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I Feel Like Im Not Good Enough

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    Even though I am older,

    I still battle with self esteem issues. I wonder how anyone could love me. I wonder what is wrong them, What is wrong with me. I have too many faults to list. I know i should give myself a break, but it's hard to when you feel like you should be better then you are.
    aaronfunn aaronfunn 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I feel like I'm going to be forever alone.

    .. that I'm only good enough for my ex that beats on me and puts me down.... i need help.....
    Tylene22 Tylene22 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    Ladies-Gentle-Anyone.

    . If your significant other never complimented you, but complimented others of the opposite sex, would you feel insecure? Would you feel ugly?? If they never told you that you look good, etc etc.. But was always talking about how good someone else looks.. How would that make you...
    itsalmostlikeiminvisible itsalmostlikeiminvisible 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 13, 2015

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    I rarely feel like I'm good enough

    for anything. My ex husband left me for someone he met on the internet about 5 years ago. I was devastated. We hadn't been happy for awhile...just had a lot going on in our lives at that time...but he would always say that he would never leave me. But as soon as another...
    RubyLane RubyLane 46-50, F Dec 7, 2014

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    By nature I'm a social person.

    I like to be around people, talking to them, hanging out. A lot of times through texting, I text how I feel. I text the way I am feeling. I've always assumed others do that too. So when someone texts "K." Or "cool." Etc.. Really short uninteresting answers. It makes me feel like...
    BeautifullyAmiss BeautifullyAmiss 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    Everyone I end up being around,

    I don't fit in with. I don't care to fit in and never did really. At the same time it would be nice to have others who don't make me feel bad for liking things outside of them. I know, find other people to be around but it's not always that easy. Feel so lost and like I will...
    EternityF EternityF 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    my name is Craig and ive been single 10 years

    my last relationship I had was when i was 15 yes I'll admit I'm not the most good looking person in the world as im 4ft9 in height due to a disability and im a little overweight due to the same disability but I have a an amazing personality I would do anything for anyone I...
    MCDC1990 MCDC1990 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 4, 2015

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    My parents would yell at me

    if I ever got a problem wrong, my brother had all the praise. They would tell me i'm not good enough and would tell me to grow up because I cry to much. I felt like I was never worth it, until I found my best friend. Don't give up, ever, they're not worth it. I found someone who...
    Dandere Dandere 16-17, F Oct 4, 2015

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    I feel like I'm never going to be good enough

    for anyone or anything. It saddens me to think that whatever I do may not be sufficient enough to make any significant effect on my life, as if I'm never going to go anywhere, not with this irrational fears. Fear of not going to be able to be accepted by anyone, fear of humans...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 1, 2015

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    It Is Like This...

    Imagine you're walking down a street in 20 degree weather and you spot a homeless man.  He is wearing shorts and flip flops.  You offer to get him a meal from McDonald's and he says, "I don't like McDonald's."  You offer him a coat and he says, "I don't like blue...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 7, 2010

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    http://www.experienceproject.

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    r2wags r2wags 61-65, M Jan 7

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    I don't feel like I'm worthy enough to be loved

    which mainly has to do with my parents who made it clear I'm not good enough. my mom has been verbally and physically abusive towards me. she always told me "having you was my biggest mistake" "nothing good came out of having you." there was one incident where she was screaming...
    deleted deleted 26-30 29 Responses Jan 17

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    I'll never be good enough.

    Never reach everyone's standards. Never make high enough grades. Never be good enough at music. Never be good enough at poetry. Never be good enough at drawing. Never be beautiful enough. Never be social enough. Never be kind enough. Never be respectful constantly. Never doing...
    nightskyvampire nightskyvampire 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 8, 2015

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    I fave felt this way ever

    since I can remember. I was 8 years old or so, and my mom sent me to a two day football camp over the summer. They actually started to question me if my mom hit me cause, I was never happy enough with my performance. All thru out my life even when I am in first, I always feel...
    BadAppleBadSeed BadAppleBadSeed 22-25, M Nov 29, 2015

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    I Dont Think I Will Ever Be.

