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I Ended a Friendship

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    I don't know if i did the right thing .

    .. But I guess I'm tired of being her second choice. It really hurts that she blames it on me when all along she was the one who ruined what we have.. She treated me like an option even if I've tried everything for her to be happy, The people around me used to say that we have...
    Stillintoyou Stillintoyou 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    It Hurt, But Was For The Best I Think

    Recently, one of my best friends and I had a disagreement, which should have been resolved quickly, but instead blew up into a raging battle between us and our spouses. Somewhere between nasty phone calls (them calling, not us) I realized something.. I think as we grow as people...
    krysi krysi 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 13, 2009

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    Of years of being "best friends" I've become

    mature enough, as well as strong enough to know what friends are, and the one I thought was my best friend wasn't one of them. I cut ties. As painful as it was because of all the memories we've shared, it was the best decision ever. I'm not going to constantly have your back...
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 28

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    ...and I'm Proud.

    Some friendships are parasitic, and really aren't friendships at all. In my case, a friend of mine kept coming to me with all her sorrows but never her happinesses. The trust was friend-like, but our interactions were more like therapy for her. This went on for 8 years until this...
    suucakes suucakes 22-25 May 1, 2011

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    We Didn't Know Each Other Anymore

    I ended my friendships with my two best friends from high school soon after getting married. I didn't understand them anymore, they didn't understand me anymore. We still all chat every now and then, but I'd say none of us regrets the rift a few years later. I hate to say it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 10, 2007

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    Well not officially but I've given up.

    .. I invited her to my baby shower and she came along and I went to her hens night ..after that I've sent at least 10 texts(over time) asking to catch up the last one I asked was want to catch up (she's due to have A baby) and she replied aw sorry I have my baby shower today...
    Jadewaves Jadewaves 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    I had to end a nearly 30 year friendship

    because she decided to date my ex boyfriend and keep it a secret. It's kind of a rule for me. None of my friends should never date any of my exs. No exceptions!
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 12

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    I Destroyed A Friendship, And It's Still Painful

    About three years ago, I began dating a woman with whom I was very good friends.  I felt pretty strongly for her, probably because we had been so close for a long time.  In a nutshell, the relationship ended up going south *very* quickly for a number of different...
    kiuz645 kiuz645 31-35, M 3 Responses May 23, 2010

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    Friendship 101: Are You Hanging With The Right Friends?

    Life is hard, but it is harder if you CHOOSE the wrong folks to associate with. I have learned to distinguish people for who they really are. If you have 1-2 TRUE BLUE folks (not counting your family) then you are truly blessed. Aristotle categorizes three different types of...
    WiseOldOwlinOC WiseOldOwlinOC 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2010

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    There comes a time where you

    either move forward, or you just stop. I'm a good person, I let him into my life and into my heart. I was open and honest. I gave him my heart, he lied and tossed me aside like trash that was beneath him.
    Mom321 Mom321 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    I had been friends with guy

    since the fifth grade and freshmen year of college we decided to have sex. It got a little awkward. I decided to end the friendship. I regret it deeply and miss him so much :(
    lovinglife86 lovinglife86 26-30, F Mar 25

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    I had to walk away from a friend

    who I thought was my best friend. We were so close at one point but we grew apart. I tried to keep the friendship there but I was the only one making an effort and when I made the effort it was all about her petty drama in life, I always listened and gave my advice to her but...
    Ldylvlylcks2002 Ldylvlylcks2002 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    It's actually been a while

    since my best friend and I had a falling out and I miss her but still also never want to see her again. It's hard to avoid somebody at school, but I have to keep reminding myself that it is perfectly ok to end a friendship that didn't benefit you and in fact made you feel like...
    wethekings wethekings 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    well i am not sure if your facebook post was

    about me or i am just being paranoid but i could swear it's about us i know it's wasn't fair to you for me to end our friendship without giving any reasons without saying anything and for no obvious causes in my defense i have been telling you for awhile now that we are going...
    clownesta clownesta 22-25, F Mar 9

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    Unintentional Burned Bridge

    There have been times in my past where I have been to the point where it was better to cut someone out of my life than to have them remain and cause more damage to me. It is not something I am good at doing though. It takes a lot for me to get to that point, but when I do, I have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 24, 2012

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    Yeah, for like a week ago.

