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I Feel Used

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    My Ex

    I had a relationship for about 4 months but I feel it was largely a one-way relationship.  I feel like I was just a person of convenience and when I was no use to her anymore I was out the door (I sold my car).  I worry that being a "nice guy" will only lead...
    ReformedAutomaton ReformedAutomaton 36-40, M 19 Responses May 8, 2008

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    So, I'm the type of person that'll help out any

    of my friends that need it. I'll usually go out of my way to help them through anything that they're going through and to take their minds off things. So recently, a friend of mine has been having boy troubles and I've been there to support her and to help her make some...
    cloud69225 cloud69225 26-30, M Mar 11

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    Not Used, But Feels Like It!!!!

    When my ex-boyfriend  and i were still together, we had a nice relationship. But then it all went downhill. Whenever we had sex, we would do it then he would go to sleep afterwards which made me feel used. This about about more than 100 times to be exact. Then i left him...
    tracili tracili 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 17, 2010

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    It Never Stops

    ie been with my bf for 4yrs no, an this last year ive caught him with 4 other women an now he still cheatting on me with his co work an denies it now but ive seen him texts to her an i just wont to scream an yell at him. why do men like tohurt women so much? im so fn hurt by all...
    sweetunknown sweetunknown 31-35, F Oct 12, 2012

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    Just An Experiment

    So i dont want to write out this long story so i will summarize it.   On feb 1st this guy asked me out... i had never had a boyfriend before (no one had ever asked me out) so i thought i would take a chance and say yes well it didn't last long, it last 3 days and by the 3rd...
    NeverBeenKissed93 NeverBeenKissed93 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 5, 2010

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    Getting Divorced As My Husband Has Met Someone While Working Abroad

    Hi I am a 40 year old who still feels 18 and am told I dont look my age and have been with my husband for 21 years, he went abroad to work in the middle ast last year and has just come home after first going straight off to visit his soon to be new wife when our divorce goes...
    paula paula 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 9, 2007

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    Used Again And Again

    I dated this guy for 2 monthes and I always suspected he was cheating on me with his ex. He was txting her and was gonna get a job where she worked at. It caused problems with us so we broke up. Few Weeks later he said he missed me and wanted me back so I gave it another shot...
    rocker26 rocker26 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2012

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    I was really digging this guy a lot,

    but I wanted to keep it as a friendship. Saturday was our first date together and we ended up going to his house. When We got there I was introduced to his little sister and we ended up going down stairs to his room. He offered me food and water and I just got something to drink...
    zy7a zy7a 18-21, F 4 Responses May 26

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    Cover Up

    I was used as a cover up for about seven years. My now exboyfriend just told me he is gay. Now I am alone, with no friends. And I can't tell anyone. So i am still a cover up.
    Mposey92 Mposey92 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2012

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    Always Been Used Non-stop

    Well, ever since I can remember I have always been the one to call for advice and support. I always know what to say to people and always know how to help them in what ever situation they feel they are drowning in. The problem is that the only person I have to talk to is my mom...
    nefti1256 nefti1256 22-25 1 Response Oct 6, 2010

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    I Feel Tired And Sad Most The Time.

    To make a long story short I am the person everyone goes to. I know that a lot of people here have experienced this too. My family and friends rely on me to be level-headed about any crisis, to be the person they can come to and talk who will never ever judge them and always give...
    Survivalofthesickgirl Survivalofthesickgirl 26-30, F 3 Responses May 25, 2013

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    Every Day..

    I feel like people only talk to me at school because I can help them get threw it. You see, school is a very booring place for some children. Obviously. But I seem to make people smile and laugh everyday. They kinda talk to me and stuff. But, when that final bell rings...
    TrentsXe TrentsXe 16-17, M 2 Responses May 9, 2010

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    Closed Mouth/open Wallet!

    I feel like I am just an old dish rag, that everyone has used to mop up their mess and passes it on to the next person who needs me. But wait! They have another spill on aisle 12! Let me go over there to clean that mess up!!
    awkward1 awkward1 36-40 Feb 1, 2010

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    Sadly..

    I Feel worthless honestly... How could you?? Once was enough.. I took You back as a father.   AND MAYBE NOW Your doing it again?? After all these years?..     I feel USED... I feel Like He doesn't care what he's doing. I feel he does it on purpose...
    SourLove SourLove 18-21, F Sep 13, 2008

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    Room Full Of Strangers

    My so called friends associate with me when they need me, or when they are bored; but when i try to have a conversation they act as though they don't care. My problems are burdens whereas theirs are world life changing events. They all act as if they know me and don't know a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 27, 2012

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    Tonight

    Here's my story. I may forget some details but don't hate me suzy. I guess I should start from the beginning before I even met her. Ever since I was in grade school I've had a desire to be in a deep relationship with someone. Someone that I could trust. Someone that I thought...
    SeventhSickness SeventhSickness 18-21, M May 1, 2012

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    Forever A Fool.

