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I Flirt Without Knowing It

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    My older brother recently told me

    that one of his friends saw me flirting with a guy in school and told him. This guys is one of my friends, and I was not intentionally flirting...I don't even know how to.
    Profclouseau Profclouseau 13-15, F May 21

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    Sorry

    I never flirt I just too cute to ignore:)
    Rhyinlander Rhyinlander 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    Or Maybe I Do...

    I picked up my buddy Joe, sometime past nine... We got to our destination, and my instinctive thought was...were have all these people crawled out from. They vary in age...from young college students, all the way up to older couples (more then likely a few of them peaking in...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 21, 2012

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    I think i do.... I have been told more

    than a few times that i am a flirt. Am I?? not deliberately, at least not usually ;) but i get called that alot, so maybe i do.... ^_^
    onestarrynight onestarrynight 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 3

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    Imma Flirt

    I hadnt realized i was constantly flirting until every guy was undressing me with there eyes. At that time i was in a serious relationship with a insecure and immature guy. He pointed it out a couple of times. I naturally always told him he was wrong. Until I slept with the...
    TooSexii9 TooSexii9 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 16, 2011

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    The Line Between Friendliness And Flirting

    I'm honestly not sure where it is! I feel guilty if somebody mistakes my out going attitude or friendliness for flirting. I talk to everyone and am really open and talkative. I'll talk to anyone who can keep up a conversation! That being said, alot of the time its mistaken for...
    SeeChelseaRun SeeChelseaRun 22-25, F 12 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    It Is How So Many Guys Come To See Me When I Am On The Naturist Beach

    I mentioned in another story about meeting Pierre with his friend on the beach at Saint Cyprien how we met. Well, they told me the only reason they had approached me was because as I lay back I lifted my knees up, and I waved them around, so opening my knees to a kind of splaying...
    CEBarthez CEBarthez 18-21, F 6 Responses May 3, 2012

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    It's Automatic, I Guess

    Aside from flirting verbally, I have been told by a few women that I have "bedroom eyes," so that I tend to look like I'm flirting even though I may not be trying to be. My W has seen it on a few occasions and I have to tell her that it was unintentional. She seems to...
    WoodRooster WoodRooster 31-35, M 1 Response May 14, 2012

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    Ok Then

    so basically everytime I'm being myself with a girl I'm flirting.. I find it kind of annoying she they just assume I'm flirting... I can say something like your a great friend or your chill and I'm automatically flirting...
    JakeLuvsHugs JakeLuvsHugs 16-17, M Nov 20, 2013

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    It's true so do I. I have found it's very

    useful in bar tending. But I'm genuinely interested in peoples lives and hobbies etc and it comes across as flirting. -.- ugh
    wolfrose wolfrose 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    Flirt?

    I never ever intend to flirt,maybe it's just that I'm trying to be so nice to the person, that it seems like I'm flirting??? :D Huh, come-on, is being so nice, a flirt??? :p I'm in between the two borders, I am nice and sometimes I guess I just take one step out!!! :p And...
    sunshineIcy sunshineIcy 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 28, 2013

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    People never believe me

    when I tell them I flirt unknowingly but it is true. It just comes naturally to some people and is just really difficult for others. I think the key is not caring what the other person may think or say. Just say and do whatever you feel like and they can take it in a positive...
    porfavor porfavor 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 25

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    I do that in retail ,

    I am a friendly guy but sometimes girls bring me little treats from the bakery , and it feels wierd
    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 22

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    At Least People Tell Me Tha...

    At least people tell me that I do, In high school I was voted "best flirt", and I was surprised.  I have just always gotten along better with boys than girls, so I never really thought of myself as a flirt.
    keyna keyna 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 26, 2008

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    This happens to me a lot.

    I think people mistake my kindness for fondness which is not the same thing.
    TheRockettTheory TheRockettTheory 18-21, F May 19

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    People say that I flirt without words all the

    time and even though I don't say anything it's all in my body language and my eyes
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay 18-21, F 7 Responses May 19

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    Guilty as charged so

    if you think I'm flirting please call me out on it and if I am then I will tell you...if I am not then I will put you straight
    coisty1973 coisty1973 41-45, M Dec 4, 2013

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    I love to flirt but i've gotta a boyfriend

    and sometimes i flirt with his friends and he's really pissed off because of it and i don't know if he's gonna dump me heeelp
    luciagomezdelaserna luciagomezdelaserna 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 6

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    Ever time I talk to women I catch myself

    flirting in a sexual way
    dmedina513 dmedina513 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    *Blushes*

    Apparently, I flirt...even when I don't mean to! See, I was informed of my bad habit when a co-worker pointed out that I was "totally being a flirt" with a client and when she told me, my jaw literally dropped. I honestly thought I was just having a regular conversation...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    I work in EMS. I picked up a pt

    and the nurse gave me her number. Said she could tell I wanted her from the way I flirted. I did not know I flirted with her.
    braydeneli braydeneli 22-25, M Jan 31

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    Flirting?

    Flirting? I never know when i am doing it! But it turns out that every guy i talk to ends up asking me out because they say i flirt with them! I wish that i could have one best guy friend that doesnt ask me out. It sucks when ya'll cant be friends after you say no and most o the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    I do, I worked at a nursing home once

    and I would accidentally flirt with the old ladies there and subsequently some of them fell in love with me and things just got awkward so I left.
    passion4writing passion4writing 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    I am very flirtatious

    whether it is a guy or women that's just the way I am! I honestly don't even really realize it! But I don't mind it seems like they flirt back :)
    lovemags lovemags 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    maplegirl maplegirl 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 16

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    I just can't stop flirting.

