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I Escaped An Unhappy Marriage

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    i very gradually realised how squashed i was in my marriage,my husband would :take care: of that.. which at first i found lovely but soon realised it was actually a control thing. I went from being a feisty young lady to a lady who earned well and handed over every penny.I used...
    dirtylaugh dirtylaugh 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    shellseagirl shellseagirl 41-45, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Everything is ok but sex. Yes, I know; those are the most unpopular words here. Those who dare to utter them are frequently treated with …….. But I just wanted to give some...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 8 Responses Sep 2

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    Nobody around me knows how unhappy my marriage is. I keep this secret like another weight added to my shoulders . I have nobody to talk to about how I feel and what I could do . My...
    piscean1965 piscean1965 46-50, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Live with it, or leave. I don't understand why someone would stay in a relationship/marriage when they are unhappy. I think its more simple than what everyone may think. Eliminate...
    miracle98 miracle98 18-21, F 16 Responses Sep 1

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses a week ago

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    Solitairediamond posted a phrase basically saying doing things out of duty depletes you, while doing them out of love energizes you. While I agree to an extent with her thoughts...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel I can not carry this burden of sadness any longer,my marriage has been lonely for so long.My husband and I had not been intimate for years he did not approach me avoided and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 5

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    I did not write the following but it is a great take on what an open marriage is like and what it should be like. I found this article at Salon.com. What I learned from dating...
    sosexyincolo sosexyincolo 36-40 2 Responses Sep 11

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    Tomorrow is our 8th anniversary. I haven't gotten my husband anything yet. Our marriage is a mess, to say the least. Two years ago he FORGOT our anniversary, and I was...
    wasguzie wasguzie 41-45, F 10 Responses Aug 28

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    I've been married 25 years. When the sexless time of our marriage first started about 5 years ago on and off, mostly off now a days, I was angry. I loved on, had an affair, moved...
    Iamhellonwheels Iamhellonwheels 41-45, F 26 Responses Aug 28

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    My heart and my head are so confused..I feel like someone is dying but it's my marriage.. And I have be the one to pull the plug with extremely shaky hands.
    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 31

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    New to all of this. Help please I feel like my marriage is falling apart and I don't know what to do. My husband and I have been married for 9 years and have been together for 10...
    hopeful1220 hopeful1220 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    He up and quit his job today. We have a 19 month old and he just goes and quits. I'm so mad and worried. I am so close to wanting to call it quits with my marriage.
    MegMichelle29 MegMichelle29 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 2

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    For everyone who may be unhappily married please do not give up or lose hope. If you are in the UK I have the perfect opportunity for you it's called the "Love School Event...
    dannirsj dannirsj 18-21 Sep 9

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    I read an article recently about the turning point people had that defined the end of their marriage. I am not saying this is the last straw, but certainly adding to the pile. My...
    runnfree runnfree 36-40, M 4 Responses Sep 10

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    I have been married for 6 months now and it just seems like nothing ever goes right. My husband and I should still be in our honeymoon stage but it seems like we are so far apart...
    lonelygirl3355 lonelygirl3355 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 12

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    Maybe I made my decision too fast. I met my husband last summer and started dating 3 months later. He gave me a proposal in last December and I said "Yes"... He sort of begged me...
    Saya0414 Saya0414 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 12

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    I will try to describe my sexless marriage. We have been together for a long time. We met in high school and were each others first lovers. Both of us were shy and insecure and...
    Amaaj Amaaj 46-50, F 12 Responses 2 days ago

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    I escaped from a depression Happy i did.... Meh family still fighting, still looking for friends etc But at least now i dont feel the pain that i use to everyday and the darkness...
    InfiniteMusic InfiniteMusic 13-15, M Aug 27

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    It's curious how people who know you well respond when you tell them you're divorcing your spouse due to lack of intimacy. I've been busy informing my family and close friends...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 34 Responses Aug 23

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    Almost two months ago, I had THE moment when life hit me in the head with a brick. A rude inconsiderate comment the STBX made to something I said when he and I were having a...
    TheMaverickWoman TheMaverickWoman 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 29

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    What's wrong with you? What's wrong in you just giving that reassuring touch on the arm, what is wrong with you when you blame me for asking why we do not have sex anymore? what's...
    saxappeal saxappeal 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    I'm not sure where to start, I've never written down my problems or feelings. All I know is I'm not happy and it doesn't seem to bother my husband. We've been together nearly 6...
    LittleLep LittleLep 26-30, F 24 Responses 6 days ago

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    Turns out a friend is a refuser. This explains many things she has described about her husband's behavior (accusing her of cheating, reading her emails over her shoulder, etc.). We...
    ghostofacheerfulowl ghostofacheerfulowl 36-40, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    Yep ... I've been through too much to not take what I've learned from past mistakes and apply them to my life. Why would I choose unhappiness for myself? Being alone does not...
    StarLily71 StarLily71 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 8

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    I've been feeling unhappy. I came back from an amazing 4 week precollege experience at an art school, and now I'm home and I'm just the weird girl again. I feel like I'm traveling...
    jentile jentile 16-17, F Aug 28

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    I made that choice. I am very lonely, BUT... Due to a touch of Aspergers (and because the world moves on without me in some ways) I am pretty much always alone. So there I was...
    zmedleff1 zmedleff1 41-45 2 Responses Aug 29

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    It kills My soul to see a person unhappy. And I just wish that they could have some kind of happiness in their lives.
    NegativePulse NegativePulse 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 13

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    I've had times in my life were I'd been so let down by friends who just disappeared because they didn't want to know, especially after my accident that put me in this frame of mind...
    Wheels64 Wheels64 46-50, M 5 days ago

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    I am married and am unhappy. We fight often. It has gotten much worse since my son was born. We both have been unfaithful at various times in our relationship. Her most recent...
    dcguy123 dcguy123 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheMaverickWoman TheMaverickWoman 36-40, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 22 Responses a week ago

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 16 Responses 3 days ago

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    Being Perfect - One commonality I've discerned among our Refusers is their firm belief that there is nothing wrong with them ("them" being people who avoid having sex with their...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 22 Responses Sep 8

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    I know this is very sad to say but I don't believe in true love or marriages anymore. It is because of the kind of marriage I'm in currently. I used to think when I get married it...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F Aug 28

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8