I Find It Difficult to Make Friends

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    Never Really Made Friends

    Hi, I am a young 41 year old.I have worked hard, with success, and  travelled to many places and met many people, but I have always found it difficult to make real friends. On Facebook, I have over 100 'friends', but none of them really are. I perceive most people to be...
    passionchef passionchef
    41-45, M
    Apr 2, 2011


    i find it really difficult to make and retain friends... most of the people i am friends with are just people i have known for a long time... and most of them i really have not much left in common with maybe it's because i am married and have children, but i always find myself...
    talvin talvin
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Nov 7, 2009

    Never Really Made Friends

    Hi, I am a young 41 year old.I have worked hard, with success, and  travelled to many places and met many people, but I have always found it difficult to make real friends. On Facebook, I have over 100 'friends', but none of them really are. I perceive most people to be...
    passionchef passionchef
    41-45, M
    10 Responses Apr 2, 2011

    Like insanely difficult.

    I have 1 friend in my life, that's it. I'm far too shy and insecure to approach anyone. Talk to me?
    deracine deracine
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 1, 2016

    I Seemed To Have Lost My Friend-Making Abilities...

    Or maybe I just keep to myself too much. I don't really introduce myself to anyone, anymore, even online. I don't talk to a lot of my friends, anymore, but I really do miss them. I was never that great at making friends, but now it's like I almost don't bother. I've been wanting...
    animallover110293 animallover110293
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 1, 2013

    It's so hard for me to

    even go up to someone and say hello. I'm more introverted and reserved so it doesn't bother me if I have any or not.
    Yourfavnextdoor Yourfavnextdoor
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2015

    I actually find it more difficult to keep

    friends than make them. I'm not great at forgiveness, therefore, leaving me with ever-changing friends. #feelinglonelyandlost
    deleted deleted
    Mar 2, 2014

    Always Found It Difficult!!

    ive always been too quiet and shy, so, in the process, its always been kinda easy for people to like me, and i always have had plenty of people that have liked me, but when it actually came to having proper friends, as in best friends that go nights out together and go places and...
    cowshed123 cowshed123
    36-40, M
    Dec 1, 2012

    People: What a Disappointment

    They're obsessed with themselves (because they're insecure), quick to dominate others given half a chance (because they're insecure), and quick to offend and quick to take offence (because they're insecure).  We all are, of course.  We're all the same.  But some...
    gooseandbucket gooseandbucket
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Mar 17, 2009

    And I Think I Know Why

    I get so anxious when I'm with a group of people I'm not familiar with. I get so uncomfortable and uneasy I get hot and end up saying stuff that doesnt even make sense to me later on. I find it so difficult to relax and just be myself without worrying about how i appear to...
    ilovelife88 ilovelife88
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 12, 2011


    I'm just different in too many ways from most people, though i tend to get along with most, i rarely make any actual friends
    Bukoden Bukoden
    18-21, M
    18 Responses Jul 23, 2009

    Friends And Acquantances

    I have always had a hard time in social settings.  I'm not the so called normal person chit chat doesn't come easy or at all for me.  I do have a very nurturing and caring demeanor and draw needy people who drain my essence.  I can tell pretty easily when someone is attaching...
    rubyetuesday rubyetuesday
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Feb 28, 2012

    It seems all the friends i have had never

    really actually are there for me when i need them. They would rather focus on their little melodramas than be there for someone else. I would like to meet someone who actually listens and is there.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 2, 2014

    I Don't Like Making Friends With Anonymous People

    I made this Story in:  "I Am Confused By Eper's Little Details And Ambiguousness"  Since the Group is hard for me to find it in my Profile. I'm going to place a Web Link here to it:   EP Link I Don't Like Making Friends With Anonymous People...
    ChakraSolipsismMGP ChakraSolipsismMGP
    56-60, M
    Jul 4, 2010

    I Reach Out And They Back Off Real Fast

    i guess that it's just hard to understand the weird way that people are but i would really like to see a drew or dr phil show about this dynamic of making friends.i find that i am sympathetic, apathetic and listen really proactively  SO  what's the problem?I recently made...
    2deep2sleep 2deep2sleep
    May 11, 2012

    I wish I can just walk up to someone

    and say.. "Heyy wanna be my friend? :]" Haha..
    EndlessDreams22 EndlessDreams22
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Mar 25, 2014

    Never Learned the Skills Needed to Make Friends

    I believe making friends is a skill that most people have mastered at a young age. For many reasons I never mastered these skills. During my school years I hung out with the group of misfits that you find at any school. You know the ones I am talking about, the overweight, the...
    turkstragal turkstragal
    7 Responses Aug 5, 2009

    It's difficult for me to make friends

    because I'm very quiet and shy so I don't talk much. Help me!
    Mahrhindha Mahrhindha
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 16, 2015

    Just A Friend Of Convinence!

