I Fear Rejection

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    I Have A Fear Of Rejection...

    ...and I'm glad to finally know that this fear is what has been ruining my life. I just found out today. I got the diagnosis from a counselor I've been seeing for a few months.  It took him a while to figure it out because I had it so well hidden--from others and from...
    themanwithoutavoice themanwithoutavoice
    46-50, M
    1 Response Dec 2, 2009

    Today when we were grouping teams

    for basketball no one wanted with me and when I played they kept saying that they don't want me in the game I ran to the class crying I couldn't breath I almost died that's why I try not to cry I just fell down crying it was horrible
    Silentsuffer Silentsuffer
    16-17, F
    Apr 2, 2014

    I told my bestfriend I liked him.

    I'm a little scared he'll never want to talk to me again..
    imonlyme16 imonlyme16
    18-21, F
    Aug 20, 2014

    For some reason, i feel this fear.

    .. when i am approaching people that i found interesting and curious about or when i am trying to sit near my dearly beloved. I am trying to figure out what is this fear in the first place. This woman that i am in love with is beautiful, smart and kind. She is just my type...
    spinningtime7 spinningtime7
    22-25, M
    Aug 15, 2014

    I have been rejected

    for like my whole life . And when I find someone who accepts me as I am I spend time talking to them as much as I could but then they ignore me and stab my heart. Someone on EP did that to me but I don't give a **** anymore cuz I have many good friends on here that talk to me...
    Silentsuffer Silentsuffer
    16-17, F
    Aug 9, 2014


    funny i did fear rejection but now i have no one in my life so no one can reject me
    freeangel freeangel
    31-35, F
    5 Responses May 26, 2010

    Rejection is my weakness.

    I can't seem to get the nerve to talk to anyone anymore because all the times I did it went wrong. Now when I try I say things I can never think of the right words to say because it wouldn't make sense.
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22
    22-25, M
    Jul 5, 2015

    I'm always putting myself in situations

    where I know I will get rejected, could be as simple as talking to someone that I know won't talk back to me :( why do I keep doing this it's like I set myself up knowing that I'm going to get hurt yet I still do it.... anyone else do this?
    romib romib
    26-30, F
    Nov 29, 2014


    Even though I'm quite a bubbly and confident person, my low self esteem and paranoia tend to make me incredibly uneasy if somebody doesn't like me. I am an empath and feel emotions a lot more than normal people, so when somebody says something hurtful towards me (or in this case...
    Meeoko Meeoko
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 26, 2010

    I make this statement having been rejected more

    times than I have been accepted. This usually centers around women and romantic involvement. Lately I have been questioning myself spiritually, emotionally and mentally and I have come across a question that I think I really need to answer. Am I the cause of these rejections? Am...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 17, 2014

    I Fear Rejection Too

    This isn't a nice feeling but I feel as if my heart is about to explored whenever my opinion, my thoughts, my evrything are rejected.  Because I dont want to be the one whose topic or thought is rejected... I try to reject the other person first. It is so much like an...
    Amanda2010 Amanda2010
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 4, 2010

    My biggest fear from my childhood have been the

    language English and communication, I always kept running away from speaking or writing english, and this fear made me lose many things and opportunities in my life. But now I am standing at a place where I have to overcome this fear, this is the only hurdle in my way to acheive...
    Bird2891 Bird2891
    22-25, F
    Feb 25, 2014

    I have recently been spending a lot of time

    with someone who I've really, really come to like. But recently it would seem he is getting bored of me, or short tempered with my company; whether he shows it or not, I can tell something has changed. We were fine for a good time and I was the happiest I've been in a long time...
    Kattamine Kattamine
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 19, 2014

    The last... Couple times I got close to someone

    on the internet I was left behind. They left, we were friends... Someone different I attracted myself to.. I talked with them for days...then I gave them a nickname like I tend to do :( then I was ignored.. I don't want this to happen again, but..
    AfterFall AfterFall
    22-25, F
    Feb 15, 2015


    Been there, done that. Still, I don't learn from it. There are times that I feel so frustrated when the goals aren't met, but there are times that I let it pass. I sometimes get mad or cry when I feel like I've just been rejected for the nth time. I should move on, but I can't...
    crimsonr crimsonr
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 16, 2013

    I Am Slowly Learning To Face This One

    Hi so I have such a low self esteem that at odd moments I will get panic attacks when I think about possibly getting fired from whatever my job is at the time, or the possibility of never finding another decent relationship person ever again. Or finding them and then having them...
    clouds4208 clouds4208
    36-40, F
    Jan 22, 2013

    I'm scared I'll fall in love with someone

    and they won't love me in return. I experienced something similar to this once and it really bothered me. I thought to myself if this hurts that bad. I can't imagine what its like for the real thing.
    ChainedHeart ChainedHeart
    22-25, F
    Jun 7, 2015

    Fear of Rejection, loss,

    and disappointment seem to rule my life. I can't even process the feeling. Truly tears my heart up feeling let down and I don't know how to recover. I've only used coping mechanisms but I'm looking to heal. I'm trying to overcome them/the fear but I honestly don't know how. Any...
    nikkisun nikkisun
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 11, 2014

    I tried to put myself out there

    and message the guy who was interested in me at a party and he just rejected me. I'm never doing that again.
    junglejim432 junglejim432
    18-21, F
    Oct 13, 2015

    My Fears

    I was only rejected once and supposedly because of my "personality", but that was all it took for me to never trust someone ever again. What happened was this guy online kept telling me how "sexy" I was and what a "nice" person  he thought I was and that he would love to go out...
    Deadlynightshade5 Deadlynightshade5
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Aug 27, 2013

    I'm Bisexual

    i've had 2 bfs in the past but no girlfriends yet. it's simply because i fear rejection. (i don't get rejected by accepting men right? so there) i'm afraid to be open about my sexuality because i fear to be rejected. and i also find it hard to approach a woman because i don't...
    stellarnight stellarnight
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Nov 27, 2009

    I've been reject by so many things.

