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I Expect People To Disappoint Me

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    Saves Me From Saying 'i Never Expected That From Him/her'

    I don't expect much from people these days because it usually leads to a heartache.Life seems to be much simpler this way.
    ImperfectionsMakeUsUnique ImperfectionsMakeUsUnique 22-25, F Aug 18, 2012

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    I Know It's Sad

    I've just been disappointed and hurt so many times it's hard to trust.
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 14, 2011

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    Low Expectations

    I have low expectations of people, but sometimes they still manage to disappoint me. I'm not naming names, but yeah.
    cyberkitty cyberkitty 18-21 7 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    Young And Hurt

    i find it way to hard to trust because every one lets me down, family friends every one and enyone. i find it easier to be alone some times then to have some one there because i a scard to death they will let me down
    gmtg1 gmtg1 13-15, F Nov 27, 2012

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    I Do

    I expect them to dispoint me and they certainly don't let me down when it comes to dispointement. Ironic!
    ThomsonRania ThomsonRania 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 21, 2012

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    Disappointment

    recently I have had an opportunity to go to London for 2 weeks with some family members to basically just have fun. My mother woke me up from my sleep saying " do you want to go to London???" in a very happy tone. Of course, I jumped out of happiness and said yes!!.....i had...
    f4tys f4tys 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2013

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    Why Shouldn't I?

    It seems as if the world can only produce dissapoiting people...And I'm the first to place myself in that category too...maybe one has too many expectations about the rest...I personally think that I was looking too hard for people to be more that the scumbag that I am as a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 2, 2011

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    I Just Take It As Read Now

    It's happened so much in my life that I find it hard to think any differently I know sometimes I push people away because of it. I Now find it hard to get to close to people it is always at the back of my mind even through I try and shift it.I know not everyone is the same and...
    gelroller gelroller 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    If you feel that people are going to disappoint

    you. It's because you expect too much out of them. I have come to understand that the only person who's looking after you is YOU. Most Everybody else may help you but may also have a alterior motive. Ie: needing something in response. So if you don't want people to...
    socalsissi socalsissi 36-40, T Apr 5

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    Why Do We Love

    Search and search, but then we give in, I think we are more but want just .......sometimes........ need ....??
    dotellall dotellall 36-40 Aug 13, 2012

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    Great Expectations.

    I have often been asked why I have such a negative view of humanity. I've had several people tell me that I'm too negative and that if I expect good things from people, they will rise to the occasion. What do I think? That's a load of tripe. While growing up, I put trust in...
    alexisblatcher alexisblatcher 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 17, 2012

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    Eventuality...

    Here is something I have learned in my years on this planet... eventually, everyone you know will make you mad/let you down/disappoint you/upset you...even downright traumatize you... if you hang around them long enough. It just takes time, is all. Time for their quirks to get...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Apr 15, 2013

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    Disappointment By Men

    When I was a little girl I loved my Daddy more than anyone in the world! He WAS my world. As I was growing up I started noticing that my beloved Daddy chose my younger brother over me countless times. Now that I am grown I understand that my father didn't love my brother more...
    booboo84 booboo84 26-30, F Aug 4, 2012

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    Alone

    When I was a little younger, I had "friends" that would I would always hang around and then suddenly they would decide that they didn't want to be my friend and would tell me straight up that they didn't like me any more.It was like a tug of war because they would later...
    ArtFreak ArtFreak 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 22, 2008

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    Problem Keeps Getting Worse, Too

    I think it's because my father raised me to have such high standards; he exceeded every expectation anyone around him ever had and through exposure to him I took on that attitude, too. If I see a friend or family member in need of help, I give my all, because that's what I...
    Bighammer Bighammer 36-40, M 5 Responses Jul 8, 2010

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    A Cycle

    I've had this type of mentality for a while. Dont expect much and you wont be dissapointed, and when you actually do recieve its all the more sweeter. I realize its not the best mentality to live by but it protects me from being hurt anymore than I have to be. I've been...
    Lonneke Lonneke 21-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2007

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    Disappointing.

    Not to be a downer but it is so true that everyone will disappoint you at one time or another. Everyone will hurt you. Everyone will cause you pain. There is no avoiding it and no stopping it. That's why I love this quote: ‎"Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 24, 2011

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    Last Time I Help A Person Out

    Yesterday i was sitting on my couch doing what i most love to do, which happens to be my job as well, i was fixing clocks. It was four in the afternoon when my doorbell rang, it was my friend Jeremiah. I went to the door to see what he wanted and he told me he needed my help with...
    johnnycarny johnnycarny 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 13, 2013

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    -venting

    What was I thinking? What AM I thinking? I opened up. And maybe that was a bad idea, and maybe it wasn't. I don't even know anymore. But I've got to stop. Stop dreaming. You're falling back into that deep dark whole with no way to climb out. Get out now before it caves in on you...
    sincerelymetes sincerelymetes 16-17, F Jun 29, 2013

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    Not All People

    Just some of them. I am rarely surprised when I expect to be disappointed. I am often disappointed when I expect good things.
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F Oct 28, 2012

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    Life Lesson.

