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I Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough

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    I Feel Like Nothing I Do Is Good Enough For My Husband And Children

    I have been married for almost a year to the love of my life. When we were dating he also told me how beautiful I am and how he couldnt live with out me. Now, I dont think he even likes me. Its not even been a year. Am i that horrible? Am I doing him an injustice by staying with...
    missmandy777 missmandy777 26-30 45 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    There are people in my life

    that have made me feel so insecure and self conscious and sadly they are all men that I have chosen
    brittd90 brittd90 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    I feel like that I am not worthy of being truly

    loved. Every guy that I've ever been with has hurt/used me in some way. In better words, I liked them more than they liked me. I feel like I'm never going to find a guy who has mutual feelings for me. Just recently I thought I had met a guy who was soo amazing at first and we...
    sarsuz sarsuz 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    DeToxKingz DeToxKingz 18-21, M Feb 22

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    The voices grow louder by the day.

    Each one infiltrates my mind with ideas of how I should be, according to other's expectations of me, and what I should be doing with my life. With each day that I step a foot in society, there they stand, the constant reminders of why I'm not good enough. I'm not sure that I...
    LifeLover12 LifeLover12 18-21, F Mar 10

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    I'm Just Not.

    I'm not pretty enough, I'm not witty enough, I'm not kind enough. I wish I'd stop demonizing myself for all these little things, and torturing myself for my past. I'm sick of having all these nightmares every day. But part of me says, I deserve it. I totally deserve it. I don't...
    Fuzzies Fuzzies 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 16, 2012

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    I've always struggled with this.

    I always feel like I'm not a good enough friend, not a good enough spouse, not a good sister, not a good enough student, not a good enough person... I want to feel confident. I want to believe in myself, but I just don't right now. I'm having a bad day today. Ugh.
    MadameMM MadameMM 26-30, F 11 Responses Mar 27

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    I hate that this is a topic.

    Nobody should ever have to feel like this. And I know it's easy to just say, "oh well you're good enough don't worry," but it's another thing to actually believe it. If you are a part of this topic I'm going to assume that the reason you don't feel good enough is because you...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I feel I'm not good enough,

    because I'm not. I'm not skinny, I'm not at all what you might call beautiful, I'm not great at sports. I'll never be a good enough singer, student, daughter, friend, or even lover. I'm not good enough. I don't want to be perfect, I just want to feel my best was as much as...
    imkristi imkristi 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    I feel like I'm just stupid.

    I make mistakes and people don't want to be my friend. I feel like I'm just doing things wrong in life and I'll never get anywhere because I'm not good enough to be anything. I can't be a friend, a boyfriend, a brother or anything.
    CaptainBenza CaptainBenza 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 8

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    I'm over here depressed

    as hell and she's too busy playing video games to even notice..
    XxSaintsEyesxX XxSaintsEyesxX 16-17, M 4 Responses Mar 28

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    I Always Feel That I'm Not Good Enough...

    No matter how hard I try or how hard I work, I always feel that I'm not good enough. I've always felt this way about myself. I'm always hard on myself and get frustrated and angry with myself. I am my own worst critic. I hate myself most of the time and the way I look. I've...
    Bitterrsweet Bitterrsweet 18-21, F 10 Responses Feb 15, 2012

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    Replaced

    Ever had shoes that you absolutely loved that no matter how ruffed up they were or how ugly and yellow they've gotten. You just couldn't find yourself to throw them away or give them to someone who needed them. But yet we somehow find another pair that we maybe love just as much...
    AmazinglyAmazing AmazinglyAmazing 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 2, 2012

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    Insecurities

    I feel like I'm not good enough for the person I love. He gets attention from so many girls and I feel like I don't from other guys. I know I'm not ugly, but for some reason I don't get that much attention. I hate this feeling and I don't know what to do about it. I hate feeling...
    sgrnspce93 sgrnspce93 16-17 2 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    When your raised to believe it,

    you continue to feel this way all through life. Living that way now. I know I have issues with it. I'm fully aware it's not how to think, but when you think it since the day you were born, how can I stop?
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    Just let everyone know don't message me

    if u above 29 I won't answer I'm sick if getting messages from older ppl it's gross
    lovesmakeup lovesmakeup 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    People say there is no

    such thing as middle child syndrome but sometimes I can't help think that maybe it could be true. I am middle to two brothers and the only girl. I have always struggled in school with being dyslexic and never feel confident in anything I do. The only time I ever felt happy in...
    Clagerag Clagerag 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    littlemeonly littlemeonly 13-15, F Apr 9

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    I will never be good enough .

    Not matter what I do. I hate myself for it
    ithzelhernandez ithzelhernandez 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    Everybody seems to focus on the negatives.

