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I Find That the Grief Journey Is Lonely

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    It Never Really Goes Away

    Never, ever. There's forever the hole.But you do find an accommodation for it. You find a space in your life and your heart where it fits so you can continue to function, continue to love, continue to laugh, and be happy. It's like a juggler who has more bowling pins than hands...
    JohnInKansas JohnInKansas 70+, M 3 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Why Is This So Hard:(?

    Feeling a bit on the rubbish side today just having a really bad day of grieving I think. Just can't believe how hard this grief journey is its quite scary though because I'm feeling all these different emotions and it can be overwhelming. I was close with my grandma she was a...
    deexx deexx 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 18, 2013

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    You Baby

    I hope you never see this. I hope you never learn how incredibly sorry I am that you had to comfort me in your great time of handicap from a loss. You kept me from drwowning. Eight years younger and you were taking care of me. Your arms around me as I fended off fainting at...
    hoopdreams40 hoopdreams40 41-45, F Jun 7, 2013

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    well of course

    friday 23 september 2011 grief is a drag, after all. doesn't cheer up anyone you try to talk to about it. amerikans and englishmen especially, according to a study I recently read about,  admire people who hide their grief and push it down and don't bother anyone else about it...
    sehnen sehnen 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 23, 2011

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    Dear Dad ... I Hate It.

    So ... I'm going to write a letter, because that sometimes makes it easier for me. To those of you out there, it actually helps sometimes. Dear dad. Yesterday was a really bad day. I couldn't sleep at all last night because I kept thinking about you. It made me so sad...
    sofiebc sofiebc 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2013

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    Cheerio Love.

      Cheerio love the old man said as I walked away from him for the final time, ever casual, as was I, but we both knew this was the finale. The man I'm talking about was my Grandfather, Robert Forrest Gerrard, and I have to count my blessings as not many of us have 29yrs...
    weta weta 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    Just Starting

    I am only just beginning this journey. And it's lonely. I reach for my cell phone to begin the nghtly updates on tv shows. And turn on the computer for the ongoing im. I look for my morning greeting. I look for my good night. My phone call at lunch. My hugs in the afternoon...
    Toby2day Toby2day 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    Grief

    When you lose a person close to you, your heart dies with them. Many will say things like Be Strong and all that bullshit. They do not feel what you feel, so it is okay for them to say so. The person who goes through it, knows it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 3, 2013

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    Trapped

    Society continues to move forward as I'm stuck in my world, a world that is full of the pain inside me. I can't escape the day that Kayla died. Everything I do, think or say is because of her death. I will never move on or get over it. People may have a hard time dealing with my...
    sjjefferson101 sjjefferson101 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 27, 2008

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    These days, I find I am lonely a lot of the time. I say that I want to be alone but that's not the case at all. I stay in my room alone most of the time, waiting for someone to...
    LameyC LameyC 18-21, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Last year my girlfriend suddenly broke the relation, my parents were away from me, I live in the city alone. Feeling lonely, can't find anyone to talk, make love.
    NuNu71 NuNu71 26-30, M 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I can't help it as knowing much and doing nothing in my life, as if you imagined me while been around people and always help all. I never ask anyone to help me and even if i am...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    So yeah, I feel lonely. It doesn't mean I am stupid. Lonely means lonely, not a fool or an idiot. I thought that was obvious!
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I got through his second birthday, he is now 26 years old i'm just imagining what would life be right now with him, will he be finally married will i be waiting on that first grand...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F Apr 2

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    It's hard being a gay guy who hoped he were straight.i wish things would have been otherwise,life would have been a lot more simpler...i would be more confident as a man,and made...
    YOUNGmee YOUNGmee 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    “I have outlasted all desire, My dreams and I have grown apart; My grief alone is left entire, The gleamings of an empty heart. I live in lonely desolation And wonder when my end...
    cherishuforever cherishuforever 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    Rain in Albany is plentiful it stopped by walk to find a church i was up bright and early at 8, dressed and got ready to leave and here come the rain my son and i used to like...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    Oh my God i need you more then you'll ever know, please God lift me up and show me the light, i need you, please Lord help me not fail in this journey,
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    The last couple of days have been one of those days where I am lonely. It's hard sometimes...
    Findingteesh Findingteesh 26-30, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I've been travelling for awhile and meeting many people but lately It makes more lonely when we have to go separate ways and everyone has to go back to their lives because of their...
    bblahb bblahb 22-25, M 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    March 29. Getting Needs Met. Picture yourself walking through a meadow. There is a path opening before you. As you walk, you feel hungry. Look to your left. There's a fruit tree...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    March 29. Getting Needs Met. Picture yourself walking through a meadow. There is a path opening before you. As you walk, you feel hungry. Look to your left. There's a fruit tree...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 29

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    I have another busy week, still helping my mother with her care, keeping my doctors appointment concerning my hand sending out letters to the past witnesses pleading for the help...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F Apr 2

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    March 29. Getting Needs Met. Picture yourself walking through a meadow. There is a path opening before you. As you walk, you feel hungry. Look to your left. There's a fruit tree...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    As the day of my divorce comes near, I am filled with both happiness and grief. I'm losing part of myself. I don't know who I am anymore. I've changed so much for him that I'm not...
    MissHD MissHD 22-25, F 6 Responses Apr 6

