I Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough

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    I've felt like this all my life.

    In high school everyone kind of feels this way but I've felt like this way before that. In my family the cousins and siblings... Even family friends kids/neighbors, we're all around the same age. This feeling started very young, I was probably 4 or 5, dancing around like little...
    iammyownworstenemy1 iammyownworstenemy1
    18-21, F
    Oct 3, 2015

    I am struggling academically

    and I really wish I could go back in time and sat out in the fall last year and worked instead of going to a sorry junior college that ****** up GPA. *sighs* :(
    PetiteChica PetiteChica
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 4, 2015

    I feel like I'm not good enough

    that no one will ever like me or love me for who I am and I just sometimes give up
    Pizogoon Pizogoon
    22-25, M
    Jan 6, 2015

    I'm in a relationship with my current bf

    for the past 9 years and through out these years I just feel that I am not good enough for him. we constantly fight, quarreled about the littlest things in life and we always have miscommunication. we spoke about our problems. we are always trying to fix things for the better...
    ElizaTribbiani ElizaTribbiani
    22-25, F
    Sep 13, 2015

    I am absolutely in love with my gf

    and know she still has feelings for ex of 3yrs which is also her daughters dad, saw her whisper and found out she's questioning our relationship. Now I don't know what to feel or think. I just want to feel like I'm good enough or feel special to someone. I feel like I'm always...
    mwp483 mwp483
    26-30, M
    Aug 11, 2015
    awesomelyepicpotatoes awesomelyepicpotatoes
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 23, 2015

    I am done with this place.

    I am not here for convenience. I am sick of feeling like I am being tossed to the side or being second best. It only makes me feel like I'm never going to be good enough no matter what I do, say, and even think.
    SailorsAngel SailorsAngel
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    And it hurts that I cant be what everyone wants,

    or what anyone needs. And it hurts that I cant be what I want or what I need because Im not enough and I wont be enough and I'll never be close to enough and I am just so damn tired. Please save me from this hell Im living in.
    Spencer024 Spencer024
    22-25, F
    Feb 2

    My stepfather always says these hurtful things

    and even if i do try for my family, i'm never good enough. i don't feel like i should be alive
    ColorPrince ColorPrince
    18-21, T
    1 Response Dec 25, 2015

    I'm still searching for a home.

    What's hard about that is i don't have a template...something to go by. For the early years of my life, I lived with my mother and sister, but we never had our own house, my mother always lived with her boyfriend, who was abusive. I grew up with domestic violence, watching my...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 2
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 31, 2015

    I am one of the many people

    who didn't/still don't know what I want to do with my life. I majored in Communication Studies, couldn't find a job and honestly wasn't interested in any available within my major. I was job searching for over a year with no success before I decided to reconsider my career path...
    Megs89 Megs89
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    I try so hard and get

    so far and in the end it doesn't even matter...
    lonefirefox lonefirefox
    13-15, F
    Aug 4, 2015

    My husband constantly looks at other girls

    while with me. I have asked him to stop several times and he promised he would. I don't think he will stop anytime soon....
    AshleyNichole1995 AshleyNichole1995
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Aug 4, 2015
    SailorsAngel SailorsAngel
    41-45, F
    Aug 30, 2015

    Why Do We Stop Loving Ourselves?

    I wrote this a while ago and thought I should share it now... I think I realized why people stop loving themselves. When you love someone very much... or you care about someone's opinion greatly... You start seeing yourself through his eyes. You want him to be proud of you. You...
    stardust7 stardust7
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 1, 2012

    I've always struggled with this.

    I always feel like I'm not a good enough friend, not a good enough spouse, not a good sister, not a good enough student, not a good enough person... I want to feel confident. I want to believe in myself, but I just don't right now. I'm having a bad day today. Ugh.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 27, 2014

    And I have felt this way

    for many years. I pay my bills on time, I do good at work, but outside of those that's it. I'm not good enough as a family member, as a friend, as a boyfriend, or as a husband. I've been in all of those situations & have failed at all of them. Welcome to the worlds most...
    tiger3cub8 tiger3cub8
    46-50, M
    Mar 21

    I went half my life thinking I was a good person

    but with all that's going on in my life made me realize maybe I'm not a good person but a heartless person not just in love but in every aspect of life.
    gemini61289 gemini61289
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2015

    Is that why nobody talks to me?