    I dont think i meet todays "standards" I never really have. Im always below them. Or even peoples standards. They never seem to like me. for stupid reasons or good ones. I have never been good enough for people, my family, friends or anyone. relation ship wise, It be...
    tomtombear tomtombear 18-21, M 4 Responses Aug 30, 2008

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    every time i reach out to my friends

    and theyre all busy, i feel like theyre lying to me to get out of being with me. i constantly feel like **** because of it.
    megakarp megakarp 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 28, 2015

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    "I could never be that good.

    " We hear this phrase sometimes... probably have even said it about ourselves in certain situations. Emotions get us in trouble sometimes, don't they? I know for me, they do a lot. Emotions take away our rational, logical thinking and put us in a somewhat-dreamlike state...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Might seem irrational,

    but there have been so many times when I haven't been...one in particular, I gave everything I had and that person walked away...I don't want to let that fear run my life...but then it is a logical fear..a fear of losing my sanity and ripping out my insides (again).
    kuronekko kuronekko 31-35, F 8 Responses Feb 2

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    My mom has yet again made me feel like a piece

    of **** and everything I do is wrong so I don't know why I try when I don't even deserve to be here.
    iflipppppp iflipppppp 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 16, 2014

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    I feel like I'll Never be Good enough to be

    someone's EVERYTHING, SOMEONE'S WIFE , PARTNER , BEST FRIEND , ONLY LOVER .. to think of all the time in relationships that didn't work out , ended or ended badly .. the children I have because they wanted Me happy but could Not love me enough to stay and be that family man...
    MrsNeedit MrsNeedit 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2015

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    Whenever I think someone is attractive the very

    next thought in my head is that you are so stupid stop thinking that Bcuz you are clearly not good enough.
    laxprincess laxprincess 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    Do you ever feel like everything you do isn't

    sufficient? Like you will never be perfect, or even close to it. You will never make someone happy at all times, never be pretty enough, and never smart enough. There will always be someone better than you. And you're just waiting for your friends, family, and boyfriend to...
    enbarlev enbarlev 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2, 2014

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    I Thought I'd Found My Soul Mate

    He said he loved me, but words mean nothing!Previous to two months ago, through the good times and the bad times I thought I'd finally met my soul mate. After three years together my heart ached everytime we were apart. In August he got sick and I knew then I couldn't live...
    amigoodenough amigoodenough 36-40, F 6 Responses Dec 3, 2012

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    as each day passes, I feel like this statement

    gets more and more truth to it. I don't feel good enough for my husband. I don't feel good enough for my family. I don't feel good enough for my friends. I just don't feel good enough for anything or anyone at all.
    xxfallenangel xxfallenangel 22-25, F 6 Responses Feb 2

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    Even Guardians Can Fall

    Even Guardians can fall and feel like despite doing the best they can, that they are not good enough. Not charming enough, not smart enough, not understanding enough or not compassion enough. Take your pick of reasons including the ones stated and beyond. I've lost a so called...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 26, 2009

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    I always try but in the end it's a fail Every

    one tells me I'm not good enough y?
    Wolflover247 Wolflover247 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 7, 2014

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    i feel like i always get on peoples nerves i

    feel i was born for nothing and i just wanna give up sometimes if you knew what i been though i am such a nice person but no one sees it people called me mean on here im not mean im always stressed i have autism, my adhd, my speech issuses my learing issuses dont help , i cant...
    autism1011 autism1011 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 31

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    The message I was given repeatedly growing up

    was "my best isn't good enough." What could I possibly feel but I'm not good enough. That thought has always been hiding somewhere in my mind. I sought out people especially women who reinforced the message. Then almost 20 years ago through spiritual practice and the 12 steps I...
    r2wags r2wags 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 7

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    ok. so I've graduated from high school

    and I'm a sophomore in college. When I was younger, I thought that I would have stuff together by now: living in my own house, driving my own car, beginning my career. But fast forward a decade to where I am now and I'm just like "Now what"?. I mean I don't feel "bad" about...
    PorkythePig PorkythePig 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 1

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    For anyone. Even though they deserve someone

    better than to be stuck with you. Ever feel like that? :( Yupp.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 4, 2015

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    Well everybodies allowed to break down

    once in awhile right? So I live my life for my daughter. Her moms a piece of ****. I've raised her for 6 years by myself. I've done alot to give her the life she deserves. I want one thing. One thing I ask and pray for. Not a million dollars or a nicer car lol. Love. Someone to...
    NewEra0916 NewEra0916 26-30, M 5 Responses Jan 14, 2015

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    Well I think I'm good enough.