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    I have read many stories of people who are lonely and then comments who feel the same way. I have found this feeling present in way forms and within all of us. It is an inevitable...
    moorelove3168 moorelove3168 18-21 4 days ago

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    Todays is a very BAD day, i just spoke to the DA's office they can't help me with out the police departments instructions and only if there was and arrest, i spoke to the lawyers...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F Mar 25

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    the time is 3:39am I can't sleep my mind is wondering will things go well trying to find some legal help I went on line and looked up how do I get a unsolved murder case done they...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F Mar 20

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    im 15 I feel all alone in my room I use ep to talk to people upon my journey i have met plenty great people and friends,but I have a question why are they not around when I need...
    koolboy55 koolboy55 13-15, M 6 Responses Mar 21

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    March 24. Appreciating Ourselves. We are the greatest things that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier. —Codependent No More It is time to stop this...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 24

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    now i have time to process my self healthy i have the time to move forward correctly not with anger hatred and revenge but with justice, i been going at things with my heart on my...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F Mar 26

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    April 3. Acceptance. Surrender to the moment. Ride it out and through, for all it's worth. Throw yourself into it. Stop resisting. So much of our anguish is created when we are...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    i'm very tired but the day went well,i got alot of work around the house done cooked me a very nice dinner paid all my bills and now i;m ready for the week end , tomorrow i'm taken...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F Apr 3

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    Sure I have friends but mentally I'm alone on this journey we call life. Nobody stands next to me and understands how I look at the world. I'm sure someone thinks the same thoughts...
    Inlovewithtecher Inlovewithtecher 16-17, F Apr 6

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    I think I'm still in some kind of shock, it feeling like I'm living in between two places, my past life I'm not willing to let go of and this new one that I don't care for at all...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F Mar 20

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    grief process is on the back burner but i learned enough this pass year to understand the things that i'm going through, to day was a little sadness missing my son the whole day...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F Mar 21

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    My bf of a year broke up with me a month ago. He was my first love and he cheated on me. We havent spoken in a little over a week now, and I am feeling very alone. My parents are...
    iloveoreos113 iloveoreos113 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    Nowadays everyone would rather have a million different fake friends than a few close ones. It's become the norm, or at least where I live. People consider me a "loner" because I...
    holdontilmay holdontilmay 18-21, F 12 Responses Mar 29

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    Actually I am not! I have my family and my friends but I still feel so lonely! I trusted a few but what happened? YES They broke my trust! Its sooooooooo difficult for me to trust...
    HariMi HariMi 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 1

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    Depression is coming back into my life, I'm doing every thing to keep moving forward but at time i still can't believe he was killed, the question of WHY? I still can't believe...
    streets718 streets718 56-60, F 6 days ago

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    Very very lonely.. Besides work I have no social interactions with anyone in a face to face setting of any kind. I have a few friends but I haven't spoken to them in months now. I...
    DiosesOscuros DiosesOscuros 22-25, M 5 Responses Mar 23

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    I live with my family . My mom, dad and I. I find im this really lonely. The thing is I'm really really suffering from depression and anxiety. They try to be there for me. But...
    Yummylicious4ev Yummylicious4ev 18-21 1 Response Mar 24

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    Sometimes I feel lonely even when I'm surrounded. I'm having a bit of a hard time lately. I feel like things will not work out for me, that nothing is going to happen. I feel like...
    Christinewl Christinewl 26-30, F 17 Responses Mar 28

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    So I'm a single mom 2 kids... Work ridiculous amount of hours...generally I don't have time to feel lonely... I look forward to down time but when I get it it's bittersweet cause I...
    Baabiechild Baabiechild 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 29

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    What is the journey of self discovery? How do you know when you've reached it? I don't believe you do know when you've reached it. The journey of self discovery is life. We get so...
    LaughLoveLiveHope LaughLoveLiveHope 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I live in self inflicted confinement, seclusion from all, save for a few hours each day. It would be extremely peaceful were my thoughts as distant as I keep the world, but my...
    Indari Indari 31-35, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    By all accounts, I should not feel lonely. I have a husband and kids and friends and family who love me. But I feel like I'm on an island. I crave connection, not just stimulation...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 25

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    I'm just been so depressed lately i mean I have two good friends but they don't understand what I'm going to go through what makes me even more angry is that my mom always tells I...
    saladbarchris saladbarchris 13-15, M Mar 25

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    I've been single for almost a year now. I was dumped after a 2 and a half year relationship. I'm still not sure of what went wrong. I didn't get the closure that I needed but I...
    GDlifestyle GDlifestyle 22-25, M 3 Responses Mar 26

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    I find the number I people on ep who say they are lonely very striking. It's too bad we can't always see it in each other.
    kaydiva kaydiva 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    I know I've written so many stories about this, and its quite sad really. As time goes on, my loneliness only worsens and eats away at me more and more. I have so many things...
    KnightOfJustice KnightOfJustice 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 30

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    On this site, there are so many people feeling lonely already, that means there are much much more people feeling lonely in this world. So actually we are not lonely in feeling...