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I Dwell On Things I Cannot Change

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    Sometimes

    Sometimes,I dwell on things,I can't change,Don't know why,I just do.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Feb 28, 2012

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    Every Day

    Every day I wonder if there was something I oculd do to make my sons father stop being a loser and enjoy the chance that he was given when I brought his son into the world. No strings attached, I want no money or commitment, nothing personal between him and I....I just want my...
    dancingal dancingal 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 23, 2008

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    There Is A God

    Why? How does everything come together so perfectly? Here we are, thinking we can know everything When in reality, we have the intelligence of a toddler In comparison We cant know everything We can know some things  But in the end, we will never know until we ask And there is a...
    Skippytay Skippytay 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 15, 2012

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    Powerful Quote

    This quote always stuck in my head. God give me the strength to change the things i can and walk away from the things i can not. it is important to know what we should waste our time and energy on and what not to. i have a major problem with this. i always want to take on the...
    goldie25 goldie25 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 13, 2008

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    It's Hard..

    I want to be strong, just like others; who can handle things so easy, who can fight the pain and those people who can understand and forgive the people who hurt them. I wish I am  strong like them, I don’t want pain anymore. I think these things I can’t change...
    grasya grasya 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    I Miss Him...

    On August 25, 2006 I lost my best friend. He was the only person I could share my feelings with. He was my partner in crime. He was my brother. It's such a long story and I hurt thinking/writing/talking about it. I just need to let some out because I've been thinking about him a...
    DivaJessica DivaJessica 22-25, F Mar 14, 2012

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    The What Ifs

    There are times when I think I got over the mistakes I've done in the past, then things like a simple letter, a small laughter, a bump on the shoulder reminded me over and over again that I was wrong and that I can't forget. I can't help but dwell on the what ifs and I know that...
    lazybummer lazybummer 18-21, F Jul 24, 2012

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    I Am Dwelling A Lot Of Stuff

    6 months ago I had a stroke whin in itself is not tragic but finding. Out that I have brain cancer on top of that really SUCKS big time. I dwell upon the fact that my recovery was going super well and now it super sucks. I also dwell upon the fact I have to depend on others again...
    Jerseyjetgirl246 Jerseyjetgirl246 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2012

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    Hanging On

    i dwell on the things in my life that i know i can't change. like us , i wish that i would of listened to everyone that said you were bad for me. that you would do what you said you woulld,but i had more faith in youthan they did. i dwell on eveyrthing that i could of done this...
    girrlygirl girrlygirl 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 15, 2010

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    Time

    I can't change time and it's always on my mind. In my head I am still youthful and energetic. In the mirror I am ageing. The greying hair, the wrinkles and worry lines. I can't stop time but I wish I could. My body now creaks with age and my muscles groan. My children are...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 6, 2012

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    Why Does My Mind Continue to Torment Me

    If all the things I can not change! I can't go back in time and make my "parents" love me, or protect me. I can't go back 6 weeks ago and follow my instincts and say NO to the weekend in the city. I can't ask for a do over! If I could, I'm pretty sure I would. I just...
    Sylverwynd Sylverwynd 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 10, 2008

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    Always Dwell

    It's my biggest problem: dwelling on things that I cannot change.  I always wish I had not gained weight and kept up with exercising, that my mom was different and treated me more like her daughter and not as a friend, that my dad was in the picture, I was not so lazy...
    RandomFortune RandomFortune 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    Holding On Bya Thread.

    i got pregnant and gave birth a beautiful baby boy in july 2012, i was fifteen. just out of my freshman year of high school. and i had to make the biggest decision of my entire life, my sons life mostly. it was either let him be with a family who knows how to give him everything...
    bridoll bridoll 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 21, 2013

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    Mainly My Past

     i know i cant change it but ive done so many stupid things  i used to party Way to hard !!! i just want to try and forgive my self but its so hard in the words of Maynard  " if i could i would wish it all away " .. but i cant so i have to use other...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2007

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    Sleeplessness

    Thoughts come into my brain at night.I'll remember a hurt and there goes my rest.After one thought then more line up.It gets ridiculous ! I did that last night, yawn.
    wiseowl wiseowl 61-65, F 3 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    This Realization Hit Me!

    Everything is temporary... Everything is so f*cking TEMPORARY!!!!!! Just take a minute and think about it. Once you realize this everything is so clear all of a sudden! It's both scary and revelating! Nothing lasts!! not the good things, not the bad things... NOTHING! So we...
    stardust7 stardust7 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 3, 2012

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    This Is Me All Over.

