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I Feel Like An Outcast In My Own Family

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    So im 31 now....adopted at birth....pretty much struggled with that my entire ife. I remember at 13 getting upset with my adoptive parents and being told "no one ever wanted me"...i got over it and continue to live the type of life that went off my parents buying our love...we...
    Lovematters2me Lovematters2me 31-35 Jul 17, 2012

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    Baby Girl..

    .. It's my nickname in my family. I'm the youngest of 4 children. I have 2 half-sisters and a half-brother. The two eldest - the older sister and the brother - are from my mom's first marriage. The other sister is from my dad's first marriage. My parents married each other when...
    cdailey cdailey 22-25, F Aug 23, 2011

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    Unwanted Then & Now

    I feel really sad that my family just doesn't seem to like me despite all my efforts to reach out to them.  They are pleasant to me over the phone but they're not interested in seeing me.   I have a small family so it's very hurtful when those few people don't want...
    anthonysgirl anthonysgirl 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 26, 2008

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    Frustrated And Alone

    I forget about this website and haven't posted anything in a long time, I tried to find it again to vent some of the frustrations out. I am the youngest child in my family, with an older brother, an older half brother and an older half sister. I've never really been the center...
    EpericDusk EpericDusk 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2013

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    It Has Always Been That Way

     i have never been able to really talk to my family about anything.they would either be to busy or my brothers would be damanding attention.and it was to some degree my fault.i was to quite.i never spoke up.and i went around as though i was doing fine.when my parents did...
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 2 Responses Aug 8, 2009

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    Outcasted And Alone

    Ever since I was a young child probably around 10 or so my older brother would come into my room and tell me how I was nothing. Forever a shadow, that I had nothing going for me while he had sports I had nothing because that's all I was to him. Nothing. My parents did everything...
    EpericDusk EpericDusk 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 11, 2011

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    The Girl Who Slowly Disappeared

    I am vanishing. In the eyes of my family I am nothing. Nothing more than a bother. Nothing more than a chore. Nothing more than an ugly piece of furniture in the corner of the room. And in the eyes of my family I do not exist. So I'm slowly vanishing. Vanishing to the point where...
    AngieHmay AngieHmay 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 25, 2013

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    I am the oldest of 2.

    My mom was my absolute best friend since i was a kid. she helped me with anybing and she was the only one that i always felt i could count on. Ever since a huge disagreement in my family about my parents being together.(I don't really think my dad is good for my mom) .. I have...
    username2443 username2443 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Family Secrets

    When I was 17, my sister (Sister 1) became pregnant (she was 14 at the time).  My parents were horrified and tried to keep it a secret from everyone.  They shipped her off to have the baby (she gave it up for adoption) and once she returned home, she began the...
    shutout shutout 51-55 Sep 7, 2008

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    On The Outside Looking In

    Being the oldest of three was never easy. Having two brothers who did everything wrong and nothing right always made things harder on me. I was the "ordinary" one. The one who did what I was told and did the things that I liked to do. I didn't party, drink, or have sex, I was...
    FadingEchoes FadingEchoes 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    "i Feel Like An Outcast In My Own Family"

    I was born July 23rd, 1972, to immature parents. I was born 2 months premature, and my mother swears that my father refused to see me because i was going to die anyway. My mothers parents hated him because he corrupted their daughter, and my fathers parents were oblivious to my...
    jessica72tyler jessica72tyler 36-40, F 7 Responses Aug 23, 2011

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    Isolated

    i have been isolated all my life i was always locked in my room day in and day out and the only thing i could do was watch through the window while other kids played outside. i had to go to school and after school come back straight home. i went to the university this year they...
    isolateddd isolateddd 18-21 8 Responses Jan 1, 2011

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    Misfit

    My parents divorced when I was four and my mother and I moved to Scotland from the States, so I've only ever known my mother's side of my family. They are all very conventional - that's not a criticism, they're really nice people and it makes then happy. It was just hard when I...
    Heartwing Heartwing 26-30 Aug 9, 2009

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    My Mom Doesnt Like Me

    my parents are split and my mom thinks i take to much advice from my dad. i think she is getting a rebellious teenager (me) mixed up with me taking my dads side. she always thinks im gonna call the cops on her for stupis stuff. she tell the whole family i have no respect and i...
    lonesome123 lonesome123 13-15 Aug 24, 2012

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    Outcast

    I suppose that is the bad thing with my parents being divorced and abusive. One raises me one way, and then i end up not agreeing with the others way of life. That causes me to fight with my dad, and i fought with my mom because she was a drunk *****. I don't really have a...
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 3 Responses Mar 19, 2010

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    Outcast From Siblings

    I have felt like an outcast my whole life from my siblings. I am the youngest child 5-7 years younger then my other sisters. I have 3 sisters they all have two children each. Two of my sisters are married. I have one child and am single. I have always felt so out of place and...
    Mya2012 Mya2012 22-25 1 Response May 17, 2013

