I Enjoy Solitude But Hate Loneliness

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    I do like the peacefulness

    and being out in nature, but I'm lonely down deep inside and it's not easy to bare that. When your soul knows joy but not intimacy it sucks.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 27

    I am little shy and quite introverted.

    Solitude is necessary for me to recharge my batteries but there are times when it would be nice to have some one special to share some of those quiet moments with.
    camulos camulos
    41-45, M
    Aug 4, 2015

    The Joy Of Solitude, The Despair Of Loneliness

    I find great comfort in solitude. The energy needed for my working life saps my body and mind, and I relish the quiet moments of solitude to replenish and nurture my soul. People are wonderful, but at times very exhausting in my daily working life as a carer.  I am their...
    shenightowl shenightowl
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Sep 6, 2013

    The Crying Lone Wolf

    i belive must of the people that are lonely now used to enjoy solitude and now they start to hate been alone all the time, well at least that's my case. i was lonely at school, everybody consider me a freak and i don't give a crap, that was three years ago now, i'm not shy, i...
    lost54 lost54
    16-17, M
    1 Response Dec 4, 2012

    “Solitude gives birth to the original in us,

    to beauty unfamiliar and perilous - to poetry. But also, it gives birth to the opposite: to the perverse, the illicit, the absurd.” ― Thomas Mann, Death in Venice and Other Tales
    PoisonedQuill PoisonedQuill
    46-50, M
    May 27, 2014

    i go out alone on a beautiful day,

    i go out to eat at a cafe, walk aimlessly around. I saw sth funny, then the loneliness gets to me a bit. No one to share that understanding with me.
    WannabellGreat WannabellGreat
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 25, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 15, 2014

    And I Dont Understand It

    i like being alone but at the same time, i am lonely. i want to find someone i can be alone with. i know, its weird and doesnt really make sense. i dont get it myself.
    EdgeCrusher EdgeCrusher
    26-30, M
    7 Responses May 9, 2011

    What A Great Name For A Group

    Whoever started this group is brilliant (in my view)! It is so hard to find a balance between solitude and needing/helping/being with others, especially a mate, or even a close friend. But when we achieve that balance, life can be great.
    mochacream mochacream
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Mar 28, 2012

    Getting Used to It Though

    i dont really think i get lonely anymore ...  I mean i long for companionship but i don't look for it in love anymore like i used to ... i love to be alone and just sit in the moment and listen to the silence  it doesn't happen very often with two kids .. but i cherish...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 2, 2008

    I'm always the irrelevant one in my friend

    group, they don't even want me in social media. In school, I try to stay in solitude, & I get this warm feeling, as if someone were hugging me, but no one is near me. I believe those are the creatures in my mind, when I'm in solitude, they try to make me feel better.
    WolfsterTheWere WolfsterTheWere
    16-17, M
    Mar 26, 2015

    Sometimes you need to be alone in order to get

    to know yourself better. But always being alone isn't a good thing since you lose the chance of getting to know others better.
    puggylovey puggylovey
    18-21, M
    Nov 26, 2015

    I always need time to be alone,

    away from the everything of the everyday... "If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company." -Jean Paul Sartre
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 11, 2014

    I've been thinking of him a lot lately

    and I even wanted to send him a message but I always end up not doing it anyway. Idk, what's wrong with me??!!
    Chrels Chrels
    22-25, F
    Nov 9, 2014

    Finding Balance

    Today I attempted to conjure the difference between solitude and isolation. I think many people confuse the two. Solitude, as I perceive it, is the tranquility and peace of a place and time that allows a sense of tolerance, patience and a connection with the beings and things...
    WholeMan WholeMan
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Oct 21, 2010

    Wish I Could Find Some

    There is a quote and I can't remember who it is attributed to but it is something like: "Loneliness is the pain of being alone, while solitude is the glory of being alone." I have experienced loneliness in a house full of people.  But rarely have I...
    findinme findinme
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Jan 29, 2008

    Aloneness versus loneliness: Aloneness allows

    us to think for ourselves, to deal with ourselves without interference. It supplies calmness to our busy existence. It allows us to just be. Loneliness cause us to want others, to overthink things, to wish for things we are unable to acquire, it stifles us.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 16, 2014

    being alone and experiencing loneliness are

    very different. I try to not get them confused. having the touch of a loved one on your shoulder is very pleasing. as is opening your eyes to what is.
    hashbrown20 hashbrown20
    18-21, F
    Jan 27

    Alone Again..naturally

    i love my own company. i am such a scream! but not tonight. i am a complete bore to be with. just need a good conversation, a good laugh, a sweet diversion with a like minded soul. no-one here but the dog so to bed i will go
    shenightowl shenightowl
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Oct 18, 2011

    For the past couple of years I have been on a

    true search for my solitude. I lost it after I graduated high school. I've been lonely for a long time without having much solitude. I started to hate being so alone for more than a few days. I've finally found solitude in writing. I've got back into writing my novel that I've...
    IllusionaryGentleman39 IllusionaryGentleman39
    22-25, M
    Mar 16, 2015

    The Truth Is

    I am rarely lonely. Now that I have solitude, I don't get lonely. I was more lonely living with a man who preferred his drunken friends over me. When he would bring drunks home to invade my space and take over the kitchen and the living room and I was stuck in the bedroom alone...
    Serenitree Serenitree
    70+, F
    Oct 10, 2012

    Solitude Turned To Hell

    I loved my solitude at first but now in my new school the incompetence to make friends and join in has left me with none, my sister attacked me 4 weeks ago only for me to need stitches in my head, and we have not spoken since although we live together. my mother is also...
    axmay axmay
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 9, 2013

    My Life Right Now In A Sentence

    I too really enjoy solitude, and I also really hate loneliness. I recently moved to a new city in a completely different part of the country as I used to live in. I moved because I got a place at a new university that I really wanted to get in at. The studying is OK, but I am...
    tintinine tintinine
    22-25, F
    Jan 25, 2010

    Being Lonely And Being Alone Are Different Things.