    When something in my life screws up, whether I'm the cause or not, but especially if I'm the cause, and it can't be changed, I always dwell on it. It eats away at me. I keep thinking about it. It keeps me awake at night. I usually end up getting depressed over it. Then...
    CreedenceGold CreedenceGold 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 13, 2012

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    Can't Help Myself

    I just can't seem to help it I am quite a sensitive person really even through I put on a front. Things seem to hurt me very deeply maybe it's because I suffer from depression that I am like this I don't know but I just seem to spend hours sometimes days just dwelling on things...
    gelroller gelroller 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 2, 2012

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    wsifranchise wsifranchise 46-50, M Jul 13, 2012

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    I's A Worrier! C:

    For example: My darling boyfriend is a Marine. I worry constantly if he's sleeping well, eating enough, getting shot at, etc etc etc. Lord knows I can't stop people from shooting at him & I know if he dies it will be because he's doing something he loves, something he wants to...
    marinesgirl96 marinesgirl96 16-17, F Mar 17, 2012

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    And That Is My Biggest Failing

    I can't help it. I fret and I worry and I dwell on things that I can never change; things that are so over and done, I sit and think, what if I had done it this way, instead, would things be better.I can't seem to let it go. I know that what is in the past, and over, is...
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F Oct 28, 2012

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    Why Can't I Leave You In The Past

    there is no way we can ever go back to who we were what we had so why do i still try you are my past why can't i leave you there i've changed so much over the years but you are still the same want the same things to just be left alone but i keep pushing for you to give me more to...
    AmethystDruj AmethystDruj 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 12, 2010

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    "I Dwell On Things I Can Not Change"

    Yes I do this and I drive myself crazy with worry! I have done this for as long as I can remember!
    cmost cmost 36-40, F 1 Response May 19, 2007

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    madhav1 madhav1 22-25, M Dec 10, 2013

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    I Wish

     sometimes i wish i were anywhere elsei wish i was in fishersi wish i could have a fun life not the one i have nowi wish i didnt have so many bad memoriesi wish i could be that 24/7 happy girli wish g.g was alivei wish i could see my family and friendsi wish dad didnt hurt us...
    apml apml 16-17, F Jan 25, 2012

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    I'm Dwelling Here!

    Yes ... I'm dwelling.  I dwell on the fact that I dwell.  Over-thinker numero uno with a huge red neon arrow over my head.  No ... not the Arby's hat!  Ugh ... now I'm thinking Arby's. Anyway ... *shewing Arby's hat away from my head*  I do dwell on...
    zencricket zencricket 31-35, F 2 Responses May 3, 2007

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    Ugh,,

    and its a bad bad habit. I know things that have happened, CANT be changed. I just seem to always find myself digging up old bones.  Wondering too much what could have been different, why it happened the way it did, etc. I really should focus my energies on positive...
    SweetHoney SweetHoney 46-50 4 Responses Sep 19, 2008

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    Thinking

    Of all the truthful sayings.I not only do this I also cannot forgive myself.I forgive other people all the time but cannot figure out how to forgive and/or forget when it comes to myself.Can anyone help me with this?BTW asking for help with anything is one of the hardest things...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 10, 2011

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    Stuck In Limbo.

    7 months ago, I got my heart broken. I feel my normal self again but... Sometimes I have my days where I just collapse in tears and am so angry. Before I said yes to being with this man, I actually desired someone else, but I couldn't have that person. One day I realised that...
    PhoenixFoges PhoenixFoges 18-21, F Jul 8, 2012

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    My Biggest Problem

    Dwelling on things is my biggest problem, I cant find the strength to let the past go. I know that the past is what is holding back from being the person that I could be. I have dreams that I want to be able to make my reality. I have come to the point where I feel like I have...
    imperfectbeauty imperfectbeauty 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    Some Time I Dwell On Things. And Have To Say Good Bye

    I dwell on things . And I am learn to say Good bye to them. Can not change them . Just need to put them in a closet in my mind and shut the door and say good bye, And when I remember then . Not to go there and block it out and say I can not go there. And go and do other things...
    ladywolf123 ladywolf123 51-55, F Jun 28, 2012

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    I Do

    i wish i could find away to leave things in the past.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 12, 2012

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    wsifranchise wsifranchise 46-50, M Jul 13, 2012

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    Sad

    Idk, i guess this could fall under this category.       I never do anything for new Years, and this year. i could of, but my dads being lame and said no, cuz cuz hes too lazy to go get her. -_- and i keep freakin dwelling on it, even tho i can change it.
    GoodbyeBrokenDreams GoodbyeBrokenDreams 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2011

