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I Don't Want to Have Children

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    I love kids, but having them is different.

    For five years i've worked as a babysitter and before I wanted children. Though the longer I think about it the more I realized that it probably will never happen for me. I guess my expectations of my future partner are too high :/
    TheVirginRapids TheVirginRapids 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 20, 2015

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    Me And You, Just Us Two

    I'm 31 and I don't want children. Never have really. I grew up the oldest girl and thus left with the responsiblity of being second mom. I've done everything from cooking dinner to walking to the corner store to pay the water bill. My parents were there but worked all the time, I...
    IreneT IreneT 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 24, 2012

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    If someone says you'll change your mind,

    ask them if they want kids. If they say yes, say the same thing.
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 28, 2015

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    When I was young, I wanted to have kids without

    really thinking about it. I thought it was a part of growing up. You get a job, a girl, a house and kids. The road to happiness, no questions asked... But then I started to ask questions. Why are we supposed to do this? Why should we get married or have children? When my...
    HermitKatWan HermitKatWan 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 5, 2014

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    First they ruin your vagina,

    then they take all your money, then they hate you and are always rude to you. IDK, but sounds like a very bad deal and i'm not in for that.
    Offing Offing 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 17, 2015

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    I feel like I am too selfish of a person to

    have kids... I will always be this way. Sure, I may look out for others and take a leadership role, but I will forever do things for myself and for my own happiness because that is what I aspire for out of life. It's not that I don't like children. I've been around them my...
    CharleeLuv CharleeLuv 18-21, F May 27, 2015

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    And probably cant. Or would have by now.

    Due to an allergy to condoms.
    JustBipolarMe JustBipolarMe 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 23, 2015

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    I feel like having kids is really selfish.

    Just because there are so many children who don't have parents that need adopted.
    mckennars mckennars 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 14, 2015

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    Yeah kids are cute and all,

    but there's so much responsibility. Most people I know think that having children is all fun and games, but they fail to realise that after all that ends, you will have to worry about their education, their career their health, etc2. I'm not against having children per se...
    citysquare citysquare 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 22, 2014

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    Sure there are something good about children,

    but I think it's more negative that positive having a child.
    Fenriis Fenriis 18-21, T Jun 11, 2015

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    I'm not doing it. That is too much

    responsibility with nothing for me but aggravation.
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 22, 2015

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    Rain0069 Rain0069 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 14, 2015

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    I'm so scared my husband will leave me to have

    children. He wants children, loves them, idolises them. I think kids are cute but I'm much rather enjoying seeing, learning and experiencing. There are a number of reasons I don't want children, some justifiable, some probably sound quite selfish. I'll go through them and hope...
    CorruptedAngel CorruptedAngel 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 4, 2014

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    a lot of people don't want kids.

    so, why bully and manipulate the ones who don't?
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 14, 2015

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    No, Thank You!

    I admit, children can be adorable. Especially when they're babies and I like other people's children to an extent. But overall, I feel uncomfortable around them and I don't feel like I fit into that whole "motherly persona". Interacting with them is the worst part of them all, I...
    TheWanderingWriter TheWanderingWriter 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 4, 2013

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    No I Don't Want Children Ever.

    Yeah, I am home free. I made it to 50 with no kids. I don't have to take care of them, It's bad enough to listen to a child scream in the grocery store. I don't hate them. Just you keep them. I don't waste my time thinking about hating them. They don't enter my thoughts...
    littlemonkeydoodle littlemonkeydoodle 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 19, 2012

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    No!

    At last! Other people that don't want children! Ever since I became an adult and realized what it meant to have kids, I've sworn that I will never have any. People ask me "why not?" and I ask them how much time they have on their hands. Lets see... 1. They are noisy 2...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F Nov 17, 2012

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    Perfect responses for these: "You'll change

    your mind": How do you know? You're not a fortune teller. Or: You'll change yours about wanting kids. "You're selfish!": Thank you for noticing. "You were a kid once": Doesn't mean I have to have kids. "What if your parents didn't want kids?": That would've been their choice...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 23, 2015

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    My sister had kids when she was 18

    and I was 6. Because she's a lying, stupid b****, I had to help raise the little b*stards. The drama between them alone was enough to make me want to slap one of them upside the head.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 14, 2015

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    Wolflover1999 Wolflover1999 16-17, M Sep 27, 2015

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    This is something I think about every now

    and then. I have PCOS which doesn't make it impossible to have children but in some women it can cause infertility. So I have adjusted to the fact that I might not be able to conceive. I am in no way trying for a baby but I do think about this when contemplating my future. I...
    hayleyRebeccaE hayleyRebeccaE 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 12, 2014

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    None For Me, Thanks.

