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I Fear For Women In Violent Relationships

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    Too Scared To Fight Back

    Having been on the end of domestic violence recently I can now understand what someone goes through and how scared you become, too scared to say anything for fear of what they will do next.....like they say, everything happens behind closed doors....in my case even the neighbour...
    jan1960 jan1960 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 11, 2011

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    My sister's future...

    ?My sister has been in a relationship with a man for almost a year, and they were actually engaged. I say "were" because now at this time, it's uncertain.He's 26, graduated from Culinary school and has a talent for music. Sound like a good, decent guy? Not totally..His family has...
    takethispain takethispain 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2013

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    I Hope That Was the Worst of It

    I remember my boyfriend telling me at one point that he would never do anything to physically hurt me. During one of our more recent arguments, he went and pulled my arms and legs to drag me out of the room. He pulled so hard it left bruises and hand/finger marks all over my...
    paperalias paperalias 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    I too have been in an abusive relationship!

    There is still time for you to get out! If your married to this individual, perhaps you should let him know, that he needs to either change and get help for his anger or your going to leave! Love is not suppose to hurt! It's not too late for you to save yourselves! Your life is...
    Hecalledmekindeyes Hecalledmekindeyes 26-30, F Dec 16, 2013

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    Worked In This Area Overseas

       I have some experience resolving such issues overseas.  By resolving the issue I mean getting the person and her family to safety.   I think it's very difficult to resolve the issue since the men tend to be very violent, irrational, and...
    McAvoy McAvoy 22-25, M Mar 26, 2009

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    Update On Paulaforever

    Paulaforever, a former member here, committed suicide days after being severly beaten by her boyfriend. the man that beat her goes to court this Friday the 8th of February.. lets hope that  justice is not  blind and paulaforever's desth will not go unpunished.meanwhile, i again...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 4 Responses Feb 6, 2013

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    Don't Understand

    I don't understand or even begin to understand why a man would hit a woman he is in a relationship with.  Espically when it is hard to get a date or into a relationship to begin with! It is like they don't apperciate and realize how special the person they are with really is...
    hexzerg hexzerg 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 5, 2009

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    Been There Words Of Encouragement

    I have been in several abusive relationships. So I do have an understanding. Especially when you are trying to get out of it. Or even why you get back into another one. Woman. We cannot just settle for anyone or anything. We are precious. We need to have higher standards of our...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 7, 2010

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    A Violent History

    I met my 1st husband when I was 15. He started out by overwhelming me with how much he loved me and how beautiful I was and how much he loved being with me. He slowly got rid of all my friends by taking up all my time, then causing problems with my parents by telling me how...
    Artisina Artisina 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 16, 2008

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    What Have I Tought My Children?

    I'm going thru a divorce from my husband of 20 years. After about 8 years of horrible verbal abuse that turned physical about 3 years ago, I had an affair and confessed to my husband about it. His response was to move out and file for divorce based on adultery. I am of course...
    joyce31996 joyce31996 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2010

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    Been There..

    ..sometimes youre just too close to the situation to see how violent and damaging a relationship can be to your own personal well being. I rely on those closest to me to help filter through all the losers I attract.. lol.
    RachelHueT RachelHueT 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    I Used to Be a Victim

    I was in a relationship with a man who I believed to be my soul mate. No matter what tore us apart we always ended up back together. The last time we were together he had developed a bad crack habit and I stood by him while he went to rehab and tried to kick the habit. He stayed...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 10 Responses Apr 30, 2008

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    I Fear For Them...

    I know it's hard to get out of a difficult relationship, especially when you fell in love with them... My best friends' mum's husband - her step dad - gets very violent when he's drinking. He threw their baby into a door - didn't mean to, but he was drunk and didn't know what he...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 17, 2008

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    It's Horrifying.

     Today I went to a seminar for one of my classes on abusive relationships. I really made me feel uneasy about a lot of things. It took me back to a relationship I had dug really deep down in my past.  When Louie and I dated everything was amazing. He was the guy I had...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2009

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    Need Help, Am I Being Verbally Abused??

    hi. um i joined this becuse i need help. im in a relationship now which has been going on for 2.5 years and it has been great. at the start the "boy" was nice, caring, giving, loving, it was just amazing. it started when i broke up with an ex to be with the boy and...
    fighter6 fighter6 18-21 6 Responses Apr 30, 2008

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    It is a strong fear. Too many times I hear it,

    I have lived it my self. Being in a violent relationship with someone who really does not care about "you" robs so much from you. it takes away all the humanity, dignity, self caring, self esteem and so much more. They reach the pint where they just do not care. And...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    How Do I Get Out???

    I've known my husband for almost about a decade now.  We've been married for at least 5 years now and we had the worst fight lastnight.  We argued over him not sharing the responsibility of taking care of our children, we have three.  I was very exhausted as I had an...
    lady6 lady6 26-30 4 Responses Jun 17, 2011

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    So Good to Be Free of a Violent Relationship.