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    Things

    Things such as: -my boyfriend breaking up with me -not doing marching band my freshman year -not taking gym class freshman year -not taking French III -not taking Creative Writing And plenty of other things.
    sondosia sondosia 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 7, 2007

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    It Seems I'm Always Living In Another Time

    Always i either daydream some ridiculous plan, for a future i could never have had, or dream of how i could have acted, in th past, when i could have made a difference to what my present is like now. Really though, the hurt  I caused to others is ...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Jan 17, 2009

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    As Much As I Try Not To

    Dwelling on things I can't change has been kind of an issue with me since I can remember. As a small child I would read my illustrated Bambi story book and cry when the mother got shot. It would bother me long after I finished reading the story. On into the night, even as I lay...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2012

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    I Know I Shouldn't.

    This is my curse.  My partner lives by the motto: 'Don't worry about things you have no control over.' and although I admire this, and try to adopt this practical advice - I constantly fall back into my pattern of 'woe is me - I'm hard done by'. I suppose there are alot of...
    rockyj rockyj 31-35, F May 20, 2008

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    I Used To Dwell

    I used to dwell why did i not say this..... why did i not do that...... why did i not say this..... why did i not do that...... That was me not to long ago stuck in a viscious cycle of thought. It is really sad because dwelling prevents us moving forward as people. All we...
    2tone2121 2tone2121 22-25 1 Response Feb 18, 2012

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    Why I Like To Write

    I am 14 years old. In my age a couple thigs appear in peoples mind. 1) we are just a bunch of ****** 2) we are ungrateful 3) we take no interest in anything besides boys/girls/money/school/etc... All of these things are truee.... Well for normal teenagers but for people like me...
    Skippytay Skippytay 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2012

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    Sometimes I Still Do

    I have free myself of most of my dwelling on the past but sometimes I struggle with recent events that I can't get out of my mind and I dwell on them unceasingly but I am working on it.  
    jc2009 jc2009 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 11, 2011

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    You Changed, I Stayed The Same.

    So many words you never meant, you must have lied a thousand times. I don't want that to happen to me. I don't want to hide in fear of those I've screwed over.
    chestdeep91 chestdeep91 18-21, M Apr 4, 2012

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    Things I Cannot Change

    LOVE. ♥ Real people impress me. Those who worry about their success interest me, and those who care for me I love. ♥ I believe in Karma. What goes around comes around. Treat everyone with respect and love and they will return it to you. ♥ I like a good back...
    darkenedheart darkenedheart 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 13, 2007

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    How I Finally Accepted That I Am An Empath

    When I was four years old, I was sleeping with my grandpa at my grandparents house. I awoke for some reason in the middle of the night. I did not know what woke me up. I looked at the door and saw a very tall draped figure all in black. The usual depiction of death, but no...
    Mishka13 Mishka13 41-45, F 6 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    I Dwell a Lot On Things

    when im feeling down or things are not going so well i always think of the apst, how i could have improved things or made things better-how i could have stood up to people more but i know we are powerless to change certain things and we need to go with the flow sometimes to get...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 20, 2008

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    Don't Most of Us?

    I think most of us dwell on things we cannot change. It is an endless cycle, and I always come to the same conclusion--I can't change some things, they just are what they are. I have to stop. It is pointless and makes me miserable. I recently separated from my husband of more...
    autimom autimom 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2008

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    Always The Bad Stuff

    I am always dwelling on the bad things that go on all over this Earth, but I know that I can't change any of it or make it stop. There is just no way, other than destroying the entire Earth and every living thing on it. There is just too much suffering and ending all of it is not...
    Supernaturalfan Supernaturalfan 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 24, 2012

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    This is my hell. I feel

    that I have this burden. Or something. That no one around me is truly awake. Aware. It's a ******* nightmare. In a world gone wrong. I won't be so pompous as to pretend that I can change the world. Or assume that one man can make a difference. I feel hopeless...
    mierdamundo mierdamundo 31-35 1 Response Mar 13

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    I Hate It

    I can't stand it when i can't change something in my life, it actually freaks me out. I like to be in control and the worst thing i need to here when i'm in that mood is "why are you stressing over something you can't change?" which my boyfriend says alot, but the fact that i can...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 18-21, F Mar 20, 2012

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    I Call It Teenagerism, And I Hate It

    Basically I just hate the way typical teenagers (and most people through their twenties) act. I don't understand the whole smoking weed, drinking, partying, beer-pong, ****-watching, one-night stands or sex with just anyone, and all the vulgarity that surrounds the "normal...
    LonelyGirl1230 LonelyGirl1230 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2013

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