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I Find That the Grief Journey Is Lonely

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    Just Starting

    I am only just beginning this journey. And it's lonely. I reach for my cell phone to begin the nghtly updates on tv shows. And turn on the computer for the ongoing im. I look for my morning greeting. I look for my good night. My phone call at lunch. My hugs in the afternoon...
    Toby2day Toby2day 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    Grief

    When you lose a person close to you, your heart dies with them. Many will say things like Be Strong and all that bullshit. They do not feel what you feel, so it is okay for them to say so. The person who goes through it, knows it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 3, 2013

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    Dear Dad ... I Hate It.

    So ... I'm going to write a letter, because that sometimes makes it easier for me. To those of you out there, it actually helps sometimes. Dear dad. Yesterday was a really bad day. I couldn't sleep at all last night because I kept thinking about you. It made me so sad...
    sofiebc sofiebc 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2013

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    Why Is This So Hard:(?

    Feeling a bit on the rubbish side today just having a really bad day of grieving I think. Just can't believe how hard this grief journey is its quite scary though because I'm feeling all these different emotions and it can be overwhelming. I was close with my grandma she was a...
    deexx deexx 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 18, 2013

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    It Never Really Goes Away

    Never, ever. There's forever the hole.But you do find an accommodation for it. You find a space in your life and your heart where it fits so you can continue to function, continue to love, continue to laugh, and be happy. It's like a juggler who has more bowling pins than hands...
    JohnInKansas JohnInKansas 70+, M 3 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Heaven Sent

    My sweetest angel, Do you have any idea how much I miss you? More than you ever know. You are my first thought in the morning and my last at night. Whoever said that time heals all wounds, lied. I hurt as much today as I did 6 years ago. As the date approaches, I am often on my...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 27 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    You Baby

    I hope you never see this. I hope you never learn how incredibly sorry I am that you had to comfort me in your great time of handicap from a loss. You kept me from drwowning. Eight years younger and you were taking care of me. Your arms around me as I fended off fainting at...
    hoopdreams40 hoopdreams40 41-45, F Jun 7, 2013

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    Trapped

    Society continues to move forward as I'm stuck in my world, a world that is full of the pain inside me. I can't escape the day that Kayla died. Everything I do, think or say is because of her death. I will never move on or get over it. People may have a hard time dealing with my...
    sjjefferson101 sjjefferson101 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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    I do not know what the right things to do

    and say are. My husband has a close relative who is dying, expected to die within a week. He went to be with this relative. My husband and I text a lot now, and I fear I do not know what the right thing to say is and what to avoid. I am not good at coping with situations like...
    JoannaBe JoannaBe 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    If Tomorrow Starts Without Me

    Many of you know that I lost my beloved daughter 6 yrs ago. A friend of mine (Pookiem) sent me this poem and with her permission, I am posting it.. If tomorrow starts without me, And I'm not there to see, If the sun should rise and find your eyes All filled with tears for me...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 27 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    I'm Really Struggling This Week...

    ...and it's not getting any easier. In the past...I just smiled and joked my way through any adversity...and always seemed to make it to the other side. But I think I'm dealing with way too many things at this time...and each of these things is really huge on it's own.And of...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Cheerio Love.

      Cheerio love the old man said as I walked away from him for the final time, ever casual, as was I, but we both knew this was the finale. The man I'm talking about was my Grandfather, Robert Forrest Gerrard, and I have to count my blessings as not many of us have 29yrs...
    weta weta 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    well of course

    friday 23 september 2011 grief is a drag, after all. doesn't cheer up anyone you try to talk to about it. amerikans and englishmen especially, according to a study I recently read about,  admire people who hide their grief and push it down and don't bother anyone else about it...
    sehnen sehnen 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 23, 2011

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    I'm lonely and hate my looks I think I'm overweight because most people just point at me saying ill nasty fat etc and it stops me from enjoying people and asking a girl out for...
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    Ever since my mom passed away I have this empty feeling. I figured it was just grief but even when I hangout with my friends and have fun I always find myself being sad and lonely...
    jennalaursen21 jennalaursen21 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 25

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    Aug. 2. In Between. Sometimes, to get from where we are to where we are going, we have to be willing to be in between. One of the hardest parts of recovery is the concept of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 2

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    It's where we all start. It's the start of the long road. The start of our journey. This journey can begin when you least expect it. But it's not when we start. Or how we start...
    VolcanicPassions VolcanicPassions 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    August 21. Detaching in Relationships. When we first become exposed to the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Being lonely in a relationship is awful. I'd rather just be alone... Period. Then there would be no expectations of companionship. And it wouldn't hurt so freaking bad.
    JustJenn74 JustJenn74 36-40, F 26 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Being alone is a choice, but being lonely is a losing battle :(
    Supershoes24 Supershoes24 22-25, M 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I would like to find the person that is not looking to go through life alone (and yes you can be in a relationship and still be very alone). I am looking for someone to share...
    Anthonydu Anthonydu 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 31

