I Fear For Women In Violent Relationships

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 298 People

    What Have I Tought My Children?

    I'm going thru a divorce from my husband of 20 years. After about 8 years of horrible verbal abuse that turned physical about 3 years ago, I had an affair and confessed to my husband about it. His response was to move out and file for divorce based on adultery. I am of course...
    joyce31996 joyce31996
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Oct 30, 2010

    I too have been in an abusive relationship!

    There is still time for you to get out! If your married to this individual, perhaps you should let him know, that he needs to either change and get help for his anger or your going to leave! Love is not suppose to hurt! It's not too late for you to save yourselves! Your life is...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 16, 2013


    I myself was once involved in a violent relationship. It was my very first serious relationship and I thought it was natural I say my father beat my mother. I thought that's what people in love do. When I was beat in in front of my one year old child I realized I didn't what her...
    lostchild lostchild
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Nov 21, 2007

    A Violent History

    I met my 1st husband when I was 15. He started out by overwhelming me with how much he loved me and how beautiful I was and how much he loved being with me. He slowly got rid of all my friends by taking up all my time, then causing problems with my parents by telling me how...
    Artisina Artisina
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2008

    I Hope That Was the Worst of It

    I remember my boyfriend telling me at one point that he would never do anything to physically hurt me. During one of our more recent arguments, he went and pulled my arms and legs to drag me out of the room. He pulled so hard it left bruises and hand/finger marks all over my...
    paperalias paperalias
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Nov 23, 2007

    Don't Understand

    I don't understand or even begin to understand why a man would hit a woman he is in a relationship with.  Espically when it is hard to get a date or into a relationship to begin with! It is like they don't apperciate and realize how special the person they are with really is...
    hexzerg hexzerg
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Oct 5, 2009

    So Good to Be Free of a Violent Relationship.

    Hey, Im 17 years old and Iv been out of a violent relationship now for 2 weeks, and these 2 weeks have been the best 2 weeks iv had for a long time. We was together for 15 months and the violence started about 2 months into the relationship. It was my 1st seriouse...
    SouthFlower SouthFlower
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Nov 24, 2007

    Violent Relationships....kill

    A friend that I met here, just a few days ago, has committed suicide. Her user name was Paulaforever. We met through a question that she asked. We communicated, and because of the post she wrote, I became aware of her violent history. She had been beaten, just days before. The...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    37 Responses Jan 19, 2013

    It is a strong fear. Too many times I hear it,

    I have lived it my self. Being in a violent relationship with someone who really does not care about "you" robs so much from you. it takes away all the humanity, dignity, self caring, self esteem and so much more. They reach the pint where they just do not care. And...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 15, 2014

    Been There Words Of Encouragement

    I have been in several abusive relationships. So I do have an understanding. Especially when you are trying to get out of it. Or even why you get back into another one. Woman. We cannot just settle for anyone or anything. We are precious. We need to have higher standards of our...
    iamchanging iamchanging
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Nov 7, 2010

    Update On Paulaforever

    Paulaforever, a former member here, committed suicide days after being severly beaten by her boyfriend. the man that beat her goes to court this Friday the 8th of February.. lets hope that  justice is not  blind and paulaforever's desth will not go unpunished.meanwhile, i again...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Feb 6, 2013

    Worked In This Area Overseas

       I have some experience resolving such issues overseas.  By resolving the issue I mean getting the person and her family to safety.   I think it's very difficult to resolve the issue since the men tend to be very violent, irrational, and...
    McAvoy McAvoy
    22-25, M
    Mar 26, 2009

    Too Scared To Fight Back

    Having been on the end of domestic violence recently I can now understand what someone goes through and how scared you become, too scared to say anything for fear of what they will do next.....like they say, everything happens behind closed doors....in my case even the neighbour...
    jan1960 jan1960
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jun 11, 2011

    I Fear For Them...

    I know it's hard to get out of a difficult relationship, especially when you fell in love with them... My best friends' mum's husband - her step dad - gets very violent when he's drinking. He threw their baby into a door - didn't mean to, but he was drunk and didn't know what he...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 17, 2008

    It's Horrifying.

     Today I went to a seminar for one of my classes on abusive relationships. I really made me feel uneasy about a lot of things. It took me back to a relationship I had dug really deep down in my past.  When Louie and I dated everything was amazing. He was the guy I had...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 16, 2009

    How Do I Get Out???

    I've known my husband for almost about a decade now.  We've been married for at least 5 years now and we had the worst fight lastnight.  We argued over him not sharing the responsibility of taking care of our children, we have three.  I was very exhausted as I had an...
    lady6 lady6
    4 Responses Jun 17, 2011

    I know a couple of people

    that are in one, and there's nothing I can do 😕
    ShotOfWhisky ShotOfWhisky
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 21, 2014

    I Used to Be a Victim

    I was in a relationship with a man who I believed to be my soul mate. No matter what tore us apart we always ended up back together. The last time we were together he had developed a bad crack habit and I stood by him while he went to rehab and tried to kick the habit. He stayed...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn
    46-50, F
    10 Responses Apr 30, 2008

    Need Help, Am I Being Verbally Abused??

    hi. um i joined this becuse i need help. im in a relationship now which has been going on for 2.5 years and it has been great. at the start the "boy" was nice, caring, giving, loving, it was just amazing. it started when i broke up with an ex to be with the boy and...
    fighter6 fighter6
    5 Responses Apr 30, 2008

    Been There..

    ..sometimes youre just too close to the situation to see how violent and damaging a relationship can be to your own personal well being. I rely on those closest to me to help filter through all the losers I attract.. lol.
    RachelHueT RachelHueT
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Nov 23, 2007
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