Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Fear For Women In Violent Relationships

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 313 People

    A Violent History

    I met my 1st husband when I was 15. He started out by overwhelming me with how much he loved me and how beautiful I was and how much he loved being with me. He slowly got rid of all my friends by taking up all my time, then causing problems with my parents by telling me how...
    Artisina Artisina 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 16, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It is a strong fear. Too many times I hear it,

    I have lived it my self. Being in a violent relationship with someone who really does not care about "you" robs so much from you. it takes away all the humanity, dignity, self caring, self esteem and so much more. They reach the pint where they just do not care. And...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 15, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Need Help, Am I Being Verbally Abused??

    hi. um i joined this becuse i need help. im in a relationship now which has been going on for 2.5 years and it has been great. at the start the "boy" was nice, caring, giving, loving, it was just amazing. it started when i broke up with an ex to be with the boy and...
    fighter6 fighter6 18-21 6 Responses Apr 30, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Violent Relationships....kill

    A friend that I met here, just a few days ago, has committed suicide. Her user name was Paulaforever. We met through a question that she asked. We communicated, and because of the post she wrote, I became aware of her violent history. She had been beaten, just days before. The...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 39 Responses Jan 19, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Been There..

    ..sometimes youre just too close to the situation to see how violent and damaging a relationship can be to your own personal well being. I rely on those closest to me to help filter through all the losers I attract.. lol.
    RachelHueT RachelHueT 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So Good to Be Free of a Violent Relationship.

    Hey, Im 17 years old and Iv been out of a violent relationship now for 2 weeks, and these 2 weeks have been the best 2 weeks iv had for a long time. We was together for 15 months and the violence started about 2 months into the relationship. It was my 1st seriouse...
    SouthFlower SouthFlower 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 24, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Used to Be a Victim

    I was in a relationship with a man who I believed to be my soul mate. No matter what tore us apart we always ended up back together. The last time we were together he had developed a bad crack habit and I stood by him while he went to rehab and tried to kick the habit. He stayed...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 10 Responses Apr 30, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Update On Paulaforever

    Paulaforever, a former member here, committed suicide days after being severly beaten by her boyfriend. the man that beat her goes to court this Friday the 8th of February.. lets hope that  justice is not  blind and paulaforever's desth will not go unpunished.meanwhile, i again...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 3 Responses Feb 6, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I know a couple of people

    that are in one, and there's nothing I can do 😕
    ShotOfWhisky ShotOfWhisky 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How Do I Get Out???

    I've known my husband for almost about a decade now.  We've been married for at least 5 years now and we had the worst fight lastnight.  We argued over him not sharing the responsibility of taking care of our children, we have three.  I was very exhausted as I had an...
    lady6 lady6 26-30 4 Responses Jun 17, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I too have been in an abusive relationship!

    There is still time for you to get out! If your married to this individual, perhaps you should let him know, that he needs to either change and get help for his anger or your going to leave! Love is not suppose to hurt! It's not too late for you to save yourselves! Your life is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 16, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Hope That Was the Worst of It

    I remember my boyfriend telling me at one point that he would never do anything to physically hurt me. During one of our more recent arguments, he went and pulled my arms and legs to drag me out of the room. He pulled so hard it left bruises and hand/finger marks all over my...
    paperalias paperalias 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    What Have I Tought My Children?

    I'm going thru a divorce from my husband of 20 years. After about 8 years of horrible verbal abuse that turned physical about 3 years ago, I had an affair and confessed to my husband about it. His response was to move out and file for divorce based on adultery. I am of course...
    joyce31996 joyce31996 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Don't Understand

    I don't understand or even begin to understand why a man would hit a woman he is in a relationship with.  Espically when it is hard to get a date or into a relationship to begin with! It is like they don't apperciate and realize how special the person they are with really is...
    hexzerg hexzerg 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 5, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It's Horrifying.

     Today I went to a seminar for one of my classes on abusive relationships. I really made me feel uneasy about a lot of things. It took me back to a relationship I had dug really deep down in my past.  When Louie and I dated everything was amazing. He was the guy I had...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Too Scared To Fight Back

    Having been on the end of domestic violence recently I can now understand what someone goes through and how scared you become, too scared to say anything for fear of what they will do next.....like they say, everything happens behind closed doors....in my case even the neighbour...
    jan1960 jan1960 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 11, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Battered

    I myself was once involved in a violent relationship. It was my very first serious relationship and I thought it was natural I say my father beat my mother. I thought that's what people in love do. When I was beat in in front of my one year old child I realized I didn't what her...
    lostchild lostchild 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 21, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Been There Words Of Encouragement

    I have been in several abusive relationships. So I do have an understanding. Especially when you are trying to get out of it. Or even why you get back into another one. Woman. We cannot just settle for anyone or anything. We are precious. We need to have higher standards of our...
    iamchanging iamchanging 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 7, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Fear For Them...