    Why nobody cares about me? Why I feel like a ghost?
    Fernblaze101 Fernblaze101
    13-15
    2 Responses Aug 31, 2015

    You ever feel like you're not good enough?

    I've always felt this way when it comes to everything, especially when it comes to guys. You give them your all and they still want more, it's like they can never be satisfied. That goes for everyone too, I'm tired of trying to please everyone. I'm sorry if this is all over the...
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    I'm always going to be 2nd best to something

    or someone. theres nothing that's just me, nothing I'm really good at. and there's no one that just wants me, no one wants me unconditionally like I do them. I'm not appreciated because there's nothing to appreciate. it's not like I mean anything to any one. lately I think...
    Kmarcum99 Kmarcum99
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2015

    It's hard to write down your failures,

    to look back and think of all the things that you could have/should have done differently. Second guessing and judging yourself.....your very being, then put it up for the world to see. But one step foreword as they say At the end of it all I really and truly wanted to do...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Mar 5, 2014

    just a factual rant ?

    ?? I honestly don't even know what I'm doing anymore my life and my feelings and my emotions are just a confusing mess... so I go with the flow and hope for the best it's like life is just one big mess of disappointment and sadness and then you get like short moments of happiness...
    LauraLovelyMarino LauraLovelyMarino
    18-21, F
    Feb 27
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    Self Worth

    When it comes down to it I know the reason behind my depression and sadness. To put it plain and simply I don't think I'm good enough in any sense of the word. I go about my days in the normal fashion putting up a fun carefree attitude most of the time, but inside I always...
    lifesize lifesize
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Oct 10, 2013

    I have developed an obsession of wanting to be

    the best (aesthetics wise), and beating myself up when I'm not. I know I'm not ugly (as vein as that sounds) - but I have enough confidence in myself to know that I am not someone that people generally find ugly, in fact, I've never had trouble when it came to males finding me...
    nlu16 nlu16
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 15, 2015

    I Feel Like An Imposter

    You know something? This is a common thread in this group - "I feel inadequate. I feel like a failure, I can't measure up, I can't meet expectations, I'll never amount to anything." You know what? Take a good hard look at what you are doing and where you are going. Maybe it's not...
    angusmcfarland angusmcfarland
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Jun 20, 2012

    I'm not good enough for anybody,

    I never am. There's always someone better to be with instead of me. I don't deserve anyone. I'm not good enough for my friends, the guy I love, my teachers, my family, etc. No matter how hard I try or how much I push myself I am never good enough. I try to fix everything I can...
    greyxskies greyxskies
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Mar 2, 2015

    I'm never good enough!

    Can't wait to fall for someone who cares and is not just after one thing!! :/
    chantellexox chantellexox
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Aug 15, 2015

    The feeling of not being loved

    and respected the way I should be is what I really want.That's all I ask. Is it really that hard to do? I am a decent person; I am not perfect, as I am human; however, I always own up to my mistakes no matter where, when, how, and what I am doing. It seems like I fall short...
    SailorsAngel SailorsAngel
    41-45, F
    Aug 23, 2015

    I hear one thing but get treated another.

    Therefore how do you draw a different conclusion than you're not good enough!
    giggletree giggletree
    41-45, F
    Oct 24, 2015

    I know I'm not good enough.

    Al my friends in real life have forgotten about me, I'm unlovable, and if I open up to someone they just pretend it didn't happen. There must be something wrong with me, although nobody seems to be able to tell me what it is. So I'm just at the point of giving up entirely...
    KiwiDan KiwiDan
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Feb 12, 2014

    i know i shouldnt *****

    but i feel like all i do is let people down and disappoint them by not being good enough
    AngelWithASecret2 AngelWithASecret2
    16-17, F
    1 Response Nov 1, 2015

    In the end, all I can do is sit here,

    and wait for him, and miss him, miss his smile, miss his hugs, miss holding his hands, miss the way he looks at me, miss the way he talks to me, miss his subtle but loving pokes, miss his voice, miss him beside me, miss cuddling with him, miss watching movies with him, miss...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 29, 2015

    Not Good Enough In The Work Place

    I've been at various accounting jobs for the pas 3 or so years and continiously i find myself in the same pradicament. This is how it goes:1) I start at a new job, slightly nervouse but excited for the new challenges (i almost look at it as a new breath of life).2) I get taught...
    angelwingsy angelwingsy
    22-25
    17 Responses Mar 7, 2011

    When i browse some of the stories on here it

    amazes me how such amazing words can pour out of someone's mind- like a poem or a story to tell. It both enchants me and makes me feel inferior. I realise comparing myself to other people is debilitating, but how can't I when i'm trying so hard to think for example of a story...
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Oct 21, 2014

    I feel like I'm a disappointment to everyone.

