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I Escaped An Unhappy Marriage

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    i very gradually realised how squashed i was in my marriage,my husband would :take care: of that.. which at first i found lovely but soon realised it was actually a control thing. I went from being a feisty young lady to a lady who earned well and handed over every penny.I used...
    dirtylaugh dirtylaugh 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    Thinking about a lot this weekend. I've realized that using my child as the reason for staying in my unhappy marriage for so long, was just an excuse. An excuse to cover up the...
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 17 Responses Sep 28

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    Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy's staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Its easy to justify ourselves for not leaving an unhappy marriage. "I dont want to leave the kids", "We are going to therapy", "I cant afford it", and "He said he would change" are...
    RobertCarlos RobertCarlos 46-50, M 13 Responses Oct 9

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    Into the AbyssSo, I arrive for the third counseling session.  The building is a bit run-down with a 70’s sort of vibe.  The parking situation is an odd combination...
    mistery2me mistery2me 46-50, M 7 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Update. Last time I posted I was overwhelmed at how many responses I had. Some understood my struggle and some completely didn't get it. Reading it now I was pretty upset writing...
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 15 Responses Sep 27

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    What a lot of you don't know about me is that, in addition to a degree in journalism, I also have a degree in counseling. (I haven't used it - although I was a probation officer...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 9 Responses 1 hr ago

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    There’s a number of reasons why people live in sexless marriages, every married couple’s situation is different; you could talk to fifteen different couples and hear fifteen...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Major setback tonight. She told me that she wanted to play a concert that was just offered to her a week after her next hip surgery on 12/2. I was totally honest and open with...
    HopefulDude HopefulDude 36-40, M 10 Responses Oct 6

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    Hi everyone ..its my 1st time to try this blog..i do like the idea and i hope someone will listen to me one day in life.. Im a father for 2 sons , married since 6 years ago to my...
    NightHawk2020 NightHawk2020 31-35, M Oct 5

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    Hi everyone ..its my 1st time to try this blog..i do like the idea and i hope someone will listen to me one day in life.. Im a father for 2 sons , married since 6 years ago to my...
    NightHawk2020 NightHawk2020 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 5

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    I don't understand why people stay in an unhappy relationship, or why they don't do everything in their power to make it better. Infidelity seems like the deepest dishonesty I can...
    lovevolves8 lovevolves8 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 24

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    First off I am not someone to join a forum like this I usually keep things private, but I am interested in other peoples views especially women. I am a married man with 2 kids...
    Henjo24 Henjo24 26-30, M 8 Responses Oct 9

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    I have been married for the past 5 years. We have 2 kids 3 and 1 years old. I am with my kids all the time. Can't wait to leave work to see them. My husband on the other hand...
    carol723 carol723 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    We have known each other for 9 years: 1st year long distance, lived together for another 3 years and on/off long distance for the next 5, and then recently got married. Marriage...
    mewmy mewmy 26-30, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I am feeling lost, or losing a part of myself. I love my husband, and he loves me. But we have not had sex for 4 years. We actually are a very good team, we work together, we...
    LostSophya LostSophya 26-30, F 12 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    My wife and I have had a tumultuous last four weeks after approaching the brink of divorce for the second time in about a 30 month span after years of issues. Over a week we had...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 3 Responses Sep 26

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    So my husband and I met working at a restaurant together so I totally understand the crazy hours that are worked for our seasons...now I'm a stay at home mom and he's a chef...
    KristaWeise KristaWeise 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    We are unhappy but are our spouses happy, they want want to be in a sexless marriage, so who is the unreasonable one?
    celtusa celtusa 46-50, M 10 Responses Oct 9

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    I hate my life right now. I rushed into a marriage with a woman with three kids. She's a great woman but I just have major regret and resentment because I found out things after...
    tmantx tmantx 31-35, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I'm kind of at a phase in my marriage where I don't feel like being the good guy anymore. I don't want to put my best foot forward to make things as good as I can. I feel like if...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Bad day today. My husband has financially trapped me in our marriage so regardless how miserable he makes me I cannot just leave. I need a Prince Charming to sweep me off my feet...
    blondie529 blondie529 22-25, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've always wanted to get married but I'm afraid to ever do it. I see so many people on here and in real life that are bored or unhappy and wish they didn't get married. It's such...
    JustDevy JustDevy 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I was in a summer camp, and I were sleeping on raised platforms beneath a tent above ground. In the afternoon there was a huge thunderstorm and the ground was wet and soft, there...
    TetraZL TetraZL 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 2

