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I Don't Want to Have Sex

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 56 People

    Sex is of no consequence to me.

    . I just don't get it. Never had it, not sure if I want it. The woman I love left me more or less due to this (she denies it, but it just feels true). It's not like I don't enjoy a woman's body (well, mostly breasts honestly). I just don't get it. What the **** is wrong with me...
    28516isinthemix 28516isinthemix
    Aug 30, 2014

    Tired of Sex...

    I'm sick of sex. I don't want to go to bed tonight or any other night, and have sex. My husband says he's so obsessed with my body, but I don't want him to touch me anymore! We've been married for 5 years, his sex desires should be over by now! He even encourages...
    wondawoman wondawoman
    1 Response Jul 3, 2009

    I Do Not Enjoy It

    I have no sex Drive, and I have no need to be close to anyone.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 17, 2010

    Not Yet, Not Right Now.

    Firstly, I am a virgin, and would like to be until I get married, because that's important to me (I don't judge, don't think I do). But also, I don't exactly WANT to have sex right now.  I've got so much going on right now, what with some depression...
    blueglass blueglass
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 6, 2009


    its been over 8 yrs now since i had sex. do i miss it? no! i had a good sex drive once, n was no sl@t but have been w several men in my life. now at 39 am married almost 19 yrs. i had a hysteroctomy over 10 yrs ago, about a yr after that i lost all interest in sex. yes i tried...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Jul 29, 2010

    I Never Want to Have Sex Again!

    I've had sexual relations, but I just don't want to.  I feel like I do it just to please the other person.  I'm in a relationship with my finace, who I love very much, not to mention I'm pregnant!  People who don't have this problem somehow relate not having...
    inknspark inknspark
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 28, 2009

    I Don`T Get It

    I don`t know what to say, really. I just don`t get the point in having sex, outside of wanting to have a child. It seems like one of those things that is nice during, but afterwards you don`t really get a benefit out of it. It`s not like exercise where you get stronger and more...
    JesusKravitz JesusKravitz
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 18, 2013

    I'm Just Not Ready...

    I still love him....I felt with him what it was like to love someone deeply and sex was an expression of the love I had for him. We made love, the first time in my life. I just can't do it with anyone else right now. I can't conjure up the same feeling as before towards someone...
    SeekingKarma SeekingKarma
    22-25, F
    Feb 4, 2012

    Very Personal Information

    My body never made any estrogen, and there's another sex hormone, but I forgot the name, it begins with "andro...", my body doesn't make that hormone either. I'm letting my hormones checked about every three months. For about 15 years I'm trying to get my hormones 'fixed', as...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights
    31-35, F
    May 26, 2012

    I Love Him But I Can't

    I'm tired, I have four kids, no help and feel like a stranger in my own body. When we do have sex its mainly about him, the positions he enjoys (and I find uncomfortable) and no real passion, love or connection. I don't desire sex, it feels like a chore and weeks go by without me...
    howIwish howIwish
    Jul 5, 2011

    In College And Struggling

    I am a small white 17 year old who tends to be considered beautiful in her college. Not to be stuck up, but I get hit on a lot. I don't dress provacotively, but I do show a prominent figure. anyways, guys tend to make everything about sex. The typical idea in college is that you...
    amyehoch amyehoch
    1 Response Nov 8, 2013

    I Love Sex But I Love Respect More...

    Sex feels amazing with the right person, as it can be extremely painful, physically and emotionally. Now I avoid dating because I dont want to take the risk. I keep thinking of adultrie, disease, date rape, abus, stalkers... the list goes on. I am young (23), and I dont...
    nitrocivic nitrocivic
    Aug 13, 2010


    Somestimes I simply don't want to have sex or think about it...I sometimes hate my horomones for making me feel this way like I need it. I hate myself for feeling bad or weird when a girl I care about tells me she has sex with someone else...I know she's just acting on nature or...
    Jnrx Jnrx
    Mar 25, 2011

    ??? What the Heck Is This Guy Getting At?

    OK....I don't want to have sex....anyone can have sex...I could get up from my chair and go in the bedroom and have all the sex I want with myself (and safe sex too) No....I don't want to have sex... I like to make love!!!! Spine tingling, toe curling, wet with sweat...
    InTheNameOfLove InTheNameOfLove
    36-40, M
    12 Responses May 21, 2008

    It Just Seems So...dirty Or Ick Or Something

     I had a healthy sex life and I have had a few different partners and now I am married and even have a baby.  But ever since October I just feel so ashamed to have sex and I feel so dirty when I do. I was sexually assaulted a couple years back but I thought I got over...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jan 28, 2009

    I Don't Want To Have Sex. Ever.

           I'm 23 years old and I've never had sex. The truth is, I've never even wanted to. Sometimes I feel like a freak because no one I know thinks this way. I figured it was get better with time and as I formed relationships with people, I'd feel closer to them and...
    deanmartinforever88 deanmartinforever88
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 22, 2012


    When my friends were gossiping about what sex would be like, and then who would be the first to have sex, and then who had had sex, and then how many times they had had sex... I didn't join in. At first, I thought it was nerves. I mean, a guy seeing every last wobbly bit of you...
    temporaryhappiness temporaryhappiness
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 19, 2011

    I Wish I was Wanted

    I wish it was possible to have a boyfriend without having to have sex with them. I have no sex drive. I have one maybe once a year for few minutes. I thought it was because of mental illness but I think this is just how I am. I like being this way. I like the way I am. I just...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Dec 1, 2011

    I Don't Know If It's Because

    of the fact that I was "interfered with" at a very young age, and I mean VERY young, or if is simply that I have had so much sex in my life up until my early forties, or if it's because I am now menopausal and no longer fertile....I don't know what it is but I just can't stand...
    booklover56 booklover56
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Jan 16, 2010

    Finally Found A Group Like This

    more groups here at EP related to sex are about people who wants sex, so it was a bit hard to find this group =P anyway, I consider it something ... dirty ... yeah, dirty, that's the word, I don't know, just feel that it's the lowest of the human, purely instincts, and if so...
    Ronoso Ronoso
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 22, 2010
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