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I Dont Want to Get Married

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    I Fear That I'Ll Be Treated How My Mother Was

    My dad treated her horrible because he knew she would take it and still be by his side. I'm just scared that I will have to go through that pain I'd wish I could take from her back then.
    20martin20 20martin20 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    Why is it that when I tell people I don't want

    to get married they get all annoyed? They're all " You're gonna get married! Stop being so negative!". I've just decided that I don't want to waste my time with men. You only end up hurt. So I'm going to spend my time traveling then settle down with a couple of pugs, how's that...
    PurpleHart PurpleHart 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    I Dont See the Point.....

    I read some where that at least 50% of marriages end in divorce. The way I see it, what’s the point? I am a very pessimistic person. My parents split up when I was 7 years old. They didn’t get married and I saw how much easier it was for them. The only problem they...
    ExquisiteRubia ExquisiteRubia 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2008

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    Just Paper

    I don't believe in marriage... It's paper nothing else of you want to show your partner you love and are committed to them just were the ring... And if they truly loved you they would respect that and do the same :) I have seen my perants and grandad perants married and divorce...
    1996louise 1996louise 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 30, 2012

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    Why Should I Get Married...

    ...and give up my freedom.  Marriage may be good for some folk, although nowadays most marriages end up in divorce, but that sh*t is for the birds to me.  Why should i have to sign a contract (marriage license) to prove my love to someone else?  Shouldnt my words...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jan 17, 2009

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    Its a silly idea. All I wanna do is **** about

    on this awesome sexy community http://secreterotica.com
    purefilth purefilth 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 18

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    No, I Don't Wanna Get Marr...

    No, I don't wanna get married.  I used to think maybe I did, but now I really don't think I want that at all.  For one thing, I'm a lesbian and it's not legal, so at this current time I really don't have the choice anyway.  But even if I did have the choice, I'm...
    pooge pooge 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 16, 2007

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    If I didn't get married my family would disown

    me, I would be put on the shelf if I am still a bachelor at the age of thirty. So in a nutshell I will be getting married.
    projectgwyn101 projectgwyn101 16-17, M 3 Responses Apr 18

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    Nope

    i dont plan on it at all :] i mean...i dont really get the point either. you can love someone and be together,thats all marriage is, that but you get it written down in a book. I think the only reason id ever get married is so i could call the guy i love my "husband" :] i...
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 30, 2010

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    Marriage is something I've always dreamed of,

    ever since my first crush. I'd fantasize about who the person would be that put a ring on my finger and calls me their wife. I'd dream about meeting the one for me, the one who I can laugh and cry with and not feel insecure at all. But now, that's all changed. After being hurt...
    lifesaversgummies lifesaversgummies 18-21, F 1 Response May 15

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    A Dream Killed By A Few Simple Words

    I use to want to get married, its all I thought about. All I wanted was to be a wife and a mother. Settling down, having a stable job, having a baby, making a family. Then I met my ex boyfriend Troy who made marriage out to be just a piece of paper. I never once thought of it...
    YoucancallmeJuliet YoucancallmeJuliet 26-30, F Dec 18, 2009

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    I find it weird how people put

    so much value towards marriage and love and relationships. I say I don't want to get married and people lecture me about how there's someone waiting for me and how pretty I am and how negative it is to say I don't want to be married. I know marriage can be great but the process...
    PurpleHart PurpleHart 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    I'm not against marriage

    or anything. If you want to get married, good for you. Marriage was NEVER the first thing on my mind when I was younger. Even to this day, I don't see it but I do see being together forever with my boyfriend and starting a life. I do see us traveling the world. I do see us...
    thebookaholic thebookaholic 22-25, F Feb 5

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    Or even be in a relationship.

    I wasn't like this a year ago. But now I feel like depending on someone else is just not my thing. Falling in love is just not my thing. Wow that makes it seem like I'm a player, but I'm not at all. I just don't want to see the same person everyday. I want to be independent. I...
    universesoul universesoul 16-17, F Jul 13

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    A Meaningless Bond

     Sure, I believe in love. It's obvious love exists; even if you look in through the most difficult situations, you can find love. But marriage? THAT, I don't find purpose in. If you're REALLY in love, why do you need a piece of paper to prove it? If the both of you think you...
    definitionofplain definitionofplain 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 20, 2010

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    Marriage Is a Huge Commitme...