    So, I stayed. I lie, I tell everyone things are better. They are not. I'm just a pathetic little fool. I can't stand the idea of people looking at me with pity anymore so I pretend it's all ok. He never loved me and never really will. That is really the truth. He keeps me around...
    ignoredwife ignoredwife 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    I've been talking to a guy

    for nearly a month. He's called Finnbah -nickname 'Finn'- and he's 18. I thought personally we got on great.. He new I was interested in him and I thought it was mutual. We've met up once and planned to meet this week (Saturday) basically today. Since it's 1:32am but whatever...
    CallMeChelsea CallMeChelsea 16-17, F 6 Responses Jan 17

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    Fool Me Once Shame On You. Fool Me Twice...

    I've been waiting up now for 3 hours waiting for a guy to call me. Tonight we were talking online, and everything he said to me made my heart beat so fast I was sure I was going to go into cardiac arrest. So I agreed to wait for him to call me tonight... I finally got tired of...
    gloryhallelujah gloryhallelujah 16-17, F Feb 16, 2009

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    I Cant Move On From Her

    Well i've liked this girl for some time now and we're somewhat friends, we talk at school, on facebook, txting and what not. Yet, she clearly does not like me the way that i "like" her. She's said she'd never go to any school dance with me, doesnt wanna go on a date with me...
    Yuko Yuko 16-17, M Feb 12, 2010

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    Can't Move On.

    I think that my doctor took advantage of me. At first I thought that he liked me, he would give more time than normal, up to 45 minutes one time. He wanted me to come back each month, and because I found him attractive I looked forward to seeing him each visit. My feeling's for...
    mangojordan mangojordan 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2009

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    Self-sabatoge

    I know it was my fault. I met him and my heart jumped. He reminded me slightly of past love but with a higher capability of compassion. I wanted to care about him. That first night I let him come home with me, first big mistake. I told him not to get his hopes up then later that...
    FireInFlames13 FireInFlames13 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2012

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    Unfortunately

     I am used.  I will say there are 5 (at least) men/boys who have taken pleasure in using me in the past 6 months. That is a very conservative estimate. Can i put all the blame on them? No, of course not. I let them do it. In each unique case i enabled it. I constantly...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 30, 2008

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    I'm done with giving out any advice

    or talking to people on this site. I rejoined a few months ago thinking it would be different this time, I was totally wrong. I have been lied to and mentally screwed over for the last time. My advice to any man on here don't ever listen to any of these females sad stories. They...
    snowman70 snowman70 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 19

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    Played With My Feelings...

    i am working as a PA (personal assistant)..i have a relationship with my boss for over a year now..as the time passes i think i fell in love with him..hes married but the marriage is rocky though..ive been noticing that when he needs me, he is extra nice with me,listening to...
    dune712 dune712 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 23, 2010

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    I feel unbelievably used.

    But then again, it isn't something new for me.
    scarredbutrelentless scarredbutrelentless 18-21, M Jun 5

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    I Am Being Used

    I met a guy 3 weeks ago, I've never had a boyfriend before and he struck me as a really nice guy. A week later he asked me out and I said yes. 2 weeks later and he already wants to go to 3rd base with me. And then he says "We'll do everything at your pace don't worry you set...
    purplecharmz purplecharmz 13-15, F Oct 16, 2009

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    I Lived In a Dream

    i dont know where to start from really i had a marriage which was not of chose, i always wanted to fall in love but never had the chance to meet anyone as i was married off at 19. Anyway at the age of 27 i met a guy on the internet chat who shared the same beliefs as me i have 3...
    nokia6300 nokia6300 31-35 1 Response Feb 9, 2009

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    Might As Well.

    Might as well get this over with. I know I should write about this. I've just been worried he would see this or something. I'm just the fuq with it now. It was in October when my best friend introduced me to a new guy. She had a thing with his friend. So this guy and I started...
    EndlessApathy EndlessApathy 16-17, F Jun 9, 2012

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    I said no to sex and

    now hes ignoring me, why are all men i come across like this :'( maybe i should become easy, im going to get drunk tonight and **** any random guy i see maybe i will feel liked :( **** life x
    nevermentioned nevermentioned 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 23

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    I Lived In a Dream

    i dont know where to start from really i had a marriage which was not of chose, i always wanted to fall in love but never had the chance to meet anyone as i was married off at 19. Anyway at the age of 27 i met a guy on the internet chat who shared the same beliefs as me i have 3...
    nokia6300 nokia6300 31-35 Feb 9, 2009

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    Please Dont Judge Me For This . . .

