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I Fear Giving Birth

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    Seriously.

    It's one of my biggest phobias. First off, I'm not a big fan of pain, in any form. So such a physically painful experience would wreck me. An epidural could fix that, sure. But I'm also really uncomfortable with needles and any kind of anesthetic. Aside from the actual birth...
    plateglasspoint plateglasspoint 16-18, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    No Way!

    Giving birth?! Passing THAT through my WHAT?! No. No no no. I don't even particularly like kids, making my decision to not have children an easy one. However, the biggest factor is my total fear of giving birth. Maybe it's not even just giving birth, but the whole entire idea of...
    ofthegallows ofthegallows 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 20, 2009

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    I Have One Kid Already

    I am a mother and know how painful giving birth is and I fear giving birth again... What if something goes wrong? And in my first pregnancy there were complications. I had an epidural in my labour but it wasn't such obvious, we live in dark ages here and pain is not a reason to...
    amlost amlost 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 8, 2009

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    I Want A Baby But Im Scared.

    i dream of some day having a baby but idk if i can do whenever i think about it comming out i get goose bumps and feel sick i just think its going to hurt so bad.
    kodyrivera kodyrivera 22-25, F Jan 4, 2012

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    Today In Class I Watched a Video of An Entire Birth...

    I was already terrified of the process of birth, I can't imagine pushing something that large out of somewhere so small. I already know that the cervix dialates to stretch that large, but god damn! So the video was about natural childbirth without the use of drugs, but only...
    hmoorephoto hmoorephoto 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 20, 2009

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    OUCH!

    yOU KNOW giving birth is described as beautifull aswell as painfull.  i just fear that pain. WHAT IF I DIE? or What if i kill my own baby because of something that is wrong with me. or What if my body is too weak to give birth. Honestly i do dream of having kids and its...
    truly truly 19-21, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2007

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    6 Months Pregnant And Terrified To Give Birth

    I'm 19 years old and this is my very first pregnancy. It wasn't planned, but I have a very good support system and I'm financially stable with my boyfriend of two years. I'm 6 months pregnant with a little boy and just recently I developed an intense phobia of giving birth. My...
    Jstrozeski Jstrozeski 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2013

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    I'm 22yrs old and not pregnant.

    Child birth freaks me the fuhhh out.. props to those who have giving birth tho. Strong women.
    blushkat blushkat 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 1

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    This Is Why I Never Want To Have Kids

    If I ever change my mind, I would prefer to adopt. And besides, I don't think I will be a very good mother anyway so I probably shouldn't even consider ever adopting. And as for the pain of giving birth, heh. I cry out and want to scream if I feel a contraction. If I have to...
    deadmoon deadmoon 18-21, F Jan 5, 2012

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    Terrifying.

    I cannot even imagine the horrendous pain when the baby needs to come out. I think i owe this fear to forwarded emails of home births. There is just so much blood involved. Also, what if the person was pregnant with TWINS. or TRIPLETS. or more?!? That would be hell over and over...
    tayea tayea 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2009

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    My Mind Over My Matter

    What has been crazy here is that my entire pregnancy has been really great no morning sickness no problems no complications and i accepted the fact of the pain and yes it truly truly terrifies me but im so close that well there is no turning back now.  But lately i have been...
    lillypea28 lillypea28 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2010

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    Deathly Afraid. :s

    I am seriously deathly afraid to give birth now that I've watched 16 and pregnant. I'm absolutely terrified of needles, that epidural needle looks huge! I try to exercise but it's just not my style I guess...They say if you're fit when you go into labor it makes everything...
    mama2b21 mama2b21 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 26, 2009

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    I Fear It ...but More So Alone Without A Husband

    i do fear getting pregnant and having a baby but since I was in my twenties I have regularly had fantasies about giving birth and the father of the baby being there and we are happily married. I used to have this vision in my head of a young man inlove with me and us conceiving...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Mar 19, 2011

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    It Terrifies Me....

    Yes I know, women say it is worth all the pain at the end but at the moment, being pregnant and giving birth just makes me feel petrified. All those hours of pain, pain that mothers say is unbearable and which cannot be described in words. They say that they feared they would die...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 16, 2011

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    I Want A Baby But Im Scared.

    i dream of some day having a baby but idk if i can do whenever i think about it comming out i get goose bumps and feel sick i just think its going to hurt so bad.
    kodyrivera kodyrivera 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 4, 2012

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    I am scared of giving birth.

    I have a low pain tolerance, so I know I'm going to have a bad time. I know I can use pain meds, but I've been iffy about them because I don't want to be out of it when it comes time to push and whatnot. The thought of having to do a c-section is terrifying me more than giving...
    oathtoorder oathtoorder 18-21, F May 31

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    Not Just of Giving Birth

    I really am scared of not just giving birth but being a mother all together.  People say it is normal and if I was not scared they would worry.  But I am not use to showing my emotions.  Which I seem to show everyone right now.  It is like the post pardom...
    bellasmomma bellasmomma 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2009

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    Secret Fear....

    When I was a 15 year old Catholic schoolgirl, the nuns showed us a graphic birth video. I couldn't stop crying after I saw that disgusting mess. One of the reasons I will not be a parent, is pregnancy and birth. I could NEVER endure all the discomfort for nearly a year, nor do I...
    BGer BGer 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 20, 2011

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    Childbirth!

    This is one of my greatest fear. I just enter a maternity ward and I start getting cold sweat. I want kids but the thought of going through all of that pain freaks me out "shivers". I think i'll try waterbirth when or if my time comes, it's supposed to provide pain...
    Candita Candita 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 1, 2007

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