    Marriage is a huge commitment. I am sooo not ready for it, plus nobody worth it has come along yet.
    jadedchick16 jadedchick16 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 10, 2008

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    Marriage Is Not the Answer.

    I don't want to get married, I grew up in a small town and was raised to believe that marriage and kids was the thing to do immediately following graduation from high school. I rebelled and went to college. Now at the age of 24, my parents give me a guilt trip on a regular basis...
    purple66 purple66 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 16, 2009

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    I've seen too many bad marriages

    and bitter divorces to want to. The happy couples seem like a minority.
    Thehardtruth99 Thehardtruth99 22-25, M 1 Response May 19

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    I just think marriage is stupid,

    if you love somebody that much why do you have to go through all the stress and money that a wedding costs. If you love someone you don't need an expensive ring to prove it.
    Lacunalilith Lacunalilith 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    I Do..........but

     i think every girl's dream is to someday find her true love and marry him.  i know mine was. but reality has stood in the way of that dream, and i've come to the conclusion that i will probably never marry.  i am too independent, i am too set in my ways, i like...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    Why Bother?

    Some very wise older (55+) women I know have said those very words to me when I mentioned the possibility of getting married. Truth be told, the happiest older women I know are either divorced, widowed or never married. I'm getting past marriageable age, at least according...
    blueflutterby blueflutterby 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2009

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    I Didn't

    I didn't want to get married again. After getting out of the last one - EWWW - what in the world was there to like about marriage??? It was slavery as far as I was concerned. Legalized Slavery. I hated everything about my first marriage except my two beautiful boys. I wasn't...
    labyrinth labyrinth 36-40, F May 16, 2008

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    Marriage...dont Care For

    I dont want to get married cuz i honestly dont see the point in gettin married.It would be sweet to be married and have a family,but u can have a family without gettin married.Most marriages dont last,and with my luck i dont want to end up in a divorce.If im with a guy for more...
    demonicsangel2011 demonicsangel2011 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 1, 2011

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    A year ago, I thought I would get engaged

    and buy a house with my high school sweetheart. Then I had the sudden realization that the only thing standing in between me and my dreams was him wanting to settle down and get married right away. It was then I realized I never wanted to get married. I don't understand...
    lizpurc925 lizpurc925 18-21, F 4 Responses May 29

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    Have 10 Mths to Decide About Marriage

    I've have always made myself out as someone who was never into marriage.  I always said that I didnt want to learn how to cook because I would be rich enough to afford a cook. I always said Men were nothing but trouble and did nothing for you or your life except allow you to...
    WunderWoman WunderWoman 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 16, 2006

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    It's Just Something I Don't Want To Do.

    My mom and dad want me to get married when I get older. I don't. I don't want to be tied down with one person for eternity. That's how I see it, no offense meant to any married persons here, marriage is being tied down to one person. It can be possible for other people, just not...
    Marellie Marellie 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 26, 2010

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    The 3rd Time Is a Charm?

    I've been married twice. No children from the first one(thank goodness). The second one we had 2 boys(very thankful for that), but I just couldn't handle his lifestyle. I was totally different from him. Sure wish he had ahown that side before, No wait, I'm glad he didn't, I...
    butterfly62 butterfly62 41-45, F 3 Responses May 21, 2008

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    Anti-marriage

    I am probably too young to even be saying this but I do not want to get married. I have felt this way for quite a while, but I've only recently expressed this to those around me. In one of my classes, our teacher assigned us to make bucket lists. (Isn't odd for a Geometry class...
    NylonRed NylonRed 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    Don't See The Point Of Marriage

    Don't get me wrong - if other people want to get married, then that's great. But personally, I know it's not the right choice for me. I know that if my significant other proposed to me, I'd be upset rather than happy, and that's not how someone should react when entering into...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2010

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    Would Rather Not

    I have bad luck, I refuse to marry the wrong person so I shall just not marry at all, besides, women lie *and yes I am aware that most guys lie too*. never get married, if you want kids then get them from the state.
    Krie Krie 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 30, 2010

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    No Nuptials

    Fifteen Reasons Why Being Single is Great 1. You can get home from work whenever you need to. No calls. No apologies. Your career is your own. 2. Less birthdays and anniversaries to waste time buying presents for, and get yelled at for forgetting 3. No in-laws. 4. You...
    theTruth theTruth 31-35, M 6 Responses Aug 3, 2007

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    My Views On Marriage Are Forever Destroyed

    It makes everything difficult. I've already said before I don't believe in love. I believe it once did exist, in the past, but now it's dead and gone. Nobody cares about love in marriage anymore. What the hell am I saying, nobody cares about real love in normal relationships...
    HaleyBloodRedRose1995 HaleyBloodRedRose1995 18-21, F Jan 25, 2012

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    Correct Me If Im Wrong!

