I Don't Want to Have Children

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 340 People

    It's not that I don't enjoy children,

    especially having been exposed to my best friend's children including his daughter and then being exposed to my cousin's two daughters whom I love dearly, but let's just say I'd rather my father's bloodline end with me. My brother is gay, so there's no chance of him...
    halfblind79 halfblind79
    36-40, M
    Mar 3, 2015

    My sister had kids when she was 18

    and I was 6. Because she's a lying, stupid b****, I had to help raise the little b*stards. The drama between them alone was enough to make me want to slap one of them upside the head.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jun 14, 2015

    It's not that I don't like them.

    In fact I love them (why I work as a kindergarten teacher) but thinking about bringing a pure and new little person into this chaotic world makes me not want to have any at all...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 19

    An Unwise Decision

    I feel like it would be an extremely unwise decision for me to even think about having children until I resolve issues that I can already foresee as being a problem. For one, I am extremely insecure about weight gain. Gaining even 5 pounds wears at my nerves until I lose it...
    Jenabeth Jenabeth
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Nov 11, 2009

    Im pretty sure I wrote about this before

    but anyway, I know they will end up just like me. Mental illness runs in my family. my mother was an addict, had bipolar disorder, and Im sure other stuff (idk her, was adopted) and I have mental illnesses that I would rather not have passed down another generation.
    IkIlLeDyOuRsOuLaNdAtEiT IkIlLeDyOuRsOuLaNdAtEiT
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 19

    I don't hate children

    and it seems like a unique life changing experirence but it's also troublesome and time consuming. I don't need that much stress and responsibilities and pain in my life and looking at us now and how things are going I,m not sure it would be such a good idae. Nobody can tell...
    Flouffy Flouffy
    18-21, F
    Mar 20

    I'm so scared my husband will leave me to have

    children. He wants children, loves them, idolises them. I think kids are cute but I'm much rather enjoying seeing, learning and experiencing. There are a number of reasons I don't want children, some justifiable, some probably sound quite selfish. I'll go through them and hope...
    CorruptedAngel CorruptedAngel
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 4, 2014

    First they ruin your vagina,

    then they take all your money, then they hate you and are always rude to you. IDK, but sounds like a very bad deal and i'm not in for that.
    Offing Offing
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 17, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 14, 2015

    I feel like having kids is really selfish.

    Just because there are so many children who don't have parents that need adopted.
    mckennars mckennars
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2015

    I love children but I don't want to have my own.

    I don't want to bring new life into this Hell so they can suffer.In another word I love them so much that I don't want them to feel mortal sufferings.I have this thought since I was 14.Not only that but I stay away from the very act that brings new sufferings into this Hell...
    madknightt madknightt
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 20, 2015
    Wolflover1999 Wolflover1999
    16-17, M
    Sep 27, 2015

    No I Don't Want Children Ever.

    Yeah, I am home free. I made it to 50 with no kids. I don't have to take care of them, It's bad enough to listen to a child scream in the grocery store. I don't hate them. Just you keep them. I don't waste my time thinking about hating them. They don't enter my thoughts...
    littlemonkeydoodle littlemonkeydoodle
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jun 19, 2012

    Sure there are something good about children,

    but I think it's more negative that positive having a child.
    Fenriis Fenriis
    18-21, T
    Jun 11, 2015

    I just realised something.

    If I ever got married to another dude and adopted a kid then (s)he'd get bothered a lot because his/her parents would be gay. I don't want the kid to go through all that pain and bullying and questioning.
    LastAlone LastAlone
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 20

    I feel like it makes fully functioning people

    into gooey voiced zombies. My sister used to be rational and intelligent before having a kid. Now that she has one, it's all gooey excited talk towards my niece. It makes chills go down my spine. I can't stand those stupid silly words that have been invented for baby related...
    tinywoman tinywoman
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Sep 5, 2014

    I love kids, but having them is different.

    For five years i've worked as a babysitter and before I wanted children. Though the longer I think about it the more I realized that it probably will never happen for me. I guess my expectations of my future partner are too high :/
    TheVirginRapids TheVirginRapids
    22-25, F
    Apr 20, 2015

    God's Timing Is Impeccable

    Gosh....where to begin?? Deep down I always knew that I didn't want to be a mother, but I tried to convince myself that I would someday change my mind when I met the "right" guy. This is the thought process that got me into A LOT of trouble. When I first met my husband, he was...
    SymSym83 SymSym83
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2012

    I spent my life being mother to one person

    or another. One of my first memories is babysitting my own mother while she was out of her face on something. I've been mother to my own mother, my little brother, friends, my grandparents, always putting their needs above my own. I'm old enough to live my own life now, and that...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 15, 2015

    I feel like I am too selfish of a person to

    have kids... I will always be this way. Sure, I may look out for others and take a leadership role, but I will forever do things for myself and for my own happiness because that is what I aspire for out of life. It's not that I don't like children. I've been around them my...
    CharleeLuv CharleeLuv
    18-21, F
    May 27, 2015

    Does This Make Me Selfish?

