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I Escaped An Unhappy Marriage

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    i very gradually realised how squashed i was in my marriage,my husband would :take care: of that.. which at first i found lovely but soon realised it was actually a control thing. I went from being a feisty young lady to a lady who earned well and handed over every penny.I used...
    dirtylaugh dirtylaugh 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    Live with it, or leave. I don't understand why someone would stay in a relationship/marriage when they are unhappy. I think its more simple than what everyone may think. Eliminate...
    miracle98 miracle98 18-21, F 16 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    We unfortunately are probably not an atypical couple, but here's our experience anyway. We met online in 2001, back when it was still a rarity, she was still in school doing her...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 14

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    We unfortunately are probably not an atypical couple, but here's our experience anyway. We met online in 2001, back when it was still a rarity, she was still in school doing her...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 19 Responses Aug 14

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    Not really an experience, more of a question. If the marriage has gone so far that you are or have separated / divorced, what was the reason listed? I'm struggling with listing...
    brian29715 brian29715 36-40, M 7 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I've been married for almost one year and we've fought before the marriage and after marriage countless times. We've spent 8 years together and the last 5 years was amazing and now...
    qoep qoep 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 4

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    Hello everyone. I've not been here in over a year. If you read my other two post then I can tell you that nothing has changed. Same S different day as they say. It is now my...
    IrisROE IrisROE 56-60, F 14 Responses Aug 6

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    Hi. New here and posting fir the first time. Hoping it helps to vent. Married for 20 plus years. No physical contact in the last year. Only reset sex once every 3 or 4 months, at...
    Butitsallovernow Butitsallovernow 46-50, M 27 Responses Aug 2

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    A tense conversation this morning, but not an explosion. Is that progress? My wife accused me of not listening to her when she was ranting about the counselor. She said that "a...
    ImBatmanNow ImBatmanNow 51-55, M 11 Responses Aug 22

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    Well. It is finally official. I am divorced! After all the craziness, after years of sexless marriage and emotional distance, after emotional and physical abuse, after having an...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 22

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    I have addressed the envelope and will mail it soon... sigh. It's really over. I went through these weird phases. I lived the status quo, my whole life was about him. Then I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 10

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    On our 10 yr anniversary, last yr, I thought we had a great time over drinks and dinner. When we got home, after putting the kids to bed, everything changed. Our kids, like most...
    txhouswife42 txhouswife42 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 11

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    Had an interesting experience today with the wife...wanted some opinions on it. As some background, it's quite clear that we have issues with our relationship - we've had a...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 7 Responses Aug 15

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    I am just beyond sad. I have been married for a year and my husband had an emotional affair with someone for most of that year. Not to mention he's just the type to become self...
    caradeluna caradeluna 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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    Tomorrow is our 8th anniversary. I haven't gotten my husband anything yet. Our marriage is a mess, to say the least. Two years ago he FORGOT our anniversary, and I was...
    wasguzie wasguzie 41-45, F 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've been married 25 years. When the sexless time of our marriage first started about 5 years ago on and off, mostly off now a days, I was angry. I loved on, had an affair, moved...
    dyingalittleeveryday dyingalittleeveryday 41-45, F 19 Responses 4 days ago

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    My heart and my head are so confused..I feel like someone is dying but it's my marriage.. And I have be the one to pull the plug with extremely shaky hands.
    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Okay, i will come on here and will put it like this. My posts are how i am feeling on the subject. By all means feel free to go back and read all my posts, but DO NOT come out...
    Rednkfireftr Rednkfireftr 31-35, M 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I escaped from a depression Happy i did.... Meh family still fighting, still looking for friends etc But at least now i dont feel the pain that i use to everyday and the darkness...
    InfiniteMusic InfiniteMusic 13-15, M 5 days ago

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    I recently got back with my husband . For several reasons I had decided to leave him and move on . However ,he convinced me to give him another shot and I was so stupid enough to...
    riaa777 riaa777 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    Why do people stay? I have asked myself this question a million times lately. Is it fear? Is it normalcy? Routine? People are creatures of habbit. Do people stay until they find...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 41-45, F 18 Responses Aug 9

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    So late breaking development....my wife comes downstairs about an hour ago to my home office, which is very unusual as she very rarely bothers me during the work day in personally...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 23 Responses Aug 18

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    It's been sliding for years. It started out great, we had good sex often. Then as the years slid by the pace dropped. Not much, and it didn't bother either of us. Then my wife got...
    Leathlobhair Leathlobhair 36-40, M 12 Responses Aug 19

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    It's curious how people who know you well respond when you tell them you're divorcing your spouse due to lack of intimacy. I've been busy informing my family and close friends...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 34 Responses Aug 23

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    Almost two months ago, I had THE moment when life hit me in the head with a brick. A rude inconsiderate comment the STBX made to something I said when he and I were having a...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    “Why should I, as a gay man, be denied the same right to file a joint tax return with my potential husband that a straight couple has?” Very helpful answer by Ryan T. Anderson...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 1

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    I can't stand her ... It's been 11 years of nothing to look back on . I can't believe this is my life . I need a huge spark in my life . Life is to short to live this unhappy ..
    1goodfella 1goodfella 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 5

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    i'd rather be alone and happy than being out with people but unhappy.
    buttney buttney 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    I am so outrageously unhappy right now and need to vent. I have no close friends, why?, we moved around all my life and the older you get; the harder it seems to be. So.... Ya...
    Keekeem Keekeem 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I've been feeling unhappy. I came back from an amazing 4 week precollege experience at an art school, and now I'm home and I'm just the weird girl again. I feel like I'm traveling...
    jentile jentile 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    I made that choice. I am very lonely, BUT... Due to a touch of Aspergers (and because the world moves on without me in some ways) I am pretty much always alone. So there I was...
    zmedleff1 zmedleff1 41-45 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    Moving on: I am packing up my office and my home this week. I am moving out of state and starting a new job. ( I have posted part of this update a little earlier.) But a posting...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    Marriage is not always easy. Nothing is always easy. However, when you say those marriage vows, you are making a promise to God and to the one you are marrying that you will be...
    chellekaye chellekaye 46-50 Aug 10

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    Thanks to all the great feedback I’ve been getting here, I’ve been able to process a lot of what’s going on in my marriage. Most of it is simply about clarity rather than any...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 14

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    Why Did We Get Married? - My STBX continues to struggle with my decision to divorce him, yet my conviction to break free grows stronger everyday since I triggered our divorce...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Aug 17

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    You can cry all day long and pray, but that's not going to move God to work on your situation. He does hear your cry and undertand your needs, but that's not faith and faith is...
    Brandnue Brandnue 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses 5 days ago

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    A couple more signs of marital recovery. I keep telling the betrayed wives who message me, focus on actions, not words. My husband said all the right words when he cheated. But...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 17

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    I got married at 16 and my husband was 26, and there were a lot of people that said it would never last. Although most of my family were supportive I know behind my back there...
    Redneckmom1992 Redneckmom1992 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    Broken Home - I'm intrigued by a recent post from LaoTzu about the definition of a "broken home". Many of us have stayed in our dysfunctional marriages and opted not to divorce...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 18

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 7 Responses Aug 21

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    I just came to EP, looking for solace as a OW. I found myself looking at "I live in a sexless marriage" stories. Made me think, 49k people have something to say. Maybe, just maybe...
    greeneyes41 greeneyes41 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    Some thoughts on forgiveness. When I first posted here 3 years ago, I was struggling with forgiveness. My situation is very unusual for this place, in being a "success" story...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 10 Responses Aug 13

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses 1 day ago

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