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I Feel Like Im Not Good Enough

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    Quest For Perfection

    I think it starts when you're very young.  Parents that yell and tell you why couldn't you get a 99% instead of the 90% that you did get.  But then it continues.  Jobs that demand perfection; Quality Control, Audits, etc.  Flawlessness; no acne, no fat, no...
    jouniah jouniah 26-30 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I rarely feel like I'm good enough

    for anything. My ex husband left me for someone he met on the internet about 5 years ago. I was devastated. We hadn't been happy for awhile...just had a lot going on in our lives at that time...but he would always say that he would never leave me. But as soon as another...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F Dec 7, 2014

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    By nature I'm a social person.

    I like to be around people, talking to them, hanging out. A lot of times through texting, I text how I feel. I text the way I am feeling. I've always assumed others do that too. So when someone texts "K." Or "cool." Etc.. Really short uninteresting answers. It makes me feel like...
    nottheaveragegirl nottheaveragegirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    I don't feel I'm good enough

    because I am the best.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M Jan 15

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    All my life my classmates have called me ugly.

    I never even had one friend as a child besides my cousins. I did "ok" is school. Now i'm a senior in high school, I got my braces off, but my face is still going through puberty aka I have hideous acne even though I've been trying almost every thing to get rid of it. I did make...
    anapinacola anapinacola 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2014

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    For anyone. And i really hate myself

    for it. I'm trying to see the good in me, but I can't. I have friends and boyfriends because they feel bad for me. And my body is so ****** up no guy would want me. I can't share this kind of stuff in person or else it just looks like I want attention. I know I'm the only one...
    maria20144 maria20144 18-21, F Aug 5, 2014

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    My boyfriend was obsessed with his brothers

    fiancée for years before we got together and me having suffered from and eating disorder and various other related mental problems have trouble coping with this and I expirence great pain from just the sound of her name... What should I do? Should I feel this sadness? ~Hannah
    hs1996 hs1996 18-21, F Jun 17, 2014

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    Lasbutterfly Lasbutterfly 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2014

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    Well everybodies allowed to break down

    once in awhile right? So I live my life for my daughter. Her moms a piece of ****. I've raised her for 6 years by myself. I've done alot to give her the life she deserves. I want one thing. One thing I ask and pray for. Not a million dollars or a nicer car lol. Love. Someone to...
    NewEra0916 NewEra0916 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 14

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    The journey is not easy at all.

    I want to help others, and I want to get better. I want to be a better person, and right now I'm working on that. Self help is something I'm trying to understand, and I'm sharing my mind with the internet. I'm trying to share my experiences and help others in similar situations...
    haileycuddlebug haileycuddlebug 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    all my life people have made me feel worthless.

    I was very ugly an I used to get made fun of. boys didn't like me. now I still feel like I'm not good enough for anybody or anything. I swear to God my whole life has just been negative .
    byancax33 byancax33 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    8 Word Story

    Y o u   w e r n t   t h e r e   w h e n   i   w a i t e d   f o r   y o u ! ! !
    AnnahSubmissivecumslut212 AnnahSubmissivecumslut212 22-25, F Dec 7, 2012

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    I don't know why. Just always have

    that feeling. I keep telling myself that I am but somehow the feeling works it's way back.
    BandGeek741 BandGeek741 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2014

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    Everything i do just somehow makes everyone

    around me upset/unhappy. Even if i didn't mean to do things to hurt someone, what i avoid still eventually comes true. After that, the person leaves. It just seems so much like a routine now...it happens so much i actually don't feel anything. It's like...im numb. As much as i...
    Shimmerz479 Shimmerz479 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    I Will Never Be Good Enough For Myself

    When I was young, i was the happiest girl around. I appreaciate life, see all the good things, smile when the sun warms my skin with its rays but now, it is nothing but a blurred memory at the back of my mind. I can't remember when this self-loathing starts but i am sure it has...
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 18, 2011

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    I Dont Think I Will Ever Be.

    I dont think i meet todays "standards" I never really have. Im always below them. Or even peoples standards. They never seem to like me. for stupid reasons or good ones. I have never been good enough for people, my family, friends or anyone. relation ship wise, It be...
    tomtombear tomtombear 18-21, M 4 Responses Aug 30, 2008

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    It Is Like This...

    Imagine you're walking down a street in 20 degree weather and you spot a homeless man.  He is wearing shorts and flip flops.  You offer to get him a meal from McDonald's and he says, "I don't like McDonald's."  You offer him a coat and he says, "I don't like blue...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 7, 2010

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    Hi, This message is a far cry from my usual

    cheery goofy updates, but I guess being so far from my family at this time of year has me emotional and has got me thinking. I am a very sexual and sensual person, but lately I feel like that is all my worth. Every conversation I have seems to turn to that. Every man I meet...
    doryx doryx 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    I never feel good enough

    for anyone. I feel I always do something wrong to make the people in my life leave or say certain things, I seem to always **** something up.. Maybe life isn't for everyone
    twibiebz94 twibiebz94 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 29, 2014

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    I am pathetic...I just can't let go of my ex.