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    I learned so many things through my grief, things I never knew before, all the pain and sufferings and I learned a lot about my self, I learned the first year was just experiencing...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm just about ready to give up. No sense in trying, at this point. Life is taking me somewhere, I know not where. But, a lonely journey it is, and forever will be.
    ThatsTheJoke ThatsTheJoke 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 5

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    I believed that love was found. I believed that this was real. I left my previous life behind and looked to moving forward with my life as I am not as I was. I found love and...
    jpllc jpllc 26-30, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Aug. 2. In Between. Sometimes, to get from where we are to where we are going, we have to be willing to be in between. One of the hardest parts of recovery is the concept of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 2

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    Aug. 2. In Between. Sometimes, to get from where we are to where we are going, we have to be willing to be in between. One of the hardest parts of recovery is the concept of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 2

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    I know it's hard for many of you to even begin to believe some of the things I'm been tell you and I'm going to tell you more things that you'll find it hard to believe but I'm...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F 2 days ago

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    "GOOD DAY"I had one of my sons dreams last night again where he is showing me death, the last time I had this dream it scared me and I became isolated in doors, but this time I...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F 23 hrs ago

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    July 21. Being Is Enough. We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    Happiness is overrated. Grief and pain is underrated. Just give it a thought you might get it.
    prajaya123 prajaya123 18-21, M 15 hrs ago

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    This past year and a half has been life changing. It really opened up my eyes to the world around me and I realized that we have the ability to be in very dark places and it can...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 26

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    See which rooms travellers want “Make sure to go to the island tour- you'll be able to see the employees quarters and understand how every little thing will work powering...
    Stephanzt506 Stephanzt506 31-35, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I'm just Romantic Lonely. After I broke up with my Girlfriend I thought I could find someone who truly deserve my love but as Days turn into Weeks and Weeks turn into Months I soon...
    WriterofSteel WriterofSteel 13-15, M Jul 31

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    I see a lot of folk's on here write about how lonely they are,(now I'm not a Doctor), but I feel loneliness is a state of mind After my wife passed, I was very lonely, I would sit...
    sweetcharlene41 sweetcharlene41 70+, M 1 Response Jul 28

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    August 10. Letting Go of Perfection. "As I journey through recovery, more and more I learn that accepting myself and my idiosyncrasies — laughing at myself for my ways — gets...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 11

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    "No rule book. No time frame. No judgement. Grief is as individual as a fingerprint. Do what is right for your soul." ~One Fit Widow
    lovingRIZA lovingRIZA 51-55, F Aug 5

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    Since I was very young, I always find myself not fitting into a group. I don't like the awkward moment that I can feel the others not interested to talk to me and I may need to...
    Zbabe Zbabe 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am alone in a world filled with people. I have a mask that protects me, saves me, from the criticism and judgments of others. I have a whole in me that reaches far beyond my...
    AlluringDarkness AlluringDarkness 18-21, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have a big smile on my face right now, I don't know who you new people are yet but I have a feeling I'll get to know you all, Lance you made me smile, thank you, I hear my sons...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F 1 day ago

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    I am a 32 year old woman. I have been single for 7 years. I have only had one "serious" boyfriend and since then all I have experienced is heartbreak. Disastrous dates, no real...
    firecracker1 firecracker1 26-30, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    July 21. Being Is Enough. We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    July 21. Being Is Enough. We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 21

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    Hi everyone!So, yes i am lonely, i have nobody to love apart from my family.Nothing works out for me but i am here to tell you this: I have moments when i'm happy and when i'm sad...
    Fighting4Air Fighting4Air 26-30, M Jul 23

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    I've had periods in life where I would have deep connections/conversations with good friends, girlfriends, relatives, and feel absolutely confident and social. However I would...
    afinechap afinechap 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 26

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    After realizing that I have been dealing with depression, I begin to feel better about myself and the future. I can say that I can organize myself to at least try to be successful...
    SereneSolidarity SereneSolidarity 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 31

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    As of late my whole world has turned upside down... My bestfriend/boyfriend moved away and everything has been slowly and unwelcomingly changing.. When he was here everything just...
    girlinterrupted96 girlinterrupted96 18-21, F Aug 3

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    I love how so many of you beg for people's attention by adding all of these experiences like. * I'm lonely * I want someone to talk to * I have no friends * I want a best friend...
    iamonamission iamonamission 16-17, M Aug 4

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    Throughout my life I grew up with no father or "father figure". Being young, I'm surrounded by friends and most them have boyfriends. I see guys that I'm attracted to and I always...
    briimarie briimarie 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 5