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I Flirt Without Knowing It

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    At Least People Tell Me Tha...

    At least people tell me that I do, In high school I was voted "best flirt", and I was surprised.  I have just always gotten along better with boys than girls, so I never really thought of myself as a flirt.
    keyna keyna 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 26, 2008

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    I'm not really flirting with people.

    I'm just being myself and being nice and to most guys that means A) I like them B) I want them C) I find them attractive D) I want their ****. Meanwhile, I'm just simply being nice.
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    I think i do.... I have been told more

    than a few times that i am a flirt. Am I?? not deliberately, at least not usually ;) but i get called that alot, so maybe i do.... ^_^
    onestarrynight onestarrynight 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 3

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    My ex boyfriend broke up with me

    because I flirted to much. Now I hear my aunt has been telling people I have it easy at work because all I do is flirt and flaunt... I honestly don't know what either are talking about :-/
    MrsGigalowJr MrsGigalowJr 26-30, F 2 Responses May 22

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    People never believe me

    when I tell them I flirt unknowingly but it is true. It just comes naturally to some people and is just really difficult for others. I think the key is not caring what the other person may think or say. Just say and do whatever you feel like and they can take it in a positive...
    porfavor porfavor 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    I do that in retail ,

    I am a friendly guy but sometimes girls bring me little treats from the bakery , and it feels wierd
    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 22

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    This happens to me a lot.

    I think people mistake my kindness for fondness which is not the same thing.
    TheRockettTheory TheRockettTheory 18-21, F 1 Response May 19

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    Harmless Fun

    I know when I'm flirting.  Great to flow in the moment.  Even better though when the chemistry is there.  The line is set and as long as it isnt crossed then both parties are in for a great time.... Two flirting styles are my norm; either flirting highlighting the...
    mysteryman mysteryman 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 26, 2008

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    The Line Between Friendliness And Flirting

    I'm honestly not sure where it is! I feel guilty if somebody mistakes my out going attitude or friendliness for flirting. I talk to everyone and am really open and talkative. I'll talk to anyone who can keep up a conversation! That being said, alot of the time its mistaken for...
    SeeChelseaRun SeeChelseaRun 22-25, F 11 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    Being charming is one of my characteristic,

    sometimes I come across as flirting. Maybe I am. Sometimes it's just an innocent act of flirting with no intentions But sometimes it's an act of sexual attraction. Quite frankly I think flirting makes life fun.... :P
    PhilosophicMind PhilosophicMind 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Flirting?

    Flirting? I never know when i am doing it! But it turns out that every guy i talk to ends up asking me out because they say i flirt with them! I wish that i could have one best guy friend that doesnt ask me out. It sucks when ya'll cant be friends after you say no and most o the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 10, 2011

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    All The Time

    Actually that's not true .. or it is .. i do it so much now i don't even realize it .. lol It's just nice to put a smile on the other person's face that it becomes addictive .. but i also know not to force it .. it's no fun when it is forced ... it's a lot easier to flirt...
    pokerboy pokerboy 36-40, M 8 Responses Jun 5, 2013

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    shubmm shubmm 18-21 Oct 31

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    Or rather I start off not realising,

    then once I do realise, I continue. For example, tonight I had a gig/jam session and these two guys came and sat at my table (which I was at alone). These guys were old enough to be my dad. Anyway, they sat at my table and one guy in particular was pretty funny, we definitely...
    Mannz Mannz 18-21, F Jun 29

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    It Is How So Many Guys Come To See Me When I Am On The Naturist Beach

    I mentioned in another story about meeting Pierre with his friend on the beach at Saint Cyprien how we met. Well, they told me the only reason they had approached me was because as I lay back I lifted my knees up, and I waved them around, so opening my knees to a kind of splaying...
    CEBarthez CEBarthez 18-21, F 6 Responses May 3, 2012

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    I love to flirt but i've gotta a boyfriend

    and sometimes i flirt with his friends and he's really pissed off because of it and i don't know if he's gonna dump me heeelp
    luciagomezdelaserna luciagomezdelaserna 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 6

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    It happens all the time!

    Even with people I don't think are attractive. It just rolls off my tongue.
    jessi3reynolds jessi3reynolds 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    I do, I worked at a nursing home once

    and I would accidentally flirt with the old ladies there and subsequently some of them fell in love with me and things just got awkward so I left.
    passion4writing passion4writing 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 11, 2013

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    My older brother recently told me

    that one of his friends saw me flirting with a guy in school and told him. This guys is one of my friends, and I was not intentionally flirting...I don't even know how to.
    Profclouseau Profclouseau 13-15, F May 21

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    Oops

    Apparently I do. But it’s just the way I speak to guys. I’ve always had more guy friends and they’ve usually been much more closer (emotionally) than girls. I’ve never bothered though. I learnt how to deal with them. I am not as serious with guys as I am by girls. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 10 Responses Jun 10, 2011

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    Sometimes just smiling & politeness gets you

    into trouble! I once had an older friend of my boyfriends family get really freak mad at me because he approached at a gathering & I made it clear I wasn't interested. I honestly did not flirt just agreed with a certain subject. Freakin scary.
    AsteriasAura AsteriasAura 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 31

