I Fear Giving Birth

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    I Fear It ...but More So Alone Without A Husband

    i do fear getting pregnant and having a baby but since I was in my twenties I have regularly had fantasies about giving birth and the father of the baby being there and we are happily married. I used to have this vision in my head of a young man inlove with me and us conceiving...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    Mar 19, 2011

    I Want A Baby But Im Scared.

    i dream of some day having a baby but idk if i can do whenever i think about it comming out i get goose bumps and feel sick i just think its going to hurt so bad.
    kodyrivera kodyrivera
    22-25, F
    Jan 4, 2012

    My Mind Over My Matter

    What has been crazy here is that my entire pregnancy has been really great no morning sickness no problems no complications and i accepted the fact of the pain and yes it truly truly terrifies me but im so close that well there is no turning back now.  But lately i have been...
    lillypea28 lillypea28
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 7, 2010


    This is one of my greatest fear. I just enter a maternity ward and I start getting cold sweat. I want kids but the thought of going through all of that pain freaks me out "shivers". I think i'll try waterbirth when or if my time comes, it's supposed to provide pain...
    Candita Candita
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Aug 1, 2007

    Not Just of Giving Birth

    I really am scared of not just giving birth but being a mother all together.  People say it is normal and if I was not scared they would worry.  But I am not use to showing my emotions.  Which I seem to show everyone right now.  It is like the post pardom...
    bellasmomma bellasmomma
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 26, 2009


    I cannot even imagine the horrendous pain when the baby needs to come out. I think i owe this fear to forwarded emails of home births. There is just so much blood involved. Also, what if the person was pregnant with TWINS. or TRIPLETS. or more?!? That would be hell over and over...
    tayea tayea
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2009

    6 Months Pregnant And Terrified To Give Birth

    I'm 19 years old and this is my very first pregnancy. It wasn't planned, but I have a very good support system and I'm financially stable with my boyfriend of two years. I'm 6 months pregnant with a little boy and just recently I developed an intense phobia of giving birth. My...
    Jstrozeski Jstrozeski
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 17, 2013


    yOU KNOW giving birth is described as beautifull aswell as painfull.  i just fear that pain. WHAT IF I DIE? or What if i kill my own baby because of something that is wrong with me. or What if my body is too weak to give birth. Honestly i do dream of having kids and its...
    truly truly
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 27, 2007

    I have 2 beautiful boys -

    both vaginal births. If you want to talk or have any questions, just ask! :)
    ModifiedMamaofTwo ModifiedMamaofTwo
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 19, 2015

    Well, I'm actually looking forwards to it.

    But I'm not pregnant yet! I'm not even in a relationship. But I do hope I will have children one day. The thing is, I was with my sister when she gave birth. O, her face! and the sounds she made. They tore my heart out, and I couldn't help her. I was crying for her, and then...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 15, 2016

    I Want A Baby But Im Scared.

    i dream of some day having a baby but idk if i can do whenever i think about it comming out i get goose bumps and feel sick i just think its going to hurt so bad.
    kodyrivera kodyrivera
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 4, 2012

    Let's just say I was traumatized forever by

    that video they showed us in 6th grade.
    PinksTheNewBlack PinksTheNewBlack
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Aug 11, 2015

    i was so happy when I found out I had to have a

    c section!!! I had a fear of giving birth, after helping birth babies in college! omg!
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 20, 2015

    Deathly Afraid. :s

    I am seriously deathly afraid to give birth now that I've watched 16 and pregnant. I'm absolutely terrified of needles, that epidural needle looks huge! I try to exercise but it's just not my style I guess...They say if you're fit when you go into labor it makes everything...
    mama2b21 mama2b21
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 26, 2009

    I don't know why giving birth scares me

    so much. So many strong women sacrifice their bodies for their children everyday and I just dont know if I can do it. It makes me feel weak sometimes.
    oceanskyy oceanskyy
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 9, 2016

    I would love to have a baby

    but I am overweight and will be 41 in 2016 - everyone says I'm passed it and too old. But just recently, everywhere I look it's all about babies. I am terrified of the birth process as I have a very low pain threshold. Any advice?
    Moore75 Moore75
    41-45, F
    Dec 19, 2015

    i used to be sooooo scared to give birth !

    but once i actually gave birth I realized its not that bad.. and once you see your child you'll know it was all worth it!:)
    m3ll3900 m3ll3900
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 14, 2015

    I definitely want children

    but a part of me is scared of the birth process. Like how's a baby gonna come out of THERE?! And like, ugh, I don't want to be cut open! And instruments! Don't forget instruments! >.< It's terrifying. I would want a natural child birth but just the thought of all I mentioned...
    StarsxSunsets StarsxSunsets
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 14, 2015

    Today In Class I Watched a Video of An Entire Birth...

    I was already terrified of the process of birth, I can't imagine pushing something that large out of somewhere so small. I already know that the cervix dialates to stretch that large, but god damn! So the video was about natural childbirth without the use of drugs, but only...
    hmoorephoto hmoorephoto
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 20, 2009

    No Way!

    Giving birth?! Passing THAT through my WHAT?! No. No no no. I don't even particularly like kids, making my decision to not have children an easy one. However, the biggest factor is my total fear of giving birth. Maybe it's not even just giving birth, but the whole entire idea of...
    ofthegallows ofthegallows
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 20, 2009

    This Is Why I Never Want To Have Kids

    If I ever change my mind, I would prefer to adopt. And besides, I don't think I will be a very good mother anyway so I probably shouldn't even consider ever adopting. And as for the pain of giving birth, heh. I cry out and want to scream if I feel a contraction. If I have to...
    deadmoon deadmoon
    22-25, F
    Jan 5, 2012

    It Terrifies Me....

    Yes I know, women say it is worth all the pain at the end but at the moment, being pregnant and giving birth just makes me feel petrified. All those hours of pain, pain that mothers say is unbearable and which cannot be described in words. They say that they feared they would die...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 16, 2011
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 4, 2015

    I am scared of giving birth.

    I have a low pain tolerance, so I know I'm going to have a bad time. I know I can use pain meds, but I've been iffy about them because I don't want to be out of it when it comes time to push and whatnot. The thought of having to do a c-section is terrifying me more than giving...
    oathtoorder oathtoorder
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 31, 2014
    FunnyDucky FunnyDucky
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 30, 2015

    Of course the pain is terrible,

    but I heard that you'll completely forget about it once you see the baby's face😍
    heartfelt123 heartfelt123
    22-25, F
    Jan 21, 2016

    I'm 22yrs old and not pregnant.

    Child birth freaks me the fuhhh out.. props to those who have giving birth tho. Strong women.
    blushkat blushkat
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 1, 2014

    Secret Fear....

    When I was a 15 year old Catholic schoolgirl, the nuns showed us a graphic birth video. I couldn't stop crying after I saw that disgusting mess. One of the reasons I will not be a parent, is pregnancy and birth. I could NEVER endure all the discomfort for nearly a year, nor do I...
    BGer BGer
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 20, 2011


    It's one of my biggest phobias. First off, I'm not a big fan of pain, in any form. So such a physically painful experience would wreck me. An epidural could fix that, sure. But I'm also really uncomfortable with needles and any kind of anesthetic. Aside from the actual birth...
    plateglasspoint plateglasspoint
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 24, 2007

    I Have One Kid Already

    I am a mother and know how painful giving birth is and I fear giving birth again... What if something goes wrong? And in my first pregnancy there were complications. I had an epidural in my labour but it wasn't such obvious, we live in dark ages here and pain is not a reason to...
    amlost amlost
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 8, 2009
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