    But im only 14 , and I had sex . (not good. I know). Just yesturday I realized I was used by the guy. I also realized that guys are full of lies & cheating. I am surley not gonna bother anymore . I was in denial the whole time about it & the funny thing is, I still like him, but...
    mandycandy0123 mandycandy0123 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 3, 2012

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    The only thing that danced around my mind last

    night was why he is so affectionate in private but he stands off in public.. Was he embarrassed of me? Was I not pretty enough for him to show me off? After pizza we laid down together and all I could think about was if he wanted me for me or just for my body. As he rubbed only...
    KaylaStackhouse KaylaStackhouse 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    forever2116 forever2116 18-21, F Jan 14

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    No matter what I always do what it takes to

    make someone happy or do something for them. I do what it takes it keep people happy I feel they take it for advantage
    ozzy007 ozzy007 18-21, M Jul 8

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    Damn Him Again

    Ok I will start off saying this is my fault too. I met a military man about 4 yrs ago and we began writing to each other during his 1st deployment. We emailed a couple of times when he came home, but when he went back for the 2nd time we started writing more and realized we...
    DamnHim DamnHim 46-50 3 Responses Oct 13, 2008

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    I Lost Myself

    Mending a broken heart is so much easier than putting back together the pieces of a broken identity. The last guy I gave my heart to took away everything I have; even myself. Before I met him I was confident, funny, and most importantly happy. I met this guy over the summer when...
    Diane999 Diane999 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 6, 2013

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    I'm Confused

    I moved to the west coast with my gf. Just me and her. We're renting a nice place, leased a car. I work full time she goes to school and works part time. I pay most the bills. I love her more then anything. She says she loves me but I'm confused by her actions... Our sex life...
    Dontgetit69 Dontgetit69 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 12, 2012

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    Just Over It

    I'm so sick of ppl who use others to their own benefit. Its not funny and its not cute, you use deception to make others think you like or love them when all along you know you could care less about them. That is SO fake! And then as soon as you no longer need them you either...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 10, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    There are nights when I begin to think about the times when I was used. I really don't enjoy these nights at all. I cry so much. I cry alone in my room and hope that no one comes...
    Dark3yedTiger Dark3yedTiger 18-21, F Jul 10

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    Does he always have to hurt my feeling, he smiles with me all the time, but he never keeps his promises, He knows that i really love him, but he really doesn't show it back to me...
    Samsypat Samsypat 18-21, M Jul 5

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    I give and I give, I never get anything back. And they just go on, making me a catalyst for their happiness, for sorting out their problems. And I'm left alone in the dark again...
    glassprison glassprison 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    As the day goes he lives attached to his phone.I take care of him But he is so attached to his phone.am I an idiot.
    davamp13 davamp13 41-45, F Jul 6

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    As the day goes he lives attached to his phone.I take care of him But he is so attached to his phone.am I an idiot.
    davamp13 davamp13 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    As the day goes he lives attached to his phone.I take care of him But he is so attached to his phone.am I an idiot.
    davamp13 davamp13 41-45, F Jul 6

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    I'm not sure if I'm just feeling depressed or If I actually am. But I just need to write my feelings and thoughts right now because I can express myself on here and ONLY here...
    Littlewallflowerx Littlewallflowerx 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    After I was hurt by someone I thought cared about me but didn't and only used me to get what he want. Really messed me up honestly I never cried over a dude but I did because I was...
    fangirl54 fangirl54 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    The guy I'm seeing was ignoring my texts this week. I was nervous so I called to see if he was alright. He's fine, we had a decent conversation, and he even said he missed me. I...
    abingham abingham 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I am feeling so alone, no matter how many people are really around me. I have 2 kids and a partner. I also live in a house with my family, a total of 8 people. I feel I need more...
    Krissysheart Krissysheart 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    There is too much I feel, much I want to say. I feel hurt and I can't show how deeply only with expressing I can give a glimpse. I try to treat those around me with respect and...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F Jul 1

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    I'm having a moment while writing this. However this need to be said. I was to feel wanted and not needed. Does anyone else understand what I mean? I mean I'm more than happy to...
    SemiAthleticFoodieChick93 SemiAthleticFoodieChick93 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've been through a lot; abuse and betrayal, lies, people bringing me down, etc. and I was not only living a lie through my life by telling myself I have a loving family, but I was...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago