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I Find That the Grief Journey Is Lonely

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    Grief

    When you lose a person close to you, your heart dies with them. Many will say things like Be Strong and all that bullshit. They do not feel what you feel, so it is okay for them to say so. The person who goes through it, knows it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    Just Starting

    I am only just beginning this journey. And it's lonely. I reach for my cell phone to begin the nghtly updates on tv shows. And turn on the computer for the ongoing im. I look for my morning greeting. I look for my good night. My phone call at lunch. My hugs in the afternoon...
    Toby2day Toby2day 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    You Baby

    I hope you never see this. I hope you never learn how incredibly sorry I am that you had to comfort me in your great time of handicap from a loss. You kept me from drwowning. Eight years younger and you were taking care of me. Your arms around me as I fended off fainting at...
    hoopdreams40 hoopdreams40 41-45, F Jun 7, 2013

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    well of course

    friday 23 september 2011 grief is a drag, after all. doesn't cheer up anyone you try to talk to about it. amerikans and englishmen especially, according to a study I recently read about,  admire people who hide their grief and push it down and don't bother anyone else about it...
    sehnen sehnen 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 23, 2011

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    Heaven Sent

    My sweetest angel, Do you have any idea how much I miss you? More than you ever know. You are my first thought in the morning and my last at night. Whoever said that time heals all wounds, lied. I hurt as much today as I did 6 years ago. As the date approaches, I am often on my...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 25 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    Cheerio Love.

      Cheerio love the old man said as I walked away from him for the final time, ever casual, as was I, but we both knew this was the finale. The man I'm talking about was my Grandfather, Robert Forrest Gerrard, and I have to count my blessings as not many of us have 29yrs...
    weta weta 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    Why Is This So Hard:(?

    Feeling a bit on the rubbish side today just having a really bad day of grieving I think. Just can't believe how hard this grief journey is its quite scary though because I'm feeling all these different emotions and it can be overwhelming. I was close with my grandma she was a...
    deexx deexx 13-15, F Mar 18, 2013

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    I'm Really Struggling This Week...

    ...and it's not getting any easier. In the past...I just smiled and joked my way through any adversity...and always seemed to make it to the other side. But I think I'm dealing with way too many things at this time...and each of these things is really huge on it's own.And of...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    I do not know what the right things to do

    and say are. My husband has a close relative who is dying, expected to die within a week. He went to be with this relative. My husband and I text a lot now, and I fear I do not know what the right thing to say is and what to avoid. I am not good at coping with situations like...
    JoannaBe JoannaBe 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2014

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    Trapped

    Society continues to move forward as I'm stuck in my world, a world that is full of the pain inside me. I can't escape the day that Kayla died. Everything I do, think or say is because of her death. I will never move on or get over it. People may have a hard time dealing with my...
    sjjefferson101 sjjefferson101 36-40, F 13 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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    It Never Really Goes Away

    Never, ever. There's forever the hole.But you do find an accommodation for it. You find a space in your life and your heart where it fits so you can continue to function, continue to love, continue to laugh, and be happy. It's like a juggler who has more bowling pins than hands...
    JohnInKansas JohnInKansas 70+, M 3 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Dear Dad ... I Hate It.

    So ... I'm going to write a letter, because that sometimes makes it easier for me. To those of you out there, it actually helps sometimes. Dear dad. Yesterday was a really bad day. I couldn't sleep at all last night because I kept thinking about you. It made me so sad...
    sofiebc sofiebc 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2013

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    If Tomorrow Starts Without Me

    Many of you know that I lost my beloved daughter 6 yrs ago. A friend of mine (Pookiem) sent me this poem and with her permission, I am posting it.. If tomorrow starts without me, And I'm not there to see, If the sun should rise and find your eyes All filled with tears for me...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 26 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    I am married to a red hair stunning Irish man. he's 9 yrs my senior and was blessed with a beautiful daughter. He has 5 kids prior to our marriage and I had one from my ex. So in...
    Cree1978 Cree1978 36-40, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I know being lonely mean I won't hurt anyone, but it sucks. There is this one girl i try to block her out of my mind. But just her smile, laugh, eyes, voice and person. Just break...
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    I liked this article I ran across today so I thought I'd share it. And above is a photo from one of my recent #13's. :) "1. All truth is a paradox. Life is a precious unfathomably...
    Aimee17 Aimee17 41-45, F 20 Responses Apr 14