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    I am a 36 yr old single mom with a 9 year old with my ex husband and a 2 year old with my ex fiance. I am so happy that I have by boys but I am very depressed by everyone else I...
    37butterfly37 37butterfly37 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 2

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    I'm lost in my marriage. It seems like we just can't work things out .Its been 12 years and still doesn't feel good. We don't have a relationship as husband and wife . We split...
    gucci78 gucci78 36-40, M Oct 9

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    A bit of self reflection going on for me. So, everything on the surface seems to be going well. Aside from the argument 2 weeks ago about her work choices and the blip about her...
    HopefulDude HopefulDude 36-40, M 4 Responses Oct 11

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    I am happy in my own company, and confident enough to say that if I ever were in a relationship that I was unhappy, I'd be headed for the door. I just dont see the point in...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 3 Responses Oct 9

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    I watched the Movie, "American Hustle", there was a scene when a woman was crying with her lover saying, "I am afraid of change". Change doesn't fear me. It excites me. I made a...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 12

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    Rediscovering Sex in a Sexless Marriage: Rediscovering sex - This is where things are at now. For those who are reading my story for the first time let me point out my marriage...
    Fireflyz26 Fireflyz26 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 2

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    never in my life have I been as genuinely unhappy as I am in this very moment. it's not just a thing or two anymore, everything has piled up and I can't take it
    hhem13 hhem13 18-21, F Sep 27

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    I have no desire to date at the moment, but when I do I won't choose out of desperation. I've never been desperate enough to just settle for anything. I'd rather be single, than...
    sweetaura sweetaura 26-30 Sep 30

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    I feel so unhappy in life and have so much on my chest, I don't even know if life is really even worth living. I know I could never actually do it but sometimes I just think things...
    xXxDreamer24xXx xXxDreamer24xXx 16-17, F Sep 30

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    Dori: What are you thinking about when you look out there ? Sandy Bates: Just, you know... All those people and you know how unhappy most of them are and those terrible things...
    dontcareforlabels dontcareforlabels 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 30

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    In your opinion , how much should you be unhappy to commit suicide؟
    nilz94 nilz94 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    THE TRUTH BEHIND THESE KINDS OF MARRIAGES.Last week, I wrote an article for my blog titled: Six Reasons That Your Marriage Will Fail. One of the areas that I highlighted was...
    MarredMind MarredMind 36-40, F 14 Responses Oct 15

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    My dad sent me this months ago when I told him I want to marry my boyfriend. I think this is fabulous advice and something refusing spouses have either forgotten or never learned...
    papaya6 papaya6 22-25, F 15 Responses Oct 3

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    So, I've posted previously, but its a been a long time. I've been married over 11 years, the vast majority of which which have been sexless. I've spoken to my wife countless times...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 22 Responses Oct 8

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    I feel very sad each time I read people talking bad abour marriage...comparing it to a prison...love cemetery...not knowing why they should marry...wanting to be eternal lovers...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 10 Responses Oct 10

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    To my fellow suffers I have a question. Let me first say that I know I'm an idiot. I married my first wife when I was 26 y.o.a. and I had some red flags but I thought I could fix...
    Nick5211 Nick5211 51-55, M 4 Responses Oct 11

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    My wife's best friend is divorcing her husband, who is one of my good friends. She said things were bad for a while, and somehow it escalated past the point of therapy. They never...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 9 Responses Sep 27

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    Well I did it. I took everyones advice in ILIASM, and I consulted an attorney in the event that I may need to pull the parachute on my marriage. Thank you Bazaar for hammering this...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 8

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    I am a doctor and went through some of the experiences on this site.... Felt like i should also share some of my experiences which i faced in my life.... Yes Doctors are not immune...
    saiprasadbhavsar saiprasadbhavsar 26-30, M Oct 9

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    Slaying Dragons: A Sleepless Journey Into Oppositeland… Having spent over a year wandering in Oppositeland, the refuge for escapees from a sexless marriage, I am experiencing...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 15 Responses Oct 11

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    I feel like this experience us turning me into an emotional Jekyll and Hide... In the morning, when domestic life goes on as it must, I feel inclined to be patient, more forgiving...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 28

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    Hi I am new to this forum but I have had the opportunity to read posts and study them. I feel less lonely now and realize that my experience is shared by many. I decided to post as...
    FantasticNJGuy FantasticNJGuy 41-45, M 12 Responses Oct 7

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    I found this on the Christian Broadcast Network. I think it highlights the fundamental failures of Refusers in Marriage and how not honoring the vows ultimately will destroy the...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 10