    Maybe he didn't so here is what I have to say about that. I used to make my days revolve around you . They all accused me of loosing my mind. I thought I was fine. I tried to live in your chess game but you would change the rules every day. You were pretty much bipolar so...
    lexiamber lexiamber 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2015

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    I Made A Big Mistake!

    Four years and a move across the country with this guy and it hits me like a ton of bricks that he does not love me. He lost the woman he truly loves a week after we met. I'm only a do for now. I think I'm a substitute. He is almost completely emotionless towards me. He treats me...
    Fireflower352 Fireflower352 36-40, F Nov 17, 2013

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    Quest For Perfection

    I think it starts when you're very young.  Parents that yell and tell you why couldn't you get a 99% instead of the 90% that you did get.  But then it continues.  Jobs that demand perfection; Quality Control, Audits, etc.  Flawlessness; no acne, no fat, no...
    jouniah jouniah 26-30 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I will never be good enough

    for him. No matter how much and what I do, I will never be enough for him.
    mabuhayka mabuhayka 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    I will never be "man enough" or

    even "trans enough". I will never be "talented enough". I will never be "good" enough. Who decides what is good or not. Who decides what is gender roles. Who decides what is enough? I have no clue.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 2

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    i dont really know if this is a feeling of not

    feeling good enough, but basicallly I always feel like there are better people out there. I just moved into college and i thought I was social but my roomate and suitemates always have friends over and there room is so awesome. all the hopes i had for my room and freshman year...
    4EVRANDEVR 4EVRANDEVR 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 29, 2015

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    Again Again Again

    never measuring up to whatever i think i have to. never as good as everyone else. always going to fail. i dont matter.
    Cinderelly Cinderelly 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2008

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    the tough thing about this is I know

    that I am and I am good enough but I don't feel like I am to other people despite how hard I try
    dathglas dathglas 13-15, M 4 Responses Feb 2

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    Sometimes I feel as if my emotions don't matter.

    Pretty much that I don't matter at all because I'm not very good looking and I'm not interesting or outgoing
    annonymous56 annonymous56 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 6, 2015

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    Hi, This message is a far cry from my usual

    cheery goofy updates, but I guess being so far from my family at this time of year has me emotional and has got me thinking. I am a very sexual and sensual person, but lately I feel like that is all my worth. Every conversation I have seems to turn to that. Every man I meet...
    doryx doryx 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    With my family, I do feel like I am good enough,

    because I do not have a 9 to 5 job. With my friends, I don't feel good enough, because we just cannot relate. With my current love, I do not feel good enough, because I feel I have too much baggage and I cannot support myself. Will I ever just feel good enough?
    RebekahWriter13 RebekahWriter13 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 1

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    The journey is not easy at all.

    I want to help others, and I want to get better. I want to be a better person, and right now I'm working on that. Self help is something I'm trying to understand, and I'm sharing my mind with the internet. I'm trying to share my experiences and help others in similar situations...
    haileycuddlebug haileycuddlebug 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    I'm not good enough because she pretty much

    said it when she broke up with me. She didn't want who be just a farmers wife. I wish I did better in school so I could be more academic for her. I miss her so much, I just want her to love me like she use to. :(
    austenK austenK 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2015

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    My mom has narcissistic personality disorder

    which basically means that no matter what I did in my life or do whether it was be a drop out or solve world hunger she was going to criticize it and not only that, she'd make it seem to the rest of the world that I was a terrible daughter and she was a champ for having to deal...
    sambular1313 sambular1313 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 2

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