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    I've always considered myself a person who can make friends easily and has always had enough friends throughout my journey of high school. The thing is I do have friends outside of...
    georgialouise18 georgialouise18 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I am going through a lot right now. Trying to figure out who I am, what I believe, how to express myself, how to be comfortable in my own skin, & how to do all that without...
    saundra04 saundra04 26-30, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    "Who's Crying Now" It's been a mystery And still they try to see Why somethin' good can hurt so bad Caught on a one-way streets The taste of bittersweet Love will survive somehow...
    Artist156 Artist156 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 19

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    Hi, I'm a 21 year old medical student living abroad, I was diagnosed with bipolar nearly 3 years ago, and before that I struggled a lot. I let it get quite far before my family...
    lily449 lily449 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I think loneliness can be like a chronic disease. I am 41 and have a wife and kids, but I've never felt more lonely. Some people might not understand that. I am very happy with my...
    secondchance4u secondchance4u 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 11

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    One year ago today, I got a phone call that ripped my heart out. I felt pain I had never felt before. Even as I took in the news, I was bargaining with God, begging to go back to...
    lostit77 lostit77 46-50, F 5 Responses Apr 19

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    I want someone who can be with me here and now. I just want someone a friend to invite me to do something, I'm always reaching out and being avoided, who I am and the imperfections...
    avey10 avey10 18-21, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't feel sorry for myself. I don't feel the need to be needy. Do I feel lonely? Yes but it's okay,I can live with this feeling because I understand why I am lonely. Life can...
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Feeling very lonely tonight. I can't stop spending nights laying in bed, thinking, that I was meant for someone, and I'll never find them. I am feeling hopeless, and this feeling...
    Dillen91 Dillen91 22-25, M 4 Responses Apr 15

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    Learn to embrace the duality of the self. In order to gain proverbial wisdom, this self exploration of delving into the two polarities must be practiced among the psyche and the...
    VigilantC VigilantC 22-25, F Mar 28

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    It took me a lot of beating myself(mentally, of course) just to sign up into this wonderful website and express what I've been feeling for the past years. You see, I feel like...
    rizinity rizinity 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 5

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    I hate being alone just as much as I hate being in a relationship! Does that make me crazy? As of late I have noticed that my depression is getting the better of me because I am...
    ShivaTrishul ShivaTrishul 22-25, F Apr 12

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    Date after date after date... Maybe 2-3 dates a week over the past 3 months. Dinners, coffees and drinks. All of the meeting new people and dating is starting to sicken and bore me...
    missssyme missssyme 31-35, F 10 Responses Apr 12

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    The past several years of my life have been turbulent. The afternoon of December 26th, 2007, my father, younger brother, and I went to my older sister's house to drop off some...
    QOE23 QOE23 18-21, F Apr 14

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    I'm a straight shooter.I tell it like it is and always will. My life is in a state of reconstruction.21 months ago I was on an operating table for over 10 hours.Cancer was being...
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 46-50, M Apr 16

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    I am looking for more good players to add to my friend list. I like to have at least a few good people on my team when I play. I mostly play farm grief. It's my favorite and I play...
    heavenlyrose118 heavenlyrose118 41-45, F Apr 18

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    no one told me grief felt so much like fear
    raebaybrown raebaybrown 22-25, F Apr 19

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    So, this is my story!, Im a single 36 year old woman, with a big heart that hides behind the wall, who loves to be in love, but also hates it sometimes. I haven´t dated much, few...
    Gaialion Gaialion 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    You can feel lonely but still be surrounded by people. This lonely feeling isn't going away by you trying to put people in your life. There's a key for it and not many of us know...
    askmorenow1 askmorenow1 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I don't know what's wrong with me but i'm lonely all the time. I've been feeling lonely couple years now and really have no close friends to talk to. It's not just that because I...
    matnum95 matnum95 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 10

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    I was lonely and hurt. my girlfriend decided to cheat instead just telling me she wanted to move on. which I knew it was time. but still hurt. I let myself fall into self pity and...
    deadmarboro deadmarboro 26-30 1 Response Apr 15

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    I'm not married but live with my partner, we've been together for 4 years and lived together 2, we have a daughter and I just feel lonely in our relationship he's that type of guy...
    ox97 ox97 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 16

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    12 years ago it really started, altho I did not feel that lonely at that point. For 12 years I have perhaps had 20~ visitors, and visited people. It is easy to remeber, altho the...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M 2 Responses Apr 17

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    I spend my days interacting with numerous people, both in person and by electronic means. Yet, I am lonely. I crave deep, meaningful and intelligent conversation, and I just...
    WiltedTulip WiltedTulip 41-45, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    This evening has made me realise how empty and lonely I can feel. I have had a place to myself for about six months now and it's the first real place where I have properly lived...
    Linasey Linasey 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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