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I Find That the Grief Journey Is Lonely

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    Grief

    When you lose a person close to you, your heart dies with them. Many will say things like Be Strong and all that bullshit. They do not feel what you feel, so it is okay for them to say so. The person who goes through it, knows it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 3, 2013

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    Just Starting

    I am only just beginning this journey. And it's lonely. I reach for my cell phone to begin the nghtly updates on tv shows. And turn on the computer for the ongoing im. I look for my morning greeting. I look for my good night. My phone call at lunch. My hugs in the afternoon...
    Toby2day Toby2day 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    Dear Dad ... I Hate It.

    So ... I'm going to write a letter, because that sometimes makes it easier for me. To those of you out there, it actually helps sometimes. Dear dad. Yesterday was a really bad day. I couldn't sleep at all last night because I kept thinking about you. It made me so sad...
    sofiebc sofiebc 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2013

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    If Tomorrow Starts Without Me

    Many of you know that I lost my beloved daughter 6 yrs ago. A friend of mine (Pookiem) sent me this poem and with her permission, I am posting it.. If tomorrow starts without me, And I'm not there to see, If the sun should rise and find your eyes All filled with tears for me...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 26 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    You Baby

    I hope you never see this. I hope you never learn how incredibly sorry I am that you had to comfort me in your great time of handicap from a loss. You kept me from drwowning. Eight years younger and you were taking care of me. Your arms around me as I fended off fainting at...
    hoopdreams40 hoopdreams40 41-45, F Jun 7, 2013

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    Trapped

    Society continues to move forward as I'm stuck in my world, a world that is full of the pain inside me. I can't escape the day that Kayla died. Everything I do, think or say is because of her death. I will never move on or get over it. People may have a hard time dealing with my...
    sjjefferson101 sjjefferson101 36-40, F 13 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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    Heaven Sent

    My sweetest angel, Do you have any idea how much I miss you? More than you ever know. You are my first thought in the morning and my last at night. Whoever said that time heals all wounds, lied. I hurt as much today as I did 6 years ago. As the date approaches, I am often on my...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 26 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    I do not know what the right things to do

    and say are. My husband has a close relative who is dying, expected to die within a week. He went to be with this relative. My husband and I text a lot now, and I fear I do not know what the right thing to say is and what to avoid. I am not good at coping with situations like...
    JoannaBe JoannaBe 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I'm Really Struggling This Week...

    ...and it's not getting any easier. In the past...I just smiled and joked my way through any adversity...and always seemed to make it to the other side. But I think I'm dealing with way too many things at this time...and each of these things is really huge on it's own.And of...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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    Cheerio Love.

      Cheerio love the old man said as I walked away from him for the final time, ever casual, as was I, but we both knew this was the finale. The man I'm talking about was my Grandfather, Robert Forrest Gerrard, and I have to count my blessings as not many of us have 29yrs...
    weta weta 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    well of course

    friday 23 september 2011 grief is a drag, after all. doesn't cheer up anyone you try to talk to about it. amerikans and englishmen especially, according to a study I recently read about,  admire people who hide their grief and push it down and don't bother anyone else about it...
    sehnen sehnen 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 23, 2011

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    It Never Really Goes Away

    Never, ever. There's forever the hole.But you do find an accommodation for it. You find a space in your life and your heart where it fits so you can continue to function, continue to love, continue to laugh, and be happy. It's like a juggler who has more bowling pins than hands...
    JohnInKansas JohnInKansas 70+, M 3 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Why Is This So Hard:(?

    Feeling a bit on the rubbish side today just having a really bad day of grieving I think. Just can't believe how hard this grief journey is its quite scary though because I'm feeling all these different emotions and it can be overwhelming. I was close with my grandma she was a...
    deexx deexx 13-15, F Mar 18, 2013

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    I have been here 5 years. I enjoy people as they come and go."I have already lost touch with a couple of people I use to be."That was a good thing!"We are well-advised to keep on...
    CrystalRainsPearls CrystalRainsPearls 41-45, F 16 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have always preferred railway journey to a bus journey especially when it’s an overnight one. Being tall I like to stretch myself and go to sleep. A few years back I was...
    Eddiecrow Eddiecrow 41-45, M Nov 20

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    It's 3 o'clock in the morning as I write. Yes, I am not new to EP. In fact I just deleted my old account. I literally watched a "death" experience in its swiftest form. The death...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    The song means a lot to me. I found it during my grief. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=v9j_j-cUwKc
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F Dec 2

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    We are always trying to find that happiness...."when I get a raise, when I have kids, when I have a job, when I have a car." We rush thru life trying to find that elusive thing...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    I wish I had some idea as to where my life is headed. I try to be strong and I think most do but life can be lonely sometimes. I have a very imaginative mind and yet I find myself...
    searchingfar searchingfar 22-25, F Dec 9