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    I laugh to many peoples jokes,

    and usually they think I like them when I only liked their joke.
    Littlemonster77777 Littlemonster77777 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    Being nice and friendly means I'm a big flirt

    and tease. Easier to be a ***** most times I think lol
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 1

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    Kindness is so rare now

    that it is mistaken as flirting
    mikeman1414 mikeman1414 18-21, M Oct 31

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    I once helped this one guy find some

    construction paper, in art class, for like 2 minutes and all of a sudden he's head over heals about me - what the heck man!?! I was just being a good person by helping him get some paper lol.
    oog1129 oog1129 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    I flirt without knowing it lol it's just

    who I am if you don't like it than deal with it lol
    cristina44 cristina44 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 30

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    People say that I flirt without words all the

    time and even though I don't say anything it's all in my body language and my eyes
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay 22-25, F 6 Responses May 19

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    I've always been this way!

    ! My boyfriend hates it!!! I am just friendly...over friendly? I never cross boundaries though, and I'm starting to learn, being too friendly to everyone is not in my best interest. It creates drama. Like a random guy adds you on Facebook, then messages you. You message them back...
    Kayloves060814 Kayloves060814 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 20

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    I am just terrified that I will hurt my partner

    somehow. We have been together for two years and I have an awful flirting curse. I flirted with my cousin and I knew (I KNEW) it was wrong but I couldn't stop. I flirt with everyone, pretty much, without knowing it. I love the attention it brings me. I am a very quiet, shy...
    AmarieSkyFlower AmarieSkyFlower 22-25 2 Responses Jul 27

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    I am very flirtatious

    whether it is a guy or women that's just the way I am! I honestly don't even really realize it! But I don't mind it seems like they flirt back :)
    lovemags lovemags 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Flirt?

    I never ever intend to flirt,maybe it's just that I'm trying to be so nice to the person, that it seems like I'm flirting??? :D Huh, come-on, is being so nice, a flirt??? :p I'm in between the two borders, I am nice and sometimes I guess I just take one step out!!! :p And...
    sunshineIcy sunshineIcy 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 28, 2013

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    It's Automatic, I Guess

    Aside from flirting verbally, I have been told by a few women that I have "bedroom eyes," so that I tend to look like I'm flirting even though I may not be trying to be. My W has seen it on a few occasions and I have to tell her that it was unintentional. She seems to...
    WoodRooster WoodRooster 31-35, M 1 Response May 14, 2012

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    *Blushes*

    Apparently, I flirt...even when I don't mean to! See, I was informed of my bad habit when a co-worker pointed out that I was "totally being a flirt" with a client and when she told me, my jaw literally dropped. I honestly thought I was just having a regular conversation...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    They think I'm flirting

    when I'm being kind or trying not to be rude to someone.
    Ciem Ciem 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 31

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    It's true so do I. I have found it's very

    useful in bar tending. But I'm genuinely interested in peoples lives and hobbies etc and it comes across as flirting. -.- ugh
    wolfrose wolfrose 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    Tom is flirting with Gina.

    Tom says, "Guess what? They made changes in the alphabets? They put U and I together." Gina says with a smirk, "Tell me Tom, how many times did you fail in Nursery class?"
    jml2000 jml2000 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I Really Dont Mean Too...

    People confuse me being nice with thinking I am flirting with them. Its just the way I am. I like to be nice, sometimes compliment people, I'm always smiling for the most part. And I dont plan on stop being me...but I am careful not to be TOO nice sometimes especially with men...
    surrealreality surrealreality 31-35, F Sep 21, 2012

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    I used to be really shy

    when I was younger & would never have done this. As I have gotten older, gotten divorced, etc., I sometimes find myself talking to guys in a flirty way. Even when I don't mean to. My sons have asked me "why are you flirting with that guy?" LOL Now THAT'S awkward! Guys don't...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 7

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    It's just because being kind is

    so rare nowadays that it gets mistaken with flirting!!!
    ashfaaqb ashfaaqb 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I guess I am guilty of flirting without

    realizing it because every time I go out guys always ask me for my phone number
    Taumilynn Taumilynn 36-40 1 Response Nov 3

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    There was this one time

    where I was talking to a old friend of mine and I had caught him blushing A WHOLE LOT and when I was done my friends went up toe and I said what was all that about ? I said he just started to blush then that's when they told I was My bad
    ghostbeautiy ghostbeautiy 13-15, F Nov 2

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    LisaMannion LisaMannion 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    Honestly im just being nice to people

    and i guess it comes across as flirtasious... Oh well.
    Pingu113 Pingu113 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 1

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    So I'm new to the great state of Arizona

    and I've noticed some interesting things about this state. I would like to talk with anyone currently living in the state or recently moved to see if my observations have validity
    KennD KennD 41-45, M Oct 9

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    My friends always tell me

    that I'm a flirt, but I never notice. Like, I don't twirl my hair or anything like that. But I guess I unintentionally flirt xD
    LexyMarie LexyMarie 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 10

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    It's a bad habit tbh.

    I hate when that happens :/
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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