    The group "I live in a sexless marriage" is the most popular group on EP I think. It has 18812 members as of today. This is very sad. If there is a group with more members, please tell me. Still its very discouraging.
    Pthegod Pthegod 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 21, 2011

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    Should I?

    I guess I wasn't like most little girls dreaming about their wedding day. I don't remember ever saying I wanted to be married. I got proposed to when I was 15 LOL, and I did laugh in his face. My bad dude... IF I were ever to marry, I'd have to be 100% positive that that man...
    launica87 launica87 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    I Don't Want To Be Someone's Wife...

    I don't to belong to a man. I don't want to have to ask him what I should do. Maybe a steady true love that lasts. My love, not a husband. I hate that word. Its horrible and so outdated. I want to be independent.
    Arielove67 Arielove67 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2010

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    Terrified

      I have been heartbroken many times. And after the last time i decided i refuse to EVER get hurt again. I have become cold, very cold. And i dont care if someone gets hurt in the process, as long as i don't. And if they don't get hurt, then i will. And i value my heart...
    shhh69 shhh69 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2009

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    I Think I Lost My Chances With Marriage Years Ago

    I wanted to get married years ago in my 20's but no one of quality wanted me and the ones that did want me were full of **** I am picky and choosey now about who I mix with and I am not keen on marriage now. I think it works well for some people and I would have loved to have...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Mar 28, 2011

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    I think the whole idea is pretty stupid.

    I mean, once you get married, if it doesn't work out then you have to spend a bunch if money to get out of it and you never really get of it because of like fees and stuff. I think you should just go with a really long relationship or something. Much easier.
    Hime1009 Hime1009 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    Related Experiences

    This is a long story so please bear with me if you can. I met a man back in 2008 through his sister who was a good friend of mine at the time. I knew he was married from the start...
    plmagnet29 plmagnet29 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Long story short, I'm inlove with a married man, who's 32. I'm 17 btw, he has a daughter who's one, his wife is due with their second child in a few months, and me and this man...
    Princessjaa Princessjaa 16-17, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    And the other way around...married men should avoid other women, single or not.
    staysecret staysecret 22-25, F 2 hrs ago

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    On 17th of April I met a guy on the street I was driving my car with my cousin and he was in his car beside me on the traffic stop sign , he asked me to stop and we started...
    sisikuci sisikuci 26-30, F Jul 11

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    I've been with my bf for 6.5 years now and we recently watched a documentary where this guy who filmed all these weddings goes back to the people years and years later and...
    danielle1423 danielle1423 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    I know I'm young, but my mom got married younger than me and I want to engaged now for a few years and get married like 22 or 23. Then have a kid at 28 and one at 30. I know things...
    EvelynElf EvelynElf 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    This is not infatuation, I've been infatuated before and this is completely different...I've been married 3 and 1/2 years and I love my husband though we have a rocky marriage...
    galaxyrea galaxyrea 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    Looking back at my life, I'm very surprised I never made the "mistake" of getting married and/or having kids too early on in life. I call it a mistake because, for me, it would...
    TrailrunnerMN TrailrunnerMN 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I was posting in the "Married but Lonely" section and have several posts there that give my perspective on my marriage. After being in that group for a while I realized through...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 7

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    Marriage is a curse. That's what it seems like now a days. As soon as you get married it seems all this fun and love just dies. You're bound by the law. I have no problem staying...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    This is probably a more common problem than I think.. I want to have an affair, I'm newly married but we have had problems for awhile, my husband is an alcoholic .. I feel...
    danitykane13 danitykane13 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    August of 2014, will be 16 months since he walked out the door. Never leaving me with our boys to raise alone. Some ppl think I'm crazy for saying this, but I'm actually glad he...
    EyeDontGiveAHoot EyeDontGiveAHoot 36-40, F 6 Responses Jul 12

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    I am not married, not yet, but hope to be in the near future. My boyfriend is a retired infantry soldier who served two tours in Iraq. I have only known him since he was retired...
    Serenity14 Serenity14 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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