    During my life I got a lot of betrayals and backstabs. Maybe that's why, when I meet someone new, I always feel that they just want to use me. I can't let people get too close to me. I can't trust anyone.
    different33 different33 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 9, 2012

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    Expectation

    Expectations and disappointments are dancing partners; you can't have one without the other. If someone disappoints you. It's not their fault, it's yours. So, flip the pad and move on.
    TheLovingDominant TheLovingDominant 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 25, 2012

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    My Mom Dissapoints Me Alot

    When she plays pogo and I talk to her she says nothing sometimes. It feels she forgotten me! What did I ever do in the past that made my life miserable?! Cause once my neice and nephu was hugged and hurt. I got nothing but to cry. I asked if I could cuddle too but my big sis said...
    foreveralone627 foreveralone627 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 13, 2012

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    I Hate...

    I really hate when you try to show your special some one what you feel in many ways , they don't appreciate it at all and all you get back from them is Rejection sometimes it's good to lay off and then maybe then they would appreciate. That's the problem of being attached to...
    falling0111 falling0111 18-21 Jul 18, 2013

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    Saves A Lot Of Trouble

    I figure, if I expect the worst of people, than when they do something great, it is a lot more special, it also helps to not get attached.
    Bat258 Bat258 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 15, 2013

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    Another Unhappy Birthday

    No one made an effort to make today special for me.  No gift.  No card.  No flowers.  No cake.  No candles.  Nobody even wished me a happy birthday until halfway through the day my son sent me a text message. I don't live alone - have a husband...
    sassyg1rl sassyg1rl 36-40, F 6 Responses Jun 2, 2010

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    Everyone Has Disappointed Me So Far

    It's true that everyone i have let in and become close to has disappointed me so far....so of course i am going to expect people to disappoint me from this point on. I don't think i can ever find anyone who won't. People usually say they won't, but they shouldn't say that if they...
    alwaysalone alwaysalone 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Because Its My Life Now

    Everywhere around me is dissapointment, with everyone except like 3 people everyone else bounds to dissapointment me soone ror later so cos of that i refuse to have -friends- unless they prove to me there worthy of it no one is ever a friend anymore . I have 3 people i call...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 25, 2012

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    I Just Dont Have Fake Expectations

    Well... Not that Im thinking that this person or that will disappoint me. It is just that I don't expect they never to hurt me... or to walk away without a trace. Because people is free... so why should anyone expect anything from anyone else... I have learned to be my best...
    Calipri Calipri 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 6, 2012

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    I Will Always Expect The Worst.

    People have asked me why do I always expect the worst from people. People have asked why do I have so much negative energy running through me. I've put a lot of trust into people I thought could keep that trust safe in their hearts. I've put trust into those who I thought had...
    BeingSara BeingSara 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 18, 2012

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    You Disappoint Me

    How can I count on anybody when everybody has let me down my whole life. They say one thing and do another. Saying they will be there and never show up or would call and say they can't make it. Some would even go as far as to give excuses by they can't. Trust? I don't. I might...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2013

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    Lie To Me... Forever.

    "You're my best friend." Let's hang out." "Don't worry, I'll have it for you." "I won't hurt you." "I love you." Lies, lies, lies. That's why I'm sick of everyone. I don't have friends, I don't have family. Just strangers who lie to me or get in my way. And there's not a damn...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 7 Responses Oct 31, 2010

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    Disappointment Expected

    One disappointment after another. Disappointment around every corner..... ONE...... BIG...... ONGOING....... Disappointment...... CHEER up you have more disappointments to look forward to......
    throwawaychild throwawaychild 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 24, 2013

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    I Always Disappoint Others, It's Only Natural They Do The Same.

    I don't trust people to be good or nice because it makes no logical sense for them to be. I don't understand why someone would do something for someone who they are close to and not for a complete stranger. A person's a person, regardless of how close the two of you are...
    sharpenom sharpenom 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 3, 2012

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    Disappointed

    I have begun to see. That if I don't expect anything. Then I don't get hurt either. So I have no expections when meeting anyone. Because if you let down the shield you get hurt. Not many people get me. And that is fine. But it is lonely. Peace
    butterflylady21 butterflylady21 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2012

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    False happiness..... Why get your hopes up

    if you know they'll be smashed to pieces in the end? Why believe an empty promise? Why believe anyone?...... Now that is the story of my life
    Nishanae Nishanae 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    Insanity?

    Sadly, I expect people to disappoint me, and I still give them a chance. I want to be surprised just one time, but that has yet to happen. Probably never will. Isn't this considered the definition of insane?
    lollerskeeball lollerskeeball 22-25, M Aug 5, 2012

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    Everything Seemed So Perfect....

    Last Sunday, upon going into the Home Depot, I met someone. I usually don't meet men, because well....take it from me....I'm not everyone's first choice. In fact, I have never been anyone's first choice. Nor have I ever gone on a date, experienced love, or anything of the sort...
    observantautistic observantautistic 18-21, F Oct 30, 2012

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    There's Nothing Wrong With You Face

    Love is all over the place. I don't hate you. I take you at your word that you care for me. There isn't anything left to say.
    Aw8ingf8 Aw8ingf8 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2010

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    I Used To Work Nights

    I worked a night shift for a number of years, which pretty much precluded having a social life because I only had two nights free. One of those nights was a recurring, standing date with my partner. The other, for the most part, I wanted to myself, to rest, or maybe do...
    SomeDudeNearBoston SomeDudeNearBoston 46-50, M Apr 19, 2013

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    Hope In A Misguided World

    I have lost all hope in humanity, but occasionally I am surprised. Those surprises are cherished, with an effervescence of extreme gratitude for those individuals who prove me wrong. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, I am taken aback, making me reflect on the person I...
    UnderstandingMe UnderstandingMe 18-21, M Feb 20, 2012

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    Sadly

    Though the years I have drastically reduced the number of people that I truly consider friends. There are many reasons for this, the main reason is that I was always the one doing the bending over backwards, going out of my way just to see a smile Etc. One by one these so...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 21 Responses May 31, 2009

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    Men On Ep Lol

    I find myself in the midst of a great story. I am exploring another side of me. I didn't join EP to be the person that I am in real life but something else. When you asked me for a pic, to role play, if you can phone me, or use a web cam with you.  I told you no pics, no web...
    misery22 misery22 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2012

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    They Always Have

    You almost have to expect it not just because it us a way of the world to sometimes be disappointed but because it's the only way not to get hurt If you expect people to disappoint you then you never expect them to do anything that wont let you down- i learned this the hard way...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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    Bound To Happen

    I expect it that way I'm not let down on a daily basis.. people are human, we fuhk up all the time myself included.  From lil things like getting my order wrong in the drive thru to big things like friends letting ya down when ya need em.  Chit happens, I've learned to not only...
    whisperingsunshine whisperingsunshine 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 29, 2011

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    No I Am Not a Negative Thinkin...

    No I am not a negative thinking person.
    gumbygirl gumbygirl 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 19, 2007

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    Snuffed

    I remember that I used to be a bright, happy person I viewed the future with enthusiam I use to think people were nice Looking back now, I see that I had a naive sense of optimism I thought anything was possible and the world was mine to conquer After my twentieth year, that...
    1goldenapple 1goldenapple 22-25, F Apr 1, 2013

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    Everyone has their own way of showing themselves of what they are and who they are.  All of us has differences so, if he/she disappoints me...i wouldn't care less because we're not perfect at all. 
    WandaFull27 WandaFull27 26-30, F Jan 19, 2007

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    Linger

    Everyone leaves you eventually...it's just a matter of when the inevitable happens.
    1goldenapple 1goldenapple 22-25, F Aug 2, 2013

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    To Be Normal

    I expect people to disappoint me every day...because they do. They accept their ordinary lives, in spite of their extraordinary dreams. They accept war, though they want peace. They accept censorship, though they dream of freedom. They accept autocracy, though they believe in...
    flirtswithdisaster flirtswithdisaster 26-30, M 10 Responses Aug 24, 2007

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    Isn't That Sad?!??

    I never, ever expect anyone to come through with what they say or anything.  Because 99% of the time they don't.  I really feel that I can't trust anyone in that respect.  Nobody cares enough about to keep promises.  Maybe I should just not be...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    I've Always Been Let Down.

    I was bought up round drink and drugs so my family had more 'important' things to buy. As a 16 year old girl i 'fell in love' but was cheated on numerous times. When i fell pregnant by this guy he dumped me because i wouldnt tell him i was pregnant over the phone whilst he was...
    swimorsink swimorsink 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 30, 2011

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    It's been just over 24hrs since the anaesthetic wore off, and my stitches are pulling under the heavy bandaging. Theatre surgeons freak me out, I don't know if it's their blue...
    cavedweller2 cavedweller2 36-40, F 54 mins ago

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