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I Don't Want to Have Children

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    The Upsides to Not Have Kids: B) First of all,

    my life is my own; all for me; I'm all that matters; 100% concerned with what I want and what I'm going through; as casting director, I say that I'm the main character. Yes that makes me selfish, and IDGAF. It's hard enough looking out and caring for myself, so I think when I...
    StokesQuirky StokesQuirky 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    I love kids, but having them is different.

    For five years i've worked as a babysitter and before I wanted children. Though the longer I think about it the more I realized that it probably will never happen for me. I guess my expectations of my future partner are too high :/
    TheVirginRapids TheVirginRapids 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 20

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    Article That Say Child-free Restaurants Are Result Of Narcissitic Childfree Adults

    I recently read a article where the writer pretty much blamed child free adults who "don't want to grow up" as the reason for narcissitic views on children from people and businesses. There have been many restaurants that advertise as "child-free" so you can actually have an...
    IreneT IreneT 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 22, 2013

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    If someone says you'll change your mind,

    ask them if they want kids. If they say yes, say the same thing.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 1 Response May 28

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    I feel like I am too selfish of a person to

    have kids... I will always be this way. Sure, I may look out for others and take a leadership role, but I will forever do things for myself and for my own happiness because that is what I aspire for out of life. It's not that I don't like children. I've been around them my...
    CharleeLuv CharleeLuv 18-21, F 1 Response May 27

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    An Unwise Decision

    I feel like it would be an extremely unwise decision for me to even think about having children until I resolve issues that I can already foresee as being a problem. For one, I am extremely insecure about weight gain. Gaining even 5 pounds wears at my nerves until I lose it...
    Jenabeth Jenabeth 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 11, 2009

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    Maybe some day, but not anytime soon.

    I don't want to have a kid now, at such a young age, before I'm ready to. I want a career, a house, to be financially stable. Don't get me wrong I like kids (babies are a different story though) and I get giddy when other people say they're pregnant but I can't imagine having...
    suzukipot suzukipot 16-17, F Dec 19, 2013

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    www.IdoNOTwantkids.com

    I run the 100% free childfree dating website: www.IdoNOTwantKids.com It is the world's only free dating site ONLY for people who do NOT have or want kids (like me).
    idonotwantkidsdotcom idonotwantkidsdotcom 41-45 Nov 17, 2012

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    Just Realised...

    I've been through a lot in then last year, some of it documented on this website, some of it not. I have gone from wanting to commit suicide last year in May (which is how I found this site) to finding the most amazing girlfriend on here and feeling on top of the world, to...
    itsallaparadox itsallaparadox 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    Parents Make The Worse Co-Workes.

    I'm sure there are parents out there who are very responsible and then there are others that you end up picking up the slack for. My parent co-workers are there to work late and most times leave early. Whenever their schools call, they have to leave and I think we without...
    IreneT IreneT 26-30, F Mar 21, 2013

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    I read here in this experience about people

    who don't want to have children because being a parent isn't for them or it's just how they feel about the matter, which is fine because everyones entitled to there opinion. But I am jealous of these people, people who can say they don't want children now for a reason-maybe...
    charlie4edwards charlie4edwards 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 9, 2014

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    No I Don't Want Children Ever.

    Yeah, I am home free. I made it to 50 with no kids. I don't have to take care of them, It's bad enough to listen to a child scream in the grocery store. I don't hate them. Just you keep them. I don't waste my time thinking about hating them. They don't enter my thoughts...
    littlemonkeydoodle littlemonkeydoodle 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 19, 2012

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    I have mental illnesses

    and physical illnesses running badly through both sides of my family and I am on two medications that if I were to get pregnant I would have to go off of. The point though is I don't want to set a child up for failure before they are even born. With the illnesses running as deep...
    Lunx Lunx 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 6, 2014

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    I'm Doing The World A Favor

    It's not that I hate kids. It's that I don't think I'd be a very good parent. And unlike most of the population, I have the balls to admit it. I don't have the money, the energy, or the patience to raise a child so I'm not having any.
    SlowAutumnWind SlowAutumnWind 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 5, 2010

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    My sister had kids when she was 18

    and I was 6. Because she's a lying, stupid b****, I had to help raise the little b*stards. The drama between them alone was enough to make me want to slap one of them upside the head.
    TypicalAtypicalTeen TypicalAtypicalTeen 16-17 1 Response Jun 14

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    Kids? No Thanks.

    i have 5 jobs. they all have to do with kids. at the end of the day, i get to give them back. i get to buy toys and play with my friends kids. the end.
    BarNapkinPoet BarNapkinPoet 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 16, 2008

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    Sure there are something good about children,

    but I think it's more negative that positive having a child.
    Fenriis Fenriis 18-21, T Jun 11

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    None For Me, Thanks.

    Several years ago, I really wanted to have children, but  as I've gotten older, I've come to appreciate the freedom I have without kids. I can do the things I want and need to do without having to worry about whether what I'm doing will hurt a child or not. Not everything should...
    NoxNocturne NoxNocturne 31-35, F Mar 15, 2012

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    It's not that I don't enjoy children,

    especially having been exposed to my best friend's children including his daughter and then being exposed to my cousin's two daughters whom I love dearly, but let's just say I'd rather my father's bloodline end with me. My brother is gay, so there's no chance of him...
    halfblind79 halfblind79 31-35, M Mar 3

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    I feel like having kids is really selfish.