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    My boyfriend went to Africa for his research about a week ago, but haven't seen him since 2 weeks ago and there's another week to go until he's back. It's not our first time having...
    dianashih1223 dianashih1223 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 26

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    I don't know that I will ever not be. I am an introvert and as such have spent much of my life being lonely. I never felt truly accepted by my family or my friends, in fact I...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 26

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    I'm 15, and slowing coming out and it would be nice to have someone to go through the whole journey with me
    emilyforever emilyforever 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 29

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    i am in grief and don't know how to handle it i have lost everyone in my family and i am the last one alive it is tearing me apart so bad because i have seen all my family members...
    Blackbart1966 Blackbart1966 46-50, M Nov 19

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    In a nutshell ... My 8 year old brother died un expectantly from cancer when I was 7. I am older / mature. I have zero memories of him. Due to our intense / aggressive...
    JoshM1974 JoshM1974 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 1

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    Im sick of being lonely all of my life. I allways give fault to others cos they didnt klick with me as friends, but what can i do if im so different? I have different interests, im...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35 Dec 3

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    I would not say I do not feel lonely at times but then I have the company of books and novels that I have always wanted to read but never found the time to. So I pick them up, shut...
    Kramazpeople Kramazpeople 18-21, M Dec 9

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    I want to run far away. Somewhere I can find the happy girl I once was. These last four years have been an endless stream of loss and heartbreak. My cup is so far past empty, I...
    oregoncare oregoncare 41-45, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I am lonely. I'm going to be 23 in March and I've been single for 3 years as of the 21st. This is not how my life was supposed to go..I thought I would be married on my second kid...
    misspaperwait misspaperwait 22-25, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Being lonely is the worst feeling in the world. It's such a hard thing to coop with. I wish for once in life I knew where I was headed, where I was going, what would come in my...
    Weretiger Weretiger 26-30 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I've been a loner for 5 years and no one knows. It's like I've been living in a box inside my mind with the lights off all of the time and I keep trying to get out. I daydream a...
    Mela22 Mela22 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 18

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    An ex boyfriend of mine has invited me to stay at his for Christmas, and now I'm getting all kinds of old feelings back. There was never any bad blood between us, we mainly split...
    AJM95W AJM95W 18-21, F Nov 22

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    I left my hometown to go to college 10 hours away. At first, I was lonely at college too, but through the years, I made wonderful friends. And then I graduated and left them all...
    lizzztom08 lizzztom08 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    Haha sooo my freind Kat I hooked her up with a guy and now they're dating And my two best freinds everytime the 4 of us sleepover those two cuddle and feel eachother up, so I...
    Vaughn37 Vaughn37 18-21, M Nov 26

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    I am finding it hard to find love again. Maybe its the time of year, but lately its been lonely. I want to find a girl who is my best friend. I have been keeping things casual with...
    jordanshadowens jordanshadowens 22-25, M Nov 28

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    I am so lonely I feel like I'm never going to find a girl who wants me I have friends an family but deep down I just feel so alone
    spyroboy4 spyroboy4 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 28

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    Lately my 2 friends for 6 years are changed. One is too busy and rarely contact me nor reply my message, she just read it. The other one is not like the person that I know, he...
    Rinkika Rinkika 22-25, F 9 Responses Nov 28

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    I let myself go to this boy and now I am struggling to find who I am. I feel myself changing and I want to get back to the independent, happy person I was. I tried to find my...
    murn murn 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    I wish I could be important to someone..there may be someone who thinks highly of me, but I have no clue who it could possibly be. I find myself feeling pretty lonely all the time...
    PrincessPolarBear PrincessPolarBear 16-17, F Dec 1

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    I am married for 5 years but there is no emotional attachment with my husband. He only sees me as a friend. We are still married because of our children. I miss being love, having...
    shannontql shannontql 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    I am lonely in Vermont and want to find a kind and caring lady to hold close to me.
    inlandsea inlandsea 41-45, M Dec 4

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    Sometimes, I really hate being a night owl... That is the first thought that popped into my head while getting ready for bed (ritual-routine). But mainly it's my excuse to post...
    AfterToday AfterToday 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 9

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    Ever since me and my ex friend split up I've been depressed and lonely. I have people to talk to at school but we aren't really close anymore since they're friends of my ex friend...
    PsychologyNerd PsychologyNerd 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    okay so first off i have a significant other and am very happy thats not what i mean. i mean as in 'friends.' when i seem to try to find friendships those who i try for are either...
    sissybritt sissybritt 26-30 3 days ago

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    okay so first off i have a significant other and am very happy thats not what i mean. i mean as in 'friends.' when i seem to try to find friendships those who i try for are either...
    sissybritt sissybritt 26-30 2 days ago