    Hey, Im 17 years old and Iv been out of a violent relationship now for 2 weeks, and these 2 weeks have been the best 2 weeks iv had for a long time. We was together for 15 months and the violence started about 2 months into the relationship. It was my 1st seriouse...
    SouthFlower SouthFlower 16-18, F 3 Responses Nov 24, 2007

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    Battered

    I myself was once involved in a violent relationship. It was my very first serious relationship and I thought it was natural I say my father beat my mother. I thought that's what people in love do. When I was beat in in front of my one year old child I realized I didn't what her...
    lostchild lostchild 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 21, 2007

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    Violent Relationships....kill

    A friend that I met here, just a few days ago, has committed suicide. Her user name was Paulaforever. We met through a question that she asked. We communicated, and because of the post she wrote, I became aware of her violent history. She had been beaten, just days before. The...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 40 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    My husbands affair last year has been the worst thing ever to happen to me. Even the loss of my dear lovely mum couldn't compare to his affair. You see he was the perfect husband...
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    I just have a lot going on and I'm unsure of where I'm going to end up.
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    Men like this author are true gemsA Message to Women From a Man: You Are Not "Crazy"You're so sensitive. You're so emotional. You're defensive. You're overreacting. Calm down...
    SpiceZ SpiceZ 56-60, F 3 days ago

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    Yeah I do,I have lots of fears,which I guess relationships tend to magnify more.One of those fears is losing people I'm close to,feeling they'll leave me and I'll be alone again a...
    seeminglypossible seeminglypossible 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Don't get me wrong... I love the women in my life. Most of my friends growing up were girls. I have strong relationships with my female relatives. But really... I can't stand...
    dukelostboy25 dukelostboy25 26-30, M Jul 7

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    Give me a headstrong American woman anyday! My father, a native of Belarus, tried to run our house based on old fashioned tradionalist bullshit from the Stone Ages. Women should be...
    Eitan Eitan 22-25, M Jul 15

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    There are so many differences....with everything....and if you think about it, men and women aren't exactly equal. In certain ways, yes. But in most, not at all. It seems to me...
    Kawiicatnipotaku Kawiicatnipotaku 18-21, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    A year ago I found out I was a lesbian. I had feelings for women way before but never actually thought I would be gay. No one else thinks I'm gay either because I look straight...
    irisjuuu irisjuuu 18-21, F Jul 8

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    I have a thing for women after 25years and below 45. I feel they are more mature in their thinking. Anyone willing to explore sexually and otherwise?
    blaktiga blaktiga 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 15

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    Yes I do. I am an adult. I am willing to listen what others have to say, be it good or bad, positive or negative. Responsibility means that I make myself accountable and that I...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 14

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    Love is just a fantasy men created for women so they could play with something instead of opening there eyes and waking up or instead if power
    killerinsident killerinsident 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Hey! I'm new to the site and looking for women only to talk to. I'm happily married so not looking to chat up any guys. I'm actually hoping to meet some ladies to talk to about my...
    shygirl2014 shygirl2014 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    Don't know why most older guys like younger women but we do.
    Piercedbeast2001 Piercedbeast2001 56-60, M 17 mins ago

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    Brief and Bittersweet By CytheriaXylia. Those nights when you stay up late, talking about meaningless, dorky things together. When you stare into the other...
    CytheriaXylia CytheriaXylia 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    The Difficulty of Personal Legends: LDRs - The computer crashed and I'm left feeling absolutely terrible about it. Not my fault exactly, however just knowing that it makes it...
    LysanderFremont LysanderFremont 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 26

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    I'm beginning to think that I put my relationships in a box. I also put men in a box. Just like men think women are gold diggers who only care if a man has a job or could provide...
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    Sorry I'm ranting so much about my feelings I just have moments of clarity that I like to share. Remember a time you got hurt? (I'm talking emotionally). Or embarrassed, let down...
    emelon12 emelon12 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    I've never been in a romantic relationship, but I do feel that my friendships did not help me much in the end. These friendships weren't violent or anything, but I did not feel...
    thisisausernametoo thisisausernametoo 18-21 Jul 13

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    I made myself not trust women again. Before all of my romantic encounters were with whomever. Then I got married and that was also quite ordinary. But after I came to Afghanistan...
    Badtimanonymous Badtimanonymous 31-35, M Jul 6

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    I think interracial relationships are awesome it's not about the skin color or the race . It's about how they make u feel. An when I'm walking with a women of a different race an...
    jsmith247 jsmith247 26-30, M Jul 1

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    My husband seems to be turning into a user. I never actually imagined he married me for my family money because he was so sweet and kind and doing well himself. When we married I...
    ObiOneyouremyonlyhope ObiOneyouremyonlyhope 41-45, F Jul 7

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    I am a social introvert, but that does not mean im anti-social, but i'd rather be with close friends than loads of acquaintances, that sort of thing. But I am increasingly anxious...
    Tonydsd Tonydsd 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 5

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    Double Standard- I'm the product of one and people often say, "So your father's black?" And are stunned when I say, "No my mother. She doesn't do black men. My dad's from Belarus...
    Eitan Eitan 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 15

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    I am in an all-but-sexless relationship with someone I love and respect, and I'm looking for someone who can relate to talk to as I try to find my way through this. To get some of...
    NXS3 NXS3 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I am in an all-but-sexless relationship with someone I love and respect, and I'm looking for someone who can relate to talk to as I try to find my way through this. To get some of...
    NXS3 NXS3 26-30, F Jul 17

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    I have to say , I love it , I find it sexy, something about the it, the color contrast is so sexual. I was stationed in Georgia for a few years. I had this room mate for a few...
    limehouse limehouse 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 9

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