    But yeah, she's a totaly *****. :):
    Jrgn Jrgn 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 22

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    Platonic...?

    Recently a close friendship I had with a woman started to develop mutually into something more intimate. Once it became obvious it was going to lead onto a whole other relationship, I made the choice to end it. I am not sure if I made the right decision or not, I guess time will...
    mikemcneil mikemcneil 46-50, M 13 Responses Aug 8, 2008

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    ...well there goes another one.

    .. Heheh...it's gonna be rough... Hell I'm having some of the same deep feelings I had before when there was a strong urge to cut out the pain. I know better these days though, besides the pain's been driven so far inside, any attempts in that realm likely would lead to...
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M Apr 11

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    I Left You A Note

    I am no longer gaining what is for myself. Infact it's becoming to be a torture, seeing you, just to please you. Can't even feel being appreciated. I need my peace of mind back. To enjoy myself and never care about you. Taking you as my priority, while you never bothered to care...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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    I Need Relief ...

    I want to end a friendship with someone that I've long considered a best friend ... a sister in many ways. No ... I don't want to end our friendship, but I desperately want our relationship to be healthier. Part of the malaise of our friendship is clearly because of me--I feel...
    ObliviousPunk ObliviousPunk 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 1, 2011

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    Nothing Else I Could Do

    I recently terminated a friendship because of abuse. I had a female friend that Ive known since i was 5. She was more of a sister then a friend. Well she recently got into a relationship with a guy who we thought was a cool guy, he has a nice career, home etc... well about a...
    siggy10 siggy10 31-35, M 11 Responses Jul 29, 2008

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    miaatkinson miaatkinson 13-15, F Mar 29

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    I ended a friendship,

    and I feel stupid. I acted crazy and rude to my friend. I'm afraid to ask to be friends again.
    Meyrinfields Meyrinfields 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 10

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    I Ended A False Friendship.

    For over 10 years, I was a good friend to Bev. She was disabled and needed a lot of help, and I gave it willingly. Then came the time she decided she wanted to hire me to clean her home, on a regular basis. I told her that I'd rather do it for her as a friend, no money changing...
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F 3 Responses Oct 28, 2012

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    We were best friends

    and they ended our friendship because of politics.I was not thinking like them and they never asked me what I was thinking about politics.I really dont care about different thoughts about politics in a friendship.For me it's not important.we are in the same school and we see...
    Bubzblub Bubzblub 13-15, F Mar 26

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    Hello everyone reading this site.

    The story that I’m going to tell you now is quite long, but I think it could be useful if you are in a similar situation in the future. It all began around 3 years ago when I posted my story on a website in which I was sharing how lonely I am, that I have no friends, no...
    blinker1 blinker1 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    There are always those people you thought were

    true friends but stab you in the back when you least expect it. I've had this experience and to anyone who is currently dealing with this, stay strong. It may be hard now but it's the right thing to do.
    annie760 annie760 16-17, F Feb 27

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    It Was So Sad

    I gave her a big hug, she said she loved me, I told her I know and I love her, but I just can't do it any more. We were the best of friends but I felt we were just too different people in different worlds with different needs. I don't think either of us could have fully been the...
    everyonesfriend everyonesfriend 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    So basically...I met a girl

    when I was about 15 and i didn't have many friends at the time and she became my best friend. The only problem is that I started to develop stronger feelings for her but she said she didn't feel the same way but she continued to string me along by being flirtatious one second...
    AnUneventfulTale AnUneventfulTale 16-17, M Mar 24