    I used to want to, in high school, I even had names picked out. As years went by, it just never seemed like the right thing to do, could've been the relationships I was in. My last boyfriend and I spent 8 years together, he didn't want to be married or have children. If it had...
    normajean6126 normajean6126
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Feb 7, 2009
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 18, 2015

    a lot of people don't want kids.

    so, why bully and manipulate the ones who don't?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 14, 2015

    i love children it's just I feel I wouldn't be

    an adequate dad.. my dad raised me well. Did the basics and more. Went to my first school play, played catch, went to my sport games. But i feel i'd have more expectations on my daughter or son... i don't know maybe it'll change
    joshuaruiz1945 joshuaruiz1945
    13-15
    Mar 20

    Happy Being An Uncle-I have helped raise my

    almost 11 years old niece, since birth, because her mother, my older sister by a year and a half, had not yet turned 16 when she was born. The child's father is unknown and her home has always been with my parents, even when her mother stopped getting along with my father(her...
    2ndBorn1stSon 2ndBorn1stSon
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Mar 19

    www.IdoNOTwantkids.com

    I run the 100% free childfree dating website: www.IdoNOTwantKids.com It is the world's only free dating site ONLY for people who do NOT have or want kids (like me).
    idonotwantkidsdotcom idonotwantkidsdotcom
    41-45
    Nov 17, 2012

    None For Me, Thanks.

    Several years ago, I really wanted to have children, but  as I've gotten older, I've come to appreciate the freedom I have without kids. I can do the things I want and need to do without having to worry about whether what I'm doing will hurt a child or not. Not everything should...
    NoxNocturne NoxNocturne
    31-35, F
    Mar 15, 2012

    Me And You, Just Us Two

    I'm 31 and I don't want children. Never have really. I grew up the oldest girl and thus left with the responsiblity of being second mom. I've done everything from cooking dinner to walking to the corner store to pay the water bill. My parents were there but worked all the time, I...
    IreneT IreneT
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 24, 2012

    I'm not doing it. That is too much

    responsibility with nothing for me but aggravation.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 22, 2015

    I like kids and all and maybe

    when I'm older I might want to have a kid but right now I feel like I'm not going to be a good dad even when I'm older. And rather than having my kids grow up with a bad father id rather not have one
    Ihan14 Ihan14
    13-15, M
    Mar 20

    I'm Doing The World A Favor

    It's not that I hate kids. It's that I don't think I'd be a very good parent. And unlike most of the population, I have the balls to admit it. I don't have the money, the energy, or the patience to raise a child so I'm not having any.
    SlowAutumnWind SlowAutumnWind
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 5, 2010

    Just Realised...

    I've been through a lot in then last year, some of it documented on this website, some of it not. I have gone from wanting to commit suicide last year in May (which is how I found this site) to finding the most amazing girlfriend on here and feeling on top of the world, to...
    itsallaparadox itsallaparadox
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Mar 21, 2013
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 8, 2015

    Perfect responses for these: "You'll change

    your mind": How do you know? You're not a fortune teller. Or: You'll change yours about wanting kids. "You're selfish!": Thank you for noticing. "You were a kid once": Doesn't mean I have to have kids. "What if your parents didn't want kids?": That would've been their choice...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 23, 2015

    We love our freedom..

    . Having kids is not for everyone, it's like a box of chocolates you never know really who you gonna get right? Some kids, no matter how you raise them will be FOOLS. When I see what some of the people I know go through, so much grief. I know it's not for me. I don't really like...
    PetiteSirene PetiteSirene
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 20

    Yeah kids are cute and all,

    but there's so much responsibility. Most people I know think that having children is all fun and games, but they fail to realise that after all that ends, you will have to worry about their education, their career their health, etc2. I'm not against having children per se...
    citysquare citysquare
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 22, 2014

    I was told by someone

    that they think I'm not a good person because I hate kids. *clap*
    TheWanderingWriter TheWanderingWriter
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 8, 2015

    If someone says you'll change your mind,

    ask them if they want kids. If they say yes, say the same thing.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 28, 2015

    two reasons: I wouldn't be a good mom I

    don't like this society, why would I put another person in it?
    Alegna93 Alegna93
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 26, 2015

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