    I know that that's just me being pessimistic in my depressive state but being here just doesn't make sense all the time. I can't even make myself happy.
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 23, 2015

    I Feel Like Nothing I Do Is Good Enough For My Husband And Children

    I have been married for almost a year to the love of my life. When we were dating he also told me how beautiful I am and how he couldnt live with out me. Now, I dont think he even likes me. Its not even been a year. Am i that horrible? Am I doing him an injustice by staying with...
    missmandy777 missmandy777
    26-30
    83 Responses Jun 22, 2010

    like I'm lonely as ****.

    .. It's so weird even though I only hung out with him like twice... the only time I have felt even kind of okay is when he's next to me ...... and I really hope things work out with him but at the same I'm afraid I'm going to scare him off because I'm super clingy and I'm...
    LauraLovelyMarino LauraLovelyMarino
    18-21, F
    Feb 20

    I Always Feel That I'm Not Good Enough...

    No matter how hard I try or how hard I work, I always feel that I'm not good enough. I've always felt this way about myself. I'm always hard on myself and get frustrated and angry with myself. I am my own worst critic. I hate myself most of the time and the way I look. I've...
    Bitterrsweet Bitterrsweet
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Feb 15, 2012

    Be true to yourself. Do what you know is right.

    If you get lost in the shadows; search for the light.
    Meagaroni18 Meagaroni18
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 6, 2014

    I'm never good enough,

    even at EP no one talks to me:(
    imjustmex33 imjustmex33
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Dec 22, 2014

    I feel like I'm just stupid.

    I make mistakes and people don't want to be my friend. I feel like I'm just doing things wrong in life and I'll never get anywhere because I'm not good enough to be anything. I can't be a friend, a boyfriend, a brother or anything.
    CaptainBenza CaptainBenza
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Apr 8, 2014

    sorry i didn't do better.

    sorry i couldn't do better. sorry i can't do better. sorry that you are the reason i am like this. sorry for not being good enough.
    SilverUniicorn SilverUniicorn
    70+, F
    Mar 15

    You cannot change how people feel about you

    so you might as well stop trying. Channel your energy on growing yourself and doing your job well.
    Charmeeee Charmeeee
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 28, 2014

    My mom mostly makes me feel this way.

    I'm getting a lot of pressure to plan for the future; this is my first year as a college student and I'm very confused on what I want to do when I grow up. I have an idea maybe to apply for an internship at Disney, but I brought it up to her and now she's acting as if this is 10...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 3, 2015

    Some days turn out better

    or worse than others – that’s a fact. But ultimately, the way we feel about our life and ourselves has the biggest impact on the outcome of each day. Happiness and confidence can create outcomes that exceed our expectations, like a continual ray of sunshine even on a cloudy...
    Blanche08 Blanche08
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    Recently I've been feeling

    so inadequate all the time, like I'm simply not good enough for anyone or anything. I think this has been brought on by the volunteer work I have recently picked up. It's stressful and there's so much to remember, and I feel like I can't get the hang of it. I'm sick of...
    Sapphire14 Sapphire14
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2014

    it sucks when I or others feel like this

    and I know I speak for all when I say this but..........GODDAMMIT
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 4, 2015

    I have this terrible feeling

    that I'm not good enough eating away my mind. I'm pretty sure my parents hate me. I get the straight As in school, I do my homework every night, and I've never been at trouble in school. I've been in honor society twice and I stay fit by playing tennis and basketball. On top of...
    Sadieschen Sadieschen
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2015
    mehear mehear
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 17, 2015

    I Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough

    It's like everyone wants something out of me that I have no idea.. Like what am I suppose to do? I try to make everyone happy but I can't seem to... Friends come and go.. Can't ask to stay.. Crushes are gone at the end.. Family is not even there.. So I really don't call them...
    Cheekymonkey1997 Cheekymonkey1997
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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