people get to

    my intimate thoughts and feelings. .
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F Dec 5, 2014

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    Uh-huh

    I feel like it's childish and immature of me to be this afraid of getting hurt again. I know how I act has confused or possibly even hurt others. They have done nothing wrong nor have they hurt me in any way. I know it isn't fair to them but I have no idea how to get past it...
    wack1985 wack1985 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    Always said i wouldnt let myself get hurt.

    I guess we have no control over these things. The heart wants what it wants and then ya have those that will trample all over it and act as if they did nothing. Part of life i guess what dont kill you makes your stronger right?
    essjay26 essjay26 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 6, 2014

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    Getting hurt is an inevitability,

    just be smarter about it: Don't form an attachment to anyone if you can help it, i.e listening to problems, giving them a shoulder to lean on, trying to solve whatever is going on with them. Just. Don't. Take it from your old pal, they will use you when they're done and let you...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 27, 2014

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    In these couple days .

    . I had the most painful feeling in my whole life I tried to write about them , to write how i felt ... I tried to let them out or to tell someone about it .. But i know what i felt .. I cant be able to Disclosed it .. I cant be able to describe it It was so deep that there is...
    Ann110 Ann110 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 14, 2014

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    I loved her, she was the one I truly fell in

    love with. I thought about her every night, I had her countless selfies in my phone, I would scroll through her pictures, just staring into her face. I told her I loved her once, but I was young and stupid back then, I didn't really understand love, I got hurt real bad. But she...
    emilesfault emilesfault 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 6, 2014

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    ..i have started to eliminate those people

    who never appreciates me. I feel sadness, but i need to endure it.
    thesadcat thesadcat 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    The men who I called my father,

    two uncles, brother, and the two girls I called my sisters all physically and sexually abused me when I was little. They made me a slave and they kept asking other members if they wanted me too. I am blessed that when they asked our cousins they declined, but I don't know why...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    Good Guys Do Exist

    i am a good guy i have been hurt a lot in my life i was beaten by my farther i used to wear my heart on my sleeve big mistake on my part i have had my heart broken several times but i simply refuse to be cynical or negative i dont want to take it out on the world because my...
    lovelypaul69 lovelypaul69 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    I'M Tired Of Giving My Heart

    It sucks that I have a good heart. I've been alone for a while cuz I was making bad choices, and also I was getting tired of bullshit. So when I recently got involved, I gave it everything I had...and I got hurt, badly. I'm too old for this. When you're 23 it's easy to rebound...
    Brokebydan Brokebydan 36-40, F 1 Response May 30, 2013

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    “Nobody deserves your tears,

    but whoever deserves them will not make you cry.”
    AnnaKhit AnnaKhit 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 22, 2014

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    Hurt

    Nobody wants to gey hurt but we all must take that chance if we want love in our lives !!!!
    CBRguyspanks CBRguyspanks 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    I know what it's like to be hurt especially by

    the one you're supposed to spend forever with.. my hubby is an alcoholic and had lied and hidden the bottles and flasks yet I know he has been drinking. no hiding the smell :p I'm just tired of getting hurt by the lies and hiding.
    kamgurl kamgurl 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2014

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    Spare Me...

    If youre interest is to play with me...If youre interest is to lie to me to make me feel better about myself...If youre interest is to forget your pain by inflicting...If youre interest is to tell me you love me to help yourself sleep at night and forget me in the morning... ...
    DavesDaughter DavesDaughter 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 18, 2010

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    I just feel like every guy I talk to is looking

    to be friends with benefits like that leaves me hurt and they will be perfectly fine and living their lives with their girlfriends. I just want someone to really want me for me and not to just use me.
    shoptillyoudrop1997 shoptillyoudrop1997 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    I ******* hate liars.

    I really ******* do.
    ViperReborn ViperReborn 13-15, M Aug 20, 2014

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    I believe this is the major reasoning

    for all that holds me back from many things in my life. I allow myself to only get so close. I have deep rooted fears of being hurt again. Not just hurt feelings because of mundane things but the kind of hurt from betrayal. There is only so much one person can take and sadly I...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 23, 2014

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    My boyfriend says he loves me,

    cares about me and that he will never leave me. I mean I do trust him but I just get scared that one day he will break up with me for whatever reason. I had guys in the past who left me for the stupidest reasons and our relationships ended pretty badly. I don't want to lose...
    christarose96 christarose96 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    keliscc11 keliscc11 26-30, F Dec 30, 2014

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    shoptillyoudrop1997 shoptillyoudrop1997 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Pinkaboo168 Pinkaboo168 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    Ok. Here's my problem.

    My Husbands department had a Christmas part that was "employees only". At a restaraunt . Public place. But spouses / sig. Others weren't allowed to go . We just moved here a year ago so I don't know anybody. For some reason when we were setting up our cable/ internet I was...
    rhonda247 rhonda247 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 6, 2014

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    AnnaKhit AnnaKhit 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2014

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    My cousin just passed away.

