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I Feel Deeply and Often Get Hurt Because of It

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    Empathy

    Although it hurts me when i see others hurt, and deep inside me it breaks my heart, i wouldn't give it up for the world. only when you feel others pain can you truly empathize and help them. if feeling their pain helps me understand them even a little better, its worth it a...
    DoubleInfinity2 DoubleInfinity2 16-17, F Nov 26, 2012

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    Still My Heart Is Open

    I have accepted that a person's basic nature doesn't change and part of my personality is being open to having a deep connection with another person.  More than that, opening my heart and allowing someone in.  I suppose the good part is that it is very rare.  I am discerning...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    Overflowing Ribcage

    In regard to feeling, it is as if I am protected by a thin veil of archaic armor, whilst the majority I have come across are shielded with a bulletproof suit and helmet. Being an emotional sponge can be drastically discouraging when in unhealthy atmospheres. It is emotionally...
    DustToAshes DustToAshes 22-25, F May 23, 2012

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    It's The Usual

    I care deeply for all the wrong people. And one can easily guess the outcome. I screw myself over. It's the usual..
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 6, 2010

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    Love...

    People go on and on about how love is beautiful, and how lucky we are to have it, and how we should cherish it and pour it around the world. And we see it in movies and in songs and even in philosophy books on morals. But the truth is I've never gotten anything good out of it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 11, 2010

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    It Hurts.

    I think the title of this group pretty much sums it up for me.  I feel with my whole heart and usually end up having my feelings hurt deeply.  Ti's the nature of my life. 
    Freestanding Freestanding 51-55, F 8 Responses May 20, 2008

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    And I Refuse To Stop!

    since coming to ep i have met some incredible people! i have had my heart ripped to shreds and have kept a few great friends too!  you see when someone says they want to get to know me i am soo excited and actually believe them. but i can be a bit overwhelming. i try to pull...
    darlinsam darlinsam 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 12, 2010

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    Yep, Too Sensitive.

    So much so I've often wondered what it would be like to feel little to nothing at all.  People who don't care always seem so happy. But, I will NEVER, ever be that kind of person.  I care too much and I think it makes people uncomfortable. I've definitely driven away friends...
    strayghost strayghost 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 26, 2012

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    Real Violence With Yelling Makes Me Cry

    I dont understand why, I just feel I cant think, I go into panic mode and start to break down. Maybe its because I cant see scary movies or war movies. Anyone feel the same way?
    myrighttolife myrighttolife 18-21, F Feb 7, 2012

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    Almost Feel I Ask For It

    There have been times when I new I shouldn't get deeply connected to someone but most times I am stupid and ignore that warning light/ flag. I really wish I was smart enough to listen to it. I have often been hurt because I cared so deeply for someone and things went horribly...
    doritos1254 doritos1254 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 10, 2011

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    Because of Him..

    I hate him, he has ruined my life, he came and went and in the process made me fall madly in love with him and then crushed my feelings like i had none. I met a boy in a club about a year ago, i didn't think anything to him at first, to be honest i was just up for a laugh...
    sheshigh sheshigh 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    I Feel Deeply

    I feel deeply,Trouble is,I'm often gettin' hurt,'Cos I feel this way,Don't know,How to change,I need help.
    startinover1 startinover1 46-50 Apr 16, 2012

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    Caring Too Much

    I have been told by a lot of people that I am toe caretaker kind of person I am always the person my friends come to when they need help and I am seen as the grown up responsible well rounded person. I love helping other people I am even pursuing this as my career path in life...
    jparker0702 jparker0702 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 22, 2012

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    J -- I Thought We Were Friends....

    I know it's really been an online friendship but it was important to me. We shared a lot of thoughts and feelings and it meant alot to me to have you to share with and I appreciated all that you shared with me. Now it seems that since your situation has changed you have no need...
    dimples2911 dimples2911 46-50 2 Responses Sep 6, 2010

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    Definitely one if my huge flaws.