    Nobody ever sees the positive. If everything I do is wrong, it makes me feel like I will never accomplish anything in life. Which will kill my self esteem. I want a positive person, somebody who will help me grow to become a better person.
    socalsissi socalsissi 36-40, T 2 Responses Mar 6

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    Why Do We Stop Loving Ourselves?

    I wrote this a while ago and thought I should share it now... I think I realized why people stop loving themselves. When you love someone very much... or you care about someone's opinion greatly... You start seeing yourself through his eyes. You want him to be proud of you. You...
    stardust7 stardust7 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 1, 2012

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    I've been feeling this way recently.

    I have a crush on a boy for a year already but he doesn't even talk to me. Am I not good enough for him? I know I'm not a good conversation-starter. Maybe he deserves someone better... but still, I feel this way. My closest friends are slowly getting themselves boyfriends. I'm...
    Tiffany98702 Tiffany98702 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 23

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    Recently I've been feeling

    so inadequate all the time, like I'm simply not good enough for anyone or anything. I think this has been brought on by the volunteer work I have recently picked up. It's stressful and there's so much to remember, and I feel like I can't get the hang of it. I'm sick of...
    Sapphire14 Sapphire14 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    Passionate Failure

         My unfortunate passion is writing.  I say "unfortunate" because ... well ... I pretty much suck at writing.  Translated: My writing is mind-numbingly boring.  No matter how I try (and I do try), it ends up being utterly drab and dull. ...
    suzyn65 suzyn65 41-45 9 Responses Jul 15, 2010

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    U no what? I dont really care

    if u were not tipsy, I have no idea y u walked awah from me, I thought we were gonna be trashed but I guess u lied to me an d didnt want to. Im a lil mad at you right now. I can tell that u only care about urself and not ur friends. Least I aint dramatic like you. U rather thi...
    lovesmakeup lovesmakeup 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    I'm a freshman in college

    and all my life I've been told i was smart and gifted. I was invited to come to an early start program at my college where we take a calculus class to get a head start. All of the other people in the program got an A or a B, but I got a C. I made up for it my first semester...
    sophicticatedIgnorance sophicticatedIgnorance 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Self Worth

    When it comes down to it I know the reason behind my depression and sadness. To put it plain and simply I don't think I'm good enough in any sense of the word. I go about my days in the normal fashion putting up a fun carefree attitude most of the time, but inside I always...
    lifesize lifesize 18-21, F 8 Responses Oct 10, 2013

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    24 Years Old and Never Been In a Relationship Because I'm Not Good Enough

    I feel that I'm not good enough for anyone, whether inside or outside. I feel ugly and fat and no matter what I try I can't seem to lose the pounds. I can't cook, I can't sew, I can't offer good advice, I can't do anything that will make people happy. I shy away from people who...
    cityonfire cityonfire 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 26, 2009

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    It's hard to write down your failures,

    to look back and think of all the things that you could have/should have done differently. Second guessing and judging yourself.....your very being, then put it up for the world to see. But one step foreword as they say At the end of it all I really and truly wanted to do...
    fadedmind fadedmind 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 5

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    I'm not good enough I'll just never understand

    why I'm not good enough, I try my hardest at everything but it's never good enough.
    charlie4edwards charlie4edwards 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    I know I'm not good enough.

    Al my friends in real life have forgotten about me, I'm unlovable, and if I open up to someone they just pretend it didn't happen. There must be something wrong with me, although nobody seems to be able to tell me what it is. So I'm just at the point of giving up entirely...
    KiwiDan KiwiDan 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 12

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    I Feel Like An Imposter

    You know something? This is a common thread in this group - "I feel inadequate. I feel like a failure, I can't measure up, I can't meet expectations, I'll never amount to anything." You know what? Take a good hard look at what you are doing and where you are going. Maybe it's not...
    angusmcfarland angusmcfarland 51-55, M 3 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    I'll Never Be Good Enough

    i do not cry i cut i do not hate my life i hate myself. this is important for you to know. i'm a failure, i cant do anything right! i'm so ungrateful for everything i have! i'm a cheerleader i'm on the band front i have an amazing boyfriend! but i don't deserve any of this i'm a...
    cutter15 cutter15 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2011

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    I Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough

    It's like everyone wants something out of me that I have no idea.. Like what am I suppose to do? I try to make everyone happy but I can't seem to... Friends come and go.. Can't ask to stay.. Crushes are gone at the end.. Family is not even there.. So I really don't call them...
    Cheekymonkey1997 Cheekymonkey1997 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    Well, Not For That One Person

    I do love myself, and know I am good enough for most people who love me. But, not for that one person. That person has said hurtful things about me throughout my life. I'm never going to forget what that person said. The damage has been done, and there's no way to fully heal from...
    emipurple emipurple 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2013

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    Am I Ever Going to Be the Kind of Mother I Think My Girls Deserve?