    I know it's hard to get out of a difficult relationship, especially when you fell in love with them... My best friends' mum's husband - her step dad - gets very violent when he's drinking. He threw their baby into a door - didn't mean to, but he was drunk and didn't know what he...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 17, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Worked In This Area Overseas

       I have some experience resolving such issues overseas.  By resolving the issue I mean getting the person and her family to safety.   I think it's very difficult to resolve the issue since the men tend to be very violent, irrational, and...
    McAvoy McAvoy 22-25, M Mar 26, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    I've cheated with both, but only with men right now. Men are much easier to hide from my wife- I've told her I like men, so she knows, but she doesn't accept it, so it amounts to...
    ilc67 ilc67 46-50, M 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I feel like men stopped holding doors for women, standing when a woman walks in the room, etc. after suffrage.
    HopelesslySurviving HopelesslySurviving 16-17, F 17 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    ok eradicating feat from life isnt easy; in fact is possibly the most difficult thing one has to do. Actually, fear is the only attribute from all the negative things that happen...
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have no problem with interracial relationships. my family is all married to white women and men. I see no difference in people and I'm from the east side of San Antonio. I...
    claytonspain claytonspain 31-35, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am not afraid to speak my mind so I will. This is a place I come to get the truth off my chest. I think women who call themselves Bitc*** and other insulting names are the...
    Kornisone Kornisone 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Sooo many people who have issue with interracial marriage or relationships don't even bother to take any time to try to learn anything about the so called "races", how or what...
    AvGeek AvGeek 22-25, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have no problem admitting that I am a spanked wife. I am not ashamed of being a spanked wife. I fear and hate getting a spanking but I know that it has helped making our marriage...
    KarinAal KarinAal 61-65, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Recently, one of the women that I used to date made false accusations towards me and tried to “bait” me to engage in an argument. To be honest, I was reckless with the way I...
    mikeeshoe mikeeshoe 36-40, M 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Is it really? Than how come I havent seen more out in public? Hmmm???
    JasonThick JasonThick 22-25, M 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    hello any girl who want real short haircut in India? i love to cut hair short . if any Then message me.
    keyur275 keyur275 22-25, M 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    And yet, here we are. Our love crossed oceans. Our dreams were stronger than our fears. And here we are... Your head is on my pillow beside me, and you are breathing softly as I...
    TheWildling TheWildling 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It's kind of an inevitability at this point, I'm getting older and it hasn't happened. I'm a self-fulfilling prophecy. I've had 2 short-lived relationships from when I was a...
    Iscarpia87 Iscarpia87 26-30, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I keep asking myself why and the only answer still remains 'experienced'. My first love was a woman of 33 (if she had told me the truth after refusing to reveal her age for long...
    Tourion Tourion 22-25, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    How do u forget?? How do u forget the touch u felt when his lips touched urs??? How do u erase the memories u made with him in a short three years??? How do u block the feelings...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 9 Responses 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    For YEARS I was afraid of confrontations, and especially of getting in a fight - and losing. So I ducked them, and despised myself, and inside thought I was a coward. This went on...
    tjw747 tjw747 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    All our times have come Here but now they're gone Seasons don't fear the reaper Nor do the wind, the sun or the rain... we can be like they are Come on baby... don't fear the...
    beautifullybroken29 beautifullybroken29 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 5

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am that older man that loves younger women. I am 100% convinced that younger women and older men are the bet relationships!
    Straightcdingmale Straightcdingmale 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 3

    Your Response

    Cancel
    When time will come to walk with dress on road..???????
    crossdaya535 crossdaya535 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 3

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Obviously I am afraid of more than three things, but these three are huge ones. First there is my fear of heights. I always say I want to die with my feet planted firmly on the...
    rana3434 rana3434 36-40, F Feb 3

    Your Response

    Cancel
    The Republicans the Ultra-Conservatives, the bigots the hate mongers those that do not think, The people who believe the need a gun that would be best in the hands of the military...
    RisingPhoenix54 RisingPhoenix54 56-60 1 Response Feb 3

    Your Response

    Cancel
    1s and 0s. That’s how computers and machines see us. Nothing more than that. It’s simple. There is no prejudice, no stereotypes…just 1s and 0s. How we see ourselves and how...
    OakleysWorld OakleysWorld 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 2

    Your Response

    Cancel
    All women are beautiful!! Imjustsaying!Tired of people saying a certain group is the epitome of beauty! Beauty comes in all shapes, color and different sizes!!
    MzMecka1969 MzMecka1969 46-50, F 12 Responses Feb 1