    There's always something nothing gets better just worse !!!
    shoptillyoudrop1997 shoptillyoudrop1997 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I get it. I'm easily replaced.

    It's what I've told everyone. When I start talking to someone I tell them at some point, everyone leaves me. They say I'll never leave you. And that is bullshit. I used to believe people. Then I got hurt over and over and now the sick and awful thought that goes through my mind...
    Kmarcum99 Kmarcum99 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    But that's life. Just one hard lesson

    after another. Can't wait till I'm dead.
    TheFemaleGrimReaper TheFemaleGrimReaper 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    Life is all about lessons.

    you earn the love you let happen.. Enjoy the fun and if it goes just remember the love you enjoyed.
    boxing4you boxing4you 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 5, 2014

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    it's been hard to let people get close to me.

    I feel like if people get too close than they'll realize truly how ****** up I am and then I'll lose them and have no one once again. I don't know why I'm so scared, but I'm trying to get over it
    suicidegetout suicidegetout 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 11, 2014

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    its hard to care for someone

    when you cant trust whether they're going to leave you or not.
    bowsandarrows bowsandarrows 13-15, F Jul 19, 2014

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    ''Best friend'' Dear friend,

    because you know I have your back always All I ask for is the same in return I just sit myself here praying you don't hurt the people who love you the most again... I forgive you always, eternally but truthfully every betrayal you make stabs me a little every time Will you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 5, 2014

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    I've been single for a year

    and a bit now, but my last relationship ended abruptly and so painfully, so I've needed this time. The thing is, there's this guy I've been hanging out with here and there, I really think I'm starting to fall or like him a lot, but I've heard him say he's scared of falling in...
    Finallyblossoming Finallyblossoming 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2014

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    I don't want to get hurt again.

    .. I don't know if I can fully open up my heart to someone again... I was with my ex husband for 7yrs.. He came home from work and told me he didn't love me anymore I found out later that he was cheating on me with someone he worked with...
    Foreverloved85 Foreverloved85 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 5, 2014

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    why do you have to be

    so sweet to me? one fine day you will also leave me and go like others..
    amazingmoment90 amazingmoment90 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    I've started to date this girl

    that I met on here that is amazing. I feel we have a connection and I think that she is truly in love with me. I think that she may be the one for me but I'm scared of getting hurt. I don't know I've been second guessing myself a lot more lately.
    nadia50 nadia50 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    It's a funny saying..

    .I think we all are so scared about this because we know it is inminent.Sooner or later,comes again that time of feeling hurt.There is only one way to not feel hurt,and this is to not love,to not care,to be selfish...but then you go down the road of being unhappy and miserable...
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2014

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    But I sure did! I hung out with my old BFF from

    high school and it turned sexual. We always said we wouldn't because of our friendship. We had a fun time. And it was the first time I had since my affair. But little did I know he would change after that and stop talking to me and saying he needs to get his head cleared. So...
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 10, 2014

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    But I really feel like I'm going to die

    and I'm trying to stay positive but my body shutting down.
    shoptillyoudrop1997 shoptillyoudrop1997 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    That's Why I Don't Wanna Date Anyone Anymore

    I'm going to close my heart for real and this time no matter what happen I won't let anyone in anymore. I'm scared. That's why I will lock my heart and throw away the key to it. I pray for the feeling called 'love' to be taken away from my heart forever. I don't want to fall in...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 20, 2010

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    I Wont Let It Happen...

    im with someone new, she's great!!! everyone approves of her. my friends all love her, my family like her. her friends all like me, and her family really likes me. it is very clear that she loves me, and thats cool. after corina, and then after the worst woman i have ever met...
    unbalanced23 unbalanced23 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    Still Healing

    I thought I was in love at the age of 15. He was 18. Dated for 3 years. The first year he was normal. Accept didn't really take me on dates(But I didn't know better) Then he showed his true side. A very angry person.Very mean and emotionally abusive.Lied all the time, but I was...
    ivansmummy ivansmummy 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2013

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    Who is not afraid of heartaches?

    We all are but what sense in living if in fear of whats to come? of what can be the best experience of a lifetime. Id rather take my chances and live life, maybe the best moments i had will cussion the bad and help me get up and keep living again for onother adventure.
    Gladacious Gladacious 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2013

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    I've suffered before putting a lot of

    expectation on others. But now, I've learned to leave all that; I guess the experience had made me alter NY character. I've also started to believe that happiness comes from within and not without.
    Tawheed1994 Tawheed1994 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    I'm a little disappointed today.

    He was supposed to spend time with me and he just did something totally different. I give up and I'm gonna be a BIG ***** now !!!
    shoptillyoudrop1997 shoptillyoudrop1997 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Yeah..I've been betrayed many times for no reason. Just to use and hurt me I guess... ️I don't wanna be hurt anymore..
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