    When I was younger, my friend's friends would always end up being a better friend of mine, than they were to my other friend. I have always just had a couple good friends.It's seems like the past 15 years of my life that I have just been a friend of convience to others. I still...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Aug 29, 2011

    Wonder Woman

    This is one of the hardest things for me to do. I can feel my sides just tense up. * Do I dare talk to people? * Of course I dare...I don't mind my own company, but of course, there comes a time when you are put in a certain situation where human interaction is a must do...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 7, 2013

    Hide In The Dark

    I like solitude. I like reading and online college discussion posts. I like to write and am working on becoming a better APA writer, especially with Literature Review research. I become over anxious, disconnected and fatigued around large groups of people including family...
    LadyRed55 LadyRed55
    2 Responses Feb 28, 2012

    I'm Awkward

    I'm extremely awkward toward people.  I find it hard to make friends because of it.  I never know what to say to people, I am always afraid that I will sound uneducated(Which I'm not) or idiotic.  I don't know what makes me this way, but I am really quiet and...
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 2, 2010

    On The Outside Looking In

    Someone mentioned in their story that making friends is a skill developed at a young age, which I agree with.  I too can relate.  When I was real young, I was shy, kinda awkward, gym class was a nightmare, and was pretty much a loner except for a couple random friends which...
    karebear14227 karebear14227
    Dec 6, 2011

    Glass Wall

    Maybe I have some sort of syndrome or something.  I just don't connect to people.  This story is about RL, not EP.  It's like I'm in a glass bottle or booth; I know it's cliche but it's the best description. I do identify with people through their writing, humor...
    TheThird TheThird
    1 Response Oct 12, 2009


    Being where I am, it is not easy to get around and so I cannot get around easily by myself. Family tends to worry about me wherever I go and it only makes it more difficult. If you read my profile, you probably see why it is hard to get around and be accepted by modern society. I...
    asert12345678 asert12345678
    31-35, M
    Apr 1, 2012


    I never used to be like this. In fact if you looked up "social butterfly" you would see my picture. I was such a good friend and I would often bend over backwards for someone just to see them happy. I also know that I had good friends as well (I'm a pretty good judge of character...
    musicmaker04 musicmaker04
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2012

    I have severe social anxiety

    so my entire life it's been really hard to socialize with anyone new. I'm always so afraid of sounding stupid or them analyzing every single thing about me. I get so nervous it's visible and then I get weird reactions. It's not that way with every single person but most, yes. I...
    kaye23e kaye23e
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 2, 2014

    Increasing Difficulty Making Friends

    After reading some of the stories on this website about people having difficulty making friends from an early age, I feel that my story is hard to relate. When I was a child I made friends effortlessly. I think it helped that I grew up in one town and had the same friends...
    Ctf02003 Ctf02003
    1 Response Jan 29, 2012


    I'm not sure what it is.. I'm uncomfortable around most people, unless I'm familiar with them. I have no idea how to talk to people, in real life or online. I find that a lot of the people I do see, I'm not particularly interested in having anything to do with them. I don't...
    deletedd deletedd
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 13, 2009

    For A Moment I Think I Don't.

    Almost all girls in my school don't have trouble in "making friends". They always walk with their friends, at least one. I'm not. I'm now in 8th grader, and I feel so lonely. I have a million friends when I'm on grade 7, but everything changes now. My bestfriends who used to be...
    barbie13 barbie13
    13-15, F
    1 Response Nov 11, 2012

    I Want To Make Good Friends But I Find It Difficult

    I'm just a normal teen who wants friends. "good one's of course" It's just so hard for me to make friends with,they would think I'm stupid,worthless,and wasting their time. I want a true friend who cares who would do crazy stuff. who would support me, who would defend me. Why...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 9, 2013

    Friendless In The City

    Recently I had to move quite far away from everyone I know and love. I finished school last year and got a job this year which required me to move 600 km to a place where I know no one. I thought it would be easy to do it but it is proving to be more difficult than I ever...
    Sharza Sharza
    22-25, M
    Aug 26, 2013

    Har Har

    It's because I don't like most of the people I meet.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 3, 2008

    I'm ridiculously awkward in social situations

    and I'm really shy as well. I do open up after a few meetings but that depends on the people. Most of the time, people who become my friends approach me than I approach them. Thankfully enough, I've managed to get through fourteen years of schooling with an okay number of good...
    EvanescentIridescent EvanescentIridescent
    18-21, F
    Mar 5, 2016

    Shy, Feeling Awkward, Want To Run Away...

    Hi. I am 20 years old and I want to get new friends. I have a few friends right now but I feel that I am no longer sharing anything with them. I know them for a long time. I find it difficult to make new friends because I am very shy, and I am very anxious when I meet new people...
    hambuzer hambuzer
    1 Response Aug 28, 2012
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