    Just because there are so many children who don't have parents that need adopted.
    mckennars mckennars 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 14

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    Does This Make Me Selfish?

    I used to want to, in high school, I even had names picked out. As years went by, it just never seemed like the right thing to do, could've been the relationships I was in. My last boyfriend and I spent 8 years together, he didn't want to be married or have children. If it had...
    normajean6126 normajean6126 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 7, 2009

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    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 18

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    Short, Sweet, And Simple.

    --I don't have the patience for them. --I don't want to hear them screaming. --I don't want to be bombarded with all of their stupid questions. --I don't want to have to put up with "family friendly" places, because not every place should be "family friendly."
    GoldQuartz GoldQuartz 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 8, 2013

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    Kids are waste of time,

    money, and energy.. Having them doesn't worth the effort.. I'm glad that I'm not a mom.
    youaremygift youaremygift 31-35, F 21 Responses Jun 14

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    Rain0069 Rain0069 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    I'm so scared my husband will leave me to have

    children. He wants children, loves them, idolises them. I think kids are cute but I'm much rather enjoying seeing, learning and experiencing. There are a number of reasons I don't want children, some justifiable, some probably sound quite selfish. I'll go through them and hope...
    CorruptedAngel CorruptedAngel 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 4, 2014

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    God's Timing Is Impeccable

    Gosh....where to begin?? Deep down I always knew that I didn't want to be a mother, but I tried to convince myself that I would someday change my mind when I met the "right" guy. This is the thought process that got me into A LOT of trouble. When I first met my husband, he was...
    SymSym83 SymSym83 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2012

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    I've posted an experience under this group

    yesterday.. but honestly, I did never think that my story would cause that storm at all.. O.k, first things first, you all own me an axplanation of why I did post it in the first place, and even my reasons would not be that matter for you, you may get in the same experience in a...
    youaremygift youaremygift 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 15

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    Baby In A Pill Bottle

    Maybe it's the hormones, but pregnant women terrify me. If not at least intimidate me. The terror is muddled with a little repulsion. I just can't imagine having this... alien/tumor grow for nine months inside of me while I get bigger and bigger and not be able to do anything...
    araneidae araneidae 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    I spent my life being mother to one person

    or another. One of my first memories is babysitting my own mother while she was out of her face on something. I've been mother to my own mother, my little brother, friends, my grandparents, always putting their needs above my own. I'm old enough to live my own life now, and that...
    SoulScribe SoulScribe 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 15

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    Give It Another Decade Or So

    I'm pretty young to have children. I think that my age is just one of the reasons why I don't want kids. I'm also the youngest in my family and I'm just learning to take care of myself on my own. Why would I want to have a child? They are so much work and I am no where near able...
    missindependent12 missindependent12 22-25, F May 28, 2013

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    And probably cant. Or would have by now.

    Due to an allergy to condoms.
    Converted Converted 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    Me And You, Just Us Two

    I'm 31 and I don't want children. Never have really. I grew up the oldest girl and thus left with the responsiblity of being second mom. I've done everything from cooking dinner to walking to the corner store to pay the water bill. My parents were there but worked all the time, I...
    IreneT IreneT 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 24, 2012

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    I'm not doing it. That is too much

    responsibility with nothing for me but aggravation.
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F May 22

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    When I was young, I wanted to have kids without

    really thinking about it. I thought it was a part of growing up. You get a job, a girl, a house and kids. The road to happiness, no questions asked... But then I started to ask questions. Why are we supposed to do this? Why should we get married or have children? When my...
    HermitKatWan HermitKatWan 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 5, 2014

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    Yeah kids are cute and all,

    but there's so much responsibility. Most people I know think that having children is all fun and games, but they fail to realise that after all that ends, you will have to worry about their education, their career their health, etc2. I'm not against having children per se...
    citysquare citysquare 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 22, 2014

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    No, Thank You!

    I admit, children can be adorable. Especially when they're babies and I like other people's children to an extent. But overall, I feel uncomfortable around them and I don't feel like I fit into that whole "motherly persona". Interacting with them is the worst part of them all, I...
    TheWanderingWriter TheWanderingWriter 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 4, 2013

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    a lot of people don't want kids.

    so, why bully and manipulate the ones who don't?
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 14

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    This is something I think about every now

    and then. I have PCOS which doesn't make it impossible to have children but in some women it can cause infertility. So I have adjusted to the fact that I might not be able to conceive. I am in no way trying for a baby but I do think about this when contemplating my future. I...
    hayleyRebeccaE hayleyRebeccaE 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 12, 2014

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    I feel like it makes fully functioning people

    into gooey voiced zombies. My sister used to be rational and intelligent before having a kid. Now that she has one, it's all gooey excited talk towards my niece. It makes chills go down my spine. I can't stand those stupid silly words that have been invented for baby related...
    tinywoman tinywoman 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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