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I Forgave the Man Who Molested Me

Forgiveness of sexal abusers 77 People

    I had to. For my own mental health.

    At least for me, one of the men who molested me was family. I had to be around him sometimes for family gatherings and I used to act very strangely and standoffish toward him because I was still in a lot of pain and I hadn't forgiven him. It was stressful seeing him. My behavior...
    lookwhaticando lookwhaticando 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2013

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    Sick Relationship; Trying To Heal

    I am trying to get over a sick relationship.... I wish I had known then what I knew now. Today I am 30 years old. I have a great family, loving boyfriend, am an accomplished doctor, and on the outside it looks like I have the most perfect life. I was in high school. I fell in...
    Quiddity1221 Quiddity1221 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2012

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    A Little To Late To Tell Him

    I finally forgave the man that started me down the difficult road of life.  In the beginning I loved him because I though he loved me only to find out he was only using me for sex.  He was like so many others that abuse children(I was 5 1/2 when he...
    Michellewhois Michellewhois 56-60 4 Responses Jan 10, 2010

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    Letting Go

    What he did was wrong. It will always be wrong. I hated him for so long. He is my uncle. He should have never did this to me. One day just this year after YEARS of hate. I saw him as human. He had hit rock bottom. I let it go. I feel good about letting go of the hate. I feel like...
    Abriee Abriee 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2008

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    Never Gave Myself Time To Forgive

    i wanted to forgive him and i think in some way that i did a very long time ago.its just that i was not even given time to feel anything before everyone was in my face telling me to let it go, i read something here that made me want to share my story. someone said that when...
    amicawinters amicawinters 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19, 2013

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    Every Dog Has Their Day

     My uncle sexually abused myself and two of my sisters for many years. We all suffered silently as we grew older. After 11 years, I finally came out with it in support of my sister. My sister is still a minor so authorities had to be notified. It didn't matter that so much...
    KnowJenny KnowJenny 22-25, F 9 Responses May 4, 2009

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    Overturned

    He molested me. He was my camp counselor, it happened. His conviction was overturned and he got to go free. I have never been free from the memories or fear. I have just found him after 25 years and don't know what to do now???
    jennieb29 jennieb29 26-30 2 Responses Oct 6, 2010

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    When I was younger my dad used to touch me in

    places that weren't supposed to be touched. I had a friend named Jacob who I told everything to. He was my best friend. I thought I could trust him. I mean why shouldn't I have? I knew him for many years we went to each others houses on the weekends and we went to an after...
    brrodosako brrodosako 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 3

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    The very few people that I have told about this

    always seem to question me, baffled at how I could forgive someone who basically took my virginity away at a young age. I had to. I could not stay enraged at the man who had molested me as a child, my very own older brother. Ever since I was molested by my brother on several...
    AiKii AiKii 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 31

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    I Forgave But Will Never Forget !!!

    I was looking for something completely different when i first found EP. I have to tell you, I was amazed at the stories I read on here because there were so many like my own, and I am not talking specifically about the stories of being abused. There were stories on here that...
    TwilightDream TwilightDream 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    Is This Wrong To Feel?

    It's kind of weird but i forgive my father for what he did to me, i don't think i ever blamed him, or was mad at him for it. I don't feel however that i forgive him for physically abusing my mom and siblings. I don't know why i feel this way or if its wrong, its just how i feel.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 18-21, F Oct 11, 2011

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    I Begged For Mercy

    I literally got down on my knees and begged God to take him!  You are probably wondering what that has to do with forgiveness,  That is the point of my writing about this experience. I was my molested by my uncle when I was ten years old.  He not only took my innocence, he...
    ItsWindy ItsWindy 51-55, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    A Very Long Time

    I carried my hatred for the people that molested for many years.  I almost consumed me and made me look at relationships in a hardened way.  I distrusted everyone that even appeared to be trying to get close enough to have a relationship with me.  In the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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