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I Escaped An Unhappy Marriage

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    i very gradually realised how squashed i was in my marriage,my husband would :take care: of that.. which at first i found lovely but soon realised it was actually a control thing. I went from being a feisty young lady to a lady who earned well and handed over every penny.I used...
    dirtylaugh dirtylaugh 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    For those staying in miserable sexless marriages "for the sake of the kids": "On Monday, one Redditor grappling with that very question went straight to the source, asking those...
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    Unhappy. I am very unhappy. Today, I realized how messed up my life is. My best friend doesn't even give a **** about me. My friends insult me endlessly. No one actually really...
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    I have been married 8 years and been together with my wife for a total of 18 years. we had 2 small kids. for the past 4-5 years, we have not been working on our marriage but...
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    Does anyone really leave this group without leaving the marriage? I don't think its possible, interested to hear opinions. Thanks.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 6 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Part 2: the warning signs The changes really started to happen in November. We had a vacation planned. On the vacation we did it 2 times, would have only been once but I yapped at...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    Very unhappily married and no sex now for 9yrs ! I told my husband we need to decide once we sale the house the route of our marriage I told him we can stay friends since we have...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 4

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    I have been married for 10 years and have three children with my wife. The last 2-3 years have not been enjoyable. I can't say that is due to any one incident or event, so my...
    canadiankid26 canadiankid26 36-40, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm a little bit tired of sexlessness one-up-manship that's been taking place in this forum recently. We haven't had sex in 15 months.... Reply: that's nothing We've had sex...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 22 Responses 1 day ago

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 11

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    Eight years ago, I met my husband. I already had two children from a previous marriage and we had one more together. He has three children from a previous marriage. Up until...
    mmcpherson mmcpherson 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I don't even know what to say. I love my family - they are my family. But they make me so unhappy at the same time. I want to walk out the door but I know that will hurt them...
    iamsumwun2 iamsumwun2 31-35, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Is marriage about the acceptance of one's character and personality or a requirement for change? I am not getting along with my partner because he finds me too 'strong'. Is it that...
    anatriza anatriza 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    I have only been married 3 months and I'm confused why things have changed. My husband has completely turned into someone else. He used to want to spend every minute with me and...
    writer4ever writer4ever 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    My husband has definitely got a split personality. One minute he ignores me for weeks, doesn't support me or encourage me to do anything. I do everything for him. Then all off a...
    olivia2807 olivia2807 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 15

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    I have always loved the idea of someday finding the perfect guy for me and getting married in some fairy tale scenario. But as I got older and watched relationships around me fail...
    ariel2891 ariel2891 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not...
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    He moved out a week ago. It was getting excruciating to be able to look at him everyday and see that he is relieved and ready to move on. He went to sleep on a friends couch. I...
    Cucly80 Cucly80 31-35, F 19 Responses Mar 31

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    I remember when I worked in a jewelry store, there was a lot of people who told me that I was lucky to be single, because being in a relationship is just too stressful. Then, my...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M Mar 31

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    I'm waffling. Back and forth, one step forward, two steps back. I feel like this is the natural progression one makes when facing a life altering decision. I have reached the...
    tresses tresses 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 2

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    So I went and seen my counselor and followed through with what she suggested and tried to talk with my husband. The first question I asked him was why he didn't want anything to...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 7

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    Around five weeks ago I did it. I fired off my exit plan, worked through the anxiety and fear and depression, told her how unhappy I had been, and I left. That was one of the most...
    RecoveringCaffeineAddict RecoveringCaffeineAddict 31-35, M 12 Responses Apr 10

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    I recently decided to go the outsource route, and although the thrill of it was exciting I only felt more alone afterwards. I didn't have sex but I think or know I probably would...
    LBiddy LBiddy 36-40, F 15 Responses 2 days ago

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    I don't know about that. I've been unhappy all my life. I know how to deal with it, to fake a smile, to pretend i am happy when i am dying inside. But to be alone, that's scary. I...
    LunaOanaAris LunaOanaAris 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    I'm happiest when I am alone. Being surrounded by people makes me unhappy. I hate crowds, and I hate being with a large group of people. If I ever go out with friends, I like it...
    ForeverIsOver ForeverIsOver 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've been "alone" pretty much my whole life. It's awesome. No girlfriend, ever. 1 hook up. i used to dwell on it but now its really not that big if a deal. Besides, girls are just...
    datsyuk24 datsyuk24 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 1

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    Last night i had sinusitis i didnt slept well. It was a terrible night. I went to the school clinic in the morning and although i had an early appointment i waited for an hour. I...
    BlueFloraKae BlueFloraKae 18-21, F Apr 4

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    oh eventually being alone will make you unhappy. lose lose
    mstud17 mstud17 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    For so many years I was unhappy, for so many years I felt ignored and rejected. Nothing changing, ever staying, every day the day the same. We've spilt at lot but for some reason...
    anonbeing anonbeing 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses Apr 15

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    I don't believe in gay marriage. I believe in marriage. And I think that's between any two people that love each other. Man and man. Woman and man. Woman and woman. Or whatever you...
    emilyv97 emilyv97 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 13

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 31 Responses 6 days ago

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    Not to be confused with forced marriage. I am very rational when it comes to marriage, and believe this is why mine has been successful so far. To many people it sounds wrong that...
    esmeraldream esmeraldream 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    Ive been married for 13 y. And Ive been living in a sexless marriage for the past 4 or 5 maybe more. We have three kids and there was always an excuse for not having sex with...
    aking1973 aking1973 41-45, M 14 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 14 Responses Apr 10

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses Apr 14

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    Last year in June my husband of 18 years confessed to an online love affair with a lady from his company that began in April. She works in a different state hundreds of miles away...
    ydoideservethis ydoideservethis 36-40, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Another thing missing from this sexless marriage, besides intimacy, love and respect is fun and laughter. (Jeez, what exactly do I get from this marriage) I thought that I had...
    Gingersnapped Gingersnapped 51-55, F 13 Responses Mar 25

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    There are 2 whys in the sexless marriage. The first is: why does my spouse not want sex? This leads to a huge cycle of reason-chasing, smokescreening from the refuser, magical...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses