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I Find Negativity To Be Unattractive

Everyone has negative things to say at times. For others it's a lifestyle. 548 People

    On Me Or You

    Not that I am attracted to everyone, but still, if you have a partner then you should consider how you look to them. It's gross to be negative and bitchy all the time, nobody wants to be around that except for like minded people I suppose.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 3, 2011

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    It's Easy To Fix!

    Got a problem? Can you do anything about it? If so, do it, shut up and smile! Can't do anything about it? Stop worrying, shut up and smile!
    themeanderthal themeanderthal 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 7, 2011

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    We All Know Those People

    Like the Monty Python song says, I "Always look on the bright side of life". There are many people out there though, that see the lemons and not the lemonade. I believe that we train our minds to see what we want to see. Everything is subjective. We all look at the negative...
    zincthink zincthink 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 1, 2011

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    Lighten Up

    "Everyone has negative things to say at times. For others it's a lifestyle."This statement is SOOO true! Everyone has bad days, even bad months or bad years. Everyone needs to vent. Everyone has moments when they feel cynical and just want to b*tch. But there are some people who...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F Aug 29, 2013

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    I'm so tired of people

    who whine that they don't have friends, lovers, true relationships and refuse to understand how such constant negativity impacts how people see them. Now I'm not clueless entirely, I know people will have bad days. Weeks as well, sometimes years. But please don't be surprised...
    TheWomanYouHate TheWomanYouHate 31-35, F 1 Response May 6

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    The most unattractive thing to me I think is

    insecurity or self pity. I can't stand someone who is so lost in negative thoughts and too stubborn to even listen to anyone else, the kind of person who is self destructive or implosive. Don't bottle up your emotions, it's not healthy. I know this because I was the same way a...
    drbreezzy drbreezzy 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 8

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    Negativity...

    ... brings me down. I try to be nice to everyone but sometimes I have no choice but to simply avoid those who appear to have never had a positive thought in their lives. I know a guy who never has a good day, never feels good, lives to complain. I can't even tolerate him anymore...
    OMGitsRiley OMGitsRiley 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 30, 2011

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    The alternative to being saccharine all the

    time is to be real with yourself and with others, and surround yourself with people who do the same, and thereby be able to express compassion for yourself and for others. Life is negative. And for some, it is especially and severely negative to the point of utterly...
    Ajushi Ajushi 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 13, 2013

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    I Never Realized...

    Just how gross negativity is until I noticed how negative I was about myself. I have always been turned off by people who are so negative about themselves because it's usually about things that I never even give any thought to or notice until they say something about it. Which...
    explainit2me explainit2me 22-25, F Nov 25, 2012

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    Negative People

    It seems to me that negative people are seldom happy. They also tend to bring happy people down. They do not live as long and usually have more health problems. Why would you want to open your life to that? I think they need a break. Be possitive and nice and bless them. It can...
    PaulyG PaulyG 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 9, 2010

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    Think Negative Gets A Person Nothing

    I know this from experience and being negative about things will always bring people down, but even in situations when a person thinks it couldn't get any worse it might be hard but laugh about it and move on don't let anything worry you because it doesn't change a damn thing and...
    mrasshole mrasshole 51-55, M Mar 27, 2012

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    I empathize for problemed people on here.

    But I'm starting to lose hope on finding positive experiences on here.
    SassySam77 SassySam77 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    Do Negative People...

    ....realize they're negative people? I'm not sure they do. I have a friend that none of our other friends really like to be around. I've learned to tolerate her mainly because when she's bitching, I let it go in one ear and out the other. We do have fun and laugh together...
    OMGitsRiley OMGitsRiley 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    I love my boyfriend,

    but I'm so tired of him being negative all the time. I'm a negative person, but I try my best not to portray it onto others because I know it just brings them down with me. He's going through a hard time right now and has been for many years. His family doesn't help him pay for...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F Mar 2

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    The Downer-frowner.

    Now, I'm not a positive person all the time. There are times when i do feel down. When I do feel down, I prefer to be alone. That way I can work stuff out and settle some unresolved negativity. It usually works. So being the not so positive person all the time, I tend to cherish...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 20, 2013

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    You Can Become More Aware Of Negative Self-talk--something That Hides In Plain Sight ...

    Here's an interesting story I read (by Dr. Andrew Jacobs, Winnersunlimited.com; May 21, 2008) while doing my research for this blog. It was about a cyclist who won a medal in the 1984 Olympics. The article said that the cyclist had to battle negative self-talk while he was racing...
    author2 author2 36-40, F Feb 29, 2012

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    I Refuse (Story 5)

    I used to be a negative person. I was depressed and no one could bring me up, I kind of liked it that way. My school counselor in Jr. High is the best person I ever knew, I wanted to be like her. I was quiet and had no friends and I liked it that way as well. I sat back and...
    LadyIndiscretion LadyIndiscretion 31-35, F Nov 21, 2012

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