    Jobs, people, schools, etc. I hate the feeling of rejection.
    deleted deleted
    Dec 10, 2015

    Frankly A Little More Than I Like To Admit

    I fear rejection so much that I actually end up avoiding to seek contact with women I wish I'd get to know. I sort of give up before trying, it's like "she's probably already taken, so I'll save her the trouble of putting me down once she realizes I fancy her for real".I'm not...
    maboroshi maboroshi
    26-30, M
    Apr 27, 2013

    Why Fear the Inevitable?

    My first wife decided that she didn't want to be married to me, so she declared that since she didn't want to be married, she wasn't.  If she wasn't married, she was free to date.  That meant having a lot of sex with a lot of people.  I finally moved out to save my...
    GrooverShandy GrooverShandy
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Aug 17, 2008

    I usually try to not think about it.

    So i was not sure i have fear of rejection. But i have to face on this problem..now. Yes..i am scared of rejection from someone i like so bad...all the time. If they deny me,that means world deny me. I've been training to be confident with counselar since i've moved here. I also...
    JerryJerryA JerryJerryA
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 29, 2015

    It's Because I Feel Betrayed I Think

    I push people away. I'm scared that they'll betray me, like my father, and my sisters. And my stepfather. I'm scared of being hurt again. Like, when I started to learn to trust my stepfather, he hit my mum and I. I'm too scared now. I'm never going to try ever again. My sisters...
    TrueBlueKid TrueBlueKid
    16-17, F
    Oct 31, 2013

    I Don't Know Why

    Im afraid of rejection , I just rarley suggest things. I rarley call people , unless it's important or if it's a family member , Im rarley the first to send a text messege , or to send a messege , some can say that Im just playing it cool but I'm just scared that people would...
    ElisTheme95 ElisTheme95
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 26, 2010

    Fear Being Rejected By Friends

    Being left. My biggest fear in the world is being left by the people I love. Being rejected. I fear any word I say could be wrong. I fear that I seem like I want sympathy from my friends, but I want help. I only go to one of them if something is really wrong, whether depression...
    guitar46 guitar46
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 16, 2013

    One of my greatest fear is rejection of any

    kind from any person. It feels like someone takes a knife into my heart every time I'm rejected. I can't recall if this was always the way I was or began to form after abuse, but this fear has ruled over me for most of my life. I go to great (even outright ridiculous) lengths to...
    WithoutHope00 WithoutHope00
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2014

    My life is so depressing.

    I just want to go to a place where nobody knows me.
    TMB4 TMB4
    31-35, M
    1 Response Mar 11, 2014

    Help "Fear Of Shame Through Rejection In Interpersonal Communication"

    I will go up to a girl that I have had a crush on and be completely unable to be truthful about my feelings or even trust them. We have all shared our feelings to someone of interest to ourselves, and we have all been rejected. Through that rejection, we feel shame. In future...
    TeddyL TeddyL
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Mar 5, 2013

    I Fear Rejection

    fear rejection.   I use to go to singles clubs and see if any females would dance with me most rejected me  don't know why.  1 person did dance with me and really looked like a female but was a guy dressed to look like a female.   I haven't went to a singles club since.
    aquarius3 aquarius3
    1 Response Jan 16, 2012

    I May Never Recover...

    I recently allowed myself to open up all the emotional nerve endings that have been safely guarded all my life despite my past history of never knowing unconditional love from my parents.  The constant conditions my parents, especially my mother, set in order for me to be...
    jennaporter jennaporter
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Aug 15, 2008

    Sometimes It Controls Me

    I have such a fear of rejection that its hard for me to put myself out there to make my life better, i rember i got a call back for a job and it took me 20 minutes for me to call them back becasue i was so scard they would say that i didnt get it. im afried to go to for someone...
    Silent20 Silent20
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 22, 2012

    I recently stumbled into hooking up with a cute

    girl. We hung out twice and both times were great. We flirted, talked, watched TV, and just generally had fun and it was nice. It's been a while since I had cuddled with someone and it felt nice to do that again. Then out of nowhere these past two days she got incredibly distant...
    pbenasillo pbenasillo
    18-21, M
    1 Response Sep 11, 2014

    I just realized that I lost all of my

    confidence of ever talking to a beautiful girl again. Every time I try they ignore me and when I ask why they say I'm ugly af or they just don't answer. I will never think of a beautiful girl being nice ever again.
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jul 13, 2015

    Can't Face It

    I fear rejection to such an extent that I completely try to avoid and make sure that I am not in a position where there is a possibility of rejection. I won't crack a joke I have in my head 'cause I'm scared that no one will laugh. I will never start a conversation 'cause I think...
    gamingzone3 gamingzone3
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 28, 2010
    BillyOMalley BillyOMalley
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

    I fear rejection & ending up alone.

    I swallow my feelings & put up with people's bs, than to take the chance of making someone mad at me. I feel the need to please people & meet their expectations because im afraid that people wouldn't like me if i expressed my thoughts & feelings.
    bljxo bljxo
    1 Response Mar 29, 2015
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