    Several years ago, I really wanted to have children, but  as I've gotten older, I've come to appreciate the freedom I have without kids. I can do the things I want and need to do without having to worry about whether what I'm doing will hurt a child or not. Not everything should...
    NoxNocturne NoxNocturne 31-35, F Mar 15, 2012

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    An Unwise Decision

    I feel like it would be an extremely unwise decision for me to even think about having children until I resolve issues that I can already foresee as being a problem. For one, I am extremely insecure about weight gain. Gaining even 5 pounds wears at my nerves until I lose it...
    Jenabeth Jenabeth 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 11, 2009

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    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 8, 2015

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    I have mental illnesses

    and physical illnesses running badly through both sides of my family and I am on two medications that if I were to get pregnant I would have to go off of. The point though is I don't want to set a child up for failure before they are even born. With the illnesses running as deep...
    Lunx Lunx 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 6, 2014

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    Short, Sweet, And Simple.

    --I don't have the patience for them. --I don't want to hear them screaming. --I don't want to be bombarded with all of their stupid questions. --I don't want to have to put up with "family friendly" places, because not every place should be "family friendly."
    GoldQuartz GoldQuartz 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 8, 2013

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    I spent my life being mother to one person

    or another. One of my first memories is babysitting my own mother while she was out of her face on something. I've been mother to my own mother, my little brother, friends, my grandparents, always putting their needs above my own. I'm old enough to live my own life now, and that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 15, 2015

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    Give It Another Decade Or So

    I'm pretty young to have children. I think that my age is just one of the reasons why I don't want kids. I'm also the youngest in my family and I'm just learning to take care of myself on my own. Why would I want to have a child? They are so much work and I am no where near able...
    missindependent12 missindependent12 22-25, F May 28, 2013

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    I read here in this experience about people

    who don't want to have children because being a parent isn't for them or it's just how they feel about the matter, which is fine because everyones entitled to there opinion. But I am jealous of these people, people who can say they don't want children now for a reason-maybe...
    charlie4edwards charlie4edwards 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 9, 2014

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    Kids? No Thanks.

    i have 5 jobs. they all have to do with kids. at the end of the day, i get to give them back. i get to buy toys and play with my friends kids. the end.
    BarNapkinPoet BarNapkinPoet 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 16, 2008

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    I'm Doing The World A Favor

    It's not that I hate kids. It's that I don't think I'd be a very good parent. And unlike most of the population, I have the balls to admit it. I don't have the money, the energy, or the patience to raise a child so I'm not having any.
    SlowAutumnWind SlowAutumnWind 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 5, 2010

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 18, 2015

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    It's not that I don't enjoy children,

    especially having been exposed to my best friend's children including his daughter and then being exposed to my cousin's two daughters whom I love dearly, but let's just say I'd rather my father's bloodline end with me. My brother is gay, so there's no chance of him...
    halfblind79 halfblind79 36-40, M Mar 3, 2015

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    I love children but I don't want to have my own.

    I don't want to bring new life into this Hell so they can suffer.In another word I love them so much that I don't want them to feel mortal sufferings.I have this thought since I was 14.Not only that but I stay away from the very act that brings new sufferings into this Hell...
    madknightt madknightt 36-40, M 3 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    No Thank You

    I like having the freedom to go and do what I want without having to worry if it's kid-friendly or not. Sorry, but not everything in the world is meant to center on kids. It's bad enough that children already think the world revolves around them (especially when they're very...
    darksarabande darksarabande 31-35, F Nov 30, 2011

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    www.IdoNOTwantkids.com

    I run the 100% free childfree dating website: www.IdoNOTwantKids.com It is the world's only free dating site ONLY for people who do NOT have or want kids (like me).
    idonotwantkidsdotcom idonotwantkidsdotcom 41-45 Nov 17, 2012

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    I was told by someone

    that they think I'm not a good person because I hate kids. *clap*
    TheWanderingWriter TheWanderingWriter 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 8, 2015

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    God's Timing Is Impeccable

    Gosh....where to begin?? Deep down I always knew that I didn't want to be a mother, but I tried to convince myself that I would someday change my mind when I met the "right" guy. This is the thought process that got me into A LOT of trouble. When I first met my husband, he was...
    SymSym83 SymSym83 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2012

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    Does This Make Me Selfish?

    I used to want to, in high school, I even had names picked out. As years went by, it just never seemed like the right thing to do, could've been the relationships I was in. My last boyfriend and I spent 8 years together, he didn't want to be married or have children. If it had...
    normajean6126 normajean6126 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 7, 2009

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    Just Realised...

    I've been through a lot in then last year, some of it documented on this website, some of it not. I have gone from wanting to commit suicide last year in May (which is how I found this site) to finding the most amazing girlfriend on here and feeling on top of the world, to...
    itsallaparadox itsallaparadox 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    two reasons: I wouldn't be a good mom I

    don't like this society, why would I put another person in it?
    Alegna93 Alegna93 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2015

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    I feel like it makes fully functioning people

    into gooey voiced zombies. My sister used to be rational and intelligent before having a kid. Now that she has one, it's all gooey excited talk towards my niece. It makes chills go down my spine. I can't stand those stupid silly words that have been invented for baby related...
    tinywoman tinywoman 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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