    I'm a male and I inherited this trait from my mother. I take things to heart and it brings me down or holds me back alot of times. Truly a constant mental battle
    Winbu Winbu 16-17, M Jul 15

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    Im Too Caring ...

     i tend to take on other peoples problems and throw myself into a depression ...  my sisters husband choked her out in november  one of my brothers friends  tried to help her ...  but he wanted a relationship ...  and i felt horrible because i ...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 23, 2007

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    Too Hurt

    I've come to realise something things these last few days. I tend to attract damaged people. I don't quite know why, but I have come to realise that deep down, under everything else, exists the belief that if I can help them perhaps they won't leave me. To date, this has been...
    swiftage swiftage 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 27, 2012

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    Javier

    i bin with this kid named Javier for like over 3 years now and we have are fight and stuff but he keeps saying i am lieing to him but I'm not we broke up 3 times and are last time was like a week ago we have a son tougher and his name nick he 7 nick trys to talk to his dad and...
    ilovenurto ilovenurto 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 24, 2010

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    Too Close

    I have gotten way to close to him. When he hurts i hurt. And im not talking about sympathy hurt on my part but actual curl-into-a-ball-beg-for-death type of hurt. He means so much to me i would do anything and everything to take his pain away...even give up my own life...
    CloudCatcher CloudCatcher 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2010

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    I Am Extremely Empathic

    I can feel another's pain.. it can be overwhelming at times and its taken years to be able to turn it off. There are still times of extreme emotion where numerous people I am around are feeling the same way that it gets through and it can at time be debilitating
    Xeno Xeno 26-30, M 9 Responses Jul 10, 2007

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    Empathy

    Although it hurts me when i see others hurt, and deep inside me it breaks my heart, i wouldn't give it up for the world. only when you feel others pain can you truly empathize and help them. if feeling their pain helps me understand them even a little better, its worth it a...
    DoubleInfinity2 DoubleInfinity2 16-17, F Nov 26, 2012

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    Self Protection

    I think that those of us that are sensitive and feel things deeply have built up ways of protecting ourselves. We have lots of walls protecting our fragile hearts. This is only a problem when it prevents us from feeling the good things too. It can also be a problem when someone...
    simplysubmissive simplysubmissive 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2010

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    You're The Worst

    I feel really hurt and disappointed when my brother told me that my drawings suck. Before I start making drawing, I was very happy, excited, and can't wait to finish my drawing to make a new one. Now that my brother insulted me and my drawing, I don't feel like making drawings...
    sunsetglow sunsetglow 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 16, 2010

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    Even Online I'm the Same

    It's a bit annoying when even online if I'm questioned, mocked, teased, gained up on, mostly by adults which is funny, and I can still get really hurt and maybe a little confused. I'm waaay too sensitive and I do feel deeply, its just who I am. Personally, life's hard for me.. I...
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 15, 2009

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    I am a very emotional person,

    and I know that it makes my life harder, but in many ways I would not change it. It is like Gibran says, we choose our sorrows long before we experience them. If we choose to care deeply about life, then we will inevitable be hurt deeply, because experience is such a brutal...
    accidentalme accidentalme 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 28

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    Completely

    I've always felt things deeply or to the extreme, since I was a kid. When a person is hurting, I can't help but to feel it, to the deepest core of me. And so I rush in and try to help, often times. This can be dangerous sometimes, because some tend to lash out at the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    I Found The Answer

    I was born with a good heart that feels so much for others in pain or sufferings. Sometimes i was badly hurt because i feel too much. Now i know how to surrender my feelings to God. Only HIM can help.
    unshakable unshakable 61-65, F 7 Responses Oct 21, 2011

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    Attached

    In the past, alot of times I get infatuated easily, and , ahem, they don't feel the same way? Then I get the hurt paralysing my soul for a time. I love deeply, and want to loved back the same way. I also experience music and movies intensely.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I Get Attached Quickly

    Whenever i meet someone new that i seem to get along with well then i become attached to them easily and then i always feel very hurt when it doesn't work out between us. I wish that i didn't ever have to be at all dependent on somebody else, but i just get attached...
    alwaysalone alwaysalone 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 20, 2008

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    I Am Deeply Concerned About My Career.

     I am deeply concerned. As for my career, I am interested in another sector. Actually it is more than interesed. I am sort of in love with this sector. The thing is that my father does not quite allow me to do so, which might sound irony.( Please do not make fun of me.) It...
    lillian262010 lillian262010 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 25, 2010

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    It Really Hurts...

