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I Escaped An Unhappy Marriage

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    Squashed - i very gradually realised how squashed i was in my marriage,my husband would :take care: of that.. which at first i found lovely but soon realised it was actually a...
    dirtylaugh dirtylaugh 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 16 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I have been married 8 years and been together with my wife for a total of 18 years. we had 2 small kids. for the past 4-5 years, we have not been working on our marriage but...
    needtotalk37 needtotalk37 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 1

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    Part 2: the warning signs The changes really started to happen in November. We had a vacation planned. On the vacation we did it 2 times, would have only been once but I yapped at...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    Very unhappily married and no sex now for 9yrs ! I told my husband we need to decide once we sale the house the route of our marriage I told him we can stay friends since we have...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 4

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    I have been married for 10 years and have three children with my wife. The last 2-3 years have not been enjoyable. I can't say that is due to any one incident or event, so my...
    canadiankid26 canadiankid26 36-40, M 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses 6 days ago

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    Eight years ago, I met my husband. I already had two children from a previous marriage and we had one more together. He has three children from a previous marriage. Up until...
    mmcpherson mmcpherson 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    from the first day of my marriage I feel that there is no chemistry between me and my wife, now we are two years marriage and one baby, thinking of divorce but worried about the...
    mohameddxb mohameddxb 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 18

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    Here I am back on this again to share with people who seem to get it. Still so stuck in this place and resenting him more and more every day. Now I will be out of a job soon to...
    wockyroad wockyroad 56-60, F 20 Responses Mar 17

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    We are not compatible at all!!! 17 yrs of marriage n 3 lovely kids
    cluelessboy cluelessboy 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 22

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    Is marriage about the acceptance of one's character and personality or a requirement for change? I am not getting along with my partner because he finds me too 'strong'. Is it that...
    anatriza anatriza 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    I have only been married 3 months and I'm confused why things have changed. My husband has completely turned into someone else. He used to want to spend every minute with me and...
    writer4ever writer4ever 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    My husband has definitely got a split personality. One minute he ignores me for weeks, doesn't support me or encourage me to do anything. I do everything for him. Then all off a...
    olivia2807 olivia2807 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have always loved the idea of someday finding the perfect guy for me and getting married in some fairy tale scenario. But as I got older and watched relationships around me fail...
    ariel2891 ariel2891 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Its a litle strange talking about my sexless life but i dont have anybody in my life to talk with. Im sorry if my english is not spelled right but its not my first language. I...
    easylistener easylistener 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 19

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    I believe in this so bad that I took the decision to end our marriage. I did everything possible to make it work and be happy. At times I do feel alone buy wouldn't have it any...
    newlifejuliana newlifejuliana 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    He moved out a week ago. It was getting excruciating to be able to look at him everyday and see that he is relieved and ready to move on. He went to sleep on a friends couch. I...
    Cucly80 Cucly80 31-35, F 19 Responses Mar 31

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    I remember when I worked in a jewelry store, there was a lot of people who told me that I was lucky to be single, because being in a relationship is just too stressful. Then, my...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M Mar 31

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    I'm waffling. Back and forth, one step forward, two steps back. I feel like this is the natural progression one makes when facing a life altering decision. I have reached the...
    tresses tresses 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 2

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    So I went and seen my counselor and followed through with what she suggested and tried to talk with my husband. The first question I asked him was why he didn't want anything to...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 7

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    Around five weeks ago I did it. I fired off my exit plan, worked through the anxiety and fear and depression, told her how unhappy I had been, and I left. That was one of the most...
    RecoveringCaffeineAddict RecoveringCaffeineAddict 31-35, M 12 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't know about that. I've been unhappy all my life. I know how to deal with it, to fake a smile, to pretend i am happy when i am dying inside. But to be alone, that's scary. I...
    LunaOanaAris LunaOanaAris 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    (Another old story of mine from my previous profile. I feel it's an important topic and it's something that's close to my heart) Gay Marriage I am fully in support of gay...
    PoeticTorture PoeticTorture 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 17

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    I just really wish people understood that it's NOT "alone AND unhappy". I'm perfectly satisfied going to a movie or having dinner by myself and yet people look at me funny when I...
    VirginneartheAtlantic VirginneartheAtlantic 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 18

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    Not that you can't be both alone and unhappy, but I have found that other people can make me a lot more miserable than I make myself. I can be sad a lot of times, in general...
    lookwhaticando lookwhaticando 22-25, F Mar 19

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    I knew someone once that met a nice guy, and they became a couple and moved in together. After a year or so, the guy asked if his best friend could move in the spare room because...
    aguythatknows aguythatknows 41-45, M Mar 20

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    I have never been as creative as I was when I was depressed. Even when I got happier, I was able to retain some of that creativity. It was amazing. I fell in love with it. I kind...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    I've been "alone" pretty much my whole life. It's awesome. No girlfriend, ever. 1 hook up. i used to dwell on it but now its really not that big if a deal. Besides, girls are just...
    datsyuk24 datsyuk24 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 1

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    Last night i had sinusitis i didnt slept well. It was a terrible night. I went to the school clinic in the morning and although i had an early appointment i waited for an hour. I...
    BlueFloraKae BlueFloraKae 18-21, F Apr 4

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    oh eventually being alone will make you unhappy. lose lose
    mstud17 mstud17 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses a week ago

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't believe in gay marriage. I believe in marriage. And I think that's between any two people that love each other. Man and man. Woman and man. Woman and woman. Or whatever you...
    emilyv97 emilyv97 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am married for only a few months now and my husband is drinking everyday and smokes weed. I knew he had this habit but never knew it was this bad. He spends a lot of money on his...
    ilhasol ilhasol 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses 6 days ago

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 2 days ago

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    Last year in June my husband of 18 years confessed to an online love affair with a lady from his company that began in April. She works in a different state hundreds of miles away...
    ydoideservethis ydoideservethis 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Venting again... I always wondered about the Madonna-***** complex and… here it is… seems like my husband is one of them. I needed some weeks to think about it after he told...
    dalessa dalessa 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 17

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    "The Dummies Guide To Ending A Sexless Marriage" or "How I Learned Not To Give Up Emotional and Physical Intimacy" by CherishMe2 Step 1: Acknowledge that the lack of emotional...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Mar 18

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    So I first came to EP years ago to discuss my sexless marriage. It has not been easy, a marriage with dwindling sex and now we are close to four years since we last tried. However...
    VanillaLife VanillaLife 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I am curious, if a person is not Christian then where do the guidelines for what to do in marriage come from? This isn't meant to be antagonistic at all, it is a question I have...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 16 Responses Mar 20

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    You think you have all the time in the world. You don’t. I live in a sexless marriage. I made major decisions and made many choices to live alongside a man who found it...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 26 Responses Mar 20