I Dwell On Things I Cannot Change

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    I dwell on the fact I cannot change my past.

    I dwell on the fact I'll never be given a redo, though I'm not certain a redo can salvage our relationship. I dwell on the fact I cannot un-sleep with him, that I can't take back what I gave him. I dwell on the fact, I lied, continuously. That I hurt someone; destroyed them...
    Calixo Calixo
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2016
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jun 17, 2015
    Leonoraa Leonoraa
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2015
    MevsLife MevsLife
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 19, 2015

    "I Dwell On Things I Can Not Change"

    Yes I do this and I drive myself crazy with worry! I have done this for as long as I can remember!
    cmost cmost
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 19, 2007

    I'm 22 and I've been in a committed

    relationship w my fiancé for 5 years, but I STILL dwell on the f*ckd up way I lost my virginity at 15 and all of the family problems that made high school hard for me at that time. Why do I go back? Idk. My life has had many chapters since then but still, I dwell...
    sahmmama sahmmama
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 23, 2015

    This Realization Hit Me!

    Everything is temporary... Everything is so f*cking TEMPORARY!!!!!! Just take a minute and think about it. Once you realize this everything is so clear all of a sudden! It's both scary and revelating! Nothing lasts!! not the good things, not the bad things... NOTHING! So we...
    stardust7 stardust7
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 3, 2012

    When you love someone

    and they say they love you too but in the end it was all just words.
    alwayswondering07 alwayswondering07
    26-30, F
    Aug 3, 2014

    If there is one thing i cannot change

    that i wish i could, its the lack of understanding and empathy in the world. If everyone could just take a minute and see the world from other people's views, maybe this world would be a more peaceful place. Lets use what we have in common to do that, not whats different. When...
    PainIsPeace PainIsPeace
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 21, 2015

    I have a old fashion style I

    where ties I kinda look like Maddy from wolfblood idk why lol
    wolfbloodboo0123 wolfbloodboo0123
    16-17, F
    1 Response Aug 7, 2015

    Always The Bad Stuff

    I am always dwelling on the bad things that go on all over this Earth, but I know that I can't change any of it or make it stop. There is just no way, other than destroying the entire Earth and every living thing on it. There is just too much suffering and ending all of it is not...
    Supernaturalfan Supernaturalfan
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jul 24, 2012
    Changeling79 Changeling79
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Mar 21, 2015

    the past is something I can't forget

    and desperately want to. I feel like my past has caused so many negative feelings and actions in my present life. I'm scared of so many things. my self esteem and enthusiasm has just dwindled into almost non existence. help meeee
    similarfeelings similarfeelings
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 24, 2015

    gofundme.com/9h6mwpus please help

    if possible! Everyone's donations are appreciated!
    RandomGirl152025 RandomGirl152025
    16-17, F
    Oct 19, 2015
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 19, 2015

    Constantly... I overthink

    and over analyze everything. Then I just have to throw in the... Should've, would've and could've... Makes for a busy mind and complicated life!!
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2016

    I'm Dwelling Here!

    Yes ... I'm dwelling.  I dwell on the fact that I dwell.  Over-thinker numero uno with a huge red neon arrow over my head.  No ... not the Arby's hat!  Ugh ... now I'm thinking Arby's. Anyway ... *shewing Arby's hat away from my head*  I do dwell on...
    zencricket zencricket
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 3, 2007

    I Call It Teenagerism, And I Hate It

    Basically I just hate the way typical teenagers (and most people through their twenties) act. I don't understand the whole smoking weed, drinking, partying, beer-pong, ****-watching, one-night stands or sex with just anyone, and all the vulgarity that surrounds the "normal...
    LonelyGirl1230 LonelyGirl1230
    26-30, F
    May 23, 2013

    I wish I would of went home

    that night. I wish I could go back in time. I would give anything.
    trhsmh trhsmh
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 18, 2015

    Sometimes I do dwell mainly on the past

    and the "what if's" in life. Then I realize that I can't go back to fix anything, so I just have to live and learn from it and move on.
    Bonnet9 Bonnet9
    26-30, F
    Mar 3, 2016

    On our way to Universal Studios

    for my brother's birthday. Theme? Minions..... Since we're all decked out.. I look like a five year old. Yay..
    Chiro98 Chiro98
    18-21, F
    Oct 17, 2015

    Dwelling tonight. Damn the mind I say!

    !!! Easier said then done. Ugh
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 17, 2015


    Things such as: -my boyfriend breaking up with me -not doing marching band my freshman year -not taking gym class freshman year -not taking French III -not taking Creative Writing And plenty of other things.
    sondosia sondosia
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 7, 2007

    I woke up this morning to the gospel channel

    talking about how we shouldn't dwell on the negatives. The more your mind keep reprocessing on why this and that happened, the more we will continue living in a dark cloud. But I am honestly one of those people who don't know how to let go. I can't try my hardest to convince...
    Hismom2015 Hismom2015
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jan 10, 2016

    "You Build Up a World oF Magic Coz your real

    life is tragic " These lines seriously got me !!!
    Aarya196 Aarya196
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    I think of things all the time I hate

    that I can't change them it ****** me off. I will get so mad and upset that I can't change something that I will cry and get so upset. I feel like I have no control because there is nothing I can do to change it.
    misty0622 misty0622
    22-25, F
    Oct 11, 2015

    I've been thinking a lot lately about friends

    from my past that I lost. I think about my longtime friend John, we've known each other for years and I thought we were tight but it seems like I was wrong. I think about Jesse (my friend that died at 22ish), I wish I would have known him better and I see a picture of him pretty...
    SRayne SRayne
    51-55, M
    Jan 9, 2016

    Its my nature, Im a thinker.