    I have done everything I could to get rid of him from my life....but fail after a few months. I have deleted him from all the social networks except whatsapp cos I know his number like the palm of my hand. I will delete his number and then save it again the next minute just to...
    Desireen Desireen 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 17, 2014

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    Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough,

    even when I'm trying my best. Today I finished my 5th term of college and my over all grade came out to a B (mostly cause I forgot to turn in some homework) but it's still better then others in my class. My parents and grandparents all asked my at once and so I told them I got a...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21 Mar 26, 2014

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    I am a lame. I have never been socially accepted

    and now matter how hard I try nothing will ever change that.. I just wish the looks would stop showing on their faces when I say something or make a joke. All I get is silence. When I'm around people that arnt lame I feel more alone than ever. I feel not wanted. And I hear them...
    Guitartist Guitartist 18-21, M 1 Response May 14, 2014

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    I feel like no one trusts me with

    responsibility. I am at a point in my life where I need to figure out who I am going to be and I feel like I am going to end up waitressing or bartending (nothing against these jobs) for the rest of my life even though I have a bachelor's degree and I am almost finished with a...
    ImOnTheOutside ImOnTheOutside 22-25, F Oct 23, 2014

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    Even Guardians Can Fall

    Even Guardians can fall and feel like despite doing the best they can, that they are not good enough. Not charming enough, not smart enough, not understanding enough or not compassion enough. Take your pick of reasons including the ones stated and beyond. I've lost a so called...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 26, 2009

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    I feel like I'm not a good enough daughter

    or sister or girlfriend. I'm not like my sisters everything I do is wrong and everything they do is right,I feel like my parent love them more then me,an I feel like all my sisters hate me,but worst of all I feel like I'm a horrible girlfriend I feel like all the other girl are...
    munchkin07 munchkin07 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 17, 2014

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    Sometimes I get weak

    and feel this way
    ElissaAcosta ElissaAcosta 16-17, F Jan 15

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    I always try but in the end it's a fail Every

    one tells me I'm not good enough y?
    Wolflover247 Wolflover247 13-15, F 4 Responses Apr 7, 2014

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    No matter how hard I try to help out

    or be loving to people who treat me negatively I always feel like something is wrong with me. I'm a loving person and I try my best to be the most loving to others who aren't so loving back to me. People who reject me when I'm trying to be kind and help out and for them to treat...
    lowe1993 lowe1993 18-21, F Mar 9, 2014

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    Am i doing something wrong?

    Or maybe not enough?
    ImminentDomain ImminentDomain 16-17, M Mar 25, 2014

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    Whenever I think someone is attractive the very

    next thought in my head is that you are so stupid stop thinking that Bcuz you are clearly not good enough.
    laxprincess laxprincess 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    I'm about to start a new job by tomorrow,

    but I'm nervous because this is my first job. I've never worked before. Advice?
    yumgrande yumgrande 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2014

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    I Made A Big Mistake!

    Four years and a move across the country with this guy and it hits me like a ton of bricks that he does not love me. He lost the woman he truly loves a week after we met. I'm only a do for now. I think I'm a substitute. He is almost completely emotionless towards me. He treats me...
    Fireflower352 Fireflower352 36-40, F Nov 17, 2013

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    No matter what I do and how well I do it,

    it's still never enough for anybody. I'm the ****** friend and a horrible daughter even though all I do is try and please everybody, not to mention nobody knows that I'm anorexic and that I cry all the time because I'm so ******* unhappy I honestly don't know why I haven't...
    iflipppppp iflipppppp 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 31, 2014

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    This one hits close to home.

    I feel like I have some intellectual maturity but when it comes to life and practical skills I just fall reprehensibly short. It's discouraging and disheartening.
    ambivilantjustice ambivilantjustice 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    My mom has yet again made me feel like a piece

    of **** and everything I do is wrong so I don't know why I try when I don't even deserve to be here.
    iflipppppp iflipppppp 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 16, 2014

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 18, 2014

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    Do you ever feel like everything you do isn't

    sufficient? Like you will never be perfect, or even close to it. You will never make someone happy at all times, never be pretty enough, and never smart enough. There will always be someone better than you. And you're just waiting for your friends, family, and boyfriend to...
    enbarlev enbarlev 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2, 2014

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    I posted about a similar problem last night,

    and like most people the night is a very emotional time for me so I feel the need to post this again but from a slightly different angle. To recap, my friend and I both started doing something at the same time, centered around the field of gaming. And the problem is she...
    KayJayHoeBum KayJayHoeBum 16-17, M Sep 5, 2014

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    Feel like I'm a last resort,

    everyone puts me down all the time- no wonder I have no friends. How do I turn my life around? Why does life hurt so much
    bubbles123xxx bubbles123xxx 22-25, F Sep 5, 2014

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    Again Again Again

    never measuring up to whatever i think i have to. never as good as everyone else. always going to fail. i dont matter.
    Cinderelly Cinderelly 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2008

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    I dont know if someone is going to read this or if someone ouf there s feeling the same way..but im just so tired of feeling worthless and being never good enough for everyone..its...
    averageavenue averageavenue 13-15 Jan 8

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    Sounds so depressing when I say this but sometimes I wish I was someone else, someone without all these feelings and hope and dreams because i won't be ever good enough to fullfil...
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    No matter how hard I try at work or life feel empty. Everyone or 99% of people are out there to get somethin or use. Its Rare and hard to find true people. People's false motives...
    MichaelS41074 MichaelS41074 36-40, M Jan 13

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    I am tired of feeling like I always do the wrong thing, I tired of feeling like I am inferior to my man...he can do things but I can't...if I do something, I'm wrong, who said I...
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    You know, there has to be a reason behind all this low self esteem. Oh yeah, I was raised this way. Not just by my household but also by society and culture. I have a hard time...
    untamablekitty untamablekitty 26-30, F Dec 30, 2014

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    I've been feeling this more and more recently, I've become quiet, distant... I cover it well which I guess is what I do, but I can't do it no more. I just don't feel good enough...
    codenamekidnextdoor codenamekidnextdoor 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 6

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