    ... Every girl i see i need to flirt with... Though i dont have gf at the moment...
    BitCryptor BitCryptor 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Harmless Fun

    I know when I'm flirting.  Great to flow in the moment.  Even better though when the chemistry is there.  The line is set and as long as it isnt crossed then both parties are in for a great time.... Two flirting styles are my norm; either flirting highlighting the...
    mysteryman mysteryman 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 26, 2008

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    I am just terrified that I will hurt my partner

    somehow. We have been together for two years and I have an awful flirting curse. I flirted with my cousin and I knew (I KNEW) it was wrong but I couldn't stop. I flirt with everyone, pretty much, without knowing it. I love the attention it brings me. I am a very quiet, shy...
    AmarieSkyFlower AmarieSkyFlower 22-25 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I laugh to many peoples jokes,

    and usually they think I like them when I only liked their joke.
    Littlemonster77777 Littlemonster77777 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    Oops

    Apparently I do. But it’s just the way I speak to guys. I’ve always had more guy friends and they’ve usually been much more closer (emotionally) than girls. I’ve never bothered though. I learnt how to deal with them. I am not as serious with guys as I am by girls. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 10 Responses Jun 10, 2011

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    It's just because being kind is

    so rare nowadays that it gets mistaken with flirting!!!
    ashfaaqb ashfaaqb 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I'm just naturally flirty!

    But sometimes I really go overboard on purpose (;
    sexysammy468 sexysammy468 18-21, F Feb 18

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    I Really Dont Mean Too...

    People confuse me being nice with thinking I am flirting with them. Its just the way I am. I like to be nice, sometimes compliment people, I'm always smiling for the most part. And I dont plan on stop being me...but I am careful not to be TOO nice sometimes especially with men...
    surrealreality surrealreality 31-35, F Sep 21, 2012

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    Totally!!!

    i smile ...i giggle too cute! (eww) i babble thinking no different. i talk to strangers...anyone interested...WEIRDO! so ! am immature on appearance , many FALL it for the aCt...heheh( I WON"T know it though! so OhMiGosh!) i have the tendency change subject REAL fast! ooh! WATCH...
    MadamsLee MadamsLee 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 28, 2012

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    Or rather I start off not realising,

    then once I do realise, I continue. For example, tonight I had a gig/jam session and these two guys came and sat at my table (which I was at alone). These guys were old enough to be my dad. Anyway, they sat at my table and one guy in particular was pretty funny, we definitely...
    Mannz Mannz 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 29

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    It's a bad habit tbh.

    I hate when that happens :/
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    I do not think I ever flirt.

    I get this at least once a year for as long as I could remember. some girl that I am work with will ask me y I have not ask them out or something along those lines. 1st thing that pop in to my head is I have even thought about asking them out of anything. most think I flirt...
    chat68chat chat68chat 31-35, M Jan 25

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    I have no clue I'm doing it.

    I see my actions as friendly, apparently they are flirtatious. Oops! I have always had better friendships with guys than girls and I guess I am a "touchy" person. I tend to touch someone's arm if I'm talking to them or their shoulder if I'm leaning over to help with...
    Happiness11 Happiness11 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    All The Time

    Actually that's not true .. or it is .. i do it so much now i don't even realize it .. lol It's just nice to put a smile on the other person's face that it becomes addictive .. but i also know not to force it .. it's no fun when it is forced ... it's a lot easier to flirt...
    pokerboy pokerboy 36-40, M 8 Responses Jun 5, 2013

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    My ex boyfriend broke up with me

    because I flirted to much. Now I hear my aunt has been telling people I have it easy at work because all I do is flirt and flaunt... I honestly don't know what either are talking about :-/
    MrsGigalowJr MrsGigalowJr 26-30, F 3 Responses May 22

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    Tom is flirting with Gina.

    Tom says, "Guess what? They made changes in the alphabets? They put U and I together." Gina says with a smirk, "Tell me Tom, how many times did you fail in Nursery class?"
    jml2000 jml2000 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 14

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    does it count as flirting

    when you can't get the barbell off of your chest because your arms gave up and your crush has to help you lift it up again? you didn't call him or anything..
    TrentKandinski TrentKandinski 18-21, M Feb 5

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    It happens all the time!

    Even with people I don't think are attractive. It just rolls off my tongue.
    jessi3reynolds jessi3reynolds 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    I once helped this one guy find some

    construction paper, in art class, for like 2 minutes and all of a sudden he's head over heals about me - what the heck man!?! I was just being a good person by helping him get some paper lol.
    oog1129 oog1129 13-15, F Jan 12

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    Apparently?

    I have always thought that I flirt as much as the next person, but on several occasions guys have called me a huge flirt and I haven't even been aware I was doing it. I try to be friendly to everyone so I don't know if it's a misunderstanding on their part or I flirt without even...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    It's as if I'm a puppet I can't help myself

    and don't realize I am lol it's all good
    Iusetobone Iusetobone 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    I can remember being into a girl

    and she rejected me because all the other girls thought I was flirting with them. I've just always have had an involuntary tendency to stare into other's eyes.
    Cetacean Cetacean 36-40, M Jan 16

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    I just love to feel a man finish in me it is great knowing that I did that
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