    What could have I done better, prevent ect.. Its me I always try to better self. Granted some of my past decisions cost lives. Im trying not to repeat. Certain months of year are hard for me nightmares ect damn with April and November.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 17, 2015

    I'm still trying not to dwell over the fact

    that my parents got divorced when I was 10 and how my dad was a major *** back then... still trying not to dwell over my past and how things could've been different but it's so hard especially if it's something that's going to stick with you forever because it scarred you that...
    RandomGirl152025 RandomGirl152025
    16-17, F
    Aug 8, 2015

    "I can´t change the direction of the wind

    but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." -Jimmy Dean
    maianne maianne
    18-21, F
    Aug 19, 2015

    When you say you're leaving.

    ...and i say "oh...good... have a great trip".I mean,"DON'T GO... DON'T LEAVE... STAY HERE....with me."my voice trailing off into almost a whisper...but that would be clingy, and possessive ...both of which I have no right, and do not want to be. 
    SvveetKiester SvveetKiester
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Aug 7, 2015

    My mum is starving.her benefit money has been

    stopped as she didn't get to an appointment. I cannot help her I live miles away and I have limited money. She has been without money off the state for 4 weeks She has been to foodbanks 3 times this year so doesn't qualify for any more. Why is the uk getting this way? I'm angry
    uncontrollabledesire88 uncontrollabledesire88
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 1, 2015

    Who's to determine what cannot change?

    What about hope, possibility, and chance? Everything is energy and it all has its force. Life was born from 1 simple source. Change is constant, even though things may not change exactly how you want or when you want. Just be patient and hold faith - everything is always bound...
    lonelee13 lonelee13
    31-35, F
    Apr 20, 2015

    I am like that ... I wonder

    when would those go away!!!
    mar00ned2 mar00ned2
    36-40, M
    Mar 3, 2016

    I don't think I've ever made peace with my

    mother's death. I find myself wishing that things were different, that I had been better as a kid and made her life easier. I know we would be best friends if she were here today, and it kills me.
    Chaosforthefly Chaosforthefly
    26-30, F
    Oct 19, 2015


    Of all the truthful sayings.I not only do this I also cannot forgive myself.I forgive other people all the time but cannot figure out how to forgive and/or forget when it comes to myself.Can anyone help me with this?BTW asking for help with anything is one of the hardest things...
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Apr 10, 2011

    Feeling just kind of sad

    when there's really no reason to be sad and just not knowing what life has in store for my future can be anxiety provoking. Wanting to have more time to do things I enjoy but just don't have the motivation.
    alwaysokayy alwaysokayy
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Nov 24, 2014

    This is my hell. I feel

    that I have this burden. Or something. That no one around me is truly awake. Aware. It's a ******* nightmare. In a world gone wrong. I won't be so pompous as to pretend that I can change the world. Or assume that one man can make a difference. I feel hopeless...
    mierdamundo mierdamundo
    1 Response Mar 13, 2014

    I do and I don't it's the things

    that get underneath my skin that I have a hard time getting over. The things that just kick your butt and are hard to accept.
    deleted deleted
    Jul 26, 2015

    Its a shame... But true.

    Oooh What i would give to change that! But im the only one who can... 🙌
    deleted deleted
    Mar 3, 2016

    Omg this lady pissed me off this this morning

    because this ***** does not know you can do two things at once I'm still pissed and thinking about it.
    misty0622 misty0622
    22-25, F
    Oct 16, 2015

    I'm unable to recover from my painful past due

    to a decision to remain surrounded by things that tie me to it. I'm doomed to suffer battle after battle against my opponents, all of whom I have helped arm with ammunition to do harm to me and my family. What is even worse is, I have failed to live in the moment and embrace...
    gameoholic gameoholic
    36-40, M
    May 28, 2015

    I wish my old best friend would forgive me

    because I accused her of changing into a ***** in middle school.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 5, 2015

    It's 1:24am and I should be sleeping.

    But instead, I sit here in this dark room, thinking of the things I could have said or the things I could have done, and think of all the things I will never say or do.
    anonymousdrummer anonymousdrummer
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jun 22, 2015

    I met this guy via internet years ago.

    We have never met in person, only interacted through text, phone calls, video chat & pictures. Even though we never had the physical I always felt connected to him because there was something about him that made me happy inside almost like a natural high. Sounds crazy right...
    JLove93 JLove93
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Nov 30, 2015

    I have done that. But sometimes a person needs

    to do that. For an example, there was a time someone pointed a gun in my face and threaten to kill me about 29 times. Then there was another whom claim to have been in Jail for beating up others. Again just threats. Yes Dwell on those moments and I would get angry over them...
    rlt171720 rlt171720
    61-65, T
    Jan 11, 2016

    my friends don't respect,

    love or appreciate me I'm just stuck with them cause I HATE being alone. And I guess being with people who pretend to be "nice" to me is better than being alone with all my horrible classmates who give me dirty looks all the time and hate me just as much....I just feel so lonely...
    sweeeeeeeeeeetheart sweeeeeeeeeeetheart
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 15, 2015
    SylenaEverlasting SylenaEverlasting
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2015

    Can't Help Myself

    I just can't seem to help it I am quite a sensitive person really even through I put on a front. Things seem to hurt me very deeply maybe it's because I suffer from depression that I am like this I don't know but I just seem to spend hours sometimes days just dwelling on things...
    gelroller gelroller
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 2, 2012

    I never dwell on things I can't change.

    I will state my opinion and let nature takes it's course.
    triguy450 triguy450
    56-60, M
    Jan 11, 2016
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