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    I've had those friends

    who I thought would stand by me and support me no matter what, but I was wrong. They became mad and angry at me after a certain boy asked me to homecoming that one of my friends had a crush on. They began bullying, harassing, and spreading horrible and disgusting rumors about me...
    Hailey1995 Hailey1995 18-21, F Feb 27

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    There is this girl who I have been friends with

    for several years now. well we aren't friends anymore and we are going in different direction. she talks crap about me all the time. and she is fake she talks crap on everyone but right when I turn around she is hanging out with them. she accuses me of stuff ALL the time and...
    brookiecookie14 brookiecookie14 13-15, F Mar 28

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    Mmmmhmmmmm cause **** the ***** Friends don't

    steal hundred dollar bills and hide them in their underwear am I right
    kim95164 kim95164 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 30

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    Addicted People Can't Have Friends

    I knew that people had to choose themselves over drugs like chrystal meth, and that until they did that, they only had "connections", and even connections could not be trusted, and her ability to trust even was sacrificed to her paranoia.  I was hoping that this girlfriend...
    FlowersNButterflies FlowersNButterflies 51-55, F 3 Responses Jun 27, 2010

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    I have not ended our friendship yet,

    but I think we are headed that way. My friend and I have been friends for 12 years, and it has been fun, but I think we are growing apart. I am not a materialistic person, but I do like to have nice things. I am the type of person who buys things for me, and I don't feel like I...
    Missinterpret Missinterpret 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 13

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    We were best friends,

    to think it was just ended so fast. Freshman year we grew a part a tiny bit but this year she didn't even say happy birthday. We literally did everything together! Everything! She doesn't know anything about me anymore and when I try to talk to her, she just looks away. Am I...
    CountryGirl1210 CountryGirl1210 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I just ended a four month online friendship out

    of anger. I regret it. Made it so where I can't trace her back if I wanted to.
    tarkovsky tarkovsky 26-30, M 2 Responses Apr 2

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    My "friend" was incredibly disrespectful to me,

    without any regard to my feelings. I didn't need anyone like that in my life, and never will.
    yousillyboy yousillyboy 18-21, F Mar 10

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    The Decision

    I've shared before about what I consider to be a toxic friendship. It seems as though I've made the decision--at least, I've cut off communication with her. After another instance of me helping her out with a typical (albeit stressful) thing that adults deal with every day and...
    ObliviousPunk ObliviousPunk 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    Maybe It Wasn't the Right Thing to Do

    I loved to hear his opinions; he is so eloquent and has a beautiful mind.  But when he basically told me I'm going to hell, I just couldn't be friends with him anymore.  Looking back, I feel regret and I think maybe I was too quick in ending the friendship.  I mean...
    eromreven eromreven 26-30 5 Responses Jan 27, 2008

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    High School Girls Are Cruel.

    wellll long story..im gonna try to make it as short as possible. you have to live it to really understand how hard this is. it alll started out last september. this girl jessica and me were in class together and met basically for the first time. she had just come back from a few...
    couldfeelbetter couldfeelbetter 16-18, F 4 Responses Mar 24, 2007

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    Well I didn't end it.

    But I would like to. Because he's just, perfect. The smile, the personality, the humor, everything. It's like seeing everything I want in one guy is in my best friend. For some reason I started liking him. And to get over the feelings, I've tried to be distant. I can't let him...
    Piercethetaco00 Piercethetaco00 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 13

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    I can't say I wanted it to end

    but my bestfriend who I have done everything with recently hit me in the face now what I said to her was harsh but it fit the moment since I didn't hit her back. The friendship ended there and I have to say I feel like I got life sucked out on me because I never thought this...
    toni765 toni765 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 20

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    From Friends to Acquaintances

    I know that every relationship we’re in teaches us something, whether we want to learn the lesson or not we grow from each encounter, even if all we learn is not to be so trusting or learn what we want or don’t want in a friendship. A ‘friend’ of 10...
    Katija Katija 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 17, 2007

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    I kinda gave up on it.