    Growing up, all I wanted to be was a wife and a mom.  Never would I have thought that I would end up feeling like a failure at both. I thought that I would be this high energy fun mom with lots of structured activities, meals on the table - all nutritious of course, outings...
    AnalyticalAly AnalyticalAly 41-45, F 10 Responses Apr 9, 2009

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    My Break Up Has Made Me Feel Unworthy And Not Good Enough For Somebody That I Thought Would Love Me Unconditionally

    So to give you guys a little background story into our relationship, I knew my ex all through my adolescent years and we were always very good friends and hung out in the same circles. When we were 18 years old, we started dating. He struggled with addiction problems in the...
    pugs390 pugs390 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    I feel like I'm just not good enough

    for my parents, my father is a doctor, and my mother is a dentist, and my sister is in law school now, and they just favor her over me. It's so obvious. I just wish I was good enough for them
    danman96 danman96 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 15

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    I guess I'm just not good enough to be in my

    mom's life. I guess I caused to much misery and stress for her to at least say that she "loves" me and actually mean it. I guess excelling with school and sports just doesn't catch her attention. I guess when I fail and don't do well that's when she feels happy...to think of...
    MaddieMoo14 MaddieMoo14 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    Yeah, But.

    I feel like I'm never good enough for anyone.But now, I just wanna be good enough for myself <3
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2011

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    I don't think I'm good enough to hang out with

    me my two best friends. Both of them are popular. One of them is an adorable girl with an approachable and friendly aura and the other one is a person trusted by our professors because she was a former officer of a school club. While I'm just.... me. They're just too good.
    PrincezzSn0w PrincezzSn0w 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    I have been married for two

    and a half years. In our marriage my husband will find everything I do annoying. I would cook something he would be like you can't cook like my mum, you don't know how to do anything your useless. It does not matter how hard I try to please him it just seems to back fire on me...
    unhappy01 unhappy01 26-30, F Feb 14

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    I've always felt like I'm not good enough!

    I can't do anything right! No matter how hard I try, I can't make em proud of me! The fact tht I've made it this far, still not good enough! How much do I have to do to be good enough for someone? Maybe things will never change! Maybe no one will ever be proud of me or think I'm...
    Ellias95 Ellias95 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 12

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    I don't like ads like this.

    You should know your more important then anything around you so stop writing personal thoughts how your not important !!
    billyaldo billyaldo 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    Did But Now I Am Unsure

    For most of my life I felt this way. Felt I would never be good enough for anybody. Caused by many different reason, I gave up on seeing my self worth, resigned to the fact that I would be alone forever. But know I am not so sure. I found someone who makes all the insecurities...
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 10 Responses Sep 12, 2010

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    Not Good Enough For My Dreams

    Everyday I want to take action in my dreams but everyday I found something, anything, that puts me down to prevent me from doing it. I feel like im not good enough to pursue it, im not talented enough for people to like me, i always find someone better at it and i just feel bad...
    j963 j963 16-17 1 Response Apr 10, 2013

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    I don't know what's wrong with me.

    .. I wish I could understand things.. I feel like I'm not good at anything and I'm not good enough for anyone's time... Yea I'm cheerful I guess and "happy" but still I'm not truly happy with myself ... I just wish u could understand what I'm good enough at and if I'm not just be...
    eflor1436 eflor1436 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    I always feel like theres someone

    that will always be better than me and prettier than me for someone i like
    lovebugy18 lovebugy18 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    Never Quite Get It

    nothing seems to go right.the more i try,the worse it seems to get.i try every way ,but it fails inthe end.i never have the right words.and all i see is pain.i can`t begine to fix things.all i am doing is pathching things.inever eem to get it right.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 4 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    I suffer severe depression.

    I had to make a choice between getting a car and getting my meds. I got a car. You'd think that'd be good because I can always refill my meds on my next paycheck. It's only a week. No big deal... This has been the worst 2 weeks. I've missed doctor appointments and spent most of...
    hezapriin hezapriin 26-30, F Mar 13

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    Well, I have to admit this.

    ... But luckily I'm still young. Lots of chances to improve myself. Here we go. Let's see what I can bring to myself.
    MartialArtsGuy MartialArtsGuy 22-25, M 5 Responses Mar 10

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    I just want to scream is loud

    as I can I want to start yelling at ppl to grow up already they act like kids like really
    lovesmakeup lovesmakeup 22-25, F Apr 14

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