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    Outsider

    I am the oldest out of two and my brother has always been the center of attention. He was always the trouble maker, I was the one who brought home the good grades and did what I was told but it was never enough. Recently I just graduated with two degrees from college but couldn...
    lonelystreet12 lonelystreet12 22-25 1 Response Sep 12, 2012

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    Passing Grace

    (This story is soley about my mother's side of the family and is in no way including my father's side.) I don't go to family functions anymore. I don't really want to sit around not talking to anyone or doing anything. They tend to overlook me most of the time now. I like it...
    ImEndangeredGimmeYourCola ImEndangeredGimmeYourCola 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2011

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    I Dont Belong

    I am a 42 year old woman I have 3 children 1 grandson and another on the way. That`s my family but with my Mother and Father I feel that I don`t belong in that part of my family,I am the eldest of 5 children 3 girls and 2 boys, my mother always blamed me for everything that...
    Jennyo124 Jennyo124 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2008

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    Emo Mexican?

    im called emo its not my name but thats what my family think i am. my family is mexican as am i ( brown, skin loud spanish music playing while cleaning)  i am the only guy with long hair and not interested into what they are into. i dont think they know me because they think im...
    Merac Merac 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 29, 2011

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    I Have Never Felt Like I Fit Into My Family,

    I have always felt like a person looking in on my family and never really being apart of the family. I was adopted pretty much from birth( so I have been told) I didn't know I was adopted until I was eleven years old. And even then I found the papers so I don't think my mom ever...
    SummerDanielle SummerDanielle 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 19, 2008

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    Zeher(poison)

    at the age of 12 started smoking,had my first beer at 14.at 18 had coke,never ever thought i will be drug addict.after 22 years of using,ilost my wife,my childrens,bank balance,business,good friends,family almost everything.thank god today im ciean.after being in rehabs
    jaggu10 jaggu10 36-40 Jul 6, 2012

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    Not Being Treated Fairly

    my brother got married and the got a divorce from the same wome 3 years later they got remarried and the 5 months later got a divorce all over agin my parents were there for bothe weddings for them both  and then when i wanted to get married they didn't want...
    lostsis lostsis 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2009

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    Looking Out From Under The Table

    When I was younger, I would hide under the kitchen table and listen to my mom and my sisters talking. I hid under the table so they would not be able to pick on me. They would call me names and laugh. They would make me do things that nobody wanted to do and because I was a good...
    donedonedone36 donedonedone36 36-40 1 Response Sep 8, 2012

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    Outcast Out Of All My Family

    I am the middle child of my family. They treat me as if i don't exist as if I'm nothing. They love and give more attention to my little sister and older brother. They get everything they want computer,money, pets, and more. But I have to work for everything I have to make money...
    Lonelyoutcast Lonelyoutcast 16-17, M Jul 21, 2013

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    I Don't Belong...

    I have five siblings. one 16 year old sister, one 17 year old sister, one 21 year brother, one 23 year old sister, and one 24 year old brother. I always feel like my family is hiding something from me. When I try to talk to my siblings it's like talking to wall sometimes. I feel...
    Alisaperne6446 Alisaperne6446 18-21, F Jul 28, 2013

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    Problem Child

    I'm the oldest of 2 kids my father was murdered and my mother started to favor my brother more. This went on for years. If he would get in trouble I got in trouble . If I got in trouble he would go clean skate. I'm over 25 now and I have been verbally tormented til this day...
    Nana1824 Nana1824 26-30 1 Response Jan 26, 2013

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    I Am An Outcast.

    I feel like an outcast in my own family. My father molested me when I was 4 until i was 8. When I told my mother, she responded in the proper way. Grief, lawsuit, divorce.  But she never took me to that all important...therapy.  She has told me many times that she...
    ccspoons ccspoons 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    Never Wanted, Always Ignored.

    My family has never cared much for me. To them, i am just a piece of furniture in the corner of the room. They notice nothing. I have an eating disorder. They insisted it was all in my head. I used to cut myself. They tossed my over to the nearest shrink and left me. I broke down...
    AngieHmay AngieHmay 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 29, 2013

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    Never good enough For myself I honestly try so hard And kick myself back down I can't impress myself Too much imperfection in my way Too many scars and pain All these memories...
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    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I live in a pretty good family. But i allways feel like im missing something. My mom is the nicest human being. My dad helps me and buys me things that I want, but somehow i still...
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    No matter what it seems like I'm a burden to anyone. I'm the one that screws up everything, from relationships to something small. No matter what I seem to do I'm told I screw up...
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    In grade 6, at a new school, I had no one for a long time. I would read at recess, and do projects alone. Then, two outsiders befriended me. They were so kind. I liked them, but...
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    I always feel like a guy. But I'm a girl. I know I'm transgender so it's not a problem. The only problem is that my family hates me already, I don't know why I feel like a nuisance...
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