    So anyway we both have the same crush, rather not say names. To win him from me, she said I stalked him (which obviously I didn't), and than she said that my "beautiful voice", was auto tune. Yea, she was just a backstabbing friend. And to think I kept a three years I stood as...
    JaydenDiamond JaydenDiamond 13-15, F Mar 23

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    I have my best friends in high school,

    and till college we went in the same university.. a lot of things happened and mostly are bad .. but at that time, it feels so right.. we are just happy and enjoying our young life. we dont really care about what our parents say.. we just love to be together even on weekends...
    DianeKriss DianeKriss 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    I Don't Know What To Do

    I think I should. I dunno. I fell in love with one of my friends. I really enjoy hanging out with her but it's just too painful see her with someone else. I helped her through a lot of things and I really don't want to give up on the chance o be with her or our friendship but I...
    blargblah blargblah 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 8, 2010

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    I'm Done Being Your Back-up Plan

    If I say I'm your friend, you know you can count on me.  If you need someone to rant to or cry on or whatever I am that person that will clear the path for you to feel better if there's any way possible for me to do so. And that's what I thought this one girl was too...
    mscrazylady mscrazylady 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2010

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    Super Platonic And Distant At Best

    A couple friendships crumbled over the past couple of days. One in particular was jarring during the lighting of the bridge, tragic during the burning of the bridge which left a bubble of disappointment in the heart. She craved the impossible - two men hungering for her, caring...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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    i havent spoken to my bff in years

    and she does not care but somewhere i really hurts me
    krisha9002 krisha9002 18-21, F Mar 18

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    Sometimes It Happens...

    Friendship is very important to me. I treasure all of my friends for different reasons because they are all special in their own ways. However, sometimes in life you meet someone who claims to be your friend and all the while there is some underlying motive, some untruth, deceit...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 21 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    I Had To Give Up My Best Friend.

    We knew each other for 12 years and had lots of time spent together.She just changed in a person I don't relate to anymore.Working as a drone in a corporation always unsatisfied with what she earns,envious on rich people,tired and sad. I am more optimistic .I rarely get this...
    lady2089 lady2089 22-25, F Nov 13, 2013

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    I Don't Know?

     i haven't ended the friendship yet, and i probably won't have to because you see she moving really soon and your probably wondering why i don't just suck it up. You see i have a habit of giving a lot in friendship and picking self absorb people. See this is one of those...
    wilco42 wilco42 18-21 Aug 31, 2009

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    Left It Drift

    my friend was so negative, always getting me down, always being so pessimistic, i was always listening to him and his problems, all he did was criticize me and bring me down. I did'nt think the friendship was doing us any good, i just let it go and didnt do the chasing anymore...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 17, 2008

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    It Hurts, But It's Necessary

    I am about to end a friendship with someone. Technically, I feel as though it ended months ago, but for some reason she thinks we are friends. To me, a friend is someone you spend time with, laugh with, have fun with, and be there for each other when times are tough. Friends...
    Sunburst Sunburst 22-25 3 Responses Nov 16, 2009

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    I Ended My Friendship.

    It was one of the hardest decisions I've ever made. We had a connection that was very deep on certain levels. What we had was arguably the best friendship I ever had. We shared many of our experiences and I think at certain points I confused it with love at times.We would sit on...
    Serenity185 Serenity185 18-21, M Aug 8, 2011

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    My friend was dating my cousin

    and she used him... I couldn't do it anymore! She was always so depressed and caught up in her own world using people to further her conquest on the male sex... She used me to get a kiss, she used my friends to get unneeded sympathy... What could I have done? I couldn't do it...
    SurpriseMeToday SurpriseMeToday 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Story About a Friendship That Later Ended...

    I wrote this story a few years ago about my best friend at the time. She since has stopped being my friend because I am a lesbian. But anyway, here is the story It was a day as typical as any other, any other Monday and Wednesday anyway. We tiredly crawled out of our beds...
    CallipygianVenus CallipygianVenus 21-25, F 1 Response Feb 11, 2008

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