    Hi! I'm 29 and for the better part of my life (which is to say as long as I can remember), I've always felt lonely. Even when I am with people I love and care about and who I am fairly certain enjoy my company, I still feel alone. I love being by myself, don't get me wrong. If...
    SirIntegra SirIntegra
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 25, 2010

    I've always generally enjoyed time alone,

    I've never been that interested in social gatherings or the like, I prefer spending time on my own things. However I must admit I do have problems with loneliness, not so much for the lack of contact with people, more for the lack of connection I have with people, even my own...
    Azero1 Azero1
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 25, 2014

    Compromises

    Solitude allows me to sleep in this bed by myself and not be bothered by another body, I can do all the embarrassing things I want and never have to check myself. I can be naked when ever I feel and I can be as loud as I want. I'm on my own schedule and I don't have to share, I...
    LilletBlan LilletBlan
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 10, 2012

    I can be solitary in a crowd of people

    if my thoughts captivate me and distract me. Loneliness, however, is something you find the cure for! Feeling lonely is not being able to even talk with yourself!
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 26, 2014

    I Like Being Alone...

    ...and one of the reasons why I've been hanging on to my telecommuting job for nearly three years is that I don't have to deal with anybody face to face and I don't even have to go out of the house. I don't want to deal with coworkers or bosses in person anymore. I'm not sure...
    midnightowl midnightowl
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 20, 2008

    For the longest time I felt like I needed to

    separate myself from the world. So one day I did it... I can't say it's not selfish. I can't say I didn't lose respect from my peers over it. I know they think I'm weird now. Maybe I am, I just got over trying to prove to people otherwise. I can't relate to what people care...
    EtherealRecluse EtherealRecluse
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Oct 16, 2015

    Feelings Of Possibility

    It might seem absurd but solitude gives me a feeling of possibility. When there are others around, the world is made of bricks and steel, glass and paper and there is no room for the impossible, the unimaginable, the unexplainable. Mystery, magic, hope, joy, ecstasy are things...
    Aptrick Aptrick
    36-40, M
    Aug 24, 2011

    A Lonely King Searches For His Queen...

    Nobody wants to be lonely. Than why is it so hard for folks to stick together? ? Or am i just doing something wrong??.. I often beat myself up with self critique. But as i am a good hearted man, i feel i deserve a certain amount of energy. The same amount of energy that i am...
    johnnylongtime johnnylongtime
    31-35, M
    Sep 6, 2013

    What's the point of claiming you're lonely

    when you know nothing will help, especially when you yearn solitude? As hard as it might be to admit, I'm pretty lonely myself sometimes, but I know that writing that here will have no effect on that loneliness. I'm sure I decided a long time ago that If I can't make myself...
    LoveKnowledgeOverAll LoveKnowledgeOverAll
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 26, 2015

    im always switching between solitude

    and loneliness in the daytime i enjoy my solitude to the fullest, i dont even notice that im alone. but when it gets dark and the evening draws in i wish i had a lady by my side to cuddle with and do some other stuff with. and i start to feel very lonely. i hate going to sleep...
    sabbracaddabraa sabbracaddabraa
    22-25, M
    1 Response Sep 9, 2014

    I notice that when I'm at work

    and forced to have conversations throughout the day I come home mentally exhausted. However, I've also noticed when I spend a weekend alone I get in a weird mood. I start to overthink which isn't good. Perhaps being forced to be around peeps all week causes me to retreat on the...
    CovertInk CovertInk
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 4, 2015

    I thought i was loved

    until 2 days ago i found out my fiancé of 5 years the father of my 18 month little girl has been playing away behind my back with other women.. I feel so heartbroken so unloved the only thing keeping me so strong is my beautiful little girl
    blondiestacey22 blondiestacey22
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2014

    It's true but the reality of it all is

    that I don't have a true friend. I don't have a best friend who can share my problems, who can understand what I mean even if I can't put the words together correctly. Am I asking to much by saying I want a bestfriend in my life? Someone who is like me and isn't afraid to take...
    Gus1996 Gus1996
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jan 8, 2014

    I like to be by myself some times

    so I have space to think and just enjoy the peace and quiet but I hate being lonely because I feel like no one cares about me
    BSFG BSFG
    13-15, F
    1 Response Nov 29, 2015

    When I saw this group's title I was like,

    holy hell, I couldn't describe this phenomenon any better than this. I am a loner by most standards. I am the most content when I'm in my own space, but just because I do enjoy my solitude, doesn't mean that I want to be lonely. I love knowing that there are people who are on...
    JadedUnicorn JadedUnicorn
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Nov 27, 2015

    Solitude is making love to the person

    who is on your heart, loneliness is being raped.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 18, 2014

    7 AM, the usual morning lineup: Start on the

    chores and sweep 'til the floor's all clean Polish and wax, do laundry, and mop and shine up Sweep again, and by then it's like 7:15. And so I'll read a book Or maybe two or three I'll add a few new paintings to my gallery I'll play guitar and knit And cook and basically Just...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 7, 2014

    I May Be Overreacting

    i am hearing noises. more specifically when its quiet. i hear a distant noise, kind of like a notification or ringtone, but vague. yesterday i thought i heard screaming, my friend next to me couldnt hear anything. im perfectly fine, right?
    Iamperfectlyfine Iamperfectlyfine
    16-17, M
    Apr 1, 2013
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