    I usually open myself from the first time i met somebody, i like others to see life the way i do, maybe that way i'll find someone like me. But also when people really get to know me, they see that i'm different and they start to be distant, they like the outgoing and making...
    jafetgx jafetgx 22-25, M 7 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    Overly Sensitive

    I realize that as men, we are often labeled as insensitive or not in touch with our emotions but I'm not cut from that cloth. More often than not, I wish I could be less sensitive, less empathic and able to block out things on command. Almost like hitting the 'mute' button on the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jul 17, 2009

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    Strong On The Outside - Jelly On The Inside.

    I'm so sick of being strong, not being listened to, not Being thought of - being spoken at rather than to. Like my feelings don't matter. People don't understand that I have a mental illness, I'm not trying to be awkward or difficult - I generally don't know what to do in...
    MotherlessMother MotherlessMother 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 7, 2013

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    On A Loop

    I moved twice from my home state CA to be with a man who I had felt love for. The first time I picked myself up and went on with my life. This time it isn't working too well. I was reviewing my life today. Lots of fails. Job fails Relationship fails.(Messes attract messes) I...
    Kittychanel Kittychanel 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2013

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    I Am Overly Sensitive Sometimes

    There have been so many instances where something someone has said to me has made me very upset in private, even though I try my hardest not to show it. A lot of the time, it has been very small and I know that I'm being unreasonable in all probability, but I can't help it. I...
    musicspirit musicspirit 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 15, 2009

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    I Still Love Her

    it all started a little while back when i thought a girl was just my friend. I had a crush on one of her friends and she helped me all through out. :) the girl and me got along well,unfortunately, she transferred schools. but little did i know i'd fall for the girl helping me all...
    isly143 isly143 16-17, M Apr 16, 2011

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    That's My Drawback !

    I  feel so deeply for my closed ones and became very soft very easily . That's my most drawback . I care about ppl  a lot. I always try to help others. When even I was a kid , I have this feelings . Because of these I suffered a lot.  I loved my ex so much . But he used me , I...
    richa12345678 richa12345678 22-25, F 1 Response May 16, 2011

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    I've been through a lot in my life

    and I let my emotions go deeply but I always get hurt by caring so much, even with my friends. It's like no matter how good of a person you are and try to be, someone will never treat you as good as the way you treat them and it hurts
    lunalight21 lunalight21 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2013

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    Yup....

    I've always felt things deeply or to the extreme, since I was a kid. When a person is hurting, I can't help but to feel it, to the deepest core of me. And so I rush in and try to help, often times. This can be dangerous sometimes, because some tend to lash out at the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 10, 2010

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    I Still Love You Dad

    My Dad has had court mandated visitation for a while, and he just stopped coming. He never texts or calls, but every time I see him, I can't stay mad at him. I feel like crying when I have to leave because he understands me better than my mom. I let people in, and constantly...
    saxgurl212 saxgurl212 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2012

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    Grief

    Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone.It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life. It's loss. It's change.And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can...
    thesilentflower thesilentflower 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 10, 2011

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    I've had a rough life.

    The cards I have been dealt are hard to play. I can't be hurt over just about anything depending on the person and situation. I don't like being that way. It's just how I am
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F Mar 5

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    I feel so much anxiety because I feel I'm forced to go to my dad's house. My parents are divorced so I live with my mom. My dad does nothing for me. And he expects me to call him...
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    At the moment I only have one person I trust, but I can't express how I really feel. Like if I'm sad, which is all the time. Depression. I just tell him that I don't feel good, to...
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    I am the type of person who is always there for others. I always take everyones feelings into confederation before my own. I will not tell people that I'm upset or my feelings are...
    overwhelmedandexhausted overwhelmedandexhausted 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Last year I had one person in my life that I trusted. I have known her since I was young and despite her being my mothers age she was my best friend and like a mom to me. I could...
    blahlahblah599 blahlahblah599 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    Most of my life has been a complete mess. I had a terrible childhood, I was bullied, my dad has drinking problems, my mother has psychiatric problems, etc. And now, that my parents...
    DeniedWings DeniedWings 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    We where never really together...but it still hurts because I know I'll never have him. It was about a day ago and we where fighting like usually about how stupid he was acting...
    JustAnotherNobody21 JustAnotherNobody21 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago