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I Dont Want to Get Married

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    Why Bother?

    Some very wise older (55+) women I know have said those very words to me when I mentioned the possibility of getting married. Truth be told, the happiest older women I know are either divorced, widowed or never married. I'm getting past marriageable age, at least according...
    blueflutterby blueflutterby 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2009

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    My Views On Marriage Are Forever Destroyed

    It makes everything difficult. I've already said before I don't believe in love. I believe it once did exist, in the past, but now it's dead and gone. Nobody cares about love in marriage anymore. What the hell am I saying, nobody cares about real love in normal relationships...
    HaleyBloodRedRose1995 HaleyBloodRedRose1995 18-21, F Jan 25, 2012

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    Is it wrong ? People call me weird bcause of it

    .. My only reasons is i dont wnt to and i dont believe in love !
    Unstableteen Unstableteen 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 4

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    It's Just Something I Don't Want To Do.

    My mom and dad want me to get married when I get older. I don't. I don't want to be tied down with one person for eternity. That's how I see it, no offense meant to any married persons here, marriage is being tied down to one person. It can be possible for other people, just not...
    Marellie Marellie 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 26, 2010

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    I find it weird how people put

    so much value towards marriage and love and relationships. I say I don't want to get married and people lecture me about how there's someone waiting for me and how pretty I am and how negative it is to say I don't want to be married. I know marriage can be great but the process...
    PurpleHart PurpleHart 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    The 3rd Time Is a Charm?

    I've been married twice. No children from the first one(thank goodness). The second one we had 2 boys(very thankful for that), but I just couldn't handle his lifestyle. I was totally different from him. Sure wish he had ahown that side before, No wait, I'm glad he didn't, I...
    butterfly62 butterfly62 41-45, F 3 Responses May 21, 2008

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    No Nuptials

    Fifteen Reasons Why Being Single is Great 1. You can get home from work whenever you need to. No calls. No apologies. Your career is your own. 2. Less birthdays and anniversaries to waste time buying presents for, and get yelled at for forgetting 3. No in-laws. 4. You...
    theTruth theTruth 31-35, M 6 Responses Aug 3, 2007

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    Marriage...dont Care For

    I dont want to get married cuz i honestly dont see the point in gettin married.It would be sweet to be married and have a family,but u can have a family without gettin married.Most marriages dont last,and with my luck i dont want to end up in a divorce.If im with a guy for more...
    demonicsangel2011 demonicsangel2011 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 1, 2011

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    Why is it that when I tell people I don't want

    to get married they get all annoyed? They're all " You're gonna get married! Stop being so negative!". I've just decided that I don't want to waste my time with men. You only end up hurt. So I'm going to spend my time traveling then settle down with a couple of pugs, how's that...
    PurpleHart PurpleHart 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    I do believe marriage is unnecessary.

    I'm perfectly fine with living "married life" with my S.O. Without actually getting married. I don't see the need for it really
    FierrrrceNadia FierrrrceNadia 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Cant. Respect marriage too much.

    And dont want pain in lovers. Or shame from infidelity.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 16

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    A year ago, I thought I would get engaged

    and buy a house with my high school sweetheart. Then I had the sudden realization that the only thing standing in between me and my dreams was him wanting to settle down and get married right away. It was then I realized I never wanted to get married. I don't understand...
    lizpurc925 lizpurc925 22-25, F 3 Responses May 29

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    Marriage Is Not the Answer.

    I don't want to get married, I grew up in a small town and was raised to believe that marriage and kids was the thing to do immediately following graduation from high school. I rebelled and went to college. Now at the age of 24, my parents give me a guilt trip on a regular basis...
    purple66 purple66 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 16, 2009

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    I was such an embarrassing child.

    I used to really adore one of my mum's friends, everywhere we went I wanted to hold hands and I insisted that one day we were going to get married and have these six kids. Obviously I seriously regretted saying this because they never let me live it down. "I'll marry you when...
    AngelofPink AngelofPink 70+, F 2 Responses Aug 16

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    I've seen too many bad marriages

    and bitter divorces to want to. The happy couples seem like a minority.
    Thehardtruth99 Thehardtruth99 22-25, M 2 Responses May 19

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    Like ever. Why can I just have a bunch of

    friends n be happy, I guess I'm not the commitment type u know.
    fav777 fav777 18-21 2 Responses Nov 4

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    Marriage Is a Huge Commitme...

    Marriage is a huge commitment. I am sooo not ready for it, plus nobody worth it has come along yet.
    jadedchick16 jadedchick16 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 10, 2008

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    Why Should I Get Married...

    ...and give up my freedom.  Marriage may be good for some folk, although nowadays most marriages end up in divorce, but that sh*t is for the birds to me.  Why should i have to sign a contract (marriage license) to prove my love to someone else?  Shouldnt my words...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jan 17, 2009

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    I just think marriage is stupid,

    if you love somebody that much why do you have to go through all the stress and money that a wedding costs. If you love someone you don't need an expensive ring to prove it.
    Lacunalilith Lacunalilith 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    I Think I Lost My Chances With Marriage Years Ago

    I wanted to get married years ago in my 20's but no one of quality wanted me and the ones that did want me were full of **** I am picky and choosey now about who I mix with and I am not keen on marriage now. I think it works well for some people and I would have loved to have...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Mar 28, 2011

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    However I do want the wedding

    or maybe just the cake. I don't want to settle down in the traditional sense. As with kids I don't want a husband either and I never have. I'm not fit for normalcy or being in one place for too long. I can be monogamous but when theirs no wedding in the future (or children...
    newasexy newasexy 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 3

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    awesomewomansman awesomewomansman 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    Anti-marriage

    I am probably too young to even be saying this but I do not want to get married. I have felt this way for quite a while, but I've only recently expressed this to those around me. In one of my classes, our teacher assigned us to make bucket lists. (Isn't odd for a Geometry class...
    NylonRed NylonRed 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    Just Paper

    I don't believe in marriage... It's paper nothing else of you want to show your partner you love and are committed to them just were the ring... And if they truly loved you they would respect that and do the same :) I have seen my perants and grandad perants married and divorce...
    1996louise 1996louise 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 30, 2012

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    Have 10 Mths to Decide About Marriage

    I've have always made myself out as someone who was never into marriage.  I always said that I didnt want to learn how to cook because I would be rich enough to afford a cook. I always said Men were nothing but trouble and did nothing for you or your life except allow you to...
    WunderWoman WunderWoman 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 16, 2006

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    I Do..........but

     i think every girl's dream is to someday find her true love and marry him.  i know mine was. but reality has stood in the way of that dream, and i've come to the conclusion that i will probably never marry.  i am too independent, i am too set in my ways, i like...
    trixi trixi 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    godvvave godvvave 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    I Dont See the Point.....

    I read some where that at least 50% of marriages end in divorce. The way I see it, what’s the point? I am a very pessimistic person. My parents split up when I was 7 years old. They didn’t get married and I saw how much easier it was for them. The only problem they...
    ExquisiteRubia ExquisiteRubia 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2008

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    Or even be in a relationship.

    I wasn't like this a year ago. But now I feel like depending on someone else is just not my thing. Falling in love is just not my thing. Wow that makes it seem like I'm a player, but I'm not at all. I just don't want to see the same person everyday. I want to be independent. I...
    universesoul universesoul 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    I Fear That I'Ll Be Treated How My Mother Was

    My dad treated her horrible because he knew she would take it and still be by his side. I'm just scared that I will have to go through that pain I'd wish I could take from her back then.
    20martin20 20martin20 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2013

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    I'm not against marriage

    or anything. If you want to get married, good for you. Marriage was NEVER the first thing on my mind when I was younger. Even to this day, I don't see it but I do see being together forever with my boyfriend and starting a life. I do see us traveling the world. I do see us...
    thebookaholic thebookaholic 22-25, F Feb 5

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    Should I?

    I guess I wasn't like most little girls dreaming about their wedding day. I don't remember ever saying I wanted to be married. I got proposed to when I was 15 LOL, and I did laugh in his face. My bad dude... IF I were ever to marry, I'd have to be 100% positive that that man...
    launica87 launica87 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    I think the whole idea is pretty stupid.

    I mean, once you get married, if it doesn't work out then you have to spend a bunch if money to get out of it and you never really get of it because of like fees and stuff. I think you should just go with a really long relationship or something. Much easier.
    Hime1009 Hime1009 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    Don't See The Point Of Marriage

    Don't get me wrong - if other people want to get married, then that's great. But personally, I know it's not the right choice for me. I know that if my significant other proposed to me, I'd be upset rather than happy, and that's not how someone should react when entering into...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2010

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    Marriage is something I've always dreamed of,

    ever since my first crush. I'd fantasize about who the person would be that put a ring on my finger and calls me their wife. I'd dream about meeting the one for me, the one who I can laugh and cry with and not feel insecure at all. But now, that's all changed. After being hurt...
    lifesaversgummies lifesaversgummies 18-21, F 1 Response May 15

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    Correct Me If Im Wrong!

    The group "I live in a sexless marriage" is the most popular group on EP I think. It has 18812 members as of today. This is very sad. If there is a group with more members, please tell me. Still its very discouraging.
    Pthegod Pthegod 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 21, 2011

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    Yes I know I'm young

    and all but I think planning a wedding would be too stressful for me. Especially for a person with aspergers. It also concerns me if I am gonna make the big day possible to keep me happy. It might turn out as a bridezilla for all I know haha!
    90slove 90slove 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I Don't Want To Be Someone's Wife...

    I don't to belong to a man. I don't want to have to ask him what I should do. Maybe a steady true love that lasts. My love, not a husband. I hate that word. Its horrible and so outdated. I want to be independent.
    Arielove67 Arielove67 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2010

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    No, I Don't Wanna Get Marr...

    No, I don't wanna get married.  I used to think maybe I did, but now I really don't think I want that at all.  For one thing, I'm a lesbian and it's not legal, so at this current time I really don't have the choice anyway.  But even if I did have the choice, I'm...
    pooge pooge 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 16, 2007

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    I don't see the point in it.

    You spend all that money just to get divorced and then lose more money.
    laserabe1 laserabe1 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 16

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